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We've all been there, right? When you like someone, but you aren't quite sure what to do with the attraction you feel and how to make it mutual. Or, our guess is, if you click this video, you're probably grappling with the same dilemma right now.
Luckily for us, psychology is here to help. Although there's no foolproof strategy for flirting and seduction, there are certain things we can do that have been proven to make us more attractive and attract our crush's attention. So, with that said, here are six things you can do to turn your crush on, according to experts.
One: Nonverbal flirting. Non-verbal behavior is the most crucial component of effective flirting. So, try to make eye contact with your crush, touch them accidentally, or open up your body language to them. Sustained eye contact is not only a good way to express your romantic interest in someone; it may even enhance their feelings for you too. And touching them casually and appropriately has been proven to increase your chances at success with them as well. For example, you can brush your hand lightly against theirs while walking beside them, or graze your fingers against theirs when you're handing them something, and maybe lingering for a moment.
Two: Sense of humor. A good sense of humor is often overlooked, but it can be a significant turn-on for many people. Being able to make your crush laugh with witty remarks, clever jokes, or playful banter can create a strong attraction. This is because having a great sense of humor is an indication of intelligence and can make a person more infatuated with you. So, next time you're with your crush, don't be afraid to crack a few jokes around them, show off your wit, and throw your head back in laughter.
Three: Intellectual stimulation. You probably have all their interests listed at the top of your fingertips, right? But sometimes, it's not enough for your crush to be physically attracted to you; you need to be intellectually stimulating too. So, engage them in deep conversations and discuss thought-provoking topics you know they'll be interested in. This will flaunt not only your intelligence but also your curiosity and knowledge. Being a great conversationalist will captivate their interest and strengthen the connection between you, says psychotherapist I.M. Low. It also helps to be an active listener and show interest when they're talking by asking follow-up questions.
Four: Emotional intelligence. Next is emotional intelligence. Demonstrating to your crush that you have good emotional intelligence is an often overlooked but very effective turn-on. Why? That's because for people who are looking for something more serious than a casual fling or hookup, they know they need a partner who knows how to understand and regulate their own emotions, be perceptive of and empathetic towards other people's feelings, and connect with them on a deeper level.
Five: Uniqueness and authenticity. As cliché as it may seem, it really is important that you be yourself around your crush. Being confident in who you are and embracing your uniqueness can be an incredible turn-on. So, don't be afraid to voice out your thoughts and pursue what you're passionate about, even if no one else may understand. What matters most is that you are authentically yourself and you don't sacrifice that just because you like someone or want to impress other people.
Six: Socializing with their friends. Next, if you can show your crush that you know how to get along with their friends, it'll surely make you all the more attractive to them and turn them on. This is an example of what Vanessa Van Edwards, founder of The Science of People, calls committing to total engagement. That is, making an effort to be memorable not only to your crush but to the people around them as well. This might mean hanging out with their friends, acting playfully and joking around with them, and so on. So, when your crush sees that you've already won their friends over, it'll make you seem more likable and alluring.
And number seven: Making the first move. Last but certainly not least, if you want to turn your crush on, why not make the first move? We know it can be scary, but telling a crush that you like them often leads them to reciprocate your feelings to some extent. At the very least, it'll make you seem bold and confident. And regardless of whether you're the man or the woman, being open enough to communicate your true feelings and intentions without any expectations on the other person is a gesture anyone can appreciate. Being clear, sincere, and taking charge of your situation is definitely going to be a green flag to them and may even turn your crush on if they return your feelings.
So, what are your thoughts on this video? Did it give you any new ideas about things you can try with your crush? Remember, everyone is different, and what turns one person on may not have the same effect on someone else. It's important to get to know your crush as an individual and understand their preferences and boundaries. Let us know in the comments down below: what are some of your personal tips and tricks for turning your crush on?