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Like, yeah, I've met hundreds, if not thousands, of couples, and I know one, one that is legitimately happy and like, really seem to just feed that happiness with by that marriage that they have. And and they both, as individuals, have become the best version of themselves by being, you know what? Like, if that's, they won the lottery, so buy the ticket, I guess. You know, but I mean, don't, don't make that your retirement plan.
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Welcome to Management Highlights. Daily shout out to Mr. McCabe for this video. Hey, manosphere, love your YouTube videos. Just saw something on another channel that I wanted to pass along FYI, as it seems like it might be of interest for you to riff on slash link to in your "quote unquote" highlights videos. Item is an interview with the channel Soft White Underbelly, which specializes in long-form interviews with people who have first-hand experience of various issues in society. They just did an hour about marriage and relationships with divorce attorney Joe Saxton. That is pure gold. Mr. McKay, you're absolutely right. This is pure gold. This is one of those must-watch videos. The link to the full video is in the description. Make sure you check it out. We're gonna show you some highlights because you need to watch the full video. It's really that good. I'll chime in here and there. We're gonna make a separate video about the prenup part so we can dive deeper into that subject. Now, without further ado, let's get this highlight reel started.
What a, what an attractive woman. And when I say attractive, I don't just mean attractive, I mean even just sexually confident. I mean, what an unbelievably lucrative career that is. Like, I do divorces for people that, you know, a woman walks out with two, 300 million dollars. He was an analyst at Goldman Sachs, who built a hedge fund and then sold it, and then used his trading algorithm to build it up to 500 million dollars. She was hot and slept with him for a while, and then stopped and started sleeping with other people and playing tennis and having Botox, and she's going to get half. Like, that's [ __ ] incredible. Like, you know what he had to do to get that, and what she had? I'll [ __ ] that guy for 200 million dollars. Are you kidding me? Like, that's insane. That's incredible. Like, and what, and God bless. I mean, I'm not saying that this person, this is the rules of the game, you know? But you can't argue that that's not easier than going to Harvard.
No, for sure. But then, but then the payoff, the trade-off for that is that when they hit a certain age, the value decreases, right? Any stock, if you hold it too long, it's going to go down. You know, like, so play, play the stock the right way. I mean, fellas, if this is a game, I want you to play to win. Women are doing a much better job playing this game, at least the short-term game. Fellas, winning starts with understanding how this game works. Listen carefully.
Well, I think there's a distinction that has to be made between pair bonds and marriage, right? Marriage is a, is a, is a government concept. Marriage is a contract. Marriage is a legal status. Pair bonds, right? Two people go in it together, you know, saying, "Hey, there's 7.3 billion people in the world, and the two of us, we're gonna, we're gonna lock up together, and we're gonna try to hold hands and get through this thing." 28 years old. Well, until whatever. You know what I mean?
What's interesting is, first of all, marriages end. They end in death or divorce, but they all end. Like, every marriage ends. So it's one of the only things that you go, "Wow, I really hope this ends in us dying." You know, most things, you, that's not the desired outcome. But in marriage, you hope marriage will end in death. You hope that you will be together until one or both of you die. You know, but all marriages end. So, well, I think that's what makes being a divorce lawyer interesting is that it's, it's a lot of what a court has to do is disregard what happened in the marriage because, A, the truth is at the bottom of a bottomless pit. Like, you're never going to get there.
Yeah, well, he's [ __ ] his secretary, right? Because you're not sleeping with me anymore. I have a client whose wife acknowledges she didn't sleep with him for six years. What, what did you think was going on if you didn't sleep with him for six years? So you, okay, delegate. You've delegated that responsibility. If you don't want to have sex with him, that's okay. No one should force you to have sex with this person. Let him go have sex with someone else. You don't want to do the laundry? Hire someone to do the laundry. If you don't want to mow your own lawn, hire someone to mow the lawn. Delegate that responsibility. And this guy wasn't even sleeping around. He was going to those hand job places, you know, where you get a massage and get, like, the most pathetic thing in the world. The most innocuous thing in the world. He didn't have a girlfriend. There was no love involved. He was getting jacked off for fifty dollars. Like, that's sad. Like, I mean, first of all, hand jobs, like, that's an outdated technology. That's like a Betamax. Malice. It's a contract that doesn't benefit, benefit men in any way. And to take it a step further, it rewards women for breaking it. This is why women play this game better than men because they always date and marry up. They play this game to win. Matter of fact, it's hard to lose for women once you've signed this contract. Check this out. She had the indignation to say, "He is not a good, he shouldn't be a custodial parent. He's a terrible person because he's doing this." And it was like, "Wait, how is that that much different than going to a strip club? How is that much more different?" Because we just, you know, he was like, "Well, should I deny it?" And I was like, "Is it true?" And he's like, "Well, yeah." I said, "No, we should own it. Let's go in and say, 'Yeah, you know what? Yeah, it's pathetic. It's really pathetic. My wife didn't sleep with me for six years, and I'm human, and I wanted to have sex still. I didn't want to blow up my life. I didn't want to screw up my kids and have my kids have divorced parents. So I thought, all right, she's clearly not interested in me anymore. I'm not gonna have a girlfriend and get caught up in all the things where people could get hurt and there's feelings and Fatal Attraction and stuff. I'm just gonna go. It'll be transactional, like going to a strip club or anything else. And I'm, yeah, is it a little pathetic that I'm a guy who makes a million dollars a year in finance and I'm paying someone fifty dollars to jack me off? Yeah, that's kind of pathetic. But, you know what? I figured out. But to suggest that that means I'm a bad parent, that has nothing to do with my parenting at all, period." You know, so, and thankfully, the judge agreed with me on that one.
In previous videos, we explained that the government doesn't care about who's right or wrong. Someone has to pay for these women and children, and that someone is you men. These judges are rewarded for giving child custody to moms, and they often end up making dads, or even non-biological dads, pay a ton of child support and alimony. Follow the money, guys. They also want the money in women's hands because women will put that money right back into the system. It gets worse. Listen carefully. If you break it down fundamentally, 56% of marriages end in divorce. But think about that. That's the ones that end in divorce. So how many people, what percentage stay together for the kids or because they don't want to give away half their [ __ ]? Another 10%. That's conservative. Conservative. But let's say, let's say 20%. Then, okay, that's at least now you have a technology that fails 76% of the time. That's insane. That's insane. That's more likely than not. 76%. If I told you there's a 76% chance when you walk out the door today, you're gonna get hit in the head with a bowling ball, you would not go out, or you'd wear a helmet for sure. But people just continue to get married. Not only do they continue to get married, there's a presumption that you should get married. And if you don't get married, there's something wrong with you. So if you've got a girlfriend and you've been with her for five years, and you say to someone, "We're getting married," they go, "Oh, that's great." You know, they don't go, "Why? You're happy. Why would you get married? Like, everything's going fine. Why would you put yourself through that? Why would you run that risk?" If you say to someone, "We've been together five years and we've decided we're not going to get married. We're going to move in together, but we're not going to get married." Oh, what's wrong? Okay, let me see issues. What's your problem? Meanwhile, 56% end in divorce. It's, it's literally fits the legal definition of negligence. It's a negligent behavior. The way you define negligence in law school is when what you lose by not doing something, okay, is lower than the risk of harm. It's what's called a BPL analysis. So the burden of not doing a thing is lower than the likelihood, the probability of harm. So BPL is a burden, probability, and loss. Marriage is an inherently negligent activity. It's like owning a lion. Like it's, it, you're the likelihood of someone getting hurt seriously is very, very high. This is pure gold. Simple cost-benefit analysis. Do you understand why our message is to protect yourself at all times? And why it's essential for men to hear this information? It's not women who propose, especially not the ones that make a lot of money because they know how this game works. Women play this game to win. That's why they will happily marry you if you have the resources that come with it. It is men who propose this foolishness. Stop the foolishness. Simple cost-benefit analysis. Now, let's get into why men propose.
I absolutely believe in love. I think love is wonderful. But love and marriage have very little to do with each other. I don't think there's much of a correlation there. I, I think that's where we got off track. Like, I believe in pair bonds. I believe, I don't think I can learn everything I need to know about myself from myself. I think having someone around who sees my blind spots, and that it doesn't have to be a romantic partner. That could be a friend. That could be any number of things. But there is something wonderful about romantic connection. We know that. I mean, the other statistic is 56% of marriages end in divorce, but 84% of people who get divorced are remarried within five years of their divorce. Really? Let's think about that. So now you've, now you've done it and failed and felt the pain of the loss, and within five years, 84% are remarried. Love is a hell of a drug. It clouds your judgment. A lot of this foolishness comes from love because they have linked marriage with love. Bad news about marrying for love is that the love drug, these love chemicals, don't last forever. Max three years. Now, this idea of love and marriage was more effective back in the day because society was different. Times have changed.
Let's get into the sociological aspect. There's so much expectation that comes with marriage. Culturally, we've created so much stuff around it. Like, when you, when you marry someone, they're supposed to be, at least in the modern Western model, your best friend, best roommate, best co-parent, best travel partner, best, uh, roommate, best everything, best activity partner. Like, how, how would one person be all of those things? That's insane. Like, if I, if I was interviewing for a job and said, "I want you to be the best typist, and I also want you to be best on the phone, I also want you to be great at it," and I ran down a list of dissimilar things. Like, or if I went to an amazing chef and I said, "I know you're a great chef, but can you farm?" Like, "Well, that has to do with food, but they're not the same thing." Like, "What are you talking about?" So I think, why, why do we put on people this idea? Like, whoever came up with the word "soulmate," really, we should be paying, like, divorce lawyers should be paying that person dividends because we've convinced people that if this person isn't meeting every one of your needs, checking all of these boxes, they're not your soulmate. Your soulmate would know exactly what to do, exactly what to say, at exactly the right time.
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Romance is based on fantasy. Fairy tales. Reality is not sexy, but it's healthy. It's interesting how people prefer to live miserably in the illusion rather than content in reality. That's the impact of society. This is the Matrix. Doing fellas, like he said, divorce lawyers should pay dividends to the person that invented the word soulmate. This is business. This man is getting paid. The red pill is a tough pill to swallow. Check this out. I mean, I believe people believe in marriage. Yeah. Do I believe in marriage? I don't. I don't think it's a useful technology. I, I understand culturally why people do it, but I don't think people should need it. I, I know I certainly don't need marriage. I don't think marriage. I was married. Um, I, I was married before I really ever thought about what does that mean, you know? I married my college sweetheart. You know, I, I hadn't, I got married because that's what you do. You get married. You know, um, but I hadn't thought about it as a technology and why it's there. I didn't, I didn't understand it the way I do now. You know, there's a line from a Joseph Brodsky poem that he wrote when his wife died where he says, "I wish I knew no astronomy when stars appear." And I feel that way as a divorce lawyer. Like, I wish I knew no astronomy when stars appear. I wish I, I wish I didn't know what the end of so many marriages looks like because I think I would have a more optimistic and unrealistic view of it. I would, yeah, but you'd be divorced and giving away half your. I'd be foolish. Yeah, I'd be fool, I'd be as foolish, but I don't know that. I don't know that it's always good to know, right? Sometimes there's tremendous joy to be had. And like, falling feels like flying for a little while, you know? So you hit the ground. It feels really good. But as I said, fellas, it's hard to love and understand a woman at the same time. This is why a lot of men turn red pill after divorce. That's when they learn the truth about female nature and the crooked system. Red pill rage kicks in because of the realization that you've been lied to. But nowadays, young men are virgins. They can't get a girlfriend. They don't have the girlfriend slash wife experience to wrestle them. But they have early access to radical content. So it will be interesting to see what Western society looks like in the next 7 to 10 years.
Well, marriage is a technology that was designed for when women died in childbirth and when men died in their 40s, if they were lucky, you know, 50s if they were super lucky. Like, if you were in your 50s or 60s, you were an elder. You know, that was pretty amazing. And women, most women died in childbirth. Like, childbirth is traumatic. It's a traumatic thing. And before modern medicine and before we understood antibiotics. So marriages is, um, I don't think anyone ever planned that it was going to be, "Okay, we're gonna do this forever." You know, we're gonna do this till we're in our, you know, until we're a hundred. I mean, but I think that's part of a bigger problem, you know? I, I don't remember who said it, but I remember someone saying, I can't remember who it was, but we are, we are prehistoric creatures, right? Like, we are, we are biological creatures living in medieval institutions, like education, work, with god-like technology. How do you think that ends? Like, you, you think that ends in happily ever after? Like, that's insane. Like, marriage was not designed. I mean, think about even the early days of marriage. Think about every Rogers and Hammerstein musical. You know, think about Oklahoma, you know, where you'd have like, there's like the three people in town that aren't married, you know, and you sort of pick which of the three, you know, you were gonna go be with. And now you, you have access to just an endless supply of the opposite sex, or I shouldn't even say the opposite sex, you have an endless supply of romantic partners in, in a device in your hand. How, how does that possibly stand up? How does marriage, the idea of monogamy, forced monogamy, or enforced monogamy, how does that ever survive in, in that environment? I, I don't think it can. I don't think it's realistic. Um, and, and I'm, the statistics prove me right, you know, the statistics are absolutely in my favor.
Now, again, get married as many times as you want if you have a prenup. If you have a prenup, go get married. It's a blast. Being married is the, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. It's a new day. Get that traditional mindset out of your system, or go somewhere where this still works. Play to win, fellas. Don't get married. Even with a prenup, what's your why? You can do these spiritual marriages without contracts. Remember, cost-benefit analysis. We're gonna make a separate video about prenuptial agreements.
You think marriage will change in the next 20 years? No. No. I think it'll, I actually think it's going to have. I mean, I think we're leaning. I think the pendulum always swings hard in the other direction. We have a, we have a tendency as a culture to overcorrect. So I think we're, we're heading into a spiral of like, traditional stuff. Really? Like, I think you're going to see like people getting like super religious again, and people are going to get super dogmatic. I think we're gonna see the Trad wife thing. We're going to see the hyper masculinity. We're going to see like a very, you know, we've got to, we've gone so far in the direction of postmodernism where nothing means anything and everything's just, you know, dead. Like, there is no definite. We become like Sartre, you know, like we've become so postmodern that it's become almost a form of rugged individualism. I think we're going to swing in the other direction now in traditional institutions. It will be, I mean, you know, from a marriage place, it's going to be great because I think people are going to get married. I mean, people were slowing down on getting married for a while, sure, and they were getting married later, and they're having kids later. We're declining to have kids. And I think as we, I think as a culture, we start re-solidifying into gender roles, or gender tropes, depending on how we're going to look at it. I think you're going to see marriage resurge again. But I think that it's still going to be as, a lot of a technology as it ever was. And I think we have so much out there now to compare ourselves to.
I disagree with him on this point. I don't think marriage is making a comeback. 20 years from now, unless something catastrophic happens, it's already predicted 45% of women will be single and jobless in 2030. The manosphere has gone mainstream. Men understand the foolishness of marriage, so they opt out or take that talent elsewhere. And young men are waking up early. 20 years from now, technology is going to be advanced to the point that AI is going to replace women as girlfriends slash wives. So men will marry their robot girlfriends, especially when we already have young men playing video games and watching porn. AI is also going to take a lot of jobs away from women. However, as long as women don't directly need a man to survive, marriage is not making a comeback. The government will probably look for a way to tax men for being single, working men, because somebody has to pay for these women and children. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section. Actually, we work it. Protect yourself at all times. This video has officially been hi.
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