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Hate to say it, but avoidants are always living off of the backs of other people. And that's part of the selfishness of the avoidant attachment personality. Every one-on-one that I get on, y'all avoidance are living under you. You put down the down payment for the house. They lost their job. You paying the mortgage. Um, you know, you co- you put all the the the apartment stuff under your name, they living under you. Y'all break up, they go live with mommy or daddy, even though they're 40, you know.
Um, they lose their job, they're in like no rush to get a job again, you know. Um, they're they're unmotivated. Oh, they can't live with you? Well, they they'll go live with a friend. They can't live with a friend, they'll go back to living with their parents or sibling or something. Rarely do I ever hear that. Yo, my boy and bossed up. They got all the they got everything together and you know what? They wanted to be with me, so they told me to come move in with them. That's never the case. They are always building [ __ ] off the back of of other people.
They lose their job, you be like, "Oh, you know what? Um, hey, you know, my job is hiring or, you know, why don't I pull a string or I know somebody over here. I'll give them a call, blah, blah, blah." Or you be like, you know what? Um, send me your resume. Let's get it tight together, you know, and and then they they they could be in no hurry, no rush to to get it together. Meanwhile, if it was you, if you would have lost your job on Monday, you'd have a new [ __ ] job by Friday, God willing.
So, it's just [ __ ] like that. It's just it just be exhausting. It's like, damn. Not only do you got this [ __ ] up attachment style, on top of that, you you not ambitious. On top of that, we got to pull teeth and argue with you. On top of that, we got to baby you and take care of you. On top of that, you're just not even driven. You stay at the comfortable in every place of your life. Grow up. Then you don't want to take no risk and you don't want to put [ __ ] under your name because you want to just keep living under other people and living off the back of other people. Grow up. Faith and dreams.