Black Men Have No Friends: The Cost of a Gynofocal Black America

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Um, I want to start with another episode of the sacred black masculine. Um, check this out.

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"You know what?"

"Yo, bro, we in a park full of kids. You about to make me act out the character. Please, please, bro, go away."

All right, shout out to this young man. Apparently, this was uh some type of experiment. I didn't delve into it. Um, you know, cuz I was I just found this a little bit ago, but I wanted to shout him out uh for what he did. You know what I mean? And this is not new. This is not something that uh you know in terms of black men most especially doesn't happen on a regular basis. It's just that black men don't get credited uh credited for it. But shout out to them man. You know protecting a little girl and whatnot. And I've seen these kinds of tests done. You know the ones I show in my class were usually around um you know performances of intimate partner violence in public. You know you'll get uh you know a camera crew that hides. You'll get two actors, a male and a female. And then they'll, you know, have a man, you know, beat up on her in public to see or at least perform it in order to see how people react. Usually the reaction is that other men will run and and attack the man and question. Uh, but then every now and again, they'll flip it and have the woman do it, and most people will just stand around and laugh. Um, I've seen one situation where another woman walked up and verbally tried to correct the woman who was performing uh an abuser, but other than that, most of the videos I've seen, nobody says anything to the woman at all. But in this instance, this is the first one I saw where you had this uh kind of corrective protective thing uh going uh in regard to children. So again, shout out to this young brother. I was glad to see it and uh you know I'm proud because it's not and I'm not proud because this is again something new. I'm proud because this is what I've always seen and this is what I've always known about black men. So, you know, I'm just happy to see it. Anyway, shout out to the brother and let's move forward.

So today we're talking a little bit about um well u as you read in the title that black men have no friends. I mean this is essentially what we're dealing with. Black men have no friends. I mean in in regard to who stands with us. You know you could say at one point in time we might have seen otherwise but these days I can't really say I've seen too much as far as that's concerned. And one of the major points of concern is what you know we could call black gyop focality or the gyop focal and basically that means the focus on black women right from within the community from without you know this kind of hyperfocus on them you know so I call it gyop focality but that is a term it's not one I made up although black gyop foc focality is not something you'll hear every day I don't think I've ever heard anybody actually use the term but we know what it means right because we've been seeing at least since the 1970s, this increased focus on black women focusing on themselves uh sometimes to the the the detriment of their own men. Cuz these are the men, but when I say their own men, these are the men that they have the highest expectations for, right? They expect those men to protect and provide, but they will, you know, share their resources and developments only with each other or mainly with each other while demanding from men the most. And most of the time that wouldn't be a problem if it wasn't financed and subsidized by the white community. So when black women are able to advance because of those, you know, resources that are given from outside, they'll turn around and tell their men they aren't [ __ ] unless you can compete with her her resource base. Now, she'll frame it as you're competing with her. But she's really saying you have to do better than my base, you know, my network of support. and you of course usually have none. You have to develop and you know even brothers I know who are doing well had to pretty much do it themselves. They didn't have a network of support that reinforced them without question. So this is the kind of situation we're dealing with. And most black men have no interest in even competing with their women in the first place, let alone competing with her and her network. And that network could be social, it could be familial, it could be institutional, it could be policy based. And it usually is some form of all of that. So this competition between black men and women is not just about one guy and one girl and a strange competitive energy between them. It's about the extent to which black women's resources has become synonymous with their idea of themselves with black girl magic and this desire to compete with men and dominate them in some form or fashion. And that competition has become so rooted in black women's culture that it's the fish the water swim the the water the fish swimming. It's not something they even seem to see anymore. But black men have grown so tired of it, so exhausted from it that they've been walking away. And everybody wants to make up reasons that usually uh focus on black male failure to justify his withdrawal without actually listening to what black men have to say. which is one of the reasons you have so many black men looking elsewhere because others who are willing to listen and engage them are getting their attention. So that is what it is, right? But this is what we we need to talk about because this black this black gyop focality has been instrumental in changing the very notion of blackness. You know, I mean, really, if you look at the idea of blackness, it used to always mean some type of black male and female unity at least, let alone any other demographic you want to point to. Now, not so much, right? And so, what that's doing is it's shifting and it means that black women are starting to define blackness solely in terms of themselves and black men are just observing. Well, at least that's been the history. black men have been observing and now black men are starting to respond and they're starting to respond with some degree of coordination with one another and withdrawing from this kind of, you know, um, you know, the monolithic kind of view, right? And this is what we're going to talk about today because black men are starting to find that they need to operate independently. And I'm going to show you a little bit more as to why.

Now, as for how black men are starting to understand this, check it out.

"Cuz women love and will get on this mic and scream out how. But ladies, listen. And please don't take offense. I'm not talking to you if the shoe doesn't fit before the clock. Strike 12. Let's all be accountable for a minute. Princess, don't let this slip. Riddle me this. Isn't it a coincidence that all the ain't just so happen to be the same that you pick? Seems like you have a horrible taste in men. Or is it bad intuition? Could be terrible judgment mixed with poor decisions. See, you neglect the lesson so you in the same position. Probably got an ulterior motive with a hidden agenda. Maybe men is the inspiration for that pin. Regardless, this ain't slander child and will come to an end. Because like how many heartbreaks until discernment kick in? How many fail relationships until y'all look in the mirror? Y'all are so smart. We keep getting tricked by men, damsel in distress, want princess treatment. You don't love yourself, but you want to be woripped. YOU CAN'T BE alone because you resent the person that's within. So now you go out. So now you go out looking to get complimented just to tell every that you're not interested because you sneaking with somebody you have no business with. Sandy trying to convince him of commitment while looking for the man of your dreams who is non-existent. Not because he's fiction, because you won't be fully invested and have no real way to compliment him. So now you done dealing with men because we act like a So that's what you go and get a human with with exuding dominance like a man. But now you playing with a women feelings because you're indecisive thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. However, the problem still isn't fixed. The resolution isn't trading a click for a the grass is only greener when you decide to water it. And it's funny because women that deal with women understand when say because y'all attention blows with the wind like how you want to be a wife but you can't be submissive. Claim you want intimacy but you settling for. You want a provider but you looking for a trick. You want a leader but you don't listen. You want a protector but you too disrespectful but can agree with anything posted on the shade room. You always right and still don't get that maybe it's you. You looking for a man but my you act like a dude. Don't respect authority with an attitude. Cut like a sailing always rude. Can with no attachment. Leave a house damn nude. Liquor and drugs easily change your mood. Do anything for a bag. Integrity and morals. You a loser and got a roster like a football team thinking options prove that men want you as a partner flag on a play baby they just waiting on you and to the man that actually provides to come through get manipulated and used because you know the nice guy always lose."

Now to be clear I play that because for the longest you would rarely find black men willing to speak out that fervently and that truthfully in a public setting. Often, especially in a poetry joint where most everybody there is trying to find somebody and get with somebody, they wouldn't speak it there as well. And I'm watching this in the 80s and 90s and the in the the what is it? I guess the 20 I mean the 2000s. Uh this kind of thing was rare and you started to see more of it and there's far more of it now than there ever has been because women I mean men are tired. Black men are exhausted and they're finally starting to speak up in ways that I never thought I'd see.

So before I get into the examples of gyop focality, I wanted to point out that this is an example of black men who are seeing clearly what's going on and how they've been treated, right? They're starting to understand and really articulate, especially to one another, what the game is. And of course, they don't like it. I mean, you heard the women in the audience yelling at him. Some may have been laughing, some cheering, and some definitely trying to shut him up in the midst of his performance. And shout out to J.R. JR Wisdom uh who I got this clip from. Appreciate his work.

All right, but let's check out one of the some of the examples of gyop focality. Some are more subtle, some are more brazen, but we'll check him out nonetheless.

So, this is uh you know, essence on Instagram and shout out to my boy uh Dr. Gamble sent me this and he was talking about uh just you know, well, he actually he didn't say very much. He just shot it to me and he shared some a little bit of information that I thought was useful. And he said, uh, you know, as you can read in the title, how black women fire survivors in West Aladena forced a civil rights investigation, right? The Justice Department's investigation could set a historic precedent for how California and other local and state governments are held accountable for future disaster relief efforts nationwide. Now, there's nothing wrong with this. There's nothing wrong uh with black women engaging in politics. I'm not trying to say that in and of itself and activism or whatever, but we're going to talk a little bit about what's missing from this. I'm not going to read the whole thing, but I'll go through a little bit of it so we at least have some context for it. Right. So, it reads, "After California's eaten fire destroyed neighborhoods across LA County, fire survivors from the historic African-American community of West Aladena spent the last year demanding accountability for the negligence that led to the loss of 19 residents. Now, the state's attorney general has announced an investigation into the emergency evacuation response. "This is going to give us grounding to advocate and fight even more," said Ash. uh I don't know how to move this. What is this? There we go. Uh said Ash Level, a longtime resident of the Pasadena and Aladena community and one of the core strategy members of the black le group known as Aladena for Accountability. Okay. January 7, 2025, the Palisades and Eaten fire spread rapidly and caused damages to more than 16,000 structures for Altadena. 9413 homes and buildings were destroyed in the 22 square mile destructive fire that lasted 25 days. Since the fire, West Altadena residents have received only minimal responses on what led to a delay and emergency evacuation alerts for their community. People of West Aladina deserve answers to their questions and deserve institutions that are responsive to their concerns and institutions they can trust. Said in a statement by Attorney General Rob, "We know that evacuation warnings for the historically black neighborhood of West Altadena came many hours after the same warnings were sent to the rest of Altadena. We must let the facts uncover uncovered by our investigation determine what went wrong here." And then you can already start to see, you know, the pictures of black women standing together, right? The announcement from the attorney general came after Aladena uh for accountability spent a year urging local and state officials to investigate whether discrimination based on race, age, or disability contributed to the fire's impact. It felt like an acknowledgement that what we experienced as a community was real, said uh Shannon Lars Suell. I probably butchered that. One of the core strategy members of the group. The group is made up of fire survivors and fire impacted community members, organizers, activists, and advocates where many are longtime residents of Altadena. Lass Larwell, a third generation Altadian resident with family roots tracking back to 1968, is living in the same home her mother grew up in. She is one of the few survivors who has a standing structure post eaten fire. Right. Then it goes to Gina Clayton Johnson, the visionary and leading founder behind Altadena for accountability. And this is kind of where things to me go a little left as a fire survivor who lost both her home and her parents' home after moving to the area in 1985. And I do want to say uh that uh my heart still to this day goes out to those who have lost their their homes uh especially in those areas. uh you know so this is no disrespect intended to any anyone who definitely went through this experience but anyway it says the group is a black women le collective with three blackled organizations at the helm including SE justice groups founded by Clayton Johnson to organize women with incarcerated loved ones uh to take on the rampant injustices created by the mass incarceration Altadena Rising founded by uh Levelville to support the full recovery of Altadena's black and most vulnerable families impacted by the fire and California Black Power Network who builds uh political power for black Californians.

All right, so not going to finish through this, but I just want to show you. So you have all these pictures, some of which a little racially ambiguous, definitely women of color, but mostly all women. And this is Essence magazine, so it's not a surprise altogether that it would be portrayed this way. But I think some of the problem with this is it downplays historically the role men have played in the black community and in general and especially in regard to organizing and mobilizing. See, we live in an era now in 2026 where you have a generation of students who when asked about activism might not be able to tell you about any of the black males involved. Matter of fact, I've run into some that fully believe that black men were never involved in activism. And that is solely the purview of black women. But as a brother shot a message to me, he said, "I know for a fact that black men had something to do with this." And by this, he was talking about the Altadena uh response to the Altadena fires, the organizational response to the fires. He said, "My family is from that area." The feminists truly want to be a separate entity in all areas of people's activities. You know, he said, "Look up Dr. Brent Musen. He's not on the sidelines." Right? So what we're looking at here is the way in which gyn focality can play out in different arenas and environments. And it's simp it simply refers to this idea that when something happens, it's uniquely rewritten sometimes in the moment as something that only black women are engaging in. And this furthers the idea that black men haven't done anything. You know, and even a decade ago when I remember sitting in my first BLM meeting just to find out what the organization was about, they had a a whole new narrative of the civil rights era and the black power movement. And basically the way it was re repositioned was that black men were oppressing black women in the movement. And now it was time for them to get out of the way so women and LGBT can take the leadership positions that straight black men had been keeping them from. Now, it went from that a decade ago to now listening to black feminists who will have a discussion with you about current day moments, current day activities that are going on and completely remove black men from the narrative while it's happening. This is what black dynoality does. It focuses on a given set of events or it could be an a specific event that's taking place at this very moment, but it will erase the black men standing in it in that given moment and give the narrative solely to women. as if men didn't exist at all in any of these spaces on any level of involvement. Now, later in the article, I do believe they named um an an occasional gentleman. Um, I really don't want to sift through this in general, but uh I think at one point, let me see, Essence is really not known for celebrating black men at every turn. Nope. Nope. Can't find them. But either way, it's uh I don't think it's it's representative of what we tend to find happening. And this is not the only example.

Let's check out another.

All right, so, I guess before we can get into this one, I do have to give a little context. Um she's about to talk about McKenzie Scott. For those of you not familiar, Mackenzie Scott is the uh former wife to Amazon founder Jeff Bezos. Walked away with quite a bit. um and has been has developed a reputation for philanthropy, extending resources that uh she got from her marriage or from her divorce. And you know, people are celebrating how much she's been giving. She's about 56 years old. She's worth about 30.9 billion. And that's a whole interesting discussion unto itself. When we start talking about everything from home ownership to uh wealth rates, whenever we hear these competitions about, you know, women and wealth and home ownership and men and who has more and whatnot, one of the things you never hear is how much women advance off the backs of the men they were married to. Whether you're talking about home ownership, whether you're talking about wealth and and just, you know, worth, it's interesting to note how many of these women actually gained the majority of their wealth from their ex-husbands. That's never part of the discussion. What you hear is how brilliant they are, how powerful they are, how much magic they have, but the men that actually brought them to that point just kind of go unspoken. But anyway, so that's McKenzie and let's hear what this woman has to say about Mackenzie Scott.

"I asked Mackenzie Scott to give me a billion dollars to give to a thousand black women founders. Hi, my name is Will Glory. I graduated from Princeton and so did McKenzie. Let's go over the email that I sent her. Dear McKenzie, the dark reality. Black women are the fastest growing group of founders. Yet they receive.5% of venture capital and their loan rejection rate is three times higher. There is a massive capital gap. What if black women founders received unrestricted cash? Well, the Magnolia's Mother's Trust tried something similar and here was the impact. They gave poor black women $1,000 a month, unrestricted cash. And within one year, $10,000 in predatory debt eliminated. Employment went up by 15% and time in public housing was cut by 90%. With just $1,000 a month, these women entered in crisis and left as home ownership counselors and entrepreneurs. Here's where you come in. I'm inviting you to scale this concept with $1 million each to a,000 black women founders building across all sectors. Here's the projected impact. Less than a 100 black women have ever raised a million dollars plus in venture capital. You would be correcting the racial investment gap. A generation of newly capitalized black women who become the next wave of investors, funders, and mentors. Thousands of jobs would be created in underresourced communities. Properly capitalized black founders grow employment at 10% higher rates. A replicable model that compels other major donors to follow. I am not asking you to invest in a fund. I am asking you to redistribute your wealth in a way only you are uniquely positioned to do. I would be honored to share more of my ideas with you. Thank you, Gloria Tanjong, Princeton class of 2018. I am well aware that this is extremely audacious to cold email someone and ask for a billion dollars. But extraordinary circumstances requires extraordinary measures. For the next 100 days, I'm going to be sharing what it's like to really be a black woman building in America and all of our told and untold stories. If you are a black woman founder and you want to join me, use the #1b21k blackwoman to tell everyone what you would do if you receive an influx of a million dollar investment or donation in your business tomorrow. Our stories deserve to be told and honestly girls, we have to stop struggling in silence. Too many black women have the same shared experiences and we are all building really wonderful things that deserve to be funded. So join me in this journey and hopefully at the end of it all we will in fact get a billion dollars to a thousand black women founders. If you're a black woman founder that could benefit from a million dollars in capital. Go to my link in bio and fill out the form in case Mackenzie does in fact give us a billion dollars. This is going to be a great starting point to making sure that we can distribute that capital. Secondly, if you are someone that wants to invest in black women and maybe you don't necessarily have a billion dollars, definitely still fill out the form. We are just trying to build up a database of people who are interested in supporting black women founders because I am sure by the end of this 100 days something magical truly is going to happen. I believe in the power of the internet and come back for day two. See you tomorrow."

All right, I it was hard not to interrupt it at times, but I wanted to just get through that. And unfortunately, I still haven't figured out how exactly to increase the speed of some of these that I'm using in this particular program. But all that said, can you imagine black women's response if black men collectively organized to ask Jeff Jeff Bezos for a billion dollars? And if Jeff Bezos actually entertained the idea, even if he didn't say yes, but he entertained it. Can you imagine black women's response? Well, if you have any doubts about it, we can look at how they dealt with uh President Obama, right? My brother's keeper, right? the existence alone of the initiative, which was not federally funded, right? It was going to be privately funded, but it didn't look like it was about to break anybody's bank to do so. And black males were not, even though the we, you know, our image was used, we were not the primary focus of it. But they lost their minds and set up a national petition to either include black girls or drop it alto together. Even though there was already a a White House Council for Women and Girls, I would have respected the fact if they said, "Hey, if you got this going on for boys, how about we take the White House council for women and girls and do something there?" And they could have tapped u you know um uh First Lady Obama's Michelle Obama's uh you know, shoulder and said, "Can you help with that?" She would have, the feminist that she is, but they didn't do that. They didn't do that. Now, there still would have been a problem because they're reacting to what they think black men are getting in that scenario I just gave, but it's a little more respectable than what they actually did, which was to completely attack it and break it down entirely if they couldn't get their way their way. And this is what you see happening here. Now, this whole notion about black women and entrepreneurship, they've been the the fastest growing group, sure, but to this day, black men have more businesses and have been known to pay their employees better than black women. as far as entrepreneurship is concerned. But let me ask you, how much respect have you seen given to black male entrepreneurs? I've rarely heard it spoken aloud. But this is what I mean when I talk about gyop focality in this context. Right? So she's talking about we're in an economic era where things are in flux, things are in question, people are losing employment in record numbers, right? There could have been a black push for, you know, philanthropy in terms of, you know, financing, entrepreneurship, venture capital, all of that could have been because the black community has the longest legacy of being denied capital, right? Having very little to begin with. We don't inherit wealth from families to any great degree, especially when compared to other groups. So this idea of venture capital and and and and you know and and and u philanthropy could have been extremely useful for black, you know, business owners, venture capitalists across the board, right? Was that what was proposed here? No. See, I've argued for the longest that black men tend to function with an idea of blackness that goes back to at least the 1970s, right? We function with this communal kind of view about how the community should function, what we should do. And you hear it every time a political candidate is running for a position and they interview black men about the needs of the black community. Black men generally talk about the community. When you when they interview black women, black women tend to talk about themselves. And this is a game that I've seen ran since the 1980s, but it's only been recently that I've started to see black men recognize that this is the game that's being played and they are not included. So, if black women don't get this, and economically things tend to get worse, you'll start to see more and more videos, and I've seen a few of them just today alone, where black women are starting to reassess this notion of independent womanhood. They're starting to try and come back and and tell black men that we need to be together. But if they get the resources they're asking about, they don't share them with black men. They don't include black men. Doesn't didn't even cross her mind to do so. Right. But whenever you see black men organize something, I've seen this happen. Black men will fight other black men to make sure that black women are included. I do believe that is changing though. I do believe it is changing. But that has been the history that I've observed. I'm curious to know what yours has been. What kind of things have you seen in terms of the sharing of resources? But this kind of thing is an example of the vibe of the moment. And the moment that we've had for the last, you know, several decades. It is. And but it's grown like a an expanding snowball. Didn't start to this extent. It developed to this extent though. And this is where we stand, you know, whether politically, whether, you know, even in terms of these options and ideas here, we're starting to see more and more of a separation between black men and women. And this is not something black men started. This is not something black men have cheered on. This is something that they have slowly and begrudgingly had to accept is the reality of the moment. Black women have been unapologetic about this this type of engagement. They have lost they have lost no sleep and pushing.

Now, the next example is a little different. It it's dealing with a lawsuit, but I want to talk to you a little bit about how it's reported, especially toward the end. So, let's check this out.

"Google just paid $50 million to 4,000 black workers and nobody at the top is calling this for what it is. Give me 60 seconds. This one is diabolical. The headlines are calling it a settlement. Google's preium is saying they admitted nothing. The lawyers are calling it pay equity reform. Let me tell you what they won't. This was a buyout. A former Google employee named April Curley filed the lawsuit in 2022. She said Google hired black workers into lowerpaying jobs, treated black candidates worse in interviews, and got rid of anyone who reported it. 4,000 black workers joined her case. The Washington Post confirmed Google had an internal designation for them called Black Plus. Three years in court, $50 million on the table, and Google walked out with no admission of fault. And here is what nobody is connecting. Google sells AI hiring tools to every Fortune 500 company in this country. The same Google that just paid 50 million for discriminating against black workers is the company training the algorithm that decides who gets hired everywhere else. AI does not predict the future. AI automates the past. 99% of Fortune 500 companies are using automated systems to screen your resume before a human ever sees it. And the AI doing the screening was trained on the last 30 years of who got hired. So you do not get hired in 2030 based on what you do. you get filtered out based on what they did to black women in 2010. The bias used to affect 4,000 workers at one Google office. Now that same bias is running in software at least 500 of the biggest companies in America. The lawsuit changed absolutely nothing. It just made the next round invisible. Here's my message. Stop trying to win their game. Build something they can't fire you from. Comment voice if you are ready to build your own economy."

All right, now I wonder we could play where's Waldo. Did you catch it? Did you catch it in what she broke down? The gyop focality. Now in terms of what she was saying about Google, hey, I thought it was useful information. I thought it was interesting. And if there's anybody out there that can get something out of it, especially if it helps you pivot and move in a different direction, salute to you and salute to her for extending that information out there. I had not heard much about this Google uh lawsuit, so I appreciated it and the and the you know the briefness of it as well. However, she mentions that it's predicated on how black women were treated in 2010. And I found that interesting because when you look at the legacy of how black workers have been treating across industries going back to [ __ ] when black folk could actually work legally, you know, after reconstruction. It's interesting. I've never heard of 4,000 workers that didn't include black men, especially if the target is is 4,000 black workers, but black men weren't involved in that. Interesting. So, this is only about what happened with black women. Now, I told you some examples of black gyop focality are going to be more subtle, some more brazen. The last one was more brazen. She was unapologetic. She was fixating on black women and only black women. This one is a little more subtle. If you grow, especially when you're looking at the younger generation, if you grow up with thousands of these types of reports, you don't even see it. It's very subtle. She only mentioned it once or twice embedded in a lot of information and you walk away. If you've not been made sensitive to how these kinds of gender narratives are crafted and and put together, you might be completely oblivious to it. But her focus on how this is predicated on the mistreatment of black women somehow erases black men's experiences with worker discrimination. And there have been historic lawsuits going back generations from black men. But yet that doesn't seem to make the conversation, does it? So it's real interesting. So we've we've we've looked at about three examples of black gyop focality, right? We we've looked at the Altadena fires and the organizations that have p pulled together and the extent to which essence helped to erase black men's presence. We've looked at uh the calls for venture capital, you know, support and philanthropy only as it it relates to black women entrepreneurs. And now we're looking at how we even understand some of the current and recent historical events in regard to u capital in regard to corporations being held to account brought into court and the rem and the memory being rewritten to exclude black men especially when they are part of the you know the working group that were involved in in this experience altogether. And what are the results of this type of black gyop focality? Right? What are the results? Well, let's look.

Here's one.

"Now, riddle me this, American woman. Why is it that the country with the biggest population of what is it? Self-proclaimed baddies. Right? Why is it that nobody comes to this country looking for a wife? You've never heard anybody say, "Oh yeah, let me get to America to find me a wife." If I hear the women there, just the bees knees. You have never heard anybody say no wild [ __ ] like that ever. Unless they need a green card. That's the only time I've ever heard of it. Again, you these men will go everywhere. They will search far and wide to find a wife anywhere but here. But yet, I'm the one making up lies about y'all behavior. It don't make sense."

All right, so, the fallout, right? What is the fallout? Fallout is that when you look at what black black gyop focality creates, right? What it does, it enhances hypergamy. It enhances entitlement and it makes you uh it actually makes you repel particularly men because the focus is so myopic and ex and and exclusionary that it ends up just kind of embellishing on a solopistic worldview that makes you difficult to be around to put it lightly. Right? So what what she's saying I think definitely applies to western women as a whole. But I do think uh via feminization this whole focus on gyop focality is a western issue. However, when we talk about black gyop focality, it hits even more importantly because as we're starting to move outside of the boundaries of the United States to engage in coupling and family formation, the stereotypes and the image that black women have participated in growing even in projects that they themselves have created have further exacerbated the negative kind of view of them and the world the world eye. So yes, it's happening to Western women, but I think it's happening to black women doubly so, right? And it's pushing people away to the point where you reach where this gentleman is and he actually makes it very clear. Black men don't have any allies. He got to fight white tea supremacy, Asians, Mexicans, ninjas in the community, and some wigwearing, bad attitude independent [ __ ] that's working directly with the system to take his ass out. We on our own. We really all we got. Oh, and also the rainbow community, they hate heterosexual BLK men, too.

All right, right now, I'm the first to to, you know, talk about the extent to which a lot of what we're experiencing now might have been historically a product of CO and Telpro. We definitely know that policy-wise and and in terms of media, there's been a lot of incentivization for, you know, there to be an attack on black men to separate the community. And it's not lost on me that we were the community that had a huge global impact, but most particularly in the 1960s when the world was trying to decide which country or which set of countries would have the best example for the entire world to follow economically and culturally. And in the United States, one of the major Achilles heels of America was its treatment of black folk. So it to me it's not lost on me that there would be an agenda to make sure that this community stayed fractured. Problem is that it may have worked too well because even knowing that this has taken place, it's still difficult for two people in the black community more often than not to get together, a black man and a black woman, right? It's still difficult because a lot of the hostility, a lot of the misandry and and remember we have words for misogyny. We we there's very little there's very few people in the mainstream that understand exactly what misandry is most particularly anti-lack misandry. So this kind of treatment of men has gone on for the longest and it's accepted in the black community. There's very little push back against it and it's further splitting black men and women apart because that as black men start to move in a different direction and walk away, you have too many people that claim to not understand why cuz they never bothered to listen to black men. Now, again, going back to this notion of a planned separation, again, I do think that that was a factor. I just think it's reached a point where you have people that are so invested in black male failure and blackmail contempt that you cannot negotiate. Now, I I do believe you can have individual allies from any of the groups he named. You definitely can. My question is, when you start to talk about these groups as groups, when you start to talk about them as demographics, how many of those demographics are committed to the humanity of black men? Out of the ones he named, especially when it comes to political mobilization, when it comes to advocacy, activism, black men are good when it comes to dying on camera for movements to start up. And then as soon as those movements start up, black men are removed from the discussion and it becomes about everybody else, you know, and we've seen it time and time again reaching a culmination point with BLM where they would lure you into activism with the death of a black man and bait and switch the conversation. Before you know it, you're talking about the, you know, the black the the the deceased black male's mother and his sister, his aunt, how they're affected. And then of course it it shifted into LGBT and then they started talking about statistics around what black women are experiencing. And this would almost happen in a cycle at the death of every black man, right? But these are but these this is what black men are kind of finding. They have no friends. And the irony to that is John Henry Clark when he made that statement, he was talking about the black community had no friends. But we've reached the point where black males are finding that they have no friends. nobody who's willing to put together uh some type of campaign to garner resources for venture capitals and who would include them. Not that black men are asking, but the fact that we didn't even come up as a thought is becoming clear to everyday black men. to hear reports about history, even history in the making, from Aladena to the Google lawsuit, finding black men removed from the discussion in both contexts and having it all about this solopistic idea about black women and black women only. These are the kinds of things further drawing black men apart. So, you can understand this. You can understand what's going on with black men and yet still have a very difficult time of putting it together.

I'm going to show you one other example of the way gyop focality kind of works. All right, check it out.

"There's too many women that are making $50,000 a year demanding a man to make a million and you've never made a million before. You've never made half a million before. Hell, you've never made h 100,000 before."

"So, you're saying that a woman should only desire a millionaire if she's touched a million?"

"I'm saying be realistic with what you qualify for. Why would a millionaire outside of beauty? Why would a millionaire choose you? Now, there is a thing called hypergamy. Women choose at their level or higher. If I make 50,000 and he makes 85,000, that is hypergamy. He almost doubles what I make. That is still a man that can provide. That is still a man that can show up for the house. That is still a man that can go. You could still go on trips with $135,000 a year for the normal person. You know, if your if your mortgage is $3,000 a month, you could do so much. You could do so much. Be clear about what is actually necessary for us to be happy because you can be happy with a good man that's not a millionaire. He doesn't have to make half a million dollars. A lot of these women don't even know what that lifestyle would be like. Half a million dollars is around $50,000 a month. What are you going to spend it on? And don't you dare say bags cuz now you're not even a good Yeah. You're not even a good investment. You are a liability. If you just want me to make 50,000 so I could spend 20 of it on you and your lifestyle, that's not that's you're not going to be chosen. Because even trips, you could catch a flash sale and go on a trip for $1,500, 5 days. I'm not talking about me. I'm talking about normal people. I see your face. Yes. I'm going to fly first class. And even me, let me let me let me tell you my hack. You want to know my hack? How I'm going to make sure I fly first class every single time?"

All right, they cut it. I didn't cut it. I probably would have cut it before then. But my point in showing that was that this woman here is actually, and I've seen her do this in a couple videos, and I'm starting to see more black women doing this in social media. They're trying to, you know, push back against black women's culture, right? Not so much individual black women, per se. you know, they're not great with holding each other accountable, but they're trying to do so increasingly on a collective level and have a discussion about pushing back against some of this entitlement. But this is also the the hypergamy, the especially the extreme hypergamy, right? What does she say? You looking for a man that makes a million dollars, right? That's extreme hypergamy. It's one thing, as she said, if you make 50, he makes 80. That's hypergamy. But when you you make 50 and he needs to make a million or anything over 200 grand it especially statistically over even over 100 grand is really a form of extreme hypergamy right and it and in turn it bolsters entitlement. So you go from this focus on black women and black women only, right? This soopscistic focus, this gyop focality, and then that in and of itself produces a rationale for greater hypergamy, extreme hypergamy, which in turn increases entitlement, right? And so the expectations on men grow even further. And if you can't meet these, you know, blown out of proportion expectations, you are somehow the worst. These are the kind of things we're talking about. These are the kind of things that black men are thinking about and reconsidering and dialoguing about without women's supervision or input because we've witnessed and experience the input on a regular day, a regular basis from birth. And this is the first time in history that I know of that black men are actually talking to each other about their experience with black women and how they're going to respond to it. And increasingly, whether you like what I'm saying or not, whether I like what I'm saying or not, it is happening more and more and young men are starting to make their own decisions. And and contrary to public opinion, they're not changing their minds and moving in a different direction from their fathers and grandfathers strictly because of what guys on social media are talking about. I do think that is a factor, but they're also witnessing things firsthand, things they've grown up with, things they've heard, the arguments, the treatment, the disrespect. They're growing up witnessing it, finding out that they're, you know, that somebody lied about paternity in regard to them or somebody close to them. These young men are growing up witnessing all of this while hearing that not only are men toxic as a whole, but black men ain't [ __ ]. They're growing up listening to this often from the very women that raised them and they're coming to their own conclusions. Right? So, it's not as much that the, you know, that black men, red pill black men are are giving them direction and setting them off in these ways that they regard as misogynist. It actually is that they're coming to look for older black men who've already had experience with this because of what they're already witnessing in their own households. and they're getting direction. But even to the extent that they haven't come to social media, they're coming to their own conclusions about what they will and don't and will and won't deal with in their own lives. And that's where we've come to. That's what I think more men are talking about. That's why I lab I titled this video black men have no friends. The cost of a gyop focal black America. The more we focus solely on black women, the more we increase the hypergamy, the more we increase the entitlement, and the more we increase the social withdrawal of black men. Whether it's monkhood, whether it's non-committal relationships, whether it's international travel and coupling, they all are a product of the same motivation to get away from poor treatment and disrespect that has become completely inshed in black culture as it regards black men. Anyway, look forward to hearing your thoughts. Hope all you are well. Holl at y'all later. Peace.