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If you watched my previous videos, then you know, I talked about basic NLP influence techniques, reading body language, facial microexpressions. That was kindergarten. Today I will share information of another level. The kind that cannot be found in popular books, the kind that is studied in closed trainings for, let's say, people of special professions. I warn you right away: watch until the end. Not because I need views, but because at the end of each technique, I will tell you how to protect yourself from it. Without this knowledge, you will become an ideal victim, you will see manipulation, but you will not be able to resist it. It's like knowing that you are being aimed at, but not knowing how to dodge. In the next 15 minutes, you will learn why some people can predict your thoughts and feelings with frightening accuracy. How can one person change your brain chemistry just by alternating warmth and cold in communication? Why do elite negotiators use words that don't exist? And four more techniques that I honestly don't want to talk about, but I will. Final warning. This information will change how you see people forever. If you are not ready, close the video now. Still here? Then let's start with an experiment that revolutionized my understanding of influence. In 1973, in the basement of Stanford University, an experiment was conducted that they don't like to recall. Not Zimbardo's prison experiment, another one. A group of researchers studied how one person could completely change another's perception of reality using only words. The results were so effective that the research was classified. Today I will talk about seven influence techniques that you will not find in popular psychology books. This is not NLP, not manipulations from women's magazines. These are methods that work at the level of basic perception mechanisms. And yes, I will show you how to protect yourself from them, because one day they might be applied to you. Technique one. The Barnum-Forer effect. Everyone knows the Barnum effect, when general phrases seem personal. You sometimes doubt your decisions. Of course, who doesn't doubt, but there is an inverse technique, and it is many times more powerful. Imagine you are at a business meeting. Your interlocutor casually remarks: "It's interesting, you probably wake up around 3 AM, maybe at 3:17 or 3:23 you freeze. How does he know? You really often wake up at this exact time." He continues. And you probably feel a slight tingling in your left shoulder when you're nervous. Again, spot on. How does it work? The secret is that there are universal physiological patterns that people don't realize. Most people wake up between 3 and 4 AM. This is related to the cortisol cycle. The left shoulder tenses during stress in 70% of right-handed people. It's a feature of innervation. But you don't know this. To you, it looks like mind reading. A person using this technique studies statistics of unusual but common phenomena, and then presents them as unique knowledge specifically about you. You sometimes feel a metallic taste in your mouth before important decisions, don't you? When you get angry, the tip of your ring finger goes numb. After three or four hits, a person is ready to believe anything. You are no longer just an interlocutor. You are someone who sees through them. A real case. A Moscow business coach used this technique in negotiations. In 2 years, he closed contracts worth 400 million rubles. His clients were convinced that he possessed supernatural insight. How to protect yourself? Remember, any unique observation about you, with a 70% probability, applies to most people. Check, ask your friends. You will be surprised how ordinary you are in your unique manifestations. Technique two. Emotional contrast bath. This method comes from the practices of training elite influence agents, not spies, people who can convince anyone of anything. It works like this. First meeting. You are charming, attentive. The person feels like the most interesting person in the world. Second meeting. You are cold, detached, answer monosyllabically. Third. Warm again, but not like the first time, a little less. Fourth – icy cold. What happens to the person? Their brain enters reward-seeking mode. Remember Pavlov's dogs? The same mechanism, only instead of food, it's emotional warmth. After the fifth-sixth meeting, the person starts to adjust, look for reasons for the coldness, try to earn the warmth. A recent 2019 study showed that people subjected to this technique were four times more likely to agree to unfavorable offers just to regain favor. The scariest part is that the victim thinks the problem is with them. I did something wrong. I need to try harder. No, this is a program, and you are a lab rat in it. Signs that this technique is being used on you are sharp changes in attitude for no apparent reason. You constantly wonder what mood the person will be in. You feel relief from ordinary politeness, you start to earn good relations. Harsh, yes, effective, damn it. One French politician used this technique with his team for 15 years. The result: the most loyal team in the history of the Fifth Republic and the unhappiest. Technique three. Semantic saturation in reverse. Do you know what happens when you repeat one word many times? It loses its meaning, becomes a set of sounds. Now imagine the opposite. You hear a word that doesn't exist, but it sounds significant, weighty. Your project has signs of quasi-reverse entropy. Your approach feels latent synergy. This solution has a high degree of promiscuous validity. What did you feel? Confusion, a desire to understand, your brain frantically searches for meaning and finds it. It creates it itself from the context, the intonation, your expectations. In a week, you will be sure you understood. Moreover, you will start using these terms yourself. 2021 experiment. A group of managers was presented with a new management methodology consisting of 60% made-up terms. After a month, 85% not only mastered the methodology but also taught it to others. The technique works because we are afraid of looking stupid. If an intelligent person uses an incomprehensible word, the problem is with me, not the word. Masters of this technique create entire lexical systems, surround the victim with a new language, and the person, to avoid falling out of the circle of those who understand, begins to think in these terms. Cults work this way. Business gurus, coaches. Your problem is insufficient work on quantum goals. You need to synchronize your inner frequency with the frequency of abundance. Funny. But millions pay money for this. How to recognize it? Ask for a definition of the term. If in response you hear even more incomprehensible words, you are dealing with a semantic manipulator. Technique four. False synchronization method. You know about mirroring. Repeat your interlocutor's gestures, and they will feel sympathy. Kindergarten. False synchronization is mirroring for black belts. You copy micro-movements with a 2-3 second delay, but with a slight lead in amplitude. The interlocutor leans slightly forward. After 2 seconds, you lean slightly more. They lean back in their chair. You lean back even further. What happens in their brain? An ancient program. This person is doing the same thing as me, but more decisively. He is the pack leader. The subconscious does not analyze the delay, it sees the pattern. Your movement is bigger, more confident, which means you are leading. After 20 minutes of such conversation, the person begins to unconsciously follow you, copy your gestures, agree with your ideas. In 2018, a group of Harvard negotiators conducted an experiment. One group used regular mirroring, the other – false synchronization. The result: the second group achieved agreement in 73% of cases, the first in thirty-three. But there's a nuance. The technique only works with people who are used to leading themselves, leaders, alphas. Why? Because they don't expect anyone to lead them. Their defenses are down. One venture investor said: "I realized something was wrong only when I was signing the check. Throughout the conversation, I was sure I was making the decision myself. But if you rewind the recording, I was following his every move as if hypnotized." Technique five. Temporal anchoring technique. Your brain is a pattern-finding machine. It constantly looks for patterns and finds them even where they don't exist. This is what the temporal anchoring technique exploits. Imagine, a person calls you only on Tuesdays around 3:00 PM, says something pleasant, praises, supports. Thursdays, 7:00 PM. Criticism, doubts, questions. Monday, morning, neutral work questions. After 2 months, your state begins to change on schedule. Tuesday 2:50 PM – anticipation. Thursday 6:45 PM – anxiety. You don't even realize the connection, you just feel certain emotions at certain times for some reason. Now for the trick. The person changes the pattern, calls at an anxious time with good news. Your brain is disoriented, defenses drop. At this moment, you can push through almost any decision. Apple Corporation used a modification of this technique for product launches. Always Tuesday, always the same time, for years. Result: millions of people experience excitement on Tuesdays. Association: Tuesday means something new and cool from Apple. But there is also a dark side. One Moscow psychotherapist used this technique with patients. He formed dependence on sessions through temporal anchors. People couldn't quit therapy for years. Every time at the anchored time, they felt bad. How to protect yourself? Keep an emotion diary linked to time. If you see a pattern, break it. Intentionally plan important tasks for emotional times. Reprogram your brain. Technique six. Paradoxical de-authorization. This is the favorite technique of history's greatest manipulators. From Julius Caesar to, well, I won't name modern names, I don't want to be sued. The essence: at the beginning of communication, you minimize your competence as much as possible. I'm not an expert, of course. Perhaps I'm mistaken, you clearly understand better than me. And then you demonstrate profound knowledge, but as if by accident, in passing. What happens in the interlocutor's head? Cognitive dissonance. He says he's not an expert, but he knows more than me. So, if he's not an expert, then who is the expert? God, how cool is he. Every competent remark you make is perceived as a revelation, because you're not an expert. Yale University study. People who use paradoxical de-authorization are perceived as 250% more competent than those who directly declare their expertise. 250%, Carl. But that's not all. The technique creates a special type of trust. The person thinks, he is so modest, he doesn't flaunt his knowledge, which means he can be trusted. And they start believing everything without verification. One investment consultant used this technique for 10 years. He started every meeting with the words: "I'm just a simple mathematician, I don't know much about investments." His clients lost a total of $50 million, but until the very end, they believed he was a genius, just a modest one. How to recognize it? Watch for the contrast between words and knowledge. If a non-expert rattles off facts like a cornucopia, you are under influence. Technique seven. Fragmented story method. This is the highest level. A technique that I have seen performed by only three people. Two of them are world-class politicians, the third is a convicted fraudster. You tell a story, but not in its entirety, in fragments, at different times, in different contexts. On Monday, you know, I had a friend in Berlin. On Wednesday, by the way, about risks. That Berlin incident taught me on Friday. In the end, he lost everything. But if he had listened to the advice on diversification then, you never tell the story completely. But the listener's brain pieces together the puzzle, draws its own conclusions. And here's the key point. The conclusions a person has drawn themselves, they defend like their own children. You didn't tell him: "Diversify risks." He came to this himself through your fragmented story. Effectiveness 94% persuasion versus 31% for direct advice. Data from a closed Massachusetts Institute of Technology study in 2020. But the technique is dangerous. One mistake in the sequence, and instead of persuasion, you will get paranoia. The person will realize they are being manipulated. A master of this technique can maintain five to seven parallel stories, intertwine them, create an entire universe of interconnected ideas in the listener's mind. All conspiracy theories are built on this principle. Fragments of information that the brain connects into an obvious picture. Defense. Record. If a person often starts stories and doesn't finish them, demand the full version right now. Don't let your brain fill in the gaps. I have told you about seven techniques, but I must warn you. Knowing these methods changes you. You will start seeing them everywhere. In conversations with friends, in speeches by politicians, in blog posts. The world will become clearer. And scarier. You will learn how often you are manipulated, how rarely people are honest in their intentions, but you will also gain power. The power to see, the power to protect yourself, and, if you wish, the power to influence. Use it wisely, because each of these techniques is a double-edged sword. Today you influence, tomorrow they influence you, but with methods I haven't told you about. And believe me, there are many more than seven. Remember the experiment from the beginning, the one that was classified? Its results are still not published, but one of the participants said before his death: "We discovered a way to rewrite a person's personality in 72 hours. Completely, irreversibly." And the scariest part is that the victim believes they have always been this way: "Sleep well, if you can."