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Do you want to know something that sounds almost unfair? Men always fall in love with the woman who does the least for them. The woman who does not even do the bare minimum for them. The ironic thing is that when I used to do way too much for them, going over and beyond just to please men, I literally would never get commitments. I was single literally all my life. No one wanted to date me because I seemed so desperate in their eyes. Then I started to do one thing different. The energy that I was giving them, I was pouring into myself. And all of a sudden, I literally denied three proposals. I'm not even lying. And now I'm happily married to a man who would do everything just to make me happy. Back then, I had one worry, which was men. Now, I don't even care about men. And I started to realize that men love me. Be ready to never beg for commitment again after watching this video.
Hi guys, in case you're new here, it's Amaya. And in case you already know me, welcome back. In this video, we want to talk about why men actually fall in love with the woman who does nothing for them. The woman who does not even do the bare minimum for them. Also guys, if you need more personalized help into becoming the dream woman, then my coachings are for you. The link is in the description. And now, let's get it started.
So the first thing that I want to explain to you is the energy levels. So let's say you meet a man and he starts to put in so much effort, so much energy. He's putting all he got into you. So his energy level is here up here. Yours is here at the beginning. Then you see how much effort he's putting in. And then you're going to start to think, okay, I might as well just like increase my energy level and also match his energy. So, you're now both here and now here comes the problems. He starts to realize, okay, she's putting in a lot of effort. So, I might just go down. Okay, so you're here and he's going down like that until you notice that he's not even doing the bare minimum anymore. And you start to go crazy. All of a sudden, instead of you also going down here, you're going to do more because you think, okay, so if I do more, he's also going to do more again. And that is exactly the problem. The more you do, the less he's going to do. His energy level is going to go down more and more until there's nothing left. So if you meet a man and his energy level is here, yours should be here. And if he goes up more and more, you can go up a little bit. But you always want to stay here. That is how you are going to get the commitment that you want. And [snorts] a lot of people are asking me, but what if we are married still? Am I doing this much and he's doing this much? So the answer is no. If you are married, of course you're going to put in more effort. Of course, you're going to do more because you got to make him happy as well. You got to keep the relationship going. But still, you never want to match his level. If you're married, it could be like that.
Number two, the next point is what I call desire projection. And I'm going to explain to you what I mean by that. So what I mean is if you don't do anything, if you do nothing, then you're starting to creating some blanks. Okay? These blanks, they are going to start to fill with their own desires and their own imagination. And we know man's imagination. We know man's imagination is crazy. So then all of a sudden, you are the dream woman. Why? Because you're the woman of his imagination. Even if he doesn't know you, he will fall in love with his imagination of you that doesn't even exist. And that is just because you don't do anything. You do nothing. So I have a story on that. Okay? I told you many stories. I told you stories about my cousin, my sisters. They have gotten me into trouble. But anyways, I'm going to tell you another story about my brother. Okay? I hope that this is not going to get me into trouble. But let's go. So, my brother, he has a girlfriend and I asked him, "How did you guys actually meet?" And he told me that they met online and they have been texting back and forward like for 3 months. And when they first met, they immediately got together. And that is the point where I was like, "Okay, wow." It clicked into my mind because that is exactly what I'm telling you right now. The time where they were just texting and just calling, they didn't really know each other. So, she got the woman of his imagination. And when they first met, as a matter of fact, he was already in love because she was the woman of his imagination. And that is exactly how they got together.
Number three, I want you to stop calling and stop texting. And I'm going to tell you why. So there's like this narrative of woman, the crazy ex, the crazy girlfriend, the crazy wife. What do they mean by this crazy woman? They mean the woman that is always texting, always complaining, always saying, "What are you doing? Where are you? Why you not texting back?" That's what is crazy to them in their mind. So instead of being the crazy woman, be the woman who is different. So, if you stop calling, you stop texting, you stop doing anything for him, he's going to start to think, "Why is she so different? She's so calm. Like, I want her. She's different. I really, really want her." When I first met my husband, it was exactly like that. I didn't call, didn't text, anything. And he started to complain about it. He told me that all of his ex-girlfriends, they are used to texting him all the time. And he asked me, "Why don't you do it? I really don't feel good with you." But instead of me giving in and starting to call and text more, I told him, "Okay, I'm going to do it." But I didn't do it. Why? Because I had this narrative in my mind that when you get to know someone, texting and calling is just limited. I had this narrative that if he wants to get to know me, then he has to put in the effort. Another reason is if you stop calling and you stop texting, they are going to feel like they want you. They are the ones choosing you, not the other way around. And that is key. That is essential for men. Men need to feel like they choose you. They want they need to feel like they are the ones leading into the relationship. Whenever they feel like, I just got into the relationship because I don't know, I just got into it. I didn't want it. I just got into it. they will resent you. Another reason why you need to stop calling and you need to stop texting is this. So, let's say you're texting all the time. You're calling all the time. When is there going to be the time for actually meeting up and getting together in person? As a matter of fact, in these days, sometimes people just get too comfortable because they feel like we already have that bond like we're already texting and we already calling. So there's no need to see each other. You know that is exactly the problem. That is exactly why these days a lot of long-distance relationships exist. But long-distance relationships are not real relationships because you don't know that person. And that is happening to you if you start texting calling all the time. You don't know each other and he starts to get comfortable. So you want to stop calling and stop texting. So you actually get together, you get to have dates and you get to know him.
Number three, the less you do, the more they do. That is key because the less you do, the more they do means that they are getting attached because men get attached through investing and through providing for a woman. And the reason they do all of this, providing and giving you gifts and spoiling you and all that is one thing. A lot of women ask me, "Why do you actually think that these men want to provide?" You always tell me that men actually want to provide, but why is it? I'm going to tell you why men love providing because they want your emotions. They want your, "Oh my god, thank you so much. You make me so happy." They want that. They don't want to feel like they're just like giving you something and you're just okay. They want to feel like they are providing and they want your oh my god thank you. You know why? Because men are just used to being unemotional all the time. Men have to be hard and cold all the time. So when they get together with someone who is like, "Thank you so much. You're so nice." Someone who is giving them the acknowledgement for doing something, they get so attached. They get weak.
Number four is that they want your glow. And I'm going to explain to you what I mean by that. When a woman heavily invests in herself, she does her skin care, her hair, she takes care of herself, she has good habits, she's working out, she's making sure she's putting a lot of effort in her career and her future, they will see it because whatever you do, everything that you do, people can see it. People will tell who you are just by looking at you. So when you are the woman who heavily invests in herself, they see, "Wow, this woman got that glow." And I want access to that glow. Because I, as a man, I feel better when I have access to a woman with that glow, with that feminine energy, to man, a woman like that with her feminine energy. And her glow is something magical, something unique, something that they love, something that they want so bad. When they get around a woman like that, this woman is giving them life force energy which they need to conquer the world. Men need to feel that feminine energy. When they feel that feminine energy of you, it gives them life. It gives them the energy to go out and conquer the world. I'm pretty sure all of you came across this theory that a king needs a queen behind him in order to be a king. A man needs a feminine woman behind him in order for him to be able to conquer the world and to make the right decisions.
At last but not least, this is where you are getting tested. All of this is just a test for you as a woman. It's a test how good you are maintaining your energy like that. Because as a matter of fact, men will tell you, "You don't love me, you don't like me, you don't put in effort, why would I even put in effort, you don't even like me." But instead of you going up here, you want to stay here. And this is the test. The test is to not listen to what men tell you. And the key is you don't want to be cold. You don't want to seem not interested. Of course, you want to seem interested. You need to feel interested. You need to give him the feeling that you actually like him. But effort, putting in the effort is something different. You don't want to initiate. You don't want to be in her masculine. Just let him do. When a woman is in her feminine energy, she's able to let him do everything to get her to conquer, to win her over. I'm 100% sure that if you do that, men will complain to you. Why I know that? Because I've been through it all my life. As soon as I got into that energy, that queen energy, I noticed one thing. Men are going to start to complain to you. But that complaints, you just want to let it in here and it should go out here. Again, the most difficult part of all of this is you remaining in your energy while they keep complaining and why they keep telling you do this, do this, do that. No, you want to do nothing. You want to make him feel like you're interested and you like him. And when you get together, your date should be very good, very nice, very easygoing, very flirty, good energy, smiling, laughing a lot, so he feels good with you. Men need to feel good with you, but you don't want to put in too much effort. When it comes to effort, he should be here, and you should be here all the time.
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