Why Winners Don’t Care

Good morning and welcome. Why winners don't care is the title for today's video. So, do you want to manifest more wins in your life? So, maybe winning with career or winning with money, maybe winning socially or winning in your business or winning with your fitness. Okay. Would you like to manifest more wins? And are you tired of feeling like perhaps you're making progress towards a win, but it gets yanked out of your hand before you actually get the trophy. Okay? Well, if that's happening to you, the reason why is that in that domain, you care. And the secret that all big winners have is that they don't care. And there's actually a big flawed misconception about winning that we really need to clear up in order to manifest wins repeatedly. Okay, so we're going to talk about this today. The big thing is competitiveness. All right, competitiveness. So there is a flawed belief structure out there in the world that winners are highly competitive and that they care a lot about winning. And this is a misconception that we need to clear up. And we're going to clear it up today because until we understand this, we're going to fall into that trap of caring too much, trying to win, feeling like we're going to win, but then not getting the win at the last second. Okay, so that's the theme for today's video.

Real quick, a couple hellos before we get started. I see we've got a super here from Monica. I'll answer that one in a few. Monica, thank you so much. Um, also a super from Louise. Oh, I overlooked your last one. Okay, I'm sorry, Louise. Thank you so much for your super. And I see abundant queen here. Thank you for the super. Um, yes, in addition to that, I see here we've got Sophia is here. Happy Daisy is here. Peace is here. Anna is here. AM201 is here. 540 Joy is here. Picket Music is here. Rainbow Traveling Yogi is here. Adrienne Edwards is here. Dominique Alexia is here. Cambria Martin is here. Laura White Noise is here. My lovely assistant Mary is here. Nice to see all of you guys. Hello. The Olivia Patrick is here. Hello. I am Lily Rain is here. Nice to see you guys. As you're coming in, please go ahead and like the video. It's easy, okay? It's free. Like the video. And if you have questions about manifesting, go ahead and drop them in the chat because as always, I'll be pausing to answer some of your questions as I'm going through. But again, today's topic is winners don't care. Okay, there's a big misconception.

This is something I started to stumble on to ways back. And as I've become a more conscious manifesttor, I've learned a really important secret, which is that you don't want to be competitive. Okay? Competitiveness is virtualized. Okay? Meaning that people often see being competitive as a good thing. Okay? And so when they want something, so if they want a a win in business, I'm going to be competitive in business. If I want a win in money, I'm going to be competitive with money. But this is a flaw. Okay? Because competitiveness focuses on the external world. It's a form of caring. And so I got the idea for today's video because this theme came up to me again the other day. So I was at the gym and I go to the gym all the time as you guys know if you watch me regularly. and I'm at a new gym. And so I'm at this new gym and the manager of the gym comes up to me. I haven't talked to this guy before, but he comes up to me. He wants to introduce himself to me and he asks me a question. He goes, "Do you compete?" Okay? And so in the gym community, when somebody asks, "Do you compete?" What they're asking is, "Are you a bodybuilder? Do you do bodybuilding competitions?" Now, I'm not built like a She-Hulk, all right? But a lot of times people think that I'm a bikini competitor. And so I'll show you guys a quick picture just because I want to give you guys receipts so I'm not just talking out of nowhere. I found a picture. Here's a selfie. This is a recent one just so you can kind of see. This is what my full physique looks like. Okay. So if you're on Instagram, you can't see it. It's on Facebook and and YouTube. Sorry. But that's what I look like. All right. So when I'm in the gym, a lot of times I get asked that question. are you a competitor? And so I tell him, "No, I'm not. Okay, I'm not a bodybuilder. I've never competed. I don't I'm not interested in competing. It's just not for me." Now, I have reasons for this. It's just not really my thing. I like going to the gym. I do it for me. But he asked me why. He's like, "Well, why not?" Like, I'm just not that competitive. Was one of my answers. And he looked at me with disbelief in his eyes. He goes, "Oh, I don't believe that. you're definitely competitive. There's no way you're not competitive." And so he didn't understand this. Okay? And so I want to point this out to you guys is that the areas in my life where I'm having the biggest wins. Okay? The biggest wins are the areas where I'm not competitive at all. I don't need a trophy. I don't need anyone to clap for me. I don't need to get on a stage. I don't need to be the best. These are the areas where I get the biggest results. And so my my physical fitness is an example of this. I'm in very good physical fitness, but I'm not competitive. Okay? I'm not competitive. And so I want to talk about why not competing actually gives you the win. Now, if you're the kind of person who enjoys competitions, like maybe you want to be a bodybuilding um competitor, maybe you want to win a race, maybe you want to have something that is a technical win in a competitive way. There is actually a way to win in a competitive setting without being competitive. And winners, true winners, actually understand this. They're often mislabeled as being competitive. They're al often mislabeled as people who care. But when you really dial into what true winners are doing, it's never about beating other people. And so this is the big theme for today because a lot of times with manifesting, one of the big things that I see people struggling with is that they want to get wins to be better than the pack, to be better than the herd. And when we do this, what we're doing is we're placing our consciousness on the external world rather than on the internal world. And so because there's this need to beat other people. We're not leading with projection. Rather, we're responding to the external world. And this is one of the big things I talk about with the law of attraction, the law of assumption. You don't want to respond to the external world. you want to put out the message. Okay? And so we're going to dive into this to help you understand that even if you're in a competitive arena, you don't ever want to be competing. Okay?

But real quick, let's come in here and answer a couple of these supers here for I forget. And Louise, I'm sorry I forgot I didn't get yours last week. If you if you want to jot it in here and I see it, I'll respond to it. I hope I don't overlook it again. I'm sorry about that. Let's see here. What do we got? Monica's got a question real quick. Monica, thank you again for the super. Monica says, "Hi, can the law of attraction be used to help a loved one stop drinking? They had stopped and started back up again with a sad face emoji." Okay. Yes, law of attraction can help with this. Now, a couple things. The the main advice I usually give for helping people, and some of you may have heard this before, is that you want to perceive that your loved one can do it on their own. They don't need your help. They've got this and they're learning something rather than this person has a problem and I need to fix them. Because if we're thinking this person has a problem and I need to fix them, we're projecting problem onto that person. and then that person will will stay stuck in the problem to resonate where we're focused on. So instead, we want to come to identify that what's going on actually isn't a problem. Now, I know this can be confusing when it comes to things like substance abuse. So here's a fun fact about substance abuse that I think will help. A lot of times people think that when somebody relapses that something has happened wrong. Okay, so my husband quit drinking. He quit drinking for six months. Now he's relapsed. There's a problem. But if you understand the cyclical nature of the universe, this actually makes sense. Okay. So what often happens is a lot of times when people are working through a problem in consciousness, they may solve it pretty good but not 100%. So they come back to the same problem but in a reduced form and then they deal with it again and it shrinks and it comes back around. And relapses are a good example of this. It's actually well documented that a lot of times people will quit several times before actually quitting. And so the reason why I'm telling you this is the way I would I would look at this is if I was you is okay, good. He's practicing quitting again. He's closer he's closer to quitting for good. He's on track for that because this is normal progression for someone who is improving their substance abuse. I hope that helps. Okay. Okay, the main idea is we need to reframe it in our own mind. Great question. Thank you, Mila, for the super. I have no idea where RSD is from, but thousand looks pretty big. So, thank you so much. Thank you. Thank you for all the supers, guys. And yeah, if you have not yet, please make sure to go ahead and subscribe to me on YouTube, follow me on Facebook, and on Instagram. I do lives like this every single week. So, if you enjoy learning about manifestation, uh, go ahead and sign up to get notifications and all that good stuff. I'm usually here every Sunday. That's usually the plan.

Answer this one real quick and then we'll keep moving forward. I like this question. Girl about town 100. Hi, Andrea. How do you stop unnegative uh how do you stop unwanted negative thoughts continually popping into your head? Okay, if you've been having negative thoughts on a particular subject, they're well rehearsed. So, they will for a while keep coming up. Okay, that's okay. That's to be expected. The one thing that's very helpful is understanding that whenever a negative thought comes up, it means that we've wandered into a lowered vibrational state. You only think negative thoughts when you're in a lowered vibrational state. So what I do and what I recommend you guys do is use your negative thoughts as guidance. If you find that suddenly you're thinking negatively, it's a stop sign. It means that the universe is trying to tell you the direction that you're going in is not a beneficial one, you would be well advised to stop whatever it is that you're doing and go somewhere else. So let's say that you're on the phone with your mother. Okay. And the same old topics coming up and you can feel those negative thoughts coming up. Okay. This is a stop sign. Time for me to say, "Okay, Mom. I love you. I got to get going." Hang up the phone and go do something radically different because you'll be moving in a direction that's higher vibrational for you. When you're in a higher vibration, the thoughts cease. So, the big thing is don't push against the negative thoughts, but see them as guidance. because if you see them as guidance, then you're validating that these are helping me rather than hurting me and then they do. Hope that helps. Great question.

All right, guys. Again, today we're talking about why winners don't care. So, I need to flesh this out because again, people often believe that being competitive and caring about winning is the route to winning, but it's not. When you're highly competitive and you care about winning, you actually cut yourself off at the knees to actually getting the trophy. So, I need to prove this point to you guys so you understand because like I said, the more that I've come to understand manifestation, the less competitive I've become. And the less competitive I've become, the more wins have magically dropped into my lap. And so, the first kind of example I gave is my physical fitness. A lot of people when they go into the gym there a lot of times they want to win that contest. For me it's not a contest and for that reason it's easier for me to achieve my goals because I'm internally focused. Okay, but let's keep moving on here.

Here's the first kind of big point here. Not needing to win a race makes you a winner in a more important race. This is something I've learned again and again and again. Not needing to win a race makes you a winner in a bigger or a more important race. Okay, here's why. Okay, when you need to win a competition, it means that you've forgotten who you are. Okay, again, when you need to win a competition, you're competing with the external world. So, one of the ex one of the ways of looking at your reality I always recommend that you guys do is that I want you to think of yourself as a king or a queen. Okay? So, on top of the pyramid, the king or the queen is at the top and underneath that, everything underneath it, including everybody else, everything else going on, those are all your your royal subjects. Okay? The king or the queen is not in competition with their royal subjects. This is an important thing to understand. This is why having a very competitive nature works against you. Because if you forget that you're the king or the queen and you start competing with the subjects, you knock yourself off of your throne where you can't win. Okay?

So, let me give you an example of this. When I had my children, okay, this one was happen stance. This was not intentional. Okay? This was a happen stance one that happened to me when I had my children. And a lot of you guys have had children. You may notice that when you're raising young kids, there's kind of a competitive nature that goes on amongst parents, whether it's conscious or unconscious. This desire to be perceived as a good mother or perceived as a good father. And so a lot of times parents will kind of debate about what's the right way to parent. Do you breastfeed or bottlefeed? Okay. Do they sleep with you? Do they sleep in a crib? Um, a lot of times you'll see this as kids get older where parents will want to be perceived very much as being the right kind of parent. So, they'll be very concerned about, do I have my kids in the right sports? Are my kids doing the right this? Do they have the right that? Okay. And there's this competitive nature that goes on inside of parenting. Now, like I said, I stumbled blindly into this one. Okay? I grew up in a highly dysfunctional family. Okay? So when I had children, I remember right before I had my daughter, I actually freaked out quite a bit. So my daughter's my older two children, but I remember freaking out when right before my daughter was born because I realized I knew nothing about good parenting. I had not been set up in any way, shape, or form to be a good mother. Um, and at the time I couldn't even keep plants or pets alive for very long. So I was very concerned that I was really just going to drop the ball on this kid. That was my big concern. And so while other parents were that I I was watching were very kind of tied into this is the right way, this is the wrong way, I walked into parenting like listen, I don't know what's going on. I'm just trying to do the best that I can and that's that's that. And I remember kind of early on I I wouldn't label myself as a good mother. I would just say, "Hey, I'm just an okay mom. I'm the most okayest mom there is. That's what I'm shooting for most. Okay. So, I did not have a competitive vibe about being the best mom. I didn't try to win with the most Pinteresty kind of birthday parties. Like, I I didn't know what I was doing. Okay. So, instead, I just did the best that I could and really kind of followed my intuition about how to deal with my children without really concerning myself about what was the best way because I didn't know. Okay. Now again, I I bumbled into this. Now, my children are both in high school and on Friday night, I went to a football game because my daughter is now the drum major. She's the head drum major of the marching band. My son's now a freshman. He's now a football player. He's tall, handsome. They both getting good grades. She's going off to college. And I'm looking at these two kids from the stands and I'm thinking, "Wow, I really knocked this parenting thing out of the park." And it's funny because I was not at all trying to be the best mom. I was just trying to do it the best that I could for me. And because that's the energy that I put into my children, the children actually grew up to be, I mean, so far very well adjusted. Things are going very well for the two of them. they don't seem to be struggling at all because I didn't have skin in that game. And so this is another area in life where I've had a big big win and there was no competitiveness about it. I didn't need to be the best mom and my kids turned out great. And so this is another thing to remember. When you don't need to win a race, you often win the much bigger race. I didn't need to win the best mom of the year when my kids were five or six, but now that my kids are almost grown, I have very welladjusted children. That's a much more important race to win by my definition. And so this is an important thing to understand, which is that you don't want to get caught up in small ball. All right? Small ball is where you need to win the little races. You need to be the best mom or the best this or the best that. Getting competitive sets you up to not only lose the smaller races, but lose the big ones that you really want to win. Okay. So, I'm hoping I'm starting to make the case here that competitiveness can work against you. But in the next point, I'm going to talk about how maybe you're in a competitive field. Maybe you are actually trying to win a legitimate race or win an actual competition. How do you apply this philosophy to those situations where you actually are in a race or you are in a competition? We're going to talk about that one next.

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Okay, let's move on forward here. Oh, we got some more supers. Let me make sure I'm getting them this time. Okay. Okay, I did that one. Okay, we got another one here from Mila. Thank you, Mila, for the super. I appreciate you. Mila says,"I have a fear of money coming to me too easily. Fear and guilt. I became aware of it a few months ago, but I don't know how to overcome it. Any advice?" Okay. So, well, the fear is too easily we're buying into the value of money too much. Okay. So, there's a a misconception about what money is. Money, like everything else, is an infinite resource. It's infinite. There's not just a little bit of it. It becomes more replicated as time goes on. Okay? So, you know, if we look way back in history, like maybe the 1400s, there was only so much money on Earth. Today, there's an exponential amount. Why? Because money grows and expands the more we focus on it. It's an infinite, it has infinite potential. So the reason why I'm saying this is that a lot of times the fear and the guilt come from the place that I don't deserve this. I'm taking more than I should have. Okay, we want to flip this. I understand that money is an infinite resource. The more of it that I allow myself to take, the more I teach everybody else they can take as much as they need. If I want to help everybody else be more abundant, it's very important that I be abundant myself. people, your reality will piggy back off of you. So, if you're going through your world saying, "I'm allowed to have this. I'm allowed to have this, I'm allowed to have this, everybody else is going to do it, too." But if I'm holding on to the idea that money is a limited resource, and telling myself, I can't have this, I can't have this, I can't have this, the other people in my reality are going to do that, too. So, in order to create more abundance for everybody, it's important that you take as much of it easily as you can. I hope that helps. Good question.

Got another one here from Stella Rue. Thank you, Stella Rue. Stella says, "Loved one sudden cancer diagnosis. The prognosis is he has a little time left. I am scared. How do I make sure that he recovers completely?" Okay. So, it's it it really is a full surrender. That's what it is. It's his decision if he comes or goes. Okay. If he chooses to go, I accept that. I'd like him to stay, but if he chooses to go, I accept that. The other thing, this is something I had a friend who had a cancer diagnosis. I've told this story way back, so I'll tell it again. Um, I had a friend who had a cancer diagnosis and she got to the place where she got stuck in the hospital. They quarantined her. So her immune system was so compromised she had to be like completely locked off from everybody and she was wasted away down to almost nothing and it was pretty much agreed upon that it was the end for her. Now the way I chose to focus on that situation was she's the creator of her reality. She can do this. If she does this she's really going to know how powerful she really is. This is an opportunity for her to understand how powerful she really truly is. That's the way I chose to think about it. Now, she ended up recovering and we were hanging out after the fact and she told me that at one point she was in that hospital and she was feeling sorry for herself and then she saw them wheeling somebody else down the hallway and in that moment she kind of realized she's like, "You know what? I'm a lucky woman. I have this. I have this. I have this. I had this and she started thinking about, you know, she was better than that situation and she's like, that's when it started to change for me. And I like to think that those two things are aligned. So that's what I recommend for you as well. Good luck. Thank you.

Oops. We got that one. Mark, thank you for the super. Mark asked this question. If two partners want the same thing but only one is fully aligned, does that block the manifestation or can it still happen with just one aligned? You do not need agreement from anybody. Okay? You don't need your husband to agree, your mom to agree, the government to nobody needs to agree with anything. But if I think that they do, that can cause problems. So, if I want something and my wife wants something differently and I believe I need her agreement, well, now I believe that unless she agrees, it's not going to work. And in that case, it wouldn't. But if I understand I'm the creator of my reality, I get to decide. Doesn't matter what she thinks. What you'll find is when you have that attitude, you're going to get what you want anyway. And nine times out of 10, the other part is going to come to see it your way because you don't need them to see it. And that's another point we're going to talk about today on this video. But to answer your question, no, it does not matter. It doesn't matter. What do I believe it? That's what matters. Great question. Great great question.

I got another one here. I'll grab this one in a in a minute. In a minute in slow motion, they changed the names on me. I know you're somebody else. Was it Snow Sparkle? Tell me if I'm wrong. Hard to keep track when they change the names on me. All right, guys. Again, we're talking about winners don't care. Winners don't care. You need to not care to get your way. Okay? You need to not care. You need to not compete to win. So, what if you are in a competitive field? So, what if you are a competitive athlete? What if you are a competitive bodybuilder? What if you are running for president? Okay, those are inherently competitions. So, how could this possibly apply? Well, it does because not needing to beat your competition makes you the greatest of all time in your field. Not needing to beat your competition makes you the greatest of all time in your field. Okay?

So, let me give you a personal example and then I'll give you a bigger example. Okay? So, when I was a kid, when I was in high school, I was on the track team. Okay? So, I was on the track team and I was good enough to be put on the 4x400 relay. We had a good relay team that year. We went all the way to state. Didn't win state, but we did very, very well. Better than any of those relay teams had done up to that point. Now, I was not the greatest of all time on the track team. I was not. I didn't know law of attraction. I didn't understand any of this stuff. And my mentality my mentality had held me back quite a bit. But there was a girl on my team and she was just spectacular. Okay, physically I should have been able to beat her. Okay, so stature-wise, muscle buildwise, body typewise, I was built more like a 400 meter racer than she was, but she was much better than me. Okay, much much better than me. And it was an interesting thing about her. She was the best on our team. She was the greatest of all time on our track team. And she was very interesting because she was not competitive. She was not competitive. She would go out there and win. She would go out there and race. But she had this very interesting attitude about her that it was very nonchalant. It was just out there and do my business. She did not worry about other racers on the field. She just went out there and performed. She didn't get nervous. She didn't stress out. Now, me by contrast, I was built more like a 400 meter runner, but I stressed out about competitions. I freaked out about competitions. And so, a lot of times I would choke. I wouldn't go as fast as I could because I was so worried about what's the person behind me doing that I didn't just run my race. And so it was an interesting lesson that I learned from her in retrospect, which is that people who are really the greatest, they almost block out what everybody else is doing. They're not paying attention to the other runners. They're not paying attention to the other competitors. They're running their own race. They're simply doing the best that they can, and that's what makes them the greatest. Okay?

Now, that's somebody you probably don't know, right? But if we think about maybe some athletes maybe you do know, you may see this. Okay, so if you follow football, I know football season's starting back up, but Tom Brady, okay, Tom Brady was or still is kind of, you know, considered to be the greatest of all time, the GOAT. Okay. And so it's interesting because when you would watch him play, he never seemed to get too phased. Not only that, when it was the end of his career, when he got to the end of being with the Patriots, he decided to just go to a team that wasn't a winning team. He went over to the Tampa Bay Bucks, who hadn't been performing well at all, and got them a championship. Why? Because he wasn't worried. He wasn't worried about losing a competitive edge with being this team. He was just went there and played his best. He believed in his himself so much that he pulled up an entire team. Okay, there was a documentary that I saw on Michael Jordan. It's on Netflix. Maybe you guys know it called The Last Dance. Okay, now if you ever watch that one, Michael Jordan is kind of an a-hole. All right, not a nice guy. And the way they the way that they painted him out was being very competitive and needing to win at all costs. But if you actually watch the documentary and watch him, what you will notice is he seemed above everybody else. He wasn't worried about what his teammates were doing or what the other players was were doing. He was solely worried about being the best for himself. Okay? And so if you're in a competitive field or you're trying to win a race, you're trying to win a competition, the magic sauce is on really almost blocking out the competition and focusing solely on yourself. Remember, the law of attraction or the law of assumption is a projection game. You have to have the the perspective that I'm doing the best for me so that it reflects back that you are the best. If you're looking out at your competition and worried about how you're going to rank up, what ends up happening is you don't win the race. You don't win the competition because it's going to reflect back to you that insecurity that you're projecting by focusing on competitiveness. The very top players all do this.

Now another thing that's interesting about top players, top performers is that instead of being competitive, they are cooperative. This is another important thing to get. Everyone values competition. But if you really want to win, you want to focus more on cooperation. Okay? So cooperation means instead of seeing other people as your obstacle, you see them as your assistance. Again, remember you are the king or the queen of your reality. Everything else in your reality you can consider to be your royal subjects. Okay? So these should not be your competitors. These should be people who are there to assist you. When I think back to when I was on the track team, that girl I told you about who was really good. We were on the same relay team. She was so cooperative. When when she got done running, she would sit there. She would cheer all of us on. She was always trying to rahrh the rest of us up, tell us how great we were doing. She was there to use us and cooperate with us so that we fueled her as well. Michael Jordan, you would see him kind of doing the same thing um with within that documentary. Sometimes he was kind of a jerk to his teammates, but his attitude was I'm we're going to help each other out. You guys are going to help me, not I'm going to compete against you. And a lot of times, you'll also see this with top top competitors. They don't even like hate their actual rivals. A lot of times they like going up against their rivals because they see their rivals as helping them get better. This is how they use even the people against them, they perceive as being subjects who are helping them. That's the perspective you want to have. So if you're in a competitive field, you're trying to win a competitive race of some sort, you need to see every other player on the field is helping you, not somebody that you're going up against. Hope that makes sense. It's very important thing to get if you are in a competitive field.

We got some more supers here. Okay, they're like all out of order on my deck here. So, hope I'm going to read through them real quick. Make sure I'm not missing any. Answered that one. I answered that one. Okay. In slow motion, thank you so much for the super. Do you have the belief that everything just comes to you? Thanks for all you share. It's helped me level up so much. Double my income, lose 10 p pounds, have hot men chase me, and so much more. Awesome. Yeah. Everything just comes to you. The the way I would actually say it is that you you project everything into your world. So when we say law of attraction, law of attraction is I I almost don't like the phrase because it implies that there's something out there that's coming to me, right? And what's really going on is I'm thinking this and I'm projecting it onto the screen of my reality. So I'm thinking about hot men chasing me. Boom. And I put them there. I'm thinking about doubling my income. Boom. I put it there. The problem that most people have is that they're thinking about things not working out and so boom, they're they're projecting that onto the screen, things not working out. Okay, good question. And thank you for letting us know about your success. Very good.

Again, if you guys have questions, feel free to go ahead and drop them into the chat. For 369 on Instagram, Andrea, could you talk about how to balance fe feminine and masculine energy to attract what we want easier in? Yeah, I could get more into that. I think that's a good theme, too. The big thing is understanding action versus reception and when to apply those things. But that's a good topic idea or a short video maybe. Thank you for the suggestion. Ah. You know what? Um, I'm going to jump right into another point because of this question. Okay, Spark Manifestation Music asks, "I'm a new YouTuber and I want to stop giving an F about the algorithm and just make it my art." Okay, this kind of leads into our next point here.

Okay, not needing support makes you the most supported player on the field. Okay, so we're talking today about not caring makes you a winner. Okay? Not caring makes you a winner. Not competing makes you more of a winner. There's a flawed belief structure that in order to win, you need to compete. You need to beat the external world, so I need to care. Mm- No. Okay. Instead, it's always about the external world is my projection. So, I perceive the external world as my support. Okay? So, let me explain this. Not needing support makes you the most supported player on the field. And so the example I was going to talk about was YouTube. So a lot of times I get people who write in, they want to start a YouTube channel. They don't really understand how do I get people to follow my channel? How do I do that? Okay. Well, if you need people to follow your channel, if you need people to like your video, if you need people to subscribe, you're more focused on winning. You're more focused on what's the external world doing. So you flip the way energy is supposed to work. Energy is I'm projecting, not I'm responding. So people who do very well on YouTube or in platforms where they get support, a lot of times what you'll see about these people, these people literally, like you mentioned here, do not give an F. Okay? They don't care. They will say whatever. If you like it, you like it. If you don't, you don't. You want to subscri un unsubscribe. Go ahead. What do I care? Okay. So, there's a YouTuber I ran across last year. She's hysterical. I don't I don't need this content because I'm already married, but she's just that hysterical that I ended up watching quite a few of her videos. Um, and and she gives some toxic dating advice if you've ever heard any before, but her name is Shira 7. So, if you guys have ever heard of her before, let me know in the comments. Um, but yeah, she she gives dating advice to to young women and it's very kind of controversial dating advice and she gets a lot of trolls coming for her. She gets a lot of hate and she doesn't care. She says what she wants. And because she has that attitude, people just love her. And that's something I want you guys to notice. The people who are the most popular, the people who get the most support, the most followers, these are people who don't even care what the audience thinks about what they're doing. Okay? So, it's an important thing to understand. Winners don't care.

So, when we if you guys are doing this thing, if you're you're starting a YouTube channel, we'll just keep going with this example because we got a question for it. One of the problems that people have when they're starting a YouTube channel is they become very hyperfocused on what does the audience want? what does the algorithm want? And then what they're doing is they're responding to the external world rather than projecting. Okay? So when you guys are creating content, be yourself. Okay? So even if it's challenging, say your own opinion, say what you really think, say what you really mean without worrying at all about, well, what's mom going to think about this? What are my friends going to think about this? because it's an interesting thing. When you don't care what they think, mom will like it. Your friends will like it. Everybody else will like it, too. I had to learn that one the hard way. Okay. So, when I first started making content, I care too much about what everybody thought. The less that I cared, the more that I've been able to build a business for myself in this kind of a way because I'm just kind of putting out what I think. I'm not scripting out everything that I'm saying. I have some bullet points I'm going to talk about, but most of this is just coming out. If you like it, you like it. You don't, you don't. Okay. So, if you're having a hard time not giving an F, it's something you want to just to start to practice is just to be more authentic in your day-to-day life. When you need people to support you, they won't. Okay? And that's another fun fact about starting a YouTube channel or starting a business. And if any of you guys have done this, you may have seen this too. If you're holding on to that giving an F attitude, it's an interesting phenomenon where you may start a channel or you may start um an Instagram or whatever and you think, well, my friends are going to like this and my husband's going to support this and the people that you would think would actually support you, a lot of times they turn your back on you. They don't like your post. They're not. It's not because they're mean people, okay? It's because I need their support. Therefore, I don't get it. Remember, you have to support yourself. So, be behind what you say and then you project on your reality. I support what I'm doing and then reality supports you back. As long as we're looking for them to agree, we're saying, I don't really support myself. I need you to tell me I'm supported. But because I'm saying I don't support myself, you don't support me either. Okay? So, not needing their support gets you the support. Hope that makes sense.

Peace. Thank you for the super sticker. Appreciate you. We got another one here. Thank you, Brit, for the super. Britt says, "I've attracted $750 of money and acres of land this week. How can I fine-tune it with ideal clients?" Well, I'm on a roll. I'm on a roll rather than I didn't quite get this. I'm on a roll. Things are working out. Okay, ideal clients. One of the big Okay, I'm just going to say this. I'm not sure where this question is exactly coming from, but as somebody who gets clients, what I would tell you is that if you want ideal clients, you have to understand that it's okay not it's okay to get rid of clients that are not ideal. Okay, I'm just going to put that out there. I'm not sure what business you're in, but a lot of times when people are in business, they want any client they can get. And so let's say that you happen to bring someone on who's not an ideal client. Maybe they don't want to pay your fee or they give you a lot of problems or always be willing to terminate those relationships. And the reason why is you want to put out the message that I only accept top tier clients. When you have that message, you're not trying to take every little thing that you can because taking on clients that are not ideal clients is a form of lack mentality. It's saying, "I don't believe there's enough ideal clients, so I need to take some of these non ideal clients and then what ends up happening is you attract more non ideal clients." So, for any of you guys who are kind of newer into the getting clients game, be very selective about who you take on. I hope that helps. There's so many supers today. I can barely keep up. Thanks, guys. Jez, Aaron, Jess F. Um, what was that? Yes, thank you for the super. Jess says, "Hi, Andrea. I have fears about money and the unknown lately. I know you said to focus on what I have. Is there anything else you do to shift that?" Thank you. Yeah, focus on what you have and present focus. Present focus, I think, is helpful. When we have fears, we've gotten out of the present moment. Okay? So, if I'm feeling fearful, what it usually means is I'm worried about something over here. Not the present moment, but somewhere down the road. Okay? But reality is always constructed in the present moment. If I'm in a high vibration now, doesn't matter where, whether I'm living in a mansion or I'm homeless or whatever is going on. If I'm in a high vibration now, I will create positive things for my life right now. But you only ever create in the present moment. So you cannot create the future now. You create the present right now. This is an important thing to understand. As long as I'm doing good now, I keep creating good now. So, I'm telling you this because it sounds like we're letting the mind think about, well, what's going to happen down the road? Well, it depends. It totally depends. And you're not going to know until you get there. And if you want to get there in a place where you have the highest level of success, the best thing that you can do is stay present now and do whatever you can right now to feel your best so that you just keep creating good things. Okay? So, thinking about the future, waste of time. Okay? It really is. Unless it's like a daydream and you're having fun with it and you're excited about it, worrying about your future is a complete

waste of time. And and one of the best ways to do that is just bring yourself back to the present and ask yourself, well, am I okay right now? Yeah, got a chair to sit in right now. I've got some air conditioning right now. I'm well-fed right now. I'm doing good right now. Okay, right now is good. Just make sure right now is good. You keep having good right nows. Hope that helps. Good question. Trigon, thank you for the super. Appreciate you. Martin Kelly, thank you for the super. Thanks, guys. Appreciate you guys.

All right, guys. Again, today we're talking about winners don't care. Remember, if you don't need need to win a race, you'll win a bigger race. Okay? I didn't need to win mother of the year. I ended up getting very well-adjusted children, not even trying to be the best mom. Okay, that's the attitude you want to have. I'm just doing the best that I can for me.

Okay, the next point we had here was um not needing to beat your competition makes you the greatest of all time in your field. You want to see your competitors as your subjects. They're all helping you. Okay? If they're all helping you, then you always stay at the top. Okay? Okay. So, you want to be like a Tom Brady. Doesn't matter what team you put me on. I'm the guy at the top. These guys are all helping me and I'm going to be the goat. Okay? Rather than fighting against people, trying to beat people, see them as your assistants. Okay? Not needing support makes you the most supported player on the field.

Here's the next one. Not needing to be heard means people will listen. We can use this advice in tandem with the last one with the YouTube. But the way the direction I wanted to go with this was arguments. Okay, this is another hang-up a lot of people have. We had a question earlier about, you know, do you if you're with somebody else, can they block your manifestation? Okay, the answer to that question of course is no. Not unless you agree to it. But the reason why you might agree to it is because you believe in this concept right here that people need to agree with you. People need to listen to you. Okay? You need to get over that. All right? A lot of times if people are having an argument with somebody, they need to win the argument. It's important that if I'm fighting with my husband about what to do with the money, he listens to me and sees it my way. Okay? That's what's going on with a lot of people in their interpersonal dynamics. They need other people to hear them. They need other people to listen to them. They care. They care if husband pays attention. They care if he hears you. He cares if he agrees. Now what happens when you do that? Does husband change his mind? No. He gets more entrenched in his viewpoint and fights me even more. The minute you need someone to hear you or agree with you is the minute that person will put up their dukes and oppose you. Okay? So, this is a form of needing to win. And when you need to win, you will not win. There's no way to win an argument by needing the other person to agree with you. The way that you actually win is by not needing them to listen to you. Okay? So, instead of trying to force your husband to see it your way, you simply state what you think. If he takes it, great. If he doesn't, fine. When you have that kind of attitude with people, a lot of times they fall in line with you. They may immediately agree with you or they may think about it and come back and tell you, "Oh, you know what? You were right about that." This was a big one because I used to be very combative with people when I was younger. I wanted to argue my point. I wanted people to agree with what I said. I needed them to hear me. And as a result, I had people always opposing me because I cared to win. But the less I needed people to listen to me, the more people actually would just listen to me, just do what I said or agree with me. Okay? So, this is another way that winners don't care. Winners just say what they want. They say their belief. They say say what they think is true and then they let the other person do with it what they want. Sometimes you guys have very well-intended advice. Okay?

Okay, so maybe you have somebody in your life that you care about and you know if they just did this, things would get better. Okay, if he just did this, if they just called this person, I know what they need. Why aren't they listening to me? Because you need them to listen to you. Okay, but if instead you just give them the information and let them do with it what they want, you'll find they take it and they use it because you're just giving it to them as a gift. So, one of the things that I like to think about if if I'm in a situation like that where I I need somebody to agree with me, okay, I'm going to tell them this and if they take if they if they take it, great, good. And if they do, you know what? Hey, if they want to if they want to throw gold in the trash, that's on them. If they want to throw this genius idea in the trash, that's fine. That's their choice. Let people take your information and do with it what they want. When you do that, it's very clean, non-needy energy. And that's when people will actually listen to you. This is how you win with people. Give it to them and let them do with it what they want. Don't need them to agree. Don't need them to listen to you. Okay? Very, very important. We'll solve about 99% of your marital marital problems if you have any. Oh, I got it. Snow sparkle. Oh, I remembered. Yay.

The advice is good for a job position, too, because so many people are competing for jobs. Now that I get that, I don't have to compete for my job or to keep my job. Yes. Yeah. Don't go into it as competitive, okay? It's true. Because the more you need it, the more it's going to stay outside, okay? But instead, you're just going out there for you. Do the best I can. You're coming in with clean energy, non-needy energy, non-attached energy, and everybody wants to work with that. Exactly. Queens don't compete. Exactly.

Oo, a Gomez 64 6455. I'm not very competitive, but I find that others are competitive with me, my family, and my kids. How to deal with others' competitiveness? Thanks. Oh, I like this question. You know, sometimes you see everybody else being competitive around you. You may think there's something wrong with you that you're not competing. Um, okay. Here's something I've noticed is that if other people are competitive, it actually gives me an advantage socially. Okay? So, like I said, I'm not I've become less and less competitive over time because I've noticed that that works. So, I just, you know, whatever. I'm not going to pick up the rope. One of the ways that this happens, you may see like if you're playing a game. So maybe you're playing uh board games with your family or with your friends. Okay, so that's a competition, right? And you may see that people are getting very competitive with you. But if you don't get competitive with the game, you let them have their win, it actually helps you in the long run. Okay? Why? Well, we're playing a game. This is a game. The purpose of us playing this game is to have social social bonding. It's an opportunity for us to feel closer. That's why we're playing the game. If I'm not competitive and I let somebody else win, well, now there's no friction between the two of us. They got to win and I kind of stayed above the fray in my kingly or queenly position. That's what I mean by not needing to win means you win a bigger race. Okay? So, when I see people around me being competitive, it's just a reminder. Oh, yeah. That's right. Because I'm the queen. The subjects may be squabbling with each other, but I'm not doing that. So, the problem is is that when you deal with competitive people, you may be thinking, "Oh, they're up there." No, no, no, no. If you're not competitive, you're actually the one at the top. So, it's it's a matter of perspective. I hope that makes sense. Gives you an advantage. You knew I was going to say Shira seven. Exactly. Even if you agree with nothing that she says, her audacity is just remarkable. And that's why she does so well. I mean, that's no F's given on a whole other level. Everyone should take notes on that.

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Let's see here. Yeah, we're coming up on the end of my time here. So, it's been fun talking to all of you guys. Thanks so much for joining me and for participating and for all the supers. Oh my goodness, we got a lot of those today. Appreciate you guys. Um I do plan on being back next Sunday, same place, same time. So I hope to see you guys there. But that's going to do it for today. Thanks.