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What does a man learn from life about women, and what does he need to learn himself?
Women teach you a lot about how to get women, which is actually quite interesting. Like, very true. They do. Women teach you a lot about how to get women themselves. If you want to piss a woman off, ignore her. Don't insult her. Just don't reply. And you should know that because when did a woman annoy you most? When she ignored you. That's right. They're like, you can learn so much from them.
But women are the prize, effectively. Sexual access, or access to sexuality, has always been a prize for men that effectively had to be earned. You had to go to war and come back with a valor star, or you had to be a king or something to get access to sexuality. So women were the prize up until a certain point, and then if you're a high-value enough man, you can say you become the prize, blah blah. Effectively, women are a fantastic mirror, and how women treat you tells you a lot about yourself because women are ruthless, and if you're not a—if they don't see value in you, or if they don't see value they can extract from you, you're invisible to them.
You know, you can go to a nice restaurant with a girl and you can say, "How many men are in here?" And she'll say, "Three or four." And she'll ignore every—I heard you say this, and I tried it, and they all said two, three. Yeah. The waiters don't exist. There were like hundreds of men in here. Waiters don't exist in their mind. Or if they can't get something from you, you're invisible. So, how women treat you in general is a good mark for how much value you openly exude. If they can instantly see value in you, they'll talk to you and treat you a certain way. People think that beautiful women are really [ __ ] and rude. No, they're not. They're actually very nice and soft and sweet. They're actually quite shy and insecure if you're that guy. But if you're not that guy, they're like, "Get the [ __ ] away from me," because they don't even want to bother having a conversation on any level because you don't exude enough value. So women are a mirror. They'll tell you everything you need to know about yourself, and you should pay attention to it, and you should change it, and you should fix it.
Instead of what can you only learn by yourself? Well, I mean, I think the world's going to constantly and endlessly give you feedback. It doesn't—I mean, women are a fantastic mirror, and there's no point getting mad at the mirror, but I guess to a degree the whole world is a mirror on some level. And I think that the hardest—the thing that people struggle with most, especially men, is that we only learn lessons the hard way. That's the problem. You want to be good at learning lessons the easy way, which is really paying attention and making sure the feedback you're receiving—you need to be perceptive to it so that it doesn't have to be so hard-hitting. You need to be the kind of person who goes out for a drive and his wheels slide a bit, and he slows down. But what people typically do is they go out for a drive, their wheels slide a little bit, they continue, and then they crash, and then they realize, "I should have slowed down," once they hit a tree. They only learn the hard way. But when they got the easy little bits of feedback, they didn't want to pay attention to them because it was easy, and they thought they got away with it. And it's the same with a relationship. And the same with everything else. There's little bits of feedback; you go, "Ah, okay, this is going to be a problem later on if I continue." But they ignore that part. They wait for it all to blow up and go wrong, and then they learn. So men only learn the hard way.
And I guess you can speed things up if you try and learn the easy way. But sooner or later, a hard thing is going to happen anyway. God's going to make sure of that. So you're never going to be able to avoid that car crash one way or another. Something's going to happen; it's going to hit you. And then it's your chance to prove to God you are the person you say you are. And to just be cerebral enough about things to understand that everything comes to an end one day unless you die. And if you die, then it doesn't matter anymore. So, you know, it—it doesn't—they can throw you in solitary confinement; it's going to end one day, or you're going to die. And when you die, it doesn't matter anymore. So there's no point in being completely distraught about it. You have to find the joy in the—cracking the sunlight through the roof. And that's that's life.