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What up, guys? Welcome to my coffee talks. My name is Pearl Davis, and for those of you that don't know, I grew up in a predominantly middle to upper class white area. Um, a lot of people came back at me after the last video and they said, "Your house was upper class." And that is true, but I would say most of the people I grew up around, the neighborhoods I was in, it was middle upper class.
I then ended up moving to London. Um, and I was in the east side of London because I was playing volleyball and I pretty much was surrounded by people that were not white. This was Muslim communities, um, black communities, African culture. So, I have a lot of observations. They always say white people don't have culture. Um, but I've noticed um, different observations on the different groups of people and I think the more intimately, you know, you interact with different groups, you see there is a big difference.
Um, and one of the things I talked about is that white people are overly polite and we're trained to give people the benefit of the doubt. And I think that's actually what gets white men in dating. White men um, they just have a tendency to not or to be very trusting and they really trust their wives. They're not really going to monitor her behavior. And I think that's why white men really get bamboozled um in divorce court or you see those white men that just um shoot up their family like they kill their kids. And I think it's because we're just we grow up in a very trusting culture.
Now the issue is women just are not trustworthy at all. Doesn't matter the race. Um you know people say I'm a little bit racist. Maybe I am. But when it comes to women, um, any race really, women just destroy the men in different ways. Like, black women are much more violent upfront. They're much more willing to fight your ass. White women, they're not really going to do that. But black women, at least they bring their aggression up front, right? At least, you know, up front they're trying to kill your ass. you know, white women, um, they have, um, a very long thoughtout plan of how to destroy your life. That's what I've noticed.
Latinas, um, I have less experience with Latina women, but I'll say they also throw their aggression up front. There's a reason, you know, we always hear about the crazy jealous Latina. Uh, it's because she might key your car, right? And you'll at least see it coming.
Asian women. Again, I probably spent the least amount of time with Asian people, but I lived next to this Asian like couple once and I could hear them fighting all the time and it was incredible because this girl was just like meek as a mouse outside of the house, but I would hear her like screaming like I would hear him like kick her out of the apartment, her banging on the and I'm like this is a you wouldn't really see it coming, you know?
But all right, I want to talk about what I've noticed the differences in dating. Um, when it comes to white men, black men, Latino men. Um, again, Asian people I would say I've spent the least amount of time around in general. Um, I did go to Japan when I was like 12, but just in general, that's I probably know the least about that culture.
Um, okay. So, white men, they tend to work more hours. This is reflective in the data and just my anecdotal experience. Um, and it doesn't it's not necessarily just um because they like work a lot of hours at work. Um, I can think of white men that maybe are low like status in society, like they have bluecollar jobs, they're tradesmen, but in white culture it's very looked down upon to like outsource things. Um, so white men kind of view other white men that can't do things themselves as lesser men. Um, you know, like even if a white guy doesn't make that much money, he usually can do his own plumbing. And they usually have a bunch of side projects, whether it's like fixing a four-wheeler, um, fixing their car, like they just, I don't know what it is about them, but they just are very productive. Meaning that they really just, I would say, spend less time learning female nature. they're too busy um being the movers and shakers in society fixing their house. And I I you know, white men just don't care or are not interested enough in women to just spend a lot of time learning about them.
Um so in my life, I've also spent a lot of time around PUAs, pickup artists, like men that have spent a ton of time and effort learning and understanding female nature, like to the point it's like autistic. Um, it's very helpful if you read the writings, but it's very autistic. Like, if she does this, do that. If she says this, she means that. It's it's autistic, right? And I would say just in my anecdotal experience, it's more likely um that black men a lot of times they grew up, especially in America, they grew up without a father. So they're more accustomed to female nature because they a lot of times grew up with these like crazy mothers. Absolutely insane. And a lot of times the mothers were really promiscuous. So they don't really trust a [ __ ] And they actually view white men as stupid for being so trusting in their women. Because let's be honest, a lot of the side dudes, um, you know, it's like the personal trainer, the pool boy, sometimes those are white guys, but a lot of times they're not. And it's because the the black and Latino guys, they just have more free time.
Um, however, I would say the black and the Latino guys, they look at white guys as stupid because they say, "Well, it doesn't matter how productive you are and how much money you make make. If your wife steals half your stuff, you're an idiot and you're an idiot for being this trusting." Like, I know a Latino guy that is a side dude um to a guy who's a venture capitalist in like San Francisco. So, this guy makes a ton of money. He's a venture capitalist. He's But like how much time is this guy going to have to pay attention to catch his wife in a lie if he's working 80 hours a week? And you know, it's almost like a form of the Latino and the black guys feel they're more competent than the white guys because they can still steal their [ __ ] right? And the white guys feel they're more competent than the black and Latino guys because they're like, "Well," and by the way, this isn't just um this isn't just race. Like there's black men um that are in the category of working a lot and being a mover and shaker in society, Latino Metike. Um, but there's a certain amount of work, like hours, like let's say 80 hours a week, 70 hours a week, that when men get to that point, um, they feel as though they're more competent than other men, and they usually are, right? Um, but the men that work less, they tend to feel like they're more competent because regardless, I could steal the competent guy's [ __ ] You know what I mean?
Um, and the Asian men, I mean, they just kind of take L's across the board, especially if you're from India. So, so, um, yeah, I mean, they get their girls stolen. Although, do you know what? I've seen an increase in Indian guys being white women. I have seen that increase. Um, but anyways, I don't know. These are just my observations. Like again, a Latino guy um and a black guy, they might know how to dance and that might be a way they get women. Like the, you know, the salsa instructor instructor, the rapper, like the white guys, like why would I waste my time learning that stuff? That stuff is like useless to me. It doesn't make me any money, right? Where the black or Latino guys say, well, yeah, but I can steal your [ __ ] right? It may not make me money, but it gets me punani.
Um, and women are just [ __ ] so they're banging everybody. Um, women, right place, right time, will just bang anybody. Like, it's just incredible. They say women have high standards, but that's just not really what I see. Maybe they do for husbands, right? But who wants to be a woman's husband? Like, who wants to like, do you really want to be a woman's husband? Like now you get the most bill and you get the most disrespect. But when it comes to banging, I mean women popular tropes that women bang, personal trainers, club promoters, DJ. I mean, can we be honest that a lot of club promoters are losers, but they don't care. They're like, "Yeah, I'm I'm kind of I don't make a lot of money. I live in a apartment, but I can I can steal your bitch." Right? Or there's men that are complete losers that are are cool in college, right? and they go nowhere in life, but they've mastered the art of spitting game, you know. So, um yeah, because you know, learning to spit game or whatever, it seems to be all the guys I know that are good at it, um there's some naturals, but a lot of them put in a lot of hours to get there. And I mean a lot of like part-time job, maybe they'd be a millionaire had they not put in those hours. But at the same time, you know, the men put in all the hours to become really competent and a bajillionaire and then, you know, like Jeff Bezos's wife took half. You know what I mean? It's like who's really winning in this society. I don't that that's for you guys to decide. That's for you guys to decide.
Um I would say a lot of guys Another observation I've had is men are overly confident that they're the only guy. I've seen this across the board. Men get genuine desire from a woman and they just assume they're the only guy. Like there was a um there was this girl that killed her boyfriend because he cheated, right? And you have to think, how into the guy does she have to be? I can't remember the name of it, but Coach Greg Adams covered it on one of his shows. And she was so into the guy that she killed him, right? And the girl or maybe she killed the girl. I don't remember. But you have to think that's a whole level of really into the guy at the same time she was banging another dude. And I've actually found it's incredible like how men will be banging a chick and just be so it like builds their ego thinking they're the only guy that could have hit. And as a woman, you're just looking at him like there's like how confident like every guy that I'm I speak to is so confident. His wife has no dirt on her. And every time I dig into it, I'm like, "Well, where did you meet? How did you know her?" They never know her from childhood. There's always an opportunity for infidelity. And um they always look at me as the bad guy for questioning it. And I would say over 50% of the time she just happened to move from a different city. You know, I'm like, how convenient. How convenient.
Anyways, guys, this is kind of just a random rant about observations I've had. If you have different observations about different groups or different people in dating, let me know in the comments. I don't think I have the end all be all. This is just what I've observed. And let me know. Um, I have officially gotten my coffees to under 50 calories. Black coffee with half and half. Sometimes I add sugar-free syrup, sometimes I don't. Let me know your coffee order in the comments.