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When I signed that prenup, I signed away my rights to everything.
>> Good. Good. As you should.
>> What up, guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today, we're reacting um to women that regret signing a prenup. So, a lot of women in life, we take L's. Um and one L is wanting to rob a guy. Um it's obviously the wrong thing to do to rob a guy and ruin his life, but women want to do that. And it is kind of an L if you try to and you just cannot succeed. So let's see. Let's see what they say. Okay.
>> I wish I had thought about when signing the paper because again I was signing not really thinking about divorce. But the one thing I would change is the fact that I didn't put anything in relation to housing and all of that after the fact. So there was nothing about housing that was stated. Of course it's going to benefit him more because he was more established than me. So everything you come in with basically is what you leave with. But all the community property that would be divided. Community property is all the stuff that was bought or whatever while you guys got married. We had separate businesses. I started a business when we were married. It was established that that business was mine completely. If y'all don't know, I was a personal trainer and I had my own. So all that gym equipment was mine essentially. Of course, there was an undisclosed amount of money that I would receive. Whatever he had it wasn't as much money as she thinks. I bet she wasn't making as much as she thinks.
>> Or I had once we separate that debt would be that that person's responsibility. So my debt would not be on him. His debt would not be on me. When we did the post up, I had to go through everything that we own like jewelry and bags and basically list each item and their value. And we spoke about like the stocks and anything like those. Like basically whatever was mine would be mine and I would be fine. So like anything he bought me, all that stuff 100% mine. Like I said, the only issue we had when everything when hit the fan, it was basically like, okay, um cuz we didn't get to buying a house. We were in the process of doing that years ago, it fell apart, we didn't get around to that. And in the postup, the house that he owned would be his or whatever, which was fine. So I that's the only thing that we had to negotiate basically like how would we go about this? And he basically paid like one year rent for me and that was it. Off the top of my head, I can't think of anything else because I don't have the document anymore. Maybe I can check my email if I need to be more specific. But like I said, the only thing I regret not doing is talking about the living conditions because when you are signing a prenup, you have to actually think like there is a possibility of divorce. I wasn't thinking of that possibility. So I was just like, da da da let me sign. The prenup had a separate undisclosed amount. when we did the
>> she's more mad that she just didn't get the money.
>> Now that amount was raised which is really good because at the time like that was fine but of course luckily he changed that and again all the terms were completely
>> even if you give women money and divorce they'll just spend it. I mean they'll they won't know what to do with it. All right, let's see what's going on with this lady.
>> Any comments on my prenup post calling me stupid and saying how dumb I was to have signed that prenuptual agreement. But let me tell you why I did sign it. So, I met a man who was 20 years older than me, who wasn't a deadbeat, who had a nice career and was ready to settle down and was ready to have kids. And so I thought I hit the jackpot. Yeah, like most women who find a good man with a good job and uh he seems like he's ready to have kids and settle down. Yeah, I hit the jackpot. And I was a teacher before I got married to this man. Um I made $41,000 a year as a teacher in South Florida. I didn't have any savings. I didn't have any assets to bring into the marriage. No. and uh he has a business and all of this stuff and I didn't want any of it. All I wanted was to marry the man. I didn't want his money. I still don't want his money. Um it's not about that. So the prenumptual agreement, I was I guess lied to by him and told that it protected me. I did not know that uh I wouldn't have any rights to the house. I I didn't know. Yes, I was dumb. I was naive. I grew up in North Carolina with a mom who has never owned a home. I didn't know anything about a deed or a mortgage. Nothing. I knew nothing. And no, I did not educate myself before I signed it. Uh looking back, hindsight's 2020. Yes, I wish I would have known what I was signing. And um I did have a lawyer who was given to me by his lawyer. In my eyes, I wasn't bringing anything into the marriage, so I shouldn't get anything out of it. I wasn't thinking about my future or having kids. I was excited to marry this man, and if I needed to sign a prenuptual agreement to marry him, then I was signing.
>> Yeah. So I bet she had genuine desire for him at the time and was willing to do anything and then um probably you know friends got in her ear became disobedient later and they took that L and you know got divorced happens. I I let love blind me and um I saw everything through rosecolored glasses and I never in my entire life thought that this man would do this for me. He's just he was my night in shining armor that came and saved me and he was going to take care of me as I take care of our kids and him and our home and then when he gets old then I'll get to take care of him. But obviously we're not going to get to that point. The only thing that I would have changed is I would make sure that my name was on the deed to the house that we built together after we were married. That's it. At 27 years old, when I signed that prenup, I signed away my rights to everything.
>> Good. Good. As you should.
>> Um, anything.
>> He was 20 years older. So, it's like, okay, he already had a life before you. um anything that he had before our marriage, anything that he that he makes or grows or builds during our marriage, and then I I signed away all of my rights to anything after the marriage. So, like people are talking about uh retirement and social security.
>> All right, so let's see what's next.
>> I don't even know what that is. Uh but I don't get any of it because I waved it. I waved I waved alimony. I waved any kind of spousal support. I waved everything um for this house. It specifically states that him and his trust will always own this house. Yesterday I asked him again if there's anything I could do to get my name on a deed. He said no in no period. Um, I mean, I don't know if there I don't I signed I signed the paper and and that's it just is what it is. Um, I don't expect anything other than child support and the fact that he's not wanting to give me child support after I sign away literally everything is shocking.
>> What do you think the put in the comments what the real version of the story is? Was it I'm so I was so insufferable and I've made his life a living hell and yes, I signed the prenup, but I tried to fight it with everything I had and I'm only asking for child support after making your life h like what is the real story if this sounds like your ex-wife
>> to me? Like everything. I waved everything except child support because you can't wave child support in a prenup. because it's not mine, it's my kids. But yeah, I in my prenuptual agreement, I waved I waved everything. I waved it all thinking that I would be protected and that the man that I was marrying was a good man and he would never do anything to hurt me. But people change, feelings change, love changes, and people can lie. So if you're a female, if you're a woman, if you're a girl and you are watching this, protect yourself.
>> Protect yourself.
>> It's never It's not always protect yourself and never figure out how to make your marriage work. Women are incredible. young woman come into me or a middle-aged woman come into me and she has a prenup that cuts her out totally, what do I think? I think it's so sad. I am so sorry. And
>> again, this is the whole um the whole complex like everybody's trying to convince women to be terrible people. We can't really um be shocked that women do it, right? It's like everyone's saying the lawyers are saying, the judges are saying, the girlfriends are saying, so it doesn't really shock us that we just become awful people. I feel like the bad news bear when I am telling them that what they signed is what they're going to get. Nothing. Whose wife gets paid more child support? A. Husband makes $100,000 a year and spends every dime. B. Husband makes $100,000 a year, saves $50,000 and spends $50,000. C. The husband makes $100,000 a year and spends
>> Yeah, it's going to be the one that saves the most money, pays the most. I what I've seen, the system really punishes men that are responsible and rewards men that are irresponsible.
>> $200,000 a year. Which husband pays more child support? I'll tell you in the comments. You will not believe the answer if it's purchased during the marriage.
>> Yeah. Okay. All right, let's see. I think that's all of them. All right, guys. Um, let me know what you think in the comments. Thanks so much for watching and like the video. Um, women are signing more and more prenups. Um, it really is dependent on the judge if they get if they're enforced or not. Um, or how disputed they are. But it's always great to see women take L's. So, let me know what you think in the comments. Like the video, subscribe, and I'll see you next