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Hello. No, no afternoon, no hello. If you don't speak Spanish, you're leaving at the next word. Okay. Okay. There are many foreigners who don't want to confess that in a certain part they are getting tired of Mexico. There is a romantic life that they paint for you on social media, and foreigners arrive in Mexico, they stay for a few weeks, a few months, they said, "I'm going to stay here." They come to live in Mexico, and that's where the problems begin. And that's what I want to talk about in this video. News of protests, news of gentrification, life is very expensive in many parts of Mexico. Let's say that foreigners, and depending on where we are from, we are either welcome or not welcome. In Mexico, over the years, I believe that every country has its influence from foreign parts. There are foreigners who marked the course of Mexico, and because of foreigners, Mexico is what it is today. But nowadays everything is much more international, everything is smaller, we are all just one step away from seeing everything that is happening in the world. So, everything becomes more international. There is a massive arrival of foreigners to Mexico, and there are many points that foreigners will not admit to you, but they struggle a lot with life in Mexico. For example, the first point, there is a massive clash with the reality that one faces living in Mexico. There are people who arrive in Mexico and think they will be able to live the life they have always lived in their country of origin. They arrive for just a few weeks as tourists in Mexico, enchanted by the beach, they see the cities, the museums, and wow, everything is cheaper, very beautiful, warm, hot, the people are very friendly, etc. And they decide, you know what? Let's move to Mexico. In fact, so many people who arrived for 6 months wanted to stay here, and in the end, they were disappointed. It's one thing to arrive as a tourist, it's another thing to arrive to live. In many regions, there is a super extreme climate. I live in Monterrey, I'm not at my house right now. The climate here is super pleasant, all of that, but if not, I lived most of my life in Monterrey all the time without air conditioning, just a fan at night because the heat was extreme, and then, unfortunately, many foreigners don't want to come to live in Mexico, they want to come to live in their gentrified areas, in nice areas where it's comfortable, full of foreigners, and very expensive. So, many foreigners come to live here and truly never know life as it is in Mexico. And then many don't take into account that, for example, medical care here is very different than in other countries, that the traffic here is very different, that the distances here are very different, the reality of life is very different, and over the years, when a foreigner comes to live here, they see it and are not prepared to live that, right? If not, if they don't open their heart, if they don't open their mind to live here, they will hardly be able to be happy. There are many things that foreigners face in Mexico, that similarly, a Mexican abroad faces the same things. So, it's any foreigner in any country where they are going to be. But one reality that I did realize is that if a foreigner opens their mind, opens their heart, and decides to live here, when they return to their country of origin, wow, it is super difficult for them to adapt because they adopted a new reality in the country that received them. Okay, look, I am German, and if there's one German thing, it's that Germans are not proud of our own country because of all the history that you know. So, if you are proud of your own country, you are already considered almost like a Nazi. And that is a big, big problem. But on the other hand, that's why it's very easy for Germans to go to another country and adapt and be proud of something that isn't ours. We have never learned that. Hey, why don't you scan this code? Send me a message, a WhatsApp to this number, and that way I'll add you to my community. We can stay in touch. I'll be waiting for you at this number. And well, these are the tremendous cultural differences that exist between, for example, another country and Mexico. One thing, for example, is the sense of family. Here there is much more coexistence. Here you go to a workplace, and you know that people gossip, people are doing different things to avoid working, and somehow they still work, the job still gets done because it has to get done, but in Germany, you go to work, yes, you have breaks, you have rest, but mostly people arrive at work to fulfill their duties. A very negative thing about Germany, for example, is that they constantly have meetings, meetings, meetings, meetings, just meetings, with no results. Here, coexistence among friends and family is much more important, and in Germany, it's only done in free time. And well, if we talk about meetings in Germany, we are direct, we get to the point, etc., etc. In Mexico, everything is a little softer. I realized that you can't directly say no, because you have to be careful how you speak so as not to offend, but also to be able to understand later when someone wants to tell you no. Without saying no, it's an art. Personally, I told you in other videos, it's one of the things that direct communication costs me the most, not seeming offensive when I never am, but it's a very, very big cultural difference. And well, there are people who accept it, embrace it, see it, are aware of it, as I try to learn it, but there are other people who are simply as they are because that's how they are, because that's how it is, because that's how they always were, and they don't accept the way other people are, whether in Mexico or in other countries, and they struggle a lot to adapt to a different culture and start complaining about how they work here without wanting to understand why it is that way. And well, add to that, the indirectness, the gossip, the Mexican double meaning. A foreigner with that won't get by, they won't understand it unless they truly learn the language and the culture of Mexicans. So, here's the third point, one we had already discussed: the understanding of time, the different perception of time. "Right now." What does "right now" mean? The magic word they use so much in Mexico because in Germany, a person is accustomed to a certain hour, to a certain hour, that's how it will be done, etc. And well, I mean, many people, I feel like they get annoyed, I think I've learned to deal with that, to understand how that works, and many times, and you've seen it in that video too, "I'm going," "I'll be right back," "I'll call you right now," "I'll do it right now." One gets used to it. And well, then there are many situations where a German would be super stressed if something doesn't go out, if it doesn't work, if it's not the way they imagine it. And I feel that in Mexico, it's much more improvised, more spontaneous, calmer, more relaxed. And I also said that in the last video about learning to relax, not to take things so seriously, but to worry about what really matters and what I can really influence. Sorry, I received a message from Pris saying her legs hurt because we exercised yesterday. And well, let me tell you another point because I think many foreigners get tired of living in Mexico. Hey, did you know I have my private community both on WhatsApp and Patreon? Here with this QR code or with the link below the video, you can enter an exclusive community where I post things, videos, discuss topics that I don't discuss here because I consider them not for the ears of all the public, of all of YouTube. So, if you are interested in knowing more about culture, business, family, Germany, Mexico, from another perspective, I invite you to my Patreon. They never truly know the reality of living in Mexico because they live in exclusive areas, behind walls, with security, areas of only expats. They never learn to speak Spanish. If you don't speak Spanish, you leave. So, you speak Spanish or you leave. Are you understanding me? I believe that. In Germany, if a foreigner arrives in Germany, they have to learn German for them to be given a visa and live in Germany. I think that's something very, very good. I consider that. A foreigner who arrives in any country should learn and know the local language. And well, many later learn Spanish from a certain region only. Like, "gey," they're talking like that, with their mouth full. They only stay with one part of the country. They never truly know the country in depth because many, well, they aren't even interested in studying history. And on the other hand, there are many foreigners who are very interested in history because, well, honestly, there's this thing where friends from Germany have told me, "Wow, you live in Mexico." "Wow, I love Mexico, I really liked Cancun." Cancun is indeed Mexico, but Cancun alone represents all of Mexico for us to know. And well, in general, I think what many people love, but a foreigner should not compare Mexico with their home country because obviously it's a totally different country. Mexico has its own things, and if one doesn't learn to love what's here, doesn't learn to live with what's here and how it is here, they will be unhappy, they will be very desperate and frustrated living like this. No matter how much they try to immerse themselves in their community, no matter how much they try to immerse themselves in their community of foreigners, wherever it may be. And well, I think that in the long run, a foreigner can get very bored if they don't integrate into the local life, the cultural life as it is. And that also happens with many people in Germany. And well, another point why I think many foreigners struggle to live in Mexico is because there is a certain nostalgia for their country of origin, because the same food doesn't exist, because they miss the climate, they miss the flavors, they miss the rhythm, they miss many things that exist in their country of origin. Similarly, many Mexicans in Germany experience the same thing, they only focus on the food, there are no tortillas in Germany. I often love to buy myself a nice cold German beer and enjoy it, and I still owe you the video about Mexican beer, and in general, I think it's very different to see from one side the life of an influencer, of someone who travels through a country and makes a beautiful video, and from the other side, to see the reality after living in Mexico for many years, which is not as they painted it in a YouTube video. When you are on vacation, and you saw a video, you say, "Wow, Mexico is very beautiful, it's very nice." But if you come to live in a country for many years, you see the harsh reality. There are even many people who have told me, "Wow, I love Germany." I went, I really loved Germany. I said, "Wow, when did you go?" I went last year in May, I loved it, it's very beautiful. And I told them, go from January to March, 3 months of more cold, and see if you like it, because the harsh reality of living in a country is very different from visiting it for just three weeks to see it, or even a week to see it as most beautiful and nice. In short, how can we conclude this money? There are foreigners who get tired in Mexico. I have met people who have been here for 2 or 3 years and return because they can't take it anymore. But the majority of people who come to this beautiful country stay to live here, learn to live here, they love it, and they stay. Look, I arrived 13 years ago, and I'm still here. Many people have told me, "Let's see how long you last." And then they return. Security? Well, look, how many years have I lasted, and here I am. I've gained weight here. I've met my family, my wife, all of that. I'm happy here. So, why would I leave? If foreigners get tired, I don't know. I like living here, despite all the problems, despite all the difficulties that undoubtedly do exist, but why would I complain? Let's always look at the positive, move forward. I'll see you on WhatsApp, I'll see you on Patreon, and in the next video. A hug, take care.