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It's 7 p.m. FR, it's 95°. I ain't got no and no Ain got me. What is up, ladies and gws? Welcome back to my main channel. If you don't know, I have a second channel here. Check out the Life Formula. Revolutionary journal alert. Be copying it now. Not naming names. Anyways, today we have another manipulation, dark manipulation video. I made a few of these before, and they're not quite as dark as this one today. And I'm also going to give you strategies for realizing if this is happening to you and how to protect yourself like a fortress.
People always click on these videos and they're like, "Oh my God, you're such a bad person for teaching these." And I'm like, "Bro, these are my most popular videos. One, two, you clicked on it. What does that indicate about you?" And also, do with these strategies what you will. I find because I know these strategies, if someone is doing it to me, I know, and then it doesn't really work. So it's good to have this knowledge in your toolkit. So go watch my other psychology videos before you watch this one. If you watch them all, you can watch this one now.
So how can we protect ourselves from these manipulation tactics? Honestly, is to be mentally stable and a little more skeptical of people. It is super hard when we are in an emotionally vulnerable state, including being in love, because we're not even thinking. Our guard is down. And I hate to say it, but you need to have your guard up a little bit, especially if your gut is telling you, "I don't know if I trust this person." And women, I have mainly women on this channel, but I'm sure some men will watch it. Women, we have extremely strong intuition. For example, there was a guy I was dating. This was my karmic, and I really trusted him. I remember there was one moment with him and I said this very much out of the blue. I said, "You know, if you ever lie to me, I'm going to find out because I'm like, God will tell me, the universe will tell me." And he was just kind of like, "What?" And even I was like, "Why did I say that? He hasn't really done anything for me to question him." But there was this little voice in my head that was like, "Something is wrong. Something is off here." Even after I ended things, way, way, way later, you guys, I found out he was lying to me about his identity. And I found out literally because the universe wanted me to. And I'll tell that story another time. Trust your gut. Be skeptical. The rose-tinted lenses need to come off, especially if you are being love-bombed, especially if you know that you're way above someone and you get a sense that they are insecure. You need to be skeptical. I know when we start to get a little skeptical about people, it can make us feel like we can't trust anything in the world. Maybe you're suspicious of everybody around you because I know I can get into states like that as well. Sometimes it's good to have an outside resource person who you can rely on, and that's why I love therapy.
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One, NLP mind insertion, otherwise you can call it embedded comment. Basically, it's where you're implanting a subtle command into a longer sentence, and then the brain pretty much skips over it, but the subconscious will still absorb it as being a directive command. For example, in sales, they may say, "You don't need to decide now, but when you do, say yes. You're going to feel really good." The command is that when you do, say yes. You don't need to decide now. So you're like, "Okay, I don't need to decide now. They're not pressuring me." But when you do, say yes, you're going to feel really good. You might not even realize it, but you're being commanded. It's a mind insertion technique. And it can also work in non-dark ways. For example, if you're doing a hypnosis, your brain sometimes is trying to fight it, like, "I don't want to be hypnotized." And then the hypnotist might say, "You might start to feel something around this point." And then you start to feel something. Someone might use this emotionally to manipulate you. If they want to get something out of you and you don't want to open up, they'll be like, "It's okay. You don't need to open up right now. It's totally up to you. Feel safe opening up when it feels right for you." Do you see what's happening? Again, the pattern. You think you have control. Okay, they're not pressuring me. I'm going to feel safe to open up when I want. But then the command is, "Open up when it feels safe." So the command is still, "Open up."
Number two, semantic collapse. Basically, you can emotionally anchor someone's identity and name to certain words and feelings until they emotionally anchor this to a new meaning. For example, I might say, "Clara, you're so strong. You're so grounded. You're so safe. I love that about you. Like, that's what you are." Meanwhile, Clara might be like the exact opposite. See, this is a positive technique if you use it in that way. But you can also use it negatively. People tend to use this in seduction and also politics.
Number three, neuro-association hijacking. Which is a mouthful, but it essentially means you're pairing your presence with someone else's extremely charged emotional states, whether that is positive or negative. You might only show up when they're extremely sad or extremely depressed, and they're going to associate you with that feeling state and also whatever relief you're providing. For example, if you're showing up when they're depressed and you're making them extremely happy in that moment, they'll become addicted to your presence. They see you as this source of happiness, fulfillment, because you were there in their worst of times. It's used a lot by ad lovers, like a love bomber, abusers who are trying to hijack your emotional state through a cycle of trauma and abuse, and then love, abuse, love. This is also like an intermittent reinforcement schedule. So a lot of these tactics go together. Again, watch my other videos because I've covered this all. You compare this technique with an intermittent reinforcement schedule or phantom pain conditioning, where you're creating such intense highs and such intense lows and you disappear. So love bombers, what do they do? We've all been there. They love bomb you, and then they disappear. And you're like, "What the hello, hello? Can I get some attention? Can I get some love? What happened?" And you're left in a state of confusion, and you just feel like, "I need their presence. I need their presence. You're addicted to it now. What happened?" And they left you in a state of confusion. They might also be like, "I've never felt this way about anyone." And then the next day, they're cold and distant. It's the inconsistency which makes you crave someone next.
The Milton Model, which is conversational hypnosis. It basically again, it bypasses the conscious mind and goes direct to the subconscious. It's language that feels fluid, permissive, and vague. When there is vagueness, your subconscious is going to fill the blanks in. And combined with a calm voice, it can enter you into a trance-like state where you become very susceptible to such manipulation.
The Echo Technique. It's where you're basically repeating what someone's saying, but minorly changing a little bit, and it makes them feel very seen and understood, and it builds subconscious rapport with them. For example, someone might say, "I feel totally alone. Like, no one ever gets me." And then you say, "It's like you're surrounded with people, but you're still totally misunderstood, right?" Something that you can really resonate with. That makes it seem like they have also gone through the same thing and they really understand what you're going through. People do this a lot in interrogation. Therapists use it. See, it's not always used in a manipulative way. Therapists will do that so their clients can reveal more to them and also feel safe and seen in therapy because they need to open up.
Okay, this one is a little nasty, and it's how you can manufacture an identity crisis within someone. A lot of narcissists will use this, and people who are insecure. If you're a confident person, you have a protection around this. Basically, it's when you're subtly breaking down someone's perception of themselves over time and replacing it with a version of them who you think they are. You might not even be true. For example, let's say Kelly is very confident. Kelly is very independent, and she thinks that way of herself. And then you say, "Kelly, I know you think you're so independent, but I see how much you need people." And then Kelly, in the moment, if she's confident, she'll be like, "No, like, what are you saying?" But if you're someone Kelly trusts and you're doing this over time in subtle ways, and maybe also intermittently switching it up with a lot of praise, Kelly's subconscious is going to absorb this, and eventually she's going to start thinking about this. It becomes, it happens in the most subtle of ways. And especially guys, you are prone to manipulation if you are mentally weak or you're mentally ill. For example, I like to think that I'm someone who's confident. I always have been. I'm not really susceptible to manipulation. But when I'm mentally weak, and it's if I'm depressed, it's just, "You're not you. You're not you." For example, I don't have a lot of physical insecurities. I mean, like, I like how I look to the point where if someone ever said, "I'm ugly," I'm going to be like, "You're tripping. Like, I'm not." You might say somewhere like, "You're not my type, fine. But you're ugly." Crazy. When I was depressed, if someone said to me, like, made a minor comment, I would immediately my brain's like, "Oh my God, I'm ugly. I'm ugly. I'm ugly." It's not me. I, because I found this text with my friend yesterday, and when I was depressed, I'm like, "Bro, I need to get so much plastic surgery. I need to do all of this." Because I was so mentally ill that I completely had lost my perception of myself. And you don't even realize it's happening to you until you become your normal self again and you can take a step back in your life. "What the, what the?" If you are mentally ill and you know there is someone around you who's potentially manipulating you, try to distance yourself from them because you are extremely susceptible. And hopefully, knowing these tactics, you can repeat to yourself, "Okay, this is not who I am. What they're saying is not true. They're doing this to me. I can tell."
Isolation and idealization. A narcissist will always use this against you. They try to isolate you from family, from friends, and they position themselves as your only source of pleasure and confidant and any happiness in life. They'll be like, "No one understands you like I do. No one loves you like I do. Why do you still talk to them? They don't support your growth like I do. You're different. You're rare. I see it. I knew how special you are from the day I saw you." What's happening? Dopamine hit. You're also bonding. And if they withdraw this from you, you're going to be like, "How can I get this back?" Cults, gangs, toxic relationships, and even radical influence communities will use it. They'll be like, "Our audience, our community is the best. There is no other community like ours." I'm going to start saying that. There is no other community like the clownery trillionaire gang, am I right? I actually believe that.
Okay, you guys know this one, but I want to put it in here anyway. Future projection. Binding jobs can do this. Toxic jobs will do this. Toxic relationships, love bombers will do this. MLMs, sales scams, memberships. They'll be like, "Imagine us doing this together in the future. Imagine when you're at this position in the company, making this much money. Imagine us in Paris in the fall together. Imagine us with five children in a mansion in New Zealand together." It's locking someone in by projecting vivid future fantasies that haven't even happened yet, but you're still getting that dopamine spike. It makes them emotionally invest into an outcome which has not even happened, and may never happen.
You can also take advantage of someone's very emotional moments by repeating a belief they have so that they can internalize it as their own. A positive one would be if someone's sad and they think they're a terrible person, you can be like, "You've always had a soft heart. Like, you've always been so lovely. Like, people don't understand that deep down, you know you're meant for something more, don't you?" But if someone was manipulative, they might take advantage of that emotional moment and say, "People always leave you, don't they? I won't leave you, though." Because it affirms your subconscious belief that people leave me, and you're like, "But this person won't leave me." And if you can repeat this over time, it will eventually become their own belief.
This one's a little nasty as well. Basically, we're going to cognitively overload them. A lot of toxic relationship men do this. It's called confusion induction. You're just really confusing them. For example, "You're so different from anyone I've met, but you're also like exactly like every girl I've ever met." So you're like, "Oh, what does that mean?" You're cognitively overloaded. When confused, people latch onto certainty, and the certainty will become them. So if they're constantly making these contradictions, rapid changes, unclear languages, they become quite suggestible. And it's also like rapidly shifting between warm, cold, vulnerable, dominant. And you're like, "What state am I going to get next?" And you crave certainty from them. One moment they're here for you, the next moment they're gone. And then they're like, "I will never leave you." And then they leave you. But then you trust them so much, you're just like, "What the?"
Okay, this is known as the double bind trap, where both choices are going to serve the manipulator. And it's similar to a point we talked about earlier on, but I tell you, "Do you want to tell me the truth now or later after you calm down?" So either way, the manipulator is going to get the truth. Whether or not you want to tell the truth is bypassing the conscious as well. "You can either keep sabotaging this or open up and admit you love me." "Are you avoiding this topic because it's hard for you, or are you afraid?" So either way, the manipulator is saying this topic is hard for you and you're scared of it, even though you might not be. It's suggesting something to you. So no matter what answer the person chooses, it's still reinforcing the manipulator's narrative.
Preemptive framing. This is when you're defining in advance how someone should interpret your actions. Avoidance tends to do this. It's not always dark, but if people do this tactics on purpose, then it is dark. So you're going to think, "I'm being distant, but I'm actually just protecting my heart." When actually, that person could just be distant, cheating on you, and you're just like, "Oh, they're protecting their heart. Okay, I understand, my love." Some people might think what I did was manipulative, but I only did it because I care so much. So whenever they do something manipulative, you're going to be like, "They only did it because they care so much." They adopt your story instead of trusting their gut. And the truth is already reframed before it fully lands.
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