How To Get Him to Spend His Money On You

Hey y'all, so, so many of you guys have been asking me this question for years. And I have done videos telling you every way that I can think of for you to get him to spend his money on you. So, I am going to be giving some of those ways, and some different ways, some more creative ways. So, get your pens and notebooks, and now let's begin.

So, he had, okay, number one, y'all already know, you got to look better than him. Like, not just a couple of notches better than him, but way better than him. Okay? That's number one. Write that down and put a star next to it and circle it and say, "Guess what? This is the number one way to get a man to spend money on you: Look way better than him." When I say better, I mean look like you're out of his league. Look like that you would never be with him unless he was spending money on you. Write that down because some of y'all keep forgetting that. Okay? Some of y'all are going and trying to get these guys to spend money on you that look better than you. Okay? So, make sure you know that first.

So, if y'all are, if y'all are dating or if you're looking for a man, don't go for looks. Go for how much you think he's going to spend. When you are out and about and you're freestyling, do not go for looks. Go for how generous someone is towards you. Are they buying you drinks? Are they offering you things? Are they trying to please, please you? Go by that, not by how they look. Okay? Because you can go get anybody that looks good that's not going to spend on you. But if you're going to waste your time getting cute, driving on the other side of town or to a nice area, uh, to freestyle and then go for the cute guy, you just wasted your gas money, ma'am. Okay? So, make sure y'all know that. Okay?

Listen, listen. If y'all want certain guys to spend money on you, they're probably going to get the money from a different girl, okay? Or want something in return quickly. And a guarantee in a relationship is not always going to be there because they're so young and they have plenty of options. So, plus, they probably don't have enough money anyway if they're still that young. That's the kind of money you want anyway, right?

Let me get through the video first. So, y'all start asking questions. I will definitely go back and answer your questions if you, you know, sent a donation. So, I appreciate the donation, but I'm going to answer them towards the end because I don't want to get, uh, interrupted, okay? Sprinkle, sprinkle. But I will answer, you know, later. So, stay for the whole video.

Um, another way to get him to spend money on you is to always give him problems for him to find the financial solution to. So, play dumb. You know, ask lots of questions and play them. You don't have to be young to play them. You can just be very, um, you know, unknowing of certain subjects. So, if, if you say, "Oh, well, I don't know what, what I'm supposed to do," and, you know, "I think I need this done to my, uh, whatever car, air conditioner, whatever, but I'm not sure. Do you know anything about that?" And they'll be like, "Oh, you're so smart. Oh, you know, uh, well, I guess I'll, I'll try to figure it out or I'll call someone." And then they'll want to naturally take responsibility for it. For that, because you made them feel smart and like they know what they were doing and that they could help you. And if they can save you money by not having to call a, you know, someone to cheat you, instead. See, they're now, they're going to try to rescue you from being, you know, haggled and cheated. So, they're going to be like, "Well, it shouldn't cost more than this. And if you need my help, let me know." And then you can say, "Well, they told me the price and it's kind of expensive. So, I'm not going to really be able to do anything. But, oh my gosh, thank you for all your help and trying, you know, to help me get through this." And then they're going to take the next step to go ahead and give you some money. You get it? So, you have to play the role, okay? So, let them rescue you with solutions that they come up with, so they think it's their idea.

Another way to get him to spend money on you is, you got to have main character energy, okay? You got to have main character energy. That means you are the woman that they only see in the room whenever they walk in a room, you're the only woman everybody sees. Main character energy. You're the woman that people are adjusting to turn their head to look at. You're the woman that people are stopping what they're doing and turning to see. If you don't have main character energy, then most men won't spend on you. Because when you go somewhere with them and you walk in a room with them, they want you to bring that main character energy with you to rub off on them, okay? And then when they walk in the room, they feel like, you know, all that. They feel like they have made it. They've arrived. You know, they feel like they're a status symbol or that you're a status symbol. So, you got to have main character energy, okay?

Now, I know a lot of people are basing main character energy on, you know, um, if you look perfect or not. You don't have to look perfect to have main character energy. I am far from perfect, but I still have it. And when I walk in a room, the room stops and stares, okay? Still had it for a long time. Gonna keep having it. Gonna have it forever. So, you got to have that. If you don't have it, then go, you better find out how to get it. So, yes, and I would say, I would take it even beyond confidence. I would say main character energy.

Okay, now when you are, let me go into what main character energy really is. Main character energy is taking the moment that you're in and making it your moment. And if you want to bring someone else into that, you make it y'all's moment and the world will bend to you, okay? If you can, if you can show that man the world bends to you, he will spend up for you. Sprinkle, sprinkle. If you mesmerize everyone wherever you go, he's spending money. Because now that he sees how the world can be when he's with you, he's not going to want to let that go. And even if you are a beautiful woman and you don't have main character energy, it's not going to be the same. So, work on having main character energy. That means expect to be treated like a main character. Expect to be, you know, um, given things that a main character would be given. So, therefore, you're already expecting him to pay. When you speak, you speak as if he's already paid. When you talk to him, you talk to him as if he's already solved your problem. You speak what you want into him. Like, "Oh, it's such a beautiful day outside. I I really feel like going out and doing some shopping, and I think you you want to take me, don't you?" It's like, "Yeah, I mean, we can go to the mall." He, he had said he's going to take you shopping, but he said, "Oh, yeah, well, we could go to the mall. There's a beautiful day. It is, isn't it?"

So, what you do now, this is where you can get stuff if you want it. So, you dress out. You dress like, you know, uh, like if it's hot outside, then, no. If it's cold outside, y'all, winter's coming. So, let's talk cold. Since if it's cold outside, don't wear a lot of things on your sleeves, and then he has to buy you something because you're freezing. You know, if you are going to walk around for a long time in a mall, wear some high, high heels so your feet can start hurting so he has to buy you shoes. Okay? Um, or, you know, I've said this in one of my old videos, get you an old pair of shoes and like, rig the heel so that it breaks while you're walking in the mall so he has to buy you another shoe. Okay? And when, when the thing happens, like, don't get all like upset. Look in his eyes like, like that little cat on Shrek, what's his name? Puss in Boots. You know how they have the little cat eye? Like, look into his eyes when you break your heel or you get cold. Be like, "My shoe broke." Wait, wait. Let him offer to buy you the shoes. Or, "It's so cold. Let me buy you a sweater." And then they're like, "But this matches the sweater. It's so cute, right?" And just, that's how you start them.

Now, if you're with someone that's not used to taking a woman shopping, you may have to ease them into the idea. And this is the perfect way to ease them into the idea. And always tell them to bring you something. And I said this in my older videos. I don't care if it's a pack of gum. I don't care if it's a candy from the store or a drink, like a bottled of water. I don't care what it is. But whenever he's on his way to see you, tell him to stop and bring you something. That way, you're making him get in the habit of thinking about you stopping to purchase you something or bring you something. And in the future, if you get him in this habit, he's going to automatically bring you something or he's going to ask you if you need anything before he, you know, comes to pick you up or y'all meet. So, get him in the habit. Start small and build. So, build up to bigger things. So, like, if, if he's bought you, you know, countless nonchalant items by asking him every time, you know, y'all see each other, imagine what you're going to probably get for holidays or your birthday or on a date, you know, like a, a special occasion or whatever, whatever. You're gonna get better than what he's, you know, bringing you from whatever errands you sent him on, okay? So, you got to make him get into the habit of wanting to do it. And when you receive the item or whatever it is that you've asked him to get you, be so happy. Smile. If you want to give him a hug and a little kiss, you can do that. But give him the appreciation for the little bitty things that you're making him get into the habit of spending on you. So, when you ask for something, it's automatically going to be a yes, even if it's kind of expensive.

So, the next time y'all are at the mall and you see something you like, you all you got to do is use that same tone that you ask for the pack of gum or "Stop and get me this on your way here." And it's going to trigger and he's going to say yes. So, you're basically saying, "Okay, well, could you get me those pair of shoes? They are so cute and I don't have any shoes, um, to wear to the such and such." You know? And he's going to be so used to saying yes to you and and giving you what you want and receiving that reward after he's giving given what he, you know, he's given to you, he's gonna just say yes or he's gonna think about it and then he gonna say yes. So, you definitely got to get him in that, um, mindset to say yes. So, you, you slowly practice and before you know it, everything you ask for, you're gonna get it. Everything you ask for, you gonna get it. Are you gonna get some of it? Are you gonna get something similar? But it's going to be easier if you do this.

Okay, now, a lot of people don't know how to ask for things and they don't know how to create this, you know, somebody called it conditioning. They don't know how to create this conditioning because they are too impatient. But let me tell you, sorry, if you are impatient, it's hard to condition someone. So, this is why in the beginning of dating, you spend a lot of time together, talking on the phone, you know, seeing each other, going out on dates or whatever, so, so that you can condition him to get you to do stuff, okay? And make sure he has the money because it's easier to say yes when you have it, okay? Don't be doing is to broke people making life decisions at the gas station, you know, then you're like, "So, make sure they have the money."

So, a lot of y'all ladies don't know how to know how much money a man actually has. And because y'all are young, y'all don't really think about stuff like that. A man needs to have enough money to take care of his bills, your bills, and take you shopping, and have money left over to save, invest, and then do what he wants to do, okay? That's how much money they're supposed to have. And that makes giving much easier. And they need to have several streams of income or at least a, you know, an income that's continuously increasing so that they don't care, you know, um, about spending money because they know it's, they're going to get it right back, okay? Anyway, and the only men that are going to say no are the men that don't have it and or the men who think they have options. So, this is why I say the target is very important. Make sure you're the type of woman that is a main character. So, when people are, you know, when you're asking this man for something in a public place like the mall, and people are paying attention because you're main character, and he says no, now he's in the so far. They go, "Oh, he's." When they start taking out that phone, you know what they're gonna do? They're about to put it on one of them social medias because he's about to say something crazy, right? So, main characters get this type of treatment. So, people are watching y'all a little bit closer because your main character. And if he says no to you, he's going to look cheap, broke. And the next man who thinks he might have a half a chance, you know, might have some hope in his heart, but he's going to have to tell you no in front of all those people and look broke and cheap. So, he's most likely going to say yes. And if you do it, sorry y'all, if you do it in front of, if you're asking for things in front of, um, younger people or people that he doesn't want to look cheap in front of, you're most likely going to get a yes.

And y'all, y'all youngsters, stop asking me if he's ugly. That's the point. Who cares? Don't, y'all are so silly. Like, honestly, if he's ugly, close your eyes, ma'am. His credit card ain't ugly. Or go get you a cute man and do whatever y'all do over there. I mean, you can date cute men, but they're less likely going to pay all your bills and buy you stuff, okay? And if they do, they're also going to probably be buying another woman's stuff. And if they're not ready to commit and settle down with you and stuff like that, you know, you're going to have a life of wondering where he is and what he's doing. So, ugly brings you more peace, okay? Because you ain't worried. Like, this ugly, this ugly person is going to buy me whatever I want. I'm his status symbol. I know. So, all I got to do is ask. I mean, that's, don't, isn't that how strippers work? They go and find the ugliest one in the room and they give them all the attention, give them the status. And, okay, so just, we're, we're in reality here, okay? We're, we're about this money. We're about this quick lifestyle. Some of y'all gotta wait years and years and years to live in the type of lifestyle y'all want to live in because y'all are waiting on some cute guy to choose you and want to pay. So, that's another one. Stop being, uh, wasting your time being done, okay? Know who will spend on you and make sure you know that so that it's easier and faster for you to get what you want. Anyway, let's see.

Another way to get him to spend on you is to talk about what your friend gets. So, you got to compare yourself. You can even be an imaginary friend, it doesn't even exist. Going be like, "Oh, my friend's man took her to the mall yesterday and bought her this, this, this, this, and that. And she told that we should go and they have really cute stuff at this store and they have a sale. So, you know, do you want to go to the mall today?" I mean, uh, uh, he's a cute man. I mean, no, you're a cute girl and he's not so cute. Or he may be older. And your main character energy, remember? So, he's going to want to go somewhere with you. He's going to want to say yes. He's going to want to see you.

So, the best way to get men to spend money on you is to always make dates in places where you can shop or spend his money, okay? If you're always making dates to places where you're not going to be able to get any type of money or anything spent on you, that's, that's why you're not getting anything offered or spent. If your date, the place that you're going is not right next to a bank or an ATM, it's going to be harder for you to get cash and he's going to put it off till the next day or tomorrow or next week. If you can't see the ATM sign out of the window of the restaurant, you know what I'm saying? So, strategically date in certain places where there's no excuse so you could come up with your little scenario and he can say, "Well, how much do you need?" "I want to really help you." Then you can give him the number. Like, "How much, you know, do you need?" Always double it. And then turn your head to notice the ATM outside of the window or the the bank sign across the street. But, "Oh my gosh, there's an ATM right there. Oh my gosh, there's a bank right there. You don't know how much this means to me. I was so worried how, you know, I was going to take care of this. And here you are. And I didn't, you know, I'm so glad. I'm going." And say, say, "I'm so glad, you know, you're gonna help me tonight or today. That means we ain't waiting no week. Look at the ATM right now. Let's go." Period. So, strategically plan your dates, your banks, ATMs, or shopping areas, okay? That way, if the date, so, okay, let's say you want him to take take you shopping. You're on a date and you're not too super excited. It's not going well because you're not going to let it go well. And you're going to be like this, like pouty. You're going to not really like your food that much, but you're going to try to be nice. You're going to be like, and you're going to keep looking out the window or at the shopping center. And he's like, "What are you looking at?" "Oh, they have a really cute dress in that window. It's so cute." It's like, "Oh, yeah, that is nice. That will look good on you." [Music] "Yeah, I think I should have got something else on the menu." So, now he knows that you don't like your food. The date's not going well because you have this awkward silence, you don't like your food, and you see this dress over there. What's he going to do? Well, you know, you know, "I'm sorry you didn't like your food, but, you know, you know, let's go over there. Let's go walk around over there. You want to try the dress on?" So, they're going to, they're going to offer you that because they want you to have a good date, a memorable date with it. And let me tell y'all something, ladies, when you have main character energy, that man will always remember you. That man will always remember you. Because having main character energy, you know, is something that men don't forget in a woman. They don't forget that ever. You can't forget it. That's, that's why it's main character. You know, you'll forget the name of a movie, but you'll remember the main character in the movie. You'll forget the title of the movie, the name of the movie, what the movie might have been about, how the movie ended, but you remember the main character in the movie. So, when you have main character energy, remember, they won't forget you. And they're more likely to spend on you. If you can't get main character energy, you need to fake it till you make it. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Okay? There's, that's that easy. If you can't, if you, if you think it's some type of miraculous magical thing, then fake it, okay? Until you figure it out. Sprinkle, sprinkle.

Another way, another way to get a money, a man to spend on you, okay? If he is older, just ask. Just ask. You said, "Are you faking it?" "I don't know. Am I?" "Someone says, 'Am I faking main character?'" "I don't know. Am I faking it?" That's the whole point. You can't tell. So, it doesn't matter. So, but you, "Am I still getting bills paid?" "Yep." So, guess what? Don't even matter. I hope y'all, I hope y'all realize that it doesn't matter as long as you appear to be main character energy. That's what main character energy is, okay? If you have the nerve to even say that you have main character energy, you got it. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate. Misunderstood. Appreciate that.

All right. Another way to get him to spend on you is to make it look like you need more. So, for example, if you know that you need some new furniture, and you invite someone to your home that could possibly buy you stuff, you make your furniture look as terrible as possible. You take some of the furniture out and go hide it, or you put sheets or stuff over it to make it look like it's tattered or something like that. Now, this is just the setup to get him to buy you some furniture, you know what I'm saying? And when, when, when you're trying to invite him over, like, be like, "You know what? I would invite you over, but my furniture is so gross. Um, so maybe another time." So, pretend like you don't like your furniture in your house. Like, start off doing that. And then, then like, slowly let him like, ease into begging. Like, "Oh, well, you know, I don't care about your furniture." "Well, not the mattress on the floor, though. That's going too far." That's, that's going too far. And then, like, "No, I don't really like my furniture. And plus, I don't have a lot of furniture. I really need to go furniture shopping before I invite anyone over." You might even get the furniture before you even invite him over if he likes you, you know what I'm saying? And so, if he's the kind of guy that has to come see your ugly furniture, then make sure you make it look as the worst you can make it look without really damaging it. And then, you know, don't want to stay there long. Like, "Okay, well, let's go." And then, like, drive by some furniture stores, or, you know, make sure you're going out to eat next door to a furniture store, okay? Or make sure, you know, because like, if you keep saying furniture around him, y'all know them cell phones be picking up, you know, stuff. And he's going to start getting ads for, you know, like, um, furniture stores. And you know, AI is gonna help you out a little bit. They gonna be like, you know, "Furniture sale." He's gonna keep getting pop-up ads for furniture sales and stuff. He's like, "Hey, you know what? They have a sale at such and such furniture store. Maybe we should go help you pick out some furniture." And if he thinks he's helping you pick out furniture, he thinks you're going to invite him over more so you can get whole new furniture, okay? So, that's how you set that up. Or if y'all are married and live together and you want to replace the furniture that you already have, don't, don't spend time where the furniture is. Like, "I hate our furniture. Our furniture is ugly." Go in your room. Or, "Our furniture is ugly." And go in another room. You know, don't spend a lot of time with him on such furniture. Or be like, um, "Such and such friend or such and such family member just got new furniture." You know, keep talking about it until they say, "Well, do you want to get some new furniture and stuff like that?" You, you know? So, just mention it a lot. Don't spend a lot of time with the furniture. Say how ugly it is. And then, uh, definitely, you might get that upgrade from your husband or whatever, okay?

Should you ever, should you ever buy him something? If you want to, I mean, make sure it don't cost little, little nothing. All I mean, the amount of money that he's going to spend on you. Let's say he spends $1,000 on you, okay? You could spend about 40, 30. Okay? So, he always has to spend a lot more so that he looks masculine. You know, your gifts can be more thoughtful than they are expensive. A woman does not need to show off how much she loves a man by how much she spends on him. It's the thoughtfulness, okay? Plus, if you start to outshine him in the gift-giving department, then he can't really please you. So, you always give him a smaller, more thoughtful, less expensive gift. Again, not, don't try to compete with a man with gift-giving, okay? Because otherwise, he can't really impress you, okay? He said he started to give you so much but stopped. Okay, well, then, mo, get another one. Or tell him what you want. I mean, all you got to do is tell him. It's pretty much easy, okay?

I'm going to answer that first question that came through, okay? Uh, several said good morning. Okay, okay. Then Finini, she says, "Your boyfriend cheated on you with his non-blood stepsister. She's ugly too. I with, oh, with, okay. Your boyfriend cheated on you with his stepsister who, okay, that's non-blood. I moved in with him, then found out he cheated. He said he was sorry." To me, if you ain't got no money, I don't even know why you wasted your money to ask me that question. Because I really wouldn't care if he has money. If he's paying all the bills and he cheated on you with his non-blood stepsister, that means you can go cheat on him with a man that got some money and you'll be even. Or you can ask for a gift to make up for him cheating on you. And since it was his non-blood stepsister, you can get a lot of money, okay? Or you can get a nice, nice gift. So, flip the situation to get a gift, okay? Or money, or to go level up to find a better one. Sprinkle, sprinkle.

Um, okay, you wish people stop asking silly questions. Yes. "How do you join the second level up group?" Not, okay. Ask somebody in the first one. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Because I don't really run those groups. I'm not the, I'm not the main administrator there. Uh, I'll, I'll go in there every once in a while and post some stuff and say hello and stuff like that. But you're gonna have to ask them. I'm not really, uh, in charge of those, uh, small details, okay? Sparkles, I have an administrator for that. He used to give me so much, but then he stopped. Uh oh. Ca, Sparkle, you know what? If he sees somebody else giving you something and stuff, maybe he'll start. Or maybe if he sees that, um, you're getting it from elsewhere, he'll start. Or if you just ask him. Or tell him, "You used to do so much for me. Now you up." And if you still look like and get some from somebody, then, you know, he might start back up, ma'am. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Or if y'all have kids or friends, mention how your man used to do all these things for you and now he doesn't. Or see a couple and they'll be like, "Oh, I love how he does so much for her." "I remember when you used to be like that." And then fawn over that. Then look at him, okay? Then he'll more likely to want to do more, okay? But you got to remind them of how they used to be. "Oh, I remember when you used to do stuff like that for me. It was so sweet. I, what happened?" "Oh, well." "Oh, look how cute he, I mean, they are." Anyway, he stopped giving. "And say you was ungrateful and too used to it." Okay, well, honestly, that's why you have to like be happy every fifth time they give you something. Like, every time they do something nice for you, you, you can be like, "Regular happy." Like, "Oh, thank you so much. You're so kind." And then on, like, when they do something really grand, then you give him, like, "Oh my gosh, thank you so much. You are so sweet. You're always thinking about me." Then give him a hug. So, you do have to appreciate when they do stuff for you. Even if you're faking it, you know, main character energy, you got to fake it sometimes. Even if you're like, if you don't like what they give you or the gift that they're giving you, then pretend like you like it enough to say thank you, at least. And then just don't use it or wear it, okay?

Anyway, another way to make him spend money, okay? If you like, if you want some new, okay, married couples, if you want new dishes, new pots and pans that you don't want to pay for them, ma'am, have like, if it's not around the holidays, say, "We need new dishes, pots and pans because I want to have a, a dinner party and invite over your family or your friends and stuff like that." So, always make it about him. "I want to throw you a party, you know, but we need some new dishes or pans or plates or serving dishes." So, if y'all are trying to get some housewares, ladies, always say you want to do something for him. "I want to invite your parents over for a nice dinner and our stuff is chipped and we need new pots." And you know, so he'll be like, "Oh, really?" So, he might buy it, whatever set you want, if it's about him, okay? Now, I told y'all, I know y'all told y'all don't clean the other day, but I'm saying for like, for the holidays and, you know, dishes and stuff like that, if that's what y'all want, I, it could be something else. It could be like, you know, a TV. It could be like, um, like one of those faux fireplaces you can put in your bedroom. It could be anything that you want in addition to your, you know, your house. So, whatever it is, be like, "It's all, you know, it would be so fun if we had like a fireplace in the bedroom. And I saw these cute fireplaces online that you can order and you can literally just plug them in and snuggle up together, you know, in winter. And it would be so cozy." You know, you set the scene. You start telling the story. You start promoting it like you're one of those, like ASMR videos, the cozy ASMR videos. You start talking in that voice and like, so now he's imagining himself snuggled in a bed with, you know, a little fireplace in the room with some like cozy socks on, and the bird chirping outside the window, and, you know, um, a cup of hot chocolate in his hand, and y'all snuggled up together in the winter months. Now, now he wants one. So, you pull him into what you want. And you tell him, "Look, this is how it could be." So, you paint a picture. Um, if you want a giant TV or a projection or whatever, whatever kind of upgrade you want on the appliances, you say, "You know, could you imagine watching the game on Sundays on a giant TV and you eating some wings or nachos and just good surround sound system?" And you know, paint the picture. He's more likely gonna say yes. Go get it. And you gonna be sitting up there watching your show, okay?

Uh oh, Britney says she wants your man to put a down payment on your car. You want him to pay the note. He's taking too long. Will this insult his masculinity? Um, well, you can, like, if he asks, or, okay, here's the thing. If he starts bragging on something that he's done for you, or if he, you know, if he offers you something, or if he asks you if there's anything that you want or he can do for you, always say that. Always say that until he does it, okay? If he asks you what you want for Christmas, tell him that. Okay? Until you have what you want, keep repeating the same thing. So, when he says, "Oh, the Christmas holidays or the holidays are coming up. What do you want for Christmas?" "A car down payment." "No, really." "Okay, car notes for three months, six months." "Oh, no, besides that." "Car insurance." "No, no, besides that." "Car notes and the car down payment." Like, don't let him get away from the car, okay? So, he's going to be, "Okay, well, how much do you need?" He's going to, because the, if you don't ask for anything else, then he's going to have to literally consider it. And if he gives you something else, just look at it and throw it down. Thanks. Okay, sprinkle, sparkle. So, then when he asks you where you're going, like, get dressed. And like, it could be the Christmas holiday. It could be Christmas Eve. It could be the day after Christmas. And you're like, "He didn't give you what you wanted." Get dressed. And like, and he's like, "Where are you going?" "I'm going to the car dealership to look around." Then wait and pause and see if he, say he gonna go with you. And what he doesn't, is go by yourself. And make sure it's a luxury dealership. And make sure you look good. So, you might run into a man with some money, ma. If, if he follows you on social media and stuff, post up. You test driving it, smiling. Find you the cutest car salesman you can. And make sure he up in the picture with you. And be like, "You get home, be all excited." And he thinks that you, so you're gonna get the car. "Oh, no, not yet. I'm still thinking about it. I might have to go back a few times because I saw some other cars that I." Now you think you know, you're going to be frequenting the car dealership. And that cute salesman, you're going to get a discount. He gonna work some paperwork at. So, your payment or your, um, you know, down payment can be low. You know, you finagling it because he can't do his job as a man by going to give you the down payment. So, you got to go work your jelly to get what you need, ma'am. That's all you got to do. Main character energy, exactly. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Every time you go back to the dealership, make sure he see you leave the house looking sexier and sexier, but not too sexy, classy sexy, okay?

Okay, y'all, stop asking me dumb questions. I told y'all, don't ask me no questions about no man in their 20s trying to get married unless, unless you ready for it to wait years and years to get what you want. Life, y'all crazy for marrying anything in their 20s unless you a man and you older and you got money to spend, okay? Any woman who's marrying a man in their 20s, unless they have family money or rich already, I'm not going to do. I'm not down for the struggle, okay? That's what I'm trying to tell y'all. If y'all are down for the struggle, marry, marry a man for who, whatever reason. If you are not down for the struggle, marry for lifestyle and what you want, okay? Don't marry no guys in their 20s. It's going to take 20 years to get you the bare minimum or, you know, the norm. Some of y'all grew up in middle class or upper middle, upper middle class, you know, neighborhoods and things like that. And you, if you're dealing with a 20-something year old man, it's going to get, it's going to be like 15 to 20 years before you can get to that status that you just left from. So, what are you doing? You're not supposed to go from good to worse. Supposed to go to good to better, okay? Good to better, not good to worse. Anyway, that's how I think. I'm not getting ready to go, you know, some people live with their parents and they have really nice houses and all this kind of stuff. And then they have to, they marry somebody in their 20s and they have to downgrade. No, we, I feel like when you leave your parents' house, it should at least be something better that you like and an upgrade rather than, you know, or at least living the type of lifestyle you want to live. So, I don't know. I'm not going, I'm not going backwards in life. Not even if it's, you know, sorry, just not doing it. Like, "Where are we going? Where are you living?" "No, thanks. I'm good here." You know what I'm saying? So, I know some people fall in love and they think, "Oh, it doesn't matter. I'll be poor with the man that I love." What happens when that, that honeymoon stage wears off and y'all are just poor? He ain't going to look the same. He ain't going to look the same. And he, you're not going to feel the same about him when you need the money, when the bills start getting late, or when you need stuff that you can't get. He's not going to look as cute. You're not going to be as in love if he can't do nothing for you. He's going to wear off. So, the best way to, you know, I would say, don't, don't ever consider marriage from a man in his 20s. He's not ready financially unless he's rich already or comes from a lot of money.

And you that have access to it. How can you get your man to take you on more dates? Fool him. And then when he gets there, he is the date, ma'am. Sometimes, like, sometimes if you're in a relationship already, you got to fool people into going on dates. So, you're going to be like, "You know what? Let's go to, you know, this store. You know, I I need to pick up a few things." Or, "Let's go, you know, to this place. And then next door will be this cool place." And you'll be like, "Oh, let's go here. This sounds fun." Or, "Let's go there. That sounds fun." But you, you got to be strategic. And then he'll end up spending on you and having a good time. Y'all be on literally a date when y'all went out to run errands. So, start off as errands and end up on a date. And you can get him to pay for the stuff on the errands and take you on a date. You said if he's rich in his 20s, that's fine. If he's marrying in his 20s, he's gonna be cheating in his 20s too, especially if he is rich. So, have fun with that. And also, make sure he can buy you some good makeup gifts to make sure that you stay married to him.

How do you make a provider with lots of money move out of his mommy's house? Don't sleep with him in there. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Tell him, "I'm only gonna sleep with, I'm only sleeping with you in your own house or our house if y'all get married." Don't give them none. You gonna be moving that quick. Okay, when I quit, sh, I can't. I can't live like that, okay? Y'all, if y'all don't want to be put in timeout, uh, stop. Type. Don't type in any type of caps because that's annoying to like other viewers and it's kind of rude. So, if y'all are wondering why y'all are being put in timed out, it's because of that. So, sprinkle, sprinkle. Let's see. Let me see. I'm going to read the, okay, Jana, did I miss your question? Okay, you said, "Your boyfriend says he don't like holidays and didn't get you anything for last Christmas. Should I go about it?" Girl, hope hopefully your other man will bring you something for Christmas. Because if your boyfriend don't like holidays, then guess what? You don't like sex. Sprinkle, sprinkle. When he, when, when he asks you for something, tell him, "I don't like sex, just like you don't like Christmas." And guess what? He going Christmas shopping, ma'am. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Y'all gotta pull, y'all gotta, y'all know what men value, y'all know. So, why don't y'all use it? I mean, that's common sense, man. If you don't give me no Christmas present, you ain't getting nothing no time of year ever, okay? If you don't like Christmas, you need to like Christmas Eve, okay? That ain't Christmas. You can give you the present the day before. Sprinkle, sprinkle.

You're M, you're starting maid service, but you're on the fence about the prices. Do you, um, think guys would pay $300 an hour? Since I'm practically naked, girl, that's still too much. Sprinkle, sprinkle. I mean, if you're naked, I would charge way more than that, girl. And why would you start a naked maid service? I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm not judging. Sprinkle, sprinkle. At least put on something skimpy. You can still get paid. Because first of all, if you're starting a naked maid service, what's going to stop them from doing this while you clean and zooming in when you being over? What's gonna stop it, man? So, I mean, you naked maid service? No. Skimpily dressed, maybe. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Uh oh, Haley. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate that. No, no to the naked. Tell him wear some clothes.

All right. How do you convince him to pay for your trip to South Africa? Tell, tell him that that's where you've always wanted to go. It's your dream come true. It's your main goal. And just lie and hype it up to that's like, you're, if he pays for you to do that, he'd be doing something that would totally change your life forever and that you would forever be grateful. And just make up some stuff. Like, do your research and be like, "I wanted to visit, like, I want to visit this place. I want to go see this place. This is all my dream come true." And, you know, "If I don't do it this year, I'll never have a chance to do it again." Just make it seem like he's your only opportunity to go. And whenever he asks you if you need something or offers you something, always say that. Just like I said about the car payment earlier, like, always say, "Oh, trip to South Africa, you know." But if that's what you want, and talk about it to everyone until he finally gives you the money to go. And shut up, okay? Sparkle, sparkle. Got you. Gotta let it get annoying. There you go. Mhm.

Okay, so another way to make men pay for you, okay, ladies, before you even get on a date or in a relationship, it has to be known that you're a lady and you like men who are a charming, polite, generous, and a gentleman. Now, don't, don't put this on no online dating profile. Speak this with your own words, you know, when you speak to them on the phone and things like that. And try to meet people in person instead of online because no, um, so when, when they say, "Well, what are you looking for?" I know I tell y'all, try to be vague when you answer that. The best thing you can say when you're trying to get men to spend on you is, "I'm looking for someone, you know, I'm looking for, you know, a gentleman. I'm looking for someone who knows how to treat a lady. I'm looking for someone who is not afraid to be generous when it's appropriate." When it's appropriate, keyword. When it's appropriate. That means you're not looking for a sugar daddy, but I'm looking for someone who have the money to spend when he want to spend it, okay? So, add that little last part in, "when it's appropriate," and leave it just like that. If you look like you deserve all of that, he ain't going to have no problem with it because he already know somebody else gonna do it if you don't. So, don't be, don't be afraid to say that, you know, early on so that y'all both don't have to waste your time. If he

Ain't trying to do any of that. You have some men that date as a challenge to see how least amount of money they can spend, and you don't want to be that experiment. So you need to say it early on, like straight up. That way, whatever restaurant y'all are going to, whatever date y'all are going on, he knows he needs to impress you.

And if he says, "Well, you know, I'm, I'm so sorry, I'm not going to be that person for you," act like it's no big deal. Like, "Oh, don't worry about it. It's, it's perfectly fine. You know, um, I don't feel like if that's not who you are, you shouldn't, you shouldn't be forced into that." And then just be, just be very nice and calm and gentle about it and just, "And I appreciate your honesty."

So he's going to leave feeling broke, cheap, and stupid, like his plan didn't work. And now he's got to go find somebody with a, you know, of lower quality. That's what he, that's what he's feeling like he has to go do now. He feels like he's got to go downgrade. So you're literally messing with his mind, like mentally, because you just basically told him he's got to go find a downgrade. Like, "Uh, okay, I, I'm going to try this again with somebody else and see if it works."

And if enough women, you know, speak their minds, you know, and tell men, you know, in the beginning of dating or, you know, relationships, that what they want in a man, they can stop wasting so much time. And the men can start realizing that no woman wants no cheap, broke dude that can't do anything for them. Okay? So you're going to, you're going to help women as a whole. And you're also going to allow that man to see that he needs to downgrade his, you know, um, the type of woman that he's attracted to is the type of woman he can't afford. So either he's going to start to try to afford it, or he's going to try to stop, um, acting the way he's acting and, you know, start being the type of man that she wants. Or she's going to, or he's going to stop wasting her time and let someone else, you know, date her who's ready. Okay? Okay.

Anywho, how do you maintain a relationship? You feel like our spark is dying. Um, how does he maintain the relationship with you? If you're the woman and you're asking me this question, that's why, that's why the relationship dies. Sprinkle, sprinkle. If he lets it die, then somebody else can bring it back alive. Man, y'all are doing everything backwards and wrong. If he lets the relationship, that's his, his fault. That ain't your job, ma'am. If you look good, you think you're the prize. If he had to work to get you in the first place, you got to work to keep you too. If he ain't working to keep you, somebody else is, or trying to get you. Either way, that ain't your job, ma'am.

Why is that the woman's job? Why ain't that the man's job? Why can't the man feel that the relationship is slipping because he don't care? Which means it's not valuable to him, right? So let it, let it slip. And when he sees that you're no longer even, you know, interested, he can't get your attention, then he's got to start all over. Which means he's got to spend more money if he ever wants it back. The same way. If not, he already knows if you still look good, you can get it from somebody else. So that's not your job, man.

He said women need to have more audacity. Exactly. Main character energy. What, where is that? If you're watching a movie and you see that the relationship, uh, between a couple is not, whose fault is it? Okay. Sprinkle, sprinkle. What do you? Let me see. These men have the audacity to ask you to sleep with them. What? Yeah. Do women need? Women need to stop thinking about other people so much, then start thinking more about themselves. Because if your man ain't even thinking about you and you're thinking about how you can make y'all's relationship better, that's why it ain't like it is or should be. Because you ain't thinking about you. That means he's probably not thinking about you. So why should anybody think about you? Think about yourself, ma'am.

You said, "How to get approached by rich dudes at the bar?" Sitting next, next to him, plop down right on next to him, smelling good. Okay, that's all you got. Sit right next to him, smelling good. Find one that's already sitting down and plop down right next to him and smell good. Sip your hair, elongate your neck. It shows that you're vulnerable. So for example, I hope I have no double chin today, but, you know, I'm gonna go ahead and get y'all that. The side. Say you're the man at the bar right here. I'm gonna sit down. Like, when you expose your neck, you're vulnerable. And if you smell good, he's sniffing you. Neck like he like a vampire. What's your name? You know what I'm saying? You're appealing to his animalistic nature, his smell. And, you know, you're exposing your jugular. Pfft. Like, come on, get it. That's all you gotta do. Expose your neck and smell good and sit down right next to him. Like, he like, you won't even see him.

Now, your sugar daddy has decreased the amounts of gifts but steady planning nice dates and now a trip. You want more cash, though. Um, remind him of the time when you were getting gifts and cash. And say, "Oh, you know what, May? So happy. You know, when you used to give me all those beautiful gifts. You know, I love those gifts so much. I would always call my friend or my mom and tell her the nice thing you did." Like, play him up in the past and remind him how happy those things made you. And maybe he'll start doing it again. Even if you've got to make up a whole fake story about it. "You remember that one thing that you bought me? You know, I love that so much. I used to get so many compliments. You really have good taste when you used to pick out, you know, gifts for me. That was so romantic." Like, play it up. "Like, you remember this necklace you bought me? I love it so much. I mean, I just love receiving, you know, little tokens of your love. They're like love, my little treasures. And they were so sweet. And every time I wear them or look at them, I think about you." You're going to be getting. Yes, ma'am.

How do you stay locked into your goals and focus only on what exactly you want, even in horrible environments for the time being? Um, the best way to do that is to immerse yourself into whatever you're trying to accomplish. Okay? So immerse yourself in it. That means everything you do, see, touch, has to do with whatever your goals are. Okay? Immerse yourself in your goals to where you make your lifestyle your goals. Y'all know how like on social media, everyone has like a certain aesthetic and they immerse their lifestyle and whatever aesthetic that is, whether it's their decor, how they dress, you know, the type of, you know, uh, music they listen to or whatever. Immerse your goals into that and only focus on that. And everything else will seem medial, or you won't pay as much attention to everything else when you're more focused. Okay? So find things to help your focus.

A potential you just met invited you to his company cruise and y'all want to dinner. So far, should I accept the offer or make him put in more work? Company cruise? He's been bigging. What date? Okay, are you getting your own suite or your own room? Because if y'all gonna share a room and a little old bitty, uh, cruise, the answer is no. You need your own room. Only if he can get you your own room. That way you can disappear. He'll never find you on that big old ship if you want to. That's the deal. Get your own room. Because y'all know how easy it is if y'all ever been on a cruise before, y'all know how easy it is to miss, miss people if you want to. If y'all are in separate rooms, sprinkle, sprinkle. Get your own room. Okay? Okay.

Another way to make them spend more money: focus on something more expensive that you that he, you know, he's gonna say no to. And then compromise to what you really want. Okay? So think big, then get cash and give them whiplash. That means you don't know what hit them. So y'all know, y'all know that lyric. So ask for something way bigger and more expensive and then settle for what it is that you really wanted in the first place. [Laughter] [Music]

Okay, how can we attract a really attractive guy? That's easy. Anybody can get a cute guy. But does he have money? Like, you ain't cute unless you got money to me no more. Like, I'm not 16, 17, 18, 19 years old no more. You got to have some money to look good to me. Cute and broke don't go together. You can't even be cute if you're broke. You just got good genes, that's it. Okay? I don't, I don't speak young. I don't speak Pish. I don't speak young. Sorry. Oh, Aliso, sprinkle, sprinkle. You said I look skinny yesterday. Y'all said I was fat. Today I look skinny. Y'all make up y'all's mind. I'm just gonna go with I look good. Okay?

Okay, another way to get him to spend money on you: show him a picture. Okay? So if y'all are into wigs, makeup, and hair, and y'all got the type of man that will definitely spend money on those services for you, show him a picture of when you were looking like, and like, be looking a little bit more plain. When you show him the photo. So like, let's say that y'all meet and y'all, you're just looking like your everyday look, right? Like natural or whatever, or you got all some makeup. You look good, you look, you know, you look pretty. But show him a picture of you when you got all the fixings. And if he likes what you're looking like in that picture, and he'll, he'll be like, "Well, oh, you should, you should get your hair done like that again," or "You should, you know, dress like that again," or "I wish I could." That stuff costs money. But how much does it cost? Because now he thinks he's got a bad and he thinks everywhere he goes, that's going to be in his arm, or he's going to pay. Oh, how much is it? Then give him the price.

What's the best marriage advice for a young married woman? Don't become the maid or the domestic help. Remain the wife. Sprinkle, sprinkle. That's the best advice I can give you. Don't become the domestic help. Be, remain the wife. Now, never ever come to domestic help. Stay who you already are. If that's not what you already are. Now, if you already domestic him, don't continue to be the domestic.

How to work on being confident when I'm not? Okay, fake it. Fake main character energy. That's all you got to do. Fake it till you make it, man. If you don't know how to fake it, then I can't tell you how to make it.

So he said he's rich and very handsome and gets lots of female attention. How can I attract him? By attracting the ugly one with more money? Sprinkle, sprinkle. Or attracting one that looks good but not as good with more money? Or attracting one that has way more money and you don't care how he looks? Make sure he sees it. If you don't even know that you exist, then you still got to have that main character energy, man. Main character energy lets anyone see you. Um, or notice. I won't, I really won't say see because everybody, anybody can see. But main character energy gets anyone to notice you. Okay? So have that. And if y'all don't know what main character energy is, I explained it earlier in the video. It's whatever, wherever you go, people stop and acknowledge your presence. Whatever you're doing, people stop and acknowledge your presence. Whether it's a pause, a stare, you know, a smile. You command the attention of the room. Okay? That's main character energy. Get some. That's how you, that's how you get them to notice you. Stop asking me dumb questions, y'all. And when I say dumb questions, I mean like, y'all know what this channel is about. Don't play dumb. Uh, e. Real deal. Sprinkles, sprinkles. Appreciate that. He said I missed a Super Chat. Let me see. Hold on. Let me go scroll over there. Okay. [Music]

Okay, Mandy says, "How do you get him to give a birthday gift?" Um, tell him it's your birthday. If he don't give it to you, then that's not your man no more. All right. Okay.

Nikki says, "Your friend is a germaphobe. I saw her provider pick and eat his own booger and went to kiss her. He is being possessive, aggressive because he's withholding sex. Should I tell her?" Oh, she is withholding sex. Um, if you tell her, it really doesn't matter because she's probably not giving him anything anyway. And if she's a germaphobe, she's probably not even bothered with him. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Because especially women, most women who are germaphobes, they don't deal too closely with men unless they need something. Okay. Al, sprinkle, sprinkle. What's the best marriage advice for a young married woman? Okay, I already answered that. Um, I already answered that. What am I drinking? Um, oh, iced coffee. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate that.

Okay, another way to get money: work on a project that you're creating for whatever reason. So it doesn't have to be anything major, just something that you need funding for. And don't call it an investment. I keep telling women the stupidest thing they can do is tell a man and or ask a man to invest. And know, gift, gift me something, not an investment. Gift me. It can be a little bit at a time so it doesn't look suspicious on the tax or whatever. Just give me a little bit at a time towards what I'm trying to create. You know, so you can say, "Well, I'm starting a business." It doesn't even really matter if the business is going to be super successful or not. You just have these men, especially men that have money, like to see you doing something. Whatever it is. A lot of women start eyelash businesses online, or they sell, you know, cups or whatever. I don't know, whatever, whatever shops y'all, you create online or whatever. Buy a little inventory and, you know, do something small and start off very small. But he doesn't know the cost of everything. He doesn't know how much packaging costs. He doesn't know any of that unless he's like trying to get into your business. And then that's none of his business. So just say, "I want to start a little company and I want to, you know, start off really small, but need a little bit of money to start with." And, you know, "Maybe each month I can, you know, invest a little bit more and more into my business." And blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So now this is how you can get him to give you monthly money to help grow something that you're creating. And it's not like that money is going towards like purses or clothes that are going to be out of style in a year from now. He's literally helping you create something for yourself. And he's, he can feel good about it. And you're going to grow your own business if it's a real business, or you're going to grow your savings account. Either way, a man likes to give a woman money who's doing something positive. So create a positive thing that you're doing and he will most likely give you money. Okay, sprinkle, sprinkle. Um, oh, sprinkle, sprinkle. Le, appreciate that, girl.

Now, let's see. What to do or say on a first date while texting to meet to get money? Um, honestly, you know, you're gonna get money if he's ugly, ma'am. Or if you're way out of his league. You already know that conversation is very, very soon. So all you do is make sure wherever you're going is next to the bank or the ATM. Whatever restaurant you choose, whatever date location you choose, make sure it's with eyesight of an ATM. Okay? That way, when you're sitting down for dinner, start coming up with some scenarios that only cash can fix. Sprinkle, sprinkle. But make yourself seem like the victim, not like you're irresponsible. Things that could not be avoided. Okay? So allow yourself to be the damsel in distress and allow him to offer to help you financially. And then all of a sudden, "Oh my God, there's an ATM right there. We can go right after dinner." Okay? That's how. Sprinkle, sprinkle. And I already said that in more detail earlier in the video. So watch the video from the beginning and you'll get more details on that.

Someone asking me, "What do you do if a rich married man approaches you?" And they've asked me a thousand times. Let me tell y'all something. If you ask me that question a million times, you already know what you want to do, ma'am. So go do it. Do y'all see the psychology in this? If you have, if you have spammed someone's comments about a rich married man approaching you and you're asking me what to do, you already know what you want to do. So go do it. Main character energy. Do what they want, ma'am. Sprinkle, sprinkle. They don't ask permission, ma'am.

How do you get main character energy and not focus on dusty? As a 19-year-old, avoid the dust and the crust and get to the money. Okay? Use your imagination, man. Imagine your life in 10 years from this moment. If you were to deal with dusties versus dealing with men who can pay bills, buy you nice things, and get you to the point where you want to be, instead of having to wait or guess or hope or work from potential. So it's up to you. How do you see your life? That's how, that's the people that you're going to deal with. You know, however you see your life in 10 years, those are the people that you need to start gravitating towards who can get you there or who is going to be best for your path on the way there. You're not going to deal with no dusties if you see yourself living the best life. You're not going to deal with no dust if you see yourself living, you know, large. You're not gonna deal with them. You know why? Because how they gonna get you that? That's how you avoid it by making your own goals, setting your own personal standards and your own life and not straying from it. That's it. That's how you avoid dusties. You choose to avoid them. You choose to go places they don't go or they can't afford to go. You choose to only talk and deal with people that can get you to the next level that you trying to get to. That's it. It's not like the dusties are these zombies that if they touch you, you catch their dusty disease. No, it's like this. I'm gonna avoid these type of dusty guys by not putting myself in the position, or I'm not going to deal with them if they are in my presence. I'm not dealing with them. Or I'm not going to even, you know, bother with, you know, that type of person if they can't help improve my life. So it's a personal choice that you need to make. And if you don't, then it's your own fault. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Make the choice, ma. It's up to you. That's how you avoid it by consciously avoiding it. Sprinkle, sprinkle.

Should you control the conversation? If he's ugly and very nervous and that masculine? Well, control it in a way that seems feminine, like ask him more questions and allow him to talk a little bit more. Find where his comfort zone is. Like, everybody has a comfort zone of what they're comfortable talking about. So find his and let him expand on that.

Okay, you've been paying for the hotel since he quit his job. You don't want to anymore. He used to pay at the start. How can I bring? Girl, he lost his job, he lost his woman, ma'am. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Give him two weeks. And if he can't find another one, then he loses his woman. Sprinkle, sprinkle. All right, you got two weeks, sir. Otherwise, you're gonna lose more than your job. Okay.

Uh oh, she, you got more this year than ever when dating and wanted to say thank you. I use your tips. Didn't know these games before. Bought all your books and now my real goal is living with a provider. Oh, oh. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Miss Roof, appreciate that, girl. Well, you know what? It's all, you know, thank you for saying that, but it's all up to you as an individual to create your own standards and make sure you don't stray from them. You know, I just help y'all know that it's okay to do so. And I'm happy that it's helping so many people live their best life and not settle for what they probably would have settled for. They, you know, what would be a hilarious movie if my channel, or, you know, if I didn't, if my channel was not giving this type of information, how many Pishas and, uh, women would still be paying for their broke, dusty and stuff like that versus how many are not? It would be a huge difference. People's lives would totally be different.

I already know what's my religion? Currency. The religious, the religion of currency. Okay? You know how in dollar it says "In God We Trust"? Did they put it on money? The heck. All right. I feel like I don't have a religion based on most of them are patriarchal. And I only use religion to to get what I want. Like, I'll quote something if it's good for my, you know, my pockets. But I don't really subscribe to any type of religion. Okay, sprinkle, sprinkle. Okay, you are trash. Okay, Oliver, that name is trash. Sprinkle, sparkle.

Okay, Shir, how to get money out of overly aggressive sexual guys? By asking for it. And then when you say no, when I mean, if they say no, then like, then I'm sorry, we can't do nothing. There's nothing I can do for you. Don't even want to do nothing for you. You turned me off. Tell them what your turn-ons are: shopping, spending money, having bills paid. That's the only way you can get turned on. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Oh, appreciate that, Rose Bud.

Okay, someone send Oliver a job application. I'm sure his mama already printed him out some, but he ain't filled them out yet. Or he, you know, he haven't gotten online. You know, get that party his day done that he promised her. We don't know. What do?

Okay, Priscilla, hold on. Let me see what you got. "Your boyfriend don't spoil you as much and he as he should. You start dating other guys too and tell him I'm single to married." If he finds out, girl, why are y'all asking me permission to tell a man the truth? If he ain't got a ring on your finger and he ain't paying all them bills, then who cares what he thinks? If somebody else is willing to do that, then your explanation is not necessary unless you know he's willing to change and do more. I'm, I'm not getting ready to sit up here and explain myself to somebody that is not even trying to do anything for me. No. If you, if he's not spoiling you and giving you what you want and someone else is offering to do that, give him a chance first and tell him what you want. See if he's going to do it. And then, you know, you don't have no ring, you ain't married. Even if you are, you know, if that's what you feel like you want and someone's offering it to you, or you can give it to yourself, but you want to let someone gift you, then let them gift you. Okay? And I know husbands and guys are be like, "Well, you're supposed to say no to that." But, but sir, you're supposed to say yes to your wife. Okay? Because if she hears no too many times, she going to get tired of it and she's going to want a yes from somewhere. So guess what? If it ain't from you, guess where it's gonna be from? Somewhere else. Oh, Norma, sprinkle, sprinkle. So you better figure out how to get it. If you're gonna say no, you better be figuring out how you're gonna say yes in a few, you know, the next time she asks. Okay.

Y'all, Oliver must be a trash man. Oliver must be a waste management. He in here talking about everything is trash. You the expert, sir. Sprinkle, sprinkle. All right, so waste management. He's the waste management. How much garbage may it make? I mean, I'm sure they make a decent amount of living. But since he's the expert, I, I don't know how much garbage may make. Oliver, you said Oliver is AKA Oscar the Grouch. Your, that's his brother. All right.

You revamped your entire look to give a feminine, classy, but guys still think I'll sleep with them just because they have money but aren't spending. What to do? Um, have the ones that spend already. So it doesn't matter what they think because you, you are who you are. If you don't have, if you don't have men spending on you already, then who, you know, that's what you need to prioritize first. When you get men spending on you, it doesn't matter what other people think because you already got what you need. Okay, sprinkle, sprinkle. Other men to spend on you first. So that means focus on men who you know are going to spend. And when they start spending, then who cares what everybody else thinks? They're not paying your bills.

All right, you said, "Only simps do these activities." What activities? The ones that can't afford. Only simps do activities they can afford. Yeah, you know, it would be hard for dusty to do these activities if he had no money to do them. Then it would be simping. It ain't simping if you got it. Okay? That's the difference. That's how we know you're broke. It's not simping if you got it. It's just normal. Men already know women like nice things. When men already know it turns them on. Men already know it makes them feel secure and safe when, when a woman feels comfortable financially. Men already know this. Broke men don't know this because they're always in survival mode. And they've never been with a woman who felt safe and secure because they're all in survival mode too. Everybody stays up in there. So guess what? What you don't understand? So get your pen and paper out. Let me teach you. You're in survival mode. Therefore, everything is an act of a simp. Because YouTube is trying to survive. And every little extra thing that someone chooses to do for their woman so that they can have the type of relationship that they need or want is an extravagance to you. So when you can get to the lifestyle where buying your woman a gift or paying her bills is not a scent move, then we might have something to talk about. Or y'all might have something to talk about in the comments. But until then, go figure out how you can get out of survival mode and get you some money, sir. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Go get you several streams of income. Go do something manly so that you don't have to sit up here and scream out simp because you're broke. All right, bye.

Your man used to be loving, caring, calling me, texting me. Now he's colder. How can you bring him back? Completely not hot and cold, girl. Get you another one. If, if you got to do all this work to bring a man back to you, you're doing too much work. Okay? Ain't nothing better than a new one. Frank, spro. A new one that's texting on his own. Y'all trying to go back and raise the dead. Y'all practicing necromancy. Okay? You want to go back and raise the dead. Somebody with some money. Okay? Y'all going back trying to revive stuff that died. Look, ain't nothing better than something alive. If he's not alive for you and things are all that and he's not trying to do that for you, then why are you trying to revive a corpse, man? Leave him alone unless he pops out the ground, aie, and starts chasing you. I don't know what to tell you. Even the zombies was chasing the woman. Okay, she has to do nothing. Go watch Thriller. Okay. You.

Okay, what do you do when y'all are so silly? How do you tell him? Let's see. What if a l man lied to you about his age by 10 years, but he's generous and has a lot of money? Who cares? Sprinkle, sprinkle. Ain't nobody worried about no man's age. Worry about the bank accounts.

What do you do when you feel like you have low self-esteem or main character energy? Ma'am, it's gonna be the answer to any of those types of questions. Fake it till you make it. Okay, sprinkle, sprinkle.

You said, "How to date widowers?" The same way you date anybody. Uh, it depends on how long, how old they are. They're old, they're used to having a wife. You got to act like a wife, smh, but not cooking and cleaning and stuff. Okay? That way, that's how you get the ring. You're gonna like old people that live long time with a spouse and now the spouse is all of a sudden gone. They need somebody to fill that, fill that void really quick. So be there for them. Be there for that ring. Okay? Don't date a widower or a divorced man because men appreciate more the first wife. No, they don't. Second wife, better life. What you talking about? Sprinkle, sprinkle. You're not a few young now. You young. Younger.

Okay, how do you tell him to buy you a house? You gotta, you have to paint the picture to make him want to do it. Like, you need to, you need to give him all the things you can do with that house, how you can make money from having the house, how you've always wanted a certain house, how he can come over and visit if he wants, you know, if y'all aren't in that space to move in or live together. If y'all are talking about living together, then talk about all the stuff y'all can do, the parties y'all can have, that the people y'all can invite over. Just paint the picture to where he's going to say yes. So you need to make it more appealing to him, you know, and paint a picture in his imagination of what the house could mean for you, the relationship, y'all's future, or just, you know, uh, in terms of financial, uh, gain or whatever. So just paint the picture for him, you know? And if he's still saying no, then he probably can't afford it or doesn't want you enough to buy you a house.

Okay, if a guy's worried about your friends more than he's worried about you, then that's the wrong type of guy. Okay? Or he just wants to see what your friends look like or who you hang out with. So the best thing I can tell you is just say, "Oh, I have friends, but they're like childhood friends. We don't talk often." That means you're not meeting anybody anytime soon unless I go make some new friends. And the only type of people that want to be my friend are men. And sprinkle, sprinkle. So then he's gonna be like, "Okay, with you not having no friends." Sprinkle, sprinkle.

Okay, what, you know, your man's first wife is super bitter. She looked at me, he up and down. And then I said, "I don't work." Grace, Grace, you okay? She said, "I don't work." I know that's right. Sprinkle, sprinkle. I'm sorry, I was too fun not to laugh at. It's also funny because your name is Grace and you sound like you're really nice and proper and sweet. And then like you saying something like that, it's like hilarious. How, how can you respond to your husband from his bad? How can you separate your husband from his bad friends? Girl, you can lie and say his friends came onto you. "Your friend sending me text messages." "Oh, I deleted them." "Asking me if I, you know, want to meet him." "I don't know, man." "I have no idea." "I never really had to deal with that." And like the funny thing is, I I never had to deal with that because they all just died because my husband. Oh, all his bad friends is in the grave. That's why it's better to get you an old man. They can't have no bad friends. Because if you're bad when you're old, that's, that's a hazard to your health. So it's like, okay, they drinking, smoking, and trying to party at what age? They feel off. I don't know how to do it with. I don't know how to separate young people. Uh, I don't know how to separate a young man from his bad friends. But to tell him that the other one is trying to holler. Because, you know, I didn't have to deal with that. They just died. We just went to the funeral. That's how we got rid of them. But goodbye, asses. The assholes. Dust. The dust. So I don't know. I do know if you was dating an older man, you probably would had a problem. Okay. I mean, they weren't bad people. They were just bad influences or they just did things bad for them, you know what I'm saying? So, you know, everybody have their advice. Therefore, you know, that's, that's what happens when you get old. Oh, oh, and don't take care of yourself trying to be bad all the time. Okay? Okay.

Oh, oh, that reminds me. Funeral. Okay, if you go to a funeral with a man, you can get so, so much afterwards because they have been faced with mortality. You can get so much after. Y'all go to a funeral, especially if it's someone that he knew, but not too close, like not a family member, but like a friend or something like that, or, you know, just somebody that wasn't like super, super close to them. Because then they'll be like, super grieve, grieving stage. So you want just like a friend or something like that, so you can get so much after. You go to a funeral with a man, you know why? Okay. Funeral shopping. Fore. First of all, you ain't got underwear. So, okay, that's number one. Uh, number two is like, after the funeral, he's gonna feel like he's been faced with his mortality. He needs to do more. So you could start suggesting vacations, leveling up. You know, we got to live while we're here. We should, you know, we should get the house. We should get that car. You know, take him to a funeral to get him to start spending money. Because you ain't long. You can't take it with you. You can leave it to your kids, but you can't take it with you. Or you need to start enjoying more of the fruits of your labor. So they'll be less cheap, willing to spend and enjoy their lives with you if they have just seen someone's demise. So it's like, go to the funeral anyway. Um, or even if you don't know anyone that's passed away, if someone's passed away and you've like just the story on social media or the news or whatever, just start talking and like, you know, "We should live our lives now because you never know. We should, we should have the best time." And then he might agree. And then that's how you can get him to spend money by telling him he should. Okay, sprinkle, sprinkle.

You said, "Your live came up on my girlfriend's two-year phone." Thoughts? Your girlfriend knows. Knows what? Knows to watch. She's smart. You got a smart one. Okay, she must think you're worth it if she's sitting here watching me to to help the relationship with you. As a compliment. Otherwise, she would just put you under dusty, your number file your number under dusty or dinner or, you know, P or whatever. You know, if you still in a relationship with her, count your blessings. Okay? And will she ask you for something? You know what to do. Give it to her. All right. She's your provider.

Friends flirt with you when we are out. And girl, that's normal. If they're not flirting with you, then you, you ain't the one, ma'am. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Don't flirt back unless you know, unless that, that's the one you really want. If, if your man's friends don't flirt with you and don't like you, you ain't cute. And also, it could, they could be testing you to see if you're loyal. So, you know, accept the compliment, but don't flirt back.

Okay, let's see. You said, "One thing about men, they're gonna flirt with each other's woman." They sure will. Is having your own business a turnoff or if you're talking about it? Sprinkle, sprinkle. So here, if you're leading with it, yes, it's a turnoff. If they don't know what you're doing, if, if your business is something small, feminine, and non-threatening, they don't care. You know what I'm saying? Is, and anyway, whoever you're talking to needs to have more money anyway, or at least make it enough to pay them bills. You know, so I don't lead with what I do for a living. I never talk about what I do. Most people that know me in real life don't even know what I do for a living. Okay? They don't even know I have businesses or they just, they don't even know how much money I make because I don't talk about it. Why? Because it's none of their business. You know? So if you're a woman, you don't impress men with your job or career unless they're trying to build with you and build on your back. And you are a Barbie builder. You let them court you properly, pay for you, make sure that, you know, they know that they can afford you. If they want you in their future, somehow. You don't lead with your business. Your business is what keeps you busy when you're not with them. Your business is what you do in your spare time when they're not doing the most for you. It's none of their business. When a man dates you, he's not on a job interview and he's not interviewing you. He's trying to see if y'all are compatible enough to start a relationship. He don't care about your business as long as you're not doing something illegal or something that he doesn't agree with. It doesn't matter. You know? So don't lead with that. That's not who you are. You are not your business. That's something you choose to create and do to fill your time and stack the money that he's giving you and flip it. That's all it is. It's investing in yourself and growing whatever he's giving you. That's all that is. So you can think of it, your business like a garden. And if he's going to give you stuff to create a, a garden, your business is your harvest. And how much you sold the harvest for, or, you know, how much you create from your garden. So if, if you got some flowers, you can sell roses. If you got some, you know, mint, some basil, some thyme, you can sell herbs at the farmer's market. Whatever. I'm just using it as a small example. So if he gives you money to start you a business, or if you already started your own business and he's giving you money, you can invest into your business. But don't lead with it. If you are highly successful and there's no way to avoid the, you know, telling him that you're the highly successful businesswoman, downplay it. Don't talk about it with him until you know he's secure as a man and you got him paying all your bills, you got him paying for everything. So he still already feels masculine and doesn't feel like you are wearing the pants. You know what I'm saying? So get him in the position to feel masculine before you go into a lot of detail about your businesses. Okay? That way, you already know he doesn't want you for your money and that he's still willing to pay them bills and all of that. Because most women who have money, they're not, most women who already have money also want a man to still be a man to pay them bills. Okay? Just because a woman has enough money to pay her own bills doesn't mean that she wants to be with a man who won't pay all the bills. It's a masculine move and it's a turn-on. Otherwise, I can't hear you and I, I don't respect you. If you, if you're a woman and you have your own money and you are with a man, he should still be paying all the bills. If y'all are married and together, at least let him have that. And like most men don't, they, I don't, I'm not gonna say most men, some men don't understand that that's for them. It's not even for you. Allowing a man to pay all the bills in the house is for him so he could have some type of respect. It ain't for us. We can get five men to pay all the bills. We get two men to pay all the bills. We can pay all the bills. But we gave him that responsibility as a man so that he can have respect in his own home. Take it and shut up and appreciate it and pay them bills. And if you don't, if, if you're a man and you don't understand that, you ain't no man. You thought you was. Sprinkle, sprinkle.

Okay, another way to get money out of a man is to tell him that exact speech. If you need him paying bills and you trying to go from being a 50/50 chick and paying half these bills to have him paying all the bills, give him that speech. I just told him, told y'all. Okay. Oh, thanks Natalie. Sprinkles for. If you tell a man you don't respect him if he got you up here paying bills, then he gonna figure it out. Unless you're just his roommate and that's all he's with you for, and he got you paying bills, sleeping with him, doing all this other stuff, and you ain't got no ring. Or if you do have a ring and you're his wife, you know, tell him the reason why you don't get the respect you think you deserve is because I'm sitting here paying these bills. This is your job. You still got a voice if you're the wife. Because you still can say yes or no when he try to get some or when other things are concerned. You, you're wife on paper, man. You got a voice. Learn how to use it.

We are 20. You're building a house and two away from move. Didn't ask for money for any bill. We go out a ton and have fun and she's not satisfied. First of all, I'm not marrying no man in his 20s. Never too young. Second of all, if you're building a house, is it, is it her dream house? Do she want to live in that house for in 10 years from now? Or is it just y'all starter home? Are you going to be able to afford her the luxuries in life that she's going to want in 5 to 10 years from now? Now, if she gets pregnant in 5 to 10 years from now, are you going to be able to also afford a house, a baby, taxes, and whatever she needs if she decides to stop working? You know, if you don't know, then make sure you know how much and you know it is to maintain a woman and a new family. And see if you're ready for that. Because it doesn't matter if she's satisfied. A woman is never satisfied. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Can you afford to to keep her? Is the question. Let me repeat that. A woman is never satisfied. So you asked the wrong question. The question is, can you afford to keep her happy? There's a difference between happiness and satisfaction. The reason why women are never satisfied is to keep men going, to keep them ambitious, to keep them thriving and striving. Because if we were satisfied and we just settled for whatever you bringing us, you wouldn't be bringing us nothing but what you, what you brought us when we first met you. And that's not going to be enough to maintain the future. You know what I'm saying? So it has nothing to do with the woman being satisfied because she ain't never going to be satisfied. It's not in her nature. But can you make her happy? Can you provide? Can you provide your family with what they need and may want long term? And if she decides not to work, can you provide enough to maintain? That's it. Sprinkle, sprinkle.

You're okay. Your husband is perfect, but he's always telling me, "What should I wear?" [ __ ] stuff you want. She wants you to wear [ __ ] stuff. Um, I don't know what to tell you. If you don't agree with wearing that type of stuff, don't wear it. Or wear it and make sure it's expensive so you can resell it later if you don't want it.

Uh oh, sprinkle, sprinkle. You said, "Only for the girls." Gay, that's your name. Sprinkle, sprinkle. You say you scared to ever find your husband. Leave cheating. You know you can't leave him. Okay, well, here's the thing. You find him cheating, then he can, he can find you shopping with his card. Ma'am, sprinkle, sprinkle. That's how you forgive. He gotta pay. I'm serious. Like, you can't leave him, so you might as well go shopping. Might as well. We'll go get you what you want, man. Throw everything, throw everything on the counter. Every time you get mad, get something more expensive and throw it on the counter. You go, "I need the new phone." Here you go. Chanel, girl. Here, I want that too. And throw stuff on the counter. Say, "Until you stop crying." Then when you home, be like, "Love my new hair. My packages are arriving soon that I ordered online too. You gonna forget all about his cheap." Girl, this is Christmas. Oh, only for the girls and guys. Thank you, sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate that. You're make, make, make it Christmas with, make it rain with his credit card, or make it Christmas with his credit card. Okay. If you, if you fear that much, he's gonna cheat on you. If he ever cheats on you, make sure your the next day is Christmas for you. Okay. Sprinkle, sprinkle. How do you deal with emotionally unavailable men? Making sure they are financially available. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Are you financially available? Because I don't care about the emotional part. In the, that's not why I'm here. Sprinkle, sprinkle. If you are looking for emotionally available men, how long are they going to be emotionally available for? I'm asking. I'd rather the financial available. Oh, Kelly. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate it. Okay, so young women who are probably looking for an emotional connection with a man, okay? When you get all that stuff out of the way and realize that that doesn't stop them from doing whatever it is that you don't want them to do, when you realize all of that, and especially if you are a 50-50 chick or someone who's doing the most for the least, you're going to w, you're going to get wise. You're going to be like, "You know what? Because a man is emotionally available, he's also going to be emotionally avail, available for the next chick." So y'all got to think about this. If you have a man that's emotionally unavailable, it's better for you because that means he's not looking for someone to listen to him whine and cry and connect with emotionally, and then sexually, and, and then all this kind of stuff. Because most of the time, when a man is emotionally unavailable, it allows them to be emotionally unavailable to most other people too. And so it's less likely that he's going to form a connection with another person if he's emotionally unavailable type. Okay. So if, if you're about your money, then that's the best type of man to have. Sprinkle, sprinkle. If you are trying to have, you can create emotional. The best way to create emotional connection with a man is to trigger him. It doesn't even have to be positive. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Okay. Another way to get them to spend on you, and I said this in the beginning, and I'm going to go, I'm going to go into more detail. So look good enough to get spent on when you leave your house with him, okay? Because there's nothing more embarrassing than going to the store with a woman and she's looking like, "Who did it and why?" And a man pulls it out his wallet to pay. So make sure you look good enough for him to want to spend on you in public, ladies. There you go. Put more effort into what you look like. Someone says, "Know your targets." Of course. Don't try to get no cute young man to, you know, to take you shopping and pay your rent unless he offered it, offered that to you. That's more for the older or less attractive man because you know they're going to most likely say yes, and you know that they can afford it and continuously afford it if they want to continuously date you. Now, if you're young and attractive, and you really like a woman, and, and you're a man, and you're willing, and you got money, you're willing to pay, then let her know that because most women are not going to just feel like you're going to do all of that because they're so used to men their own age not having enough. So if you have enough and you're willing to do that, if you're a younger guy, let her know from the start by actions. Say, "I can do it." And that way she'll take you more seriously, okay? What are my thoughts on waiting till marriage to cook and clean? I'd rather you wait, wait to cook and clean, then do that thing. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate, appreciate that. Yes, y'all women will be in there cooking and cleaning and making full course meals and won't sleep with a man and up there at the altar with little pee-pee. It don't. Or two minutes. His full. Y'all just don't even know. Y'all up there with too many men. Y'all don't even know. Y'all up there with. Y'all up there with bad in, in the sack saying "I do" also. But you know his favorite meal though. And then the sad part is, you're gonna think it's good because you ain't never had nothing before. And you're going to be hooked on somebody that's terrible and never know nothing else better unless you go cheat. So do I believe in it? Pick no. So anyway, can you take away sex if a guy is newly dating, says he doesn't take care of women financially, he buys gifts and flies to see me, but he doesn't pay bills? Okay, well, that's why that's good because he doesn't live in your town. So you can still date other men who will pay. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Should you allow your man to put you in an apartment that he couldn't comfortably afford on your own? I hate my current apartment, but it's affordable for me. Um, only if you have enough savings in order to pay a couple of months in advance in case something happens, or, or to move out somewhere that is more affordable before you move in. So make sure you got something in your account that can get you out or continuously pay until you find a better solution if something should happen. Or apartment. Also, allow him to give you some money to start a business or have a second stream of income so that you can afford it. Okay. So always put in place a way to afford whatever it is someone else is doing for you because without them, then you can't live that life. So you need to set it up to where without them, if something should happen, you still can live that same exact, you know, uh, way. So set up a business, set up a savings, um, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, or whatever before you even move in. That way it's guaranteed and you don't have to worry. Um, and let him know like, you know, um, "I would like to have at least three or four months of money to afford the apartment in case something happens to us or you." And then, "I also want to start a small business so that I can cover the extra cost if, if you know, if I want to stay here." And that he'll think it's very responsible and probably agree with you, unless he wants to control everything by having you in a predicament. And if that's the case, then get it from someone else. Get the money and the extra savings from another one, okay? Or from yourself. I don't know. Okay, y'all like my skin? This is okay, y'all. I'm wearing a bronzer highlighter from Level Up Cosmetics in Bohemian, Bohemian, um, or bronze. So if y'all like what I'm looking like, y'all just go click on the description bar and hit LevelUpCosmetics.us. Blink. Or just type in LevelUpCosmetics.us and go ahead and get you that little highlighter. It's, it's like in a, um, cute little black compact with a little lady on the front, and it's a bronzing highlighter. Y'all need to go ahead and get that so your skin can glow. Sparkle, sparkle. Okay. It is, it's very flawless and skin-like. I've had it there for years, and it's like one of the best sellers. Okay, get it. And also, I'm wearing, um, well, I'm wearing a combination of the lipsticks, but check out the lipsticks too, y'all. Okay. You want to have sex with a white guy older than you, but you have a boyfriend? What to do, ma'am? If he wanted to have sex with a white woman and he had a girlfriend, what would he do? Why you asking me? Ask yourself what he do. What would he do? Sprinkle, sprinkle. And guess what? What's stopping you? If you want to do something, do it, man. And I mean, don't you have free will? What's stopping it? Do you need permission? I don't know. You give yourself permission. Okay. Hi, Shear. Keep saving the world. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate that, girl. Okay, um, you have a sugar daddy and he gave you herpes and has made you feel super insecure and angry, but he's very generous. What do you think, girl? I don't know. Make them pay for it. I don't know. Sparkle, sparkle. Sorry, girl. Herpes. You'd be pissed. Well, I mean, you could sue them, can't you? I don't know. To tell you if you, if you can sue him for that, figure out how. Call the lawyer to ask. I don't know. I have no idea because I feel like a lot of people that have to deal with that, that's why a lot of people ain't trying to kiss nobody. Don't, don't kiss them. Stop kissing people unless they paying them bills, okay? I get you some Fix Vaper rub. How should you, should you tell him you're seeing other men because he doesn't support me financially? No, don't tell him nothing. Why you seeing him if he don't support you financially anyway? He, he should know that you're seeing a man. If he's not financially supporting you, if you look too good to even be with him, he know he ain't gonna be there long if he doesn't financially support you. So I mean, who's wasting whose time? Okay, who wasted whose time? Oh, you don't have sex with men, you just take their money. Good for you, ma'am. That's how you do it. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Someone says, "Don't believe in karma." And go, "Exactly." You, it's up to you as an individual what you want to do. Whatever you let stop you from doing what you want to do, if it makes sense and it's not the best thing for you, then that's that makes sense. But to to sit here and say, "Oh, I can't do that because this because of karma and this, that, that, that," that's you telling yourself not to do something that you want to do. If that's what you want to do, go do it, ma'am, because men don't care about no karma. Men will sit there and do exactly what they want to do and don't even think about no karma. Okay? Like, you know what? I can do it because I want to. Do you think men and women are totally different? Y'all sit here scared. They sitting here doing what they want. Y'all sitting here cooking and cleaning. They sitting there making a mess and watching you clean. Y'all sitting here saying, "Oh my gosh, what are you doing? Why don't you love me? Why aren't you financially, I mean, why aren't you financially or emotionally available?" And they over here, you know, living their best life, not caring and doing what they want. And y'all are s, y'all women are choosing to suffer. Like literally, women choose to suffer because they've been conditioned to suffer. Condition yourself to get what you want, to live the life you want, and to make that man pay them bills, okay? Why y'all do that instead of suffering so much? Because that's ridiculous. Y'all got to ask permission to do the normal stuff. Y'all got to ask permission to do stuff a man would do in a heartbeat. Why? Because you've been conditioned. Stop. If you want to do something, go do it, ma'am. Make sure you're smart enough to get away with it. You think you need to get away with it, or make sure you got enough money in your account. If you need to do something, you can do something. Make sure that you got everything covered if that's what you want to go do. The difference between a man and a woman is that she's smart enough to cover herself and go do what she want to do. And a man just gonna do what he want to do anyway because he knows the woman is conditioned to suffer. And so if part of taking that person and, you know, dealing with them is suffering, then he knows that she's probably on board for it. That's why I say make them pay for forgiveness. That way you're suffering while you're shopping. This on a card, and you ain't suffering long because you're gaining, you know what I'm saying? So switch, switch off your suffering mode and turn on, you know, you do what you want mode, get what you want mode, and worry about all that stuff when a man starts worrying about it, okay? Because y'all, y'all sound as like y'all want to suffer. Like y'all in line to suffer. Like y'all need permission to even live. Main character energy, ma'am. Sparle, sple. Uh oh. Sparle, sple. An. So if y'all are always in suffering mode, this is why men is so easily to take advantage of you because you expect it. You expect to suffer. So when that's, they're gonna give you. Expect to thrive. Expect to get them bills paid. Expect to look good. And that's what you're gonna get. Go, go find a, a video with a man talking all this stuff and see if the word karma even comes up. Y'all is too much, too much, girl. That's a way to keep y'all in line. Y'all haven't learned that. Keep y'all doing what's expected. Suffer. Okay, what to do when he doesn't give you money? Get the, get his brother, get his daddy, or get another man to give you some money, ma'am. Stop wasting your time with one that's like going to the ATM machine and it's empty, man. What you doing? Go to another one. Sprinkle, sprinkle. He said, "If karma was real, all men would be gone." That's so true, girl. Y'all sitting there trying to get money out of empty ATM machines or out of order ATM machines. Y'all asking me how to get money out of an ATM machine that won't give. No, go to it. Find another one, ma'. Sprinkle, sprinkle. You said, "How long do you wait to ask for money?" You start off giving them situations that you're gonna need money very soon in. And if they can't give it to you, you, you know, you have no more reason to see them. So literally, just start talking about what you need first so that they can come up with ways that they, that they can give it to you. If not, you know, you need to look like that's the only reason you're there. You need to look like, "Look, I'm the type of woman that you got to financially support, otherwise we have nothing to talk about any further." That's what you got to look like. You got to look like when people see y'all together, they already know why you're there because he got money and he's spending. If you don't look like that, it's going to be hard to ask for anything. If that's not the dynamic of the relationship, you're going to be hard, it's going to be hard for you to ask for anything if you don't look like you can ask. So look like you can ask and then ask like, um, "I know you're old and I'm young and cute, and you're old, and you know, someone needs money." That's, that's as easy as that. You don't ask that way, but you just give them situations to help you with. Be like, "You know what? I'mma need some extra help this month, or else, you know, it's going to be hard for me to get out and, you know, for us to date because I'm going to be super busy trying to figure out how I'm going to take care of my problems." If they want to see you, guess what? They gonna solve your problems financially. Sprinkle, sprinkle. That's pretty much it. If, if you're not that valuable to them, then it's going to be harder to find ways to get money from it. Make sure they're the right type of guy that wants to give you money. [Music] MH. Sprinkle, sprinkle. What agrees? Who agrees with white men? If better, they do well, you know what? You know, you know the best sex when all your bills is paid. That's the best sex, right? After the one who paid them, or right after you buy that new car he put in your name. That's the best kind. I don't care what race it is. Sprinkle, sprinkle. The one, the one that gives you everything you want, that's the best kind. Okay. The direct, after direct deposit, ma'am. Yes. Otherwise, you know, you just sitting over there, you know, if a woman is trying to figure out how to pay her bills, or if her bills are being paid on time, or if you gonna give her some money sooner or later, she ain't concentrating on you. She can't even concentrate enough to get the pleasure out of it. So if you're sitting there, you know, doing your thing, sir, and you ain't paying a thing, then she's not even concentrating unless she trying to, unless she already got somebody paying her bills and you're just a side, side dude that she probably not gonna take seriously. I don't know. We don't know. He said, "It's true. Only medium ugly girls get approached by men." Is it true? Only medium ugly girls? I don't know. I have no idea. You, what type of men you know? If I, let me tell y'all something. If I were a man and I was strategic, it depends on what I'm looking for. See, men approach women at the moment by what they're looking for at the moment. So if a man is looking to have sex with somebody real quick, he's not gonna choose the type of woman he wants to wife, okay? And if a woman wants to have sex with a man real quick, she's not gonna choose the type of man she wants as a husband, okay? So get that out of the way. If a man approaches a woman because she looks like she has good credit, she can afford to get on some paperwork and get the house that he, then he's looking to build with her, you know what I'm saying? If a, if a man approaches a really pretty woman, he already knows that he's gonna have to do everything for her and keep her happy and satisfied. And if he doesn't have the bank account to do that or the patience to do that, he's not gonna approach her if he's smart. Now, most men who will approach extra beautiful women will just do it to boost their self-esteem and then not really follow up with them because they can't afford them. So either way, a confident man who has everything that he needs in order to, uh, do whatever he needs to do to keep anybody happy will go get exactly what he wants and not even think twice. So you can tell a lot, a lot about a man by the type of woman he chooses and what he chooses her [Music] for. Sprinkle, sprinkle. What about a man who's close with his family? Um, if that's a problem in your relationship with getting him to spend, then you need to bring that up as soon as you can in a nice way. This is what I would say. "I can tell that you're extremely close to your family, and I really admire that about you. But in order for this relationship to work, I'm going to also need you to be extremely, uh, comfortable with also fulfilling my needs." So act like you don't mind him being so close to his family as long as you're taking care of, period. And let him know that you're aware and observant. That's also letting him know that you're aware and observant, and that you're not gonna be pushed aside because you can just go get another one, okay? You say, "You feel like you're losing him." He don't feel like he's losing you. Ma'am. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Because y'all, y'all think backwards. Look, you feel like you're losing him, but he don't feel like he's losing you. You're doing everything wrong. If you don't, if he doesn't feel like he's losing you, then he's not even worth it, ma'am. Uh oh. Ariana. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Appreciate that, girl. It's always the woman that got to put in the work. It's always the woman who suffers. Stop suffering. You ain't, you ain't losing him. He's losing you, ma'am. Shut up. Y'all are so conditioned. Y'all are so conditioned to take the victim mentality. Y'all are so conditioned to say, "Oh, I'm doing." Shut up. You're freeing yourself for a better one. He's losing you. You, you getting ready to go get something better. What are you talking about, man? No wonder these guys treat women so terrible. Look what y'all sound like. I, y'all are, you got, how do I, how do I feel like I have a high self-esteem? How do I feel like, what, what do I do to put the spark back in your relationship? I feel like I'm losing him. D, y'all sound like a bunch of suffering sufferers. Shut up. I feel, I feel like he's losing me. I'm f to go get something better. Okay, the spark is out of the relationship. Must be ready to find a better one or another one. You know, oh, you know, somebody wants to do this and do this and that. Should I do it? I do it because I want to. That's what I want to do. I don't need permission. I'm main character. If you don't have no main character energy, then you sitting there suffering, playing the side role of somebody in a character in a background. Man, main character energy. Stop suffering. Stop choosing to suffer. Change your words, change your life. Okay, shut up and stop suffering. All of those women, not just you, all of the women who choose to say certain things and wonder why their life is the way it is. Oh, I guess I'm slipping away from. Guess some about slipping. Something better. You know, he ain't paying attention to me no more. Guess what that means? Somebody else will. Never choose to suffer unless y'all, unless that's what you really want to feel. Oh my gosh, I, what if he's watches this? Or oh my gosh, what if, what if he has a female? What if you got a man friend? What if you watch something else? What if you see somebody in real life? Okay, what if? Why isn't he worried about you? Why are you always worried about him? Why are you holding on for dear life and he don't even know something's wrong? Shut up. Stop being the victim. Stop suffering and go live your life. You said, "Submissive costs money." For real, though. You said, "What? Shear is a true feminist, not these people, these bees that pay for me dinner." Oh my goodness. Who out here doing that? This is their birthday. Um, you said, "Some emotional." Some women are too emotional and care a lot. Okay. Care a lot about who? A person that don't care nothing for them. A person that barely cares about them. Who? Who are you the care bearers? Okay. Are you even getting paid to [Music] care? No. If it's not beneficial to care, should you know? You should get more out of them caring for you. How do you tell him you've been to jail? Street cred. Guess what? I got something to tell you. I got some street, but I look good in my, I look good in my mug shot, sir. Sprinkle, sprinkle. You know I ain't gonna be caught looking like who did it and why in any situation. That's how you tell them. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Then you tell them the story and make it sound like an adventure. As long as what you did was not disturbing enough for them to say, "Uh, I don't think that we should." Change in this day and era, most people have a mug shot, especially if they're old. They didn't got something. Something didn't happen. Long as you look good in your mug shot, you good. How do you handle him believing rumors about you? As long as he believes in the rumor that he got to pay bills to get with me, that's the only rumor I, you know, I care about. He believes that one. Sprinkle, sprinkle. You want, you want to be a part of, you know, my life. As a grown man, you got to pay bills. And that's not a rumor. Make sure your rumors at least have some truth to some of them. That way, if he asks you about them, you can correct him. So I don't know what type of rumors they are, but if he's getting information about you from other people, he's messy anyway, and he's not the type of man that you want to be with because he seems very feminine. So you need like a real masculine man who don't even listen to rumors, who do what he want, because he can, you know what I'm saying? Because if you got a man that's always listening to rumors and gossiping and stuff, he's most likely on the download anyway or not man enough for you. Somebody said, "Y'all in high school." Exactly. It's like, we don't deal with those type of little boys. You got some money, that's that's why we dealing with. What if they're bad rumors? If they're not true, then don't claim them. Just say, "Well, believe what you want. Stay unbothered." You know what I'm saying? For me, if there's any rumors about anybody, I'm staying unbothered because I'm still gonna get my money. You still gonna pay these bills, no matter who's saying what. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Main character energy, ma'am. Main character energy. What main character cares about rumors? They still going to be the main character, period. And so do you believe it? Guess what? Bills still. Do you pay them? Then I don't care what you think or believe. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Guess what? I still need you to pay for this. Guess what? I'm still need some money. Guess what? You still taking me shopping. All right. Do what you want. So who cares about rumors? If you're going to deal with somebody that's going to believe rumors about you, you're the stupid one, okay? Think about that. You're gonna sit there and deal with somebody that believes rumors about you, and or you want to deal with someone who believes rumors about you? Who's the dumb one? Sprinkle, sprinkle. You said, "But you don't want to feel stupid." Then don't feel stupid. It's a choice. You said, "Women gossip and spirit." Look, I don't know enough. Like, you need to, you need to surround yourself with people that don't care about that kind of stupid stuff, okay? People that lie and gossip and start rumors don't have enough money to spend. Sprinkle, sprinkle. So that's their form of entertainment. They ain't got enough nice places to go. They ain't got enough stuff to do that actually costs money. So gossiping and starting rumors are free, okay? So if y'all are dealing with that riff-raff, you know, that's y'all's choice, once again, to suffer, okay? How to get a man to move you out and live with him? Uh, tell them that. Tell them you're moving in. Sparkle, sparkle. Let's see what he say. Guess what? I'm moving in next week. Pause. See what he say. And, and also tell him, "I ain't paying no bills either." Pause. And ain't working. Pause. If he don't say nothing, you good. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Then you like, "When am I gonna get my key?" Pause. That's all you gotta do. That's all you gotta do. If he says no and all this kind of stuff, I'm like, "Okay, that's fine." Then when he, he invites you over, don't go. "I don't feel like driving all the way over there. I don't feel like doing that." No, I'm good. You come over here. "Oh, no, I don't feel like it. No, sorry." Then he gonna ask you to move in. Sprinkle. If that's what you want, still, then you say no. Then it's like, "All, then you, then you put out your conditions." Well, I'll move in only if, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Here you go. You said, "Gossiping is a feminine trait." It's a low-class feminine trait. Yes. Or it's a trait that you have because you don't have anything else to do. There. Find something else to replace it with, and then your life will probably be better. Sprinkle, sprinkle. So here's my thing. If you're dealing with a man who listens to rumors and gossip, you ain't dealing with no man, sorry. Because he could be reading a book. He could be doing some type of, uh, business. He could be, uh, learning how to flip his income or create more streams of income. He could be working out. He could be doing all the stuff besides listening to rumors and gossiping. He could be doing anything else to better himself. So if he's choosing that on purpose, that's the kind of life y'all are gonna have in the future. Him listening to everything everybody else say and then believing them and not believing you. Do you really want a man like that? If the answer is no, then dodge that bullet, sir. Ma'am, okay? You told him that if he don't continue to pay your bills and move me in his house, we're done. Well, good for you, ma'am. Guess you gonna know what happens. When one way or another, you gonna get what you want. You said, "He mad he got mad that you don't care and now you moving in next week." Girl, I told you, stop caring. That's when they start. Okay, if you really want a good holiday gift this year, ladies, when when your man asks you what you want for Christmas or whatever holiday, you say the big thing that you want. Hopefully, you get that. If you don't want anything major, um, definitely send him links to exactly what you want so you can get what you want. If you have that type of man, or if you're just starting to date and you're not sure how much he, you know, he will spend on you, tell him, "Oh, just get me something that you really think I would like." Or just say, "But you don't have to get me anything." But just, "If you really want to gift me, just, you know, I like." Tell him what you like. Say, in a vague way, say, "I, I like jewelry." And then you're going to see what you're worth, you know what I'm saying? Especially if he's trying to impress you. If he's gonna bring you some cheap jewelry, or he's gonna go and buy you something a little expensive or a lot expensive, what is he gonna bring you? So tell him you like jewelry. Don't tell him exactly what you want if you're new to dating him. If you want to see how generous he is, how what he thinks of you, how long he plans to keep you in his life, all this kind of stuff will determine what, what he's gonna spend. So if you really want to know, like, "Oh, I like jewelry. I like this. I like that." Jewelry. See if he comes with something good. And if he doesn't, then you know how he feels, especially if he has money. See what store he chooses, see what type of jewelry he chooses for you, and you'll know where you, you know, where this is hidden. Should you ask for gifts on the first date? Um, before the first date, ma'am. Especially if y'all have each other's phone numbers. You tell them what you like and see if he shows up with it. If you don't, tell them what you like. Continuously talk about the things that you like and want or need or may need in the future, and see if he wants to give those things to you. If not, by the sec, the third day, if you haven't gotten anything, then he's not trying to give you nothing, ma'am. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Especially if you're keep talking about it. Especially if he's the correct target. If you're dealing with somebody your own age, you know, good luck. Unless you're older, you might get it. But like, I'm, if y'all are 20 something years old and y'all talking to 20 something years old, it's not even worth wasting your breath or your texting. For an older man will bring you something, ma'am. If you're a wine connoisseur, mention some type of wine that you like because he thinks y'all are both gonna enjoy it at some point. So you're more likely to get an expensive bottle of wine. If you like flowers, most men kind of feel like it's corny to bring women flowers unless it's like a special occasion. Plus, you got to carry them flowers around on the whole date. So, um, you can say something like, you, you like perfume, you like wine, you like, uh, you know, something that you can carry besides a big old thing of flowers, unless you in high school or something. Flowers is like a status symbol walking down the hall with it or something like that. I don't know. But ask for things that you really enjoy, that you can really enjoy. Some women like, you know, expensive candles or something like that. I don't know. Um, some women like, um, trinkets. I don't know. But tell them what you like. Tell them what you're into. Tell them if you collect something. Tell them you love wine. Tell them you love a certain brand of wine. Tell them you, and see what he shows up with. And then the next date, you know, prepare him for what else you like. And when you receive the gift, then act like it's really a big deal. And the praise that he gets from you, and, you know, the attention and affection that he gets from you for bringing the gift, he's gonna want a repeat of it. So he's gonna bring you another gift. So whatever it is, let him know ahead of the date so that he's prepared and can actually bring it to you. And whatever that is, act like it's all, all that. And if it's not all that, just say thank you anyway and smile. And then just don't use it or act like, you know, you're appreciative still. But then, you know, if he asks you about it in the future, be like, "Oh, you know, it really wasn't my style, but I really like, love how it looks on my, you know, dressing table or something like that." Okay, then he'll want to get you something else. Well, I'm sorry you didn't like it. What, what do you want? Okay. Do you bring your man around females or family? You know, to be messy? Why would you do that? See, why would you choose to suffer? Go ahead, ma'am. Y'all know y'all signed up for suffering for some strange reason. You don't need permission to suffer. That's all your own free will. So that's all I'm saying. If society tells you you're supposed to do something and it leads to your suffering, do you still do it? If people expect you to be a certain way, but it leads to your suffering, do you still do it? If you, if you know something is going to happen, if you introduce somebody to somebody else, do you still introduce them? I mean, it's common sense, right? So use your brain and you can make the best decisions just by having common sense and thinking, not following society's conditions upon women and their suffering. Be smart. Be smart. Choose you and choose what's best for you and your family and your relationship or whatever, okay? Stop going by what society and how society wants you to suffer. It doesn't make any sense. How do you think you're gonna get money out of somebody if you're gonna keep choosing suffering? You only pretend to suffer to get the money, and then you suffer no more. Sprinkle, sprinkle. Okay. He said, "If a man had a hair transplant, he gets arrogant." So stupid, girl. He got his wig on, his permanent wig. He think he all that. "I got hair now. Y'all can't tell me nothing, girl." But you could tell the ones that got the hair transplant. You could tell. You can tell. So this still ain't all that. Like, we, what can tell? Y'all got that good old block hairline looking like Frankenstein. Sprinkle, sprinkle. We can tell. We just don't say that trying to be nice, but we know. We know the ones that got it, the ones who ain't at it, the ones who bald up under down on, who used to be bald. Um, but, you know, it's okay. As long as you can afford to fix it, just know we know. Most of us. So anyway, how do you tell your friend you're not introducing her to a man because she sleeps with married men? Okay, this is what I would say. "You're not going to meet my man because I don't trust you, and you look better than me, and I don't trust my man." That's, that's all you need to tell. When you, when you choose not to introduce, first of all, if you have a, a friend that sleeps with married men, you already think your man is gonna be attracted to her. That's number one. So you don't trust him first. That's number one. You don't trust her either. So what you really saying is, you don't trust neither one. Sprinkle, sprinkle. But that's good because you shouldn't. You shouldn't trust either one of them. All you need to trust is that his money going into that account and paying for whatever you need him to pay for. So it's a smart move, especially if you don't trust him. You already know what she's gonna do if there's money involved. If you look halfway [Music] decent. Sprinkle, sprinkle. So it's up to you, like free will. Now, how to not, okay, how do you explain it to her? Okay, say, "You don't trust him." Don't blame it on her. She already knows you don't trust her, especially if she looks good. So blame it on him. So, "Girl, I don't trust him around no women. I don't introduce him to nobody." Girl, he's flirting with everything. "I'm just after his money." So, you know, tell her like that. "I take it as a compliment, girl. I understand. Don't worry." All right. Can you give a gift if he's traveling? And yes, he gave me a gift already. Okay. Is it a special occasion or are you being pick me sham? Um, if you're married, like when you go to Walmart or to Target or whatever store, and you pick him up, you know, a pair of socks or something, that don't really count, okay? But if you're going out of your way to buy some man that you're not really with or married to a gift just 'cause he bought you one, you're being pick me-ish. Let him shine in the gift area, you know what I'm saying? Because if you're gonna make gifts common and a two-way thing, that's when men start taking you for granted. So your gift is, "Oh my gosh, thank you so much. I really love what you got me. I wear it every day and think of you. You're, you know, I, this is so, so means so much to me. Uh, I hope you bring me something good back when you return." You don't go and get him another gift. That's pick me-ish, girl. You collect gifts, ma'am. Collect. Then on a holiday, look at all the gifts he done gave you and say, "Okay, he, I can see where this is going." And then you find a thoughtful gift that doesn't cost a lot to make him always think of you. Maybe something engraved, maybe a little saying, or like whatever y'all have acquired during dating, something that's meaningful versus expensive. Why? Because if he can buy you all those gifts, he can buy himself a gift. He don't need your money. He needs to know that you care about him or you're paying attention and you have meaningful thoughts and you put a lot of thought into that gift. So when he sees the gift, he'll always think of you, no matter what. Okay? So stop trying to buy these men and let them continue to gift you. And only gift them on special occasions, okay? Don't do too much. A woman that does too much is seen as desperate. All right. If you got to buy somebody a gift, you know, buy yourself a gift, buy your family member a gift, but try not to buy him all these gifts because he bought you one unless it's a holiday or special occasion, okay? Sometimes, if I, you know, if I buy everybody something in my family or like the kids something, and I buy me some stuff, and it's like, if it's something that a man can use too, and I, and I see, uh, my husband looking kind of sad 'cause he didn't get nothing, I just give it to him. Like, "Oh, I got you a t-shirt that was mine, but, you know, you can have it." That's how married people do. Married people like, "I got you something." Even though they didn't really buy it for you, like, "I thought about you." After I didn't think about you. Go, a $5, $10 t-shirt. Yeah, everybody else got like shopping bags anyway. But when you don't do too much, that t-shirt is like gold. Okay, I'm gonna wear this and think of you. Okay, you don't do too much. The bare minimum is a lot, okay? That's how you got to do that because you could have not given him that t-shirt. Literally, you could have not given him this. You could have just let him look crazy, look, let him look sad. But you got a t-shirt. You thought about me? Yeah, we searched hours for that t-shirt. He said, "That is you." You. Anyway. What if he's not that generous with money, but he's generous with knowledge? He helped me earn much more. I only work from home now and I was able to have my own condo. Okay, well, I mean, if you were able to create knowledge, I mean, money with the knowledge he gave you, great. But you can get knowledge from a book. You got wisdom because you can get knowledge from a book. If you, if whatever he told you, you could got out of a book, then he could, you could be thankful for that. But also, he, you know, um, he has to still do more if he wants to be your man. Thank you for teaching me how to go get what I really want. Even though there's books that do the same thing, but if you want anything else, you, you're gonna have to give me some money too, or do a little bit more, or do something for me instead of telling me how to do it. Just go do it for me, how about that? Okay. He said, "He didn't get you the condo and you still work the hell." His knowledge isn't the reason your job paid you money to save up for the. Yeah, if you're appreciative of stuff, you can learn online and Google. Then appreciate Google because you asked him a question, he probably Googled it and copied and pasted you, ma'am. But honestly, y'all are doing, y'all are still doing too much for the least. If you appreciate his knowledge, say, "I appreciate your knowledge, and I also like gifts." Sprinkle, sprinkle. Oh, thank you, girl. Sprinkle, sprinkle. "I like knowledge and gifts." You know, not just the gift of knowledge, but also some gifts. You said, "Thank him for being your mentor." And get someone else. Oh, that's so sweet. "Thank you for being my mentor. Now I need to go find a sugar daddy, or I need to find a man who likes to spend money on me, or I need to find a man who likes to gift me. But, you know, thanks for being a mentor." Would you ever have a mastermind? What do you mean, a mastermind? Would I ever have a mastermind for what? What would I need a mastermind for? I get everything I want. Okay. You said, "A masterm." Okay. How to ask him to pay bills? Bills when he starts talking about being together, it's exactly that way. Well, in order to be together, you know, you gotta pay these bills 'cause that's one of the requirements. It takes to get some type of commitment. Commit to these bills, you know? If you start talking about being together, okay, okay, that's so sweet. You want to pay my bills? Automatically assumed that's what he said. "Oh, you want to be together? That is so sweet. Oh my gosh, yes. I've been waiting. I've been waiting for you to say that. Yes, so I can't wait for you to start paying all my bills and so I can quit my job. Oh my gosh, thank you." You automatically assume that's what being together with him means, especially if he got money. If he has money, automatically assumed he's paying bills. Oh my gosh, I can't wait. You're so, yes, I've been waiting for this. Oh my gosh. So every month my bills are such and such and such and such. I'm so glad that you want to take care of me. Being together means being taken care of. I am so glad you really want to take care of me. I'm going to get you a list of all my bills so that we can really, you know, be together with, you know, no issues, nothing in the way." If he starts to back up, hold up, wait a minute, then you already know he ain't serious. Okay, well, then he's going to risk losing you. You're going to get totally turned off. If he even wants a chance with you, he's gonna have to start all over and make sure he's paying them bills for sure. So either he's gonna just accept it and pay them and don't get into no type of relationship. If he ain't paid no bills, it's like, "No, you know, we can still date. I'm just, we're just not gonna be in a committed relationship 'cause that's what it requires." Y'all hear the cat? Kitty? Yes, I know. Them dust got nerve, don't they? Come here. You and the cat said, "Uh-uh. You better get your money." Come here. No, you play with the wires. [Music] No. Anyway, I'm about to go, y'all. But, you know, I hope y'all got some ideas on how to get this money from these guys, okay? And think about this. You're not losing a man if he ain't paying your bills. You're not losing anything if you're not gaining anything while being there already. Are you freeing up your time, your energy, and your life for somebody who wants to give you what you want? So when I tell you ladies to stop choosing to suffer, that's exactly what I mean. Stop choosing to be with someone that you don't have. Stop choosing to be with someone that you're not getting anything from. Stop choosing to be with someone that can't improve your life. Stop suffering. If you can't get money out of the man you're sleeping with, you are suffering. If you can't get money out of a man you ain't sleeping with, who wants to sleep with you, you are suffering. So choose not to suffer. Choose men that want to give you something instead of trying to challenge yourself in some strange competition that you think that you're gonna win, but at the end of the day, you're putting in more effort when you could just be getting paid. All right, and living the life that you want to live, doing the least and getting the most. That's how you're supposed to live. That's a life that allows you to be happy. That's a life that allows you to have leisure. That's a life that allows you to not have to answer to no one if you don't want to. And you know, if you have kids to raise your kids and be available and be there for them. Don't pick somebody based on their looks. Don't choose to suffer because someone told you that's what you're supposed to do. Choose the life you want to live and then make sure you live it the best that you can. All right, and remember, no life is perfect. Nobody's perfect, but you still got free will and you have the option not to suffer. Okay? Nobody wants to suffer with no dusty. Uh oh. God is w. Appreciate that. So you choose you. Give yourself permission. Have that main character energy. Know the type of man that's gonna pay. Don't set yourself up for failure or suffering. And be smart in the decisions that you make. That's technically it. And have some common sense, okay? Common sense. All right, I'll see y'all on the next. Oh, and thank you everybody who donated. I really appreciate you guys. Love the cat. Thank you everybody that donated and asked good questions. Thank y'all for asking good questions, okay? And thank y'all for subscribing. If y'all are new, y'all hit the subscribe button. Y'all like the video, okay? You know, if y'all want to know when I go live, y'all got to do the notification thing. You know, hit the little notification. 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