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It's just so crazy because being a straight woman is like so embarrassing. I just feel like people are like, "Just be like, 'Yeah, I like straight guys.'" So embarrassing to tell people that that I like, choose that. I prefer it. It's like the [ __ ]
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"Why'd you tell your dad I was cheating on him, Levani?"
"That ain't your business and the damn show ain't your place as a child."
"First of all, no. Who are you talking to?"
"First of all, you're making me my business by taking me to the guy that you're cheating on my dad with."
"You should be mad at yourself, not her. You cheated with an audience and then caught an attitude when she gave the recap. Girl, this ain't no Lifetime movie. Kids talk. You made her witness and now you crying on the stand. You are a married woman and I'm just a child and I'm still my lawyer than you are."
"Little girl, you are punished. Don't touch no gang. Don't touch no. It's me when you cheated on my dad."
"Ce, the only thing that needs to be punished is your choices. That little girl just handed her mama the truth like a hot plate. And now mama mad she got burned."
"If you get on my dad again, then I'mma tell him again."
"Oh, wait. There won't be no again. He's divorcing you. Not the little girl issuing the final verdict."
And the mama just sat there like her Wi-Fi disconnected.
"Me scandal. Cocaine is a hell of a drug. What kind of nerve is this? The woman is the one breaking up the home. And on top of that, she dares to scold her daughter for having more morals than she does. It's because of things like this that we say responsibility is kryptonite for women because they never take accountability for their actions. They don't care about the pain they cause. That girl is old enough to understand what's going on, watching her mother take her to another man's house. Probably telling her, 'Stay on the phone while I go sleep with him.' Of course, it's going to make her angry, especially if it involves her father. You know what's most shameful? That it's the daughter who has to remind the mother that she's a married woman. And the worst part is that instead of owning up to her actions, the mother wants to punish the daughter for telling the truth."
I want to use this comment to point out how messed up we are in the way we date.
"Hey, so I'm single and I'm looking for somebody."
"Oh, like a hookup or a relationship?"
"A relationship, you know, like my long-term partner, baby daddy, husband."
"Oh, so you're probably going to want to know who that person is before you pick them to make sure you know they're decent and who you're looking for, right?"
"Oh, no. That's extreme. I'm going to kiss a stranger and hope they're what I'm looking for. Is that what you mean? Because that's exactly what you guys are doing. And make no mistake, I did that, too. Which is how I ended up with the abusive guy and the cheaters."
The thing is, anybody who says waiting three months for a first kiss when you've just met somebody, but you're looking for somebody who's going to stick around for the next 50 to 70 years is extreme, you've got to wonder what's going on in our culture. And I have, and I've asked those questions. And the answer is, we're following the guy's timeline. Guys who have 24/7 fertility cycles and they've brainwashed us into thinking that if we don't kiss right away, they're going to walk away and we're going to miss an opportunity to have a relationship. But the fact is, the ones who walk away weren't the ones looking for a relationship. They were the ones looking for somebody, somebody. I'm not looking for the guy looking for somebody. I'm looking for the man who's looking for me. So, if you don't want to get to know me, please keep walking. If you're selfish, impatient, immature, and lack impulse control, keep walking. If you don't care to get to know who I am, keep walking. If you think three months is too long to kiss me and have sex with me, but you're trying to tell me you're going to stick around for seven years, [ __ ] [ __ ] Keep walking.
Smart women are no longer doing the kiss to see where it goes. They're no longer blindly falling into a relationship and hoping this is the decent one. Smart women are seeing where it goes, giving a time and space boundary, no kissing, no sleepovers for three months, and seeing who stands out above the crowd. Which one is consistent? Thoughtful, caring, patient, hardworking, conscientious, shows up, all the rest. Goodbye, [ __ ] We're vetting now. We're not just blindly falling into relationship. You've got to show us who you are.
I think this depends on the man's level of interest. If he wants something serious with you, if he's truly into you as a woman, then he'll wait. Now, many women claim they do this to earn respect. But others use it to keep a man stuck in some kind of friend zone. The result, you spend months, money, and energy, and before you know it, she ends up with a guy who didn't lift a finger, but does make her feel desire. That's why if you see you're the only one investing and never getting anything real in return, set a limit right away. A man who respects himself values his time and his wallet. If she's not showing genuine interest, get out before she drains you dry.
"I'm glad you decided to go out with me."
"I'm glad I came. Thank you."
"Yeah. Do whatever you want."
"Okay. Green flag alert. We love a real gentleman and a man with confidence."
"Oh [ __ ] Thanks, man. That was good, huh?"
"So good. Thank you so much."
"No problem. All right, cool. So, you had you had the salad, you had the steak, you got the cookies, too, right?"
"Uh-uh. Not him saying get whatever you want. Like, he had it like that and then turning into a whole goddamn bill collector."
"Is everything okay?"
"Everything is full. So your total, your half of this, this is $37.63. $37.63 is what yours came up to."
"Girl, next time make sure you ask, 'Does get whatever you want come with terms and conditions?' Cuz obviously this man's love language is itemized receipts."
"Are you serious?"
"What?"
"You invited me."
"I know."
"You want me to pay?"
"You order."
"Okay. I'll pay for it. How much is it?"
"Okay, I got it. I'll pay for both when I'm through."
"Even better. But don't call me again."
"Oh, she shut that down real smooth. Paid the whole bill and dismissed him like a popup ad. I got it and I'm gone. Love that for her."
"Oh, hell no. I'm going to be honest about this. When I invite a woman on a first date, I pay because I believe the man should cover the first date. Now, I'm not a fool. The first date is just coffee. If a woman turns down the invitation because it's not expensive enough, I immediately lose interest. That already tells me everything I need to know about her intentions. Now, if there's a second or third date, I do expect the woman to contribute in some way, even if it's just the gesture of offering to pay for something or splitting the bill. A man who makes her pay for everything, he's either a Chad who knows he can, or he's just out for a free meal."
So yeah, I'm 53, completely single by choice, and also no children by choice. Love my life, have incredible friends. Um, and travel is the secret to my happiness. I do not wait around for a man to show up to travel with me or to explore places with me. I do it on my own and have so much fun and usually take friends with me, meet friends wherever I go. It's the secret to my personal happiness. So, if you're out there whining and complaining that you can't find a guy and your life is not worth living, then you better knock it off and rethink the way you're living your life, cuz you got one shot, babies. So, have fun and enjoy it while you can, single or not.
When the pandemic hit, these were the first ones to break down. The liberated women who swore that being single was freedom only to end up talking to the walls. So alone, even the midday sun looks crowded in comparison. This 53-year-old woman travels alone and says it's by choice. But we all know that if she had a solid partner, she wouldn't be recording monologues trying to convince herself her life is perfect. She claims she doesn't wait for anyone to travel, that she has friends everywhere. So why does her tone sound so defensive? Because emptiness hides behind empowerment. And yes, the wall hit a long time ago and now there are no single friends left to travel with. They all started families and she's still clinging to the narrative that there's still time. It's always the same. Lots of laughter in front of the camera, but tears in silence. Because no matter how loud they claim they're happy, the truth is they no longer have anyone to share even the airplane seat with. And as we all know, time shows no mercy and neither does the wall.
I am going to tell you how to make him obsessed with you. Use it carefully. But I'm going to tell you number one, be the prize, not the pursuer. The minute you start chasing, you shift into masculine energy. Men don't value what is handed to them. They value what they perceive as high status or slightly out of reach. Instead of proving yourself to him, let him prove himself to you. He's the one applying for the role and not the other way around. Imagine walking into a luxury boutique versus a discount store. In the boutique, you don't just grab things, run around, and rummage everything around. Be the boutique, not the discount store. You understand the perceived value.
Number two, give him something to miss. If he always knows where you are, what you're doing, and who you're doing it with, and how you feel about him, there is no mystery. Distance creates desire. Whether it's physical space or emotional restraint, leave some things unsaid. Zip your mouth. Instead of texting every detail of your day, just say, "I can't wait to see you." And leave room for curiosity. When you like see a trailer of a movie, you don't just want to know what happens in the movie. You want to watch the full movie. Let the movie develop.
Number three, be the woman he feels lucky to have. Men get hooked on perceived value. This isn't about being hot. It's about being the kind of woman he admires and has respect for. Have standards. A man always treats you at the level you accept. Test. If you stop putting in effort tomorrow, does he step up or does he fade away? A man who values you will chase harder and not get lazy.
Number four, make him feel like a man. Men fall in love with the way they feel around you. Ask for help even if you don't need it. Give them a role to play. Protector, provider, problem solver. They thrive off that. He wants to be the superhero. When he does something for you, show real excitement. Not fake, over-the-top stuff, but genuine, genuine feminine appreciation. Be like, "Oh my god, how did you know that was exactly the thing I needed?" Blah, blah, blah.
Number five, have a life outside of him. If you make him the center of your world, baby, he'll take that for granted. High value men don't want a woman who's just sitting around waiting for his attention. Be busy. Have hobbies. Go out with your friends. Let him see you thriving without him. That is the most important thing. Text him something like, "Um, can't text much today. My schedule's super packed, but can't wait to see you tonight."
Stop it. Get some help. This whole "be the prize, let him do all the work, you just sit back and receive" mindset is the perfect recipe for ending up alone and bitter. The woman pushing that narrative today doesn't realize times have changed. No man of real value is going to stick around where he's only being demanded from but never supported. The modern man has no time for inflated egos or begging for attention. If all you focus on is what you can get and never talk about what you bring to the table, you'll only attract losers or men who will use you and leave. Want to keep a high value man? Bring something real. Be a compliment, not a burden. If all you offer is ego, entitlement, and an empty, "I'm worth so much" speech, but you don't give peace, support, or partnership, get ready because the wall doesn't forgive, women.
We've reached the end of the video, but before we go, the questions are for you. Why do so many women today believe they're the prize? What do you think about what this woman's daughter did? Was it right or wrong? If you enjoyed the video, make sure to give it a thumbs up, subscribe to the channel, and hit the notification bell. Your support means the world to us and motivates us to create more content. Stay tuned for the next exciting video from the wall.
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