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Where are the men that give princess treatment? Because I'm telling you now, I am not going near another man who doesn't give me princess treatment. I'm sorry, it's not happening, darling. Because I want someone who literally is obsessed with me, worships the grounds I walk on, literally kisses my feet.
Let's keep it a bug. A lot of women are the problem in their relationship, too. Understand what I'm saying? A lot of their relationships don't work out because of the women as well. All right? It ain't just the man.
You know what I noticed? Men in this generation don't want girlfriends and wives. They want baby mamas in situationships. Like, they don't want real commitment anymore. They don't want to connect with a woman on a deeper, more emotional level.
I'm sorry, but you can't say you want a good man and then speak about men like they're the problem. Cuz something shifted some time ago. And it's not in a good way.
I am so fed up with this new generation of men. They literally don't want to get you no flowers. They don't want to take you on no dates. All they want to do is ask you what you doing all day long and tell you lies. Like I'm over it.
What's up y'all? Welcome back to Pearl Chronicle.
Let's keep it a bug. A lot of women are the problem in their relationship, too. Understand what I'm saying? A lot of their relationships don't work out because of the woman as well. All right? It ain't just the man. Now, some women do not want to admit that. You see what I'm saying? They want to put all the blame on the man. The whole time you want that man to change when you didn't make changes yourself. You see what I'm saying? You're not perfect, baby. It's things he don't like about you, just like it's things you don't like about him. So, if y'all came together and worked together and got through the things together, maybe you all would last and us as women won't have to continuously go through different relationships. It's called taking accountability and stop putting the blame all on that one person. Understand what I'm saying? Now, it is times where it can just be that person. But I'm talking about when you get in one relationship, then another relationship, get another relationship, another relationship, and ain't none of them going well, and it's like, damn, all the relationships was because of that man, that man, that man, or that man. None of that had nothing to do with you, baby. You might be too masculine for the goddamn man if we're being honest. You see what I'm saying? You might not be showing your softer side. You know what I'm saying? You might not be catering to that man like he needs you to be. You might not be being the woman that you need to be for him for him to be great. You see what I'm saying, baby?
You heard it here first. Yeah.
Relationships stop working when both people stop self-reflecting. If every relationship ends the same way, eventually people are going to ask whether the problem is the dating pool or the patterns being repeated.
Yo, you know what I noticed? Men in this generation don't want girlfriends and wives. They want baby mamas in situationships. Like, they don't want real commitment anymore. They don't want to connect with a woman on a deeper, more emotional level. No, they just want somebody they can do it with without the commitment. They want access to you and your body without the commitment. That way when they messing with other girls, they could turn around and say, "Oh, but we not married. We not in a relationship. Why you tripping?" And then it doesn't make sense to me because men would say marriage is too much of a commitment, but having a baby's not. Getting three different women pregnant is not. All right. As a woman in the dating scene, okay, I'm trying to find a man. I'm trying to find a husband, you know, ideally. But where where are you guys? Like the good guys. I'm I'm not talking about the players. I don't want a player. I'm not talking about like the, you know what I mean? Like genuinely good, loyal, nice guys. Where are you guys at? Cuz you certainly are not in my area.
Look, men didn't suddenly stop believing in commitment. Many of them watched marriages fail, saw divorce destroy families, and decided casual relationships feel safer than risking everything emotionally and financially. Why is it that nobody talks about the amount of men that are in relationships lying to themselves and severely gaslighting themselves into believing that they're happy? They're in sexless marriages where literally their wife is nagging every single day. And these women want to always victimize themselves by bringing up this whole mental load but they never stop to consider the mental load that men have. And what I mean by mental load is he's looking at the bigger picture. He's making sure that she's good. She's make he's making sure that the kids are good. He's making sure that he has retirement and investments and a college fund for the kids. Meanwhile, she thinks she's overwhelmed because she's got to take Johnny to soccer practice because she signed him up for 12 activities and six sporting events and she's overwhelmed. Like, she didn't even have to do all that, first of all. But I digress. The amount of men that are in relationships because they don't want to lose all of their. The amount of men that can't even speak up and they're being oppressed by women. This is part of why more men are refusing to settle down now. A lot of men feel like their stress, pressure, and emotional burnout get ignored while they're still expected to provide, protect, and keep everything together.
That hold them down and belittle them and emasculate them. But if they leave, guess what? They lose like 80% of their parenting time. Most men are only in relationships so they can still see their kids full time. And the worst part about it is society pretends like they care about mental health. But if a man were to bring up the fact that he's burnt out or the fact that he feels like he's not good enough because he's not providing enough and his marriage is failing, then he still gets blamed for it and he's looked at as a weaker man. But yet, it's only the women that are oppressed and supposedly surviving in their marriages. Even though there's men out here that literally haven't been touched, haven't been affectionate with their wives, and their wives want nothing to do with them for the last 10 years. Okay, bye.
When marriage starts feeling like obligation without affection, appreciation, or peace, more men begin questioning whether settling down is even worth it anymore. That's why this shift keeps growing.
Where are the men that give princess treatment? BECAUSE I'M TELLING YOU NOW, I am not going near another man who doesn't give me princess treatment. I'm sorry, it's not happening, darling. Because I want someone who literally is obsessed with me, worships the grounds I walk on, literally kisses my feet. I literally want kisses on my toes. All right, that is exactly WHAT I WANT. I DON'T THINK IT'S normal to be nonchalant. No, I don't want someone who's just, "Yeah, you're kind of pretty." No, I want you to literally as soon as I wake up, I want you to kiss my forehead, tell me I'm the most perfect person you've ever seen on the planet Earth. And I want flowers. I want coffee every day. I want love. I want compliments. I want admiration every single day. Because what do you mean? You're my husband, babe. You are my husband. And I'm going to just settle for someone who doesn't give me that. H no, sweetie. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I would not do that. I'm so sorry. I need someone who literally is so irrevocably in love with me that they cannot imagine a day without me. They are pining for me every single day. They cannot ever take a breath without me in their life.
Most men want love, appreciation, and peace, too. But when the standard becomes, "Worship me non-stop," a lot of men decide staying single is less stressful than trying to live up to fantasy level expectations.
I'm sorry, but you can't say you want a good man and then speak about men like they're the problem. Cuz something shifted some time ago, and it's not in a good way. It was a time where feminism actually stood for equality, fairness, respect, opportunity, and it was needed. But now I'm seeing a lot of messaging that sounds more like resentment and trying to diminish men. They're talking about men are useless. Use them. All men are the same. We don't need them. I've even had girls in my comments say that it's cute that I see men as human because apparently they aren't. Like what? And yet in the same breath I hear women say they want to get married with who? These animals. What is wrong with us? You cannot build something real with someone you don't respect. That's not empowerment. That's just creating a bigger divide. We need each other. And if we keep pushing this constant tension and unrealistic expectations on each other, all we're doing is making dating worse for everyone involved and creating more broken homes. Respect goes both ways. Once dating turns into gender warfare instead of partnership, people stop looking for love and start protecting their peace. That's why so many men are refusing to settle down now.
Are there any videos of men saying why they don't want to live with women? I haven't seen any. And that should be your answer.
I just got back from a fun girls night out. We basically celebrated my birthday, the holidays, and we're also vacation buddies. So, I asked the girls, I said, "Okay, like what trips are going to make it out of the group chat next year? What are we doing? Are are we even getting boyfriends?" And they all looked at me and said, "Fuck no. I don't know anybody who has a boyfriend on their vision board." No one wants to enter a relationship. No one has a goal to get a ring or be a bride in 2026. Nobody that I know. Like, I truly wonder what's going to happen to all the single men in 2026.
And this is the part people ignore. More women are openly saying relationships and marriage are no longer priorities, while also wondering why more men are emotionally checking out, too.
Every man that I have met that is not married and is 50 plus, they don't want to get married. And I'm saying this because I talked to somebody yesterday um just like in the hospital and they were just visiting their family and they were showing me pictures of all their kids and like you know just like how he's having all of his exes visit you know the family member. And I'm looking at him like oh that's cool. And he's like yeah I don't have a ring on my finger you know like I just don't I don't want to get married. I'm never going to get married. And then it made me think of my dad. My dad's the same way. He's telling me oh I've been with your stepmom for so and so years. We've been through hell and back but I'm never getting married. And I'm looking at them like, why not? They don't already been through hell and back. You might as well give them the ring.
A lot of older men already went through divorce courts, custody battles, or watch friends lose everything. So for them, commitment without legal marriage feels safer than signing a contract they no longer trust.
And then they'll be like, "Well, I do give them a ring. I just won't sign the marriage contract." Why the not? You don't have anyway. I mean, maybe maybe the guy does. My dad doesn't. So, I don't understand why not. Like, why why are y'all so scared to just like get married? Like, it doesn't make sense to me. I really am baffled. Like, eat my ass if I'm wrong, but like, you already wasted all these years not being married. Why not just end your life with marriage? You're with the girl anyway. Like, it doesn't make sense to me. And it's always the 50 plus. Like, why? Why not just get married? Like, I don't understand. And younger men are hearing these stories constantly. So when they see 50-year-old men refusing marriage after decades of experience, it reinforces why so many modern men are hesitant to settle down in 2026.
So from what I'm seeing is women are like basically men now. Like you know what I mean? Like it's like they drink like men, they smoke like men. Like they they're really rolling up in the car. Like girl, what? Like they're cussing. Like I don't know. I don't know. I see why y'all don't want to marry these people. Like you know I mean there's just like it's like I want to be like the wife cottage core so bad. And it's like even when I dress a certain way like my friends will be like why are you dressed like a old lady? I'm like I'm dressed classy. Like I'm just cuz I'm not showing ass and titties and stuff like that doesn't mean that I'm dressed like a old lady. You know what I mean? Or they like oh let's go out. Let's go. And I'm like no I'm going to stay home and work on my puzzle or I'm going to stay home and make some candles. you know, and it's like I've honestly I've lost like a few friends by like just, you know, finding myself and not partying like that anymore. I've never been aggressive though. I don't, you know, cuss like that. I mean, I say every now and like you know, but like realistically, especially in front of men, I am extremely sweet. I'm extremely nice. I'm extremely giving, you know, and I think that's why when men take me out, you know, it's like they feel appreciated, you know.
Men today are saying they miss softer, calmer, more appreciative energy in relationships. That's why some are checking out of modern dating and avoiding lifestyles that feel chaotic or overly combative.
Because I show appreciation. It's not like, oh, you know, my last date was $500. Oh, you know, I don't act like I'm too good. Like, you know, um, I'm very appreciative, you know. Um, I mean, yeah, I like people to do stuff for me, for sure. Everyone does. But these women nowadays, you know, everyone's just like, "I need a sugar daddy because I don't want to work. Oh, I need a sugar daddy because, you know, ain't shit." And it's like, I just see why no one's getting married anymore. It's like, you know what I mean? It's like, like this one guy say like women are basically pirates. Like they literally drink all day and bite people. I'm like, I don't even fight anyone. Like I don't even couldn't imagine someone like even hitting me. Like it's like the soft woman is just gone. Like she is just I don't know. Like I'll be like where I need some friends. like where can I find friends like me that are nice and soft like you know um it's just so hard.
When both sides start viewing relationships as transactional or combative people stop wanting marriage altogether that's why more men are refusing to settle down and more women are frustrated with the dating market.
Where are all the good men that don't cheat? Where are all the good men that still respect women to understand that they don't deserve to be played with lied to and manipulated? Where are all the good men that want to prioritize their family, their girlfriends, and the people around them that matter? Where are all the good men that know the sacrifice of a woman when she's at home with the kids or she's making a house a home and they appreciate it? Where are all the men that are happy to go to work every single day knowing that the home and the house that they built is because they sacrificed time away from their children? Where are all the good men that are trying to balance work, a romantic relationship, their kids, trying to do all the right things, and still feel like they're falling short? Where are all the good men that understand that women can be crazy, but you love them anyway? Where are all the good men that understand that things are not always going to be easy, but they're not going to go out and cheat or be out in the club to fill their ego instead of making it work within their relationship? Where are all the good men that still have integrity? They do exactly what they say they're going to do and they never fall short. Where are these men? Because according to women, there are no good ones left. Okay, bye.
A lot of those men still exist, but many of them got tired of modern dating, constant criticism, failed relationships, and feeling unappreciated. So now they move quietly, stay private, or avoid dating altogether. One thing I learned, and I learned this years ago, baby, the worst thing you can do is be with an unhappy man or deal with an unhappy man. Okay? Have you ever dealt with a man that's not happy or is going through stuff? I don't think y'all understand. It's not like a me and you go through something. A unhappy man is a miserable man. And he's going to make you miserable right along with him. I don't know what it is about men. Like, I don't know if it's their pride. I don't know if it's their ego, but they turn into really really shitty people when they aren't happy. And that could be financially, that can be in a relationship they in, whatever. It's just not working out for them and they like they will make you miserable and everybody around them miserable. That's why like if I decide I want to talk to a man, I prefer for a man to be at his best like mental state, financial state. I moving forward, I don't want to deal with a man that's fighting demons. I don't want to deal with a man that's so miserable with himself or his life because I know for a fact he's probably going to take it out on me or make me miserable right along with him. You have to have dealt with one of those type of men to understand what I'm saying. Okay? I'm not saying the man the next man I meet got to have it all together. But baby, you got to be happy in your life. You got to be happy with yourself. You got to be some type of happiness within you. So when it comes to that baby, I opt out. Count me out. I'm not dealing with no man like that. Period. Everybody says men should open up more about mental health, but a lot of men feel punished when they actually do. That's why so many suffer in silence and slowly stop wanting commitment altogether.
Guys, I'm so over being the man in the talking stage, dating stage, married stage. Do not make me initiate everything. Do not make me beg for you. I am the woman. You are the man. It is not reversed. I'm not here opening the door for you, paying for your bills. You know how many times I have been the man? I am sick of that. I am sick of it. Men are meant to chase. Men are meant to pursue. Why? Why is this day and age everything is like reversed? I I I am really getting confused at this rate. Are there still men out there who want to be providers and pursuers and leaders and not bums? Like, are there Let me know. Let me know. I'm 27. I'm in Colorado. I'm a single mom. I have one son and he's amazing. He's 7 years old. So, you also have to be able to take the whole package, okay? If you can't do the stepdad thing, if you don't want to have kids, I'm not a good fit for you. However, if you are okay with being a stepdad and a dad for more children, and if you want to be a provider and a leader, and if you're a man of God, and want to travel and change the world together, and whatever, that's like all I want. I do a lot of different things, though. So, you do have to be okay with all my occupations because I'm never going to stop my dreams ever again for any man. I've been married before. I'm just not willing to stop what makes me happy because I am a singer, songwriter. I am a model, aesthetician, and makeup artist, content creator, entrepreneur. I have my own businesses. Um, I have all organic and vegan skincare, hair care, body care, holistic health and wellness products that I make. Soy wax candles. I make jewelry. I do a lot. So, whoever is privileged to be my man one day just has to be okay with everything that I do and truly support me from the bottom of their heart and not get jealous or insecure. I just need a really good solid rock foundation man. someone who's already confident and happy within himself and who can help heal me and not hurt me. And yeah, I was not expecting this video to be that long, but if you feel like you qualify, then I am taking applications down below. Oh, and you have to love animals, too, because I have a dog and two cats. So, that's also very important to me. Many men still want to lead, provide, and pursue. But they also want peace, cooperation, and to feel needed, not just accepted as an addition to someone's already complete life plan. That tension is why so many are walking away from commitment.
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