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What's going on, everyone? Welcome back to Mental Groove. Today, we're checking out another viral Kevin Samuels moment that's got people talking. Before we get started, make sure to like the video and subscribe to the channel. I'll hold off on my thoughts until the end, so make sure you stick around.
Hello. Hi. How are you? I'm good, thank you. I'm not. And you're, uh, there's a bunch of people here. Okay. Three people. Hey. Uh, okay. First one. What's your first name? I'm Emily. Emil. Emil. Emil. Emil. And then, man with the bonnet. Jaw. Jaw. Yes. How old are you? Starting the first one. I'mma call you one, two, three. One, two, three. Okay. Number one. What's your How old are you? 35. You're number two. But I'll call you one up top. How old are you? I'm 32. 32. And how old are you? Huh? 30. 30. 30. Okay. Number one, what do you think about sharing a man? I actually don't see anything wrong with it. Okay. Depending on the situation. Um, it's really no big deal. It's more of an emotional thing that women can't get over. I feel like if a person is upfront with you and honest, it should actually work better as a community. And it's just even the men and women marrying and that that not happening in the black community is already a fail. So why not put three people together and actually come up with something constructive if you're doing it in an appropriate way? And let me make, let me make sure. So, ma'am up top, number two, what do you think on the subject? I, I, I sort of agree with her, but I actually came on to kind of ask what, what you're thinking when you, when you suggest a lifestyle like this. Like, what sort of things are you thinking? Are you thinking like one of us is a wife and this person has girlfriends? Or like, are we all girlfriends? Are we doing like a polyamorous like family thing? Like, what is your suggestion? Okay. Or what we call it, maybe, whatever, whatever it does become a poly situation and it comes down to simply this: numbers, they're not enough men. But, ma'am, bottom, John, I'm going to get back to you. Answer your question, John, but I want to get your, your point of view. What do you think? Um, I disagree. I wouldn't share a man, but I do understand her views. Okay. Do, do any of you have children? Yes. You have two children. John, I do. Two also. Two fathers. Two. Okay. And you, ma'am, up top, you have two kids or one? Two kids. One father. Okay. Ma'am. And, uh, number one, you have one kid. One. One kid. Okay. All you are coming to the marketplace that have been shared. And, and John, I'm going to go to you. How can you say you wouldn't want to share a man when he has to share you with your two children and the man you created? That's one person being shared with four people. What do you consist of sharing? Am I sharing my physical body? Am I sharing my love? Am I sharing my nurturing, my care for my baby fathers? I have a husband as well. So, what am I sharing? Okay. Well, if you already have a husband, why are we? That doesn't need to be here because I don't want to disrupt what you got going on. Tempered goods, though. Excuse me. One of my baby fathers. Stop. Stop. My first baby father is in my. Stop. You're a married woman. So what? K. That makes me. Look, I'm eligible for your conversation. All right. So, I'm going to go on to the women. I'm going to talk to. Uh, I don't know why y'all think y'all can just come over here and do what you want to. So, I want you to understand that you said up front, ma'am, you said, "What would be, how would we be sharing that?" What is, as a woman with two kids, were you married before? No. Okay. So, so why, so why does the nature of the arrangement matter now? Fair question. Me, because honestly, when I, when I think about it, I think that I kind of will be sharing a man for the rest of my life because I'll be sharing my baby father with whoever he decides to be with. So, I don't necessarily have to have sex with him anymore to be sharing him automatically. Now, he's part of my family that I'm connected to. Right. Right. But, but I'm asking, what, I'm asking is, you already have a child, right? So, and you didn't require marriage before. So, would you require marriage now? All right. It bounced. A baby star client. Um, the woman who I'm not going to ask. You're already married. So, you, you mind sharing? No. Okay. If it came down, if it came down to you have such a laid-back attitude and and seem like most women have a knee-jerk reaction to it like when they know the math is is is not on the side because, um, I've been through all walks of life. I've been through, you know, the one having the control, the one not having the control, the one. So, it's like, you know, once you kind of peep like, "Okay, I could be the best woman I could be and a person's still going to do what they're going to do." It, it's just not something you should live in fear about. Like, it's more important things in life. You know, you mentioned something that I want to touch on, fear. Uh, I think a lot of women make decisions in relationships based on fear. Scared men don't live. Don't you don't trust men. You're always worried about somebody hustling, overdoing, and you bring all that. And what I'm trying to find is women who actually come into relationships in good faith. Understand that you can't control. You can only control so much. So, at, would it be better? I, I haven't heard a compelling argument to why women don't want to share. And I especially, I'm going to say this too. Especially if you already have kids, you've shared yourself. It's more so of a learned behavior. That's what a lot of men think. Go ahead. It's more so of a learned behavior, I feel like. And it's like a cliché feeling like you've heard someone else say it and you just pick up on it and say, "Oh, no. That's just." But the, it's like, I think about like 2019, I just hit a point where I'm just like, "It's really not that big of a deal as long as a person is honest, as long as a person has an agreement and they stick to that agreement. If you want to switch them up, if you don't like that one, we can switch them up, get another one. But as long as it's some type of understanding, everyone's clean, everyone's tested, you know, that person doesn't have extra people on the side, I don't understand what the big problem is." If it really came down to it, of course, everybody wants one person. But I don't understand. Women is just like, "Oh, no. I don't know." I mean, sometimes you do meet people where you may not get 100% of everything you may like and want in that person, but it's enough for you to be like, "You know what? All right." And then if it's somebody else that makes up in other ways that they may be lacking, it's not a competition. I think, I think the main having the conversation up front. Um, here's the thing. Security, excuse me. Security. Whereas the guys nowadays can't make a woman. Ma'am, you're married with another one. You're married. You don't. You're You're not dating. It doesn't. Why you not married? Why are you on here hosting all these? I'm trying to be. I'm trying to be. This is what's wrong with you. Somebody's wife on here with a bonnet. Got an attitude. That woman ain't no. Ain't nobody better marry. Hello. You were trying to get on here the other day. How are you doing? Hi. How you doing, Kevin? See, I want my critics and attractors to understand that you get upset with the way you feel like I respond, but you never talk about how rude women and rude people come on here acting. So, how old are you, ma'am? You need to hold your phone. Okay, Sammy, I'm sorry. This is better. Yeah, you need to keep your phone steady. It's jumping all over the place. How old are you? I'm 31. All right. We're talking about sharing tonight. Do you have any kids? I have one son. Yes. Okay. What do you think about the concept, especially of a woman over 35, over 40, having to share a man? Um, I mean, it's happening anyway, so it's better to understand it and know rather than to be hurt behind it and, you know, don't take the time to really understand. I used to be in a poly relationship. So, okay. When I was 23, I dated, um, a 35-year-old man at the time, and his girlfriend was 33. We lived together. We did all that. Oh, yeah. You single. You got the single woman beep going on back there. That's That's a. Listen. Yes. I need to change my smoke this hyper. No, you need a man. Huh? You need a man. I do. I do. Men come with men come with smoke. We come with batteries in hand to change them. I bet. I bet. At your house like beep. Oh, that [ __ ] won't. No, hold on. I got to go to the store real quick. No, I'm looking though. I'm trying to, you know, I'm trying to get there, but, you know, slowly but surely. Okay, let me bring somebody because you said you were involved in a poly relationship. I was. I'm going to say something and I want you ladies to understand the spirit in which I'm saying it. Anybody we're sharing you with. Men got a problem with that. So you got a kid, you're already in a poly relationship from a man standpoint because your time, your career, anything. We're sharing you with. Hey, how are you doing, man? I'm great. How are you? I'm good. How old are you? I'm 28. 28. Oh, was that just smoke detector too? Was that still? No, that's all right. So, what do you think about the concept of sharing a man? Especially if you're 35. I feel like once I'm 35 and if I'm still single, I would have to be okay with it, you know? What do you think about it now? Right now, I don't want to have to share a man. I've ha I have shared a man before. Um, but like, I would rather not, you know. Okay. So, when I put, when I put in the post, it says, "Ladies, there are more account executives that means the bottom level than directors and vice presidents." Any organization, account executive is the entry level. The higher up you go, there are less jobs. So, if you want something higher up, there's less. If you're over 35 and want to keep your lifestyle, it's time to share a man publicly and like it. But if you're 20, if you're 25 to 37, 27, I say 27 to 35, that's a danger zone. It's best to get real about your expectations. Get real clear about your sexual marketplace value and outcome. So, you're 28. Yeah. Uh, how serious have you gotten about what you want to have your life look like by the time you're 35? Honestly, not that serious. Um, I mean, but I mean, I'm trying to get to that point where I am serious and really figuring out like what I want my life to look like. Well, here's what it's going to look like. At 35, you going to be cheering them in. Okay, that's what it looks like. Nobody told you. I'm telling you right now. Because at 28 years old, you're like, "I don't know." Okay, cool. At 35. If you lucky. If I could tell y'all some of the women I talked to today, women that y'all all know, every last one of y'all would say, "These are bonafide bad chicks, professional, educated, beautiful, black." Every last one of them is like, "I understand." Now, if women up here, because I'm going to tell you this is where I heard this from. So, at 28, you have a chance to change the outcomes. You got to do something about it. What do I do? I'm going out trying to dance. Well, that's a different show. That's a different show. But the one thing you don't, one thing you don't do is you don't act so entitled like, like, what are you doing, right? What are you doing other than watching my, watching Instagram and YouTube? I go out. Um, I go out. I've been trying to put myself in positions to where I am in the spots. Do you have a college degree? I do. I have a, um, business management degree, and I'm currently in Houston. Um, I have a pretty decent job. Okay. Well, the thing is, I ask because it's therapy. You got to change the software before you change anything else. Yeah. And the thing is, far too many women are walking there. The software, you can put yourself in a place, but there you are. So, oh my goodness, that, that smoke detector. I, I want everybody to I want everybody to see 25 cents on cash after 0. Don't do me like that. I'm just messing with you. I'm just messing with you. I'm going to bring somebody back in, though. Muted, though. I don't want you. Well, I'm going to have to bring somebody else in. I got to keep the panel circulated. So, okay. See you later. Bye-bye. Uh, thank you, Miss Mo. I'm going to bring somebody else in to to keep it circulating. Appreciate you being at least trying to have the conversation. I know it's ladies, I'm not saying this is a perfect solution. That's what I need my, what I need everybody. I'm not saying it's a perfect solution, but I'm saying, especially in black America, if you're over 40 and a woman, we can't go back in time. And what's the other alternative? Because I know a lot of people don't say they don't like this or don't like that, but what I never hear is what they do offer. So, I appreciate it. I'll bring some other folks in. So, at 28, you say you're just kind of, I'm, I mean, [ __ ] to figure it out. Like, I don't. I should have been figured it out. Yeah, for sure. Um, and like you said, therapy, I've been thinking about that. I do think that I would benefit from that, both personally and for my future partner, if I do ever find him or if he finds me. But, I mean, in other words, we're not doing nothing. See, and this is what men hear. This is what men hear. Okay. I'm doing not a mother flipping thing. And that's fine. No. You're 40. When you're 40, you'll be second or third in the rotation. Okay, that's okay. But, but see, what happens is, I need you to understand today that if that becomes a, like a likely outcome, 35 plus, that's what you prepare for because now you got your time and you're not doing anything with it. It's like the women I'm talking to, 40 plus, they prioritize other things while they were in their prime. Okay, ma'am. How are you doing down at the bottom? Um, I'm good. Kevin, how are you? Good. How old are you? I'm 27. 27. Ma'am, other lady just came in. How old are you? I'm 38. 38. So, you're 28. 27, 38. So, 27-year-old. Um, what do you think about the concept of sharing a man? Be honest. Um, I don't. I do not agree to that at all. Okay. Um, 38. What do you think about it? Yeah, I don't agree to it. All right. So, we're going to start at 38 first. Do, do you have any children? Yes, I do. 47. You have any kids? I have two kids. Okay. 38. Um, how many kids? One, two, three, four. One, two. Okay. Uh, how many fathers? One, two. My ex-husband. One. So, why don't you? What do you disagree or why don't you agree? I, what I don't want is, I was able to get married and it didn't work out. You know, we both went our separate ways. We were married for about 15 years. So, it was, it was okay. Okay. Okay. Uh, but what I wouldn't want is to accept someone that I have to share because I would not want to give that example to my, my daughter, just to avoid all of that in the future. Okay. Do you have two kids? Yes. You have a, you have a son too, or just two daughters? I have a son is 12 and my daughter's 19. So, think about the example you'd be giving to your son that he should accept a woman with two kids. For, for my son, if he has to, if that's his choice, where. No, no, no, no, no. See, see, I want you to understand how differently when you said you don't want to set a bad example for your daughter, but I'm saying, what about your son? And you went to his choice. I, before he makes his choice, we talk about the example. Yeah. I wouldn't want him. Yeah, I wouldn't want him to to be with anybody that has kids for both of them. Okay. So, I think you ladies need to start putting what your son sees ahead of what your daughter does. Because this, here's my, and here's, let me tell you why. Because if you don't like the kind and caliber of man that's in the world, you got to create a better man. And that's exactly what I agree 100,000% okay with her. But, but I'm going to challenge you though. You're a divorce. Um, just so we know who filed for divorce. I did. Okay. Um, you want to share what grounds it was on? Um, I, I didn't, I didn't feel that the, uh, there was like a mutual work towards the relationship. Reconcilable differences. Yeah. Basic Reagan [ __ ] the world when he made no-fault divorce because that means nothing to us as men. But, what, but what we do know is right now, and I'm coming to you, ma'am, in a second, at 38, you've already been married. You got two kids, man. You've got as high as you can as as any woman can get. And that wasn't good enough. So, a man that you would get with has to share you with one, two kids, and an ex-husband. One man has to share one woman with three people. Make that math work. If you put it like that, you're right. But I, I have my realistic expectations of the person that I will end up with. And I'm not going to shoot like everybody else that thinks, "Oh my god, I, I need the top tier." That's not going to happen. I know my reality. And if I don't have. It doesn't matter if you want top or not. But man, even average good, decent man, he still, he doesn't deserve any less than a high-value man. I'm sorry. Even an average, decent, run-of-the-mill man doesn't deserve less respect. When did men back in the day who were average, middle class, run-of-the-mill have to share their wife with four people, with three people? Back in the day, back in the day, 100 years ago, 80 years ago, you got married and your wife had your kids, and any kid in the house, you don't. Anything that you, anything your wife was doing, that was part of your family. So, she was investing in your legacy. Right now, a man would be coming into your life and he's spending the time with your kids, co-parenting with another man. And do you work? Yes. And a job. Ladies, just, I just need you to think about the math. Think about the math. If I'm your man, how much of your time do I actually get? In all honesty, I can only give you from the beginning. I'm going to let you know about 70%. So, that means I can go get the 30 someplace else, or just don't get it. And if you decide and that's what you want to go for, then we're not going to work out. That's just plain and simple. So, you can come to the table with 70% of your time, but I got to give you 100% of my commitment. For me, if you have kids, if you have a job, if you have kids, most men don't have kids. So, I just want to do the math. Ma'am, ma'am, I just want to stick to the math. Math is math is logic. You can come to the table, give me 30, 70% of your time at best, but I got to give you 100% of my commitment. Why would I? Why is that a good deal for me? Make the business make it a good deal. If you don't have kids, if you don't have kids, it's a bad deal and you should run if you don't have kids. But what my 51% of black men are saying, most men don't have kids. Most guys don't. What is the statistic on that? Or what did you say? 51% of black men in particular, 51% of black men are single and childless. 61% in the middle class. That's why I talked about future earlier. That one woman has eight kids by eight different women. A small percentage of the men have always made a large percentage of the men. 116th of one in every 16 people shares Genghis Khan's DNA. This is why I don't understand from a historical and sociological standpoint. Women have always shared the best men. And if you want a man that can meet your standard, man, do you think he can meet another woman's standard? Yeah, he probably can. Okay. Do you think your standards are below average or above? My standard, I would say realistically, are below. Below. Okay. Well, all right. Ma'am, 27. You said you don't agree. I'm coming back to you. Thank you. 27. Why don't you? You have one kid or two? Two. The digitized lady. Two kids. Yes. How many fathers? One. How many fathers? Were you married or not? No, not married. Okay. So, why don't you? Why do you disagree? Go ahead. Um, I understand your point of view where you're coming from where if any men I was to be with, he is sharing me and the two kids and the father. But at the same time, like, if the father is not in the picture or doing what he's supposed to do, um, how is that still sharing? Well, um, you, you, you still haven't told me what you disagree with the notion of sharing a man. I'll answer your question, but why you disagree with sharing time? Sharing your man with. I just feel like it's a, it's a waste of time because I mean, I already have two kids. So, if I do decide to be with a man, if I am putting 100% of my time into you, I came back and I would not want to ma'am of your time, man. Ma'am, ma'am, ma'am, you have something wrong with your connection. But as a woman with children, you can't put 100% of your time in a man. You mean 100% of the time you have left? Yes. Okay. So, again, do you have a job? Yes. Okay. Um, you have two children and a full-time job and a and a and an ex. I mean, ladies, do y'all not see the math from the men's standpoint? If you were a man, what would you be thinking right now? That a woman with kids and a job and an ex, and I got to, I only get a certain amount of time, but I got to give you 100% of my commitment. So, are you saying that if men have to share, if we have kids, or you know, that we should be okay with sharing a man? Is that what you're saying? Say again. So, basically, like, if we expect a man to be okay with us, or be okay with them sharing us, our baby fathers, and our kids, we should be okay sharing them with other women? Is that what you're saying? I'm saying you're not a virgin. You're, if you come, if in this situation with kids, you've already been shared. Yeah. You come through the door with commitments. I was just talking about, I was actually talking about women with no kids, but women with kids, you got even less of a claim on a man's time. Yeah, that's why that's why we kind of got here with the woman that had the kids. I'm like, "Whoa." But I want you guys to understand how extreme the way I originally said it was women over 35 and because your sexual marketplace value is lower just because of age and things like that. But the more things you put on it, the lower the value becomes. But that woman came through the door with two kids by two different men talking like she's a nine or a 10. And she's actually like a two or three on the sexual marketplace totem pole. And she talking, and that's what men are thinking. That's why men are like, "What are y'all talking about?" But what it goes to show is the value women put on a man. Y'all, whether you say it or not, you put your value above ours. That's why you accept, expect us to accept your children and your job and everything else. Okay, Miss 27-year-old. Um, you asked me about men and kids. Go ahead and ask the question again. You broke up a little bit. Mr. Okay. You said man, the qu, you want me to answer the question. Who you got to get close to the window. You're breaking up. Everybody else is in frame. You're, you look like a puzzle. So, I need. Okay. So, what is the objection? 38. What's the objection? I get it that you've been married, you got two kids, but practically, you know, you're, you're a middle-aged woman with two kids. Why do you still believe you should get the same level of commitment and value as you did when you were a young, childless woman? [Music] Um, honestly, I just feel that in my mind, I already have it made up. I already had that marriage experience, the family life. I've had it. Like you said, I already hit the top, my peak. So, by me thinking in that sense, which is true, um, either I'm going to take what I want, or what I need, or what I, I feel that I can put up with, or I'm not. I already experienced it. And if I can't get, um, anything that for me is acceptable because I'm not going to be sharing with it. I'm. He's not going to be sharing with me. He's sharing with your kids. I've been, I've been, I've been a stepfather with one. Exactly. So, one period. He's sharing you with, he's sharing with your. He's sharing you with a kid and a job. So, I need. So, let me ask you a question. What per, you expect to have continual raising value as you age? No, no, no. It's going to lower when. But expectation already there. If I have to share with anybody, I'm not doing it. I, like you said, I'd rather buy a dog and I'd rather be alone. I'm going to, I'm going to have. But, but I need you, but I need you to understand what that, what, what you're really doing when you say that. It sounds empowering, but it's really [ __ ] up. Let me tell you why. Because your son is going to make sure he has to, he's going to live his life to be around you because you will get old. Yeah. That will limit your child. Your daughter will also feel your children are going to feel that mom needs us near because she's a single woman. And it's going to impact their relationships. I know what I speak of very well. Listen, daughters, man, I speak about mother-daughter stuff all the time. It sounds cool when you're 38, but when you're 58 and your son and your daughter are trying to get out and become adults on their own, they got a factory in mama. Is that fair? No, it's not. Which they're not being raised in that way. Ma'am, it does. They're human. It's, it doesn't matter how you think they're being raised. In, in my culture, regardless, that happens. Regardless, in my culture, it happens. Right. What culture is that? I'm Latina. I'm Mexican. Well, in your culture, you're also supposed to stay in your marriage. If the man is willing to provide, if he's not a hardworking, if he's not providing, if he's not putting in work, then you shouldn't have married him. People change over the years. So, you get one person, this is [ __ ] No, no, no. Come on. Hold on, man. And here's the funny thing. You can be right. And it sounds real empowering, but your culture doesn't change the fact that this is how kids act. This is why that's why so many women, especially in our community, have come out and answer. If you do more videos on mother-daughter stuff. This is why so many of our women are [ __ ] unmarried because their mothers aren't married. And they got to stay close. Your mama married? 27. I'm 28. But yeah, my mom's married. Okay. But you know what I'm talking about. And you say you'd rather die alone. Okay. So, you saying that you would rather if you cannot get what you want? Not, not entirely what I want. Just not sharing. I'm not doing that. I'm not. I don't want. That's fine, ma'am. That's fine. But, but the fact, but I want to be clear. A man is sharing you because you've already had somebody else's kids. And that's it. He's going to be sh, if he marries you, he'd have a, he'd be a stepfather. So, your children are going to be getting some of his money. It's, it's just going to happen. Yes, ma'am. Christmas gifts, birthday presents, Thanksgiving turkey. Ma'am, I've been there on that side before. Y'all need to stop with the [ __ ] act like your kids exist in a vacuum. And what I want people to understand is how selfish you guys are. You're the most selfish group of women that has ever existed on this [ __ ] planet. Me, me. It's all about you. So, how do you get a culture that you're in your culture, ma'am? How do you get a culture with so many selfish women? It's not, unfortunately, not all of them are like that. Um, there's a lot of marriages that are older that, you know, that they had over 30 years old where they don't, they don't say the truth. They are not happy. The women are not. I ask you, how do you get a culture with selfish women? How, how do you get a culture with selfish women? I don't know how to. I don't know how to answer that. You don't. I don't know. I'm not. You don't. You get chaos. And older women didn't prioritize happiness. That's the problem. Y'all think you're supposed to be happy. Y'all need to grow up. It ain't about being happy. Older women, other generations prioritize family, community. They live the selfless life. Modern women are selfish as French toast. And that's why I have no problem telling y'all to kick rocks and die a cold death alone. I have no problem telling y'all that because y'all look around and look back at the cultures and the and the and the communities and the things that women did before you and the sacrifices and everything else everybody made. And they did not do it to have a bunch of selfish, entitled women saying, "My way or the highway." It's not like that. It's not, it's not. Um, if I'm a, a, a good woman, which I was for 15 years, married, everything. Um, you know, I do have value still. You know, I'm not saying you don't have value, ma'am. I'm not saying, and that's the thing. I'm not saying you don't have value. What I'm ultimately asking is, I don't understand why you guys can not separate the two thoughts. You are being shared, ma'am. You have two kids, an ex-husband, and a job. A man has to take what's left. And he doesn't even. And usually, if you had two kids, at least they're mine. All the time you're putting into other things, that's time you're not investing in me and mine. Men are territorial. This is why men listen to this and they're like, "No, no, no, no." Hey, how are you doing, ma'am? I'm good. How are you? Good. How old are you? 35. 35. Okay. What do you think about the topic? Share or no share? No. Well, especially if you're talking about sharing sexually. Absolutely not. There's more involved. I have two children. Are you married or you? I'm widowed. Sorry to hear that. Um, yes, actually. Yeah. I mean, I'm not trying to be funny, ladies, but if you guys would just take the time to go study how the, how humans work, you'd understand. You don't get seven billion people on the planet with monogamy. You can't. You can't. You get man, ladies, listen, when have the top 20%, 10%, 5% of any culture of men ever been strictly monogamous and had only one wife ever in history? Any continent, any monetary system, any system of government? When does it ever? That was the new one. So, what I'm, you ladies are sitting here with this, in this almost like righteous indignation. I want another. What do you propose then? What? So, if you don't want to share, okay, let's take it your way. How, how old is your youngest child? Mine's seven. Okay. So, uh, would you like to remarry? Absolutely. One day. Are you employed? Yes. Um, so arguably a man has. You're one, two children, your one job, and you. So, he's sharing you with three things right now. You have any pets? Yes. What do you have? Golden retriever. Oh. So, a man comes, "Hey, hey, buddy." So, so, so if I come through the door and want to holler at you, automatically I got to. I can't get you your 40 hours a week. I got to put that in. But he has 40 hours as well, right? So, it kind of washes out. That's why that's why I said. But here's the thing. That's true. Okay. Washes out. Hold on. Because I'm going to my 40. See, my 40 ends up making sure you don't have to work for it. Period. Well, then he gets my 40. So, you. No. No. See, let me do what I'm going to do. Your 40 makes sure you can maintain what you have. My 60. Makes sure you don't have to work anything but 20 going to zero. Because that's what the kind of men I'm talking about. Men who put the time in. I work more. But let's keep it moving. But even if it's just 40, that, that washes out, right? But then you got one, two kids, and those kids require time. And this is a single man with no children. Most men, that means I have to deal with his mama. Excuse me. Then I'm probably going to have to deal with his mama if he's a single man and older than me because that's what I would want. Then I would have to share with his mother. No. But now she's right. I mean, she's some [ __ ] going on. Why would you have to share? We're doing this mathematically, right? Okay, man. You just asked about single and I and no children. I said most men don't have kids. And then you automatically make your mama's boy. That ain't how that works. No. Okay. Yeah, I'm just, I'm just trying to figure out what man. Okay. See, what I want you ladies to understand is every time I start talking about something, you start talking about things to disqualify a man. Let's talk about thorough men. Thorough men have their [ __ ] together. Not [ __ ] boys or dumb asses. Oh, great. Not. Can we do that? Yes. About his [ __ ] He still got to share you with your one, two kids. Okay. All right. So, does he get 100% of your time? Because after his 40 hours, he. Okay. Then why should you get 100% of his commitment because he has, um. Well, it depends because, you know, I come from a Christian value. So, usually you don't, especially sexually. That's why I asked you about that because if you're going to share somebody. I was, I was, I've been in church since 5 years old. Been over three singles ministries. You can go Old Testament and New Testament. We can go straight back to Abraham and Sarah. Don't do that. The Bible. The Bible is the biggest poly argument that I have. So, if you want to go Christianity, game over. You just. No, let's let's keep this mathematical. But that man killed. Come on, man. How many wives? I have to meet up with my partner. Okay. Have a good one, man. Appreciate it. Thank you. Bye. Nice. This is a feelings-based argument for you. So, I'm saying the jobs, the jobs wash. You got, you can't give me 100% of your time, but you get 100% of my commitment. Make the math make sense. Okay. 100%. Let's say, let's say you get off work at 5:00 and I want to see you at seven every day. I can't get that because you got to put time in with your kids. The, the soonest I'm going to get you is after the kids are squared away. Okay. Granted. Right. But the time between with, but the time. So, that means that take where that time come from? My time. So, you're saying while you have your time, you want to be entertained with another female. I'm saying that you are putting investment into other people. I can put investment into other people as well. And then bring back. Okay, ma'am. Okay, ma'am. Ma'am, you having. Think about what I'm saying. You having other investments with people. I'm just sitting alone waiting for my turn. I mean, if, if you feel like that, if, if a man feels like he's got to be alone and waiting for your turn, then that's okay. Okay, man. For me, women that are agree with that, obviously. See, what I see instead of just answering the question and saying, "Yeah, that is kind of [ __ ] up." You're still going to try to turn it around to some man. See, what I want you to understand is a man typically doesn't. When a man comes to get a woman, that's a woman. Especially if we're going to talk about Christians. God gave this instruction to Adam. We're supposed to be in our purpose. That's what we're supposed to be doing. And you're supposed to come along and help us on our purpose to tend the garden. With the way this works, I'm coming to t your garden. Okay. But now with my being me, me, I would attend back to the same garden because I am a giver, a pleaser, and a provider. That's what you're supposed to do. That's what you're supposed to do in my garden. You're supposed to do everything you just said in my garden. In my garden. No. In my garden where my seeds, my soil, not yours, mine. So, everything you're going to do, you're supposed to do anyway. It's not over and above. I'm supposed to get that anyway. Okay. Anyways. Anyway. So, stop, stop, stop the math. My garden, you're going to be a giver and pleaser. And you're supposed to do that helping me in my garden on my purpose. But, correct. Now, the way it is right now, you already have a garden to tend to. So, I got a garden over here that requires your presence, but you can't because you're investing in your garden and your project. One big garden. No, that's another man's seed. That's another man's garden. How are your children an asset to me? They don't have my name. They don't have my lineage. They don't have my DNA. They just get my resources. They just get my food, fertilizer. They don't get. I don't get the benefit of their bounty. So, that's why I think that's why I said I want you guys to understand that women are so detached from reality today that this argument was originally about women, single women with no kids, but the women with kids, you're no. But it doesn't matter because 80 years ago, if you're a woman with kids, you would have been happy assuming you would have been cool with somebody just considering even being with you because you're supposed to be off the market till you die. That's what it's supposed to be. But now, now mothers are like, "No, no, no. You get me. I have my prior commitments and you can have a, you can have whatever portion of my time that's left. I'll give it to you because you still got to have time for yourself." So, a man gets a part of a part of a part of your free time. But he's supposed to give me 100% of his commitment. Um, I wouldn't say 100%. I wouldn't want 100% to be honest at this age. You're talking about commitment or just plain cheating or being with somebody else. Like, you're putting yourself in somebody else. You are wasting the chance of you know, I'm going back. You're not cheating. You know, I'm going to sleep with somebody else. I tell you. So, while you're tending your kids, I'm bending her ass over the couch. You know what I'm saying? So, then that's not 100%. That's not 100% of what they got left because you get back some disease. Reason. I want you to understand. No. And that's what I want. I want you to understand this is a Christian, y'all. This is why I want you to understand that Christianity stuff. I want audience. That's why I want you audience. All I tell is all you have to do to get the truth out of a woman is to trigger her. Now, understand when she came through the doors talking about Christian beliefs. Here it is. I am still always Christian. I didn't say I was perfect. Okay. But I want you guys to understand this is an old, old position. You really want the truth? Trigger, and then the truth comes out. Oh, what's the truth? The truth. The truth is you're unrealistic and selfish because you. Oh, wait. Excuse me. Don't tell me how. Don't tell me now. See, what you going to do? Well, it's not what shit's going to happen over here. You may run [ __ ] over there, but not over here. I just want to conversing the argu. You're losing the argument. So, what you trying to do is overtalk, and they're not going to make you do any better. Ma'am, at the end of the day, let's cool it down. But the bottom line is this, ma'am. You're a working woman with two kids. You have very little free time after your children. Okay. Okay. Then that time after your children and your pet, the time that you have left, 100% of it is not going to go to any man. You need some time alone. So, how much of your time, how much of your day in a 24-hour day, how much of a day can I expect? Can a man expect to get from you? Think about it reasonably. If he's worth it, I'll make priority. No, no, no, man. See, I want you to understand. I want you to understand every time I ask a question, they always go to a man that's thorough and about his business. Stop with the disqualification of men. Can you do that? Stop with the disqual. I'm not going to play that. I don't. If he's thorough and he's this, why would you be dealing with him if he ain't worth it? Vice versa. That's not the question. Answer the question, or I'm going to have to bid you a good evening, man. Go ahead and tell me the question again. Go ahead. How much of your time in a 24-hour day, how much of your time can your man expect to get after your work, your children, your downtime? You want a percentage or actual hours? How many hours do you sleep? Six. Six hours. So, there's 18 left. You're working 8 hours a day. That's 14. 14. The kids usually go to sleep pretty early, so yeah. What time is? What time do they go to sleep? 8:00. 8:00. In the summer? No, sir. 8:00 every day of the week. And maybe summers will stay up later. How old is your youngest, man? Seven. I, no. No. Kids don't. 9:00 is 9:00. God will leave. 8:00. Not. Especially not in the summertime. I had, I've had kids, man. That's not reasonable. Kids don't. Ma'am, ma'am, ma'am. Ma'am, you're arguing me about my kids going to sleep without you got the little hour. You got the hour. Then how much time, though, man? How much? Let's see here. 5 hours a day. 20 hours a. No, no. Five. No, no. Five hours. No, no. 14 of your hours of working and sleep. Oh, actually eight hours work. You got to go to sleep at 8. I can stay up for one. Excuse me. Excuse me. Do you have to? I'm asking a question. Do you have to commute to work? Yes. How far is your commute? Five minutes. Okay. So, you still have. So, you still have an eight-hour day, good commute. Then your kids, you said they in bed by 8:00. Okay. Um, now, if I have a job, I can't be up till 1:00. I got to be productive, too. So, productive men are typically in bed by 11:00. Okay. So, I'll be tucking them in. So, so at best, if I'm at your house at 8:00, we have two hours before I got to go back home. Two hours a day. I give you. That's all you can give me? Two hours? No, ma'am. I got, I got my. We don't live together. So, he doesn't give 100. Listen to the math. Ma'am, ma'am, listen. Listen to the math. Listen to the math. At 8:00, your kids in bed. If I show up at
8:00 on the dot, I got to be in bed at 11 because I got to be productive, remember? Actually, I got to be in bed before because I work more. But bottom line, from 8 to 10, that's two hours maximum. Two hours. And I got to come to your house. You're not coming to my house because your kids are in bed, right? So, at best I got to come see you and get two hours with you Monday through Friday or Monday through Thursday.
On the weekends, if I believe you, the kids are in bed sleep on at 8:00 on Friday and Saturday night. First time I've heard that in American history in the last 20 years. But, okay. At best, I get you two hours a day. Okay. Okay. But then you get 100% of my fidelity. [Music] Yes, sir. And that's what I want you to understand, guys. It doesn't matter. And that's what makes I want you to understand. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if you use facts, data, statistics, logic. If it runs counter to their feelings, it gets rejected and it gets dismissed as being invalid. And this is what's about it.
I get two hours of your time and that's fair. That's fair. Other than saying so, and you you have a son? No. Yes, sir. So, if your son happened to choose to deal with a woman with a child, you'd say, "Yes, son. That's a bad deal. That's a good deal. You get two hours a day with her and she's got her she got her work, her job, her kids, her dog. And actually, you don't get two hours. You still need downtime. You still need downtime. They got to walk the dog. You don't even get that. So two hours is very limited. You say, "Yes, son. I raised you to be a solid, thorough man." Yes, you should only you should only get two hours from a woman for 100% of your commitment. And you got to be a thorough Christian man, be able to protect and provide because if you want to get married, he would have to do the right. Absolutely. this [ __ ] up.
You You've been great. You've been great because honestly, man, this is what women really think. Oh, see, listen, you're you're hilarious because um and I agree with I actually just started following you like two weeks ago, and I agree with everything you say. I am more than submissive to my man. I was like, at the same time, I am Latina, so I am a little dominant, but however, I believe in catering to your man all the way. um dominant. That That's not what that means. That's not No, no. I'm just saying I am. My mom raised us to serve a man. What I'm saying is I can't just let you say I'm Latina. That's not what that means. Maybe you're maybe your your family, but not I know many Latino women are more dominant. Oh, yes, you're right. There are very submissive ones. Okay, I understand what you're saying. Um, however, then I am very submissive to a man usually. Um, with that said, um, in a relationship, I mean, it's each their own, correct? I mean, if if a man came up to me and said, "Listen, I want I want an open relationship and, you know, he was such a great man and great provider and I didn't have to work anymore and all that, I might want to say I'll consider it, but to be honest, um, in my thought process, I want to grow old with someone, right? because I don't want to do that to my kids. So, I want to grow old with a man that I love and I know that I share that commitment, that trust, and that connection. That's not something that's I'm sharing with with someone else. Yeah.
But but he has to share you with every I'm older. If I was man, but he has to share you with your life and he has to give you everything that he is and he has to be a provider and everything else. See what she basically just described people was provider. I let you I'll let you speak. Don't please I'll let you go and interrupt it. Thank you. What she basically described is unconditional femininity. If a man can do XYZ and make it comfortable enough for me, then I can be a submissive woman. I can be feminine. But if I have to do what I'm doing now, then you get what's left. It's modern woman, man. It's modern Christian feminist. And here's the thing, ma'am. Here's here's the uncomfortable sobering reality. And I don't want you to take offense to this cuz it's not personal. But you can want whatever you want. That's true. How tall are you? How tall am I? 5'7. Dress size. Dress size? 10. on the open sexual marketplace. Okay. Um you don't have enough to demand the price you're asking for the kind you're talking about. Oh, I know. I need to lose weight. I know. No, it's not it's not No, it's not just it's not even the way. It's the attitude. And I want you to understand the kind of man you're talking about is an above average man. Okay. Okay. So, that man has far more women as options than you. And he does not have to get with a woman who is only going to give him a couple hours. He can get the younger childless Latina submissive version of you who is all about that life. Not he doesn't have to take your deal. And this is what I need a lot of you ladies to understand. You talk to one another and it sounds good to your ego and your and your sense of empowerment, but men are like, "Yeah, I can't make those the kind of man you want." Like, "Please, I want a daddy. I want an older man that has kids already. I don't I don't want a pedophile that this is probably just I mean let me not say that but I I want someone who's on my level or higher as in mentally spiritually and can connect as a parent as well because if you're not a parent you don't know what I'm going through if you're not older the man the man that's up here I need you to understand what I'm about to say in the spirit of it okay okay we don't give a [ __ ] about what you're going through when he's up here you need to be on his part, not yours. See, it's all about you. It's all about do you want it, that you want this? And I'm saying, do you not realize that you're dealing with bonafide, solid, fit, feminine, friendly, cooperative, submissive, childless women who are sitting back saying, "This is my competition. Oh, they loving it." It's like, and then you get the man you want, the man you want has a beautiful woman sitting on his lap and they're laughing at this. And now you can say, "He's a dirty old man. Some kind of You could be right alone. Because no thing is ma'am, you don't have the kind of sexual marketplace buying power for the kind of man you want. I didn't say you don't have enough for any man. I said I'll disagree, but okay. Excuse me. I said I'll disagree, but okay. Okay. Well, I got a thousand men on my side. You got an opinion. I do this every day. I'm not trying to be funny, man. But I'm just saying like you you often talk like y'all can make this world happen. Ma'am, do you have today any men who the caliber and criteria of a man that you would submit to, admire, and marry who are actively betting you to be a wife? if I was open to letting them. Yeah, but I'm not there yet. I'm I'm not there yet. I'm still grieving. So So in other words, you have So you have So why would I want you to understand she's such a she's such a cold chick cuz she has in the on deck circle. How many of these men? One, two, three. How many? I prefer not to say, but um I don't really entertain it, so I don't know. Yeah. So, she has multiple above average men, higher value men sitting in the on deck circle just waiting. I want to be like, this is amazing. And man, I don't I don't know if you're trying to if you're just the way you're coming across, man. The faces you're making. I'm just like, well, I'm I'm animated. I'm not going to lie. I'm animated. So, I mean, thing is there's no humbleness in you women. Y'all are some of the most compliment. No, you I mean, the way you the way you're coming across is like honestly I don't even know. I'm one of the most humble people you probably man. But but here's the funny thing. When I audience, when I get off to these calls, I get the emails and DMs in the tears. Ma'am, y'all, what I've noticed with Modern Women is y'all are really good at uh maintaining faith. Y'all are really good at front. Y'all are really good at making yselves look good because you look at yourself on social media and y'all are really good at playing role, but behind the scenes, you don't have results. I'm not saying you saying modern women. I'm broken. I need therapy. I'm broken as hell. I mean, I know that the case, man. Why would a man that's up there need to have a woman that's already broken? See, that's that's that I'm not that 28. This is why I want you to understand this is the market. This is why I'm be honest. I'm take it away from you. I'm take away from I'm take it away from you. The men I don't know I'm just getting back over top men I've tried to the kind of men that really that women really want they build barriers and systems and things to keep themselves away from even interacting or engaging with this level because what men ultimately want in all levels is peace. Okay. And one thing that this interaction has not been in this show is being with you is not a peaceful thing. We on this show, baby. I put it. Okay. Yeah, we on this show. It's No, it's funny. Of course it is. Of course. Have a good one. That's the marketplace, people. I mean, it gets to a point to where when there's so far behind, there's so little humility in so many women that they just got to keep up the act. They got to keep it up. Get be more vocals. And I'm like, you're not helping. It's easier to live in a delusional state than to, you know, accept reality. No, it's really not. It's much harder. You know, alcoholics and addicts, crackheads, heroin addicts, me addict, you them people work hard to stay high. That's a hard job. Being a being a junkie or an addict or being crazy is a lot of goddamn work. Being sane is peaceful. It's much easier. That [ __ ] you just saw, the energy women like her have to put up and keeping that fake front going on is a lot of goddamn work. Black women, you heard? You hear that again? That's a lot of work. That's why you're so stressed. That's why I see so many women drinking all day long. It's like god damn y'all are this why y'all you want to have the truth that's why y'all can't have an orgasm that's why that's why some of you are not having sex pleasurable sex lives because you're so goddamn tense all the time you can't relax who trying to [ __ ] over who trying to get over what this [ __ ] go get you know who's comfortable femininity is supposed to be comfortable it's supposed to be easy it's supposed to be relaxed and that's what you get when you get a man but you get a partner or a competitor somebody has to be controlled and just let that's why I let that go so you can see what's a possible outcome. Now, what are you going to choose to do? Choose to be something different or choose to be some of the things you've seen? Because at the end of the day, one thing I want you to understand is all of these women that have been on here got to go before the male market, right? They can talk all the [ __ ] they want. Men ultimately get to decide. And who gets picked? Yeah. And when I ask who's vetting you, it's all they all seem to got all these high value men and on deck circles. I I find most sixf figureure women with high value men all wanting to marry. I must be the luckiest man in the world. They all seem to find my show and tell me how many of them this guy waiting for them, but they but they on Instagram and YouTube, but they got so many high. Kevin Samuels always made his views clear. And whether you agree with them or not, you can't deny they were grounded in reason and experience. If you see things differently or have your own take, drop it in the comments. This space is for real conversations, not just reactions.