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I want to talk about something that I think a lot of people experience, and I never heard anyone talk about this. So, I'm going to talk about it from the perspective of dating an entrepreneurial man, a high-performing, financially successful man, because that's the only context that I know.
I don't know what she's going to say. It sounds like she's going to be giving advice, but you can already see that in all likelihood, the real motive that this video is just going to be so she can flex on other women. She gives herself away. She's like, "The only context I know is is dating high-quality men, guys who are successful. That's the only kind of man I've ever dated."
Also, look at her jewelry. Look at her earrings. Look at her ring. Let me rewind it. Watch how she's stroking her necklace. It's this unconscious signal to design to like draw your attention to that. You see these expensive things that I have. She's showing off to other women. Like, look how glamorous and well-off I am. No.
And when I talk to other girls who are in this scenario, who are dating really wealthy guys, typically what happens is you become a part of his life, and you start kind of losing your life. Because he has a nicer place, you move in with him. You start doing all of his travels. And because he travels really well, it's not that big of a deal. But then, like three, four, five, six, a year down the line, you're like, "Wait, who am I?" And you realize that you've
So many men fall for this. Do you see what she's doing? She's just described female identity perfectly. Hypergamy causes her to find some high-status guy, and naturally, because he's so much more successful and interesting than she is, she just naturally gets swept up into his life. But then she has this fake revelation, this epiphany question like, "Oh, who am I?" This is what's sneaky. This is what a lot of men aren't going to pick up on, is that the reason that that question is genius and quite deceptive is because it implies that she had an identity, like a really distinct, meaningful personality before she met him. You know, there's so much more to her than just being feminine and supportive and being part of his life. Like, she had this whole female identity that used to exist. No, she probably didn't.
I don't know what she's going to say next, but any identity crisis that she's claiming to have, I guarantee it's just going to be a performance to make her seem like there's so much more to her, like she has so much more depth than might appear on the surface. And you realize that you've kind of lost yourself because you've been dating this guy who's so amazing, you've been going on so many amazing trips, and you like basically moved in together super fast because that just made sense cuz you worked all the time, you would never see each other otherwise. And you're trying to like figure out who you are.
What are you talking about? Figure out who you are. You are a woman, and you moved into a man's life. That's normal. That's natural. He drives, and you are the passenger. Stop pretending like there's this hidden depth that you possess, like you've given up something that was like so tangible and so valuable. But you also know that if you didn't do this, you probably wouldn't have gotten together or stayed together.
So, if this is you and you resonate with this, then I want to let you know that what you've done is something that I think I think if you're going to be dating a really successful, financially successful guy, cuz like a good man, that's going to happen. You're going to move in sooner than what most people recommend. But the way that I got out of this is I kind of reclaimed myself, and I started doing the things that I wanted to do despite him.
Do you see the damage that feminism has done in the minds of these women? Well, all of human history, in every time and every culture, it was understood that men and women were yin and yang. They existed in relation to each other. They expressed that identity through partnership, through contrast, complementary opposites. And this woman says that her man was like a high-status guy. He was a good man. He was financially successful. So, great. That's good. You won. But no, thanks to feminism, it's managed to convince her that there's so much more to her than that. For her to find her identity within a relationship, that's inadequate. And now she's flexing to other women on social media because she's so desperate for validation that it's not enough for her to just brag about the fact that she's got some high-status, wealthy guy. No, she's greedier than that. She's like, "No, but not only have I got him, but there's so much more to me than just that." I mean, give me a break. How much do you want to bet this woman's going to mess up her relationship?
And this is tricky because you're so used to doing things his way and living his lifestyle. And if it is a healthy relationship, then he might Well, I don't want to say it's a healthy relationship, but if he's the one, like if you don't have access to his credit cards or like it's his money, and then you have your money, so you do things on your own dime, then you're having to do things on your dime, which is not as luxurious as doing things on his dime. And that can even create some contention where you're like, "Well, you go out and do things by yourself, and you live all this amazing life, but I'm your girlfriend, and I'm, you know, making three, four thousand dollars a month. I can't afford to fly first class, eat the best dinners. But when I do it with you, I can. But when I'm by myself, I can't." And it creates a lot of dissonance in the relationship.
Ugh, it's further proof women can turn anything into a source of victimhood. Let's just recap why she's angry. She gets treated to luxury when she's with him, but she wants to be her own person, but she doesn't make as much money as him. So, she can't afford to do all of those expensive things by herself, and that's not fair. That creates dissonance in the relationship. It's so outrageous that you don't have access to his credit cards so that you can do all these amazing things by yourself. I am your girlfriend. Why do I have to be with you in order to enjoy the benefits of your wealth? I should have access to all of your money, even if I'm just doing things for me.
Guys, are you paying attention? Do you see the way the mind of a modern woman operates? Do you realize the implications here for how women view men?
I feel kind of guilty because I just posted a screenshot of what my husband sent me today, which was like a message after we had finished our FaceTime, saying, "I love talking to you." And I posted it, and I was like, "I just can't believe that like I got to marry my best friend." And I felt kind of guilty because I was like, "Is that showing off? Is that getting an unrealistic expectation?" And then I thought
All right, stop, rewind. She just did two things, and most people will have only caught one of them. On the one hand, she's managed to flex about how amazing her husband is. Look how great my life is. Look how devoted my man is to me. Everything's going so well for me. I'm just so special. I'm so desirable. I mean, what else are women using social media for other than flexing on other women? I mean, let's be real. How else would you know that your life is amazing unless you were receiving likes from strangers who are jealous. So, that's the first thing that she does, but there's also a second technique. It's called virtue signaling through guilt, because even though she's posted this brag about her life online, she is simultaneously establishing herself as a morally superior person because she feels bad about doing it. So, she can have her cake and eat it, too.
I thought to myself, "This is the expectation that every single woman should have with their husband." Like, your husband should be obsessed with you. They should be sending you a message, or if that's not their love language, doing things to make you feel like the most important person in the world. My husband is so busy, and he every single day makes me feel like his number one priority, and lets me know that. I never have to guess with him. It's not your job to make someone make you their number one priority. It should be their obsession.
>> Women give such terrible dating advice. They are so clueless. Don't listen to what she said, but if you listen between the lines, you'll see that she didn't intend to, but she did actually articulate a core truth that is worth paying attention to. But she's not aware that she's done that. That's because women always describe what they have, not ever what created it. So, she thinks that this text message that her husband has sent her, that that's what's important. Like, "My husband is so busy, but look, he's still so obsessed with me." And she thinks that the obsession is the important part. No, it's the fact that he is so busy. That's what makes him attractive.
In the real world, if you become obsessed with a woman that you are dating, and you're constantly sending her messages, showering her with love, spending all your time with her, like giving her genuine obsession, she's not going to like that. She's going to think that you're gross. You know, it's going to give her the ick. Women don't want some pathetic man who's got nothing going on in his life, you know, his schedule is just empty, so he's free to just devote himself to her and be really obsessed. What she actually wants is a man who is busy leading his own interesting life. That's what makes him attractive and high-value, so much so that when he sends her a single text message, and let me remind you, she says obsessed, that's all that happened. Okay? Like That That was the limit of the grand gesture. It was just a text. But what makes that message so meaningful to her is the fact that his time is scarce. The truth is that he's not obsessed with her, but she feels the same kind of validation as though he is, because even small things from him mean so much to her because he's a high-value guy. But she's not going to tell you that. No, she's going to focus on the wrong thing and and lead everybody in the wrong direction. I wonder why.