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Hi everyone, welcome back. Today I'm going to do a no-contact reading. Someone you are still in love with but not in contact with. Okay, that's too many. But for me, someone wants to talk to you. A lot of messages. Let's just get one before we pick another.
Will you leave me like the others? Your person's got abandonment fears. Okay. You probably did absolutely nothing wrong. They got triggered. Okay, they got triggered. Whatever they did, it was because they were frightened you were going to leave them. So, at some point in their life, they've had a formative relationship, whether it's family or love, that was very, very important to them. It all went south. And although they don't realize it, their subconscious memory remembers. So something happens in their world and they usually leave or they will sabotage the relationship and quite often blame the other person. So let us see. Let's see what else we have got. Okay, just grab this one out from underneath the crystal.
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Okay, runner. There we go. We've got this one bang on, haven't we? Everyone today, we've got a runner. They've got a runner. I don't want to run anymore. Yeah, they've got an abandonment issue. Okay. Will you leave? So, will you leave me like the others? I don't know what got triggered here. Um, it's a general reading. You will know, you know. But they're very sick of running. Okay. Bottom of the deck. Soul contract. Any more, please? Being away from you has allowed me to gain clarity.
Okay. I can hear you saying though they've done it before or you're not sure whether their idea of clarity is your idea of clarity. Okay. Aha. Now, this isn't a critical message, I'm hearing, to tell you that this is what triggered them. Okay? Now, you know, things aren't always true. It's somebody else's perception of their reality. So, your person felt like you didn't care. Now, I'm hearing that that was down to this abandonment issue that they've got. Okay? It was all about them. It was their wound. It got triggered. Um, they could actually be very, very sensitive to criticism. I'm hearing, do they have a a tough or a tough relationship with their mother? Okay. I I feel today there wasn't a very warm bond. I'm not saying it was toxic. It could have been, but there it wasn't a warm bond. Okay? It wasn't a loving—I'm not saying it was horrible, but I feel that your ex is very sensitive to criticism. And I feel that what I'm hearing is if you said no to them, they took that as you didn't care anymore. And I feel you try to explain, look, it's not that I don't care about you. I just don't want to do that. I haven't got time. I haven't got energy. I haven't got money. Whatever the reason. And you know, you must always say no. Always. We're not here and we spend so much of our lives—You know, if I had my time again, if I came with the manual of life, okay, I might ask for that next time I reincarnate. I'm not coming back unless you give me a few pointers. We spend so much time being valid. We want people's validation. Otherwise, we don't feel whole or, you know, we want to feel part of stuff or if we if we don't agree with what other people—Okay. So, you are well within your rights to say no to whatever it was or to spend time on your own doing your own thing.
Okay. I'm almost getting an adult who's got a very childlike demeanor. All right. They took things personally and they were easily triggered. They were easily triggered, I'm hearing, and they they took things personally even even simple things and I I think you found this frustrating. Okay, but the key giveaway here is that they just ran so they weren't they weren't ever going to at that point in time stand back and say oh yeah that's okay if you don't want to do about oh that does that's not working for you let let's leave it you know it's fine because they didn't have that processing capacity in their brain to do that their brain is how the brain works it it scans for whatever it perceives to be a threat and the threat for this person's based on some fear of abandonment and a a cold relationship. Maybe the mother was critical. Someone was critical of your person. Okay. So, when you were asking for some of your needs to be met, and quite rightly so, and don't ever not ask for your needs to be met. I would die on that hill, as they say. Ask for your needs to be met. They are just as valid and as important as anybody else's. And if people walk away and people don't like you, then so be it. Because if you don't, you'll find out years down the line possibly that you have you are drained. Okay, you're drained. So set those boundaries. But that's the problem.
Okay, now they have been doing some reflection. Have they reflected enough though? I keep hearing that. I don't know. I just keep hearing that shadow side. So, yeah, they've been doing some shadow work. You've made me realize my flaws. I don't think you want to go through this again. Okay. You want someone who creates a safe space for you. You know, you don't even want answers. I'm hearing you just want someone who creates a safe space, not someone who bails on you the moment you know you put your hand up and say, "Hey, what about me?" You know, I'm here. This isn't working out for me. Can you help me? And somebody just completely—and you know, sometimes with some people, I mean, you can revise anything. You you can bring any relationship back in. Absolutely any. If you can let go of the past story, change your concept about yourself and live in the end of a new story and see your person in a new light, I guarantee you at some point everything aligns. You don't need to know how. It's amazing how this happens. They will pop back into your life. But also sometimes, you know, it's a lot of effort and sometimes you're done with it. And that's okay also. That's okay also because if this is your reading and this is what you dealt with, it is exhausting because you're talking to another adult who's in an adult body. But they're behaving like a a three-year-old. A three-year-old, you know, who goes and, you know, great. I think three-year-olds, you know, they don't like it. They don't want to do it. You know, all the toys are thrown out the pram literally and off they stomp. But your person's not three. They're not three. And this running they kept doing affected you. You haven't got the energy to nurse-maid them anymore, what I'm hearing. You just haven't got the energy to keep doing this because that upset you and it upset other people around you because you know, correct me if I'm wrong, but there's someone watching this who then started to dim their own personality and their own needs and wants because when you did ask for something, there wasn't just the complete lack of awareness. You could probably go out and come home and they'd gone or they just, you know, they go away for a few days and you didn't know where they were and that upset other people around, not just you, other people in the environment you were in. So you also now you went into this with an open heart but have been left with some trauma bonds because they just kept running again. Bottom of the deck second time it's come up again. Soul tie.
I know my inability to make decisions hurt you. They're not very good at facing things, are they? Self love. I'm still trying to heal. I think they're getting there. Okay. I think they are getting there. I think this is a message. Not are they coming back? Are they going to message? Are they going to do X, Y, and Zed? I'll have a look at the far future. But if this was me and I was reading this for me today, I'd ask myself a question. Do I want this in my life? And if so, is there anything in my self-concept that made this worse? You know, were my boundaries not strong enough? Okay, because it's always great to do self-concept work. It is just changes your life. You you will become magnetic without even trying because you just become very safe in your own core because when someone keeps doing this to you, it it just it just unstabilizes you. You're too, you know, you're too scared to open your mouth because, you know, like I say, you come home and the you know, the suitcases have gone. It's it's it's a crazy crazy situation to live in. But I'd ask yourself that. And if you do, can you let go of the old story and tell a new story, okay? Tell a new story, but also be able to detach from the outcome knowing that it's yours because that's how this universe works. Or have you just done with it? You know, you can cut soul ties, you can cut soul cords. You you you have free will. You have total free will. Anything that you you you know, planned or or schemed before before we get here. Um, you know, sometimes we'll go right off course and you'll find this is how I've realized in my life sometimes spirit I know when my guides have had enough. I know and they'll and then stick me back on on a different path. Okay, but you need to think to yourself, is this what I really want? They are healing. Okay. But they are still trying to heal. So get clear on what you want. If you want this, you tell yourself the story that it's all working out and they've healed and you're the only person in the world for them. You know, you're the chosen one. They love you. Um you're all they think about. They're fully committed. They treat you like a priority. Whatever you want. No desires too big. Realize the power in you. Honestly, no desire is too big. Or you say, you know what? I'm done with this. I'm going to bring something different into my life and go down a different path.
Okay, this energy is still here because someone's watching this who isn't quite sure, which is how most of us are after a breakup. And you know, it's not usually even for a few weeks. And depending on the level of your connection, it can go on for a long time until you finally something changes in you and you do reach a decision. But it's one hell of a journey. And that's usually when people awaken to their own worth and their own inherent value, you know, and you know, I know I've got male viewers as well, but those of you who've got, you know, predominantly feminine female energy, and as women, you know, get older, it's like, you know what? I've done this, this, this, this, and this. I'm not doing this anymore. I'm not doing it anymore. So I I just feel like that's a message today. That's a message today for you. Um, soul contract. This could be you. The lessons that have been learned from us will never be forgotten. Because once if you if this that's it once you get through all of it and it changes you and it's painful and it invokes dark night of the soul, depression, healing and even within yourself wounds that cuz we've all got them that you've buried. They come out not all at once, you know. It doesn't go like this. It usually goes up down soon down up, you know, just it just does. Okay. But, you know, get very clear on what you want with this. Get very clear on what you want. What is this person going to do in the far future? Are they coming back in or are they just going to stay where they are for now? Far future, please.
Yeah, after they are going to—I think I feel with the wheel of fortune they'll come around for another ride on this merry-go-round. Okay, the wheel of fortune is you know it's a yes card is somebody coming back around. Yes, they are. But before that we've got the two of wands. So, for a wee while they're going to be stuck in this energy of just bit paralysis, you know, analysis paralysis. They're not happy where they are. They're not particularly anything. Um, they definitely still have feelings for you and they're looking out thinking what can I do about it? How can I, you know, do something about this? But for a while I feel that they will um just sit where they are. Okay. Until they've made a decision until they've made a decision on what on what they're going to do. But I do feel with that wheel of fortune afterwards that there is going to be progress in this. Um, the interesting thing about this card though, it is a yes card. Someone will come back in. Um, it's a fated card. It's a major arcana. And yeah, I do feel this is a soul contract between you and this person. All right. It was something that it doesn't seem like it at the time. And I know I've been there. I really do. You know, I don't talk about anything that I haven't really experienced myself. This was a fated connection. Okay. Thing with this card as well for me it can often mean that you know one minute you're up on the top there my cat sorry one minute you're on the top it's all going well then it goes down to the bottom it can mean an a relationship that is up and down in and out when it's good my god it's good it's fantastic you're riding high there's nowhere you'd rather be than in that person's arms, but then you just hit a low, you know, and then you don't know where you are, which really does tie in with the these runner cards, you know, and at some point we just all want peace. We can do years of this, years of it. But at some point, we we do just all want peace. So, I'll leave that with you. At some point, once they've got out of this energy, okay? You know, this tells me that in in the future, they they are going to be looking at moving on from where they are, but they're not going to be doing it too quickly because it does mean that someone is a little bit analyzing it. They they need to get a shifty on. you know, there's something more they want with their life, but they're just not moving, okay? That they're weighing up where to put that energy, but it also means that they're restless where they are on what started off as fun, cool, whatever they were doing. It's not. It's It's one of those, you know, it's an energy of a situation where you've gone into something, you think, "God, this is amazing. Oh, you know, usually like me with one of my new hobbies, um, go and do this forever." You know, you get all the you get all the kit and you're there. Yeah, this is it. I'm literally now going to be the next javelin thrower for the UK, whatever. And then it wears off and you think, "No, this isn't really for me." And it's the same in love. That's the analogy. Okay? So, they will be back at some point. You get to choose as you always do. So, I leave that with you. Remember who you are. Set those boundaries. And if this is for you, this reading, keep setting them. You know, if you've had someone who who was in this energy, you might find it difficult because all of this will have reprogrammed your your neurons in your brain. Just keep doing it. Take a deep breath. Tell yourself you're safe. You're okay. You're secure. You're safe. And you're loved. Do some mirror work. Take a deep breath. Deep breath and say, "I am safe. No, I don't want to do that. Thank you." Okay. And then just keep repeating it. It'll just calm your nervous system down because, you know, almost guarantee that there's one person watching this who's had their nervous system fried by this relationship. All right. Um, yeah, we've got actually I'm going with Leo, Aquarius, Leo, Aquarius, and Scorpio today. All right. So, leave it with you anyway. Take good care. Remember who you are. Big hugs to yourself. Also, if you feel anxious, just do that as well. That's good. I'll leave you to it anyway. I'll speak to you all soon. I love you so much. Take care and just keep remembering you've got this. Okay. Loads of love. Bye.