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Good morning everyone, and welcome back. Today, I want to dive into this piece by The Guardian, um, that is talking about how single women in the United States are struggling to date. And I think, uh, by the end of this, you'll realize the childless cat ladies are upon us, and frankly, I don't know how much hope there is, um, for some of these women unless they're willing to make some pretty big changes in their lives.
So, it starts off, uh, by citing a, uh, data point that was, uh, generated by the Census Bureau data and Morgan Stanley, that by 2030, so within less than five years, 45% of prime working-age women in the US, um, defined as women aged between 25 and 44, will be single. That is substantial. That is almost half of the working-age population of women in the United States, um, being single. So, this will encompass, uh, both Gen Z and millennials.
Um, and so, this kind of, this, this piece goes through some of the reasons why women are struggling right now. Um, one of the things is the qualities that women are looking for in in men. There, there's a mismatch. The qualities that women are looking for in men don't align with the qualities that men are looking for in women. If you've seen other polling, um, young men in particular are starting to become more conservative, while I would say middle-aged, millennial, and and Gen Z women are skewing more liberal. So, so right off the get-go, there is a misalignment of values, social, political, and moral, um, which has really made dating impossible, uh, for a large portion of of the single population.
Uh, and so, it says here that this, the most frequently listed qualities women said they were looking for in a partner were kindness and emotional intelligence, mental and physical health, shared values, ambition and being hardworking, financial stability, masculinity and maturity, and a willingness to commit to an equal monogamous relationship, as well as in many cases, having a family. Um, so something I, I noted right off the bat in this piece is that the word "husband" is never once used to describe any, any of these responses. It's always "partner." And language is really important because language denotes your, your values and how you see the world and what you're looking for. And, and right off the bat, if a woman is using the term "partner" to describe the man she is in a relationship with, it's clear she's not, she doesn't really view him as, as a husband or someone to marry. Like, the traditional concept of marriage is, is out the window when you use the word "partner." And I, frankly, I think it's kind of demeaning, um, to use that, that term. And, and I've used it before to describe things, uh, especially just trying to be more objective in culture, but I think if you're talking about your significant other and you're married to them, like, they're your husband or they are your wife. Like, I, I think "partner" is demeaning. Like, you have a business partner, right? You might have a pickleball partner. Um, your relationship with your spouse is, is not necessarily just a, a partnership. It's far, far more important than that. So, I think that's one thing to note.
Um, here as well, they talk about wanting shared values and, and that, I think, is code for liberal values, and those values can encompass moral values. So, your, your moral personal code of ethics, but for a lot of liberal women, it also includes your political and social values. So, so for a lot of these women, if you voted for Donald Trump, you are automatically excluded. They do not want to, to date you. If you are, have anything to do with conservative political beliefs, MAGA, whatever, they want nothing to do with you. So, in this case, when they say "shared values," they want you to adhere to their values. And their values are typically going to be liberal. And I find it ironic that they want to have a family. So, at the very end, talking about having an equal, monogamous relationship, as well as in many cases, having a family. Um, but women don't want to play the role that is required of them for a family to exist, and that is wife, and that is, is mother. So, just the absence of, of language here that says, like, "I want to be a man's wife," or "I want to be a mother someday." It only talks about their immediate needs and, and really kind of like narcissistic needs. Like, "I want someone who's, you know, take, can take care of me, who has emotional intelligence, is, is attractive, has ambition, financial stability," i.e., "I want them to subsidize my lifestyle," all this kind of stuff. So, so they're looking for all of the benefits of marriage and, and some of the things it entails without actually putting in the work that's required of marriage, or playing the role of wife and of mother that is part of that whole package. Like, like I think they, they want the relationship for, for the status of it and for, and for the sake of not being alone. But when it comes with responsibilities and a defined role, they, they don't want to play it.
Uh, so, okay, the first, uh, woman they interview here is a 32-year-old from New York City who's a beautician. Uh, and she says that not responding on dating apps. Some of the reasons why, um, she, she's struggling with, with dating is because men are low effort. So, they're not responding on dating apps, they're not effectively communicating, and they're not wanting to plan dates. And I, I can understand why, um, why they might think this is the case. And I think a lot of women don't understand what's actually happening because they're not curious and they haven't even asked. Um, so a lot of women don't realize, like, men don't get matches on, on dating apps. So, for every, like, hundred matches that a woman gets, and if you, you know, a like, or whatever, whatever, however many connections she might get, like, a dude might get one. Okay. So, the, the odds are, are not in guys' favor. So, I think they recognize this and they're like, "Why would I even play the game?" You know, "Why would, why would I play the game?" And I'm not saying there aren't guys out there who aren't playing the game, but I think the vast majority are, are kind of checked out and they realize, like, "What's the point? Why am I putting in this time and effort, um, for something that's not going to provide a return on investment?" And, oh, by the way, a lot of these apps are gatekept. So, you have to pay a fee in order to get the best matches. And so, it's a real disservice to, to men.
At the same time, um, this woman here has complained that they don't want them to plan. They're, they're not wanting to plan dates. Again, completely understand this because a lot of women, uh, modern women in particular, are using men as a de facto meal plan. Like, they want men to plan elaborate dates. They want dinner and movies and things that cost a lot of money. Like, I've seen TikToks of women who won't go on a date with someone who isn't going to pony up a couple hundred dollars for a meal at a nice restaurant. And I get why dudes don't want to. Like, the dating pool of women is just so atrocious. Why would you waste that much money, uh, on someone who isn't going to be a good fit and who just wants to use you? Um, and so, so I can see why there's a frustration on both sides, but I don't think women are necessarily helping themselves either.
So, it continues on saying, "Scores of women said that nobody available they had encountered met what they considered basic requirements." And so, if you've been following dating culture, you know there's any, these requirements are anything but basic. Modern women want guys who are six foot tall, work in finance, have a six-figure-plus salary, ha, you know, not balding, like have a full head of hair. And that's going to get harder to find as you get older, by the way. So, most of the women who are being interviewed in this piece, I think the youngest might be 27, but most are in their 30s, early 40s, right? So, at some point, you're going to reach, uh, a period of time in, and like, just reality, where certain things you can't control. Uh, and so, you know, for guys, that means hair loss. Like, there's going to be a point in time where, you know, guys can't really control hair loss. And much the same way that women can't control wrinkles, and I know there's a caveat there, like, yeah, women can get fillers and Botox, but then you look unnatural. And a lot of these women who have fillers and Botox, they really do look kind of grotesque and unnatural. I mean, Dolly Parton's a fabulous lady, but my god. Um, I, I don't think the average woman should aspire to age like Dolly Parton. Um, and so, so that's your option. Either you have an authentic version of the person you want to be with, or you have a fake version of the person you want to be with. And then, you know, if they have to maintain these basic requirements in order for you to stay committed to them, like, that's just, you know, it's unrealistic. Like, life happens, people change, like, you're going to get old, you're going to age, your body's going to change. You know, the average guy isn't 6'5. We were at, um, there's a military museum here, uh, in Austin, that's really cool. And like, the average, I remember seeing, like, one of the displays was about World War II, and like, the average height of a soldier who fought in World War II was like 5'8. So, I don't know where these women think these 6'5 guys live, where they exist. Um, but they're just, it's not practical, and that's just such a stupid standard. Like, it, if you're not going to date a guy because he's 5'11, like, my god, get over yourself. It's just such a stupid thing. Like, like the basic requirement should be, like, "Is he good?" You know, "Is he loyal?" "Is he going to take care of me?" You know, those kinds of things, not, "Is he 6'5?" It's so stupid.
Okay, so it goes on. She goes on to say, "I'm looking for a man who has goals, ambition, is intelligent, trustworthy, provider, blah, blah, blah, and loves to go out." And I think this is, uh, really important because men want wives. They don't want to subsidize your partying lifestyle. They don't want a woman who's still living out the glory days of her sorority life in college in, you know, your 32, 33, 34 of being alive. They don't want to subsidize your bar tab anymore and your nights out. Like, they want, they want a wife. And so, when I read "loves to go out," like, that's what I'm thinking. I'm thinking someone who's going out to the bar every weekend, you know, slamming shots, drinking all the time, or, you know, if you're more refined, maybe you're going to a nice cocktail lounge or a wine bar or something, whatever. But I think, at least this has been my experience with dating, like, as, as I progressed and in a committed relationship, like, my desire to go do those things changed. And they didn't really exist to begin with, to be totally honest. Like, I hated the whole idea of going out. Like, I rarely did it. And I would force myself to go to bars, usually by myself, just in the hopes of meeting, um, meeting people. But even then, like, I would bring a book. I would go to a cocktail lounge and bring a book with me to read. Like, I just, the whole idea of spending hundreds of dollars on the weekend just to feel intoxicated and potentially not remember anything, and then potentially do things that you're going to regret, and then also put yourself in dangerous positions. Like, there's just nothing that's appealing to me about that. So, I would, you know, much rather, like, stay home. But once I got into a, a committed relationship and eventually got married, like, none of that stuff appealed to me, right? So, you're like, I think for most women, this is probably the case. Like, once you're in that relationship, like, your desire to go out and do the things you used to do when you were single, like, starts to severely wane. Um, and so you like to do other things, like cooking or watching movies, or, like, one of the things we love to do is we got an ice cream maker, so I'll make ice cream, um, from time to time, and we'll do that. Like, it's just the simple things start really, like, standing out and appealing to you. Like, you just don't want to go waste money on stupid stuff that doesn't matter. Um, so, if, if she's looking for someone who loves to go out, that's code for she hasn't grown up yet, and she's not willing to shed her single life, and I think that's going to create friction and complications in their relationship, and she's really just looking for a sugar daddy to, to financially support her.
And so, it goes on to say, "Although many women said they found being single lonely, they also typically said that they would not consider anyone who did not tick these or similar boxes." So, this is also the problem with, with dating is, you know, I think men would be willing to accept someone who, like, meets 50% or 60% of their requirements. And I, I think most rational people will. Like, you're not going to get 100% of everything you want, even when it comes to jobs, when it comes to, like, the, the house you want. Like, you're never going to check all the boxes. So, to give up on men because they don't check 10 out of 10 boxes is just a sign of immaturity, right? Um, you wouldn't give up a job, especially a career feminist woman wouldn't give up a job if it only checked like nine out of 10 boxes, right? Like, she would rationalize in, in her head why, um, she needed the job, even if, like, the tenth box, it didn't check was like a high salary, right? Like, there are scores of women who take terrible jobs, uh, that don't pay well, simply because the perceived prestige of working in that job. Um, and so, I, I think it's, it's a great disservice that they do to men to just diminish anyone who doesn't check all of their boxes. And then, as I said before, these boxes are so, uh, insincere and inauthentic to, to begin with.
Um, again, like I said here, uh, this, this person Katie, uh, pictured here, is a biotechnician from Wisconsin. Um, and she says she's looking for a partner, again, not a husband, a partner, who has a robust, uh, social life. And another thing about, or, um, social life that is worth calling out, like, yeah, your, your desire to do those things, um, and go out all the time is probably going to wane once you're in a legitimate true relationship. But also, one of the things I noticed, uh, when I stopped participating in a robust social life, is that a lot of the activities that exist in our society are catered towards single people. And frankly, I think this is part of the conspiracy to keep people single. So long as you're single and you have emotional problems, you're going to go out to bars. You're going to spend money on things. You're going to try to fill the void that is in your life. So, you're going to be a really good consumer when you're single. When you're married and you have kids, uh, your, your consumer habits change because your priorities change. That's a personal conspiracy of mine, but you just think about it. Like, what are, if you went to, to a new city, like, say you went to, I don't know, like, like I'm in Austin, right? So, say you come to Austin and you want to hang out here for the weekend. What is there, what is there to do, right? So, there, there's going out on Sixth Street. Okay, you're going out. So, there's all the bars there. Sure. There, there's live music and stuff. So, if you like live music, it's definitely a great place, uh, for that. Okay. Um, there's shopping on South Congress Avenue, a lot of really expensive shopping, or in The Domain. Okay. There's a lot of really good restaurants, so maybe you'll go out to eat, but there's only so much alcohol you can consume and food you can purchase. Like, at some point, like, the social framework within a society needs to expand beyond food and drinks. And if you look at a lot of major cities, uh, with the exception of, you know, I'd say maybe like New York and DC and like some historical cities, the vast majority of cities are built upon dining out and drinks and really cater to, to single people, um, or to people who are dating, or, you know, people going out with friends and, and that kind of thing. It's not really catered to families or, like, those kinds of, like, activities. And I think once you, you have kids and you age, you know, you start aging them into school age and they start making friends, like, your social activities change. But I think the conception, a lot of these women have of a robust social life is based on the activities that are available for, uh, single people. They're not necessarily the activities that typically married people look to do, if that makes sense.
So, she says, "I'm happy to compromise on things. The bar is extremely low, and yet it's rarely cleared." So, this is a contradictory statement. Like, if her bar truly is that low, and it's rarely cleared, it's clear she's not willing to compromise on things, because if she was willing to compromise on things, she would have compromised by now and found someone. Okay.
So, the next one here, uh, Danielle, is a public relations professional from Tennessee, and she said her future partner, again, the word "partner," not "husband." We need to be kind, thoughtful, emotionally available, considerate, reliable, and responsible, but also college educated. So, this was something, like, a mental trap I definitely fell into. And I think it's because of the people I was surrounded by. I had some friends who really looked disparagingly, uh, at, um, at, you know, guys who aren't college educated, and that's frankly why we're not friends anymore. Um, because I didn't like how they looked down on other people. But I'm, I'm going to, um, you know, be totally honest with you, like, my, um, so, so my, my husband, he did not go the traditional four-year college route. I did. And he is no less, like, I'm not more educated than him, and he's not less educated than I am. In fact, one of the reasons why, like, we started dating and got married is because I think on our second, I think it was our second date, he brought me back to his house, and I saw his bookshelf, and immediately I saw Jared Diamond's *Guns, Germs, and Steel*, and I'm a huge nerd, a big fan of Jared Diamond's work, and I just took a quick scan of his bookshelf. He had that, he had, um, like, you all know, Harari on his shelf. He had Dostoyevsky. Uh, we, and so, so like I was like, "Okay, like, this guy reads. It's awesome." Like, he and I have a lot of the same, the same interests. And so, like, when we were dating, we would go, like, our dates would, we'd go to the bookstore and we'd go look at books and pick out books. And so, like, the last time we went to the bookstore, he, he bought *War and Peace*. Okay. I don't know a lot of college-educated finance bros who are out reading *War and Peace* or like reading in general. Though, like, to say, I think one, like, we've misattributed "college educated" with "being educated." Like, having a college degree is a credential. It doesn't mean you're actually educated. And so, the assumption is, if you're not college educated, you're stupid. When, in reality, there's a lot of really smart guys who are in the trades who are just crushing it, and they're really smart. And like, this is, I mean, this is when you talk about shared values. Like, when you get married, you want to be in a relationship with someone who you can have conversations with for the rest of your life, right? Uh, and so, like, we can, we can do that. And college had nothing to do with that. Like, my curiosity and his curiosity mesh together very well. And so, the fact that, that these women have reduced men to, like, check boxes, and that not having a college degree is an immediate disqualifier, I think is really hurting them and limiting their options because they're just not willing to consider anyone who doesn't have a college degree. And again, I, I speak from experience who was living in that world, uh, with women like that, and had friends who, like, wouldn't consider dating a blue-collar guy if that was the last option on earth. Um, and I, I think that is shortsighted. Um, you know, and the assumption is that guys who don't have a college degree are just dumb. And, and that's not true at all. There's a, a whole myriad of reasons why people don't get college degrees. And frankly, I think they're smarter for it because I think, you know, the whole college experience is, is quite a scam. Um, and so, for these women to stand, you know, be on their high and mighty horses and put themselves on a pedestal because they have a master's degree in some field from some university, like, that doesn't make them better. But the fact that they think they're socially and morally superior because they have a college degree and some people don't, really speaks volumes about them and, and their character. And like I said, just because you have a college degree doesn't mean you're well-read, and doesn't mean you're actually educated. It just means you're good at following the rules. Um,
So, she goes on to say, "Men my age are less educated. Their social skills are abysmal, and now they're running into the arms of Trump and incel forums." Again, like, she's put herself on a pedestal. She assumes that because they're less educated, therefore they are dumb. Like, like education, the credential has become the qualifier for competence, and that, that they're not the same. Like, you can be really smart and not go to college. Um, you know, they say their social skills are abysmal. What does that mean? Um, because they don't want to, like, placate your delusions, like, your feminist delusions. Okay. And then she says, "They're running into the arms of Trump and incel forums." Uh, no. I'd say like, a lot of these guys are just rational, uh, and they see what's happening in the world, and they're kind of done. They're kind of done being told by liberals what to do and how to live, um, and being politically corrected all the time. So, I don't have much hope for, for this young woman unless she changes her tune.
Okay, so the next one is Laura, in her 40s, from San Francisco. Uh, she says, "There's an imbalance between education levels now in the US." Again, implying that somehow having a bachelor's degree or a master's degree makes you a better dating candidate. Um, she says, "Many men don't want to date someone who's more educated or makes more money than them." And that, I mean, that makes perfect sense. Um, you know, I, I think that that's because a, a master's degree and high income signals things about what you value. And I'm not saying I don't think it's, it's necessarily true. Men don't apply the same rigorous framework to dating that women do. I don't think a man would be like, "Oh, she has a college degree. Therefore, she must be a feminist. Therefore, I'm not going to date her." Whereas the opposite is true of, of women. They'll say, "Okay, he doesn't have a college degree. Therefore, he's dumb. Therefore, he probably voted for Trump. Therefore, I can't date him." So, so those two things aren't, aren't the same. I think a man would, you know, if, if their values align, would date a woman with a, a master's degree. I think the difference is, a master's degree and like a girl boss job and a high income signals to the man where your priorities are. And for many men, their priority is to have children and get married. Like, most men just want to replenish, uh, the, the earth with their progeny. Like, it's, it's really that simple. Um, and so, if you are not willing and able to help them with that goal, uh, you're off the table. Um, so I don't think it's, it's that they want, they don't want to date someone who's more educated than them or makes more money than them. I mean, some men, you know, might, but I think it's what education and a high, or a high income. I think that's what it signals to the man. Like, if, if you're more educated and you make more money, there's going to be competition in the home. The home isn't going to be a peaceful place. You're not going to want to put your career aside to be a mother or, or a wife. Um, so there's going to be friction there. They're not going to be able to achieve their goals of procreating. Um, so there's obviously a non-starter there. And then there's just a, a lot of complications that, that come with it, especially, like you saw in the previous example, these women think they're morally and socially superior, um, to men. So, yeah, they don't want to date up. In the same way that women don't want to date down, men don't want to date up. So, these women who have gotten all these degrees have excluded themselves, like, like from the dating pool because men aren't keeping pace with them, because the rewards for men aren't the same. And, you know, they talk about here, women, various women stress that they were searching for a socioeconomic equal. But what these women don't realize is over the last, you know, decade or two, men have been disadvantaged by the system. So, while women went through the system, benefited tremendously, men were held at a disadvantage. And this was something I was, you know, I wholly admit I was oblivious to when I was in college. I was like, "Yeah, I'll play the girl card, whatever." And I didn't realize by playing the girl card, by getting internships for being a girl, by doing this, by doing that, I would like, men who are of comparable age and intellect and demographics to me weren't getting the same opportunities. And so, what we've created is a stratified society where women have been allowed to succeed. They've been allowed to advance, and now they have higher degrees, or, you know, more education, um, higher paying jobs, and now they are not, they, they are far above their male counterparts where they no longer see the male counterparts as desirable. And the men don't see these women as wife material. Um, and so, so they've kind of shot themselves in the foot by pursuing these advanced degrees and not recognizing the consequences. They, they want someone who is socioeconomically equal to them. But they don't realize that by propelling themselves forward, uh, up the socioeconomic ladder, men were held behind, uh, and now they're not willing to give those same men, uh, the light of day. And, and so I think that's a real disservice, um, to men.
Okay, so a couple other women they interview here. So, Raina is a 41-year-old doctor from Washington State. This is a picture of Raina here. Uh, she cites that men who had not actively worked on their mental health as a main hurdle in her search for a partner. "I find most men my age have a lot of baggage and they're not actively working to process their trauma." So, I think this is more of a projection onto men, how women are feeling about themselves, than it is a reflection on men. I, men are emotional creatures by nature. Uh, but they're not the same as, as women. And I think like, there's been this obsession in, in female culture over the past probably like decade now of self-care and wellness and, um, you know, therapy and trauma and processing all that. Like, there isn't necessarily an equivalent to that for dudes. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. Like, the expectation here is, like, women like this expect men to process their trauma in the same way that she processed hers. Uh, but she doesn't understand that men process their issues differently. And this is just an observation I've made. Um, I just, I listen to a lot of, um, commentary from, like, people who are trying to grow themselves professionally, spiritually, emotionally. So, I'm, I'm thinking of, like, um, your Steven Bartletts, your Chris Williamson's, your Tim Ferriss's, Jocko Willinks, um, David Goggins, like, those types of, of guys. And they're not the type of, of people who will go run to therapy to solve their problems. Like, they're going to do really hard stuff. So, like, David Goggins is a great example. I, I think he, he has a lot of trauma and a lot of baggage. And so he processes that by doing insanely hard things, ridiculously hard things. And so, I think men are more of doers, uh, whereas women are more like thinkers and, and talkers. So, the way that you process your emotions is very different. So, again, this is an example of women applying their standards of their life onto men and expecting men to meet them where they are. There's no room for compromise, and there's no acknowledgement that men have to do hard things, and they have to work through, they have to work through their, their issues, right? They can't just, like, sit through, through talk therapy. And so, if a woman like this expects, you know, a guy to, to work through their, their trauma one way, and the guy does it another way, she might not give him the credit he deserves. So, I don't know how much of this is them not actively working on their mental health, as much as it's them not working on their mental health, and the way she expects them to, or in the way that the feminist mindset expects men to process their, their emotions.
All right. So, it says here, "While many respondents said they would like to have a partner, others prioritize their careers, families, and personal interests." In many such cases, the financial independence these women enjoyed appeared to substantially contribute to this mindset. So, again, the, the, the problem here is a mismatch of goals and a misalignment of kind of the trajectory you're going in life. Men want wives, and they want mothers. Uh, these women want partners. They want someone who can split things 50/50 with them. They want someone who can have a say on the household chores and have a say on the rent. Um, but other than that, they're not looking to be wives and mothers. And I, I think that that's the fundamental problem here.
Okay. Um, this woman here, Nicole, she's 42, a high school teacher from Portland, Oregon. She says, "The US seems designed for couples and families." No kidding. Uh, if the 20th century taught us anything, it's that the family-based structure of the United States is far superior to every other way of organizing society. Like, Soviet Union was highly atomized, individualistic, and that didn't really work out too well. Actually, almost every communist society has been, um, shaped around individuals, and it doesn't really work out too well. Uh, families are the bedrock of US society, and it's one of the reasons why America is where it is today is because of families. So, yeah, the US is designed for couples and, and families, and deliberately so. I think that's where most of your economic productivity and well-being is, is going to be. Um, and those people are going to invest in, in the, they're going to set roots. They're going to establish equity in their communities, and then they're going to invest in the continuation of, of those communities. When you're an individual, you don't care. You're highly transient. Like, this woman's from Portland. Like, how much does she care about Portland? Like, what is she doing to better Portland? Is she going to an ICE protest? Is that her contribution? No. Like, I, it doesn't seem like she's someone who's probably set roots down. You know, if she got a new teaching job somewhere else and this, you know, the spirit moved her to move, she would. Um, and so, I think that's the difference here is, is families and couples create a stable society. And from that society is where you get, you know, entrepreneurship, innovation, economic well-being, um, you know, social well-being, all, all these important things that make America the country it is. So, so I think, you know, that's not necessarily a bad thing.
Okay. Uh, so the last person here, Valerie, 27-year-old from Maryland. She says, "I'm not looking for anyone. I value my freedom and independence too much. I still live with my family because everything is too expensive, and I want to save as much money as possible, especially since I'm not making six figures currently." So, this is, I think, the epitome of, of the problem, and probably what you've kind of seen as, as we've gone through this. Everything about the, the modern experience has been reduced to economic value. And you think about that from, from feminism as well, right? It's about how much you earn. It's about man's contribution in the home, your mental load as it relates to your job, working at building a career versus being a mother and a wife. Everything is framed around economic value. And I, I think that's a conspiracy to get all of us to make more money. So, we spend more money, but we're not actually keeping more of that money. Uh, more of it's being taxed, and then we're, we're obviously spending on more discretionary purchases to fill the voids that are in our lives. Like, I don't think, uh, families are as, I think they're good. I think families are good for society. Uh, but I don't think they're necessarily the most profitable unit of extracting wealth and revenue from. Um, so, I, I think there's a conspiracy to keep people single. Um, but, but she really highlights what her priority is, and it's to save money and make more money. And, you know, at the end of the day, I, you have to ask yourself, what's actually important to you? Do you, is it all about the money? Um, or is there something more? And I think, you know, at some point, you, you run out of stuff to spend money on. Like, just look at the super wealthy people. At some point, you, you run out of stuff to spend money on. Like, money isn't the end all be all, right? We're all going to end up at the same place, you know, when we die. We're all going to be six feet under. And, and the only legacy we have to leave behind are the families that we create. Like, that's how, that's how you create a legacy, right? It's not about, you know, how much money is in your bank account. No one died. And then at the funeral home, they're like, "Oh, yeah, and Valerie had, you know, $1.3 million in the bank." And no one's like celebrating that. No one is talking about that. You don't have a single obituary that is written, like, "Here's how much this person died with." There might be, like, "This person gave or donated," right? There's people that talk about wills and, and being, um, bequeathed money, but no one is, is here, like, that's, that's the accomplishment of your life, right? Like, your bank account, and your coworkers, and all your material possessions, they don't care when you die, but your family does, right? And so, that's why family is important because that's your legacy, and that's who's going to be there to support you in, in your final days. Um, and I think this is what is lost upon, upon these women. And then I think that's why they're struggling is because it's a clear misalignment of values, uh, misalignment of goals and objectives, and misalignment of purpose in life. Like, men want to make money to support their families, right? Men want wives and children. They want the next generation. Like, women just want someone to subsidize their lifestyle. They just want to make a lot of money. They value their freedom and independence because it allows them to make more money. And for what end? Like, at the end of the day, like, what does this do for them? How does this serve them? Maybe they're in a happy place right now, uh, but I bet those, you know, especially those in their late 20s, in five years, when their biological clock starts ticking down, they're going to be like, "Oh crap, I screwed up." Um, you know, they're going to have a lot of regrets. And I think, you know, these are the childless cat ladies that are are about to, um, you know, about to dominate the future, um, because they deliberately chosen not to, they, they've deliberately chosen to not set goals that align with the goals of society. Their goals are very self-centered. Um, it's all about them and their wants and their needs in this moment. And they're not thinking about the future. And, and it's a very infantile way of looking at things because there's no self-sacrifice on their part, no accountability, no responsibility. It's kind of live and let live. Um, and, you know, they're okay with, with being single for now, but I think there's going to come a point down the road where they're not okay with it anymore. Like, at some point, they're going to be in their 70s, 80s, 90s. No one's going to be there to take care of them. Um, and that frankly, I think the rest of society doesn't care to take care of them. I, I, I don't think you will find in the future that there will be a social safety net for childless cat ladies who deliberately chose to live this kind of life. I don't think there's going to be a social safety net of, of welfare programs that will take care of them in old age. I don't think a single, uh, working family man is going to surrender his, a portion of his salary without a fight, uh, to subsidize these women in older age. So, I, I think they're going to be in for a world of hurt, um, later on. And I, I think they're all right. I think there's a reason why so many of these women are heavily medicated, and, and they're, I think trying to create the illusion that they're happy. Uh, but I think the vast majority of them aren't, because I think they know fundamentally, something, something is missing. Like, being single isn't all it's cracked up to be. Like, sure, for a while, you might enjoy it, but, you know, at some point, you yearn for a relationship with another human. And I think we are designed for marriage and families. And if you're denying yourself that, you're, you're denying a fundamental part of your being. And, and for what? For what society tells you so you can go out and blow money on bars that do nothing for you and have superficial friendships with people who don't really care about you. It's just a total misalignment of goals. So, until, uh, women are willing to concede and recognize that they're wrong, they're going to continue struggling, uh, to find relationships with men, because the number of men who are willing to validate their delusional feminist fantasies, um, and who are willing to subordinate their own desires for, for families and having wives and mothers, um, that, that pool of, of men is, is rapidly shrinking. And as they note here, like, th, that pool of men isn't really desirable. Doesn't check all the right boxes for them, whether that's physical looks, income, height, whatever. Um, so, the, these women are just, they've shot themselves in the foot, and I don't think there's a way out for, for them, but I think there is for, for younger women. So, I think younger Gen Z women, um, you know, it's time to read the writing in the room, see what's happening, and, and recognize that the older millennials that have come before you, um, failed, like, that this feminist narrative has failed them, um, and unless you want to be a childless cat lady like them, uh, you'd be wise to do the exact opposite of what these women have done. Um, that would be my best advice for, for Gen Z women.
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