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So, I heard you're trying to get into your seductive era, your fatal era. But every time you see YouTube videos or read a book, you're like, "Oh my God, what do I do? Do I adapt a whole new character? This doesn't fit me." Hold on, girl, I got you.
As someone who's always been very seductive—always had people attracted to my energy, obsessed with me, kind of—I can tell you what actually works in real life. This isn't something I do on purpose; it comes naturally. But I've observed myself, the attributes that I think people are most attracted to. You guys are going to say, "Oh, that's easy for you, 'cause you look good," blah, blah. There are a lot of good-looking people who aren't charming or seductive. You look at them, acknowledge their physical beauty, but they don't have that *je ne sais quoi*.
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Hi guys, my name is L, and welcome back to my channel. Okay, let's get into it. First things first: authenticity. This is probably the most important thing I'm going to mention. You have to be your authentic self. You might notice famous people, people getting a lot of things—you look at them and think, "Why are they getting it? They look so regular, nothing special." It's because they are themselves, unapologetically themselves. They're not afraid to be vulnerable, or if they don't want to be vulnerable, they won't be. They're not trying to play a character; they just are. I'm the same way. Even the way I talk—very passionate—this is who I am, and this is what people fell in love with.
But I also see YouTubers trying to do the same thing, thinking it's a formula, but they don't get the same views. Why? It's not authentic to them. You have to put out your own energy. My energy is for people watching; they fall in love with that. But other people probably need your energy when you're authentic to yourself. It radiates a confidence level on a whole other level. Then, anything you do will be watched and loved because you're not trying to be someone else; you're just yourself, and you love who you are. It's another level of confidence to just be your authentic self. Don't try to embody, "Oh my God, I have to be heartless because this works." No, you can have your boundaries, whatever. But if you're a nice girl, be that nice girl. Don't try to be mean because you think that works. For example, me—I have a tougher personality. A lot of people aren't attracted to that; that's not what they want, but a lot of people are. Then you have girls who are very kind, sweet, very feminine—they'll attract a different type of person than I will because they're authentic. Not everyone is for everyone.
Authenticity is also important because if you're not your authentic self, you'll attract people who aren't their authentic selves. You'll attract liars, cheaters, people trying to be someone else, because that's who you are; that's the energy you're vibrating. But if you're actually yourself, unafraid to be yourself, then people on the same vibration, also confident, will meet you. You'll meet people like that in friends, business partners, relationships.
Another thing is putting effort into your looks, honey. Listen, why do you look like you've never showered before? Huh? So, what I really think is bad—I feel like a lot of women only put effort into their looks when they're going somewhere. For example, only when they have a date, let's say once a month, they'll make themselves pretty for that date, and that's it. No, honey, you should make yourself pretty for yourself. You should groom yourself, and that's what you want for yourself. You have to put effort into your looks, not for someone, but for you. I don't have to get ready for anything because, honey, I'm always ready. I'm always tipped-up, ready. Even on my days that I don't look my best, I am still the best.
I also saw this TikTok video of a woman trying to date, frustrated she couldn't find anyone. People were commenting, "Hey, listen, you have to put some effort into your looks. Find a nice hairstyle, makeup style, or style that suits you better." She was going, "No, I don't have to change myself; I don't have to do anything." Honey, okay, that's okay, but if you're trying to meet a partner, find love, then put some effort into yourself. Put that self-love first. Try to be someone you would love. Put effort into it, and then you're shocked no one wants to date you? You will date people who also don't put any effort into themselves. If people don't put effort into themselves, they won't put effort into you. I think based on physical appearance, you can tell a lot about how a person feels about themselves. I can even tell if someone is hygienic or not, how much they respect themselves. It's a form of self-respect to have a clean space around you. I know sometimes you're depressed, you're not willing to do it—whatever. It's okay to ask for help from a friend, whoever. If you don't have money, just washing yourself a little bit, doing the smallest thing. My mom, for example, grew up in poverty, but she said one thing she always did is clean herself and make sure she looked clean. Because it's not only about self-respect; you also have respect for others around you.
Another thing is beautiful people see beauty in others. You can have someone physically attractive, but their inside is so rotten, their face will always show. There are even certain celebrities—you look at them, think, "Whoo," you know they're physically attractive, but they're so off-putting to me. The inside always shows. You guys feel energy more than you even realize. Even sometimes the comments I get about my energy and aura, I'm shocked. A lot of people feel energy; we don't even realize it. You might see someone and think, "Huh, why do I not like them? Why do I feel so off about them?" You feel their energy. You hate on people, degrade them—whatever, it will always show on your face, no matter what you do. People who are genuinely beautiful—they don't even have to be physically attractive—will always see the beauty in others, in nature, in anything. They see the world as it is. People who see everyone as ugly and bad—that's who they are. So, if you have that inside issue, fix that first to fix your outside appearance, because your outside appearance won't change if you don't fix the inside.
A seductive person knows when to walk away. I'm so firm on this right now. I've realized in my life you really have to. Because I am so tired, I've even fallen back into these people-pleasing tendencies, giving so much more than I'm receiving, and at the end, I'm left depleted. I feel like, "Why did I do that again?" Because now I feel bad. Listen, I will walk away from anyone, I don't care who you are right now, even if I have to walk away from my own mother to protect my peace, I will do that. I'm so tired of putting myself in compromising situations for other people. I'm so tired of giving more than I'm receiving. People who are very seductive and have a lot of self-respect, they walk away because they love themselves more than another person. Another person shouldn't make you feel bad; another person shouldn't bring you down to their level. You should feel good about yourself; you should feel happy with that person. If that's not the case, you walk away. You have to choose yourself. You're trying to be like, "Oh, you know what, I wonder why no one loves me? I wonder why no one respects me?" You don't love yourself; you don't respect yourself; that's why. Staying with toxic people around you—toxic friends, toxic relationships, a toxic boss—and just staying and people-pleasing, you don't have any self-respect; that's the issue. You are the most seductive and in your power when you're like, "You know what? I don't have to deal with you; I don't have to choose you over myself." So then you can get up and walk away from it. You don't chase; you attract.
Listen, does anyone like someone who's desperate? No. Okay, nobody likes it. Imagine you're going to a job interview, and the boss says, "Okay, we'll call you later," but then you call them 10 times every day, "Please, please, did you hire me?" Whatever, man. No one will hire you; you're desperate. Or, for example, there's a boy you want; you keep messaging him, but he's not showing interest. No one wants you; you're desperate. Imagine a guy you really don't want; he's a nice guy, but he keeps stalking you. Why don't you want him? Because he's desperate. What does desperation show? That you're not good enough, not confident, nobody else wants you, and that's why you feel like, "Oh my God, I need to cling on to this person." And what does this person think? They think, "Ew, no one wants them; why would I want them? Why would I take the leftovers?" Someone confident doesn't have to do too much; they can sit back, relax. They put the effort in. So, for example, you put the effort in, put your stuff out there, but you're not desperately seeking, "Oh my God, please like me, like my videos, please, please." I don't care; I put out my stuff; I don't care whether you like me, whether you hate me, regardless, I'm good, regardless, I'm amazing. This is how you have to think as well. Just lay back, put in your effort, but don't desperately chase it. If you see the effort you put in isn't given back to you, walk away, honey. We don't stay; we walk away. Understand that no one can compete with you.
Listen, if you're a truly confident and seductive person, who's on your level? Maybe people are on your level, maybe they're even better. We don't see that in them. Why would I look at other people? You know what I think about all day, when I go to bed, when I wake up? Liz, everything, literally, I'm the main character. I think I'm the best thing in the world, and I don't care who thinks the same about themselves. I hope people think like that about themselves, but I don't think about them; I think about me. I don't care whatever someone has; I hope they get more, I hope they get blessed. My blessings are going to come; whatever I need to have, I'm going to have it and more. So I don't care. When your focus is on you, upgrading you and your life, you don't even see other people. Yeah, you can look at other people for inspiration, but it doesn't have to be envy, "Oh my God, I wish I was them, I wish I had what they have." Honey, you're probably even better, okay? But you don't see that in yourself; you see it in the other person. If you take that energy you're putting into that other person and put it into you, you will flourish and bloom. Stop giving away your power by putting all these good affirmations, compliments, things into other people, neglecting yourself. When you look in the mirror, you can't even say, "Oh, you're beautiful," but when you see someone else, "Oh, you're the most beautiful thing I've ever seen in the world." Honey, how do you talk to yourself? You don't do that to yourself; why would you do that for others? Talk to yourself first; say that to yourself first before you go out and give that love to everyone else. Give that love to yourself first.
Stop trying to save everyone. You cannot save anyone. If people don't want to change, they will not change, and that's it. It's all up to them. You can give them everything, and guys, I've done this. I've given some people in my life so much, everything I could on every single level, not willing to change, still betrayed me, still did the same thing over and over again. And you know why it happened to me? Because I had to learn this lesson. I had to come to the conclusion that, "You know what, Liz, it's not your job to save people; it's your job to save you," and that's it. My job, you know what it is in life? Just to thrive and be on my highest level, and whatever is also on my highest level, I will attract because I am there. So, whatever is also there, I will attract, no matter what it is—whether it's job, relationship, friendships—they will all come to me. I just need to vibrate high and enjoy my life, and then it will all come. You know how much energy it takes, how much it drains you to constantly try to save people, do things for others? No, it drains you, honey. We need that energy for ourselves, okay? So stop trying to save people; they don't want to be saved. People don't want to be saved; you're not God. Leave it to God; pray for them.
Also, do not give unsolicited advice. If someone didn't ask you to give advice on their situation, don't give it, because you'll always be the bad guy, get the blame. So, just shush, okay? Shush. Someone seductive can just sit back, lay back, and observe. Observe their patterns, how they are. If they ask you what you think about a situation, you can give your honest opinion, but if someone didn't ask, if someone just wants to rant to you, just listen, protect your energy. Like I said, it's not our problem, honey. We have to keep our energy for ourselves, but we can listen, and if they need advice, we'll give it, but if they didn't ask, we shush.
Allow people to help you. This goes back to—you don't chase; you attract. How can you attract something if you don't allow people to help you? How can you get to that next level if you don't allow anyone to do anything for you? How are you going to do everything on your own? You know, it's not like you have to be desperate for help, whatever, but when someone says, "Hey, listen, I can do this for you," or, "I can help you financially," no, no, I can't accept because I don't want them to say, "Oh my God, they did this for me." Honey, people do things for you all the time. The bus driver picking you up is literally doing something for you. We are all humans; we're all one; we're here to help each other. If we were all supposed to be alone and individual, God would not create us together, but he did. You have to receive help, and that's another form of, "You know what, this really shows that you want it." People willing to accept help get the furthest because they're not afraid to say, "Hey, yeah, listen, please help me; I need help." So, it's not a flex to be like, "Oh my God, no, I never accept help; I did everything on my own." Honey, you didn't do anything on your own; literally, everyone helped everyone always. Your boss who gives you a paycheck helped you—literally always. So, "self-made" doesn't exist, except help from people, and that's it. Don't try to be like, "Oh my God, I'm so cool, I'm so tough." No, you're not. Why would you struggle extra when you could have gotten it in a shorter cut?
Another thing is basic manners. A lot of you don't have basic manners, maybe because your parents never taught you, or you just don't know how to act. Teach yourself; re-parent yourself. Teach yourself how to use cutlery, say thank you when a waiter does something, or anyone in the service industry. When people are walking, hold the door open for them if they're behind you, but also if they're far away, don't hold it open so they have to run. No, but if they're close, then hold the door open so they can come in. Actually, I'm going to do a whole video on basic manners everyone should know because I don't feel like a lot of people do, especially on social media. No one seems to have manners. So I'm going to do that. But anyways, if you don't have basic manners, teach yourself. You have YouTube, all these platforms where you can learn basic manners and how to behave. There's no excuse to say, "Oh, no, I was never taught in childhood," blah, blah.
Be assertive when needed. When you're a woman, especially, you'll see a lot of people in the business industry, relationships, friendships, who will try to undermine you, disrespect you. So you have to be assertive; you have to know when to speak up for your boundaries, say, "Hey, listen, this is where you will not cross me." You have to know when to do this. You can be kind and still say no. "You know what? Don't treat me like this. No, you know what? Don't talk to me like this. If you do this again, I will go to the cops. If you do this, I will cut you out of my life." You have to stand up for yourself because, again, if you don't, especially as a woman, you will crumble; this world will eat you alive. You know how many times in business or meetings people told me stuff that was extremely out of pocket? Where literally, sometimes I didn't speak up for myself, which I still feel bad for today. But sometimes I literally said, "Hey, let's stop the meeting right here," and I walked out because what was said to me was just out of pocket, crossing my boundaries. But see, in that moment, I did stand up for myself. Today, when I look back, I regret the times that I didn't, and I'm very proud of myself for the times that I did. You don't want to appear mean, whatever, but I'd rather be called mean in that moment than go home and question why I would allow someone to treat me like that. Because at the end of the day, the only person you're being mean to when you don't stand up for yourself is you.
Another thing is follow your intuition. We all have a very strong intuition; we all know what's wrong and what's right. Every time I didn't follow my intuition, I failed myself in friendships and everything. Your body knows something is wrong before the situation actually happens. Time and time again, I had friends that everyone was saying, "Oh, Liz, why do you not like them? They're so nice, whatever, and they're so kind." And I always said, "I feel something's off with them; I couldn't explain it." Then I was like, "You know, my mind took over, so I'm just going to keep being friends with them." And what happened? Betrayed me, betrayed me in big ways. I could have avoided this if I had just listened to myself and not called myself crazy for feeling this way. Honey, listen to your intuition. If there's a place you go into and you feel, "Wait a minute, my stomach just dropped," leave that place. If there's a person you're with, even someone you're dating, and you feel such a bad vibe, leave that person. Do things before something has to happen to open your eyes.
Start celebrating yourself. Hello, you have accomplished so many things, and do you ever say that to yourself? Do you ever look at yourself and say, "Oh my God, girl, we have come so far. Oh my God, girl, we're going to the gym; we did so good today. Oh my God, girl, you got a raise at work"? Do you say any of that to yourself? No. How are you supposed to be confident then? How are you supposed to acknowledge any of your goals or anything you've accomplished? You'll feel like you haven't accomplished anything because you don't acknowledge anything. Oh, honey, look in that mirror and say, "You know what? I am that girl. I am literally that girl and the main character. I've done everything I was supposed to do; I broke generational curses; I'm still standing; I woke up today. Congratulations, honey."
Also, become comfortable with your body. A lot of you women don't even dare to go in front of the mirror completely naked and stare at your own body. That way, you will never be confident or seductive because you're not comfortable with your whole body, which is literally everything you are. Our head is only this small; this is the body, okay? Have to become comfortable with it. You can hug yourself, touch yourself, look at yourself naked in the mirror. These things are very important, and I feel like it's a lot of times demonized for women—this isn't normal, whatever. Baby, that is you; that is your vessel; that is what you have. You have to be like, "I look good, no matter what." You have to love yourself at this stage, and even if you want to get better, doesn't mean this stage is bad. Doesn't mean you just feel like, "Okay, you know what? I feel like upgrading myself." I don't have to, because I'm already good. I was already good all the times in my life, even if I was awkward-looking with my braces, I was still that bit.
Also, allow yourself to take up space. I know you're trying to dim yourself, not wear clothes that stand out because you don't want all the attention on you, whatever. Honey, you could walk into a room with a garbage bag, and people would still stare at you. You're just that girl. You are just that girl. I'm sorry. Instead of denying you're that girl, that you are that powerful, your energy is that powerful, embrace it, become it. Once you become that person that's inside of you, everything will start to open up for you, and you will radiate on a very high level. Because again, like I said, you are your authentic self. You even look at my videos—yeah, like in the beginning of my videos until now. In the beginning, I wasn't really trying to look good or whatever; I just was trying to be taken seriously, to be honest, and I wouldn't put that much effort into my looks. But then I was like, "No, you know, let me learn how to do makeup, let me learn what suits me best, let me wear colors that suit me best." Stop running from the fact that you're that girl. I'm sorry; it's got to be you, honey. Go shine. Go shine.
Last but not least, make sure that when you leave this earth, God won't be able to say to you, "Hey, I gave you this in life, I gave you an amazing mind, I gave you beauty, I gave you grace. What did you do with it?" Make sure you won't be able to say, "Oh, I didn't know how to handle it," blah, blah. No. Make sure you get congratulated because you completed your mission. You have so many blessings that God gave you; do not waste them. Use them to your full potential; use them to become you. You don't even have to become the best version of you because that's already who you are. You have to become yourself again. I will make sure that in this lifetime, any blessing I got, I will use it. Anything, I will accept any help that I got because I know when there's help being sent to me, God has sent it. He sent people to me to help you. Here, list, here you go, here is guidance. Look at the signs; look at the help you're getting from other people and take it. Because when you leave this earth and God looks at you and says, "Honey, I gave you this, this, this, and you didn't accept," you'll be shamed. Anyways, my seductive queens, I hope you enjoyed this video. I hope you guys learned something, and yeah, I see you in the next video. I love you guys so much.