MML: Black Fatherhood | How Black Conservatives Created White Audiences Off Lies

Ignore the way I feel about you. I just want you to be mine. All alone, waiting for your hand to touch you. I hope you give this love a try. Can't you see just how I feel?

You know this love is real. It's I can't deny the way I feel inside. I keep wondering if you're hurrying. Yeah. I smile for you to turn me on. I just wish that you were in my life. To see just how I get to see the power in your heart. It's for you. Don't you know what is for you? It's for you. Can't you see just how? Can't you say it's love for real, baby? You'll be my dream of us together, but my vision takes a step whenever you're in need. It's I offer so in my heart and it's getting up when the storm. I'm hunting up in my Ebony Queen while I'm your knight and offer. If I could tell you how I feel, here's a kiss. This love for real.

See just how I feel is for you. This love for real. This love is real for you. How I feel, this love is real. It's love for real. Don't you know this how I feel? Can't you see? Can't you see? I feel for you. I love you, baby. I want you, baby. This love for real.

Don't hold me. Don't nobody stand the way you do. Nobody don't hold me. Don't nobody kiss me the way you do. Nobody. Not a day goes by that I don't burn for you. Find myself yearning for the heaven that you bring me from your black hand. Touch me. Touch me. Want to feel you inside me.

All I want is. All I want is you love me. Hey, hey, hey. Oh, days in the sun in in the right. Yeah, the song is over. Simple play. Yeah, I had me some fun. It helps with the pain. Girl, I already told you I don't feel the same. I don't feel the same. Anywhere I go, I can help but show I don't feel the same anywhere I go. I can show but I won't be all right. Oh, I'm not asking. I want satisfied. I'm not asking for the riches and the fame. I'm not asking for the whole world to know my name. I tell myself I live in order to keep me before the demons and tell me that my life's in vain. I'm not asking. I want peace inside satisfied.

Look, I'm not asking for the riches and the fame. I'm not asking for the whole world to know my name. I tell myself it's not the pale moon that excites me, that thrills me. It's trust the nearness of you. It isn't your sweet conversation. Oh, now it's just the nearness of you. Do you? My heart. Heat. Heat. N. Heat. Heat. N. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. I got a shame. I'm running off again. I can't feel nothing. It's my fault. I should have been better. What I do again? I swear. I swear if I fall, you can call it the end of me. If I fall down, you can call it goodbye. It's hard to fit in when no one knows magic. I stay up my hours, but I'm still getting a castle. I just play it cool. I like to keep it casual. Grandma calls me handsome, so I know that that's true. It's hard to stay humble when they put you at the front of it all. You got to learn to hold your tongue. That's why I always mumble when I talk. It's not my fault. I look good when I do what I do. Just want to stimulate your mind.

What up though? Welcome back to another Media Man live on this Good Friday, man. I know it's been a while. Your boy is back. Had to check in to do this uh live stream so we could discuss black fatherhood. Uh I I noticed that I haven't discussed Thomas Hole uh before, but there was a video that was sent to me that sparked this conversation. So, I decided to take it upon myself to, you know, to present the information that I always do, but actually go a little bit more in depth to see what people get wrong, who champions this stuff, and why the social media narrative is completely false about black fathers. You know, this is where I tend to thrive. So, hopefully I'll be able to educate you guys on the history of it and uh how we got to this point. So, we're going to take a look at three polarizing figures that a lot of black conservatives like to share. A lot of white conservatives and white people in general like to champion the black conservatives to push this message when they're ill-informed of the actual situation on black fatherhood. So, I'm going to break that down as best possible. Before that, we got a couple videos that we're going to address um that came across my feed on YouTube while I was away. So, we'll definitely get into it. But, man, it's good to be back, man. It's been busy. A lot going on um especially with work. Uh you guys see that we have a a ha virus a hans virus uh outbreak. So being that I work in global health uh we have been very busy. So it's very tough uh to get back and do uh original content as you know I guess that's how you put it because I had to put out some of the the replays of the videos and you guys tend to enjoy those. So I like doing that. that I like reaching back into the archives and getting some of the videos that I already did and then reposting them because there's a lot of people that are new here that haven't seen them. So, when they get a a glimpse of it, they're like, "Damn, man. I kind of understand the the I guess the the way that this channel is moving and and a lot of people tend to like it. So, yeah, it's been a lot of videos that I did. I was laughing at some of them because some of the clips that I put in there, I forgot I put in at pause for the young folks. And uh I was dying laughing over here, man, at some of the archive content. But I'm glad you guys are enjoying it and I'm gonna keep doing it as much as possible. Try and put out one at uh either 9:00 am or 12 pm uh every day. I think that's a good practice. Um so yeah, I think that think you guys enjoy it. So yeah, man. Uh what's been going on? I know it's a lot been going on in um you know, social media, YouTube. My goodness, the whole threads feed is about Dr. Bryant. I mean, Lord have mercy, that woman. But yeah, we gonna touch on that a little bit in uh why I love black women from this uh this interview that well, Miss Bryant uh Cheyenne Bryant had with this educated black woman on uh was it Fox News 5 on DC? But yeah. Yeah, we gonna take a look at that, man. But I love black women, man. It's I was dying laughing at the interview. But good to see y'all here. Thank you, Olawa. Um, thank you Pman for putting all the links in the description. Greatly appreciate it. Let me see here. Is uh the picture good? Sound good? Let me know. Uh moderators, good to see y'all here. Hope all is well. Blessings. Blessings to you and yours. Let me see here. I think we got super chat. Okay. Uh we got Dante Bryant. What up though with the $5 bomb? You said, "Brother Doublem, I saw went I saw bro went on Jeff St. James instead. He didn't want no smoke with you talking about reporting for duty like a boy scout." Oh, I know you talk about it. Shout out to uh Jeff St. James. Uh greatly appreciate what that brother is doing in these spaces. But yeah, man. Um honestly, everything, you know, Dante Bryant, everything was said in my video and like I told you guys, that's one of the main reasons why people don't share this type of content because it kind of level sets the conversation. And you guys have witnessed in real time that a lot of people don't know black men. You know, they may know the narratives and the stereotypes and that's what they tend to speak to, but they seem like they taking a liking to, I guess, know black women more than they know black men. And sometimes we take our messaging, our the loudest people in the black community, they will speak for black men without fully understanding what we're actually doing out here. And that's unfortunate and we're going to discuss that uh here in the breakdown. But I'm I hope I'm I hope that my subscribers can understand what I'm talking about here and the ramifications that come with not knowing black men fully in regards to the statistics. Okay? Because that has it has a trickle down effect in the black community because the more people, you know, place black women up here based on false statistics, then black women are consistently looking down at black men. They're saying, "Yeah, because everybody is telling us that the most we're the most educated. Everybody is telling us that we make more money than black men." Right? So, I've always said, I honestly don't blame the black women who hate black men why they feel that way. Because if you were told over decades upon decades that your men were trash, that your men were in jail, they're broke, they're they're gay, it's no suitable man out there. How else would you see that group of men? And that messaging comes from those that are in the in the positions to have the loudest voice because they have the loudest followers. They may be celebrities. And you know how the black community likes to hang on the words of celebrities. You know, that's why that Dave Chappelle joke always hits homes where he said, "But who the, you know, who the f uh care what Ja Rule think or whatever, you know, but the black community likes to put those type of people on the pedestal, but they don't have any formal training in what they're discussing." Even Tyler Perry, Tyler Perry is a billionaire, but do you think he has time to go into the weeds and look at this the statistics? Instead, he pushes the narrative. He says, "Well, black women are making the majority of money." because he's consistently around black women. So, he's like, "Yeah, if I got all these high earning black women here, I don't see that many black men." Then, of course, black women are making uh, you know, the bulk of the money. Because he didn't look at the statistics, but as an educated man, you have to make sure that you do the research if you speak so matter of fact matter-of-factly about black men because that messaging is toxic. It's toxic as hell. and the the women who already have a level of disdain for black men, they are not open to discussion, consideration, anything. So that's why I always talk about the rule of 10. You know, you got to let those people go. But the more that we have people pushing these false narratives about black men, that pe that number of women in particular and black men, as you guys have seen, uh, it's going to get larger. So, it's going to get to a point where black men are going to start alienating themselves or the black men over here are going to start separating themselves from the collective and that won't be good for anybody because these black men understand it, they're going to continue to thrive. And if you take that away from the black community, then it's going to be a real problem. And I've been cataloging this for a while. I've been telling everybody about the marriage rates, you know, I've been telling everybody about black men increasing their earnings. I've discussed this over the past three years. I've shown black women pictures and statistics and references and reports about the, you know, the state of black economics. I just posted a video trying to help black women understand. Stop listening to the propaganda saying that you guys are doing so well when the statistics show that you guys are doing worse. You're in a worse position than you were a couple of years ago. And nobody talks about this. And that's why I said it's very important for me to do this type of content. So at least not necessarily to say I told you so, but to understand that I have been cataloging this and I've been trying to help the black community understand where we need the most help first. And that's why we're going to talk about black fatherhood and motherhood and all those types of things. And if you guys haven't checked it out, I did create a substack. I put out the state of black women. So that is just a statistical rundown along with solutions on where black women actually stand. That is my contribution to the black community, you know, so black women can go there, look at the actual report statistics, you can reference it for yourself. This is something that I've been doing for a while. And like I said, I don't there has never been, I guess, a either a social media personality, a educated individual in the black community that has actually looked at the statistics for black women, black women. Black men have been picked apart. Pause. You know what I'm saying? We, you know, we get think pieces on black men, uh, damn near every day. It was a woman that put out the state of black men or dating black men or something like that. And it and of course it was based off of you know false narratives and statistics and based off of a position of a woman who hasn't found the men for her. So when you have those type of think pieces without taking your biases away everything gets you know twisted. But if you look on Substack and you actually read my report you will see that I am very fair because I would not get up there and just show black women where they lack without giving you solutions you know along with it. Okay? And that comes from the fact that I do still care. You know, it's it's tough. Not gonna lie. It is tough, you know, to look outside of my circle of black women that I love and adore and I take care of, but as a collective, I still care, but it's just very tough, you know, with the the amount of stuff that's going on, you know. So, yeah. So, I'm still trying, man. So, is what it is. I know that was a little long, but I've been going for a while, so y'all understand. Uh Jay Bernard, what up though? Remember for 17 months, man. Thank you for the support all this time, man. Just made honor roll and catching the live win, man. Um damn, that that actually reminded me. I was supposed to get a uh take a screenshot of my guy Jay Freeman. I don't know if you guys remember Jay Freeman. Um we used to go live when I first created this channel. I used to have a young young man up here that uh I met through Facebook when I used to post videos on Facebook. And uh you know, I seen so much potential in this young man and he decided to join the army. You guys have heard me mention him before. He's an infantryman. Um he's married now. Um and also he is a couple credits away from getting his master's degree from the University of Georgia. I'm so proud of this young man. He sent me a picture of it because when he was applying to the University of Georgia, you know who he called to write a reference letter for him? Me. That's who. Okay. So, I do that as well. I've written so many reference letters to get black people in better positions while I was in the military, outside of the military. Um, so I'm always open to supporting the ventures of black people in general. So, just to see Jay evolve into an upstanding black man, a gentleman, married in the military, doing well, and about to get his master's degree. Man, I couldn't be more prouder. So, I'm definitely going to send this to him because I I forgot to respond to him, but I did not forget. I told myself to make it a point to mention that while I'm here. I'm very proud of you, brother. Keep doing what you're doing. You and your brother, his brother decided to join the military. It's a beautiful thing. And these are the types of stories that, you know, I wish to share more of. You know, I remember I used to do that. I need to get back to sharing the contributions of black men and also black women on my platform. But Jay, I'm very proud of you, man. Um, I wish you nothing but success. Anything that I can do to help, I'm definitely here. You know it. You know, you have my direct contact. I try and uh respond as much as possible. But yeah, man. Whenever you need to reach out, you need something, I got you. Okay. So, yeah, Jay Jay Freeman, man. That dude, he's amazing. So, let's see here. All right, cool, cool, cool. It's still buffering. I'm buffering. We It's not good. What's going on? Uh Olua and Pman, am I good? Oh, wait. It's okay on my Okay, cool. We good. Thank you all. Appreciate it. All right. Cool. Cool. Cool. Got to see that. All right. So, we in there. So, before we get into this breakdown, um your girl Ebony K. Williams came across my YouTube timeline. And of course, she's giving updates on her situation. As you if you guys don't know, she is uh Ebony K. She runs a uh I think a TV show called uh Divorce Court or something like that. Holding court, that may be her podcast name, but she is um you know, an attorney. I think she's retired or something like that, but she's a political pundit. She's been on I think Fox News before, been on a couple reality shows. You guys are very familiar uh of Ebony K. Williams for her comments about the bus driver. You might you guys remember that conversation with Yan Lea Vanzant. So yeah, so she is back on the podcast scene. Just popped up on my YouTube mainly probably because I've already covered the her before, but she went on to a podcast called Off the Record, AWF the Record, and I recognized one of the women that was interviewing her. She is a she's a the spouse of a funny newsman. And she's a funny news woman. She's a black woman or Dominican woman that uh she shows people how she changes her voice from newscaster to you know her regular voice at home and she used to talk to her husband in her news voice and it used to be so hilarious. So I did not know that she had her own podcast or they had their own podcast but they had Ebony Kay Williams on as a guest and some of her talking points sound very familiar to a you know a man that was in these spaces. Rest in peace to Kevin Samuels. Um, and it made me her conversation on this podcast. It made me create a readout for how how many high earning black women there are in the black community. And I'm going to, you know, and I'll explain to you why. Okay. So, let's get to it. Oh, hold on. Uh, let's see here. Edwards Reek, member for 18 months. Thank you, brother. Man, a year and a half. Salute media man in chat. looking forward to this. No, absolutely, man. We gonna definitely dive into it, but let's have a little fun. Uh, not Well, I think this is informative for the women who may be considering a lifestyle like Ebony Kay Williams. So, she always does a great job of explaining herself and her situation and how she's comfortable with it. And that was one of the main reasons why I wanted to review this quick clip and then I'll you guys can go over there and watch the full interview because it was very informative especially for black women who don't want the traditional household. I will say that much. Okay, so let's get to it. Fair use. Fair use historically and still today.

Hold on. Let's go back. Men primarily historically and still today are assessed and valued around their economic ability. That is has been the case and is still the case. And where what are ladies what are women assessed by? Because it's certainly not our hearts, our physical features. It is our aesthetic, our beauty, and our youth.

Now, who does that sound like damn near verbatim? It sounds like Kevin Samuels. It's the same information that he was giving women on his platform. And let me just say this, all three of these black women are gorgeous. They're I mean in shape, they look amazing. So, whenever you get a chance to compliment a black woman, I guess, you know, I'm going be the first one to do it. Yeah, they look amazing. So, and shout out to them. And they said that very quickly, our youth and our beauty. So, even women who fit that criteria, such as these ladies here, they understand it. But there's a disconnect in the black community when you say messages like this. So I think Ebony K. Williams is necessary for these spaces. And I think more black women should listen to her message because it's coming from a place where you could be in the future if you decide to go the route of freezing your eggs and not, you know, I guess conform to traditional standards of a household. And I'm not saying I agree with it. I absolutely don't. I would love to see more black people get married. However, if you wanted any information on how to do this the right way, I guess you would go to Ebony K. Williams, if that makes sense. Okay, so let's get to it.

Let's name that. Let's name that piece because one of the main um push back that I got, you know, in the wake of Bus Driver Gate being a woman in my early 40s is well, especially how dare you you old [ __ ] you know. That was funny. How dare you you old [ __ ] man. They be cooking in them comments, man. I I hate it. I don't condone that. But that was funny, man. Seriously. Seriously. Uh because you definitely don't get no say because you've hit the wall. You No. Anyway.

All right. So, I want to stop there because she said you've hit the wall. If you guys remember. And since I have a Substack, I'm going to post it there as well. I actually did a think piece about how women create their own wall. And a lot of people was like, "Man, you know what? That's absolutely true." So, Ebony K. Williams is saying that the comments are always telling her that she hit the wall. And typically we say that after a woman, I guess, is 35, you know, uh, you know, her, you know, youth and beauty, her ability to have children decreases. We all know the talking points. I don't like people saying, you know, are, you know, dying alone and foolery like that. But I will say this, when I say that women create their own wall, it's because of their own standards that they place on their dating market. Okay. So, when she did the interview with Anya Vanzant and and Anala asked her, "Would you date the bus driver?" Ebony K. Williams didn't understand why um Anala asked her that. But the reason why she asked her is because she wanted to know how many men you were on going to leave or remove from your dating pool. So, put it like this. Ebony K. Williams, I'm pretty sure she's a multi-millionaire, right? This is fair. She got a lot going on. Okay. So, most women who make that amount of money, they want a man to make at or above their income level. And I think she said on multiple platforms that she would love for a man to pay all of her bills, even though she's a millionaire. Yeah, you can say make it make sense. It is what it is. Her preferences, the market will decide. But when you remove the quote unquote bus drivers from your dating pool, then that means you shrink your dating pool. That's what I mean by women creating their own wall. Because if you allowed those men who may make, you know, a little bit less than you, if they were in your dating pool, you would have a better shot at finding what you want. However, this is where Ebony Kay is a little bit different. She sees marriage as, you know, as men defined it. Men are in love, women are in business. So, she sees it as a business proposition. So money is up here. And also in this interview, she said that she couldn't do 50/50. So that tells you right there her dating pool is small, i.e. building her own wall. Women wouldn't have a wall if they just dated accordingly to their age and where they stand. Okay? But the problem is every woman on social media thinks they're a 10. And most people can't tell them otherwise. That's why I said it's important for black women to listen to her because she will tell you the truth, but she's also a spitting image image of where you could be if you decide to go down this road. Okay? And you get to determine while you're young, is this something that is attractive to you? Do you want a life like Ebony K. Williams? Because it's going to take a lot of work. This is an educated woman. She has a lot of money. So, her freezing her eggs, having a child, right? She had a little daughter about to be two years old. She had that child. She has the means to take care of it. And she was very matter of fact saying that she did pre-planning. She made sure that she had everything in place in regards, you know, to financially to take care of this child. Okay? So, if you are a black woman that is looking to mimic what Ebony Kay is doing, then you may you might want to start listening to her. And this is not me telling her you need to change. Absolutely not. I want you guys to watch this interview. She is very matter of fact. She says that she's controlling. It's going to take a lot for a man to settle down with her. She understands exactly where she ranks. And you know what? She's perfectly fine with that. So again, if you are a black woman who thinks this is something that you want to do and you don't want to get married young and you want to wait and you know, I guess, you know, pursue your career, she is the woman that you would probably want to listen to because she going to tell you all the you know, the pros, the cons, it is what it is. She mentioned that she lost friends in this uh and you know, in this I guess journey of becoming a single mother by choice because they were like, "Man, I think you could find what you want." the traditional way, but she don't want tradition. And a lot of black women don't want traditional. But again, freezing eggs, it takes a lot of money to do that. You don't just pay one fee to keep your eggs, you know, you know, encompass in some freezer. No, you have to pay, you know, I think monthly or something like that. I covered it a while ago, but yeah, so you have to be a very uh, you know, well-off, affluent uh, woman to do that. So, it's not as easy. So, if this is something that you want to do, I don't recommend it. But if you don't want to change or conform to what men are asking, this may be an option for you. Okay, let's continue.

But that was the retort. So, so let's just like call a thing a thing. Men, and I understand a lot of men feel away about the fact that they are primarily on a romantic dating place. I'm not saying exclusively. I'm saying primarily assessed around what they can bring from an economic vantage point. No. And she's saying that men have a problem with that. No, most men, the majority of men don't. They just simply understand it, you know. And I was asking a young man in the comment section. He was like, "Man, as soon as I get my money up, then I'm going put myself back in the dating market." And I asked him a question. I was like, "So, are you planning to give your money to the women once you make your more money?" And then he introduced the overseas thing. I'm gonna go overseas. And I asked him again, "Do you still plan on giving women your money once you make more of it?" And I don't think he responded yet. I'll check. But I'm always curious when men say that because if you don't want to build young when you, you know, with a woman and you're saying, "I'm going to make money and then find a woman," you're going to end up paying on the back end regardless because now you really don't know why that woman is there. Okay? So, she is saying that men have a problem with that. No, men understand it. But where the issue is is that women don't understand that beauty has currency. So you don't want to quote unquote waste your pretty while you're young and then try and make it up when you get older when kids are involved in things like that because she's in a very, you know, precarious situation because she has a child now. Okay. So that puts her in a different position and and everybody understands Ebony Kay is, you know, is an attractive woman. She's 40 years old. This is an attractive 40-year-old woman. She's be she's pretty for her age. That's e that's simple, right? So she if you were to rank her on the 21 to 30 scale that I created, she would rank in that 21 to 30. But she has another barrier for a man to consider. She has a child now. So that may be tough as well. And also she wants a man to make a million dollar, you know, millions or more. And also she wants him to pay all the bills. And also she's controlling. It's so much. But she I think what's what what's uh interesting about this interview is she is so sure of herself. She's matter of fact and she's like, "Hey, this is me. This is who I am. You could take it or leave it." So, I like the fact that women do that. And I also like when men do that when they say, "Hey, I'm not ready for marriage." You could take it or leave it. You know what I'm saying? So, yeah. It's very refreshing. So, hey, thank you pretty boy for the five media man memberships. Good to see you back here, man. I know it's been a while, but you always support your boy, man. Thank you. I greatly appreciate it. Good to see you here, man. Good to see some some old faithfuls, man. If you got one of those memberships, please make sure you drop a thanks to uh Pretty Boy and uh make sure you maintain it on the behalf of Pretty Boy. Thank you, brother. Blessings to you. Let's see.

All right, so let's get back to it. But then they get to call it love because what's this thing I keep hearing? Um, men women men are in love, women are in business. They say women are in business because they're constantly assessing for the economics as I just outlined and conceded and acknowledged. Um, and is not new, by the way. Um, but men are in love, but that's really just semantics because what you're calling love is beauty and youth and maybe even fertility. And that that's why I say if an NFL player, a man of a lot of means, an athlete, the you know what society sees as coveted >> is with a woman who's not conventionally attractive, people are like, "What's wrong? Something is misaligned." >> We we hardly ever see it if we're to be honest about it. And if we do see it, frankly, um there's some other currency at play. If I can just go ahead and do what I do, which is r the people up. Oftentimes when we see uh professional athletes, particularly black ones, with people that are not at the utmost standard of conventional beauty, they are what? White. They're white. And it's okay because I'm going to

Okay, she said that's a currency at the end. So that at the end of this clip, that's another example of black people not knowing black men because she is under the impression that all of these black athletes have white wives. And she took a little dig there. She said typically when they if they do get these women that are unconventionally attractive, they tend to be white. But I remember I did a video a while back where there was a young man who was friends with a student athlete and he said his friend was on his way to the NFL and he was like, "Man," he was dating this girl, this white girl, and she he was like, "Man, she would have his food ready. She would help him with his homework. She would get his clothes ready. She would just take care of certain things that needed to be taken care of while he was pursuing his dream of becoming an NFL NFL player. And at the end, it ended up working out because they got married. But he also said in college, black women take a different approach. This is not all, just some. And I know it's not all because I'm going to show you guys statistics here in a second. But he said that the black women were like, "Nah, I'm not going to do all that. I'm not cooking for no man. I'm not going to fold with his clothes. I'm not going to help him with his school work. It is what it is." That's their prerogative. But the way that these women are securing these black athletes in the minority is because they listen and they look to see where they can add value outside of the bedroom. Now, I did see the little uh think piece about how white women are taught to get black athletes, and I was reading some of the points, and I was like, damn, man, it's a lot of stuff in there that I think black women could adopt. If that's if that's the case, if there's a blueprint out there on how to be more useful to these athletes, y'all may as well take some notes because some of it was pretty simple, you know? was most of it was essentially, hey, just be a feminine woman and help where he needs help. You know, take up slack where he needs help, you know, be a freak in the bed and keep yourself up. Why wouldn't you want to do that to somebody that has an upward trajectory at a young age? And that's how I took it. But I'm going to address their point where they said like, "Yeah, typically it's a a white woman." But again, that's where it's a lot of people that don't know black men. And we're going to discuss it here. I'mma show you guys something real quick.

All right. So, to their point in regards to uh successful black men, they still marry black women. And you guys have seen me share this type of information before. So, from the income-based research from the BLS report from 2021 2022, uh, black men earning $100,000 or more, 83% of married black men earning that amount have black wives. Okay? So, who would be in that pool? The athletes. Fair. So, only 17% are married to non-black women. But what happens is that's that's who black women laser focus on. They'll see that one black athlete or they'll see Theres Hallebertton going to a restaurant with a bevy of uh bunnies, right? And they'll be like, "Oh, see black men, but I believe Ty Tyrese Hallebertton's mom is white and his dad is black." I mean, so what you gonna do? Okay. And I've never heard that man speak bad about black women. He ain't say nothing about that. I think Cameron actually asked him that question. So yeah, shout out to him. But yeah, but most of these black men that they point to and say, "Yeah, you know, they always dating these white women or marrying these white women." It's not it's not true, but it's just what y'all focus on because those tend to be the pictures that are shared. You guys will see it and like, "Oh man, look another one." But the overwhelming majority of sports players are married to black women. If you go on TikTok, you can type in um what is it called? They have a term for like wives and girlfriends or something like that. and I forgot it. But you'll see a bunch, hundreds, thousands of black women married to black athletes, professional athletes, but they don't go viral because it's not controversial enough. So that's why I'm level setting the conversation. And I think our educated portion of the black community needs to be aware of this stuff. You need to know black men before you go on these platforms and say that all these black athletes are marrying white women. It's not true. Okay? And then this may help education-based research uh college-educated black men. 85% of college-educated black men marry black women. Uh interracial marriage among college-educated black men is about 30% u max upward you know about right around there. So even with high income and high uh higher education, black women are still the majority of the spouses. So we can go ahead and dead that conversation right now. Okay. I know it feels good to point at black men and say you, you know, you guys bunny hopping, but that is a overwhelming minority. Black men still love black women. It is what it is. Now, another point that I put out there today was based off of this conversation with Ebony K. Williams, and I learned that sometimes when she gives advice, she gives advice from her standpoint. She's an in an affluent black woman, but affluent black women are not the average black woman. And I think if Ebony K. Williams really wanted to get her message across to black women, she'll be very transparent and say, "Hey, look, my position is not the average black woman's position because I earn this much. The majority of y'all earn this much." Okay? So, what I'm talking about, if you have, you know, aspirations of getting to this point, this information may benefit you. But if you're trying to, you know, I guess, uh, incorporate this information now, then it may not be for you. But they rarely do that. And that's how the the message gets twisted because all black women will hear Ebony K. Williams, who is a millionaire. She's talking about her experiences and freezing eggs, raising a kid by herself. For the majority of black single mothers, that is tough. I see the statistics damn near every day. Okay, it is very tough. And I think it would help her message even more if she was very transparent about that. But since she hasn't done that, I'll go ahead and do it for black women. Okay, so uh in in America as of 2024, it's about 18 to 19 million uh black women over the age of 18. 46 to 47% of that are never married black women and that's about 8.5 to n million. That is a large population category. Okay. The largest because only 29% of black women are married. Make sense? Okay. So, black women earning $100,000 or more is about 900,000. Okay. So, that's about 5% or one in 20. So, if you see 20 black women, one of those black women make $100,000 or more. And I know that goes against what social media tells you. Everybody balling. Every black woman is balling, right? But the statistics say different. And this is the type of information that black women need in order to get their messaging correct. Okay. Now four never married black women because the first number three the point three that included married women okay never married black women earning 100k estimated about 350 to 450,000 black women that is 2% of adult black women meaning one in 40 to 50. So, if you see 40 black women or you see 50 black women, that means that one of those women makes $100,000 and she's not married. She's never been married. Okay. So, that puts things into perspective. 2%. Okay. Now, black women's median uh individual earnings was about 49,000, a little under 49,000 for the year of 2025. Okay. So, when you when you think of Ebony K. Williams, millionaire. Her message is being broadly spread to all black women. Can all black women benefit from a situation or advice coming from Ebony K. Williams unless she makes sure that she says, "Hey, I'm speaking to the women who are able to do the 2%." That message doesn't resonate with the majority of black women. But what I've learned from doing this for a while is that you'll have black women receive this type of message from Ebony K. Williams and they'll apply it to their lives even though they may be struggling. And that's why you see these women on social media, you know, going public with their standards of what they will and won't accept in dating. You know, I need to go to a steakhouse. I'm not doing coffee dates. things like that, you know, and that's because you have messaging coming from a millionaire that's getting distributed to women who make, you know, the median average of $49,000. And that's what needs to stop. Okay? So, and I get it. Sometimes people, it may feel good to say black women are thriving out here. I understand that. But that doesn't help black women when you look at the statistics, when you look at the reports. Okay? What black women need is the truth. and then they can make adjustments or if they don't want to make adjustments that is their prerogative as well but they need the truth and the accurate information to do so and again it may it may hurt but on my platform I'm not worried about that okay because I know what I'm saying here is coming from a place of love so we have to be more matterof fact more direct with black women and tell them where they actually stand which is why I created the state of black women. You guys have to go read it on Substack. Black women, if you're in the chat ninja watching, read it because you may benefit from some of the solutions that I put out there. Okay? That's all I'm saying, man. I know I may sound like a broken record, but I mean, I'm You gotta got to help as much as possible, bro. So, shout out to Ebony K. Um, you know, shout out to Ebony K. Shout out to Off the Record podcast. I think it was a good watch. I think you guys should go back and and listen to it. Especially the black women who are what is it? Uh decentering men or you want a dynamic of freezing your eggs and then becoming a single mother by choice. Ebony K. Williams will tell you exactly what happened to her situation and what she's looking forward to. And I think in that right, I mean, it may be beneficial. Again, I don't condone it. I would love to see black men and black women get married, but I'm I'm definitely not forcing black men to tell black women otherwise. Absolutely. There are too many women out there that still want marriage. Black men can find them as you guys see in the statistics. Okay. So, yeah. So, whatever you want to do, cool. Just get the best advice possible. But you're not gonna get it from me. You will get it from Ebony K. Williams. All right? So, go watch it. Let me see here. Uh, Dante Bryan, what up though? $5 bomb said, "Thank you, sir. Same thing I said when I first saw it. Instead of complaining, why aren't y'all taking notes?" Yeah, it it's that's all that I'm saying, man. Like, I've never understood why more black women don't listen to spaces like this. I know some of it can be very hyperbolic and I, you know, I don't watch that type of stuff. But when you have content like this and you look at my platform and you see statistical readouts, why is the first instinct to shame and insult and guilt and things like that, this stuff can benefit you. You know how many black women I've helped during the consults in regards to getting information to help them, you know, invest uh, you know, with their finances, where to put money first, the 50 3020 rule that we discussed. We did all this stuff, man. So, yeah. So, like I said, that stuff I don't do that publicly, but if I did, you guys will be surprised. Sometimes it's been weeks where I do consults and it's majority black women and you I've I've seen it's funny uh some content creators uh talk to them offline. Uh yeah, you know, some of them uh shot they shot, but we ain't gonna talk about that. You know, I had to make sure I let them know. But yeah, so here's what it is. Oh man, it's funny. Let's see. Uh Brennan, what up though with the $50 bomb? He said, "Mey man, glad to have you back on the scene. I see you've been putting in that work on these videos. Keep it keep it up and I'm glad you're covering this topic.

tonight. A lot of conservatives and liberals sp uh spitting this nonsense. Thank you for the clarification."

Absolutely, man. We gonna definitely get to it. Thank you, brother. And that that actually deserves a drop. I know. I've been uh it's been a long time. So, >> thank you, brother. I appreciate the support as always, man. So, we gonna get right into it. We're going to take a quick break. I'mma be right back. But listen to some of these smooth tunes from uh Matter of fact, let's give black women some love while we here. All right. So, I'll be right back. Hey, hey, hey. Heat. Heat. N. Heat. Heat. Heat. Hey, Heat.

All right, let's get back to it. So, first things first, what we're going to do here. Which video I do want to do? I want to play first so we you guys can understand why we're here. So, again, shout out to everybody that sent me this video. Um, so today we're going to discuss Larry Larry Elder, um, Charlie Kirk, and also Thomas Soul. His his name has been around for a while now. I don't think the black community gives him enough recognition because he has done a lot of research. This is an Ivy League educated black man. I believe he's in his 90s now and he's still spreading the messages about uh the welfare state of the black community, family dynamics. There's a lot of things that I actually agree with him. However, people misconstrue his message and also he mis misinterprets or he fails to acknowledge certain dynamics in the black household. And that's where I come in. But I want to show you this video of how black conservatives take messages from Charlie Kirk, play it on their con, you know, on their platforms without doing research. And please, black people, listen very carefully to when white people call y'all blacks. You hear me? When you when you see white people call you blacks, the blacks, that's a covert way of calling you the n-word if y'all didn't know that. Okay, the blacks. The blacks. You hear that? Watch watch that. Okay. And also listen, pay close attention to what Charlie Kirk is saying. He's going to say two statistics and I'll stop him. Hold on.

>> Blacks have a father around when they're raised.

>> I'm not sure.

>> Uh, hold on. Let me go back. Here we go.

>> What percentage of blacks have a father around when they're raised?

>> I'm not sure.

>> 20%.

>> Okay, first part right there. Pay close attention. What percentage of blacks blacks right have a father around? He said 20%. Right off the bat. Is that true? black people. What's from what y'all learned on my platform? Are only 20% of black fathers in the household? Think think. Okay, let's continue. Blacks do not have a stable father around. It is the most predictable way to end up in prison, end up as a or a criminal. It's not a racism problem. It's not a white supremacy problem. It's a fact that black fathers impregnate women and they don't stay around with the women that they have impregnated.

>> And this the type of [ __ ] that you black conservatives listening to. Y'all and y'all going to sit there and listen to this white man say this [ __ ] about y'all. And none of y'all said anything. I didn't know who this dude was until he passed. But this is who y'all was listening to talk about black men like this when you got the ability to open a [ __ ] book? Yeah, that's why I put black conservatives in there sometimes, man. We got some and she's sitting there agreeing with this [ __ ]

>> Charlie Kirk, do you think that that happens more in the black community compared to others?

>> It's it's three-fold. Number one, we subsidize single motherhood. Number two, it's culture. It's accepted in the black community and it should be

>> culture. Okay. Okay.

>> Don't take my word for it. Read Thomas Soul's own book on how black culture allows single motherhood to continue into a nanny state type practice. Seven. All right. Now, he said, "Read Thomas Soul's own book." Which book? Y'all know Thomas Soul has written or, you know, published over 20some books. You know that, right? I've only gotten the chance to read two. Okay? But he's published many books. Which book are you talking about? You see, and people listen to this and it sounds like he did his research, but all he did was listen to a Thomas Hole podcast or something and he doesn't know exactly what Thomas Soul said. Luckily, you got educated black man up here and I do my research. Okay. But I'm just I'm disappointed and I'm embarrassed from by some people in the black community because we have more than enough educated people, both men and women in these spaces that would be able to challenge his me challenge messages like this, but you refuse to do so. You'll rather listen to the white man. White ice is colder, right? coming from him. So, it must be true instead of doing the research for yourselves. That's a problem. Okay, let's continue. 75% of black youth are raised out of father in the home. 75% of black youth are culture allows single motherhood to continue into a nanny state type practice. 75% of black youth are raised out of father in the home.

>> So, this is the same video. We didn't cut to a different video or nothing like that. First, what did he say? Uh, 20% of black fathers aren't in the household. Then, same conversation with the same woman. What did he do? What did he say? 75%. And y'all don't question this stuff. When I first heard this, I was like, "Hold on now. Which one is it?" you black people. That that comic set that Chris Rock did where he said, "If you want to hide something from black people, put it in the book because nwords don't read." This is a prime example of this 75%. Is that a bigger problem or not a bigger problem than whiteness, white privilege, or white supremacy? How can >> they all be addressed and they're all related?

>> Okay. How is a white person to blame? Wouldn't it be more like smarter to be like, "Hey, that this is not about systemic racism. Like, stop impregnating your women and abandoning them."

>> Let's see what Larry has to say about this.

>> Number one social problem in America by far is the epidemic not of CO, but of fatherlessness.

>> You see that? Now, this is another one. This is Larry Elder, and she's putting this information out there from podcast clips without doing the research for herself. When I heard this, I was like, why is this dude saying this? And again, I agree that when fathers aren't in the household, that household tends to perform poorly. That's one of the things that I have consistently pointed out on my platform. However, when you say a blanket statement of fatherlessness and you don't put parameters around it, people like this woman right here, people like Charlie Kirk will say fatherlessness, that must mean the majority of black men aren't taking care of their children. You see what I'm saying? So that's why it is imperative to implement context. You need context to these conversations. Larry Elder fails to do that. Charlie Kirk failed to do that. And also Thomas soul failed to do that as well. But that's why I'm here. Okay, let's get to it.

>> 70% of black kids today enter the world without a father in the home married to the mother.

>> So again, 70% enter the world without a father. We going to discuss all this. Here we go.

>> Up from 25% back in 1965. Now 25% of white kids enter the world today without a father in the home married to the mother. And the stats are clear. Even Barack Obama once cited them. If you're raised without a dad, you're five times more like

>> And he he said, "And the stats are clear." What stats, y'all? What?

>> To be poor and commit crime, nine times more likely to drop out of school, and 20 times more likely to end up in jail. What's happened? In the mid60s, with I think the best of intentions, a Democrat named Lynon Johnson launched what he called the war on poverty. And since then, we have incentivized women to marry the government and incentivized men to abandon their financial and moral responsibility. You know, when I tell say this to people, the push back I get is, well, uh, there are lots of things that are going on. Systemic racism, poverty, uh, here's the problem. If you look at a young black male, aged 10 to 43, that young to me, cuz I'm 71 years old, a young black man in that demo is 13 times more likely to be murdered than a young white man. Same demo. Young black man, real young, 19 and under, the number one cause of preventable death is homicide. almost always at the hands of another young black male. Uh young same demo for whites. The number one cause of preventable death is unintentional death. That includes drug overdoses, automobile accidents, drownings. Uh it's not until they get to number four that death is the cause. In America, 60% of the shootings, the robberies, and the homicide are committed by black people, often against other black people. Of the homicides in this country, half of them are black victims. Almost all killed by other

>> Now, did you hear that? Of the homicides, half what is that talking point? That that's that whites s talking point, right? 50% of the homicides are committed by black people. Okay? If you go on my platform, I've already done a breakdown of this. No. And also to his point, just mentioning this and not giving the context of saying most crimes are intraracial, meaning that white people delete white people, black people delete black people, and so on and so forth. Why is that always missing in conversations like this? Because the way he framed it is that this is something that's abnormal to the black community. No, proximity crimes. This is what tends to happen. when we hang around more black people, we going to have more issues with black people. This is what happens. Okay? White people feel the same thing. And it's funny that they never mention the fact that, you know, violent arrests and violent, you know, violent crime, it t it's it's the majority of them are committed by white people. White people leading rape, white men in particular, child, you know, issues, all this type of stuff. But they never mention mention this stuff when they're trying to spew off all this information about how bad fatherlessness is. And again, I agree that fatherlessness is an issue, but without context, it makes it seem like black men are failing. No. Okay, let's continue.

>> Blacks, uh, how do you explain that? Uh, if it isn't for the absence of father. So, are you mad at what Charlie said or are you just mad at was Charlie saying it?

>> You see that? Now, this young woman right here, she has over 450,000 subscribers on Instagram. So, what happens when a black person shares this type of content? You think about the Hodge Twins, you think about uh Officer Tatum, their audience is predominantly white. Okay? and it was nothing but white folks and also black people in there agreeing. Well, there it is. That's the statistics. Charlie wasn't wrong. All this type of stuff. So, it's somewhat of a griff to put yourself out there using false statistics. Get your fan base up from white folks to see a black person talk down about black people. It's embarrassing because none of these people have done the research to see what the actual statistics are on fatherlessness. Okay? And again, let's go ahead and share this real quick because I want to be clear. So, father absence is actually it's it's a crisis in America. Okay? When the father is not in the household, it's an issue. So, research shows when a child is raised in a father absent home, they are affected in the following ways. Listen, greater risk of poverty, more likely to have behavioral problems, greater risk of infant mortality, more likely to go to prison, more likely to commit crime, more likely to become pregnant as a teen, more likely to f face abuse and neglect, more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, more likely to suffer obesity, more likely to drop out of school. That's a problem. So when the father is out of the household, yes, you see these issues and that's why I always tell black women, the single mothers, that's where the majority of our issues come from. Okay? And I want to address something after this. But the strengths of father presence, children with involved fathers have a strong foundation of child well-being. they are at lower risk for a host of poor childhood childhood outcomes. Okay. So this is measuring the lower risk, lower inform uh infant mortality rate, low birth rate, emotional and behavioral problems, low neglect abuse, low injury, low obesity, poor school, low uh chance of school perform uh poor school performance, uh low chance of teen pregnancy, low chance of incarceration as juveniles, uh low chance of alcohol and substance abuse, low criminal activity, and low delete selfdeion. Okay. So, I I want to be very clear while I'm doing this breakdown here that there has never been a time that I've neglected any of this. I agree. When a dad is not in the house, the family tends to, you know, perform poorly. So, that's not the issue. The issue is Charlie Kirk spewing a message saying that 20% 75% of you know 20% of black dads are in the home. 75% of black men run off and they are absent fathers. Blacks as he says, right? That's my issue because black people hear it and they're like, "Well, I'm pretty sure this white man did the research, so I'm gonna go ahead and take it at face value and I'm gonna clip it up and say, was he saying what what is Was he saying was that wrong?" Yes. Yes, it was absolutely wrong. And I'mma show you here in a second. But before we get to that, let's go to Thomas video because again, like I said, man, this is education, okay? And I'm gonna slow down because I'm starting to get pissed off because I'm thinking about this [ __ ] and I'm like, man, we supposed to be smarter than this and I'm gonna discuss this in a while or, you know, after I get done doing this breakdown. But I'm not going to lie, man. It has literally warmed my heart to see so many educated black women who I didn't know existed before this uh do well Cheyenne Bryant situation came along to see them come out of the woodworks and see how strong that doctorate, you know, network is, you know, and you get to see the statistics in real time. you get to see these black women talk about um you know talk about therapy and how you know they're licensed and things like that. I've listened to so many videos of actual certified and licensed therapists talk about the ins and outs of how much it took to get their certifications. I'm an education guy. You know what I'm saying? I want black people to be as educated as possible, both formal and informal. But just to see these black women, man, it just makes it gives me hope that we do have the educational power to understand this stuff, but we just failed to do the research. And that's the problem with this whole monetization culture. It's like, I'm going to say the most inflammatory thing. And I know it's going to do numbers, but it's hurting the black community. Okay. Goodness gracious.

So, let's uh play Thomas Soul's video real quick. This quick one.

>> mention cultural and social retrogressions.

>> Again, I'm quoting

>> so they're getting better education and jobs.

>> That's right.

>> Okay. Now, you mentioned cultural and social retrogressions.

>> Again, I'm quoting you. Arguably the most consequential of these was the decline in two parent families. Close quote.

>> Explain that one

>> among African-Americans. We're still talking about African-Americans.

>> Well, yeah. when when when they talk about things like this, they talk about the legacy of slavery.

>> Right. Right.

>> And and uh and I argue, well, empirically, it's not that. It's the legacy of the welfare state because as of 1960, which is almost 100 years after slaveryy's ended, uh the majority of black kids were being raised in two parent households.

>> So, and as you guys know, I covered this. I did a full historical breakdown on uh the marriage rates for the black community. If you go on my Instagram page, you can see the actual readouts going by decade by decade. Okay? And also you can go ahead and watch my Monahan report where I covered all this. So he is actually correct on that.

>> But within one generation after the welfare state that had dropped down to a minority so that the majority of black kids today are are raised in one parent households. So that right there, now that's where he went wrong. Okay? And that's what people hear. It went down to a minority. That's not true. And I'm gonna explain to you why. Give it give it time.

>> When you think about it, I mean, uh, centuries of slavery and generations of Jim Crow did not destroy the black family, but one one generation of the welfare state did.

>> All right. Okay. So, thank you, Thomas. soul. And if you guys want to do a little bit of research on this particular topic, one of his books that I actually read, this is what it looks like. So, vision of the anointed self uh congratulation as a basis for social policy. And you can go to this chapter, chapter 3, by the numbers. Okay? And you will hear hear him break this down. Okay? So before we even get started, let me show you where the majority of this information is going to come from. So this is from Bowling Green State University, National Center for Family uh and Marriage Research, published in 2022. So very new. Okay, I just want to go down here real quick so we can just debunk one thing very quickly. Okay, right here. Hopefully you guys can see that. I'll read it off. So, it says among race and ethnicity among fathers of all race ethnicities considered here, a majority had only co-residential children, meaning that they live with their children 100% of the time. And right here you can see only co-residential for black men, black fathers, it says 55%. Okay, so y'all y'all college, y'all went to school, y'all college students. Is that the majority or the minority? Just based off of that one percentage alone. Think about it quick. So, is that the minority of black fathers being in a household or the majority of black fathers? I would say that's the majority. Okay. So, 55% of black men live with their children 100% of the time. That's it. Not 70% out of the household, not 20% within the household, not the minority of black fathers not in the household. 55% just using that alone. And don't worry, I'mma break everything down very clearly. Okay? So, let's just get that [ __ ] out the way, okay? I want you, and the reason why I'm doing this is because I don't want people because I am a statistician. Okay? So, I don't want people to think that I'm cooking the book, so to speak, that I'm manipulating the information. You guys have access to this just like I do. So, I didn't do any statistical, you know, factors. I didn't take this percentage from here and put it over here to make this turn into that turn 10 into 20, 20 into 30. No, I didn't do none of that. Just as that information that they try and spew out is on the, you know, on the web, this is on there as well. Okay, y'all. We good? All right. Lord, I'mma go back to that one. I'll go back to here. So, let's get to the breakdown. Yeah, let's start here. All right. And I'm gonna try and be I'mma try and get y'all out of here um as quick as possible. But if you remember on Thomas Soul's first video, the video that we just watched, his argument primarily focused on the decline of marriage and the rise of singlepayer households at the household level. However, the Bowling Green State University NSFG data just showed you guys 55% of black men reported having only co-residential. I'm gonna stop it right there, okay? So, I don't want to go into the other statistics. This means that black fathers are physically present in their children's lives even outside of formal marriage structures. Okay? So therefore, single parent household statistics should not be automatically interpreted as father absence statistics. That's where people go wrong. They will see single parent households, but they forget that these houses may be cohabitating. They may be married. You have to factor those things in. And luckily for us, it's actually measured. Okay. So cohabitation, shared parenting, uh, multi-household parenting structures complicate, you know, that narrative substantially when people push that out there. So, and again, I understand how social media works. Critics are going to point out that the CDC NS uh, NSFG data and the Boner Green State University fatherhood data, it relied on self-reported surveys. That's true. However, older family structure reports such as the Monahab report also relied on imperfect measurement uh systems rooted in household classifications, marital status records and census definitions. Okay. So, in other words, both approaches have limitations. Household level data can sometimes be, you know, obscure cohabitation, shared parenting, and residential father involvement outside of formal marriage. Meanwhile, self-reported survey uh data can introduce reporting bias or incomplete disclosure. The key issue is understanding what you know what each data set is actually measuring. And like I said, the Monahan framework primarily measured household structure and marital stand status. They didn't measure cohabitation. Okay? And again, the time of the Monahan report, he reported that it was a crisis when it was at 20 to 25% non-marital burst. Now it's at 69.3%. Okay? So yeah, so that's how we had the difference. Okay? So I just wanted to put that out there. I know how social media works. people going to try and dismiss it, but I'm going to discuss that as well. But while we're here, let's go over the household dynamics because I don't think anybody has ever done this, so you guys can have this for yourselves. Okay, let's break this all the way down. So, this is the household dynamics, the full picture. So, you have what is it? Five, six. Okay. So, traditional two parent households, which we're all familiar with, married or cohabitating parents living together with their children. Those two people are married. That's one household dynamic. Stay with me. Two, cohabitating parents, which is very common in the black community. Parents live together, but they are not married. Now, before I move forward, does that count as a father being in the household even though he's not married to the mother? Does that count? Think about what I'm saying here. Shouldn't take long. If the father is living in the household with the mother and the children, but the only thing missing is they're not married, is he in the household? That's a trick question. He's there. Okay. So now granted it'll be best if those peop trust me bro I would love the black community to get married at a higher rate but if that's not happening and cohabitation is working then I will accept that. Okay so that counts. That's what these pundits forget. They go off they go based off of marriages and also the non-marital bursts in the black community and they translate that into absent fathers like Don Limit said. Okay. All right. Let's continue. Single mother household with involved father. Child lives with mother primarily but father is active involved and may have regular visitation or shared custody. Okay. So that means he is not in the household, but he's still involved. That does not count as an absent father. The CDC has highlighted this multiple times. They always uh report that black men are the most involved fathers even when they are non-residential. Okay? So that doesn't count as absent fathers. However, what the black community and you know these conservatives like to focus on is who is in the household. We already cleared up. It's 55%. Okay, let's just stop right there and keep going. So, father co-residential, non-married, father lives with the children without being married to their mother. So, just the dad taking care of the children. That is a smaller percentage, but it happens. And those households tend to do as or better than two parent households. Did you guys know that when the father raises the children, it the households tend to mirror two household dynamics. two household two parent dynamics. All right. So multihome parenting child spends substantial time in more than one household with both parents. Okay. So that means the child is being you know shared across households. Okay. That's not what the black community likes to focus on. We'll leave that. And then non-co. This is where uh could potentially be the dead beats. Let's just say that much. Father does not live with children but maintains a relationship and it varies by frequency and involvement. Okay. So that would be what people would consider uh the deadbeat dads. Okay. All right. And let's put this into perspective to give a clear picture. So this is for the household dynamics for how some households you know statistics may classify this. So female headed or single mother household that is the paper classification. Okay. So the mother is listed as a household uh householder. Parents may not be legally married. Household may statistically count as single parent or female headed and that's from the census you know housing and tax classifications. But those excuse me those households can still include cohabitating fathers, financially contributing father or active involved residential father. Okay, it may not be a high percentage but sometimes it does happen. Okay. So co-residential father it means residential reality captured by the BGSU study which means father lives with the children 100% of the time. Marriage is not required. Okay? Cohabitating happens. It includes married fathers, cohabitating fathers, non-married residential fathers. It is what it is. And of 55% of black fathers with minor biological or adopted children reported having only co-residential children. They live with their children 100% of the time. Simple. Okay. And this is what the breakdown looks like. I made it clear as day. So when you go do your research for yourself, yes, I'm saying when you go to the Bone Green State University marriage and family dynamic report, you will understand what this actually means. We already covered 55% live with their children 100% of the time. That's not in question. That's a fact. Okay? But 18% live with both co-residential and non-coential children. Live with some but not all of their children. So you know the black men who may have children with two different women, they live with one of their children but they don't live with the other. And as the picture illustrates here, you can see the little dynamic very simple, right? So part of that 18% belongs in the 55%. Okay? Now you guys understand? All right. Now, 26% only non-coal children. You see the black man by himself. These fathers do not live with any of their minor children. Their children live with the mother or someone else. Uh and then they may see their children regularly, occasionally, or rarely. Involvement varies widely. But we know CDC studies and the most recent report, 2018 report, non-residential family dynamics, they all say that black men are the most involved when non-residential as well. Okay? Even mothers, including black mothers, said the exact same thing. I covered this, okay? because most people were looking at that CDC report from 2013 and they were saying it's a self-s survey. You know, black men of course are going to say that they're, you know, more involved with their children. But when you do a similar survey and you ask the mothers of black men's children, they all said the same thing. Y'all really think black women gonna lie on the behalf of black fathers? Think about what I'm saying here. If you put a survey in front of black women, you think, you know what I'm saying, they gonna be kind to black women? Let me embellish if he's not really involved in the child's life. So, let me go ahead and lie on the survey and say that he is involved. You think black women would do that? Hell no. Okay. Jesus. Hell no. Any chance. Yo. All right. So, let's get back to it, man. Yeah. Think about what I'm saying, man. They ain't g ain't none of that. They ain't They ain't lying on no black They ain't lying for no black men. I'mma just Yo. All right. So, so table of contents, we're going to talk about who said what, the statistical confusion, the real data, the numbers people ignore, uh the invisible father argument, goalpost moving, and final questions. Okay, so let's start with well, matter of fact, don't want to say anything. Yeah, let me go ahead because I know this is a statistical driven breakdown of one of the most repeated narratives in American culture. 70 to 80% of black fathers are absent. Y'all just heard dude, right? That talking point has been repeated for years by political commentators, social media influencer influencers, viral pages, and even respected intellectuals have said the same thing. names like, you know, Thomas Soul, Larry Elder, Charlie Kirk, Pearl Davis. Y'all listen to Pearl. Y'all used to listen to Pearl and many others continuously enter this conversation. Okay? But make let me make one thing clear from the very beginning. This presentation is not about pretending the black community has no problems. Okay? Every community has problems. Every community has unstable households. uh ab divorce, violence, neglect, addiction, and dysfunction. The issue is statistical exaggeration. That's always been my issue. The issue is people taking non-marital birth statistics, single motherhood rates, welfare discussions, and broader family instability conversations and compressing it all into most black fathers abandon their children. Y'all see how stupid that sounds? This is where the disconnect begins, guys and ladies. But tonight, we're going to separate the narratives from measurable data, emotions, you know, emotional assumptions from actual statistics and internet internet rhetoric from what the reports truly say. So again, we going to, you know, you know, examine all those reports so you guys can have it for yourself because this public perception [ __ ] it kills black men. It does, man. So tonight, you know, we going to examine the claims directly, not emotionally, but statistically. I know I'm getting a little charged up, but it's it's it's sad, man. Yeah. So, let's start here. Okay. So, Thomas, he often discusses welfare incent. So Thomas often discusses uh welfare incentives, marriage decline, dependency, uh family instability, and long-term cultural consequences. A lot to which I agree with. And then you have Larry Elder, okay, who frequently discusses fatherlessness, um crime, educational outcomes, and the importance of two parent households. I agree. Now, this is where this guy comes in. Charlie Kirk repeated broader conservative talking points surrounding uh father absence, family structure, and dysfunction in the black community. Ask yourself why. And again, let me let me say this clearly. I actually agree once again with some of Thomas Soul's broader concerns involving uh dependency on, you know, on uh the government policy initiatives for the black community, educational decline, and family instability. But that again, that's not the issue. The issue is how many people online and, you know, reinterpret these broader conversations into the 70 to 80% of black fathers are absent dead beats. that that is not the same claim and that distinction matters statistically, okay? Because again, non-marital birth, single parent households, and actual father involvement, those are not identical measurements, guys. And even me saying that, it should start to click in your head like, yeah, I have heard people say the same things. It's funny, I keep adjusting my watch. Somebody was in the comments and they were saying, man, you need to take some links out of your, you know, your watch, but I'm losing weight. I'm cutting guys. So that's why they used to fit me. But as you can see here, I lost weight. So So I get you, man. That's why I'm adjusting my watch because I haven't took links out because I'm still still cutting. I know that's off topic, but yeah, that's that's why. Okay, so let's go here. Hopefully you guys can see that. So one of the biggest problems in this conversation is, you know, is category confusion. People combine multiple statistics together as though they all measure the same thing. They don't. Okay? So, for example, you guys see non-marital birth rate measures whether parents were married when the child was born. Full stop. That's it. Single motherhood measures household structure. Full stop. Now, father residence measures whether fathers live with their children and then father involvement measures caregiving and interactions. Okay, those are separate measurements. But online, once again, people often collapse them into black fathers abandon their children. That is statistically inaccurate, guys, because a child being born outside of marriage does not automatically tell us whether the father is involved, whether he co-parents, whether he provides support, whether he shares custody, or whether he's active in that child's life. And this is why the CDC and Bowling Green State University studies that they matter so much because those studies directly measure father residence, father involvement and parenting structure. So instead of you know assuming absence based solely on marriage status or the s you know the the non-marital burst black non-marital birth and honestly I you know I'm pretty sure you guys have learned that this is where the most of the confusion begins online because I hate to say it black people and people in general they always say without you know people hear without father in home and it mostly translate into translate that into deadbeat absent father. Those are not identical claims. Okay. So if you look at this report here, so this is the often cited statistic. 69.3% of black children are born outside of marriage. So what that actually me measures again that is the mother's marital status at the time of birth. Excuse me. Well, other than weather, but I make it through. Let's see here. Let's see. So, and what it doesn't measure is what the was the father present at birth. Does the father live with the child? So on and so forth. We just covered that. So, the truth about this is non-marital births are a marriage statistic, not a father absent statistic, whether the woman is married or not. So from moving forward, if you were one of those people that were combining that and you saw 70% children at a wedlock rate and your mind automatically assume that meant absent fathers, you're wrong. So correct it right now moving forward. Okay. All right. Lord have mercy. So um this is just showing this the the statistical confusion. What are people actually measuring? So, you got this the breakdown, non-marital burst, single motherhood. We just covered all this stuff. So, you guys see that as well. I'll put these I'll put copies of this on uh my platforms once we get done. Okay. So, let's move to the data. So, this is the CDC fertility data. Okay. One of the most important findings in this conversation was that 54% of black men ages 15 to 49 have never fathered a biological child. And this is what I want you guys to do if you care. I want you to research this report and then I want you to put the first one. I want you to do this. put in CDC fertility report um you know national center for family growth and then put 2006 to 2010 and then put 2011 to 2015 and then put 2015 to 2019. What I'm doing here is showing you trend analysis. Okay? Because in all three of those reports they damn near mirrored each other. It was only one time where black men came close to being over 50% of you know having children but everything me you know measures it was 46%. Stayed the same and it's been and has been that way for the last 18 years that they have reported it. No significant changes. And you know who black men actually mirror almost mirror white men because only 43.9% of white men have ever fathered a child. Okay, black men it's 46%. So when you talk about, you know, black men impregnating all these women, that [ __ ] is not true. So if you're saying that about black men, you saying that about white men, too, huh? Black conservatives, think about what I'm saying here. Okay? If you're looking at black men and you think that we impregnating all these women, I guess white men doing the same thing since and also in the report it actually says that it said that black men and white men are damn near the same. Simple. Lord have mercy. Goodness gracious. And then and this is where the accountability comes in with black women. So 61% of black women ages 15 to 49 had at least one biological child. That is a major statistical distinction because online narratives often create the impression that the majority of black men are irresponsibly fing everywhere. You've heard this. But the actual data does not support that conclusion. In fact, the majority of black men under age 50 don't have children as just stated. Okay. So, when you break this down, 39% of black women uh had no children. Okay? 17.1% had one child, 21.4% had two, 12.9% had three, and then 9.5% had four more. But if you look at black men, 54% no children, 15 point difference, which is the largest gender uh you know, birth gap between among any race and gender. Okay, that should tell you something. Then you go to one child. 16.5% of uh black men have at least one child, and that's lower than black women's. Uh 15.2% of black men have two, lower than black women's. Three, 7.2% 2% and then four more children 7.1%. Now why does that matter? That completely obliterates the conversation of all these black men are Cam Newton and Nick Cannon are the three dudes that birth or that that fathered 87 children with like 36 different women. 7.1% of black men have four or more children. So that's why I said when people thought that, you know, Cheyenne Bryant was holding black men accountable by telling Nick Cannon and Cam Newton that they creating all these broken homes. Black men over here, we knew better. We know what the statistics look like. We know that 9.5% of black women have four or more children. Make sense? So that should change the narrative in the black community that black men are just recklessly impregnating all these women. Black women are having children with a small group of men. So that's why the focus needs to be on who needs the help first and it needs to be black women. Birth control. Okay, start there. Lord have mercy. So again, statistically, black women are more like more likely to have more children in all of those areas. Okay, so that does not mean that black women are the problem. What it means is that the popular narrative surrounding black fatherhood is often emotionally exaggerated and statistically oversimplified. So, and and if the goal is solutions, then statistical accuracy actually matters. Make sense? And I got another fun fact for you guys. And this was gonna trip you out because it was one who said, was it uh Charlie Kirk or Larry Elder that said uh when a child when a black child is born, the father is not there. The father is not present. I got something for y'all asses. Check this out. Y'all see this? Take a look. Oh, wait. Hold on. Wait. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Whoa. Let's go back. 66%. Look at the top right there. What does that say? What does it say? 66% were there at birth. And this is another important CDC fertility statistic that people rarely discuss. 66% of black fathers were living with their child's mother at the time of first birth. That includes married and cohabitating households. That is twothirds. Black women's number is lower. Um, it's it's like I think it was like in the 40s or something like that, maybe 41%. So again, this directly complicates the stereotype that people often push online because the stereotype, y'all know it, black men are overwhelmingly abandoning women and children, right? Just heard it. But the actual data shows most black fathers were physically present in the household when the first child was born. Now, that does not guarantee every relationship stayed together permanently, right? Doesn't guarantee that. But it does challenge the idea that the majority of black fathers were never there in the first place. Make sense? And that distinction matters. So, what am I giving you guys here? Context. All this has been context. Jesus. Goodness gracious. And I did a breakdown for this. Uh we already covered this, but uh the 73% of black fathers had co-residential or shared residential relationships with their children. So that could be upwards of 73%. Okay. So yes, so the majority of black fathers are either living with their their their children or they're involved. They're actively involved. And it could be higher because again the rest of you know the 26% that doesn't mean that the other black men aren't you know involved in their children's lives. But for the sake of the conversation to not muddy it up we'll just leave it right there. But we already established that 55% are living with their children 100% of the time. The argument was never black men are coming in last with being involved in their or living with their children 100% of the time. even though we do come in less and that needs to improve. So yes, we do have room for improvement, but the argument was always that black men don't live with their children and we just cleared that [ __ ] up right now. Okay, Lord. Let's go here. And this is just uh the narratives that people, you know, what people say and what actually matters. So people, you guys heard 70% uh at a wedlock. I already covered this stuff. We don't need to go over it again. But I do want you guys to understand the difference real quick. So absence is not the same as involvement. You guys understand that. So the key idea is whether a father, you know, where a father lives does not equate to how involved he is. So a resident father lives with lives in the same home as a child lives in a diff you know non-resident father lives in a different home as a child involved father actively engaged in the child's life regardless of residence so those are three distinct differences okay now let's talk about the goalpost shift because I know it's I know it's gonna happen it always does because this conversation surrounding about surrounding black fathers, it always becomes very revealing because I notice how the standards they keep changing. First it will be black fathers are absent and then it'll say once you you know debunk that res then then it'll say well residential doesn't mean involved. You see how they move the goalpost. So if so basically what people are saying if I say that 55% of black men live with their children 100% of the time they'll question that and say well that doesn't mean that he's involved. There's a lot of women out there that are married but single mothers. You you guys have heard this dumbass argument before on a balance of probabilities if the dad is in the household he and the child's life. Stop. God damn. And then they'll say well surveys are self-reported. Then they'll say, what is it? Well, black men could secretly be lying. Okay, so I want you guys to notice how the methodology suddenly becomes invalid only once the stereotypes start collapsing because nobody questions the surveys, the political polling, uh sociology research, um domestic violence surveys, Pew research, or self-reported data. But you know what? They use self-reported studies, self-reported surveys. So, if you gonna remove the black fatherhood involvement uh data, then you got to remove all this stuff here. And you know what that means for black women? Y'all can't be running around here saying that four uh a black man deletes a black woman every four to five hours because you know those surveys are done by, you know, they're reported by self- surveys. Make sense? So if you're going to remove this or not accept that, you can't accept that other [ __ ] either. So it's political season. Can't accept that either, right? Y'all understand what I'm doing here? All right. This is like funny when negative conclusions about black fathers were being promoted is cool. But once the once the data complicates a stereotype, suddenly everything becomes suspicious. Oh, it's a self-reported study. Uh data don't matter. Black people don't even get self- surveys. Brother, I work in the field. What are you talking about? It's crazy. And it's not objectivity, man. It's an emotional attachment to that narrative. Okay? And I've covered this before because nearly all all major social science data relies on self-reported surveys. all the things that I mentioned, the political uh polling, the obesity statistics, ladies, income surveys, marriage surveys, public health research, they all rely on self-reported surveys. So, if self-reported data suddenly becomes invalid only when the uh discussing black fathers, that should raise some serious questions about bias. Make sense? That will let you know, black conservatives, if you're listening to a racist who's sitting there calling you blacks to your face, you dummies. God dam, you know, and once we get to this point, I think the issue becomes psychological because many people became emotionally attached to those black abs, you know, deadbeat dad father stereotypes. And again, social media rewards, you know, outrage, negativity, and dysfunction. Negative black narratives, they spread faster online than nuance statistical discussions. Why the hell you think um Don Dandre Whitfield didn't share my video on his platform? Because it was some uncomfortable truths in there that black women probably wouldn't take a liking to. And sometimes when you have platforms like this where you say that you're speaking up for women,

We all speak up for women. But that also means holding women accountable as well. And sometimes these men who have predominantly female platforms, they pander. It is what it is. So they can't rock the boat. So that's why I wasn't surprised when he said, "I'm not going to give him no shine." I wasn't disrespectful. I'm never going to be disrespectful to another black man. It's unless he disrespectful to me. Right.

So again, man, when somebody finally introduces, you know, the CDC reports, um, fatherhood studies and actual statistics, people become uncomfortable, not necessarily because the data is false, but because the data actually interrupts a belief system, especially in the black community. The whole blame Germaine thing has literally been debunked just off this hourlong conversation when it surrounds, you know, black fatherhood. And that's why correcting misinformation about black fathers often creates uh a a certain resistance online, you know, because again, think about this. People are comfortable repeating the 70 to 80% of black fathers are absent. But once you, you know, once the data complicates that narrative, suddenly the CDC is questioned, surveys are questioned, the methodology is questioned, and the standards keep shifting. That's the real issue. Okay? Lord have mercy.

It's very simple, man. And then before we go, before we finish this, I want y'all I want to leave you here with some questions that you can ask yourself. Okay? And this is very important. All right? So I want you to ask, did the data directly answer the claim? The main claim was the majority of black fathers are not in the household. 70 to 80% are dead beats and they are absent. Did I address that? Let me know in the comments if I need to go, you know, if I need to go go a little further. Did I address that point? Okay. Were non-marital births confused with father absence? Did I address that? Did the goalpost move once the statistics were introduced? Excuse me. Did I introduce that? Were the original claims exaggerated? Did I address that? Why does the truth create resistance? I address that. Why were these statistics not researched before the narrative spread online? Ask yourself that question. Is it for money? Is it for followers, likes, clicks, likes, and views? And most importantly, man, am I following evidence or defending a stereotype I am mostly accepted years ago? And that's something that you guys can ask yourselves. Okay?

Because this presentation was never about pretending every black household is healthy. Every community has unhealthy households, but only the black community consistently has its worst case scenarios inflated into the identity of the entire group. And that distinction matters, guys. Okay? And like I said, I agree with many of Thomas Soul's broader discussions, you know, involving the welfare incentives and how, you know, black women, I guess it was tough. And I'm going to re-release that video so you guys can understand how this welfare queen welfare queen uh narrative happened among black women. Okay? But I agree with Thomas old family instability. Um, the marriage decline. The issue is not that those discussions, you know, exist. The issue is how many people online transform those broader discussions into that 70 to 80% of black fathers abandon their children. That's the disconnect because y'all just saw saw the data. Okay? And again, every community has issues. All right? Every community. But exaggerated narratives about the black community, it definitely distorts the reality. And once you, you know, the majority of black fathers are residential fathers, right? Then the focus must shift toward prevention. Black women, I'm talking to you. Marriage before children, family planning, reducing instability, and lowering future single parent household creation. Because I want to leave y'all with something. If I'm telling you that 69.3% of black births occur outside of marriage, prevention matters, education matters, planning matters, okay? And reducing future instability matters, especially for the 39% of black women who currently do not have children. Okay, I know the 61% they already got kids. Some of them married, some of them not. Okay, the majority of them not married. But we still have 39% of black women who don't have children. Okay, so these types of messages need to get pushed to them as well. And you know where you can read that black women about these solutions? The state of black women on my Substack report. It's all in there. It's there to help. Okay. I touch a little bit of the solutions, but I go way more in depth on my uh my report. Okay?

And like I said, this presentation again was never about denying problems. It was about correcting exaggerations because statistics should matter more than narratives. And if the statistics only become invalid once black fathers statistically look better than expected, then the issue was never truly about data. It was simply about protecting a narrative people emotionally wanted to believe. And it paints black black men bad. The blacks, you see these black fathers, they're bad. Black men are are bad. That's why I'm addressing this. Okay, guys. And I know, hold on. And I'm gonna play this quick video that I did a while back to explain to black men because I know the back, not necessarily the backlash, but the issue that black men have with um accepting that black men have always been involved in their, you know, in their children's lives. It's like, well, now we can't blame black women. You see what I'm saying? Since black men was in the house, then that means we're the problem as well. Two things can be true at the same time, guys. So, black men, if you have not seen my video, you're about to see it now. So, this could should calm your dang nerves. I was going to cuss. Listen.

Speaking directly to black men. When we repeatedly say that fatherless households explain everything wrong in the black community, we unintentionally erase our own progress. We ignore declining crime, rising graduation rates, and the reality that most black fathers have been present in their children's lives for decades. Those improvements did not happen by accident. They happened while black fathers were involved. Sometimes married, sometimes co-residential, sometimes non-residential, but still engaged. Over roughly seven decades, marriage patterns changed, but black father presence was never the majority absent condition. So, if we want real solutions, we have to start by telling the truth. Also, there is another layer to this conversation that we rarely address honestly, and it explains why some black men hesitate to acknowledge that black fathers have historically been present. Many black men worry that if we admit that fathers have been there, then responsibility for the problems that exist in the black community will be shifted entirely onto black men as a group. In other words, there is a fear that acknowledging father presence automatically turns into blaming fathers for everything that goes wrong. And I acknowledge that that fear is understandable, but it is based on a false choice. What the data actually shows is that most of the serious negative outcomes people point to chronic poverty, instability, incarceration, and educational failure are concentrated within a minority of households, not spread evenly across the black population. Those outcomes are disproportionately associated with single mother-led households largely because of economic strain and resource limitations. Not because mothers are bad parents and not because fathers being present somehow cause those problems. So this is where two truths have to be held at the same time. Yes, the majority of serious social and economic challenges are concentrated in a subset of single parent households. And yes, black fathers have still been present for the majority of black children historically. And today, acknowledging father presence does not mean denying that some households struggle more than others. And it does not mean blaming black men for outcomes that are driven by structural inequality and concentrated disadvantage. This mistake happens when people confuse where problems are concentrated with who defines the community. The minority of households experiencing the most severe hardship does not represent the majority of black families. Most black children are not failing, not incarcerated, not chronically poor, and not disconnected from fathers. Those realities exist alongside one another, not in contradiction. So, black men, you do not need to erase yourselves from history to explain hardship, and you do not need to accept collective blame to acknowledge presence. Father presence has been the norm for most black families, while the most serious challenges have remained concentrated in a smaller segment of the population. Both of those statements are true at the same time. And understanding that distinction is essential if we want honest conversations instead of self-defeating narrative.

All right. So again, I just wanted to play that to kind of calm black men's nerves because I know the whole blame Germaine dynamic because I've I've heard it uh well, I've seen it in the comments. Well, if he's saying that black fathers have always been there, then why are all our our families effed up? No, it's a small subset of the black community that's experiencing the most issues, typically single mother households. Everything leads back to single mother households. Okay? And again, if you really care about helping the black community, we going to have to help single mothers. And we got to stop, you know, trying to point the finger at all black men. And we got to focus our attention on what do we need to do and or change in order for black women to understand that once you become a single mother, you typically have a tougher time, you know, at doing life. It's it's a tough road. Trust me, there's thousands of women complain, man. While I was getting prepared for this show, shout out to Average Man Unplugged. I was listening to a video of his that he just released, I think today. where he had like a compilation of women literally crashing out and like begging to get a man to help with 5050 and I need help with these bills. I need a man in my life. It was a lot of empowerment maybe two or three years ago. But now now things starting to come to fruition and you're starting to see women be more vocal by saying, "Yeah, I need help." But y'all asses may have burned that bridge because now you're looking at men as a utility or a paycheck when it's not really, you know, something that you actually want. You just need help with the bills. And unfortunately for y'all women, men are starting to understand that. Okay? So, y'all spent all this goddamn time talking [ __ ] about men and how you don't need men, but now you on social media complaining, but you got platforms like mine that tell men, "Don't fall for that foolery." It's unfortunate that you in that situation, but my responsibility is to make sure that the men over here are protected, especially protected from women who only see men as a utility and not something not something that you need, you know, and something that you actually desire. You just need help with the bills. They ain't falling for that [ __ ] no more. And that's y'all fault. It's going to take a lot. It's going to take a whole lot to get those men back. Because if you haven't noticed, it's a lot of black men that have been checking out. The interracial marriage rates have increased because they listen to y'all. And I told you that's the worst thing that could have happened to black women. Men actually start listening. The more that y'all say, "Don't talk to us while we in the grocery store." Some woman went viral recently. Think she was in Bali or somewhere complaining about a black African man not talking to her overseas. Have you not been listening to the discourse that y'all sisters been telling these men over here telling them not to speak to them in the gym? Don't speak to them in public. You don't think that [ __ ] matters? And I'm talking to the women who are silent. Oh, that ain't me though. It is you because we don't hear you. We don't see you combating these women that's saying that [ __ ] It puts y'all at a disadvantage because now all these black men think all of y'all feel that way because your ass decided to stay silent while these women [ __ ] up y'all reputation. That's y'all fault. And I don't give a damn about what people say about black women are excelling. I see the statistics. They need help. Okay? And if y'all too stupid to, you know, look at the statistics and tell black women 2030 is going to be here very shortly for them. Okay? Go look at the most recent uh BLS reports. This first quarter, black women earn less than they did in 2025's first quarter. Have I been cataloging this [ __ ] for the past two years? Did y'all know that? Have you ever heard anybody say this to black women that y'all weekly earnings, y'all earned less this quarter than last quarter? Nobody's talking about this [ __ ] right? Interesting. So, why you telling black women that they're they're excelling and they the most educated? They [ __ ] up out here. Okay. And I wouldn't be doing my job as a man who cares if I didn't tell them that. Okay? Everybody got problems. But you know what? Black women got more problems. And we need to start addressing this [ __ ] now. Okay? [ __ ] crazy, man. It's embarrassing the black community. And that's again, that's some of the things that I agree with Thomas. We rely too much on on certain, you know, false narratives about doing well in this area. I point I point everything out, man. We're not failing in everything. We just need to do better. It don't help with this pandering [ __ ] Okay? The [ __ ] is dumb.

And another thing, man, I seen Melissa Ford's ass. She put out a Substack article talking about simp. When a man speaks up for women, men calling him a simp. No. The issue when men call guys like she mentioned Deontay Kyle, uh, Jason Wilson, I like Jason Wilson and Ryan Clark. When they speak up for for women, it's a problem. It's a problem. It's like, no, the reason is that those men fail to see the whole truth, especially about black men. The majority of them men don't know black men. Okay? So that's why men call them simps because they refuse to look at what's actually happening in the black community, in particular with black women. So that's why I feel comfortable enough to sit here and tell black men how it is. And you know what? To tell black women the exact same thing. I don't care. I don't I'm not here to be liked. I'm here to tell the truth. Okay? And if that offends you, you got to go. So if that if you Melissa Ford are saying that that's what you consider a simp. You know the guys that you know that speak up for women. You don't think I speak up for black women? Every day. Every time I come on this live stream I make it a point to say something positive about black women because I'm trying to hold on hope because I take care of black women. Okay? I still love black women. But the more y'all keep pushing these dumbass narratives about black men feeling a certain way about certain content creators, there's always a reason and maybe you should start listening. Okay? It's just got it's goddamn crazy, man. We got some fairy tale ideations, man. It's just all bad. It's it's it's sickening. It's certain conversations that I literally cannot watch because it's so ill-informed, especially about the black community, in particular, black men. I can't watch it. I cannot sit there and and listen to people, you know, to be as educated as I know black people can be and are for y'all to sit there on social media and just lie for clicks, likes, and views. That's the dumbest [ __ ] in the world. We could be actually making some some necessary changes if we just if everybody just knew the truth. It's embarrassing, man.

And then Melissa Ford, she pointing to Russell Wilson and [ __ ] like, man, bro, I'm past that conversation. You know what I'm saying? It is what it is. She mentioned that, oh man, black men uh prop up Future and you whoever else Sierra slept with or whatever. It's like, man, the bottom line, all them [ __ ] got access to her. That's what men see. You know that? So, no matter how you talk about Future and how many baby moms he got, guess what? Sierra decided to sign up to be baby mama or whatever, they all got access. Okay? So, that's what men see. Men ain't got no problem with Russell Wilson. I think Russell Wilson is a standup man. Okay? He made a decision to marry a beautiful woman, but that does not negate the fact that Sierra gave all the men that you mentioned access. So, what does that say about her? Think about that. We got all this Mary the nerd conversation. How did Future get how did Future get access to this upstanding woman? These are the conversations that the black community needs to understand because the the majority of the time the [ __ ] don't work out like that. You know what happens? That woman typically ends up left with a baby by a dude who got multiple women pregnant and she never gets married. I already showed the stepfather statistics. Russ is an anomaly. It rarely happens. Okay. 5.9% of men, I believe, uh, live with any stepchildren. It's very rare. So, I understand why a lot of black women put him on such a pedestal because he makes the money. You know what I'm saying? The dude is successful, but he's rare. So get rid of that [ __ ] And I promise you that 5.9% is decreasing by the damn day. Every day till your back give out. Shout out to Jacob. Friend Stephen. Okay. See, I always got a joke. every day till your back get out. All right. I'm gonna cut that out when I clip out. Yo. Oh, let me Yo, again, let me show you why I love black women, man. Let's Let's listen to this quick uh Cheyenne Bryant interview that she did with this lovely black woman on the news. Say your back give out. All right. Let's see here. I'mma find it. Give me a second, guys. Oh, man. I got super chats. I've been talking. I know y'all pissed off. Brother recognize my super chat. I got you. Let me just pull up this video and then I'll get the super chats first. Somebody uh is that me on a Oh, somebody clipped a piece of my video up and I'm looking at I'm like, is that me? That is me. Okay. Okay. Here we go. Wait, let me pull it up. This [ __ ] is hilarious. You know, and I know Olawa, if Mona was in here, y'all, black women understand a certain shade that they can do to other women. And it's very subtle. Very subtle. Cheyenne Bryant thought she had a friend in this woman. And I'm pretty sure Olu will recognize it. She's so soft, so sweet. This beautiful chocolate woman. Just a perfect Oh man. Hold on, I'm laughing. Y'all ain't even seen the video. I know y'all seen it, but you gotta watch the subtleties. How black women, they just move differently, man. And I love it because I'm I'm funny, man. Yo, they they they good at what they do. So, we just gonna live uh watch a little bit of this. Here we go. All right, let's get to it. Fair use. This is from >> This is from Fox Local in DC. Here we go. Uh, it's titled Dr. Cheyenne Bryant talks new book, Controversy Over Credentials, Dr. Credentials. Here we go. >> I have to ask you this. I have a segment here called Motivation with Marissa. And I know you're a motivator for many people. And oftent times when you have that role, that that moniker, you're the strong friend. >> Yeah. So, I got to check in on Strong Friends. I want to check in with you because you've gone viral recently. People uh questioning your credentials, whether you should even be giving advice that you're giving. How are you doing, particularly within the last few days? >> Thank you for asking that. I love that. Um I'm actually >> You see that? Thank you. I love that. Oh my god. I love them, man. Here we go. >> Doing really good. I don't know a person who has received this amount of free marketing. It couldn't have happened in a better time for my book that just, you know, launched a couple days ago and within 24 hours we made the best sellers list not only for print but for the ebook. And so that's very exciting. Also, I know a couple things. There's promises that God has for us. He says that all >> See, now look, this is man, I'm a God-fearing man, but this is where I kind of check out. I don't like when people bring God in and said, "God know my heart." God probably looking down like, "Lady, just tell him that you ain't you ain't a doctor." Don't put that on Jesus. Oh, don't put that on God. Don't put that on my God. Okay? >> Not some all things are working for your good. He also says that not to get weary and welloing. And he says that I give you much territory and your job is to possess it. And my job as God is to protect it. I protect what I give you. And so when territory is expanded, God says that the cross gets heavier. And if you cannot carry a heavy cross for the expansion of the territory I gave you, then guess what? Maybe you're not ready because to whom much is given, much is required. And so it's important for people who are in service in leadership positions to not per >> So look look at look at the woman. She's waiting to jump in like, man, I need to stop this foolery, you know, because I want to say something. And she gonna try it. But when she when Cheyenne Bryan is talking, she reminds me of Martin, you so crazy. When he was, you know, you know, basically, uh, one is, you know, as human beings, you see, because when we grow as another people, basically, brother, you got $5 I can borrow. That's what she sound like. >> Personal lies, right? When you have folks who come in and attempt to crucify what you have going on, cuz your job is to not get weary in your service. and I land on this. My obedience is to God, not to people. And so, as long as I'm in his will and I'm serving and I'm doing his, you know, his word, my sheep will know my voice. Even the sheep in wolf clothing. That is not my battle. >> The questions that are out there, why not provide the proof? >> Yeah, just let's just get back to this. I love her, man. Let's just go ahead and get back to this. Why not just provide the proof >> of your degree? Why not? >> Um, well, a couple things, right? Um, I have multiple degrees and my thing is that my proof isn't something that I have to prove to individuals. Um, my proof is already within my credentials, my degrees, and also more than just my titles. It's in how effective I've been. >> Man, look, what better way to shut the whole internet up than to just show your degrees. You should have pictures at your graduation. You know what's funny? when this conversation has been, you know, going around. You know what I did? I was like, "Hold on now. Let me go find my degrees." I had to go upstairs and go into one of our storage closet. All the stacks of all my certifications, all that [ __ ] is in there. I need to hang this [ __ ] up. And I And I I definitely went to the portal to go grab some unofficial transcripts. Y'all think I'm bullshitting to grab my unofficial transcripts. They all right here. y'all. Oh, wait. I can't see that. But yeah, I went on I got my unofficial transcripts and I I ordered my official transcripts. I was like, well, let's [ __ ] Let me go ahead and get mine on. So, so it did make me think like, man, hold on. I don't want this [ __ ] to happen to me, you know? I definitely want if I want to go back and get a doctorate, I need to make sure my [ __ ] in order as well. So, it did start that conversation. So, yeah, just show it, Dr. Brian. You could. All of my sessions have been live for the most part. My sessions with Nick Cannon, Cam Newton, Shannon Sharp, B Simone, they have all been for the world. >> I didn't know that she was considering that a session, a therapy session. Did y'all know that? I didn't know that she considered that like an actual official like intervention with Shannon Sharp and Nick Cannon and whoever. Can you and I know you can't do that because it was you beautiful black women all across the internet certified therapists saying no we didn't know that that's what you considered that how publicly man hell no >> to see right so no one knew who Dr. Bryant was prior to seeing all of my sessions that were live. Um, >> that's a session >> and they deemed it as well as I did before they did it. They can't validate. I validated myself. They deemed it as my work being effective. I am effective at what I do. I'm educated and I'm >> You see that? See, you see she tried to get in, but Dr. Bryant still trying to explain because you know as one human being you see because when we grow as a people you know >> successful in my lane and I'll land on this I created my own lane and so a lot of times Marissa when people say that you created something that maybe they couldn't admiration turns into envy and you got to be okay with that as an attack but I think and I've gotten this question from many viewers and I I owe it to them to them. Look, look. You see how she's affirming her how Cheyenne Bryant is affirming. Yeah, you do. You have to say it. Let me stay sweet. >> Absolutely. >> Why not drop doctor from your name if you cannot bring forth that the >> So, so I've already co covered this, right? And we're here obviously to talk about my new book. Um, >> did you see that? Trying to redirect the conversation. Hey, this black woman on her ass. >> So, I've earned the title. I have multiple degrees and I'm not going to prove anything to anybody and we're gonna leave leave it just as that. >> See, she cut off the conversation. Like, no, don't ask me no more questions. >> Yeah. Dr. Cheyenne Bryant. >> Oh, did you catch it? You just did you catch the shade? Dr. Cheyenne Bryan, I love black women, man. Look at it. Listen. >> And I'm not going to prove anything to anybody. And we're gonna leave leave it just as that. Yeah. Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, baby. >> I love him, bro. I'm sorry. Black women be catching nail for black women, but I love him so much. Dr. Shyra, she's good. I like her. Hold on. >> Dr. Shy Ambro. You see that? She thought she was getting a little high five. You know, she didn't want to leave her hanging though. You know what I'm saying? Wait, look. >> We're going to leave leave it just as that. Yeah. >> Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, >> baby. Dr. Cheyenne Bryant. >> And that's where And you're standing by. >> You ain't got a friend with me and you standing by that that [ __ ] >> Standing by it. Yeah. Because I earned it. Absolutely. >> All right. Well, thank you. Thank you. I know you're going to hang around and >> I want to thank you for asking the hard questions. >> Well, I appreciate that. You know, I'm a journalist with with two degrees. Oh, did you see that? Did you Did you see it? But see, I'm a journalist with two Yes. Two two degrees. That's That's me. That's where I'm at with mine. What about you? What say you you Yeah. Yeah. Hold on. And she gonna drop names, too. Yeah. >> Thank you. I know you're going to hang around and >> I want to thank you for asking the hard questions. too. You know, I'm a journalist with with two degrees at the end of the day. And so, I had two >> Come on. >> Yes. Northwestern and Emory University. So, I had to make sure I display that as well. >> She said, "I'm gonna make sure I display that for you and all the people from Northwestern and Emory University. That's where I'm at with mine." Because you see, I have mine and I'm not afraid to say where I got mine because you ain't got yours and I know that. So, I'mma just go ahead and let you know where I'm coming at with mine. So, you I love black women, man. You can't make me hate them, brother. >> As a journalist. So, thank you for coming for hanging around. >> Oh, this is so good, man. I laugh so hard. It's just a little subtle jabs, you know, like, hey, you know, little smidgen of shade, you know, hey, you know, my two degrees from these universities, you know, you thought you had a friend in me, but I'm gonna get to the bottom of this. You know, I know she talked about this conversation when she went home. You know what I'm saying? It was just funny to me. I know I supposed to be laughing at this [ __ ] but like I said before, man, shout out to uh you know to to this woman. I didn't I got to catch her name. I'll definitely put it um up here. But what what this conversation has showed me is that there are so many educated black women. And if you didn't know, black women actually earn more doctorates than black men. But all races of women earn more doctorates than their male counterparts. So let me just go ahead and put a pin in that. Okay. And then also uh black men tend to earn more STEM degrees than black women. Okay. So as of now 31% of black women over the age of 25 have a bachelor's degree or higher. And then also I'mma put the prompt in here as well. Um so you know they have more doctorates than black men. and all women have more doctors. But the reason why I brought that up is because there are so many educated black women and doctors that I've seen pop up that I didn't even know existed and I want to check out some of their content. And I know this is kind of a negative thing that I got a chance to see them, but it definitely made me proud, man. And I don't think Cheyenne Bryan understands what she just did by hanging on to this doctor narrative. She literally just killed a social network of educated black women that she could have benefited from in the future. But now when you, you know, when you shame them or you act like we're stupid because we're listening to you and you saying you're not going to show it, those women are highly offended. They're offended that they had to go through the thousands of hours, clinical hours, all this type of stuff to get certified, but you're the woman who gets to shine and you're not even credentialed. And we all know I mentioned this before and she actually mentioned it on the Breakfast Club right after I've dropped my video. Pretty privilege. It matters. And this is a prime example of it. Nobody ever questioned Dr. Bryan's credentials. with Cheyenne Bryan's credentials when she was going on these these platforms because they looking at her and like man you know she's an attractive woman and I think this is this is a time where black men need to remove the monetization piece right and stop her from going on these platforms with y'all because that's going to be her safe haven she's going to be like I'm pretty so excuse me these men are going to open up their platform for me even though black women don't like me. And that's and that's that's all bad because it's going to look it's going to be a weak move for black men in the in these spaces. Okay. So, I know this is what's going to happen because I don't want black women to see that. Like, man, we we you know, we agree with this foolery. All right. Because one thing that I noticed like she never puts women under a microscope like she did Shannon Sharp, Nick Cannon, uh Cam Newton, all those guys. She literally goes on the women's platforms just to talk. But for them, that's a session other than be Simone or whatever, right? That woman, she got her issues. But but yeah, but black men need to hold the line, you know. And I see Dr. Umar is putting his bid in. he's, you know, coming to the rescue for her. And then I also saw somebody say, "Well, Dr. Sebie wasn't a doctor, but y'all accepted him." I'm like, "Man, this woman is saying that she's a a therapist. She says she was she used to be licensed, but she's not licensed now." That's that's that's a it's it's that's a lot to say that you're a therapist and you're not really a therapist, man. And I mean, again, that's coming from a guy that went to therapy for five years straight, okay? So, I know how important it is and how beneficial it is. And to uh this month is uh men's mental health month. So, I mean, it just, you know, it it was some resources that I found from black women that I definitely want to check out some of their videos, you know, based off of this situation here. But I don't think, you know, Cheyenne Bryan understands what she just did there. you offended a lot of educated black women that could have probably partnered with you or helped you if you would have just told the truth because obviously people still buying your book now they I mean hey just waiting for you to say hey this is what it is man just my opinion but we'll see man I didn't miss all kinds of super chats yakking Uh, uh, Dante Bryant Fucha said, "What's the app we're doing the challenge on? I gotta get a new phone, so I don't have it anymore." It's better health. Um, I'll give you the name. Yeah, I've been watching. I mean, Better Together, my bad. Better together app. Download that. Better together app. And it is We got 49 days left. All right. Medium man's walk, jog, uh, run challenge. Okay, so you can find it over there. Thanks. And then, uh, AJ man, what up though? Five bomb said, Chris Rock wasn't lying. Black women who follow these types of men are enemies. Thank you for the super chat. And then, AJ man super chat said, "White people know that this isn't true and they know these types of black people are embarrassing. They're not stupid." Yeah, I'm pretty sure they know. HVAC man said it's time to remove Miss Bryant from these spaces. She's under investigation. We need a counter intel program for traders in the community. Yeah, I didn't know that she was uh under investigation. I just seen allegedly a black woman, I guess, put in a a request or something like that to get her credentials, but yeah, that's all I saw. See, Malik, what up though? $5 bomb say you're right. media man. US Department of Justice homicide victimization for 2023. Just looked at the numbers. I'm shocked. Yeah, man. White people whing out here. You know what I'm saying? The the uh violent, you know, arrests. Yeah, they killing it out here, man. I mean, for lack of a better word. But yeah, unfortunate, but yeah. Ola, thank you for the $10 bomb. Oh, man. Give me a chance to play some of the ladies. There we go. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah. >> Thank you, Olu. Appreciate that. And then, uh, casual economist uh, member for 11 months. Thank you, brother. Almost at that year mark. Salute to you. Thank you. And then, essential entities. I always like that that name. Member for 27 months. Brother, you go. Uh, your work is truly appreciated. Good man. Salute. Oh, thank you, brother. Salute to you, man. It's a very uh you know, I got my my American flag uh lapel pin on. It's a very uh sentimental day for me in regards to military service. Something happened very uh significant on uh the 15th of May or so. Uh, let's see here. Um, we got SSL. all say that 499 say when it comes down to it you just can't take women serious in this area in this era it's tough man it's tough air force reek $10 bomb said if you let Miss Bryant dominate the conversation she will talk in circles and manipulate you into getting on her page she is definitely throwing shots at her in this interview yeah the back and forth was so classy you know but I know black women and I'm like yeah you know this This woman, she had a conversation about this, I'm pretty sure. Let's see. Is that uh Milton $10 said, "You know, we had a woman here in Detroit that put braces on people but was not licensed." I remember that. Yeah, I remember that, man. I don't know how people feel comfortable doing that, man. That's crazy. Wait, did I get Wait, which one did I miss? I got that one. Okay, Malik $5 bomb said, "Call me Dr. Malik tomorrow at media man. I'm taking all insuranceances cash app and snap in available." Uh, snap if if applicable. Hey man, I guess we could do whatever. So, that's funny. Good to see Malik here. Casual economist fight said a live session breaks Oh, a live session breaks HIPPA law. She's a fraud. But if she's not licensed, then it's just her talking. So, I don't think she falls under HIPPA because she says she's not licensed. Now, if she was licensed and she said that was an actual sess session, a public session, then it would probably be a problem. But no, I'm man, I'm not sure if she's ever been licensed based off of all the stuff that you have to go through. And I'mma contact my friend um she's a a therapist, licensed therapist, and I'm pretty sure mir her story mirrors the other women as well. But um yeah, man, it takes a lot to become a therapist because you kind of, you know, effing with people's lives, man. You never know what what somebody's going to say and you got to be able to, you know, navigate that, you know, and yeah, it's it's it's a lot. That's a tough job. So, all right, let's go ahead and get out of here. Man, I kept y'all till 9 o'clock. But again, man, hopefully this was, you know, it was it was beneficial. Let's say that much because I know I've talked about this stuff before. I've did videos on it, all this type of stuff, man. But I think this is information that everybody needs to hear, you know, and this breakdown like I did it. I think, you know, once I clip some of this stuff up, it will definitely start to hit home because, you know, the misinformation about black fathers has to stop. And I'm understanding now that it's going to come from my platform and I'm okay with that. Okay, so again, thank you to everybody that sent in super chats. Thank you Ola. Thank you Pman for putting all the links in this description. Thank you chat for staying engaged. I know sometimes these types of live streams aren't as entertaining and I get it. But hopefully you guys leave with some more knowledge about black men and it can actually help you in public conversations either, you know, in person or on social media. Okay, that's that's the overall goal. Okay, so let's go ahead and get out of here, man. I'll leave y'all. Thought I had some good music. Yeah. Oh, people tend to like that uh that cover. So, I'll play that again. But again, until next time, be on the lookout for some more videos. I'm going to release some tomorrow and uh you guys will have that for your viewing pleasure. But until next time, media man out. Peace. God bless. And please be safe out there, y'all. All right. It's a lot going on. Be safe. Peace out. Oh. Oh. Days in the sun and nights in the valley. Yeah, the song is over. Simple play. Yeah, I had me some fun. It helps with the pain. Girl, I already told you I don't feel the same. I don't feel the same. Anywhere I go, I can help but show I don't feel the same anywhere I go. I can have