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What's up everyone? Welcome back to No Filter Dose. Today we've got a 27-year-old Canadian caller who says her outlook on dating is totally different from the women Kevin usually talks to in the US. Right away, that's interesting because culture does shape expectations. But watch how Kevin brings it back. No matter where you're from, men and women still face the same biological clock, the same supply and demand in relationships. Let's get into it.
>> You're 27. You said you have a lot of opinions.
>> Yeah. I just feel like sometimes I watch and I just have very different opinions from what's on what's being said here. So, I feel like I could uh give a different opinion maybe.
>> Well, what is your opinion based in?
>> My own experiences? Maybe different uh upbringing. I'm Canadian, so I think a lot of the people that you've had on are also American, so it could be a little bit different out here.
>> What are some of the opinions that are different? The way women have perceived dating from what I've seen in your lives or the expectations that they have.
>> Go ahead. What do you mean?
>> Well, I mean, you have to you have to pick a subject more specifically.
>> No, you pick. Do you have a disagreement?
>> Um, off the top of my head, uh, there were a few, but you know, like for example, like right now, you're talking about renting a husband.
>> Rent agent.
>> Mhm.
>> Yeah. So,
>> You're talking about a business that actually exists.
>> Yeah. I I've I've heard about it and I mean a version of it, but your your thought process is that women over the age of 36 would have to rent a husband or die alone because they're what not available to men anymore because they're in the 36 to 60 bracket.
>> Is that what I said?
>> Well, I just don't understand. Like I'm asking for like clarification.
>> If you can't find the question was very simple. See, let's let's do this. I asked a very simple question. Ladies, if you can't find a husband, are you prepared to hire a husband or buy one?
>> Right?
>> So, if you can't h if you can't find one, what's then what?
>> Well, why is okay? So, let's say why can't you find husband? What if I
>> You can't you can't you can't it doesn't matter. See, that's the point. See, I've already addressed that. See, you ladies always want to go back and and ask questions that are irrelevant. You can't find one. Go forward from there. Then what?
>> Find other ways to make yourself happy. Find other love in your life. Find something else to focus on.
>> So platonic. So platonic marriage like they had on the cover of New York Times.
>> Why does it have to be platonic?
>> Excuse me. You know what platonic marriage is?
>> Yeah. Yeah.
>> What is it?
>> Women marrying women.
>> Like a friend, someone you don't have sexual relations with.
>> Women women marrying women is what they're talking about. Uh uh what is it? Compound living. Ma'am, this is not this is not this is this is on the cover of this is an article in New York Times two weeks ago.
>> No, I believe you.
>> So So are you saying that women just live solo by themselves for the rest of their lives?
>> I mean there's been a lot of successful happy
>> Most women don't most the women who come the women who come to this channel want relationship.
>> And I totally agree with you. That's why
>> So so if they don't if they can't find a husband and they want a companion
>> Yeah.
>> What's the alternative?
>> To get a man? No. They can't find a husband. That means the kind of See, you don't see I don't think you get it.
>> No, I get what you're saying. So I I
>> You can't find a husband. That means you can't find another man.
>> Okay. Can't find a husband. Could be for several reason, right? Maybe you have
>> Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. I understand.
>> Doesn't matter. No man.
>> No man. No man. But no man what? Not even. You don't You can't find someone to hook up with you. It's pretty easy as a
>> Nothing. Zero. Okay. I mean, yeah. I guess marry your friends if that's the case. If that's if that if you're
>> Does that mean that mean that's still Are you talking about a man? Is that a is that your friend is a female?
>> Well, I mean if you're saying platonic relationship would have
>> You're not the question. See, this is part of the problem. Women have been made to think that men are an inexhaustible fuel source and that's not true.
>> Okay.
>> Look at look at women over 55. Halle Berry complaining she can't find a man. The most beautiful woman three times in a row. And I'm talking to a woman right now who cannot even conceive of a world to where there are no men options that a woman can get. No no no no no friends, no hookup, no nothing. The only if you can't find a husband or a man, the only way to get a man would be through this renerent bias situation. Would you do it? See, men can answer that question and say, "Yeah, because that's what we've always had to do." But women think men are free.
>> That's a good point. And I I don't disagree with like the logic there. I do think that probably that's how people are thinking. I just think that renting somebody as a companion is just like something that maybe is not the norm. And which is why it's something that
>> Sure, it is.
>> Okay. Maybe not in my world.
>> It's called prostitution.
>> Okay. But that's not politic.
>> Excuse me, ma'am. Prostitution is known as otherwise known as the world's oldest what?
>> Yeah, but that's not platonic.
>> No, no, answer the question. No, no, no, no, no. It's otherwise known as the world's oldest what?
>> I have no idea.
>> Profession.
>> Okay.
>> The first original business, meaning I get Listen, this is the been the oldest exchange. I give you food, you give me sex.
>> Yeah.
>> It's always been that way.
This moment shocks people. Kevin compares renting a husband to prostitution. And here's the deeper point. He's not just talking about sex for money. He's saying relationships have always involved in exchange. Historically, women offered exclusivity, fertility, companionship. Men offered resources, protection, stability. Today, many reject that exchange. But when it breaks down, people end up paying directly for what they used to get in a relationship. That's why Kevin draws the comparison to show that modern women think men are infinite when in reality scarcity makes even companionship transactional.
>> So listen, listen. No, no, no. Because you you say it's unusual. It's unusual for women to have to pipe penis is what's unusual.
>> Okay. So the only thing that's different from what you just said because I think that there was some misunderstanding there. You said if you were renting your husband, you would be renting him platonically, not for sex.
>> No, no, you don't get sex automatically because and I'll tell you why.
>> Well, that doesn't mean it won't Okay, ma'am. You want to seem to split hairs instead of talk about the general damn subject. Can we talk about the the middle part? Don't give me the tangental point. You have not talked about the subject yet. Well, women because see if I said, "Hey guys, if you can't find a woman, you can't find a wife, would you be willing to rent a woman?" And guys are like, "Yeah, it's called prostitution." The thing about the hugging services where women are being paid to go over and provide the girlfriend experience, you know, these things exist. They exist in Canada. But see, what you can't conceive of is the opposite. Where women have to do it. That's what we're talking about.
>> Okay?
>> Because like it or not, at how old are you?
>> 27.
>> 27. 10 years from now, if you're still unmarried, no children, and no prospects, then what?
>> I don't think that would be something I personally would consider. That's just me as a person. I I think that I'd find other ways.
>> Yeah, you
>> To make myself happy. But I understand what you're saying.
>> The other way, the other way is buy a dog, die alone.
>> Die alone.
>> Or see what we're getting to is the fundamental disconnect in relationships. Women, modern women have so broken the relationship contract, the social contract between men. Now you're having to you're actually having to do what men are doing to get women. See, what women used to do to get a man was just have a low body count, no kids.
>> And if you give me exclusive access to your body in your womb, I'll give you my exclusive access to my resources and my nonsexual attention. But now women can make choices. Well, if you can't get somebody to marry that and you want somebody to grow old with and you can't find them, you got to rent them.
>> Can I ask you a question?
>> Sure.
>> So, let's say this hypo hypothetical goal of 36-y old woman who can't find a man.
>> No, she's 40. We're going to put in her 40s.
>> Oh, we're putting in her 40s. Okay.
>> Because 36 cuz 36 they still feel young. That's That's why I said 36 to 60. Yeah.
>> Let's make her 45. Yeah.
>> No kids. She's single. Never been married. Whatever you want. Whatever background situation and she can't find a man that she is ready, willing, and able to settle down with you. If she does, let's say, wasn't comfortable renting a man, why is it in your opinion that she can't, let's say, work on whatever it is that's making her unattractive to men for
>> Because she's out of time.
>> She So 45
>> 45 she's The answer is she's running out of time. If she has
>> Biologically Wait, I didn't finish my question. Because she's running out of time biologically to have children, right?
>> No, that's over.
>> Yeah. Yeah. So, maybe that's not her thing. Maybe she just wants a man like as a partner. But why are there no single 45 to 60 year old men that she can ballpark with, like go into that ballpark with? Why does she have to date someone?
>> You want the answer? You want the answer?
>> Yeah.
>> Because what it what what this question belongs is a women that you ladies don't understand men. If she's 45 and all these things, attractive or whatever, whatever, and if she hasn't been able to find a man at the peak of her hotness, she hasn't figured out what's wrong with her at 45. If she's just now starting to figure it out, it's likely too late to correct it.
>> Okay, that's that's a fair point.
This is harsh, but worth unpacking. Kevin says, "If a woman waits until 45 to figure it out, it's too late to correct course." Why? Because men in their 40s with options don't usually want women in their 40s. They go younger and that means the pool for her shrinks drastically. What he's really saying is that by the time you recognize the mistakes or patterns that held you back, the market is already shifted and the chances of turning things around are slim. That's why this part hits so hard. The window doesn't stay open forever.
>> Right? And there is not a lot of time for women to fix what's wrong and still find men uh on a suitable level. See, at least this scenario, you can actually rent a guy on the level you want to and pretend. See, men have always had to do that. And see, you ladies and in Korea, Japan, Canada, Australia, the UK, birthrights are falling.
>> Right?
>> Dating in Canada, y'all are y'all are fooked. Why?
>> Uh it's a liberal it's a liberal feminist paradise and men are just tired of it.
>> Okay.
>> I mean at 36 or 37 years old, you know, 60 70 years ago, you'd have been married, had two or three kids by now and been on the way possibly being a grandmother.
>> Yeah. At at that age, I could see that that's very true. I just I guess for me was more difficult to swallow the idea of either you rent a husband or you die alone. Like I feel like that's just very two very big extremes.
>> She hears rent a husband or die alone as extreme. But Kevin's point is that by your 40s the middle ground disappears. Options shrink and what feels like punishment is really just consequence.
>> Well, if you can't Okay. In the black community, one out of four black women will marry. What does that mean? The other three, the three that don't marry, what does that mean they're going to do? You tell me.
>> No. No. If one out of four black women will marry in their lifetime, the three out of four women that don't marry in their lifetime, they're going to die. What?
>> Okay, I guess alone or, you know, could be in just not married. Maybe they're in a relationship.
>> Alone. Unmarried means alone.
>> How we keep score?
>> Okay. Where in the world? Where in the world can women live and exist individually by themselves and survive without the help of the group?
>> So like codependency.
>> No, you're not meant to be alone on the planet. You need the group. You need a man. That's the point.
>> Yeah. No, I
>> And the and the and the whole and here's the problem. Why it seems to be such an issue is because how extreme it sound. It almost seems punitive. Yeah, it does.
>> Because it is.
>> Okay, that's the point.
>> It is meant to be punitive. You didn't you you couldn't buy you couldn't get a man during your sexual marketplace value when it was the highest. You've chosen to do whatever whatever you mismanage your hot years. Now you got to buy it. Men accept the punitive measure. See, if a man is physically unattractive, has no game, whatever, we understand that we got to go out and get resources and pay for it. That's punitive, too, right?
>> Yeah. But don't you find that there's always that one like guy that you're describing right there that somehow ends up with the girl because maybe
>> I don't give a [ __ ] about that. That's the problem. Y'all haven't seen too many of these Disney movies. Go to a go to a go to the best strip clubs in your area on a Friday or Saturday night and look at all those hot women and look at all the guys in the audience. They're not hot guys. They're guys who realize in order to get some time with her, I got to give her some money. And guys do that. But you probably have 100 strip clubs for men and for every one strip club you have for women because women think penis is free. It's not. It's only free uh to a certain age.
>> Right.
>> Renogen exists for a reason.
>> Okay. I I get your point. I don't think everything you're saying is wrong. I guess I I guess the punitive nature of it is not what I'm used to look how the way I look at the world. But you're you're
>> 30 you're 37. But tell me how you look at it. or 36. 27, I'm sorry. Tell me how you look at the Tell me Tell me how you look at the world at at age 52, unmarried with no children.
>> Yeah, if that's the case, maybe I'll look at it the way that you do. But
>> Are your mother and father married?
>> Yes, they are.
>> All right. How How long they been married?
>> 30 years.
>> Uhhuh. So, what age did your mom get married?
>> She was 29.
>> 29. So, uh, are you seeing anybody?
>> Yes, I am.
>> Okay, then don't blow it. Yeah, I'll try.
>> Because you don't want to end up being out here at 50 years old or 45 trying to rent a gent saying that guy tried to tell me all those years ago. Damn it, I just should have stayed in it. Because I've asked this question to women, too. Ladies, if you knew now that the guy the last guy you broke up with would have been your last guy ever you'd have gotten in life, would you have worked harder? And every woman has told me, "Yeah." That means ladies think that men are inexhaustible. And that's just not true. But good conversation. We'll get on to the next one. Appreciate it.
>> I think I think it's fair. I think a lot of women don't realize, yes, it is punitive.
This call shows exactly why Kevin's content hit so hard. The caller wanted to believe there are endless ways to find happiness if marriage doesn't happen. Kevin forced her to confront the reality that men are not an infinite resource and that time punishes indecision. It's uncomfortable. It feels harsh, but it's the truth many don't want to face. And listen, if you value Kevin's message, make sure you also support his original channel. His words need to stay alive because these conversations still matter today. And if you're new here, hit that like button, subscribe, and tell me in the comments. See you in the next video.