HOW TO APPRECIATE AN EXCEPTIONAL WIFE

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This is Jesus Evangelical Assembly, the House of Answered Prayers. God has called Reverend David As Sossa Isaiah to preach the message of genuine repentance, effective prayers, and soul-winning to this generation. As you listen to this message, may the power in the word of God transform and bless your life in Jesus' name. Amen.

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The grace of God looked at a very interesting topic: "The Secrets of an Irresistible Wife." And as we moved on to this message, it was given as the next point of attention. So this morning, we share on "How to Appreciate an Exceptional Wife." How to appreciate an exceptional wife. Please, let's open to, uh, First Peter chapter 3. First Peter chapter 3, verse 1 to 7.

"How to appreciate an exceptional wife." We're talking of a wife that displays the attributes of an irresistible woman. And there is an irresistible wife. First Peter chapter 3, verse 1 to 7. First Peter chapter 3, verse 1 to 7. He said, "Likewise, you wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the behavior of the wives; while they behold your pure behavior coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plating the hair, not wearing of gold, or putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which in the sight of God is of great price. For after this manner in the olden time the holy women also who trusted in God had adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands. Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters you are, as long as you do well, and are not afraid with any amazement."

Verse 7: "Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."

Praise God. And lastly, we just run to Proverbs chapter 31. Please open to Proverbs chapter 31. You know, there's a blessing when you read scriptures. Proverbs chapter 31. We'll just look at a few verses there. Proverbs chapter 31, verse 10 to 12. It says, "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."

Let's go to verse 23. "A husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land." "She makes fine linen, and sells it; and delivers girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She shall rejoice in time to come. She shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates."

Praise the Lord. Shall we all put our hands together for the exceptional wife? Let's appreciate. Put your hands together.

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Oh yes, the Bible says her children arise up and call her blessed. Her husband praises her. Appreciating the exceptional wife. In the last two weeks, we looked at ten qualities of an irresistible wife. These are qualities that have survived the test of time. So much we have learned about this set of exceptional women, exceptional mothers, especially our wives. And the Bible uses different words to describe her. In Proverbs chapter 31, verse 10, she is called a virtuous woman. Another version calls her a wife of noble character. Still on Proverbs, she is called a trustworthy woman. She's loyal. She's dependable. She's a pillar of support to her husband and children. She's diligent. She's productive. The exceptional wife, she's merciful and considerate. In verse 26, he says, "She speaks with wisdom."

In Proverbs chapter 18, verse 22, this same wife is called a good thing. "He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing," says Proverbs 18, verse 22. It is this kind of wife that the Bible is calling a good thing. And Proverbs 31, verse 10, tells us that they are uncommon. And so, when you are privileged and fortunate as a husband to have a wife that is living up to these attributes we have looked at in the previous teaching, we must appreciate them. We must have called them due or not.

In Proverbs chapter 19, verse 14, she is called an understanding wife. The Lord makes it clear. I said riches, wealth, properties can be inherited from logical fathers, said, but an understanding wife comes from God. In Proverbs 12, verse 4, she is described as a crown for her husband. A crown for her husband. They are women that can make a man. They are wives that can make a husband. We have many cases where a man that is not so organized, his life was organized the moment that wife came in. His business was organized. Vital areas of his pursuits in life were organized properly by that wife, supported spiritually with prayer, and using all that God has given her. Such husbands have been able to attain greater heights in life that, in all sincerity, they may not have been able to attain if not for that committed, consistent support of that wife.

In First Peter chapter 3, verse 4, she is described as a woman with an unfading beauty of a gentle spirit, quiet spirit, which is so precious in the sight of God. He that finds this kind of wife has found a good thing. And good things must be appreciated. Whoever is privileged to have an understanding wife has found a good thing, and she must be honored. She must be rewarded. She must be appreciated.

Now, we will begin to look at how to honor wives that choose to operate in this realm. Because there is no, there is no woman that is born with all of these qualities. It is a matter of choice. And in Christ, any woman in Christ can decide to live out these qualities, and the grace of God will be given to her, irrespective of her past, irrespective of her previous story. If she decides, grace will flow, and she too will stand among exceptional wives.

In the same process of that we followed in putting the first message together, we did investigations, research across board. And I noticed that, uh, some particular women that I, I spoke to, and these women have personally interacted with nothing less than 200 married women on a one-on-one basis in the course of time. That is the barest minimum. I noticed that those particular women, in their submission, as he talked about the things that the man, husband, should do, and they also mentioned that things that a husband of this kind of wife should not do. And I observed that the first thing they mentioned, because they never knew that they were writing the same thing, as number one. The first thing they mentioned is that the husband must not cheat on her. That any man who is privileged, blessed of God, to have this kind of wife, the husband must be faithful to her. No girlfriend, no mistress, no away match. All matches must be played at home. And they made it clear that faithful wives, they hate this thing seriously. They hate it. They dislike it.

One of the reasons why divorces and separations are increasing, we'll try to beam a little light on it as we'll round it up. But one of the reasons is that there's a tendency for spouses to take each other for granted. Find wives taking a husband for granted, to see husbands taking a wife for granted. She may complain, and the man doesn't even want to listen. She talks quietly, she presents it privately, the man doesn't want to listen. She does so much, goes out of her way to please him, the man remains unappreciative. And you discover that what was never desired eventually begins to happen. And I have learned, even in the last year, especially, it is very dangerous for any man or woman to take people for granted. Who would ever believe that 10 years from now, within the next 10 years, Gaddafi will be overthrown in Libya? And before these Arab revolutions happen, of course, there will be intelligence reports of this content that people are not happy. And you have a choice to take them, be sensitive and responsive to the feelings, to the pains, to the cries of your people. They are your people. But we also have a choice to also ignore them and feel that there is nothing they can do. And so, this plays out also in marriage, especially husbands of godly women, godly wives. We see the situation where, because the man knows that she's so committed to God, she will not do anything that some other woman could have done, so you begin to see such women being taken for granted, being ignored, being undervalued, being despised. And eventually, we have seen some shockers. Because one of the things that came to me in the process of this research, I came to understand that there are some men who don't deserve to have certain women as their wives. They don't deserve them. There are some women as well who do not deserve certain men as their husband. So we all have to be careful not to fall into that category.

So, one of the first things that every husband of this exceptional wife must avoid is infidelity and faithfulness. And well, like we said in the last teaching as well, it also applies to the men. It's not about being smart about it. Some men will say, "Well, you just show her respect by not doing it around her friends, not doing it around people she knows, not doing it, you know, go away, real way, ground, wherever that applies." It amounts to infidelity, demands from faithfulness, and it must be avoided by every responsible husband.

The second thing that is that was mentioned that the husbands must avoid insulting or putting them down. And it is even worse in the presence of the children. It is worse in the presence of members of his family or her family or friends. And also, husbands must not tolerate this from any of their friends towards their wife. Husbands must not tolerate this from any member of their family towards their wives. There are some families today where the wife has become a dry cleaner for all the brothers to wash his clothes, [Music] including all types of clothes, then draws clothing, and all of them, all kinds of clothes for both the husband and all the husband's brothers. They send out errands anyhow, and that is done, is done with an air of ownership, and there's never sincere gratitude. This is not acceptable. So husbands of exceptional wives must not permit their wives to be insulted by their friends, their neighbors, their domestic staff, or their friends. Your friends will always crack jokes. Or the day any of your friends makes the mistake of cracking negative jokes about your wife, you must correct it right there, and it must not be repeated.

Number three: The husband should not keep secrets from her. And women in this category, they feel very, very, they feel somehow betrayed. They feel unhappy. And a man to whom they are committing all, so much, cannot even take them in confidence. They feel slighted when they hear from members of the public or from the friends of the husband, certain things that the husband is about to do or is already doing, and she's just hearing for the first time.

Number four: Husbands of exceptional wives must never hit them physically. No matter the offense, must never hit them physically. But I, I made an observation, 90% of the time, a wife that has the quality of an irresistible wife, as mentioned in this team, the husband, no matter how responsible he is, he would not raise his hand to beat her. It was, you know, it's been observed that most of the time, women who use insulting words, harsh corrections, and harsh words on their husbands, and no matter the ones that attract or provoke the husbands to hit them. This is an observation. But nevertheless, irrespective of whatever is a provocation, a husband has many options on how he should respond to such offense, and it should never amount to raising up his hand to slap her, to beat her, or go to the extent of taking some physical objects to hit her.

And number five: Husbands of this kind of wife should avoid unrighteous comparisons. And I discovered, so this seems to apply to both husbands and wives. Husbands hate this, and the wives do not like it at all. So husbands should avoid unrighteous comparisons, comparing that good wife in an unfavorable way to some other woman. They are not happy when this happens.

And six: They should not be taken for granted. Their husbands who permanently leave their wife at home, even on a day when all happy husbands, happy families, want to show off all members of the family, both the wife and the children. Never take their wives out. They never consult them. They are taken for granted in so many ways.

And number seven: He should not be insensitive to things she has spent so much to do for him or the home. When a woman has committed so much time, so much energy, so much resource on a particular thing to, you know, for the benefit or pleasure of the husband or the children or the home, the husband should at least offer a word of appreciation. Only God knows how long it takes for some wives to put together one special soup. And the man eventually comes, the husband comes, table is set, washes his hand, sees the hefty, you know, well-patted soup, and he begins to demolish it, runs it up, drinks water, and the next thing he talks about, "Ah, they didn't clean this, uh, they didn't clean the sitting room well. My mother, they didn't clean and see cobwebs there." He has nothing. He enjoyed the meal. So much time was committed, but not a single word of appreciation. Good women are not happy when this happens. Sometimes a woman could spend, a wife could spend so much time at the salon, wash the hair, some paper the hair, fry the hair, salute the hair. And eventually, after maybe one hour, some two hours, some three hours, some the whole day, eight hours. They will plate and plate. Three, three, three formidable women will be plated. One commander, two assistants. [Applause] Attachment will be coming from different places. Attachment, attachment. Then after four hours, they will have half time, half time, half time. They will walk a bit, and then they will continue for another three hours. And then eventually, when she's through, she, you know, she walks up to the husband expecting a comment, and not a single word comes from him. Maybe he's watching Premiership, and she, okay, she decides to stand in front of him, lowers her head so he can see. And the only thing he will say, "You are blocking me. You are blocking me." Turn to the man by your side and tell him, "I hope you are not that type of husband."

And number eight: Good women are not happy when a husband stabs the wife sexually. They are sending things that money cannot buy. Certain things that money cannot substitute for. Gifts cannot even substitute for it. Absolutely. Wine. So it's either you or nothing for her. So if you are not there, in six months, she still on this factor. Some wives are not happy that some husbands just, they're just after their personal pleasure when it comes to sexual intimacy. It's just after his own personal pleasure. And the moment he's through, slips off, or he goes out of the room to continue with his, uh, normal activities. A loving husband must express his love for his wife by giving unto her fulfillment and satisfaction when it comes to intimacy. He must find out what his wife craves for, and he must give it to her as often as possible.

Number nine: He must not abandon his responsibilities. Yes, we know that they are godly women, they are good wives, that they are exceptional wives, but it's not, it's not a pleasant scenario when a husband eventually abandons his, his responsibilities as a husband and as a father of the home on the shoulder of the wife, on the shoulder of someone else. He must not abandon his responsibilities.

And lastly, he should not ignore or belittle her. He should not ignore her. He should not belittle her. Listen to her opinion. Let her express herself whenever she wants to. Even when you know she may not be well-versed in that topic, give her the opportunity to still say something. After all, in every time we hear the news, we hear some particular aspects of the news twice or thrice. It's mentioned as a headline, mentioned during the main news, and mentioned at the close of the news. And some things are just mentioned once. To at least let whatever she has to say be mentioned. She should not be belittled. She should not be ignored. And God will have all of us to meet up in these areas in Jesus' name.

So, what then? What are the things the husband should do to honor her, to appreciate her, to make her happy, to encourage her, to motivate her? Number one, we heard from the scripture there said, "Her husband praises her." Such husbands must praise this good woman, this good wife. Praise her to her face. Some complain that, "Okay, they've heard that their husband speaks well of them, but he never tells me. He never tells me." It matters to them. It matters. One of the most respected experts, marriage experts in the globe, he said, in over 40 years of his experience in the field, he has never met a wife that complained to him that the husband tells her he loves her too often. That's sad. This is one of my, one of the problems I have with this man. "Every day, every day, he tells me, 'I love you,' and he says it too much. He says it to us. He says that, 'I'm going home.' As I'm leaving the house, before I get to my office, he calls me, and I expect that maybe I forgot something, and he said, 'I just called to say I love you.' And by the time I'm settling down, he calls again, and now this time, I expect him to have something else to say, and he just said, 'Honey, I just called to say I love you.' And he does that every day." He has never met a single woman come to him with this as a complaint. So praise her to her face. And also praise her to her family, praise her to her friends. I know as I'm saying this now, some, some people begin to come to everyone's mind. Every one of us, we are conscious of certain husbands who publicly celebrate their wives, testify of the good role their wives are playing in their lives. And every husband must strive to walk in this realm. To tell her often that you love her, you value her, you appreciate her. And telling her can happen in different ways.

That takes us to point number two. Show her how much you love and appreciate her. Can everybody say, "Show her"? Say it one more time. I want a person by your side to hear what you are saying. What is the pastor saying this morning? We know he's in the heart, but sure. Some husbands who said, "If you know the love I have for you, if you know, if you know." Show her. Turn to the man by your side and tell him, "Show her." Sometimes the wife will even ask, "Do you still love you? Really, really love?" And the man says, "If you know the kind of love, if you know." Show her. [Music] Prove it. Demonstrate it. We have seen some people on their days of testimony to God for water. As they roll on the floor. I'm gonna say you should roll on the floor, but demonstrate it. Accord has special treatment. You show it by your actions. You also show it by a word. Messages sent to her. Thank God for SMS. Letters. Write a poem. Now, let's, we're going to clap for some special husbands here. How many husbands here have written a poem in the last one year? Some hands were up before. And, uh, I mentioned one year. Came. Okay. In the last five years, last five years, we've written a poem. Your wife is around you. If it's not true, if it's not true. Praise God. Let's clap for them. Let's clap for them. For them. Some of us, we, we, we have poems, but we want to convert it to the local language of our wives. So once the interpretation has been done, that poem shall be released. So wives, they feel that they would like their husband to call them by some pet name, and not just as mother of a particular child, "Mama Sweet." I'm afraid, "Am." They like some pet names. Honey, darling, sweetie, princess, and all the rest of it. They want the husband to tell her that you adore her body, and you still adore her body. They knew that in the first day of marriage, but ten years after, five years after, 15 years, 20 years after, 30 years after, they want to hear. They want to know your mind on that area. And if it's true, then they want you to say it. The husband, they say, should show this love to the wife by sometimes having a quality time together. Have a quality time together, just with your wife. Take her out for some surprise dates, trips. Give her what she craves for. We mentioned that earlier. Give her what she craves for. And in showing how you love her, her birthday cannot come by, and you are not, you are forgotten. You cannot forget the birthday of this kind of wife. You cannot also forget the wedding anniversary. To this kind of wife, those two dates must be treated as special days, as one of the ways you show to her that if you even had the opportunity to make another choice or a first choice in marriage, she will be your choice.

And number three: The husband should be interested in her business or career. The husband should be interested. If you ask questions, you should assist her in planning, to support her in every possible way, every possible way. Give her maximum support. Do everything possible to make her succeed in that career, succeed in her business.

Number four: The husband must not allow her to be overstressed, overworked. Not allow her to be overworked or stressed out. If it's possible, and she has no objection, could go ahead to please employ a housemaid to assist with some of the domestic assignments, to take the workload away from her. And, uh, when two of you are alone, because there will always be times where you two of you will be alone, you may have traveled to a different city. They feel strongly that the husband, at such time, should join her in doing some of the things that need to be done. Don't just be a spectator in the house. And one of the solutions to deal with stress and overwork is to take her on holidays. Depending on your financial strength, it could be within the country, or to a tourist, an Asian city, or a foreign trip. I know when we say foreign trip, it covers different areas. It's not only the U.S., it's not only UK, it's not only Canada, it's not only France. Foreign trips also cover Togo, covers, uh, Cameroon, covers Ghana, covers Zimbabwe, covers Mali. So keep her away from stressful assignments. The wife, a wife should not be the one to switch on [Music] some of the types of generators that are available in homes. It's not a very beautiful sight. You go to home, and you, the husband is there with the wife, and it's the wife that goes out and draws the thing. Many times, you know, and tomorrow you say she's not looking fresh. Drawing that generator alone is like an exercise. She's exercising her muscles, and then, you know, gradually she begins to look like a bodybuilder, weightlifter. So if you want her to continue to remain fresh, keep her away from pounding yam, keep her away from from switching on the generator.

Number five: Buy her gifts to pamper her. Buy her gifts. I'm beginning to learn a lot from this series of teachings. And one of the things I, I found out is that we are not yet as wise as we should be. Since I started reflecting and researching on this topic of offering the irresistible, many times the people we are trying to attract or will consider important in our lives, we are not doing, we are not really doing much to give those particular people the best we could ever offer. But I believe that through the insights from these messages, we'll be able to do a lot much better and have better results in every area of our lives. So buy her gifts to pamper her. Surprise her from time to time. What kind of gifts? Cuts across board, depending on your level of financial strength. Could be new clothes, shoes, wristwatch, jewelries, a better car, or a new car. And as God blesses you more, a choice car. Your level of prosperity in life must reflect on your wife. It must reflect on your wife. And any wealthy man whose wealth does not reflect around on the lives of those directly around him, we don't, we don't agree that he has a good testimony. When your wealth cannot affect the lives of those directly around, and that starts from your wife. So as God blesses you, it must reflect positively on your wife. Take good care of her. Buy her things that you notice she needs that you can afford. Don't always wait for your wife to ask. And I still keep on talking about this issue of, um, financial independence of wives. It's very important. Let us, in church, we must be careful while trying to get something, achieve a particular purpose. Let's not introduce rules that God never put in place. Today, we see some husbands, they insist that themselves and the wife must have a joint account. She cannot spend the cover without the husband's knowledge. You know, there is, there is a sense of joy and satisfaction when an adult sees money coming into his or her account through his own business or his own work. It's the kind of joy that comes. No matter how much you give that person, there's a kind of fulfillment that comes when you know that, "Oh, this money, whether it is five thousand, it is two thousand, it is the profit from my work or my investment." Every wife should be entitled to spoil herself. I could use that word. Yeah. She's able to have to take some money and just buy what she wants, buy what she wants, without going to the House of Reps or House of Senate for debate and approval. And I keep my referrals every time to Proverbs 31. And that is the mother that God has given the church. That woman was financially independent. She was loyal to the husband. She was faithful. She's a role model. But she was not this joint account kind of woman that cannot have a property of her own. The Bible says she buys a field. You walk down and you say that this land, it belongs to that woman. This property belongs to her. This entity belongs to her. Those companies, she's the owner of the company. It did not, don't know the husband that is also doing well, but this is for her. That desire should be Proverbs that is there in scripture. The scripture. So buy her things you notice she needs from time to time. Check out shopping or empower her to shop. Empower her to shop. And, uh, sometimes if you notice that she's that kind of woman that doesn't like to buy things for herself, if you want to celebrate her birthday, she will tell you, "No, no, no, don't bother. Don't bother. Just, uh, just give me the money." You want to buy her very good clothing that you feel is befitting of your own wife. She takes the money, and you discover that she does not use more than one quarter, and she, you know, she manages to just buy some makeshift that doesn't match up with what you expected. So for such a wife, you can go straight away and pick up those kind of high-quality clothing and give it to her as a present. So gifts, and especially the priest, they also like it a lot when it is on a day they are not expecting anything. Not Mother's Day, not on her birthday, not on wedding anniversary. Nothing is happening. And suddenly you see a password open it from the hospital and there's a note there, "I love you." The beautiful gift is inside it. It hits them. It hits them right. High surprise check. But that, that check must not bounce. Over right. High surprise check. Right here is surprise check. You don't just send that wife to the bank all the time. Oh, yeah. Take. Go to handy one day. Write it. Say, "Okay, what is this one for? For you." And she looks at the figure. She looks at the figure there. "For you." And you trust them. Once you do that, immediately she will grab you. [Music] You know them. [Applause] And that day she will call you by pet names. My honey. [Music]

And as we close it up, number six: Show love to her loved ones. Show love to her loved ones. Every one of us, we've come a long way, coming a long way. There are some people that have played a great role in our lives before we got to where we are today. And our spouses, we tell them, and they tell us as well. So a good husband should show love to her loved ones, her parents, her brothers, her sisters, some key people that are very dear to her. Treat them as yours. And some of the things we mentioned earlier, like gifts and all the rest of it, they could be extended to these loved ones. Anything you do for them, you have done it for her as well.

And as we go on with this message, I want to emphasize very strongly, but the message we are hearing, we should take it very, very seriously. In this church, for instance, our approach to marriage is that we will do everything possible proactively to make sure marriages are healthy. And we will not be among those who are wasting time and energy debating over whether there should be divorce or there should be separation, and they are not contributing anything tangible to make marriages better. We believe that rather, we should invest our time, wisdom, and resource in nourishing marriages with the right and valuable information, and whatever counsel will be appropriate to make husbands and wives more attractive to each other.

In the course of this message, I've come to really recognize that every husband must take what this message seriously. In fact, what I've also observed is that a husband that is really going to go far, he won't listen to the message about the secrets of an irresistible wife more than twice. Some just once. Their focus would be on this particular message. Trouble. Some husbands are the ones they won't listen to this message. They will, they would like to type out the message on the irresistible one and continue to emphasize it to their wife. It is now itself as a benchmark for judgment and a discussion scorecard. So it's vice versa. A wife would not bother herself reminding the husband, "You know what pastor said or what was spoken in this vest." No, she focuses on the secrets of an irresistible wife, and she wants to live up to all of those 10 attributes. And may God give us the grace in Jesus' name.

And number seven: Carry along in your plans and decisions. Show her that her contribution is very important to the decisions you make. Carry her along in your plans. Carry her along in your decisions. Share your plans for the family with her. We know you have good plans for the family. Share them with her.

And number eight: Add value to every area of her life. Add value. Add value to every area of her life. Keep improving on her pedigree, on her competence, her capabilities, her financially independent. Do all you can to bring tangible improvement to these respective areas of her life. Encourage her to utilize her talent, to utilize her special abilities. Build her up and not pull her down. Build her up and not pull her down.

Number nine: Be appreciative of her good deeds. The body shed some light on that. All her good deeds, you must be appreciative of them. Women are sensitive to take note of your observation. So when something tangible is done, and you never make any remark, it's not very well welcomed. So let's be sensitive of their good deeds and let's appreciate it as often as possible.

And the last one: Protect her. Protect her physically. Protect her in every other possible sense. Shielded away from, uh, intimidation from any quarter. Especially your own family. Especially your own family. My family is quite large, but one of the things I like about my family is that we, we don't, we don't, we accord every member of the family due respect when it comes to each person's marital life. No wife is harassed. No husband is allowed, he's harassed. It's not permitted. But we all know that these things happen. There are times where a husband and a wife are patiently waiting on God for the fruit of the womb. The husband, you know, doing everything to encourage her. There's no issue between the two of them. But the woman is under stress. And where is he coming from? The husband's mother, the husband's father, someone from the husband's family. What is important is that the day it comes to the knowledge of that husband, you must call that person to order. You must put a stop to it. You must protect your wife. Nobody insults your wife. Nobody belittles your wife. Nobody cracks nasty jokes with your wife. And when it ever happens, let people see clearly that you react to it. It's very important. And this is one of the ways you show to your wife that she's of great value.

Praise the Lord. In closing, like I said, if you reflect back on the Arab revolution that happened, especially last year, 2011. It started, I believe, from Algeria or Tunisia, and it swept through Egypt. Unbelievable. Shook Egypt. The government was down. Mubarak was out. And that which everyone thought would be impossible, at least in the next 20 years, 10 years, definitely. The great Gaddafi, that America and Europe wanted dead at a particular time, and they attempted it, they could not. This same Gaddafi was swept out in a popular revolution. For many years, he would have been receiving intelligence reports that these are the pains of your people, these are the complaints of your people. But he took those complaints for granted. "They can't do anything. Even if they are tempted, where would they start from?" In the same way, it could be very dangerous for a husband to make that same mistake. That a woman is godly, she fears God, she's so committed to the marriage, committed to the home, to the children, she's desperate to make that marriage work. And the husband, you know, continues to take her for granted. Sometimes there are shockers. But we don't want things like that to happen. And wise men take intelligence reports that are authentic, very seriously. They adjust quickly so that what they have seen has been the same could happen, does not eventually happen. It's very, very important. Some people will not even accept the message we have. God has brought, but to the women and also to the men, some would not accept. So eventually they suffer the consequences. The starting point is that you must accept this message. Do you want to keep that wife at home? Do you want her to continue to be that good woman, peaceful woman, loving woman? The 10 things you have heard today must be applied. Do you want your husband to love you? You want your husband to be all over you? Your husband may be walking, as he succeeded in life, he's more exposed to all kinds of temptation. That's the reality. The more a man succeeds, the more he becomes a target. No hiding place. But if you put each of those 10 attributes into action, the women out there, they may shake their bodies, they may smile to your husband, they may do all kinds of things. Some will be very desperate in their move to win his heart and attraction. Or that husband will always return back home to you. Nobody will be able to snatch your husband. Somebody say amen.

But there's a price. Pay the price. And have found out that real authority for a woman is not authority that she exercises. But a woman that is really powerful, especially on the home front, is the one that, that power is expressed by the husband. Everybody knows that the man does not joke with his wife. So she sends someone an errand, and the person is being rude. It's the husband that reacts. That woman is more powerful than the one that, maybe because she gives her husband problem all the time. The day someone is being rude to her, because the husband will look at her saying, "Your judgment has started." Judgment. What a woman says that we share it. But a woman that's really powerful does not have to fight her battles because she has accorded all that honor to her husband. The husband will not tolerate it from anybody. What she has not done to him, someone would try to her. He would not take it. So we believe that as our wives begin to apply, and the husbands begin to apply all we have heard, and I plead with everyone, let's avoid overconfidence. It has ruined many believers. It has ruined many people. It also ruined Gaddafi. Overconfidence. "She's going nowhere. What can he do? She is a minister in our church. He is a pastor." So there's no way I can run. The Bible says, "Surely there is an end." Anything that is not right cannot continue forever. So let us be very, very careful. Let all the wives go into action. Put to play what you have heard. Husbands, let every one of us go into action. Put to place what we have heard. And we shall have better homes in Jesus' name. And the way I'm looking at it, we may, we won't likely have more children. [Music] Likely have more children because, uh, the first message that was preached since that time of that first message, the response has been serious, very serious. We give an assignment to the women that they should have a meeting and discuss certain things. These are men that have been reminding us that, "Let the women quickly have that meeting." Or, "We are waiting." God will bless you in the name of Jesus Christ. Praise ye the Lord. [Applause] [Music] Amen. We want to pray right now. And, um, all couples in this service, please come forward and come together. All couples, husband and wife. All couples. And the rest of us, let's sit down so that you will know that that man is a married man. All couples, please come. Come. Minister Zaham, ministers, come with your wife and join us here. Hold him. Hold him very well. Hold him very well. Shall we clap for them as they come? Let's clap for them. If you celebrate good things, you will always come together. Holding your hands for good things. You will always hold your hands to receive blessing in the name of Jesus Christ. So all, uh, couples, let's hold our hands together as we pray. Our Father and our God, we thank You. We appreciate You for Your word that has come expressly in this last three services. We appreciate. We receive Your message. We ask, Lord, just as You have helped us in different areas of our lives to effect dramatic changes for good, we ask, Lord, that the word You have given to us, let it change us for the better. Let it move us to a higher pedestrian in our relationships with our spouses in the name of Jesus. Father, the grace to put to practice consistently everything we have heard, let that grace rest upon everyone in the name of Jesus. Lord, we pray that any marriage that is presently troubled, let there be immediate divine intervention. Lord, we pray that whatever is the root cause of that hostility, let it be addressed from the roots in the name of Jesus. Our Father, that God will use this occasion as a point of contact to ask from You on behalf of every expectant couple. And just as You have blessed Your sons and daughters in their marriages with children, let every aspect and couple receive within the next nine months their own children in the name of Jesus. Lord, we ask that He will prosper our husbands. Raise billionaires among them. Raise multi-millionaires among them. Lord, we pray that as You empowered the virtuous woman, a Proverbs 31 woman, who had assets and was very wealthy, bless our wives. Empower them. Make them pillars of support in the name of Jesus. Lord, any problem, any issue that has been persistent, that has refused to go, we pray that today You will wipe it off permanently in the name of Jesus. Let today mark a new beginning for the better in every marriage, in every home, in every family. And we pray for the children that Your hand will come upon all the children. A lot because of the good report, the success, the progress in the children's life, the parents will become happier for their marriages in the name of Jesus. Lord, we also use this occasion as a point of contact for all our eligible singles, all eligible sisters, all our eligible brothers. Lord, connect them to their ordained partners. Make their marriage happen soon in the name of Jesus Christ. Thank You, Heavenly Father. We receive Your blessing. We receive Your grace. We receive Your favor in Jesus' mighty name. And the people shall say, "Congratulations." God bless you. [Music]