Healing Starts When You Accept This

If [music] you tell yourself a story that that person was the love of your life and they left you and your soulmate [music] is out there now getting married to somebody else, then [music] your heartbreak is going to be chronic.

If you tell yourself, "I'm heartbroken because I really thought this was my person and it [music] turns out they weren't and I'm so disappointed and I'm so hurt and I'm so sad." you're then you're going to be okay.

There's the heartbreak of disappointment, which is okay. [music] You know, you can grieve that they weren't the one, but if you [music] grieve because they were the one, that's a kind of grief that stays with you for a very long time.

So, you have to change the story. You have to adapt [music] the story based on the new information. If someone doesn't want me, they they they cannot be my person. [music]