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Guys, welcome to the program. Uh, today's headline, men's dating boycott is actually working. Um, this is from an article that's been circulating around that came out just about a week or two ago. It says, "Men seem to make life for women worse. Single US women share the woes of dating in 2025." Um, now I would I was kind of surprised that when I read through the actual article, I thought they were going to be roasting men and, you know, hating on us for all the usual reasons that they do. But come to find out, they're unhappy with men because men are not putting effort into dating. Men are not putting effort into relationships. Men are not putting effort into women anymore. And I think this is the natural result from everything that's been happening over the past few years.
Uh, Eric Weinstein, which is Eric R. Weinstein. He's a mathematician. He's got a podcast. He's been on Joe Rogan multiple times. And um he he kind of breaks down intellectually society and other issues. And uh he had a comment here that I thought was very apppropo to everything that's been going on recently. He said, "You cannot easily ask a man to conserve and fight for a society from which he sees himself repeatedly excluded." Uh Eric's talked multiple times on on how young men today are being ostracized. They're being blamed for everything. They're being hated on. And when men express their desires of what they need and what they want fixed and what they what they need changed in the world, they're often either labeled as misogynistic or hateful or awful or all the other things. And so he rightfully notes that men in many areas are checking out of society.
Now, that doesn't necessarily it's not necessarily a good thing, nor is it a bad thing. In in many ways, uh many young men today are not seeking jobs. They're not trying to date. They're not making friends. Uh they're basically just playing video games and hanging out watching the spicy content on the web. And I do think that is a problem. But in many ways, I think it's also good that men are not being um overly consumptive. Men are not being consumers. They're not going out and uh buying beyond their means. uh they're working a job that makes them happy. They're not overly extending themselves so they can try to buy a big house or fancy cars to impress women. Um men are kind of adjusting to the realities of where society is today and and much of that women are noticing and women are very unhappy about.
Uh let me take you back just a few months ago, about six months ago or so, eight months. Um and I did a video on this. It says young men are less interested than ever in dating this Valentine's Day. why uh why aren't young men dating and how to bridge the growing gender gap. Now, I did a video on this. I'm not going to rehash it, but it's been a long time coming. Men have just said, "I don't see value in relationships or chasing after relationships anymore because of everything that I'm seeing and things that have happened to me."
Another article that came out June 16th, Mankeeping, why single women are giving up on dating. And the reason why this article said they're giving up on dating is because women are graduating college at a higher rate. Um they either earn more money or uh they view a man that doesn't have a degree as non-intellectual or not smart. And so they think they're better than those men so they won't date them. And women are taking more more and more positions in the corporate world and women only want to date up. And so they're finding a lack of men that they wish to date.
And one more article here. Uh this is just from two weeks ago. Being a trad wife isn't appealing to most women, but according to a major study, the calm promised by the lifestyle is. Um I'm not going to go down through the whole thing, but they do have some interesting data here. They say a major new study from King's Global Institute for Women's Leadership found that the majority of young women do not plan to join the tradife movement. When a thousand women aged 18 to 34 were asked if they would take on a tradife lifestyle, 29.4% said definitely not, followed by 27.1 answering probably not. So really, you're looking at almost 60% 57.8 uh or excuse me, 57.5%. But you're looking almost 60% or six out of 10 women saying, "I don't want a family. I don't want a tradife lifestyle. I don't want to be staying at home." They uh 59% felt that being a tradife is a negative impact on society with around 11% it's very harmful. 17% said uh they would like to have a large family. So the numbers are in fellas and the women are just not down with and this is remember this is a thousand women not just left or right or conservative or you know leftist or whatever. This is all women and almost 60% say not interested. Only 7.8% 8% of the women said definitely yes. I'd like to be a stay-at-home mom and a and a mother that maybe teaches my kids at home and raises the kids. That's close to 5%. One in 20 women are really kind of what men would like to be with anymore.
Uh this is the story that we'll be reading from today. Men seem to make life uh for women worse. Single US women share the woes of dating in 2025. Here's the TLDDR, but I think you still want to hear the article because it's quite interesting. Most of these women are in their 30s and 40s, and most of them are finding men are not putting in any effort anymore. Men will sleep with them, but not marry them or not get serious about a relationship. And and the men that they're attracted to are not one are not politically aligned or something else. And so, they end up forever alone. That's really where we are. A lot of women have decided to be forever alone and not not move to the middle and try to find common ground with men. They just keep saying it's it's my way or the highway.
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Okay, after I read this article, I do have some more examples cuz I'm always bringing examples from the wild wild world of the web that I come across as I'm finding these articles. Uh this is written by Jedadia Oat I guess is uh the name. By 2030, 45% of prime working age women in the US uh defined as women aged between 25 and 44 will be single according to the census bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts the largest share in history. Uh hundreds of these women from across the US shared with the Guardian why they were single, how they felt about it, and what they would be looking for in a future partner if they were still in the market for one. Uh, one woman says, "I hated being single after my last relationship broke down." Sarah, 43, a sales representative from California. One of the phrases respondents used most was that they were looking for a partner capable of adding to or enhancing their life, as in someone who is entirely self-sufficient and capable of adding romance, children, or unique intellectual connection to their lives. A large number of women complained about past suitors who had been lacking effort or unable to keep up.
This is the boss B. This is the woman that wants to be in charge. She's highly motivated either financially or for her work. And she's finding that men just don't have that motivation anymore. And I think part of that is that many times in life, yes, some men want to make money, some men want to have fancy things. Uh some men want to be rich. But a lot of times that drive to be very successful comes with the hopes that it will bring women and it will bring sex and it'll bring entertainment and joy to a man's life. You know if you ask a matter of fact if you ask many of the rock stars that were popular in the 80s and the '90s and even before that in the '60s and the '70s when they were directly asked what made you decide to get in a band or play guitar the guys were like women man you know we all want women. When women become unobtainable or undesirable in many ways, I think a lot of men just said, "You know something? It's not worth the hustle and grind. I'd rather live a simple life, quiet life with maybe a a pet or something or other and a good group of friends. I don't have to I don't have to make that bag anymore. I don't have to hustle to have the house on the hill and the G Wagon in the garage because it's just going to be me and that's really not what my life is about."
And these women, if if you notice again, adding to or enhancing their life, that's dating up. That's hypergamy. So, a woman that's working, you know, if she's in an office with 20 other guys and it's just one woman, she doesn't look at any of them as dating prospects because they're all her equals. They have the same job, they have the same pay, and you know, maybe they have the same intelligence, but that's not leveling up for her. Women have been convinced they need to level up. And so because men are no longer putting in the effort to level up because they just don't care anymore because they're not trying to impress anybody or get women, a lot of women are finding that the men are lacking. And so they blame it on the men without realizing that it's it's their own poor choices that have caused men to just walk away and leave the dating environment entirely.
Uh they say Babette, a 32year-old butician from New York, echoed hundreds of other respondents across ages and socioeconomic backgrounds. I would love to have a partner, but it seems like the men are super loweffort, she said. Uh, not responding on dating apps, not effectively communicating, not wanting to plan dates. A lot of men seem to actively make life for women worse instead of better. No matter what women say they look for in a relationship, it's completely ignored by men. Well, it's because your demands are unreasonable. She's a 32year-old butician. She's getting ignored on dating apps. Is she getting it ignored by all men on dating apps? Certainly not. She's not swiping on the ones that are in her league. She's swiping on men that are out of her league. And so the men are not responding to her on dating apps. Uh they're not wanting to plan dates. No. Why would they plan a date? They want to hook up with you because you're not long-term material. At 32, that's still young enough for, you know, a 40, 45 year old guy to decide he wants to date. She's a butician, so it's not like it comes from money or it's not like he's looking for money, but she's in New York City. That is a hive of leftleaning feminized men. There's not a whole lot of conservative guys in New York City. You know, it's not the average everyday guy that's ignoring this woman. It's she is trying to date out of her league and she's getting ignored or the guys just want to smash and not plan a date. If a woman wanted to date somebody that's her equal on whether it's income or looks or something else. I think a lot of men would be happy to take these women out. I get emails all the time from guys saying, "Dude, you know, I'm I don't I try this. I go to the gym. I'm healthy. I'm, you know, 510, 5'11. I can get no action out here anymore." or the ones that I do are just not quality women that I even bat an eye for. Like they're overweight, they're unattractive, uh they're just not what I'm looking for. So, it's going both ways. But I think if she was looking in her own kind of dating value range, she'd probably have plenty of men. And when and when she says, "Well, no matter what women say they look for in a relationship, it's completely ignored by men." Well, look what you're asking for. You're asking for financial stability. That's that in and of itself, that's just a sly keyword of he must make more money and be more successful than me. He's got to be uh physically healthy. And yes, physical health is good, but you know, they're talking about a guy that's muscular and athletic. You know, they they talk, oh, we have to have the same values, which means we have to be on the same political page. That that is a gulf that is more and more widening.
Uh, now that that was a 32year-old. Remember the first one was how old was she? 40 something or other. Uh the first woman they talked to was 40 43. Sarah 43. The second one's Babette 32. What's the next one? Kelly 43. Another 43year-old from Georgia. She joined the substantial number of respondents who felt that social media narratives had made dating toxic and pitted men against women. Look, we didn't start the fight, ladies. You started this with the feminism and the all men are pigs and the rest of this stuff. We didn't start it. She said, I wish I could have met my person before the stupid gender wars, social media, and red pill rhetoric that has ruined people's view of dating and marriage. She said the red pill rhetoric is not what's ruining dating for men. It is a spreading of awareness. It is men waking up to the realities of what's going on. And this Kelly that's 43 says, "I wish I could have met my person before the stupid gender wars and social media." Kelly, you're 43. 23 years ago, when you were 20 years old, um the internet was barely a thing. So, you've been around before the social media, before the gender wars, before the red pill rhetoric. You had 23 years or more. I mean, technically 25 years to find somebody before all this started having a problem. Yet, here you are 43 and single and forever alone because you keep thinking you're going to get better than you will. And they blame it on men because there is no point where they say, "I've waited too long. I don't bring enough to the table. Maybe I screwed this up a little bit." There's none of that reflection. It's just, "Well, men are horrible today. I there's because we're not putting up with the craziness. Men have just said no."
Scores of women said that nobody available they had encountered met what they considered basic requirements. That's the key language. Scores of women said that nobody available that they had encountered met what they considered basic requirements. Well, what are your basic requirements, ladies? The bar is set way too high for most of these women. and it's because they see this sleigh queen and you go girl stuff all over the internet and they've just they've priced themselves out of the market. Um, this woman says, "I'm looking for a man who has goals and ambition, is intelligent, trustworthy, a provider, supportive, considerate, kind, assertive, masculine, honest, faithful, intentional, has healthy self-esteem, and a sense of humor. Loves to go out, and likes fitness." These basic qualities are hard to find these days. Now, if you were to ask me what's a basic quality that I would require in a woman that that like if it's it's what are the deal breakers for you, I'd have to say I'd say I I'd have to find her attractive. I'd have to find her enjoyable to talk to and she can't cheat or lie on, you know, she can't cheat or lie. Those are the basics. Now, beyond that, could you say, "Well, we need to agree on politics, at least to the point where we're not fighting all the time. We It'd be nice to have some of the same hobbies." Yes. But she literally lists off like 10, 12 things that are basic. Let's break this down. I'm looking for a man who has goals and ambition. That's money. Intelligent, that means he's college educated. Trustworthy, that means he won't cheat. A provider, that means he pays for everything. He's supportive, fine. Considerate, fine. Kind. Okay, assertive and masculine. Well, that means you want an alpha dude, but you can't be the boss B and get an alpha dude, so that's probably not going to work. Honest, which means you won't cheat. Faithful, which means he won't cheat. Now, why would she put trustworthy, honest, and faithful all in there? Because she's likely dating guys that hit it and quit it, that cheat on her or or she's cheated on the guys and she's afraid it's going to happen to her. uh that he's intentional, meaning she wants a committed relationship soon. Healthy self-esteem and sense of humor. That's fine. Loves to go out. That means taking her out to dinners and special events and paying for it because he's got to be a provider. And he likes fitness. That means he needs to be in good shape. He needs to be muscular. And those are all basic qualities. Of course, they're hard to find today. Lady, you're 43. You've had the opportunity to find this guy for a very long time. Now, you're f 43. And the guys that have these qualities, they don't want her. And that's what makes her upset is she says, "Well, well, men are just making my life awful." Well, you did it to yourself.
Although many women said they found being single lonely. They also typically said they would not consider anyone who did not take these or similar boxes. In other words, my way or the highway. Bring everything or I just refuse to date at all. And again, I have no problem with that as a man. I certainly understand that ruling. I would be the same way. But the number of tick boxes I have as a guy, and I think most guys are the same way, is 3 to five. You know, I've never said a woman must have a chest of this size and a waist of this size and a butt of this size, and she needs to be this height and have this color hair and make this much money and she needs to be athletic. I've I've I don't know any guys that are like that. Guys are usually out and about and they say, "Oh, she's kind of cute." And they talk to her for a minute and you're like, "Ah, I kind of like her. Hey, do you want to go out on a date? That's it. That's where the guy's entry level. Be nice. Be cute enough. I personally find you attractive, even if other people don't. These women have checklists of 30. And when men don't fulfill all 10 or 15 or 20 things on their check mark, they say, "Well, it's men's fault. Men aren't living up to our standards." Your standards are astronomical.
Katie, wait for it. 37. So, here's a woman that's almost 40, a biotechnology produc a biotechnology product manager from W Wisconsin. So, she makes good money. She's intelligent. Said she had felt unable to look for a new partner since her last breakup in 2021. That's 4 years ago now. And why are these women breaking up? I mean, at the time she's what, 33, 34 years old. Why are you breaking up with somebody by that age? Aren't you pretty sure what you know what you want somebody? and and I can't believe it's always the men's fault. Somewhere along the line, something broke down. Uh she said, "A partner should ideally have a robust social life. I guess that means friends and lots of activities, a focus on holistic health, compassionate and forthright communication skills, and functional independence." Okay, I don't think there's too much problem with that. Why at 37 years old are you struggling with that? there there are tens of thousands of men that meet that it's because they don't look like what she wants them to look like or they're not as tall or they're not they don't make enough money something there those guys do exist I promise you uh she says I'm happy to compromise on things the bar is extremely low and yet it's rarely cleared so they have a laundry list of things they say that's a low bar now her one on a bar setting of 1 to and her one is a man's seven. She's saying all men should be able to to meet my needs. It's a one. And in reality, you look at it and you're like, you are high maintenance. This is a seven for most guys. And so, they just continue to set the bar super high and then convince themselves this is bare minimum. And all these women are late 30s, early 40s. It's because they've they've trained themselves to be like this.
Uh hundreds reported struggling to find a partner with shared values, political views and interests. Well, of course, of course you're going to struggle with political views because most women are have gone far left to the point of uh you know voting for voting into power a mayor in New York City that is literally a socialist. Women are overwhelmingly uh voting for um Mam Donnie in New York City. And men are like, "No, I'm not voting for that. Like, I work too hard. I want to keep my stuff. I don't want my taxes going to everybody else. So, yeah, you're going to struggle with political views and interests. Uh, and similar education level there. See, you must have a degree. They don't they don't look at an extremely intelligent man who could probably win $100,000 on Jeopardy. They don't view him as smart if he's just Joe the the I don't know, Joe the plumber or Joe the electrician or Joe the welder. Sorry. Sorry for you Joe's out there. I'm not trying to give you a hard time, but you get my point is that they they require a degree that's similar to theirs, even though most of them are a waste of money. And you got to have the same political views. And that's just not where men are today.
And and here's a great example of of that personified. Danielle, 29, a public relations professional from Tennessee, said her future partner would need to be kind, thoughtful, emotionally available, considerate, reliable, responsible, but also college educated. She says, quote, "I'm very disheartened by the shortage of quality men." She added, "Men my age are less educated. Their social skills are abysmal. And now they're running into the arms of Trump and incel forums. What does she really mean? They're not lefties. They're conservative. Uh their values are more aligned with conservative values. And the quote unquote incel forums is just men's communities where we talk about the issues of dating and other things like that. But you notice she says you must be college educated and emotionally available, which I don't know means you you cry at Disney movies. I don't even know what that means anymore. Many men don't want to date someone who's more educated or makes more money than them. Uh that's not quite right. However, men will date somebody that makes more money than them and more educated than them. But men are realizing that comes with the boss be attitude and and that she wants to run the show and that she is the alpha in the relationship. And a lot of guys guys don't like that. Number two, it's women that won't date somebody that is less educated and makes less money than them. So, but they have to turn it around and say, "Well, it's actually the men's fault." We know women don't date down or if they do, it's for a quick hookup cuz the guy's hot at the gym. They don't like get in serious relationships with men that are lesser than them because if they do, spoiler alert, they divorce them at a 90% rate. 90% rate. These women file for divorce if a man makes less than her or is less educated than her. Studies have been done on this stuff.
Laura, once again in her 40s, from San Francisco, said she's been single for the better part of a decade since her divorce, despite having used many dating apps and having attended dozens of single events. You notice a commonality. Uh Sarah from California, from like Los Angeles or whatever it is, Laura from San Francisco. Uh what was the other one here? Katie from Wisconsin. These are all very left-leaning areas, at least in the cities, you know, where where this technology and most of these jobs are. Why why is a woman that is a feminist in the feminist haven of a big blue city, why are they struggling to find men? I mean, don't those men meet what you need politically? Or is it that these men are kind of affeminite and they're not the masculine man you want and you want the big, burly, robust, tall, muscular guy, but then you find out, I don't know, he's a lumberjack and he only makes 60 grand a year and you're like, nah, I'm out. Like, I'll sleep with him. I'll hook up with him, but I'm out as far as long-term partners.
Uh, the next one, Kelly Wallace, 48 years old, a consultant from Port Portland. Again, another older woman, 48, from Portland, a very blue left-leaning city. She said, "I'm self-employed, high earnner. I'm working on a memoir. I own rental property, and I've struggled with finding someone who is like me, creative, and high earning. You're 48. The high earning guy is he's probably driving around in a Cayman S with a 26-y old blonde on his arm. That's and creative and high earning. Why do you need high earning? You're high earning. You're a high earnner. It's because they won't date down. Even at 48. Even at 48. And then who do she blame? Who do they all blame? The men. Oh, the men aren't keeping up with us. Well, there's plenty of men out there that are doing great. You just only date up. So, of course, the men aren't keeping up with you because the men that are doing as well as you are better have found someone better than you. You're 48 years old.
Susan, 40, a social worker from Ohio, said that her long-term boyfriend's economic situation had become a permanent obstacle for marriage. So, a 40-year-old social worker from Ohio, that is not a lot of money. A social worker from Ohio is not a lot of money, but he doesn't make enough money for her, so she she won't get married to him. And then she says, "The idea of breaking up and trying to find someone else seems pretty hopeless at this age. So I basically resigned myself to never having kids. You You've had so much time so much time to figure this out." And only well into their 40s are they like, "Oh, this is disheartening."
Some respondent reported feeling so disheartened by the world of dating that they'd given up actively looking for a partner despite still wanting uh wanting one. among them a a woman named Raina, a 41year-old doctor. You're 41. You're a doctor. Do you think a 44 year old doctor or better surgeon, whatever, is going to want you? No. That 44 year old doctor is taking out 25year-old interns. He's probably gotten half of the 28year-old nurses in the hospital pregnant if he's good-looking. He's not looking at you. you don't exist anymore. Who she blame? Not her bad decisions, the men. It's always the men. And I think that's where this falls apart for so many of these women is there's no moment of clarity where they say, "Oh, you know, I made a huge mistake here. I should warn younger women. Maybe don't take the same." Nope. It's always the men's fault. Uh Raina continues on. She felt devastated about being single most of the time. she added and felt like dozens of other women that she was being punished for her professional and emotional progress. The biological clock thing weighs heavily on my mind. Men aren't punishing you. We're choosing. That's all it is. A doctor only dates up. We know this. A a 41, 42, 43 year old, you've had 25 years to find a guy. And in many of these cases, these women are like, "Well, the guy that I broke up with three years ago, like, where do you think you're going with this?" You know, you're you're 10 feet from the finish line and you decide to stop and tie your shoe or I don't know what this is. They they're all like, "Well, I'm just going to throw it away and start over again. You're 43, you're 45, you're 48. What are you doing? I don't understand this." And if they said, "I've decid, you know what? I'm swearing off men. I've just decided to be alone the rest of my life." Okay, I I got you. I'm with you. But they're not. They break up. They're single for a couple years and then they're like, "Where are all the good men? All the guys I want don't want to date me." No [ __ ] Uh I feel like my career and ambition have diminished my dating pool. She said they only by your own metrics. Only by your own metrics. If she's 28 or 30 and she's a doctor, there's plenty of guys that are like, "Ah, she works a lot, but hey, she's cool and I like her and you know, we'll have the good things in life. I guess it wasn't that guy that said no. It was she not willing to settle or date down and now you're at the end of your rope. You either tie a knot or you tie a loop if you know what I'm saying. Like there's nothing left.
Christina 32, a mental health therapist from Chicago, another city, another left-leaning area, said she'd withdrawn from actively dating after she had been dumped by someone who did not want to commit. Although Christina reported feeling overall very happy being single, she did have concerns about her ability to have children. Well, she's 32. E close. Women are freer than ever to make their own lives outside of the confines of romantic relationships. But the biological clock thing weighs heavily on my mind. Then settle then find the guy that wants to settle down. But why didn't the guy she was dating want to settle down? Because he's probably a player. He's probably a good-looking guy. He probably has a lot of options and he was enjoying her at 32 and he probably just traded her in for a newer model.
Uh, this Crystal Sharp, 39, a self-employed art teacher and wedding photographer from Oregon. Surprise. I tried internet dating after my divorce. I only met men who were emotionally immature, wanted someone to take care of them or had major addictions to substances, gambling, video, and and the spicy stuff. Most guys were just looking for a woman to sleep with and not grow with. You're 39. You're 39. You're an art teacher and a wedding photographer. Of course, there are men out there for you. And they're just they're not good enough for you. So, she blames it on them.
Uh, here's another one. I'm 35. I'm a homeowner and a single mother. She struggles. Surprise. Randy, 33, government policy analyst from Chicago. She's stopped dating entirely. Can't find a man good enough. Uh, another one. Nicole, 42, high school teacher from Portland. All of these, all of every single one of these is an older woman, you know, mid to late 30s up to late 40s that says, "Well, the the men just aren't good enough for me to date." And and what have the men said? The men said, "I'm just not putting up with seconds anymore. I'm I'm done with this stuff. I'm not going to put any effort. I'll sleep with them, I guess." you know, I'll but there's a lot of guys that aren't even going out for anything more than a coffee date because they realize they're getting taken advantage of for money and they said, "I'm not doing I'm not going to do that."
These are the memes that are floating around as of October 27th, which is today. Um, a woman says, "Men uh men are avoiding women at work." She says, "Is it me or has anyone else noticed that men are increasingly not interacting with women at work? I'm starting to notice this in the past one to two years that men I work with are either avoiding me or are doing only having the bare minimum interaction they need from me and something just doesn't feel right about it or am I just imagining things. No, you're not imagining things. Men are just we're just ignoring. There's no point. What's the point? You're either going to complain to HR I said something wrong. You're either going to say misconstrue something I said is something bad and I'm not going to ask you out because I'm not going to crap where I work and I I don't care about your life. So why why would I bother? And so the point is men are just like nah we're done with you. We're done with you.
Um this another viral video that's kind of making the rounds today. Uh here's one of the women. Now this isn't one of one of the women in the article, but this is just like the women in the article. I was married to a good man who ultimately was not my man. And I knew that pretty early on. I knew that maybe 3 hours into our first date. I knew that 6 months in when we got engaged. And I knew that again and again and again. But I didn't want to know that because I really wanted the relationship to work. And I think what was so hard was that we were good friends. We had a great time together. I loved the work he was doing. I loved the way we collaborated. And on paper, everything looked like a good match. But I still knew that something was missing. >> We worked great together. We had great communication. We had great collaboration. We had This isn't like a PowerPoint presentation. There was no love. There was no lust. She just he looked good on paper. He was a great guy. So she married. She knew 3 hours in, 6 months in, she shouldn't have wasted this guy's time. But she did. Does she sound like she's got baggage? No, cuz she's not the She knew. She knew the whole time. She said, "Well, I'll just make it work." What about the guy that fell in love with her? What about the guy that proposed to her? What about the guy that said, "I want to spend the rest of my life with you." And then she's like, "M, something's missing. I'm going to go bang the guy down at the gym. Bye."
>> It's funny cuz I lead journaling workshops and I always ask people, "What truth are you afraid to admit to yourself and why?" And it was the question that I avoided the most because the truth I was afraid to admit to myself is that I no longer wish to be in my marriage. Admitting that to myself meant I'd have to blow everything up. And in a lot of ways, it was good and comfortable. There were so many reasons to try and make it work because it was more convenient. But I ultimately realized I didn't want to live a life that was convenient. I wanted to live a life that was courageous. >> What does that even mean? That is that is a Hallmark card. She practiced that line. I swear to God, she practiced that in the mirror. I don't want to live a life that's convenient. I want to live a life that's courageous. Nothing about your life is courageous. You picked a great guy. He cared for you. He loved you. and he was good on paper. Uh, you collaborated. You had great time together. I love the our time together. I love the work that he was doing. I love the way we collaborated. It was a job. And now she wants to be courageous with Frank down at the gym that wants to fold her up like origami.
Um, this kind of has been floating around as well. Somebody says, "Guys, be honest. Is this enough?" And I think this is where if for those of you just listening, it's a picture of a gray room. It's got a heat pump. So, there's air conditioning and a heat pump. So, there's cooling and heating. He's got a little coffee pot over in the corner. He's got a an air mattress or a mattress on the floor. Nice comforter. Looks comfy. Looks to be about a 45 46 I don't think there's a 45 TV. 46 in TV. Uh with a game station and a cute dog. I would I would say this is not enough. uh you're missing uh the mini fridge. You're missing a mini fridge and a comfortable gaming chair. But other than that, other than that, you you know, and this is what guys are saying. She's she's going on about ah he's got to be this and he wasn't this and he and in the meantime, guys are like, you know what, I'm I'm good with just I got a roof over me. I got a good little pup. I got a partner, my little buddy, nice little dog. I got some gaming with friends. And I don't think this is enough for a man's life to be happy. just to be honest. But if this guy had friends that he hung out with and had a dart league or a pool table or went bowling or some other community thing, even if he just went out to the pub with the guys a couple times a week, maybe down to a sports bar to watch some sports on Sunday, a lot of guys could get by with this. They get their social needs met by hanging out with a guy friends two, three times a week, which in ironically in many ways is more socially stimulating than being in the wrong marriage. And this is what more and more men are moving to.
But it's even happening with conservative women. This is a conservative woman. Her name is Britney. Uh Britney is she says uh this is on X a conservative girls. Traditional values Christian and Canadian. Okay. So she's got 20,000 followers. Uh so she's very conservative. A girly's girl. Traditional values Christian and Canadian. Here's her Instagram now. Not a bad picture of her. You know, she looks okay. I know plenty of guys that would probably be happy to take her out. And what do you see? The same thing you always see from these women influencers. Me, me, me always. Oh, you're very Christian and conservative. Here's a picture of me in bed. Ah, yes. Very, very Christian and conservative. There's me dancing around in a tiny top. Uh, here's me showing my cleavage. You can see right here a picture of her in a bikini. Ah, yes. Very conservative. Here's me in a tiny yoga uh outfit here. It's just it's all me me. Nobody else in her life. No pets, no dogs, no friends, no boyfriends, no husbands. Here's a picture of her in bed. Nothing but herself. How much does this woman love herself? There's no room for this conservative to find other love. This is a photo of her without the makeup. She's 36 years old. Anyway, she posts, "At 16, boys used to want to be men. They lied about their age and stormed the beaches of Normandy. Now men in their 30s can't even commit to a woman who loves them," says the woman that loves herself more than anyone in the world, based on her Instagram photos. "Boys once fought to become men. Today, men fight to stay boys. Why would we grow up? Why? What what what makes a man grow up? That's my question. All these women are ah Peter Pan syndrome. Men refuse to grow up. Tell me what a grown-up man does. I go to work. I got a roof over me. I pay for. I got bills. I utility. I can pay the bills. I got hobbies. Go to the gym. Buy my own groceries. Clean my own place. I'm an adult. What makes me not What makes it Peter Pan syndrome? Oh, I don't want to make sure I make enough money to make more than you to make your life easy. So, I'm a child. I like video games and you don't. So, that makes me bad. But according to your Instagram, you've got pictures of Louis Vuitton $1,500 bags and a ton of makeup. I'm not into that. Does that make you bad? Probably not. So, just because we don't agree, I don't care. Look, I I no hate. If if grown adult men like watching movies and they have their hobbies and they like to play video games and just chill out with their dog in their house, how is that not an adult? He's paying for himself. He's not on the government dime like half of these people are. So, at least he's taking care of himself. That's a man to me. You know who's not a man? Man that collects welfare. Man that collects Social Security or excuse me, um u Medicare and Medicaid because he just doesn't want to work. Now, if they're injured, that's different. But if they just want to sit on their ass, but those guys, no one's calling them children. Why is it only guys that have certain hobbies or that won't won't quote unquote grow up and make better money and buy a big house to stick a woman in it?
She says down here, "I was talking to Cat, which I guess is one of her friends, about experience that I've had as an adult woman dating in this generation who morally respects herself and her body, wants to get married and have a family and has multiple jobs and owns her own home." Obviously, I'm wear these things that I must be doing wrong. So, I'm having a conversation to figure this out. She said something along the lines of this to me, and we had a great conversation about how modern feminism has caused men to become less committal. Yes. Yes, modern feminism has caused men to become less committal. But you know what else has? You're 36. Okay, let's say you meet the man of your dreams. You date for a couple of years. Now you're 38. You he want to be engaged for like 6 months to a year. You know, enjoy the moment. Be be a fiance. Plan the wedding. Now you're 39. Okay, you get married, you settle in, maybe you move into your house, although that's probably not good enough for you. You got to go out and find it. All of a sudden, you're 40 41. If you got met the right guy today, you're 41 and you want to have kids. How do you think this is going to work out for you? She she said somewhere in further post. Yeah, right here. I'm actually 36. I was in something far too long without being locked down, so I left two years ago. dating in your 30s isn't as interesting as someone who isn't into hookup culture. Okay, you're not into hookup culture, but you were in a relationship that he wouldn't lock you down, that you left 2 years ago at 34. Why didn't you make it clear, miss conservative woman, that you're dating for marriage and children, that you're that you're dating with a purpose? Because she wasn't. He was just hot and she was in the moment. How do you know she's not dating with purpose? This is her life. This is her entire life. Uh she has one photo with one other woman and other than that it's all selfies. It's all pay attention to me. You don't have enough love in your life for somebody else, lady. And so you're going to get what the rest of them get. You're going to age out of the market. And then a conservative guy that does have the money, does have the means, does have whatever, he's going to make sure he gets with a a 28 or 26 or a 30-year-old so he can have those children. You'll be 41 before things could even get started. It's too late. And even the conservative women are doing it. Well, there's no good men. How did you get to 36? Well, bad decisions on my part, but I'm going to blame it on the men.
And lastly, I'll leave it to this. You want to talk about insufferable women? This is a video that was on YouTube. It's still on YouTube. I did a video on this and I think it was like three years ago. Uh I'll let the first couple seconds play and then I've got another little clip I'm going to play. >> I came out as bisexual last year. And since then I have been dating women. And what I found very fascinating is that the more I date women, the more I find myself understanding heterosexual men. Let me explain. Now, >> I'm not going to let her explain. It's a 3minute clip here. Her original video, if I remember correctly, was 15 minutes. She basically said, "Look, I I only date women." And she started dating women. And after
I don't know, I think she said half a dozen or a dozen dates. She's like, "You know what? Dating women sucks. They're ridiculous. Their standards are unrealistic. I now understand why men have checked out of the market."
And here's another viral video that's just been going through. This is women that date only. Women are saying, "You know something? Dating women sucks. >> I know. I can't be the only one. I just feel like women might not be for me. >> Let me just say that the dating of a lady, okay, is [ __ ] trash. Okay, it is absolutely trash."
It makes me really frustrated and confused when I hear women talking about how they're just done with dating men and they're going to be a lesbian and how their life would be so much better if they could just marry a woman whenever they're fed up with men or a man pissed them off. Because babe, women can be just as bad as men. >> This dang world for being a lesbian is so ghetto. When I say it's so ghetto, like it's ghetto as hell out here. >> Hey, listen. I can't be the only lesbian stud, whatever you want to call it. Um, that is actually getting tired of dealing with women. I'm still very much so gay. I just am tired of dealing with women.
And and then they clip in a ladies get your passports. Even the women are saying now granted many of them are probably dating within the city limits. But that's where most of these women that are having all these problems are. They're in the city limits. They're the ones writing the articles and working in the leftist areas. They're getting the men they want. They just don't want those men. The feminist men that agree with them on everything are not the men that they want. And the muscular, attractive, I don't know, Chad dude bros that they do want don't align with them politically or won't settle down with them. They just want to blame the men.
And in all instances, it boils down to several different reasons. But overall, it's just that men either find women unrealistic with their standards. Uh, men find women to be undatable because of their opinions. Another new one that's really kind of gone wild, which surprises me, is men find women gross. That's something I had never really encountered before, but a lot of the clips that that go viral now, and a lot of the news articles that go viral are just women saying some really gross things to the point where guys just go, you know, some, that's gross. Like, I, I, I don't, I'm turned off. I'm not attracted to you because you say gross things. And for some reason, women think it's empowering or it's wonderful or, uh, you know, as a matter of fact, a headline I found today. This was by accident just as I was looking at the New York Post to find uh content. This is from the New York Post as of like today. Courtney Kardashian is launching lollipops for your vision. And then they show a picture of her with one of them in her mouth. It's a $30 per bottle gummies and $6 for these probiotic lollipops that you stick in your in your cooter. It's just gross.
Ju just men are there's just there's so many reasons why women men are just like no, no, no. You don't want to be traditional. Got to be the boss. Be you're insufferable. You're too old. You're too picky. My politics don't align, or you're gross. The list just keeps growing and more and more men men are not stopping dating women. Maybe this was a little bit uh inaccurate a headline. Men aren't dating so far as like boycotting dating. They're just not putting effort into it anymore. They're just not going out of their way to impress women. They're not going out of their way to make them viable candidates for being a husband. They're, they're, they're just doing the hit it and quit it, or they're not dating at all. They're just hanging out with friends. Guys just, they're just not interested anymore.
And it's not men that had we didn't have this big meeting and this big get together saying, "Hey guys, make sure we're boycott, we're boycotting dating." That never happened. The only thing that happened is that it was women, the changing of the women. And men can't change those women back. We wish we could. We can't change the women back. All we can do is react to their craziness. And their craziness has caused men to just walk away again and again and again. But the women are noticing it. The women are suffering it. But they still can only blame men because at no point can they ever actually reflect back on themselves and what they've done to cause this problem.
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