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Miryung. Headlines about people marrying got you angry. That's when I really wanted to get married. During that period, anytime I heard someone was getting married, I'd think, "Everyone else is doing it. Why can't I?"
That's when a close younger friend had her wedding. And I think I got annoyed with Jaewook then. Ryu Dam contacted me one day. He said Jaewook told him that I've become psychotic ever since my younger friend got married. (She found out) I didn't even do anything. What did she do to be called psychotic? Ryu Dam laughed as he said that. So you're sensitive about that. I used to be sensitive. For real. I really wanted to get married so I was sensitive.
Did you get angry when Jaewook got married? I had heard that he was dating someone. But he announced the wedding so soon. I was very surprised. My close friends seemed more surprised than anyone about my wedding. I didn't tell the people I was closest to.
If you want to succeed in getting married, you have to hide it from your close friends. Why? That's a strange theory.
- It's strange, right?
- Yes. You should hide it from your closest friends?
Yes, because they won't say nice things. You should focus more on spending time with your spouse for the wedding. No need to go around introducing the person to every single person you know. It's all meaningless. It's more important to make your relationship stronger. That is important. All you hear are opinions and rumors from others. And that could cause misunderstandings.
I have yet to meet his wife. I only saw her at his wedding. Then you've seen her enough. No need to meet again. He never brings her out to meet us.
Jaewook and Wonjun. You were old bachelors for a long time. What made you feel like you were destined to be with your current spouses? For me, it was love at first sight. The first day? "What is this feeling I'm getting from this person?" I felt like I couldn't lose her.
How did it feel that day? Where'd you first meet? We said hello in the musical rehearsal room. She had been abroad so she joined the cast late. The director introduced us to each other. "I heard much about you. Nice to meet you." I said. And she laughed at what I said. I guess I was really funny that day. You were? She'd cover and hide her face to laugh. She was shy. But I found that to be so pretty. She laughed a lot at what you said. I was the only funny one that day. Objectively, only you were funny. On days when I feel I'm really funny, I don't like it when someone else is funnier. He's ambitious. That could happen. She actually hid under the desk to laugh? It's not so much that I was funny. Her face looked so pretty when she laughed. She could've hid her face under the desk not just to laugh but to take a break. She was tired of laughing. Or she dropped something. Or to pick something out of her teeth. (Maybe she did this...) If it was for a break, she shouldn't have come up. So as time passed, I felt like maybe that's what marriage felt like and that I shouldn't lose this person. Even if we didn't get along, I felt like I couldn't stand the sight of her...
- Being with someone else.
- You felt that. You didn't want to lose her. So I pursued her at full speed.
I heard you desperately pleaded her. I was desperate and I knew she'd be flustered. I told her I knew this wasn't easy news to swallow and that I understood that. I could totally relate to her being flustered, but I told her to remember that I like her. You pleaded your case. I really did.
What did she say? She didn't give me a straight answer at first. So I told her the next day. "You might be flustered again today, but my love for you only grows." "Just keep that in mind." What did she say? No answer again. So I told her again the next day. "Can't answer?" "I know you're flustered, but my love for you only grows." I said that to her for about a week. Like trying to sell her insurance. You really exhausted her. I said it with 100 times more conviction though. This is touching because it all worked out. Let's say it didn't work out. It could sound scary.
I felt like she couldn't answer. It's not like she could say, "I'll date you" or "I accept your proposal." I was wearing this necklace. I wanted to put it on her. I said if you let me put it on you, can I take it that we can be together? I was holding it up for like 30 minutes. You didn't put it on her right away? He's miming it now. She'd be freaked out if I looked into her eyes, so... (Looks away) You looked away. This is a very tense moment. So devoted. And she was deliberating the entire time. She said she'd accept it, so I hung it on her. Then there were tears.
- Who cried?
- I cried too.
- You cried together?
- Tears of emotion. It's like a movie.
You've worked with so many other actresses though. I heard you had very high standards. (Healthy beauty Kim Hyesoo in 1997) (The icon of innocence Choi Jiwoo in 1998) (Doll-like Kim Heesun in 1999) I'm sure you have high standards. What attracted you so much to your wife? I fell for her at first sight because of her total vibe. It's not like a certain part of her really caught my eye. That's not how you fall for someone. Her essence made you feel something. I was asking for a part of her. What about her... Her entire vibe was lovely and comfortable. I felt like I wanted to make this person happy for her entire life.
But for couples... Some people are destined. I saw Jaewook and his wife at the wedding. They looked so good together. And they seemed so... It'd be strange if we didn't look good together then. I was going to say that too. Most couples look good together at weddings. They seemed to look even better together? They just had this great vibe about them. And they showed a clip of Jaewook proposing. It was so touching. She cried and so did he. I was choked up and about to cry. But it would look strange for a female to cry at a male colleague's wedding. If you cry too much, people might misunderstand. Like there's a story. But it was so touching. It was so touching that he was getting married too. I kept choking up. Girls usually cry at their friends' weddings. It would've been trouble crying at a guy's wedding.
So you dated secretly. You had a kissing scene every time you performed. I imagine you really put your feelings into it. True method acting. It's actually uncomfortable for acting. In case people would misunderstand. That's why I kept the relationship a secret. In case they'd see us with prejudice. Let's say back then, you saw your wife do a kissing scene with a different actor. Wouldn't that make you uncomfortable? I didn't let her. Tim and I were cast in the same role. (Singer Tim) I had to speak to him in private a few times. (Keep it in moderation) It's hard to stay composed. How is that dating secretly? He wouldn't let her do kissing scenes. So what did you say? "You have many other scenes to practice. Don't get so hung up on practicing that scene." "There's the country's independence..." I suggested she practice other scenes.
Wonjun also loves his wife very much. When did you get decided to get married? I don't speak much with my mom. I'm a son... And she doesn't really laugh at what I say. One day I took my wife home to introduce her, and she really hit it off with my mom. I never knew my mom could laugh like that. They got along so well. I figured I could put everything on the line for this girl that could make my mom so happy. You yourself could never seem to get her to laugh. She gets angry. Whenever I'm on a TV show, she tells me to just keep my mouth shut. She's very on point. I've never really laughed because of Wonjun either. (The nail in the coffin) That was the first time. I can relate to your mom. I've been looking at Jaewook. Sometimes he looks really displeased with Wonjun. No, I really like him. Jaewook and my mom are the same. They both tell me not to say anything on TV. She says I should just sit still and listen. (Just listen on a talk show?) On a talk show? She said I should take in any wise words they say. It's not listening to a radio show.
You married an attorney 14 years younger than you. I imagine her parents were against it at first. 14 years is a big age gap. My wife has a ton of work.
- For real.
- As a district attorney. She's always tired and exhausted. She never smiled. But she kept smiling to herself at home one day.
- They got worried.
- Her parents. "Why is she smiling by herself?" That's when she was dating me. He couldn't stand the idea of breaking up with her, which is why he decided to marry her. He hated being apart from her at night. This is what married people say. For me... It was like that for you too, Jaewook. I'd take her home and she'd say she'd get off at the transfer stop. But I ended up accompanying her to her house. It was so much fun talking together on the subway.
- You took the subway?
- Yes. She'd get off at D-Cube and I'd go back home as she went up to her house. Sindorim is Korea's best transfer station. (Publicity!) (He ended up blurting that out...) I'm sorry. At least there's no traffic. I'm sure that product placement was surprising. Product placement for Sindorim Station.
You both have daughters. How old are they? Mine is 17 months. I bet she's adorable. Mine is 5 months. We have some photos. How cute. It's Suhyeon. So pretty. She must be the apple of your eye. That tone she uses to say, "Daddy." That just makes me melt. I'm waiting for that too. These days she wakes me up in the morning and gives me my glasses. She knows that's how I start my day. She tries to put my glasses on my face. They poke me everywhere so I have to wake up. It's a bit unfortunate when I have to leave because she's so adorable.
Do you go out often? I'll be starting my musical "Arirang" soon. It's based on the original book by Jo Jeongrae and it's been reimagined. I play the head of a militia. When does it start? July 25.
Do you help out at home a lot? Like the dishes?
- Me?
- Yes. I think most people that work don't know how to do things around the house before marriage. They don't know how to cook or make stews... They've never even had to make instant noodles. I've lived alone for 20 years. I'd cook for myself. I cooked most of my meals. So I taught her everything when we first got married. Now she's a master. She's my very own Janggeum.
Let's look at Wonjun's daughter. So cute. She's a baby. She's an infant. Look at those arms. How cute. Like loaves of bread. Or sausage links. Do you have any tips for newbie dads? Babies cry for a reason. You can't get annoyed or angry about that. Is the baby hungry or tired? Can you explain how they cry differently? How do they cry when they're hungry? I should know these things. How is her crying different?
- The difference in crying.
- Really? Show us how the crying is different. Is there a difference?
- Sure.
- Really? How? Do it. (He asked because he doesn't know) He was trying to ask you for help... "You do it." You know for sure, right?
- When they're hungry...
- Sure. They sound hungry when they're hungry. How? (You still don't know?) When they're hungry. (That's true) When they're tired... Babies just need to close their eyes, but they keep trying not to fall asleep. That's why it's tough for the moms. "Just close your eyes, Suhyeon." But she keeps trying not to fall asleep. You really know. More of that fussy crying. Being annoyed. (He's good at this) That's what you should've done. That's what I wanted to say. (He's a master at parenting) I'm still a newbie.
You've all been good friends for 20 years. I hope you all stay close friends. It was so nice to see them after a long time. I hope you get married and I hope you raise your baby well. To encourage your friendship, you get a pork set. A Korean pork set! This isn't some game show. Why do we get these? We've never got this reaction for giving a gift. I'll enjoy this. Thank you.