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Healing has become the new religion. Most people have done the therapy. They do journaling. They do their inner child work. They read the books. They've listened to podcasts. They do their affirmations every single day. And you know what? They're still anxious or they're still avoidant. In other words, they're still going through the same relationship patterns that are keeping them miserable.
Now, I am not saying that self-improvement itself is bad. It's wonderful to improve. I'm saying that for a lot of people, self-improvement has become a substitute for the one thing that would actually make their relationships better, and that's real human connection. The healing industry identifies your pain and has you spend years just focusing on it, and they never really address the root cause. They make your feelings the biggest center of your life and replace any accountability. And that's what keeps people going inward instead of addressing their challenges because their challenges can only be fixed by going outward.
I'm Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, and I help people understand how their brain learned to bond with other people and how to change that pattern. Now, many people that I work with come to me after years, sometimes even decades of therapy and self-help that didn't do anything for them. In this video, I'm going to show you four key things. First, how therapy has become a religion, and it has. Stay with me for that part. Number two, why going to the gym and taking your supplements, while that's genuinely a good thing, will never change your relationship patterns. Number three, what actually works versus what just feels productive, like empty, busy work. And number four, how people finally break through after years of being stuck. So, if you've been wondering why all that self-help work hasn't translated into better relationships yet, you're about to find out.
Now, most people don't realize this, but when Sigman Freud set out to create modern therapy, he said, and I quote, "I will create an army of secular pastors. He wanted to replace religious guidance with psychological guidance." And 100 years later, that's exactly what happened.
Now, let's talk about the aspects of religion that therapy has specifically replaced. Okay? First, especially in the Christian tradition, therapy replaced confessions. People used to do something they felt was truly wrong and they would go to a priest and confess it to them. And the priest wouldn't beat them up about it, but the priest would say, "Okay, you're accountable for this. Here's something you can do to make it right." Therapy comes along and says, "You don't have to confess anything. Hey, you know what? You did it, but I don't blame you. You had no choice. Everything is completely fine." You confess to a therapist and completely feel like you've never done anything wrong in your life.
This is why therapy has also replaced absolution. In in most religions, you have a code of ethics you have to follow. And when you do something that's against that code of ethics, you have to do something to make it right. Often this is called atonement. And as you atone, you're then absolved of the wrongdoing. And it's removed as if it was never done. That that sin, that stain, that problem, whatever it is, is off of you. Now you are absolved. In therapy, again, you're told that nothing is ever your fault. Everything was predetermined by how your parents raised you. Nothing that you've ever done was actually an issue. But everyone else in your life is responsible and all of them are evil for not loving you the way that you wanted to be loved.
Now, religion also used to give you guidance on how to live, right? Follow these codes of ethics and you will live a good, fulfilling life. Therapy now provides you that guide book on how to live a life that is free from stress. That is not the same, but it is what therapy has replaced. You will live a fun and fulfilling and happy life where no one will ever be mean to you again cuz you won't allow it. Very different, but still creating a world view.
The next piece therapy has replaced is community and belonging. Religion used to provide a place for people to go and belong, bond with each other, even bond with their religious leaders together in a community. Now, your therapist becomes your primary relationship. Most people keep going to their therapist because their therapist makes them feel better than anyone else in their life. This is a subscription priest or at least a subscription friend, a subscription elder, a subscription mentor, a subscription mom or dad, a subscription grandpa or grandma, a subscription brother or sister, a subscription everything now condensed down into a single person who's being paid to pretend they care.
There are new commandments that go along with therapy. By the way, good is emotional pleasure. Whatever makes you feel emotional pleasure is inherently a good thing. Evil is any level of emotional pain that anyone ever makes you feel. And this includes discomfort. By the way, if anyone ever makes you feel uncomfortable, they are evil.
Now, what's really funny about this is that in the therapy room, if you've done something that hurts somebody, you just didn't know better. You're instantly absolved without any atonement, any confession, any problem. Hey, you just didn't know better. But them, they're evil. Nothing is ever your fault. Everything was predetermined by your parents. You're never ever ever a bad person in therapy. So, why go to the church? Why confess to a priest or pastor who's just going to hold you accountable? Go to your therapist. So much better. It's just a couple quick payments and you're out and you feel great about yourself because, hey, you're a paying customer.
With a therapist, they are trained to give you what's called unconditional positive regard. Almost unconditional love, except not really. They don't actually really love you. They're just acting like they do because that's supposed to be the way to fix somebody. You just let them come in and talk and cry and you make them feel good. You pat them on the head. You collect their paycheck. You send them on their way next week. Rinse and repeat. Just the other day, I had a client come to me and say, "I have never hated my therapist more than I do at this moment because they sabotaged me for 5 years and took so much of my money. And in a few sessions with you, I finally made progress that if I had made it back then, my whole life would have been different. My therapist held me back by making me believe they loved me." Okay? You come back next week, rinse and repeat over and over and over. Meanwhile, no actual connection to anyone who genuinely loves you is being formed. Your therapist is going to retire someday. They're not coming to your funeral. They're not coming to your wedding. They're not hanging out with you on Sundays. They're not there in the dark of night when you need the most. Go ahead, try, call them. They won't answer. And they'll tell you that this is wildly inappropriate because you have a a cold, distant, professional relationship and that you've misunderstood it. And they might try to close out business with you. I don't actually recommend you call them because it will ruin the relationship. So, don't do that. Okay.
But the problem here is a biochemistry trap. People bond to their therapists through oxytocin, the bonding hormone, and vasopressin. The problem, the hormone released when you solve challenges together or at least reduce stress. You go to your therapist, they talk and make you feel safe. You release oxytocin and vasopressin in their office and you think this person is your most beloved friend on the planet. That's why you can't stop paying the money. That's why they're a subscription forever. They become your paid mentor, your friend, your elder, your confidant, your parent, your priest. Everything allin-one as Freud intended. All human relationships and needs collapse into this one subscription priest. They stop building real relationships with you or in your life. And and you stop building relationships because you already have somebody. You will hyperfixate into them. It's a business model, you guys. You will need therapy forever for your entire life is what's being told, right, ladies out there, right? When you see a man doing things that are emotionally damaging, what's the first response? Oh, he needs therapy. Throughout all of human history, it was he needs religion. Oh, he needs therapy. That will fix his sinful ways. That's what women are saying today. Therapy will rescue that man. Therapy will fix him. The same way we've always talked about religion. If anything goes wrong, you run to your therapist immediately, right? You call them up. I need an emergency session. Well, okay, that'll be a little extra money. Well, that's okay. I'll do anything. People are not supposed to get better in the therapy system. And this is not me saying that no therapist ever cares about their client or that people never get better. This is a business model, though, you guys. This is built to be this way. Do you think Netflix wants you to cancel your subscription because you've watched all the movies? Why do you think Netflix keeps bringing out new movies, so you keep subscribing? What do you think you're doing with a therapist in a therapist office? Let me be very clear here. Your therapist is not your friend. They're not your family. They're not your mentor. They're not your guide. They're not your parent. They're not your sibling. They are a subscription priest for a new religion. They have financial incentives to make sure you never get well enough to leave them.
But here's where it gets even worse. The modern healing culture has replaced any accountability with feelings. And that's also destroying people's ability to have real relationships. And it ties directly back into the therapy loop. Now, if that last section made you uncomfortable, that's all right. This next section is going to make you way more uncomfortable. And if you have something to think about that and share, drop it in the comments. I'd love to talk to you there.
Okay. First, we have to talk about why this culture shift happened. About 2 to 300 years ago, there was something called the Enlightenment. During the Enlightenment, we separated science and religion completely. People no longer had a religious or spiritual side to them at all. And science was now at odds and at war with religious focus. We split them completely. The core premise is that nothing here is ever really wrong with anyone because that's old religious garbage. Humans are just behavior creatures. As that built forward, Sigman Freud picked that up and completely rejected any sense of spirituality. whatsoever. Okay. By the way, same guy that spread cocaine epidemics to children the world over and wrote extensive papers on why cocaine is great for children. So, a little bit skeptical on his ideas. Let me know in the comments what you think about that. But here's what you need to understand is we divorced the spirit from the person completely. Therapy and psychology came along and then started building on that concept that we are just a collection of chemicals and behaviors. We are an animal period. Our brain can get broken in the first few years of life and then it's broken forever and then every part of our life after that is just knocking over dominoes one after another. Can't blame people cuz it's just what happened.
Now we then started building into something called the humanistic theories because that sounded pretty painful, miserable and bleak and it felt uncomfortable. The humanistic theories came along and said everyone just needs more love. There is no such thing as a spirit aspect to you whatsoever. All religion is a lie. And if you are just a behavioral animal, then it doesn't really matter if we make you better. What really matters is that you feel better. So now we have to create unconditional love in a paid subscription priest who just makes you feel special. And if we make you feel special, that's all that really counts. That's a good life. That's the humanistic theories in a nutshell. still divorced from spiritual aspects.
Now, what happened here is that feelings became truth. Feelings are in fact the only truth. If you go to therapy and say, "I screamed at my boyfriend." Your therapist will say, "Well, you're probably just overwhelmed." People do that. If you go in and say, "My boyfriend screamed at me. Here is three pamphlets for an abuse shelter. Here's a lawyer. He is the most evil person on the planet. Let me plan your breakup right now." You don't want to break up with him? Well, that's a bad decision. I'm telling you right now that you the worst thing you can do is be kind to him or forgive him. If you break up with your partner and regret it, you know, you're on your healing journey. It's totally fine. Your partner breaks up with you, they are the scum of the earth. They have no idea what they're missing. You are so great. Let's help you sleep with people to feel better. Best way to get over someone is to get under the next person. If someone sleeps with five people in one night and feels bad, hey, you know what? We all have to have experiences. Zero accountability for actions. You are essentially on emotional hospice care. You're dying anyway and the world is suffering and you're just an animal with chemicals and behaviors. So if you have these painful emotions, your subscription priest is there to numb your pain until you die. This is what the American psychology community is built to do. Feelings justify everything. you're not accountable for anything. Okay, the damage this creates is incalculable.
Now, one major problem coming from this is that people can't distinguish their emotional data from their gut instinct. Okay? People will say, "No, no, no. That's your trauma. That's their answer to everything. You don't have a gut instinct. You don't have emotional data. You can't get anything. You are just traumatized." Impulses that you have become directives instead of information. I just have this feeling like I should do that. Well, then you should try it. Maybe that's your system telling you you should give it a shot, right? You get flooded with your emotions. It's dangerous and hurtful decisions then start playing out and you get flooded and damaged. Look, feelings are supposed to be data. They're not directives. Feelings are not sacred. They're not even really true most of the time. They need interpretation, not blind following. I have a feeling. Cool. What is it telling you? And is it actually accurate and based on reality? Let's test that.
It's also an endless trap of going inward. Most therapy models teach you to go inward. Every solution is either run to your therapist or go further inward and do the work. Think about your feelings more. Do the inner work. Go to your spirit guide on the inside. Right? The only time they'll talk about spirit. Go to your spirit animal. Speak to your spirit animals. Right? Speak internally. Internal family systems. I actually think internal family systems has some value to it. But when you spend 10 years doing it and creating internal characters, well, that's only one step away from schizophrenia, by the way. Now, if everything is internally focused rather than externally experienced, that's a massive problem. What you've got is a lot of people sitting around in emotional boxes, going inward, feeling and thinking instead of being relational, the way that we are supposed to be. By the way, people are solving relational problems today with individual solutions. That's why it doesn't work. Okay? That's why people don't get better. Here's what most people miss. Their problems were caused relationally and experientially in childhood. Your issues were relational and experiential. Going inward for 20 years of paid therapy is not going to fix that. Only relational and experiential changes in adulthood are going to address and fix those issues for you and make you actually fulfilled. No one is going to sit alone in a room and change their ability to relate to humans. That doesn't work. They have to be relating to human beings differently in the real world. Trial and error with good, healthy people over and over. That's when your neural pathways begin to shift. Now, if you're skeptical about this, we can actually see this on brain scans. Individual work doesn't change the attachment circuitry, how you bond. It doesn't change the areas of your brain that react. It might change your prefrontal cortex, but that goes offline immediately when you enter conflict. Your prefrontal cortex is not the part to be fixing. It's the amydala and the lyic system through remapping. Relational experiences remap your lyic system and your amydala.
All of this problem, it goes way beyond just therapy. There are a lot of people chasing things out there that could be genuinely good, but are using them as substitutes for actual connection. Let's talk about that. Now, most people have done years of individual work with zero relational practice. And if that's you, number one, I understand where you're coming from. That's most people today. Number two, I built the relationship mastery intensive to help you change that forever. This event is taking place April 23rd to 26th down in San Diego, California. It would be great to see you there. The links in the description.
Now, look, the gym is great, supplements are great, books are great. These things genuinely help the body and the mind. They're wonderful. But none of them are a replacement for real human connection. And unfortunately, that's exactly how a lot of people are using these things to replace their relationship problems that they have. There's a pattern here. Okay? Someone could go to therapy twice a week. They can hit the gym every day. They can take every supplement on the shelf. They can read a hundred self-help books. And you know what happens? They're still anxious or they're still avoidant. They're still cycling through the same relationship patterns over and over. Nothing gets better. Okay?
Now, why does this happen? Because these are all individual internal solutions. I will fix things completely alone in a room by taking supplements, lifting weights, and reading books. That's not really how we learn or grow. You can't read a book about weightlifting and your muscles bulk up. You can't read a book about kung fu and suddenly you're a master of kung fu. You can't read a book about being a chef and suddenly you can cook every meal perfectly. That doesn't work. If you're that kind of person somehow, let me know. If books have helped you do that, cool. But unlike most people, you're going to have to have experiences. You'll have to actually experience those things and practice the skills and learn them and get the feedback from them and improve and improve and improve. Attachment challenges in particular, the attachment challenges that are at the root of anxiety, depression, worrying, traumas, all of that. The attachment issues are relational. They were caused relationally. They were caused in your relationships as a kid, as a teen, in your 20s. Those relationships impacted you. You can't supplement that away. They're going to require relational solutions, not individual solutions. No amount of individual optimization will ever address the core problem you're experiencing.
With talk therapy specifically, it's one of the worst things for attachment challenges. It convinces people that they're winning, they're growing, they're changing. I've spent 10 years crying on a couch about my childhood. I'm almost fixed. When in fact, what this does is actually entrench your pathways deeper and deeper and deeper. As you're sitting there thinking about emotions with your prefrontal cortex fully engaged, session after session after session, processing over and over and over, you're processing with the wrong parts of the brain. That doesn't change anything in your nervous system. What happens in real life is you get into actual circumstances, your amygdala fires off, your lyic system activates, and your brain freaks out. This means your brain reroutes energy and blood flow and everything away from the prefrontal cortex that you've been training for 10 years in therapy, away from that area that all that work was done, turns it off, click, therapy gone. And then it does whatever it wants to do. Your nervous system has decided, I know what to do. You, therapy boy, go sit in the corner. I know what we're really doing here together. Completely independent of anything done in therapy. Your nervous system decides what's going to happen next. That's the loop that keeps people stuck. In therapy, you identify your pain, you process your pain, you feel temporarily better, you encounter a trigger, the same reaction happens. Now you're in pain, you run back to therapy to process it again, feel temporarily better on a loop on a loop on a loop. Your pain gets identified and obsessed over, but the cause doesn't get addressed. you're stuck in an endless loop of processing. 20 years and $50,000 later, you have the exact same patterns.
Now, attachment patterns in particular are stored in your nervous system, not the intellect. Like I said, this is why if you try a bunch of positive affirmations in the mirror, it overwrites fear with language, which by the way, logical left side brain doesn't work either. Fear lives in very different, stronger areas of your brain than language does. Looking in the mirror and saying, "I am worthy of love doesn't overcome the belief in your lyic system from age two that you are fundamentally unlovable and that no one will ever accept you." And every time you experience rejection and abandonment, your brain will just say, "Look, I was right." All those affirmations, they're lies. And now you begin to hate yourself for lying to yourself all the time.
There's a harsh truth we have to talk about with change, okay? Your nervous system has to experience different outcomes to believe that different outcomes are possible. This is experiential learning, not intellectual learning. Therapy sessions don't create lasting change because they're not experiential. They're intellectual practices. People need repeated relational experiences to build the competing neural pathways that phase out the old fear-based pathways and instead reroute to healthier behaviors. Okay.
So, if therapy and gym and supplements and books and podcasts and affirmations aren't enough, what actually works, right? It's probably what you're wondering. We're going to cover that next. And by the way, the fix looks completely different from what most people are doing. Now, after 16 years in this field, I want to tell you that there's a massive difference between the work that feels productive and work that actually rewires your brain. Okay? And you can get tricked.
First, let's talk about what healing busy work looks like. It means reading more books. Reading about kung fu, reading about cooking, reading about lifting weights. Don't get me wrong. I have a collection of books. I write books. I love books. But if you just read and never implement, you're never going to change. Okay? Same with listening to more podcasts. I run the I Wish You Knew podcast. I love podcasts. But if you just listen and never implement, you're never going to change and get better. Talking to a therapist for five more years is also a lot of healing busy work. I will talk to someone in a sterile office from an intellectual brain and process my emotions. That's not actually going to change your brain. Okay? Some people go out on weird retreats and they do crying sessions in the woods. Imagine being a guy who pays $50,000 to go sit in the woods with a bunch of other dudes crying under a tree. This actually happens. By the way, there are retreats for this. That's not going to work. Neither is thinking about your emotions more. Neither is going inward, inward, inward, inward. Right? None of this is going to work. If six years of reading about lifting weights doesn't do what one day of lifting weights does for you, why do you think it's going to work anywhere else in your life?
Instead, I tell people you have to take attachment action. Okay? Relational and experiential attachment action. It means going and having conversations with people that directly confront your fears. So, if none of that's going to work, let's talk about what attachment action looks like. It's relational and it's experiential. It involves going and having conversations with people that directly confront the fears that you're living with. Okay? I am afraid to ask you about this because I'm afraid the answer could be bad. That means I have to talk to you about it. It's testing to see if those fears are even real or not. And if they are, does the other person help you fix them or not? It's gathering data from those experiences and learning the lessons. Your brain begins remapping this way. It's having another experience after that one in the correct direction and another one and another one. Reshaping your brain intentionally through experiential practice. This is skill training. Learning the skills and then deploying them to have different shaped experiences that changes your relationship together with the other person.
There's also a key reframe here that I want to really correct. I hate this term healing. It's this idea that somehow you're wounded, you're damaged, you're broken, something is wrong with you, and now we have to fix you and we have to heal you and you're going to lay there like a patient for surgery. This is not true. Your attachment behaviors are not wounds. They are adaptations to environments. You adapted correctly into your childhood environment. You're not broken. you're not wounded. But the brain has never shifted out of childhood environments and caught up to where you actually live now. It's too afraid. So, it's afraid to challenge those old patterns and try something new in case it gets hurt again. That's why you're stuck. That's why the books and podcasts won't work by themselves. You don't need healing. You need to be able to adapt to your current reality. Okay? This is why me and my team, we teach the skill building and experiential model, not healing. We're not here to heal you or fix you. We're here to show you how to build new skills to create better experiences to remap your brain and adapt differently.
Now, there are four key things that actually change your nervous system. Four key types of experiences you can have. First is the self-regulation experience. Learning to manage your nervous system states. Sometimes self-help will sort of teach you how to manage your nervous system a little, at least outside of conflict with other people alone in a room somewhere. But learning to self-regulate through your difficulties. This is a big experience because you learn that you can manage how you feel. Number two is experiencing emotional safety with other humans. Not just feeling safe alone, but identifying that other humans are responsive. They are caring. They are empathetic. and they can work with you. Experiencing that emotional safety consistently with them. That leads to point number three, co-regulation while connected. Learning to be able to get calm in the presence of regulated people. Solving problems with them and feeling better by the solutions you craft together. They stay calm, you stay calm, you solve together. It co-regulates both of your nervous systems. And finally, number four, building trust together that they will stay this way through repeated experiences over and over and over again. I am stressed. I calm myself. I come to you with the problem. You are emotionally safe and responsive. We talk about it. We fix the problem and co-regulate together and we repeat and repeat and repeat. This is how you craft secure attachment. It's also how you remap your brain permanently.
There's a reps principle here, right? When you go to the gym and you lift, it's a rep. Each one is a rep, right? What research indicates is that the brain needs between 40 and 60 repetitions of new relational behaviors before the patterns are built in and shift permanently. Each successful repair or co-regulation or problem solved together rewires the nervous system 40 to 60 times spread over approximately 90 days. Okay, this is what's called neuroplasticity in action. Your brain is plastic meaning moldable. Neuroplasticity, brain moldability. Yeah, your brain can mold, but only through experience. With guidance and with accountability, this can happen in months, not years.
So, what does this look like in the actual real world? I'll give you an example. Let me tell you the story of one client who came in May. And you can actually see this story on my I Wish You Knew podcast. I had a client come in with over 20 years of therapy, extensive trauma history, living in constant pain. Their relationships were chaotic and stressful. Good human being who wanted to give and receive love but didn't know how and they couldn't break these cycles. Okay, they had disorganized attachment style in particular, one of the most likely to have trauma backgrounds and boy did they ever. Okay, they had achieved nothing through therapy. You can watch this on the podcast where they say, "I've done 20 years of therapy." And I asked, "How's that working for you?" And they said, "It's not. It's done nothing for me." Two decades of processing. Doing the math, that's about $50,000 that they had spent cash out of their pocket. They were convinced after 20 years that their brain just couldn't change. Therapy had convinced them there was no hope because if anything was going to fix them, it was the religion of therapy. after 20 years.
Now, they came into me and had a single intensive session for about an hour and a half to two hours. And you can again see this on the podcast. They had a lifechanging revelation there about being relational. I said, "Nothing you've tried has actually remapped your brain because you're not having experiences at all. All of your experiences are negative and painful and hurtful. No wonder your brain hasn't changed." They cried when they understood, "I've never really done anything to change it." I sat with them and mapped out the skills they need to learn and the experiences they need to go seek out so that they could make permanent change. 2 hours of working together relationally, overcame 20 years of stagnant therapy.
Now, the biggest change for them was that they realized they didn't need a subscription priest anymore to just validate their feelings. They didn't have to just keep going and talking to someone about how they felt. Their therapists had failed them. Okay? What they needed was relational experiences with other humans. They cried when they realized this. They said, "I'm relational. I must live relationally. That will change me." That was the aha moment for them. They finally realized they could work together with other humans on their relationships. not just trying to work around other people and then run to therapy and cry about it, but work with other people.
Now, after that awareness, what they learned and what they did was apply some of those skill trainings to craft experiences that changed things over time. Because they got the skills and experiences, the model that they needed, they moved forward and started making changes pretty quick. actual practice with real humans turns into real experiences that restructure your brain. Okay, this is what you need in your life.
So, if you are someone who's also been stuck in this healing trap, if you've read all the books, you've done all the therapies, right? You won at therapy and you're still not satisfied. If nothing is working and you've tried everything internal, let me show you exactly what needs to change for you. The path forward should be very clear by now. Stop going inward. Start getting relational reps in with all real guidance and accountability. You're going to need skill training. You're going to need experiential maps and then do the experiences to train your brain differently.
The reality is that most people are going to watch this video and I know that they're going to nod their heads. They're going to say, "Yep, Adam, that makes great sense. Thanks, Adam. Thanks for telling me that I should make changes." And then they're going to go back to what they've been doing, more books, more podcasts, more processing. And a year from now, you're going to be watching this channel in the exact same place going, "Yep, Adam, you're right. Relationships, I hear you. Experiences totally with you, Adam. Yep. I'm going to go to therapy next." You're going to turn this off. Go back to your therapist. Most people will. And I don't hold that against anybody cuz maybe you're not ready yet. But you know what? Some people are going to watch this and actually do something different. They're going to get the skills. They're going to get the reps in. They're going to craft the experiences that change their brain. They'll get someone outside of their system who can see patterns. They can't. They're going to make the changes, feel the changes, and permanently change their life. The choice here is really up to you. Do you want to keep going inward hoping for different results? I won't blame you if you do. That's what the majority of people are doing. Or are you ready to start building relational skills that actually change your relationship patterns for life? If you are, you're in the right place. Glad you're here.
Now you understand why the healing industry keeps people stuck. Now you know why therapy has become frankly a religion. You know why going inward doesn't change your relationship patterns and will never stop the patterns that hurt you. But knowing and doing, as we've shown this video, those are two very different things. You can know things and not do anything about them. And then you will never change. Most people will watch this video and go right back to what they've been doing again. More books, more podcasts, more processing, nothing will ever change for them. But as we've established in this video, knowing something and doing something are two completely different things. So if you're ready to do something about this and make your transformation happen, that's exactly what the relationship mastery intensive was built to help you do. This is going to be 3 days of real skill building with other people who know exactly what you're going through. And you'll practice everything that I talked about today and go much deeper into the skill training and the experiences you need to have. This event is April 23rd to the 26th out in San Diego, California. There's only a few spots left. The link is down in the description below.
Now, I made another video on what self-help gurus are getting wrong about healing. It goes a lot deeper on why affirmations and inner child work don't work neurologically and what actually does. You can click that link and follow that video right here and I'll see you.