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Hi everyone, I'm in. How are you today? I hope that you will have a good day. In every video, I will bring the best things in life for you. Sometimes you just get tired. I think I just want to do nothing and just read.
When everything feels exhausting and you have no energy or motivation to do anything, I know some of you want to hear tips on how to be productive when you are feeling unmotivated. But the truth is, when you're in this low, the best thing you can do is the deep opposite of being productive. You have to slow down, be gentle on yourself, and allow yourself to heal. Don't even try to get your life together; just allow yourself to be.
If you are feeling this way, it's likely you have high expectations for yourself, and you are frustrated because you haven't been able to show up the way you want, or maybe others have high expectations of you—whether it's your parents or the people around you—or maybe you've been pushing yourself too hard and just burning yourself out. In times like this, we might feel this way because we had expectations for what the world should be or what our life should look like, and when that all fell short, we lost our sense of control and didn't know how to handle it. Honestly, even the pandemic caused many of us to feel hungover, unmotivated, and exhausted. In terms of energy, we've been operating too much, focusing on productivity, achievements, external success, and now our body and energy are telling us we need to surrender, go inward, slow down, heal, and love ourselves. Surrender is a key word; we have to release our feeling of control, release our expectations on ourselves, and accept ourselves as we are right now. It's both hard and easy at the same time. It can be so hard to surrender, but on the other hand, it's so easy because all you have to do is let go. There's no action needed, just inaction.
So what should you do when you feel like doing nothing? First of all, let yourself rest. Remove any and all pressure to be or do anything; just exist. Stop putting any expectations on yourself, understanding that you probably feel burned out or depleted. So just let your body and mind rest and recuperate. I think it's so ironic: when you're unwell, all you have to do is rest because your body is fighting hard for you; your immune system is doing the hard work, and your body literally already knows what to do. Just sit back and allow your body to balance and heal itself.
Secondly, give yourself love. Be kind and gentle with yourself, no matter what. Practice unconditional love, meaning give yourself love regardless of anything. Love is accepting, so accept yourself exactly as you are right now. Don't force anything, and practice self-forgiveness. If you've been hard on yourself, wherever you are right now is okay.
Also, try shifting your focus. Don't underestimate the power of changing your perspective. We often feel low because we've been focusing on wrong or difficult things. When you focus on what is hard, you feel like giving up because it's such a struggle. But when you focus on what is easy, it makes it easier to get through the tough time. So instead of focusing on what's going wrong in your life, focus on what is still going right. Do this as a journaling exercise. Actively choose where you turn your attention to because it makes a huge difference in how we feel. If you feel like you need more help, talk to someone in your life that you trust.
The next piece of advice I have for you when you're feeling low is stop consuming content that makes you feel worse. This includes any content that makes you feel bad about yourself, content that makes you compare yourself to others, and even positive or inspirational content because sometimes it reminds you of what you're unable to do right now. Sometimes it can be hard to have a positive mindset about something, and that's okay. Accept yourself as you are. If you want a system refresh, you can also go into nature. Being in nature heals you on a spiritual level. You're reminded of the stillness and peace in nature, and that you're just a small part of this big world. You can revive your sense of peace. It doesn't even have to be a major trip; just take a walk outside, go to a nearby park, maybe go to the beach or the mountains, or even your local nursery because I feel like the energy of the plants and flowers can be so healing.
Next, understand that life happens in cycles, just like the cycle of the day, our moon, or our four seasons. Life also happens in cycles. It means that life never stays the same and is always going through cycles or seasons. Have you ever heard of the saying, "this too shall pass"? Whatever you're going through, know that it will pass. You might be going through a tough time right now, but it won't stay like this forever. Your situation and your feelings will change. Stay patient and persevere through this season. Learn to embrace the cycles and seasons. I feel alive through both the highs and the lows because without the lows, there wouldn't be highs, and vice versa. It's the depth and variety that allow you to feel the difference. If you only knew day but never knew night, you would take the sun for granted; you wouldn't appreciate it as much. It's because you know night that you can appreciate the day, and vice versa. Same with our emotions. It's because you've experienced lows that you can deeply appreciate highs. [Music]
Once you've given yourself rest and you are ready to take some action, start with baby steps. Again, release any expectations or pressure you might have for yourself. Break down your tasks into the smallest, easiest chunks you can. If you want to start exercising to nurture your health and boost your mood, instead of setting a goal like, "I want to work out for an hour every day," set tiny goals like, "put on my workout clothes today," "put on my shoes," "open a workout app," or "step outside to walk for five minutes." Do as much as you feel you can and congratulate yourself for those small actions. We tend to want to be ambitious and set these big goals for ourselves, but when we don't meet them, we feel like we failed, and then we feel even worse about ourselves. The better approach is to start small and give yourself grace. A small effort is still an effort. By doing this, you take the pressure off, and you're building your stamina to be able to do more.
Lastly and importantly, find gratitude in every little thing. Get specific about all the small things in life you're grateful for. Open up your journal or diary and start writing a list of sentences that begin with, "I'm grateful for..." I actually did this exercise last night and ended up writing over 900 words—a list that went on and on. It's funny how once you start focusing on gratitude, more and more things pop up. I wrote things like, "I'm blessed to have experienced music festivals and concerts pre-pandemic," and "I'm blessed to have a big family with a lot of cousins." "I'm blessed to have a great relationship with my brother." "I'm blessed to have healed from emotional baggage in my past," and "I'm blessed to be alive and healthy during a pandemic."
I hope these ideas were helpful to you. As a gentle reminder, if you feel like doing nothing, it's okay to do nothing. It's okay to be gentle with yourself. It's okay to give yourself space to rest and to heal. We all need it from time to time. It's part of our cycle. Like I said, there are both masculine and feminine entities. Our world operates mostly on the masculine, where we're expected to do and achieve and add value to the world. But we can't ignore the feminine entity that warns us to go inward, to allow ourselves to be. I'm learning more and more the beauty of simply existing with the least effort—not trying to achieve or do more, but to do less and allow life to flow more naturally. I think people worry that if you don't do anything, your life won't move forward, but that's not true. Just as your body knows how to heal itself when you do nothing, your life will be guided, and change will happen because change is always happening, even if you're not trying. All you have to do is follow your intuition. And if you don't know what it's telling you, get quiet; maybe it's telling you you need to pray before I tell you what to do next. Thank you so much for listening to me. [Music]