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Do you want to know what it is? It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth. You have to see it for yourself.
Before I begin, I need to define the language because most people argue against the words they were never taught to understand. The terms blue pill and red pill originate from the film The Matrix. In the film, the blue pill represents remaining in a comfortable illusion, accepting reality as it is presented without questioning it. It represents safety, familiarity, and comfort.
You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe.
The blue pill represents belief in the socially accepted narrative. It assumes attraction and relationships work primarily the way people publicly claim they do, through fairness, good intentions, and the idea that personality and character are what matter most.
This is a black man who believes what he was told. He [music] believes being kind guarantees attraction. He believes effort creates desire.
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He accepts the story without questioning the outcome.
The red pill represents choosing awareness, seeing reality as it truly is, even when that reality is uncomfortable. It is the choice between illusion and observation.
You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.
The red pill represents awareness through observation and experience. It focuses on patterns of behavior, incentives, and outcomes, especially when those patterns contradict what people publicly say.
This is a black man who observes patterns. He watches [music] behavior. He moves based on results. He doesn't seek validation. He recognizes it.
Outside of the movie, these terms evolved into shorthand for different ways people interpret social reality. Today, I'm discussing the blue pill.
Today, I'm focusing on the red pill. Not the label, not the controversy, but the patterns. Because once you see the patterns clearly, you stop listening to claims and start watching outcomes.
All I'm offering is the truth. Nothing more.
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Blue pill represents the default belief system that most men inherit before experience challenges it. It is not rooted in observation. It is rooted in instruction. It is what men are taught to believe about attraction, relationships, and human behavior before they develop awareness to lived experience. The blue pill assumes attraction operates according to fairness. It assumes effort produces selection. It assumes kindness guarantees desire. Because in most areas of life, effort produces results. In school, effort produces good grades. At work, effort produces promotion. In fitness, effort produces progress. The blue pill applies that same model to attraction. Not because men are irrational, but because they were conditioned to believe effort governs outcomes. Women often say they reject the red pill. They describe it as toxic, misogynistic, bitter, or rooted in insecurity. But praxeology doesn't evaluate emotional reactions. It observes behavioral consistency. Because regardless of what people say publicly, behavior continues privately. And behavior reveals the truth.
Ross, what do women really want?
I don't care what they want. I only care what they respond to. See, my focus is a little bit different from your other guests. There's what women say they want, there's what women think they want, and then there's what they actually respond to. I'm not an academic, I'm not a theoretician. I'm interested in what works on the street when it's time to date and mate. And what women actually respond to is not what they say they want.
So, what do they respond to?
They really respond to a guy who's a challenge, a guy who's a question mark, a guy who keeps them guessing. You see, in the beginning, the less attractive you are physically, the more you have to rely on your attitude. And that's what I wrote my book for. I wrote my book for the average-looking, even ugly guy who goes out there in the real world and tries to be a nice guy, gets his head kicked in.
So, no more Mr. Nice Guy.
You can be pleasant. You see, you we we got to define our terms. By nice, I mean accommodating. When you accommodate, you get what the commode gets. You get the crapola.
When Kevin Samuels was alive, he revealed something important. He said that many high-profile men, athletes, entertainers, executives, men with real-world experience, would privately tell him that he was correct. They agreed with the patterns. They recognized the reality. But, they also said they could never say it publicly because they had reputations to maintain. That distinction matters because it reveals the gap between public narrative and private behavioral awareness.
This is a blue-pill black man operating under the just-world fallacy.
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He's convinced that because he's respectful, consistent, and willing to invest his time and money, attraction will eventually follow because in his [music] mind, effort equals reward. He assumes the world is fair. This black man believes loyalty creates attraction. He shows up every time she calls.
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He listens to her problems. He supports her emotionally because he believes that being the best man will eventually make him her man. This is the just-world fallacy.
This belief creates emotional stability. It allows individuals to function in a predictable world. It allows individuals to believe their actions control their outcomes. So, when a man hears modern phrases like apply pressure, he interprets it through his just-world framework.
I'm a single woman. You had your chance. You blew it one time. You thought it over, got a balloon back, and you didn't think that you you to apply pressure? You have to prove yourself. You got to put in a little bit more work. You don't get it just that easy.
He assumes increased effort increases his probability of success. He assumes more investment, more attention, more resources, and more persistence will eventually produce attraction because everywhere else in his life effort produces results. And this conditioning begins early through media, through cultural messaging, through repeated instruction, through phrases like "happy wife, happy life." This phrase teaches men that their role is maintaining female emotional satisfaction. It conditions men to believe that as long as she is emotionally and financially satisfied, the relationship will remain stable. It reinforces compliance behavior. It reinforces accommodation. It reinforces effort-based relational model. Recently, rapper Wale appeared on Club Shay Shay and described a situation where a woman expected him to buy her an expensive designer bag. As he explained why that expectation didn't make sense, he paused and he immediately said, "That sounds kind of red-pilled."
I remember a long time ago I was talking to this one girl and um I don't know, man. I didn't think nothing was going to happen from it, but it was it was whatever. We were on the phone whatever, like third conversation. She talked She brought up a bag. And I'm like, "Oh, you got me confused with one of these that don't got no charisma or no nothing, no conversation." And they just they pay you in bags for your time. Like I know not You know what I'm saying? Like [clears throat] mhm, none of that on this side. And that's what I think that people think it is now. Like these women I not I mean not cuz this is that sound very red-pillish. That sound very red-pillish. That sound very red-pillish. Nah, we ain't doing that. Yeah. But we're saying like like there is this seems to be like a certain standard
of expectation
that like people like like base their whole personality off of. Me, if I like somebody, I'm I'm paying for her like I'm paying for dinner, I'm paying for like
You're You about bags and all that. Girl, you better What do you What do you mean? Like, grocery bag? Like,
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bro, cuz I I I just feel like I got way more to offer than just buying [ __ ] for somebody.
That moment wasn't ideology. It wasn't indoctrination. It was instinct before social conditioning intervenes. But, praxeology doesn't evaluate emotional arguments. It observes outcomes.
You be acting like girls want to do that never got a girl.
That, too.
NOBODY WANTS NOBODY WANTS
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NO FEMALE WANTS TO DO
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YOU FEEL WHAT I'M SAYING? BUT, IT'S LIKE,
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WHAT woman wants a dude that can walk in the party and nobody say nothing?
She knows the future has a complex relationship history. Yet, she's celebrating the fact that he viewed her story. Why? Because his value isn't lowered by his past. [music] It's reinforced by social proof. Others have already validated him.
Another example appears when you ask women a simple question. What do you value most in a man? The answers are kind of predictable. Character, kindness, respect, emotional connection. And those answers sound correct. They sound socially appropriate. They sound virtuous. But, praxeology observes behavior under conditions of actual selection. And that's where you see a gap between stated preference and revealed preference. When attraction is on the line, patterns show up. Height matters. Status matters. Confidence matters. Competence matters. And outcomes reveal priority. The conscious mind can express values, but the subconscious nervous system responds to perceived competence, confidence, and capability. This is not ideology. It's biology. And biology operates without regard for public narrative. Praxeology simply observes the outcome. And modern technology has made these patterns even more visible. Dating applications record behavioral selection in real time. Who receives attention? Who gets ignored? Who gets selected? And who doesn't?
There was a girl a couple months ago who came on this app and told black women to change their race to white so that they could have better dating options. So, I decided to test that theory on my Hinge yesterday. On Hinge, you have the option to hide your race. So, my race before was black, it was hidden, and most of the options on my timeline were drug dealers, scammers, and just frankly men I have no interest in dating. So, I changed my race to white and suddenly suddenly I'm getting Harvard graduates, real estate investors, financial advisers, um football players, black men. I and good-looking. Like I Like where were y'all? But anyway, this is just me saying if you want better options, change your race to white on these dating apps because they take us for a [ __ ] joke.
So, there was this creator on here that said um if you change your Hinge profile race to white or Asian and hide it, that your chances of getting likes on Hinge are significantly increased. And so, I tested that theory last night. I wish I could tag her, but the video is been deleted. But, I tested that theory last night. And sisters, she's not lying.
Am I the only one who saw the video of the young black woman who changed her race on Hinge to get different matches?
Change your race to white or Asian, but hide it. So, when a man sees it
She said it was experimental and it was just to test out the algorithm, but here is why I think this is a bad idea. If someone is intentionally filtering out black women from their dating preferences, why would you want to even match up with them? We need to let go of the desire of wanting to be chose by people who are very loudly not choosing us.
Let me explain what actually happened. It wasn't that Hinge was hiding those black men from you. Those men weren't looking for black women in the first place. Dating apps learn from user behavior. If a man consistently swipes on women outside your race, the algorithm stops showing him women he's unlikely to choose.
These platforms reveal consistent selection patterns, not based on stated preference, but based on actual choice, because behavior cannot lie. Only words can. And this is where confusion often arises. Men who understand these patterns don't announce it. They don't debate it. They don't label it. They simply observe and adapt. They invest where reciprocity exists and withdraw where it doesn't. They move efficiently without explanation because results eliminate the need for argument. And this conditioning is further explained by social learning theory, developed by psychologist Albert Bandura in 1977. Social learning theory explains that human beings learn behavior by observing authority figures, peers, media, and social reinforcement. From childhood, men observe relationship dynamics presented through television, movies, music, and social narratives. They observe persistent male characters eventually winning female attraction. They observe narratives where effort produces attraction. They internalize these behavioral models.
Well, I'm prepared to wait forever if need be. In the meantime, I hope you'll accept this small gift as a little momento of our two glorious weeks together.
Steve, this is really beautiful.
WE'RE NOT MARRIED. WE'RE NOT ENGAGED. WE'RE NOT EVEN DATING, AND WE NEVER WILL BE.
BUT I THOUGHT you'd like
What I like is for you to leave me alone.
Laura, I know I'm not worthy of you, but I just can't help loving you.
Well, since Steve started improving himself, I'm finding myself attracted to him.
Call me.
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Will you marry me? I love you, and I want to marry you.
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This leads into one of the most recognizable blue pill behavioral patterns, playing the long game. A blue pill man believes that time investment increases his probability of selection. He believes continued presence will eventually produce attraction. He believes emotional loyalty will convert into romantic selection. This leads directly into the phenomenon known as the friend zone.
My resume shows My resume shows without the money without without any and I've been there. I've been there even if even if it is sexual, right? Even if it is rooted in sex, I was still there.
You was.
So, that's why it's like yeah, it is it's a little personal. That's why it's like you you looking at this friendship as 5 years and then like the 5 months guy Yeah, I'mma feel a little way. Yeah, I'mma feel a little way. What the [ __ ] Does he know your middle name? Does he know that your mom was sick? Does he know all this [ __ ] No.
The friend zone exists because the man assumes attraction is negotiable. He assumes attraction can be built through effort, through patience, through persistence. Psychology explains why this belief persists even when outcomes contradict expectation. This mechanism is called cognitive dissonance. First described by psychologist Leon Festinger in 1957, cognitive dissonance occurs when reality contradicts belief. When a Blue Pill man invests effort and does not receive the expected outcome, abandoning his belief system will create psychological instability. Instead, he increases effort. He concludes he needs to try harder. He preserves his internal model of reality. This behavior is reinforced by another powerful psychological mechanism known as intermittent reinforcement. Intermittent reinforcement occurs when a behavior produces reward unpredictably. This is the same mechanism used in gambling. A single successful outcome reinforces repeated effort even if the overall success rate is low.
Failure,
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rejection, silence over and over again. But one time it works. And that one success [music] becomes proof that persistence creates attraction. The brain doesn't focus on the 100 failures.
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This is how intermittent reinforcement sustains belief. Most of the time, nothing happens. No reward. [music] No progress.
Thanks again.
But occasionally, there's a result.
The brain anchors to the successful outcome. This reinforces continued participation.
He stayed. Not for weeks, not for months, for years. He believed that loyalty, consistency, and patience would eventually earn him a different outcome because he was taught that effort creates [music] reward. This is the blue pill long game. When it finally happened, it validated everything he believed. Every rejection, every delay, every unanswered moment. [music] That single outcome became proof in his mind that persistence works.
Observers interpret these rare success outcomes as confirmation that persistence works. This is known as survivorship bias. Survivorship bias highlights visible success stories while ignoring invisible failures. Modern social media has amplified these conditioning mechanisms. This conditioning also produces social alignment behavior. Many men publicly align themselves with female perspective to gain approval and social acceptance. Psychologists refer to this as normative social conformity. Individuals align with dominant social narratives to secure social belonging.
Thousands of men can observe the same pattern and say the same thing. But all it takes is one man to contradict them, and his voice becomes the evidence. Not because he's correct, but because he validates the narrative. This man isn't being rewarded for accuracy.
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He's being rewarded for alignment. He gains approval, visibility, acceptance. But approval isn't attraction. It's social permission. And many men learn to trade truth for acceptance.
This produces approval. It produces acceptance. But approval is not identical to attraction. The red pill, as a praxeology, does not instruct men to hate women. It instructs men to observe behavior, understand incentives, and respond to reality, not narrative, because reality enforces its own rules, regardless of opinion. This is why the red pill cannot be canceled. The red pill will never die because it does not depend on agreement. It depends on observation. Attraction has never been democratic. It has always been selective. It has always been responded to competence, capability, confidence, and outcomes. Not opinions, not narratives, outcomes. Men don't adapt based on what they are told. They adapt based on what produces results. Attention is data. Attraction is data. Rejection is data. Reciprocity is data. Men who observe data do not need ideology. They have feedback. This is why every generation eventually arrives at the same conclusions, not because they were taught, but because experience teaches them. Some learn early, some learn late. Some never learn, but reality remains consistent. Because reality does not require belief, only observation. And reality has no public relations department. It simply reveals itself to those who are willing to see. And it is critical to understand that the blue pill exists for a reason. It serves as a structural function in society. Societies require stability. They require cooperation. They require predictable behavioral models. The blue pill provides psychological stability. It allows individuals to function within socially accepted frameworks. It provides emotional structure. It provides predictability. Most men begin here. This is their starting point. This is the default operating system installed through social conditioning, cultural reinforcement, and psychological stabilization mechanisms. Some men eventually update their internal models when enough experimental contradiction accumulates. Psychologists refer to this as schema updating. The brain adjusts its internal model when repeated contradiction overwhelms existing belief, but many men remain in the blue pill operating system permanently because belief provides stability. Belief provides certainty. Belief allows individuals to function without confronting uncertainty. The blue pill is not malicious. It is foundational. It is a baseline belief system that most men inherit. It prioritizes intention over observation, effort over pattern recognition, narrative over outcome. The blue pill allows men to believe that effort controls outcome even when attraction operates under selection because the blue pill provides something more powerful than awareness. It provides certainty. Most men will choose certainty over uncertainty and this is why the blue pill will never die. And that is why red pill will never die. Peace.
All I'm offering is the truth. Nothing more.
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