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America is coming back to assessment of confidence and it says here the beginnings you have it page 35 that our behavior is governed by many factors but the ones that we are referring to here because of the one that we're considering is the interplay of internal forces in the personality with spinal forces interaction between these two things which means for example your impulses and society impulses and and in the pens of the space at which wise you are a child you parents the prohibitions you can do that you can do this integral if you run an orchestra station of the society which you live then it is not you Peron who said that is no no it's the law and the court robot that's why we have Autzen Yeltsin is to help those that can not control the behavior of item to punish down the transgress the nomes of the culture is not very different to what happened children with children is a balance that become the ocean layer of the punishment to be an adult we have developed a mechanism to substitute for that all so not just human behavior is then governance and that's the part of human behavior that we are interested in because it's caught in conflict and is determined by conflict so is a interplay of the antenna with sustainer forces or of antenna ports forces a conscious or unconscious to wish each other in other words think is structurally now evil against a super-ego against the ID and the ego conflicts between you any of things of a kind and this determines a lot of the behavior that we will manifest at any given point in our life we don't necessarily know that we are driven by these forces in direction that sometimes in traumatic cases is no remaining there's interest because the opposite and yes we'll treatment there so we have to look at the concrete remember what we said conflicts may involve at the very least two forces you know position to one another but sometimes they say where forces in opposition to something for several forces on both sides in conflict with one another and we are referring to neurotic conflicts here the ones that we can treat and do you remember one of the conditions of anaerobic conflict is that one of the elements of the concrete needs to be not known to the person follow us what you have is a problem or a decision to make if you know to two factors involved then it may be a very difficult decision to make and you may have a lot of trouble making it but there is nothing about the situation that you are not aware while we're talking about is a different situation it's a situation where there is genuine conflicting which ones of the aspects of the countries it's not known to the person he knows the other side whichever one it is and it is not necessarily that they a specter is not known is the impulse frequently that's not the case but the person doesn't know not the evils but ignores the commands of the superego was resolved.
[Music] you know like I listen to do you know they they masturbate that song they they know that they have an urge to masturbate in there I think they say oh no I probably say some song you know and didn't think I know must be completely restricted or maybe that song but they are not aware that they have been coding that coffee there are whales a drive there are no word for the Superleague of prohibition in fact they have been hated you boots and not you so as you see these conflicts take many chips and have many faces and you remember we have talked about a large variety of different type of conference and how important it is to describe which position justice I told you last time about the fixation point that is no good to say always be safely to the inner stage that's good but it's not good enough alright here is the same now so you want in terms of the conflict you want to actually if it was possible at all to say whether the conflicts are with the revealing and right sexual drive who the against the drive for example and once you have done that for both location you the conflict issue both aspects of the mystical development of the human being so what what is your location is both as I said and then you have to once you say well is with the sexual drive for example then you have to business that's starting to define the problem that doesn't define you very far so you have to say well what Facebook and you refrain to if these are the owner label is that a municipality before cocktail what does it belong what face does it belong to and that's better that's a step further saying now not only is a sexual grind it is essential to drive in this space of that face once you say the face that's better but it's not enough either then you have to look at within the sexual drive organization if it is with the sexual drive and within that face you have to look at which of the component inside of that face of the one that are causing the situation country and did you know what you really don't know what is happening you are getting there when you say yeah is in this face but if you leave it there it's like being in Tampa but you have to visit somebody but you don't know what street he lives you know how do you get to the place and this is exactly the same situation yeah so it's good to be in Tampa if you want to see somebody there dying in Jacksonville but that won't teach you what you need to call so you have to a QC train yourself to think in this particular way and it is not that difficult if you have done a profit I told you this is a way of thinking the profile has taught you to do this thinking already so you know which phase of development may be involved and within the facial development we have talked about the component instance of the face of development so you have all this information you have already looked for this here you can randomly drop in terms of concrete and how that affects human behavior now let me tell you - what you have done that even in business the business you know really what you have to address obviously that has enormous value diagnostically or not in the productive things and Sarah pentacle you know when you have to address now on the other hand as you know conflicts are in a sequence as I have told you in the past you are not born with complete psychological conflicts you have absolutely no objections to any of your instinct boxes of the kind of animal you are you just manage that you impulses as they become activated wherever it is you know and so as far as you are concerned for a long time when you copy the development and your awareness of the world around you and the objects that populate that world and the importance of those objects and you are passionate to your primary object system become well established you really have no understanding when that problem is if you take a baby dream on sora he defecates and the mother gave her you say chops can do we do this happened he just passive Howard movement because that's what his body tells him to do you know so he be completely lost now he's 14 months 12 events 12 months 13 14 15 16 months he will spend to correlate the mother's anger with whatever it is he did and so in a way he started to have an awareness one that only has he not importance they external conflicts he himself has no objection to his body products but his Mountain Pose and he is now dependent on his mother because he have become his primary own or her primary only so the conflict is now between the instincts and the spirit world and in society civilized society we have to control a large number of our impulses now we can only gratify some of them from the very restrictive known our culture and our society and their rights of all the impose in our behavior and that we are not born that way we have to be taught then that can be done can be done in this way that cannot be funny or way whatsoever if you do that you ready to real problem and things of that kind so what I'm trying to tell you is that as human beings develop the conflict analysis then a world to start with become internalized and the beginning the conflicts and just between you drives and the spinor work whatever type of drive it is whether you are biting another child t-mobile breast or might iihave year off whatever it is that you're doing which is not acceptable world you know moving you by was in the wrong place of being in the wrong place or whatever it is and the wrong age that simply is not acceptable and we have to say no you have to adapt to the demands of ours in our culture really every family differs a little bit from the next family some people be more tolerable recently stolen Kabbalah because I have to do with their own psychopathology and that will influence how they handle the children's enforces you know whether they are very rough about it or they're gentle about it and some people tolerate certain things very well and yet other things they get very upset about and will clamp down on a child real horrorshow and all that is starting to define who you are then you can do and you can do kind of things as you know from that process and when these objects become significantly significantly important to you and if the cognitive sense of the world you are aware of what they want from you if you have not reached the point in development where you can recognize what it is that they're requesting you cannot do it that's what I people who is trying to train a nine month old baby not to defecate is not if you like crazy because you can't understand what it is that they were not does she at that point had the physical ability to control hisses filter if you have not my lineage is phenomenal waist down enough to be able to control these impulses but at some point you will and then if you have sufficient awareness or the mother ones and they are willing to control this a spin today this country with the spinning world has to be resolved the question is who will win the drives or the mother and you know the most people of the train so the mother that you surely Winston does a good thing being this thing process though these things that are prohibited out there and we resent we don't like this because without ever tries so we struggle against it and how much was trouble partly depends on how punitive you finance our house to do it now many is in relation to these particular forms of expression of someone to drive we are not all born in a family Russia which we all have all the same moral needs all the same mental needs the same springs our phallic impulses and so on so obviously they are different that are genetically determined in any case what happens because we start to intraday these things and we all of these things that we have been taught by first our parents and our teachers in the culture at large and the horrible influence our behavior becomes a precipitate that forms the conscience and at that point you have a quiet conscience that means super-ego then the regulation of you drive is no longer between you and the spinor world is between you and your super-ego they are now internalized the authorities are inside your head they have the capacity to let you feel very bad when you transgress and things over time and finally for most people know for all people they are accepted to root Psychopaths genuine Psychopaths exceptions to this rule they may not have interjected the demands of the culture sometimes there are two reasons why that is because the culture and the Emilia family may be in a classic you and a family of thieves and vandals the culture doesn't like them but that's what you will hurt and you may not recreate the standards of the culture that comes motivated you in creating the standards of the to do primary honors and so you have Norman quiet restrictions in that type of behavior factor what you do now you're quite super-ego though this prohibition they become your own and as you know one self-esteem is then regulated not by what people are there says but by you conscience tells you right more significantly if you are mature enough though you always pay attention to what people are there says you should be able when you conscience tell you they have wrong in that request and you are right you should be able to say I love you very much I like you a lot I wish you liked me but we have to disagree and I'm going to do it according to my own objective just men and criteria we you know it when you say to a friend we have to agree to disagree all right to go your own way so people cannot do it some people can do that which means that they are to the pendant in the of the world to regulate itself in permanently the self their own self-esteem and their own self regard dedicate one you have put all this inside this and then internalized conscience and then the conflicts are now between you try or you ego understand a world between the eight the super-ego the second wall was placed on wrong he said as I told you as a backup system yeah if you can't control you behavior say you are aggressive and destructive wishes there was somebody in there do you think that you want to kill them on something you can't control it you say I can go to jail for this is going to catch me and in Florida that means sit in an extra chair and you can say to do this I better leave town go on a vacation cooler or take a child will do whatever I can to control the behavior once of course all of this is internalized then for most people within research all of these regulations don't require any health authorities you can do this internally you have not only interjected de do's and dont's can do and cannot do or you culture your community and family you have at the same time becoming Pathak you can put yourself in the place of the other person you may start to think I would like that don't you have a sense of what is paying a lady some parents are and all of that will contribute to regulate you behave you you remember that a little while back in fact last week I was talking Norris week the week before talking to you about the different ways that the super-ego is structured present-day society even the amount of knowledge that most human beings can enquire there was on the case a few years ago and the fact that communications are so fast and you can be a witness to events in the world with your eyes so nobody can tell you a story and it doesn't happen you confronted with it the impact of that is enormous it's not like when you read the paper three months later several it already happened three months ago well who remembers but what significantly has happened in front of your eyes the impact of that is very different all of these things play a role in what kind of internalized conflicts do to have how you develop your super-ego and what kind of a structure do you follow blindly the patterns you cultural group and your family do you develop your own objective criteria so what is right what is wrong what is acceptable and what is not and you remember we were discussing the other day then they have enormous babies at the same time has created some problems because these structures are where follow blindly tend to regulate society in a very strict manner and this amount of freedom create some kind of room for kills and enormous difference of opinion and behavior in social groups so the generalized conflicts are between ego super-ego a need and us as I told you after the avoidances have taken over and represent too late the demands of your give work to the Internet and that arouses guilt or change but when I do holy athletes when you fail to comply with this entry date which you don't talk and you run judge in your own head all right so you look at this conference and you already have my information in the profile you didn't look you know and the fixation point you look at the defenses you did look at what the defensive we use against what was the impulse was being defended against you have already a lot of information in you head you are over nicely with a little different in the structural sense of the world what parts of the structures are caught in this country remember the mental psychological point of view the dynamic point of view the economic point of view the genetic point of view and the topographical structure to be when you are organizing you met a psychological approach to the same data you are making more complex more meaningful are going in depth in your on the sandal now in human nature there is a very interesting phenomena which is typical of human beings and it's another group of confidence we have talked of a state conflict with sustainer world conflicts have become internalized the original conflict with the tenant will become technologies and so this is conflict and there is a circle called internal conflicts in teleconference I define that for you in a moment but let me go back for a minute remember I told you that some people doesn't mean generalized for whatever reason some of the things that are typical for the culture in which they live so they are rebellion from the behavior of the culture in fact they behave in ways that are normal for the social group but are not known for the culture so they get it no problem because we tend to be pejorative and think that those of us then do it in a certain way which constitute the majority are on the right we call them delinquents psychopaths and they are you know we have any ways that are not acceptable for anything with our society and we totally know the factor you know the solutions are given a manual that they have they were able to reach the end owner to get us together with goals that's the way they grew up and growing up is not an automatic procedure always guarantee the product at the end it depends on the culture which depends on the primary objects and depends on the interaction we genetic forces and environment and the developmental experiences of individuals so some people doesn't have the internet psycho is a culture and so they are defiantly all the people have acquired but we'd have defense mechanisms that allow us to throw them out again when we externalized use projections the mechanism of search type we are saying I don't have a problem with it the program you put it in somebody else and you see then it looks like an external conflict because the person is not recognizing them and his son is saying that he is the problem or she is the problem and this is the problem that they have and give you example of that in relation to bisexual conflicts for example we talk of the defenses and internalization and reaction and things like that whatever the reason why that happens that person will give you impression that the conflict is not an internalized conflict between the structures of the mind that is illegal super-ego but between the East and the stain of work but that's false because what that person has done this is an internal conflict internal as country when he had a stimulus running out again and that's very different from a genuine country who sustained a work because that one means that they in create doesn't exist the other one means our inverse exists but there is a way to bypass it and this person is used you see the difference all right now the internal countries I call just remain penalize conflicts are called inter systemic between the system between the eight and the super-ego the internal conflicts are called intra suspending conference that means that they have conflicts within the structure itself not between the structures but within the structure itself and that is a characteristic of human nature and I tell you what is meant by that we can love and hate simultaneously the same person score and be Williams right love and hate now he now at it contradictions don't exist so love and hate can be happy together and indeed they are we eat all the people on the love in case you didn't know what degree you hate and two is different issue but don't think that you only love and that's not true sometimes you may hit whatever that may be you'll be dying balances it may be for whatever reasons the fact is that we are by nature human nature is ambivalent we can and is based on that capacity that we have to blow up and hate the same object now would usually normal people can you love and hate at the same time because once it goes through the ego and manifests itself into consciousness or behavior your super-ego is a nononono you can do that and if there is a clash with only psychotic people can love enhancing autonomously in consciousness and want it otherwise most of us will have to repress or exclude one side without their love for the head and feel only one of the effects because we can tolerate feeling love and hate in the same intensity to the same object at the same time that will be completely they are taking today so with also one of the two sides according to whatever the situation is and that's a way we function so that's one type we have we are born with a tendency to activity and a tendency to facility and again the symphysis technique we came into both directions and we can do kinda frequently with or not but to do something or not to do something and human beings obviously different in the amount of ambivalence that they are born with and the amount of activity passivity balance that they have born with some people are born that from the moment you skin them out of the neutral they over the place I mean is not the quiet very busy baby will not move like hell and as he proposed and developed will raise holy heck because he has a lot of going well they are very quiet and doesn't in any given now is it only in genetic even yeah that's the way it starts then certain thing the having development may favor the one responsibility or replace one of the tendencies and favor the other and then what you see in the older child or the dog person may not be quite the original picture but the original picture is there somewhere you know so that's your a set of opposite tendencies that lives in Montana swing us the third one is bisexuality we are all bisexual and we discussed this earlier I think we are bisexual for many reasons and that is we love both men in the form of the father and the mother and that's a way with sunlight and we know for anatomy and biology and so on that we have and things of that kind indeed from the biological material point of view we are born of a matrix with disciplinary methods so those of all of the pain males he happens because for the lepak reason X Y chromosome reasons encirclement in the phenological hormonal bastard we have a certain types of a development of the fetus it will change whether their family matters will be developed into feminine sexual organ or masculine sexual organs so bisexuality is another of the integral countries why is it always important well because all of these things like I'm infected likes to the ground in which certain type of friends will go see if you have less they think of bisexuality and you're bisexual Constitution is not well defined things that happen in the environment may push we see in one direction or another without a homosexual outcome or a head sexual outcome in other words it becomes time affecting lies ground continue roses to develop you know and the same is true they active passive conflict and they're often hate conscious all the things that happen during development and fall is a seed that will fall into this ground that may be fertilized in this particular way without a certain thing to grow a stronger faster and more difficult to deal with than if we didn't have these tendencies in us so solve ambivalence activity versus passivity masculinity ways of femininity are the three difficulty tenor conflicts that favor the development of neurotic conflicts on that graph now now you you see we say daily and you have to tell you whatever you are talking about standing I wouldn't analyze conflicts you need to define whether it is with the Lavina with the aggressive drive from them through the paces also now so you have to make reference you know me to the level of which a conflict is taking place as I said to you able to the specific components in the right involved where they are politically striving to it is or aggression in solution stability and I think the only complex no sophomore there are countries as you know which we have talked about before between ego ideas there may be two very different in various four different super-ego ideas that too in a manner of speaking is like intra suspending conflict obviously the other structures are take in this country which is not necessarily true of really three most important internal conflicts what is it they're trying to say well we talked about this already so we don't need to go too much into it that you remember that I mentioned to you that for example when in the normal conditions in this country and in most civilized countries in the world we are set the time that we have to respect every human beings life is as precious as ours that we are all born equal that God makes all the same that we are not being greater will not be serving that anybody else and that we should treat people the way we like to be treated and that's all fine and dandy that's what we all right talk by you have reasonable balance your school and the culture of the constitution of this country says Alan and so those you know in one way or another the culture and the laws of most other civilized countries yet if something happens that leads to war just so many told the opposite say go and kill as many as you can these are not your brothers and sisters these are your enemies and you need to kill them now that's amazing once you my dears I want to provide food and all that then suddenly you are thrown into this very difficult situation where you have to take that rifle and it's time to shoot people that are like you one you know that they have wives children brothers and sisters and mothers and fathers that's what we see a lot of people can do that and that has a lot to do what you remember when we talk about these things with traumatic losses fatigue you are the type of warning come to Daddy sounded as you know that when you whine that situation then you yourself have become an actor in that play and your life is now in danger why do you like as long as you behave in a reasonable fashion in any civilized society was guarantee to you nobody will try to kill you only in a normal throw real and they have no much circumstances in a war all of that changes and you are trying to kill people and they say they are your enemies and they may well be but it's very difficult to accept that for a lot of people and you may be killed by these people that you were told away your brother's party that they were living in a different part of the world and they had a different culture and they will kill you if they have a chance because as an issue of human beings that's the result of aggression and re-solder frequently we don't know how to resolve our conflicts by other means and by post and fortunately we evolved some more culture on whatever way we need to evolve that is going to continue to happen because it's very difficult to control some of them in process that I have behind the forces a link to these crutches you know which may be difference in the culture may be economic interest may be social difference religious differences all of which can be at the bases but obviously you just if you have religious difference you don't want to kill any value that you had a question and can be loved in your mind the idea this people needs to connected because they are of a different religion or race over it very maybe so all of these interactions makes a human and this is what you are looking at at this point you have already look and they were structure and the super he was structure and the defense system that extension points and so on so you are not trying to put it together in terms of describing the conflicts in great detail did you do that you have no well now in the other hand and according to the predominance of any one of the three titles of conflicts are we this time complete with the stellar work with analyze complex in Tecna conflict many may be possible to arrive at the following assessing the level of maturity that is a relative independence of the child personality structure how far is he now self-sufficient in controlling some behavior and deal with some life and gratifying his own impulses within the norms of his culture six other kind and that speaks to the Nativity of the human being so Nima to people cannot do much you know sometime because simply a psychologically immature sometimes like let's say mentally [ __ ] person because they don't have enough grain to integrate cognitively these concepts in such a way that will help them to understand that they cannot do that you know whatever it is they improve be the same obviously we will tell you something about the serenity of the disturbance his conflicts and what rebel who is one component hinted between which structures how much of it is determined genetically using violence in Copenhagen until the facility and bisexuality all of this will determine you know how well you will put together you know the interaction of the many forces are going to development I have severe are you laughs how severe is you disturbance how far behind you we were laughing development obviously if you know that you have a better idea what type of treatment you mean to use what you will have to do and whether this person is more frequency less frequency whether they can tolerate regressive states whether that is to be avoided because they are fully mature and tuned able to control themselves and if they become very very greatly endangered you know and so these people are gonna want to put in a couch because the couch is this progression right and it's regression and the service of the ego but these people if they have this kind of problems I'm not going to be able to keep that regression within a reasonable amount of control and so you may do more harm than good so you didn't see what you have putting all these things together so if you know what you're going to do that next now finally he says in the intensity of the therapy needed for the alleviation alleviation on their removal for the disturbance in other word can it be removed would you to be contented with alleviating the disturbance obviously if you have all this knowledge than I have been telling you you are in a much better position to say yeah we can be ambitious and treating me that or just a don't quarter just keep it so dysfunctional and so on but this their lack their defects in the development of the structure their experiences in this personality that cannot be indolent cannot be changed and you are never going to get past that point now so that's what you do then you go to the last section here which again we have discussed in the past elevator thing perhaps not in great detail honest what is core assessment of some general characteristics and they involve all the things that you have to look at one of them is the frustration toward the level of performance of the individual one of them is a capacity to tolerate anxiety one of them the third one of them is the capacity to sue limit and the final one is some kind of generalization of what is called you should take a balance between the progressive forces in the personality of the person that you are assessing and domestic forces that you observe what does that balance for now this is very important to trick you need to know these things for many reasons I can tell you some of them let's go to the first incidentally most of these things are Givens that's the way you were born some people are born with a high degree of tolerance concentration all that people have babies sometimes that depends on things that are added to whatever it is genetic anymore for example if you have ADHD you have absolutely no tolerance for frustration you know you can wait you can now I think so I kind because that's an added complication to whatever it is and you see if you're going to deal with this in psychotherapy we're not looking at what was added that's important here is not that is not important it is but here we are looking at the given Quran the basis of the personality note that was added by illness or God knows what but what is the basis of it now when you look at prostration two letters you have to look at three different the best way to do this is to look at not to do it in general because that's very difficult to do you do is you look at their frustration for the tolerance of and the tolerance of frustration of the sexual drive the tolerance of frustration of the aggressive drive and then the tolerance of frustration for what I call an intra life's activities which doesn't necessarily involve significantly either deceitful of the aggressive drive but I think like schoolwork and song for children work praise from the adult the ability to fit their put up with in and take you know the comments and coins of being a job I mean to do resolve and produce a new boss from the demands of the hero condition terrible if you divide it that way then you were a better feeling but here you have to do the same if you say well he has lost racial tolerance for the lack of gratification of a sexual drive which is common in people so people get very upset if the sexual drive is not ratified a really bill talks little you may know someone I hope you don't have a partner it's possible in any case do have them to describe if you can as we did in the phases of development you know is there a difference between the frustration of moral sexual activities or valley activities and so on so you what I'm trying to tell you is that you have to become as precise as you can you say yeah he get frustrated if he's such impulses are not gratified that's good to know but it's not good enough you'll be watching if you can say particularly when it refers to these levels there are no other activity of the sexual drive and people believe me yes - straight a very different very different components and they may have a lot of tolerance to the frustration of certain of this component is available the same is true of aggression what phase of aggression when I'm within that phase one one Torrence the neutralized activities which is where I told you for the children is in the school having to do homework which is difficult and destroy everything into a and the slightest difficulty and song you can see the Rope people adults in tasks and responsibilities or dolls but the workplace and so on when you see the same kind of reaction so it is very important to look at all that and as I said many of these this is always genetic events per game development overlays some of these things you know and so what you're looking at may not be the original disposition but they this position that has been overlaid by certain functions now if you know that to be the case and you know for example that the child was doing okay until he was 11 from their own words chose reflection colors you walk to the previous stage and that will tell you one day baseline was what you see at 12 is the baseline distorted by the conflicts which now show in a way that may be misleading that's important because if what you find is before the conflicts he had a good frustration tolerance you haven't to better patient situation to deal with than if what you find is in the frustration tolerance even before that was slow and pull the lower the frustration tolerance of people in any of this area the more prone they are going to be to have emotional difficulties and not to be easy to do we move now to the next one which is some people confused them but they are very different this is a capacity to tolerate anxiety that's different than the capacity to tolerate frustration anxiety is a specific type of effect that is trigger of in a variety of different situation it's common in life there are many situations in life that are bound to produce anxiety and people and Tilly those I have little tolerance for it will go down the drain and go faster than those that can contain it face it suffer it and struggle with it if they as soon as they see the face of anxiety they'll run away you have a problem with this patient they have a problem with themselves you know what I mean because they cannot stand the pressure of life life is full of pressure life is full of situations and three inside life is full of disappointments and so that's that's a different issue than the filtration problem this is a street and siding nothing to do with the drive not to do with the sexual drive nothing to do with aggressive right nothing to do with mental activity it's situations are provoked and sided with your patient give you a story that you will listen very easily in fact if be part of what he tells you you will see what happened to say that I don't know he go to the hospital obviously unsightly provoking see blood he became devastated and the present suicidal could be go to work in getting them sense of the kind you have a problem then person has a problem if he faced up and kept himself together and the the basic with the hope the circumstances would find an answer to the situation that provoke anxiety you have a much better ball game in the park understand that's a better picture mister patient that is more willing and more capable to face anxiety the very patient I will run away from it and obviously they have body is not a hundred percent absolute value these are indicators and you can be misled by them but it's obviously better when people can do that that when they are the style is to run not to face not to try a master not to try and control the situation not to try and keep the head and close the water but you know they run run they collapse they become the press and are able to keep that self in the right place so you look when you're looking at the Torah's peroxide you look at a variety of things as well first of all you look at the Taurus and again you have to be reasonable yes did you have somebody who is English simply dramatic how Matic situation they become very anxious you cannot judge by that experience all right because that's not typical you'll be making a mistake in judging that they don't have the ability to cope with society because these were extreme circumstances well you don't go just by one observation you look for several things that you have some certainty that the conclusion that you are arriving is tenable in the face of an examination the personality in several different circumstances not only in romantic traumatic situations okay so you look at the defense that people the defense's that people will use in terms of the language inside the anus you know the defense's come in many sizes and shapes and colors some of them are very constructive in some way very metal active and have a very high price and that will tell you to how hard this struggle is going to be for that patient because in treatment they will have to face a lot of anxiety and they will have to reactivate a lot of things the may not be pleasant may be very unsightly for walking and by the same topic that you have some idea how difficult that is going to be for this patient can they really tolerate do they have the resources to go through this with some support and help and obviously using you best soft gloves you know then you have as well an idea of the magnitude of the tacks are missing you as a therapist and you may aim high if you think the person has the resources you may have to go you goes you don't think that is the case okay so you look at the defense activity by gently outside and then you look and what type of mastery do they achieve but how do they deal with the situation what is the improvement of it what did they mastered it and so how obviously people are not resourceful face it my way to deal with it you saw that it's offensive and finally mastered the situation this people has where is equal resources which are going to serve them well also right and indeed are going to serve them very well under the conditions of whatever you choose and you see many of these things that were examining now valuing the prognostic things of the world valuing the diagnostic sense of the world in terms of what type of treatment and you going to choose for this patient now finally finally but the third point is the child or the adult so emotional potential that means you know is he able to accept social that's what Sula mention is you know Center substituting and usually is very rewarding because as I told you it's a socially acceptable change that brings rewards now not every human being has the same capacity to sue limit that requires a certain type of people and certain type of people skills and abilities and some people have that facilitation obviously this is related in some form to talent whatever we mean by talent people have more talent more activities that they enjoy and like have more having it for sublimation you know if you have like to be if you'd like to paint if you like music if you play an instrument if you are a writer if you write horses if you Sweetman wherever it may be the more skills that you have and you can engage the more likely it is that you avenues for sublimation and many one of them is going to do the job for you understand what I mean become the other hand you have a restrictive personality with little few interests not much brain power you are willing to remain if someone to be there you take patients with massive severe complex law frustration tolerance no capacity truly you have the problem the passion we have a drought now are they they're treatable but they are not treatable by encoding psychotherapy you have to use support these techniques a variety of adaptation to cognitive ego reinforcements you know you can bring to bear but lying down in a couch doing some regression control illegal regression is not for them you know so as you see the more potential that is in that person and we are all very different unfortunately so now remember that with any other things the submission potential of an individual may be blurred by the conference his however that particular for the time that make mislead you so you have to look past content and ask before they became sick this way tell me what kind of winter so they have but did they do what didn't enjoy was really they show more activity with the engage what groups participated in one sport you hit a you know you find all you can about because everyone is giving you avenues that you can use when you lift the defense activity against certain impulses you have to direct that impulse into something that is socially acceptable and if you can change head into a truism that patient may will have suppose the problem you know what I mean but he had to the capacity to do that too so remain that way okay so you look past the present situation of conflict that may distort you know the real picture of this person always look past the conflict to stage where the conflict was not as visible as a warming or had not establish itself now and this last point is one that had a particular way to make it clear things here so you Thoroughbred know that there was a common response to reading a paper on here in here but I knew and of cause I didn't if you thought about it you didn't but she coulda so clearly that it was mumbles and that was a way need to be I can't do that though no with this particular part in I am and this is called progressive edge so realistic developmental Foster again design Nate Bivens like should we mention you can buy it anywhere you either have it or you don't what balance you have between the progressive forces and the regressive forces is a strong dynamic important progressive forces are things that move you forward in spite of difficulties that come your way and face you you do the same thing that you do is a matter of anxiety you don't turn away and run you face them you try and use all the resources that you have to try and produce a reasonable solution today that you're facing what the balance is is very different she used to live an example for children which I never forgot because it makes them very period she said well if 3 o'clock in the winter it's done so it gets like very every other day and I remember mr. ok whether we were at a house or the minute one of the buildings of the clinic and she looked outside and said you see is getting that imagine that is children are having a party in the house somebody's birthday they are flame back there and one of them says I saw it was and so everybody comes back to the house and some children will run on their way inside I have something mother's policy we're halfway we will stop and look back at you where is the ghost and so man they will go there and some of the children will go and look back stop in the middle and then said I'm going to go and see where the groceries and they go back not that they are full of course they are frightened there you know they are willing to run back again but they are willing to go and see what is that ghosts and worry that goes on what is the danger that is a progressive developmental force the only one is a regressive developmental force and if you have a balance from the side of progressive things obviously you are going to deal with the vicissitudes of life in a much better way than is the balances on the side of the regressive forces because then what you do is that you become regress if you run away you don't face it and so the problem can never be solved it's just run away from the problem and that never is helpful in psychotherapy psychotherapy people have to take a tap you know and deal with anxiety and face a situation in reality in most cases though people are very frightened of it once they do that a lot better for you because they finally can put a handle on something that otherwise is having them running for the rest of their life and is scared for the rest of their life once you look at this children do so let me see what the ghosts look like maybe there is nothing that you need to fear anymore you know but if you don't face you will never know you understand what I mean so let's stop in the Aces