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So, does anyone care to touch on this further? I think all of us just using our own common sense, whether you're a psychiatrist, psychologist, or not, can say, "Yeah, of course. Things that have happened to us may affect how we think, and how we think may affect how we talk, and the things that we do." But, is it driving our subconscious? Is it driving our behavior as adults? Partly.
Well, if you start drinking at the age of 12, then drinking as an adult is probably driven by that because you're an alcoholic. My name is Jerry. I left Maga. And learning to re-parent your inner child is not necessarily an easy thing to do. Why do I mention that? Because Allie Beth Stuckey. This gal. She's She's She's the one who wrote that book, uh, Toxic Empathy. Anyway, she's got this wild take that's, uh, inner child shadow work is some sort of new age practice. And that Christians need to be aware of this Tik Tok self-help trend. Girl, for starters, it's not a Tik Tok self-help trend. I mean, it's not just exclusively that. All right? It's It's a big thing as as a part of recovering from childhood trauma. Anyway, um, let's uh Let's match 10 years of cognitive behavioral therapy against whatever it is she's working with.
So, I want to talk about what the inner child concept is and how it originated. That tells us a lot about what it means, and if Christians should be toying with it. It's not just a social media fad. This psychological term inner child actually has roots in the New Age movement, and quite frankly Oh, I'm going to need some for this. New Age movement, huh? So, Freud was New Age. Young was New Age. I I I don't see how their work equates to crystals and tarot cards. frankly has parts of it that a Christian really just shouldn't tolerate and shouldn't play with.
So, let's go back to its beginnings. Um, Sigmund Freud, a lot of you know who he is. He was an Austrian physician. He was often called the father of modern psychology. He argued that early childhood experiences form unconscious patterns in our thinking, and he popularized the idea that repressed childhood trauma is what drives much of our adult behavior. So, already you can see And L. Ron Hubbard loved Freud. In fact, Edward Bernays, uh, Freud's nephew. Any Anyway, it's a whole thing. Let's get back to Allie. that some of that could be considered true, and other parts of it you're like, "Well, is that true? Does it really drive all of our unconscious patterns of thinking or even most of our unconscious patterns of thinking? Does it really contribute majorly to who we are and what we do as adults?"
I think all of us just using our own common sense, whether you're a psychiatrist, psychologist, or not, can say, "Yeah, of course. Things that have happened to us may affect how we think, and how we think may affect how we talk, and the things that we do." But, is it driving our subconscious? Is it driving our behavior as adults? Partly. When you're living in survival mode, yes, it most definitely is. When you're you're trapped in a domestically violent environment, be it a parent, a spouse, um anybody in a household, any family member that's got anger management issues, um yeah. Yeah, childhood traumas, childhood experiences drive adult choices.
Driving our subconscious? Is it driving our behavior as adults? Partly, but then also it can't be completely that because we know we just also have a sin nature that was inherited from Adam that Ah. Ah, so we're just inherently bad people. We're just inherently bad creatures because of original sin, and so like you said, it's not all your fault that you make bad decisions. See, that's that's how people dodge accountability. ultimately is responsible for the wrong things that we do.
Um, Carl Jung, uh, was one of Freud's students, and he expanded on this idea of the inner child and what he called the divine child. Young was a Swiss psychiatrist and psychologist who lived from 1875 to 1961. He was hugely influential in the field of psychology, and he's best known for developing the concept of archetypes. So, the kind of types that people can be, and one of these archetypes is the divine child. And in Young's Something else that, uh, about L. Ron Hubbard, he liked Young. In fact, uh, Young came up with a galvanometer, the the little device that's self-powered, and you hang on to two leads, and then like back in the '50s, it was a bit of a parlor game. And, uh like a girl would grab a hold of it and do you want so- so or so to kiss you, and you'd watch the needle move because conductivity changes in the body with chemical releases and such. Anyway, L. Ron Hubbard took Young's galvanometer and turned it into the E-meter. The the little the cans. Anyway, it's it's a whole crazy thing. But, uh, now let's let's uh let me back up here a little bit. Let's get back to her. best known for developing the concept of archetypes. So, the kind of types that people can be, and one of these archetypes is the divine child. And in Young's conception, it wasn't just the childhood trauma that affected you, but actually the concept that there was a pure self inside of you trying to become whole.
And if And it's true. It's true. Okay, so during my deconstruction, I had to shed things like being, uh, an adamant supporter of the death penalty, and uh an an adamant opponent of, um, abortion, and believing that everybody needed to be Christian, and all these different things. These These were not ideas that I could hold true to myself. When I did my deep my religious, um, deconstruction, I had to do my political deconstruction as well. I had to unlearn a lot. I had to relearn a lot. I was learning facts while I was overriding what had been had been forced upon me, had been indoctrinated by alienated upon me. Uh, what I had been inculcated on. Um Anyway, uh, let's get back to Allie. If you read my first book, or if you're familiar with people like, uh, Glennon Doyle, or even people like Rachel Hollis, they might not directly uh, directly cite the psychological, um, literature, but this idea of this divine pure self inside of you, this concept of basically having an inner goddess, that if it weren't for the mean things people did or said to you, if it weren't for a capitalism and the patriarchy and all of and racism and all of these unfair systems, if it wasn't for mass advertising and unfair beauty standards, she would be perfect. And your Well, now I don't know about taking it's all that perfect thing, but yeah, those are all negative aspects of society, and the mass advertising is a direct derivative up to and including uh, political campaigns the way we see them, all this advertising that we see, all this marketing uh, is directly derived from the work of Edward Bernays, like 100 years ago. Um And check out The Century of Self. It's It's a great four-part production. If you haven't seen it yet, you really should.
Anyway, um When when one is raised in, uh, a dangerous environment, they they don't they don't learn to pick up on what on the things that people outside that environment might consider red flags. And this is why quite often individuals who come out of traumatic high-control environments end up going off into risky behaviors, uh, risky sexual behaviors, um, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, addiction, all kinds of crazy stuff. Anyway, um Let's get back to Allie. your goal in life, your journey in life is to go back and find her and to release her from all of these unfair expectations in your childhood trauma. And once you're able to do that, then you can manifest all of these different areas of success.
I'm not And it's true. It does work that way. Whenever I figured out that that I could shed shame for things that are just like normal human behaviors, normal human things that aren't hurting anybody without their consent, you know, and and I'm happy with it, and my partner's happy with it, and the people around me are happy with my decisions. Because I've decided I didn't have to let anybody else make decisions for me. I found myself, and I found the the ability to forgive myself for things in the past and make amends for those bad things in the future, which is why I'm making these videos. Having been a MAGA line streamer, I created some damage with ones and zeros. With a life of voting Republican, I created a lot of problems. And there's people outside this bubble that don't know, don't understand, they don't have the the view, they don't have to to to bring in another archaeological term, they don't have the datum point to understand what's really going on. So, this is why I work a very different angle than everybody else does. Where it is taking a village to untangle this Gordian knot that is Christian nationalism. Not saying that's the fullness of what Young taught, but we certainly see that narrative in so much of what women read and are taught today. This underlying assumption that if it weren't for all of these other factors, my inner self would be perfect and perfectly loved. And if I can find her and find a way to perfectly love her and heal her, then I'll just be okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, Ally. Ally, girl, it works that way. It really does. When you can forgive yourself, when you can learn to love yourself, not hate yourself, then it's a whole lot easier to accept other human beings. I mean, how how could I have maintained a MAGA ideology, any of it, and then able to accept myself as a a a a male that presents with some feminine qualities as a result of puberty. That puts me on the transsexual spectrum. So, if if Well, I would how why would I want to hold to an ideology that would force me to hate myself? When what I've chosen for myself isn't hurting anybody else. It's not hurting me. So, Ally, girl, just if you can love yourself, it's easier to love others. That is a secular new age idea. It's not a biblical idea. Jeremiah 17 tells us that our heart is actually desperately sick. Who can understand it? It's not something that we should follow. Again, But also, didn't your Jesus say, "Love one another as I have loved you, for by these works they will know you are my followers"? Good grief, girl. We inherited our sin from Adam, and so we are depraved inside. We don't have a beautiful, perfect inner goddess. We are sinner Okay, you can you can drop the goddess or god inner goddess inner god talk unless you're talking about Ken Copeland and the whole I am doctrine, and and that's that's Oh, girl, you've got me wound up. Anyway, uh Ally, holy cow. If you just drop the if you just if you just drop that that word that gives the perception of self-deification. Again, Ken Copeland. Uh And and you could you could change that to recognizing that inner self, that inner child, that that child that didn't get the attention it needed when when you were a child. Where where were your parents when you were I don't know, 12, 13 years old? Were you a latchkey kid? I'm just wondering. I I That's for some reason I get this vibe that that you've never been poor. Um so, you've never actually had to deal with genuine reality. I I could be wrong. I I don't know what her economic background is, but given where she is, working over at Blaze, and then again, if she does have roots like that, she may have forgotten them. Um we can talk about Candace some other time. who need to be saved. And so, this journey to finding the untainted, perfect, divine self inside of us is a losing battle. That act Yeah, because there is no divine self. Not not not in it in a a deified supernatural evangelical concept. Oh my goodness, I need to stop on that. Actually, will just encourage more self-focus, which is the thing that is oppressing and trapping us, not the thing that's going to liberate us.
Unless you can take inventory of the things that you can control and can change to improve the general quality of your life, like say, oh, I don't know, picking new friends, moving to a different town, uh selling a house, or, you know, what whatever whatever is causing you grief at the moment that you have control to change. And then, maybe work on the idea of accepting those things that you can't change. And deciding which of those you genuinely want to worry about. Um the Youngian concept of the inner child really moved beyond psychology circles and into mainstream awareness in the 1990s. It was largely through the influence of an American counselor named John Bradshaw in 19 Okay. Okay. So, what she's saying is true. Um I'm not sure exactly where she's going with this, but in 2025, 2026, having uh PDF files. I hate self-censoring. Uh But but aren't aren't those who harm children like everywhere? I mean, it's part of the conversation of society now, right? Revealing these problems so that that we as a culture can work on them. This is this is another one of the concepts. This this community effort for improvement is another one of the concepts of transformative justice. It's how we change and grow as communities. As everywhere from from your local community, your neighborhood, all the way up to the whole world, for crying out Anyway, um I'm digressing, and I really want to get through this Ally Beth piece. 92, Bradshaw published Homecoming, and it became a New York Times bestseller. And in that book, he argued that the inner child carries unmet emotional needs that individuals could begin healing from mental trauma by reparenting themselves. So, that's a lot of what we're seeing on TikTok.
So, the All right. So, I just got to cut in there. If if you want to know more about working with these things, there's a couple of YouTubers that I can recommend personally. Uh Jerry Wise and Patrick Teahan, t e a h a n. They're both childhood trauma specialists. They're they're both therapists. Uh certified. Legitimate therapists. Um Anyway, uh there there are certain behaviors that present in adulthood that can be linked back to emotional neglect or physical abuse. Whether it's whether it's uh aggressive um corrective punishment, or verbal, or intimate. Um And the it it's it's it's this whole massive field, but it's outside their name it and claim it prosperity gospel word of faith Oh, good grief, wealth transfer nonsense. Anyway, uh I don't know if she believes in wealth transfer, but she's definitely talking like one of these these uh I don't know, maybe ARC, Association of Related Churches. Uh she doesn't sound like she's talking full NAR. New Apostolic Reformation. She might be. I'm I'm not that familiar with her connections. Well, I I want to see she plays TV, at least she's connected to Glenn Beck. And Glenn Beck talks to a lot of those guys over there FlashPoint. It it's a crazy web. Anyway, back to Ally. The first concept that we'll talk about today is the inner child theory. The second one is shadow work. And the third one is somatic therapy, okay? So, that's like the body keeps score, you're holding trauma in your body, okay? Wait till we get to all of these because I know some of you are gunning to, you know, try to already respond. So, let's go to the first. Um this idea of the inner child. So, depending on your TikTok algorithm, you may have come across some videos of grown women, uh adult women coaxing themselves through situations as if they're children. And I am playing these for you to give you an example of what I'm talking about, so you don't think I'm just pulling this out of a hat. No. Okay. So, I hadn't previewed this far through the video, so here on out, it's all cold reactions. And some of those reactions I've given so far have just were were things I had missed the first time cuz I was just like kind of scanning over it just to see what she had to say. So, uh let's do this. not to mock these people, certainly not to make them a, you know, a target for anything, but these people did post this publicly. Um and so, I think it's fair to say we're talking about a concept. Here's an example of what I'm talking about, salt one. Also, I'm doing the same thing Ali did. All right, let's back that up again so we can get that unedited or uninterrupted. >> think it's fair to say we're talking about a concept. Here's an example of what I'm talking about, salt one. Oh, sweetie. I'm really sorry that she hit you and she's been [music] hitting you. You're sad and you're mad >> [music] >> and you also feel like you need to forgive her because she's little. And I love that [music] about you. But right now, you just get to be upset that you've been hit, okay? Yeah, you don't like it. You don't like [music] it. Reassuring affirmations. Oh my goodness. So, that that is a legitimate form of therapy. It it is a healing technique that works for me. It's it has a proven track record. So, um let's let's see what this Christian nationalist has to say about it. Okay. Inspiration camp meeting, a place to encounter God and step into [music] next level harvest. >> commercial.
So, I'm just going to play that one example. The other example that we had to play was actually the video that we've already played in the past and you saw the voiceover of that just a few minutes ago, but there are several videos like this and I'm not minimizing the hurt feelings that these people have. I simply do not think that a talking to ourselves as children is actually the path that we are supposed to take to deal with very real pain. So, I want to talk about what the inner child concept is and how it originated. That tells us Mhm. Wow. I I would I would I think I would enjoy it. I'd probably be just frustrated trying to actually have a conversation with her. I might be able to ask her some questions though that that would provoke some thinking, maybe. I don't know. She's she's pretty well versed in thought-stopping techniques. so a lot about what it means and if Christian should be toying with it. It's not just a social media fad. This psychological term inner child actually has roots in the New Age movement and quite frankly has parts of it that a Christian really just shouldn't tolerate and shouldn't play She's applying the same logic to this as I've heard many Christian nationalists apply to yoga. Yoga can be a healthy exercise. Great for the body. I know you're back to it myself. But then you look at uh uh Oh god, we've been watching this uh Rajneesh. We've been watching this uh Rajneesh documentary series. It's actually pretty cool. But uh Rajneesh and and um several other individuals have have taken yoga and weaponized it into a cult setting. Yeah, yoga cults are real. And my partner, when I first told her that, she was like, wait, what? They they took the the the least harmful thing on earth and turned it into a weapon. I'm like, yeah. Um unscrupulous humans are going to do that. Anyway, uh so, she's applying that same logic that yoga is evil because it's not Christian. Uh that to this uh whole idea of seeking that inner child to actually help heal yourself. Um or work on healing yourself. It It takes a village. I'm so thankful for my support network, but girl. play with.
So, let's go back to its beginnings. Um Sigmund Freud, a lot of you know who he is. He was an Austrian physician. He was often called the father of modern psychology. He argued that early childhood experiences form unconscious patterns in our thinking and he popularized the idea that repressed childhood trauma is what drives much of our adult behavior. So, already you So, let's say for example, uh there's a particular a particular fragrance, a particular smell, a uh that that triggers obscurely painful thought. Like say, oh, I don't know. Uh the smell of uh molasses cookies baking reminding you of your your late mother. Um or something of that effect. Maybe maybe when you see uh Christmas trees and Christmas decorations going up, it reminds you of that white flocked Christmas tree that your grandmother had with the blue glass Christmas balls on it. I I don't know. I don't know. But uh yeah, I'm digressing again. You can see that some of that could be considered true and other parts of it you're like, well, is that true? Does it really drive all of our unconscious patterns of thinking or even most of our unconscious patterns of thinking? Does it How about how about the sound of clinking rocks glasses coming from the other room? Or or uh other auditories that that signal that there could be trouble coming because uh somebody is drinking and you know that individual is not going to be able to maintain their their temper after they reach a certain point. You know good well that they can't stop drinking before they cross that line. In fact, quite often go well beyond that line. So, if you've ever lived with or grown up around an alcoholic, you understand what I'm talking about. Um so, there are certain cues that will trigger that fight, flight, freeze, or fawn reaction. And yeah, that's that's rooted in that early trauma or any trauma. really contribute majorly to who we are and what we do as adults. I think all of us just using our own common sense, whether you're a psychiatrist, psychologist, or not, can say, yeah, of course. Things that have happened to us may affect how we think and how we think may affect how we talk and the things that we do, but is it driving our subconscious? Is it driving our behavior as adults? Partly. Well, if you started drinking at the age of 12, then drinking as an adult is probably driven by that because you're an alcoholic. Um but that's probably an extreme example. Maybe maybe cigarettes would would be more Well, that's pretty dangerous example, too. Cussing? Um beating on your peers, you know, like pummeling them because playground nonsense. You know, that's that's Anyway, uh back to Ali. But then also, it can't be completely that because we know we just also have a sin nature that was inherited from Adam that ultimately is responsible for the wrong things that we do. Um Oh, bad blood theory. You're Greek. Man, they they these people are so good at coming up with excuses, aren't they?
Carl Jung uh was one of Freud's students and he expanded on this idea of the inner child and what he called the divine child. Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist and psychologist who lived from 1875 to 1961. He was hugely influential in the field of psychology and he's best known for developing the concept of archetypes. So, the kind of types that people can be and one of these archetypes is the divine child. And in Jung's conception, it wasn't just the childhood trauma Okay. Okay. So, her her understanding or her explanation, her translation of archetypes as the different kinds of of individuals or persons that you can be, and then one of the archetypes is the inner child. So, it's like she's saying it's it's almost like she sounds almost like she thinks that when you're addressing that aspect of your personality, that inner child, that you are becoming that inner child. Man, this this is this was one of the things that frustrated me out of MAGA. They they they they can't or don't seem to be able to understand the concepts of nuance. I'm just going to leave it at that. comment that affected you, but actually the concept that there was a pure self inside of you trying to become whole. And if you read my first book or if you're familiar with people like Glennon Doyle or even people like Rachel Hollis, they might not directly directly cite the psychological literature, but this idea of this divine pure self inside of you, this concept of basically having an inner goddess that if it weren't for the mean things people did or said to you, if it weren't for capitalism and the patriarchy and all of and racism and all of these unfair systems, if it wasn't for mass advertising and unfair beauty standards, she would be perfect. And your goal in life, your journey in life is to go back and find her and to release her from all of these unfair expectations and your childhood trauma. And once you're able to do that, then you can manifest all of these different areas of success. I'm not saying that's the fullness of what Young taught, but we certainly see that narrative in so much of what women read and are taught today, this underlying assumption that if it weren't for all of these other factors, my inner self would be perfect and perfectly loved. And if I can find her and find a way to perfectly love her and heal her, then I'll just be okay. That is the secular new age idea. It's not a biblical idea. Jeremiah 17 tells us that our heart is actually desperately sick. Who can understand it? It's not something that we should follow. Again, we inherited our sin from Adam. And so we are depraved inside. We don't have a beautiful perfect inner goddess. We are sinners who need to be saved. And so this journey to finding the untainted perfect divine self inside of us is a losing battle that actually will just encourage more self-focus, which is the thing that is oppressing and trapping us. Not the thing that's going to liberate us.
It's really important to us that you subscribe. All right. Well, it's it's obvious that she has no understanding of how the human psyche functions. Um it it shows that she has no understanding of what Carl Young was trying to say or what we're trying to say even today about going back and and finding those wounds that we took and and figuring out how those those childhood traumas were understanding, learning to understand that those childhood traumas are linked to the autoimmune diseases that we suffer as adults. And why it is that we need to learn how to navigate our lives a little more mindfully and not let chronic pain interfere with our our mood and our engagement with our fellow humans. Um Yeah, it's it's taken me a lot of work to get to where I am. So I um I don't find it demeaning for myself if if somebody else says something like once MAGA, always MAGA or oh, you've you've gone to the dark side, so now you're possessed by a demon. Uh those those words don't hurt me because they're coming from people that are not willing to allow other humans to change and grow. And that that makes me sad. That makes me sad. I I've I'm constantly all the time. I've I have seen so many people around me growing over the last couple of years. And I just I try to lead by example. So if you want to be closed-minded and and uh not accept changes, that that's on you. That's not my problem. That's on you. Um if if you think that's um I'm off base because I left MAGA, again, that's that's on you. I've made my choices for my life and I'm comfortable with them. I'm happy with them. And I I have people all around me that are happy. I Yeah, sure. I'm agnostic. I I'm like Fox Mulder. I want to believe. But like Gandhi said, I I like your Jesus, I not real fond of his followers. Although I do associate with some really solid people that are progressive Christians. I I They're like James Tallarico type Christians. All right? They're they're on that caliber. Except they're not Well, there are a couple of politicians in there. Uh at least one. But um I'm digressing again. Uh I just I'm just stunned when when I hear people like Ally talking about toxic empathy and and not being able to understand the concept, the true concept of inner child work and learning how to re-parent that child because they were neglected on this, that, or some other level. And some most often multiple levels. Um so yeah. Uh mental health genuinely matters. Genuinely matters. And it can be painful. It it often is painful to work through this stuff. Um I've I've survived domestic violence. I survived child sexual assault. My my generation and and my mom on my mom's side of the family most of us have worked through it, I guess. I I have one cousin I I still have her contact with on occasion. Um I'm I'm concerned about the others. It's It's been tough looking for accountability on anything.
Anyway, uh getting real personal here. So if you hung out till the end, this went way longer than I thought it would. That's like uh 11-minute video and I'm at what? 35 minutes, so it's triple the time. That's not too bad. But if you hung out till the end, you got a good chance to get a peek into my heart and my past. And uh I I hope you can take that into consideration as we move forward with these videos. And until the next one, please take care of yourselves so you can help take care of others. Oh, wait, wait, hold up. Let me back up. That whole um like, share, subscribe, if you can manage that, I'd greatly appreciate it. Comments I understand help the algorithms. And apparently people are liking my work on Doug Wilson. Man, that guy's a real piece of work. But there's so many of these people that that um that uh I I feel a need to talk about. There's a couple of lesser preachers that I've directly engaged with on their on in their comments. And I I'm we'll get there. We'll get there. Peace. I have no end to my work. Not not that I can see. Anyway, yeah. Please take care of yourselves so you can help take care of others. Get the rest that you need, drink those fluids, and remember, please remember, mental health matters. Everybody [music] wants to love.