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He looks like he just got busted for drinking underage, and he’s waiting for his dad to come home and lay down the law. Okay, but let’s take a look at what happened two hours earlier. This is what it looks like when you have very high status. Look at this—everybody is looking at Trump. Have you ever seen that, like at a party or something, when someone who is maybe throwing the party or is just the boss of the party shows up? It’s such a weird draw that everyone feels like they have to kind of keep their eye on that person. You know what I mean? Thirty seconds pass, and everyone just kind of wants to check in and see what that person is doing. It’s actually a deep subject called "social pinging," but I want to break down what Trump is doing here. I mean, look at him. He looks like he’s falling asleep when everyone else is looking at him. He can barely keep his eyes open. He looks like he’s taking a Joe Biden nap at this point, but he doesn’t care, right? He’s truly comfortable in the environment.
One of the things that happens when you are that high status is it makes people nervous. People act in ways they normally wouldn’t. They fidget. Let’s look at this with Prince William. Prince William looks like he just got busted for drinking underage, and he’s waiting for his dad to come home and lay down the law. Look at him here, waiting for Trump to come in. "Oh no, oh, there he is! Is that him? Oh no!" Trump comes in, and now look. Look at how fidgety Prince William is after this introduction—clapping his hands, rubbing his hands together. And you know, Prince William has met a ton of celebrities in his life, but this just shows how much status Trump has on the world stage. It’s quite incredible.
Now, I want to see how this continues to manifest with Prince William. Who looks comfortable, and who looks like they’re trying to look comfortable? You tell me. Prince William keeps repositioning himself. He’s standing up, checking his hands. "Are these hands okay? Is my posture okay?" Trump looks like he doesn’t really want to be there, but you can just tell he’s completely at ease, and Prince William is not. He just looks more stiff. I understand they’re taking pictures and things like that, but you can tell from the stiffness in his face. It’s very hard for someone who’s nervous, but it typically shows itself first in the shoulders. People’s shoulders kind of creep up, and it shows they’re nervous. You can see this in Prince William’s face. That’s just what happens when you have that level of status. You can tell in the way Trump walks, in his body language, in all these different things.
So, what leads to high status? Well, a lot of people think it’s something you’re born with or that you have to come from a wealthy family. Not true at all. There are three simple things, and the reason it’s important to understand this is because having high status is a cheat code for everything in life. If you have low status, you can be the most knowledgeable person on a subject, and people will see you as cut-rate. You can have basically average or slightly better knowledge on a subject, and if you have status, they’ll think you’re the best in the world. It’s so important, and most people don’t understand it. Here’s how you get it: three simple things—number one, how you sound; number two, how you look; number three, what you say. In the middle is the energy you project. Most people think what you say is the most important thing. It’s by far the least important thing. I would much rather sound good and speak with a strong, convincing vocal tonality than say the perfect thing in a weak tonality. I’ve got a million examples of that.
How you look also includes your body language, your eye contact, your social pinging. It’s a lot more than just how you’re dressed. A lot of different things go into that. I have a program called "Social Invincibility" that dives deep into that if you want to learn more. Energy is a little harder to articulate, but it’s basically whether you’re giving off energy or taking energy when you interact with someone. Typically, someone who wants something from you gives off taking energy. Even if they don’t want money, time, or a reference, you can still feel that victim-like, leeching energy. On the other hand, someone who has abundant energy doesn’t want anything from you. They have so much energy it brings people up. If you come with high energy and you’re feeling good—and it doesn’t have to be hyper—it just has to be good energy. You can pull people up. Someone in a bad mood can be lifted by your good mood and good energy. That’s why people sometimes say, "Man, I don’t know. I just felt good around them." It’s typically not what they say or do; it’s the energy they convey.
I started the Charisma Matrix about 13 years ago, and I’ll admit the name is a bit cheesy. I’m in the process of rebranding it to "The Status Lab." I like that name because "lab" suggests experimentation and learning. If you want to check out the new website, you can visit "thestatuslab.com" or "charismamatrix.com" to learn more. Talk to you soon!