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Prayer has the capacity to reshape and resculpt reality. Scripture after scripture shows us that prayer can heal the sick, reshape the physical world, even move mountains. And this is not a small claim. This is the idea that every single human being has access to a technology so powerful it can literally bend reality. And yet, people pray every single day of their lives and nothing changes. So, in this episode, I'm going to show you why most prayer actually keeps you stuck. What proper prayer looks like according to the Bible, the Quran, and the great metaphysical teachings, and the exact practice I use every single morning that transformed my relationship with God and my reality. Because when you learn how to actually pray, not wish and not beg, but pray properly, reality has no choice but to respond. So, let's get into it.
All right, guys. Here's what nobody tells you about prayer. It's actually the way that most people pray that prevents their prayers from being answered. I'm going to say that one more time. The way that most people pray is the thing that prevents their prayers from being answered. Now, most people pray like this. And of course, most of my life I did the same thing. There is some super being somewhere way out there in the cosmos. And if I just plead and ask and beg loud enough, literally shout my prayers out into the universe over and over, maybe the super being will hear me, right? Please God, give me money. Please God, heal my body. Please, universe, send me someone. And here's the tricky thing. In a lot of ways, it actually feels right. Like, take a look at it, right? It feels spiritual. It feels like some form of devotion. But here's the paradox. Every time you ask for something, you're broadcasting the absence of it. I want you to think about this for a moment. When you ask, it implies that you don't have. You're telling the field, "Hey, I don't have this thing that I want. Bring it to me." And the universe, which is vibrational in nature, mirrors that signal back, right? Reality is a mirror. It doesn't respond to your words. It responds to the signal that you're broadcasting through your habit of thought and through your habit of emotion. And the signal of desperate prayer is a signal of lack. It is a signal of need and ultimately a signal of fear. I don't have this and I'm afraid I won't get it unless some supernatural being can intervene. And so I'll turn to God and I'll ask loudly and repeatedly from a place of desperation. So the irony here is the harder you beg, the greater the signal, the further away the thing that you want actually gets. Not because God isn't listening, but because your signal is keeping it at bay. And again, this is the great irony of improper prayer. The more desperately you ask, the more you reinforce the very condition you're trying to get away from. You're literally praying yourself deeper and deeper into the very hole that you're trying to climb out of. And this is why so many people end up losing faith. They go, "Hey, I don't understand. Like, I prayed for years and nothing changed, right? So therefore, God must not exist or God doesn't care or the universe doesn't function this way." But the problem was never God or the universe to begin with. The problem was the act of prayer.
You know, one of the great metaphysical teachers whose book the game of life and how to play it, who I absolutely love, Florence Kovvilleshin, she was around in the early 1900s. And one of the things she warned against was what she called adverse prayer, which she described as praying from fear or worry or desperation. She calls this actually self-cursing because you broadcast the very condition that you're wanting to escape. In the Bible in James 4, James tells us that you ask and do not receive because you ask wrongly. The question is, if desperate prayer, the way that we've been doing prayer our whole lives doesn't work, then what actually does? And the answer has been hiding in plain sight for thousands of years. The Bible tells us, the Quran tells us, the great metaphysical teachings tell us, every tradition points to the same framework of proper prayer. And they say that proper prayer is thanksgiving. Proper prayer is a giving of thanks. Not thanking God after you receive, but thanking God before you receive, as if what you want is already done.
So, let me explain why this works. Because there are two explanations at least and they're both really important. So the first explanation is a psychological explanation. It's a psychological perspective. When you give thanks for the thing that you want before you actually seem to have it, you close the gap between the wanting and the having. So if you can actually convince yourself that what you want already exists or is already on the way, you stop paying attention to the absence of it and you start looking for or anticipating the having of it. So this is a psychological recalibration. This is a recalibration of your thoughts. It is a reorientation of your attention. You start having in acknowledging that you already have something different ideas. You literally start to perceive reality differently. And that psychological calibration aligns you with the creation of the thing that you want. A simple example would be if you assume you already have the wealth that you want, then you start having wealthy or wealth oriented thoughts. You start thinking like a wealthy person. You start noticing wealth creating opportunities. And given a short period of time, wealth becomes the byproduct of that shift. Right? So that's how you create wealth through the assumption of having wealth already. That's a psychological proof. This is not some sort of new age concept. This is how your mind actually works.
Now, from let's say a new age or metaphysical perspective or a vibrational perspective, when you pray in thanksgiving, assuming what you want already exists or is on the way, you're putting off a frequency of already having the thing desired. And so, the thing desired must reflect itself into your reality. Another way of describing this is let's say you're now in vibrational coherence with attracting or manifesting the thing that you want. Right? This is the fundamental idea of law of attraction. Right? So you're attracting what you want by assuming you already have it. Not by wanting it, by assuming that it already exists and giving thanks for it. And this is what the great mystic Neville Goddard meant when he talked about living as if the wish were fulfilled. And again, the Bible gives us direct instructions in Philippians. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be known to God. Notice this word thanksgiving. Not wanting, not operating from desperation, but in giving thanks for what you know is already on the way. The Quran talks about the concept of what's called tawa keel or complete trust in God's plan. After you've made your request, right? So, you make your request and you have complete trust. You ask and you must receive. And what most people don't understand is that prayer and manifestation are really not two different things. They're the same technology through different languages. What is manifestation? It's living in the reality of your wish fulfilled. What is proper prayer? It's giving thanks for what you desire, knowing that if you've asked, you will receive.
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I want to share with you a practice that I use to get into the state of proper prayer or thanksgiving, to get into the frequency of already having what I want. And this practice actually came out of a desire I had not that long ago to have a more personal relationship with God. So, I was really inspired by the relationship that the biblical David has with God. And you know, years ago when I got into working a 12step program, I felt like I had found or I had established a relationship with a higher power. But God for me wasn't personal. It wasn't like I was having a regular conversation with my higher power. It was more like I guess I'd describe it as having a relationship with the universe. The universe though is a what, right? The universe is a thing. It is not a who. And I really wanted to feel a personal relationship with my higher power. Like this idea of a divine father, a father who takes care of me. So about a year ago, I decided I wanted a personal relationship with God. Few months later, I was inspired into this journaling practice that I want to share with you and it has really helped me to build a more personal relationship with my higher power.
So that practice is this. I sit down actually in this room where I broadcast my podcast and I take out my journal uh and I write and I start out every single entry with the same words. I start it with four words. Dear father, thank you. Okay? And I start giving thanks. I start giving thanks for the things that have already materialized in my life. I start giving thanks for the things that I want that have not yet materialized in my life because I realize they're one and the same thing. I realize that all things that I ask my higher power for my God for because my God is by my own definition loving, giving, omnisient, omnipotent, all powerful, all resourceful. Whether I already have the thing or whether I the desire the thing, I give thanks for it because I know that my God will give those things to me. So that's step one. I see you in dear father, thank you for my family. Thank you for the home we live in. Thank you for my incredible wife. Thank you for my son. Thank you for my health and for my body. Now, are my health and my body exactly where I want them to be? No. But I know that I've already asked for certain things. Better sleep, more vibrancy, more energy, less brain fog. And I know who I'm asking. I'm asking the almighty. I'm asking the creator of the universe. And so, I don't really feel that I necessarily need to ask for the things that I don't have. I just give thanks for those things, knowing that I actually already have them. They're on the way.
I then ask like I imagine my son asks for things from his father and almost a demanding way, right? I'm like, "Dear God, give me more influence in the world." You know, "Dear God, you know, uh, allow my book to be read by millions of people." You know, "Dear God, allow this podcast to be heard by hundreds of millions. Dear God, bring the right people into my organization so that we can continue to grow and scale our impact." You know, dear God, bring me the solutions that I need in order to sleep more effectively. Right? Right? Because I've had challenges with sleep over the years, which by the way have gotten much, much better. Thank you, God. So, there's sort of this fuzzy area where I give thanks for the things that I already have. I give thanks for the things that I want as if I have them. And I have no problem asking God for more like a spoiled child of the divine, knowing that God loves me and for all of those things that are in his will, those things shall be given to me. So, that's my first first step. Give thanks for the things that I have. Second step is I start asking for things like a spoiled child of God.
Step three is I ask for others. And what's interesting is as I journal, I'm getting into this frequency of knowingness. Knowing that what I ask, I will receive. And knowing that when I ask for others, meaning I pray for others, what I'm asking for is already done for them, right? I ask for their health. I ask for their wellness. I ask for their overcoming of addiction. I ask for guidance for them and their business and their worthy mission in the world. I ask for harmony in their lives. So as I experience the people that I care about who some I know well, some I don't know that well, I can ask for people who I see suffering in the world. I can ask for the ending of refugee crisis. I can ask for the ending of armed conflict. Not for myself but for others. But I know who I'm asking. I'm I'm asking the God of my understanding. An almighty God, an all- knowing God, an all powerful God. A God who is able to part the Red Seas. A God who is able to feed 5,000 from a loaf of bread and a couple of fish. A God who is able to through his power through us resurrect the dead, heal the lepers. That's who I ask for, right? A miracle performing God who performs miracles in and of himself and who performs miracles through the power that he has infused inside of us, right? Our soul and all our spirit. And so that's my process. It takes me, you know, could be three parts, right? Thanksgiving, right? Bold asking for myself and bold asking for others. And every single time I have to tell you I finish this process, I leave this room in an incredibly high vibrational state. I literally feel like I just had a meeting with God because I did. I spent 10, 15, 20 minutes in the frequency of thanksgiving, in the vibration of asking and knowing that I will receive and in the vibration of compassion and caring for others, seeing their future outcomes as positive and beneficial and already done. In fact, you could say through this practice, I elevated myself into the God frequency, into a personal relationship with my higher power because God is the frequency of gratitude. God is the frequency of receiving. God is the frequency of compassion and asking for others. So, this is a process, a journaling process of proper prayer. And I promise you, if you do this every morning for the next 30 days, you will not recognize your life as the same. and you will realize that in fact all the things that you've been asking for, you already have.
So, I hope this episode has been as powerful for you as it is sharing it with you because it reminds me of what's true for me that I often forget too. And if it's shifted the way that you think about prayer, I want to invite you to go even deeper in understanding how your beliefs, your identity, your inner state create your outer reality. So, you can head over to davidbearer.com, drop your email, and you'll get immediate access to my free mind hack ebook and a free training series. It's the foundation of everything that I teach and it'll show you exactly why the shift we talked about today works at the level of your brain and your nervous system. And if you're ready for the full system, the tools and the step-by-step methodology to literally rewire your beliefs and start creating from a completely different identity, check out my mind hack and whole human framework programs there. Links to both of them are in the description of this episode. Thousands of impact driven high performers and entrepreneurs, impact driven people have gone through this work and it has changed everything. Their business, their relationships, their relationship with God, uh their sense of who they are. All the links are in the show notes as well. And if this episode changed how you see prayer, do me a favor, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Pay it forward because there are people in your life right now who praying desperately every night wondering why nothing changes. And this might be the actually the very answer to their prayers, the thing that they've been looking for. Oh, and subscribe, right? If you're following along on YouTube, hit that bell icon. Follow along on on the podcast platforms, whether you're listening on Spotify or on Apple. Join us on the journey because personal growth is not a do-it-yourself project. It was never meant to be. So, thank you for being here, sharing your energy and your spirit with me. I love you so much and I will see you in the next episode.