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You know, we've said multiple times, you don't need to be a chemist to know that water is wet. You don't need to know hydrogen and oxygen and chemical bondings and neutrons and electrons and protons. You get out of the shower, or you step into too deep a mud puddle, water's wet. Don't need the science.
Well, there's actually some science now. You know, men's communities have been saying now for at least, I don't know, five or six years, because of the OkayCid study that came out, that 80% of the women are sleeping with the top 20% of men. Well, new data actually shows that it's worse than that. This is actually a very big study. This came out just, uh, 24th of April, so just about two weeks ago. And this is one of the charts that they're using, showing about the dating apps. You know, 60 to 70% of all women are using the dating apps.
And what they found is they went through and since 2014 until 2024, so just a two years ago, they asked the number of guys on there, "How many women have you slept with?" And they found 1% of men that on average slept with 287 women. But I have to assume, when you've slept with this many women and they're doing a poll like this and they ask you, if you're a guy that slept with that many women, you kind of probably have to say like, "I don't know, 250, 300 women." And they say, "Pick a number." And you say, "All right, uh, 275." Because when you've been with that many women, I'm sure you don't have an actual count anymore. But what you notice here is that 1% of the 99th percentile of men, 1% of men, have slept with 287 women. The next percentile of men, which is 95 up through 98, is 85 women.
So I actually added all these up and and and this is again the averages through all the polls they've done since 2014 to 2024. And and I'll show you the data on this, but out of these 439 people that these guys slept with, the top 1% of men slept with 65% of the women. The top 5% of men slept with 85% of the women. The top 10% of men slept with 94% of the women. And the top 20% of men slept with 98% of the women. So, so in this case, it really is kind of the one top 1 to 5% of men that are sleeping with and potentially dating most of the women.
I'm going to read the brief summary of it and then we'll hit the AI, uh, because that kind of stripped out the important part for those of you again on a budget for time, and then we'll go over the actual, uh, in-depth data.
After the 1960s, a unique mating regime spread across parts of the world with female emancipation, individual mate choice, and effective birth control, followed by a continuing rise in singlehood and declining fertility. Almost all women still want to reproduce, but many struggle to find a good enough partner. This article argues from an evolutionary perspective that many men's utility to free women has been so diminished that solving the fertility crisis by increasing pair bonding rates seems unfeasible.
Now, I did ask Venice AI to break this all down and we'll go down through this. Uh, it, it's, it, it really is either the the ending of the West because of fertility issues, or it's the end of men as far as when it comes to really having anything to do with women. It'll be the top 15% of men will have all the women and the rest of men are just out, and that's the way it's going to be.
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Okay. So, I told Venice, I said, "Read this experiment and explain it in detail like I'm in high school." And the only reason I chose high school is not because you guys aren't intelligent out there, but there are many of my viewers, roughly 40%, that are not native English speaking, and it goes all over the world. So I wanted it to make sure it used words that most people would understand.
The study's core message explains simply: in wealthy, gender-equal Western countries, women have more choices than ever before thanks to birth control, women's economic independence, careers, and dating apps. Most women still say they want kids, around two to two and a half on average. But many aren't finding men they consider good enough for a long-term relationship and family. This is creating fewer stable couples, fewer babies, and a shrinking population. The authors argue that trying to get more men and women to pair up and have kids together may no longer work well. Instead, societies may need to pay or support women to have and raise children on their own. That solution would push the average men even further to the sidelines.
Now, this is something that Western countries are already doing. Men have to pay child support. The government will give, uh, food and and free housing and many programs to single mothers. And many of the women are choosing to just sleep with hot guys until they get pregnant, and then have the kid on their own, with or without maybe the father paying some sort of child support. And as the West is going, we're supporting this. It's not shaming women into going back and having husbands. It's not making sure women are getting married. It's saying, "Okay, you girls do what you're going to do, and we'll pay you for that bad decision." That's what's happening right now.
It continues on. Why is this happening? Humans evolved with two main mating approaches: short-term casual. Women tend to be very picky, favoring the most attractive, high-status men for genes. They say for most of history, families and communities arranged marriages. This kept most men in the game because parents valued reliable providers, not just the flashiest guys.
The last 60 years brought three big changes: the sexual revolution that freed women's choices; reliable birth control; women's entry into higher education and careers; and cultural shifts toward individual freedom and romance. That would be feminism. Dating apps made this selectivity even stronger. Women can easily compare hundreds of men and focused on the top tier. Men's traditional utility—providing money, protection, status—matters less now that women earn their own income and the state offers support. Result: more women stay long single longer or choose short-term relationships that don't lead to kids. Fertility rates have crashed below the replacement levels. Singlehood among young women has roughly doubled in recent decades, and in many Western countries direct directly linked to lower birth rates.
Now if you're saying as a guy, "Okay, yes, I know this, but how does this directly relate to me?" See it in this study: 439. This is the number of women that had been slept with by the guys that were giving or giving this information in the poll. And you had 1% taking 65% of the women, 5% of men, the top 5% sleeping with 85% of the women. It is literally become the 95 to 5% rule. In other words, 5% of men are sleeping with 85% of the women. And then the top 10% that is 94% of all women. So if you're not a top 10-enter, if you are a a the bottom 90% of men, your choices are virtually nothing.
Here on this, you can see that even the 80 to 90th percentile of men had 21 women out of this 439 of them. The bottom 80% of men had eight. Eight! That's 80% of the men that they interviewed fighting over eight women, where the top 1% just ran through. This is the reality that I think men need to understand.
So when guys say, "You know something? I need to be prepared to be alone the rest of my life. Or I need to be prepared to make good money, earn a lot of money, and then maybe I'll have a woman that's turned out more tricks than Harry Houdini show up, and maybe I can get a chance to be with her and have a family. But most of the time, again, they'll leave with a cash and prizes to go be with a different guy."
"Or you can say, "You know something, I want to at least be in the top 10% of men. I'm going to get myself in as best a shape I can. I'm going to get super jacked. I'm going to get, I'm going to do the most I can with the looks that I have. I'm going to be super popular and very comfortable in talking to women. I'll learn some jokes. I'll learn some game."
"Or you just realize that's a lot of effort for the average woman. And I'm not going to go through all of that. That's really where we are at this point in time."
They say the paper calls this the female choice fertility paradox and post-pair bonding fertility trap. Free choice plus economic independence plus contraception leads to fewer stable early families. Even though most Even though almost no one wants childlessness, I actually did a video on this. I want to say it was four years ago now about the female, or the female choice paradox.
And in that, what I was discussing is they did a study where people were given a T-shirt at a concert. And when they were interviewed later on, they said, "Hey, how do you feel about getting a free a T-shirt?" Everybody was thrilled. Everybody was happy. They got a free T-shirt. But then they started adding options. At the next concert, they'd give a black and a white T-shirt. Now, a couple people said, "I wish I chose the other color T-shirt." But still, the majority of people were happy with their choices. Then they went out and they left a plethora of different styles and different colors to the point where people are having a hard time choosing which T-shirt they wanted. And ultimately, maybe they had a time constraint or maybe they got tired of looking and they ultimately decided, "Okay, I guess I'll take this one." And then when they later interviewed them, a lot of the people had regrets, saying, "You know something, I took this one, but I I guess I don't really like the style." And you, the more choices they had ultimately, the more unhappy they were.
That's what's happening in dating with the vast majority of these women today. They're able to sleep with these guys and they think about Tom when it comes to income and they think about Bill's nice car and they think about, I don't know, Frank's height and they think about and they realize, "Well, maybe I've made the wrong choice."
Back in the day, a young man and a young woman, she'd go on a couple of dates and after two or three or maybe four dates of different guys, she'd go long-term with somebody and then they'd get serious, they'd get engaged, get married, and off they went because she only had a couple of choices to choose from because there were only certain men that would choose her for a long-term relationship.
Well, now there are guys, and I know men personally like this. I knew them in the military. I've known them at jobs I worked at. They were good-looking guys. And there were guys that would go home and sleep, you know, if he's a nine, he would go sleep with a six at the end of the night or he'd meet a six out at coffee and he'd say a funny line, get her number and he'd sleep with her. And when you think, "Why would guys do that? Why would a guy that's a nine sleep with a six?" Because he can. Because it's lit literally zero effort. It's, as one of my friends put it, "It's better than doing it myself. At least she's there and it's a woman and it's a lot more fun than me doing it myself and she's better than nothing."
So, when you've got that guy, which is, uh, this top 1% of men right here, when that guy and these others down below it, when you've got the top five or 10% of men that are just saying like, "Screw it, why not?" It's, it's fun. It's interesting. It's easy to do. These women get hooked on those men and those men want nothing to do with them. And because of this, it's a choice paradox. Women think think they have all these choices when reality they don't. And that's why they're aging out and they're not being chosen by anybody at the end, but they don't find out until it's too late.
Where if a woman's only got one or two choices, she makes the best choice she has. The man that's only got a couple choices. He makes the best choice he can. And it turns out for the most part they're relatively happy because they got the best of a couple of choices. But when you can literally choose anyone like many of these women can, they get stuck and they get messed up.
So what does this mean for the average man? If you're an ordinary guy not in the top 20% in looks, height, income, social skills, or status, your realistic chances for traditional dating, marriage, and fatherhood are shrinking and will likely keep shrinking in Western societies.
Dating and marriage: women can afford to hold out for men who check most boxes. Many average men are simply filtered out on their apps or in real life. The paper denotes that this marginalization of men in education, jobs, and mental health is already visible and will probably get worse if societies double down on supporting solo motherhood. Fewer men will form the stable partnerships that used to be normal.
Under having children, traditional routes—finding a wife, having kids together—becomes harder. Some men may end up with no biological kids at all. The study suggests future tech like artificial wombs could eventually let men reproduce independently as well, but that's probably decades away, maybe in the 2040s. Until then, the average men face reduced reproductive opportunities.
The authors link to rising male disengagement, poorer mental health, less drive to work hard or to improve, higher dropout rates. If society signals that many men aren't needed as partners or fathers, more men may check out completely, creating a feedback loop of loneliness, lower achievement, and even less appeal to women.
This isn't universal. Top-tier men will still do fine or better with plenty of options. But for the median man, the dating market has become more like a winner-take-all contest.
The bigger picture for Western society: Western nations are on track for steep population decline. At current rates, each generation could be a third smaller than the last, leading to aging populations with fewer young workers, strained economies, pension systems, military recruiting, and innovation, and a heavy reliance on immigration, which brings its own cultural and societal challenges.
Here's where this is this is what's going to, I think, ultimately be the downfall of the West is that I like it's okay for a shrinking population. You know, at some point things will probably change around. It's easy to say, "Well, we're going to lose a third this generation and a third next generation and a third next generation and then you're just out of people." And that's going to happen across all Western countries. I don't think it's going to happen like that.
What'll happen is as as the depopulation happens, there's going to be less entertainment. There's going to be less choices at the grocery store. There's going to be more demand for workers keeping the infrastructure intact. And that'll mostly likely be like physical people, men mostly, uh, building things and fixing things and repairing things. And the Karen daycare job will go away because there's not as large a population that is dependent on them. And then if those women need something, they'll probably likely have to pair up with men.
What will be the downfall of this society is if you import a bunch of immigrants here and they they bring in women and everybody else with them. And basically you're just you're just your country is just dying out at that point and you're just expanding the country next to you. For example, Mexico. If you allow millions of Mexicans here, eventually as the white population slowly shrinks and the Mexican continues to grow, eventually the United States will just be Mexico.
I'm not I'm not going to bother to say that's a good or a bad thing. It doesn't matter at this point in time. I'll probably be long gone from this planet. But for you that are remaining, it might be a big deal. That's why the immigration thing doesn't work. The only way you can do this is to not prop up single women and really kind of like disenfranchise them from the work world. But we know that's not going to happen. So more than likely it's just going to be a slow struggle to the bottom.
The worst part is men's mental health will continue to decline. There's less drive for work or to improve to get higher education. At a certain point, guys are going to be like, "What what's the bother? Like why should I bother? I'm just going to check out." And that's what we're seeing in many, many of the younger generations today. Guys are just saying, "Look, the women are not worth that much effort. I'm going to find a group of friends. I'm going to find a society or a community of like-minded guys where um I can have friendships and I can have relationships and that way I don't feel alone as much. And guys are just going to do what keeps them afloat instead of worrying about providing for an entire family."
"And if the women want to keep working and making this money and and uh being the spenders that they are, well, they're probably just going to take over the economy. And I want to say it's a bad thing if guys become just the physical labor and they're the ones that are fixing things and building things and the women have all the cushy jobs in the offices. But if we're realistic about it, those cushy jobs in the offices, they're not really needed."
You know, so many of the like the HR department wasn't a thing way back in the day, but because they had so many women in the workforce, they said, "Well, we'll put some women in here to manage personnel and manage this, that, and the other thing, it'll make the jobs for the managers easier." Those jobs can go away. You know, nurses used to be men. You don't need women nurses. Educators used to be men. You don't need women men. You don't need women educators. Like, we'll be fine if women aren't in the workforce. And so if the the men become the backbone of society fixing the things, those are the jobs you can't get rid of. And the jobs you can get rid of, they're the ones that the women are in currently. Something like 85% of women's jobs are going to go away due to AI is at least what I've heard so far. So what does that leave? It leaves women wanting to get by. They're either going to need to rely on the government, which isn't going to have enough money, or men.
And I think this would fix itself over time. this scare of, "Oh, we've got to keep propping up the the welfare and the uh social security systems because of the older people." That's why they want to bring an influx of young workers to keep propping up social security. The truth is social security, whatever retirement pensions are in most most countries today, you can't bring in enough people to to prop it up because many of the people you're bringing in end up on welfare themselves and they're not actually a productive segment of society. So, it's weighing everything down instead of lifting it up.
So, I do believe at some point this would work itself out, but it might be our population is 20% or 10% of what it is today only for it to slowly reverse course and come back in some traditional manner. I don't think that's ideal, but it might be the only way this fixes itself. Otherwise, you just go extinct at that point.
They continue on. A strong link between a higher gender equality and low fertility correlation around .8 suggests the current path isn't sustainable. Past policies like cash bonuses for families or better parental leave have not reversed the trend long-term. The paper the paper argues we may need to individualistic reproduction giving women enough financial and social support that choosing single motherhood feels better than staying childless. This would solve the fertility crisis, but at the cost of further sidelining men from family life. It would accelerate male marginalization while letting women have the children they say they want.
If they go this route, yes, you will physically get more young people, but without a positive male role model, without fathers in their lives raising them, you're going to get basically feminists and the government state raising them. That is a I I won't even get into it, but that is a a 100% guaranteed race to the bottom. That is complete and utter destruction.
The other way to fix this would be to incentivize women to find a good man and stop going on only fools and stop chasing the almighty dollar and actually finding a path because these women are not going to be happy. They're already miserable as it is. As they enter their late 30s and early 40s, they can go on TikTok all they want and say they don't need no man. But the truth is they're ending up with wine wine bottles and cats. And we know they're not happy because if you look at the number of of medications women are taking today, it's like 65% of liberal women are taking them because they're single and they're lonely. So it's not exactly working out.
The only other way you could do this is get women out of the workforce. Put them back in the homes. Make being a mother something to brag about and something that is like a high society value versus shaming them and making it sound like women mothers are slaves or something.
They continue: overall the authors see this as possibly the next step of human reproduction. Less pair bonding, more independence enabled by wealth and technology. Societies that ignore this, uh, risk demographic collapse. Those that embrace it may survive but look very different: fewer traditional families, more single mother households supported by the state or technology, and a growing class of men outside the reproductive mainstream.
Again, that's that's how you fall into dystopian nightmare stuff. That will not work. I I can guarantee you that right now. You're going to end up with a bunch of really unstabilized, weird, mentally deficient people. That's how that's going to turn out.
However, here's the the positives that the AI wants to pass on to you so you don't find yourself too miserable after hearing this story.
Number one: be honest with yourself about the changed landscape instead of hoping it reverts. Focus on what you can control. Number one: raise your value ruthlessly. Prioritize fitness, skills, career, social competence, and emotional stability. The bar for good enough has risen. Average effort gets average or worse results. Now, the problem with that is you have to become a top 10% man to get an average woman. I think most of us will agree the juice is not worth the squeeze in that situation.
Number two: expand your options. Considering consider dating outside of hypers selective western environments. That is AI telling you, "Become a passport bro." Just become a passport bro. Pick it up, pack it up, leave, go overseas. But here's the important key: do not bring those women back. You want to go to Thailand, find a beautiful Thai woman, have some babies, stay over there, work remotely, whatever you got to do, but stay there so they don't get don't come here and become brainwashed. Same thing for Philippines. I think it's too late for South Korea. I genuinely think it's too late for South Korea. Now, in rural Japan, you might be okay. I think Thailand, Malaysia, Cambodia, uh, Vietnam, places like that, you'll probably still be okay. That's about it. I mean, in Western countries, maybe Poland, maybe, but again, small town conservative area Poland, that's about your best options.
Uh, diversify your life goals. Traditional marriage and kids may not be realistic or fulfilling for everyone anymore. Invest on purpose, career, friendships, hobbies, community, mentoring. Prepare mentally for the possibility of not having biological children. I think most of us have been doing that as it is. Stay informed on tech and policy: artificial wombs, etc. Yeah. Avoid despair and resentment. The evolutionary forces described aren't personal attacks. Channel energy into self-improvement rather than blaming women or society. Many men will still build good lives, but the old default path is closing for a large share of them.
And I'll tell you something here, and I mean this genuinely: I don't blame the women either. I actually don't. I'm not angry for women doing this. But this is why men kept women from doing this in the past because they know women will get out of control. Women have been brainwashed since the time they were little girls that if you grow up, uh, you're the best. You're awesome. You deserve nothing but the best. You don't need to rely on a man because if he leaves you, you're left high and dry and you'll have no options and your life will suck. Go out there and grab the world by the throat and you do it for yourself and and settle for nothing less. That's part of the problem.
And then the dating apps where women can just nope nope nope nope until they all want to sleep with the top guys. And if you're saying that's not happening, I got a graph to show you. They're literally all sleeping with the same guys. And then they think they can get This is where women fall apart. They think they can get those guys. It's 100% of women want one% of the men. 99% of the women are not going to end up with anybody, but they're going to get angry and they're going to be the feminists later on in life.
Um, and I do think it it's it's feminism. It's the uh schools and education systems. It's the women that bought into this. They've been brainwashed. It's kind of cult mentality and they fell for it. And it's kind of hard when you've been brought up that way to not fall into it. Some women didn't fall into it. Some of the women are happily married and but they're all the conservative scale. You know, they're on the conservative side, but it doesn't mean that they won't go out there and still sleep around and have their fun before deciding to settle down. It's just the odds are slightly better in the conservative camp.
Uh they continue on. The study's blunt conclusion is that f further marginalizing ma many men may be part of the price for keeping population stable through solo female reproduction. This won't be easy or fair for the average man, but understanding the forces at work is it the first step to navigating them. And I agree with that. I agree with that.
So, what's the reality that we're looking at as guys? What is the reality that we're looking at? I will pin uh the I I'll post this Cambridge study down below. So, if you want to look in it uh look at it a little bit further, you can. And I think you should. You know, I haven't read through the whole thing. I am going to read through the whole thing. I think you should. But what this means for the average guy is the average guy is not going to get the average girl anymore. As a matter of fact, even if you're a top 80% guy, you're still only looking at a very small subsection of the women that you may end up actually being with. The truth is from the data they were able to collect, 5% of men are with 85% of women. That means there's very slim pickings for any men left over.
The reality is you may not have the children you might have wanted or if you do, you're going to have to leave. You just got to leave Western countries. And for the rest of the guys out there, this is not a moment to despair. This is not something that's in your control. You can cry and whine that society's like this and oh, damn you dating apps and damn you feminism, but the truth is you're not going to be controlling that. You're not going to be stopping it. All you can do now is make yourself the best man you can be and find a way to navigate this new world.
And and I think a large number of men are now discovering, you know something, this is a lot of work for the average woman. I'm not going to worry about it. I mean, probably in another five or eight years, there's going to be synthetic woman that I can have conversations with while she does my dishes and then I can sleep with her later at sleep with it later at night. But give you the perception of it being female.
I I think guys will have men's communities. I think guys will have friends. I I think we'll be okay because if you go back and look at history, the vast majority of men outside of maybe say the westernized last 500 years, I you know, if you go back to the 1500s, maybe the 1300s, so maybe the last 5, 700 years, throughout all of history, it was always the top percentage of men having a herum of women or the king having, you know, his his selection of women. It's always pretty much been the best men at the top get the women and then for five or 7 hundred years the average guy had it really good and now because we are not holding women to any type of religious standard or societal standards they've gone crazy again and they're all going to want to be with the top guy and that's what they're going to do and that's just the way it is. We've just reverted back to the way it's been throughout all of history except for maybe a small segment of time.
So it's not the end of the world. We're here because somewhere in our past was a great alpha dude that had a lot of women. Uh maybe it doesn't happen for us, but it'll continue on for other people. Just find a way to uh navigate through this new world and I think you'll be all right.
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