Transcription
Listen, I am really upset with women. Okay, I don't know who did this; it was definitely not me. It was not me, okay? But whoever did this, stand up right now. Like, stand up right now because I know some of you women out here have been making these men so spoiled. They want new things now; they want even more things than what women already do. Like, we already do so much, but now they want more. Now they want flowers; now they want money. Now they want everything. These days, women are expected to be mothers, women are expected to be a chef, women are expected to be, you know, cleaner and nanny—every single thing: your personal therapist. And then, you know, like giving all of our energy to you, making sure you're this big man. And then, on top of that, people decided to say, "You know what? Let us also split the bill; let us pay for these guys." I just want to know who did this. I want to meet this person in a dark alley, and I just want to talk. We as women today have no more expectations for men. We as women were happy when that guy acknowledges that he's dating us. If he does that, he's the king. Oh my God, he told his mother that he's dating me. Oh wow, amazing! What a wonderful guy. But did he tell his mom as well that he's dating 10 other girls at the same time? Listen, I'm tired of this, okay? And I am going to show you guys in this video how to stop accepting the bare minimum. It is done. We as women need to do better because these men are becoming spoiled.
Hi guys, my name is this, and welcome back to my channel. Okay, first things first, we are going to start doing is having expectations for men. Men have so many expectations for a woman. Okay, you're supposed to carry his child; you're supposed to be a virgin as well; you're supposed to be very beautiful; you're supposed to never age; um, you're supposed to let him do everything he wants; you're supposed to be his personal therapist, nanny, cleaner, chef—everything. Um, but don't you dare, as a woman, expect anything from that man. You want a tall man? How dare you? How dare you ask for a tall man? No, no, no, no, no, no. You should accept him being ugly, and you should accept, on top of that, him being broke as well. Because don't you dare, don't you dare, as a woman, say that you think money is important. No, no, no. Immediately, they will start to go into a whole meltdown, calling you a gold digger. How dare you wanting money? How dare you wanting to use this poor man? Honey, you don't have any money; there is nothing to be used; there is no gold for us to dig because you have no gold. You should not be worrying about gold diggers; you should be worrying about being broke as well. These men love to say, "And what do you bring to the table, honey?" There is no table for us to sit at; you have no money to buy the table. We're sitting on the ground, so rather ask, "What do you bring to the ground?" And besides that, me personally, I do not sit at empty tables. I sit at tables that are full. I don't need to bring anything else than my presence, my personality, who I am, and my beauty. I sit there, and that's good enough for the guy. What do you bring to the table? It's broke. I talk—no guy that is actually willing to provide and actually take care of a woman will ever tell you what you bring to the table. Shut up! So start having expectations. Say, "Hey, I want my man to have this, this, and on top of that, I want my man to have money." Even if you don't feel comfortable, uh, to take money from the guy or whatever, he has to work. Okay, you're fine, split the bills, but make sure he makes money as well.
Another very important thing is do not date broke guys. Do not date guys that have no money, have no job; do not date them. Now, what is a broke guy? A broke guy is a guy with no ambition, no drive. Some—a man with ambition and drive will always have money; will always find a way to have money, you know. Uh, but a broke guy that expects you to, like, uh, give him money, that like doesn't want to do anything and feels like the whole world is against him and he cannot figure it out—whatever—do not date these guys. Okay, this is all fun and games like a guy doesn't have to have money when you're in your teenage years; it's all fun and games. But when you are a woman over 21, okay, we all know what financial stress is, and especially when your man cannot provide anything. Me personally, I am not attracted to guys that have no money. I am simply not. I am attracted to money; I'm attracted to power; I am attracted to a man that is in his masculine energy and is willing to provide and protect. That is what I want in a man. I am truly telling you, if a man is not willing to provide for me, I would much rather date a woman. I like to take care of them—of the woman. I will go into my masculine energy, and I will take care of a woman. Why? Because, honestly, a bit more beautiful to look at. And I don't want to hear about, like, no, like, "I can take care of myself; like, I can do it on my own." I can do it on my own as well, like right now. If I leave my relationship, I can take care of myself and seven children, literally. I can live a luxury lifestyle on my own with my own money. But why would I do that? So broke guys are very insecure. Okay, when they see a woman making money, when they see, like, a woman providing for them, whatever, building them up, they start to disrespect that woman. That's not the woman they want, okay? And once they are there and completely built up, they will actually leave you for the woman that they do want because they do not respect you. They see you as a—as like a competition; they do not see you as a lover, their part, or their partner. Why? Because these guys are not in their masculine energy. Men thrive on success; men value themselves as well on their successes. So this—this guy does not respect himself. So if he does not respect himself, he will not respect you. You don't go through lanes to defend him. Listen, the minute one of his friends says, "Oh my God, your girl is so ugly," or, "Oh my God, your girl's a hoe," you know how quick they will be to dismiss you? They'll be like, "Oh yeah, you're right, she's a hoe," uh, "Yeah, she doesn't look that great." You know why? Because men don't like women; men like men. Almost everything they do is for the validation of other men. But we—we know—we fight with our own mother, with our sister, with our friends when—when the guy does something wrong and they say, "Hey, listen, he disrespected you." No, no, he didn't. "Hey, listen, he's quite ugly." No, he's not; it's just a bad picture; uh, it was a bad day. No, no, honey, he hasn't been looking like this his whole life. Stop applauding and praising small things he does, okay? So imagine he treats you like complete [ __ ]—like, so badly, has no respect towards you, but you know what? The other day he bought you flowers, and you go to your friend, to your mom, you're like, "Yeah, but he bought me flowers." Well, honey, that is very embarrassing of you. No, that is really embarrassing. If he just does these things and it's just always nice, like a good guy, you know, he's buying flowers, he's writing me poetry, writing me letters, uh, buying new stuff, gifts, and all things that's nice, you know, you should say, "Oh, thank you so much, and we appreciate it from them. That's very nice." But him just like doing something so small, or like, "Oh yeah, he cheated on me yesterday, but tomorrow he's gonna take you out for dinner." Okay, um, no, that's not working; that's not [ __ ], and do not apply these—do not appreciate these. You know what? Get your ass up and leave out of that relationship because there's no respect there.
Another thing is accept that you cannot change him. Listen, I love it when girls say, "Yeah, he will be different with me; I have that effect on guys; I can change them." Honey, you cannot do anything. And you know what? Whilst you're at it, there's a whole line of 10 girls waiting to change him. So why don't you guys collectively, yeah, start thinking about a plan about how you guys collectively can change—change this man? This is who they have been for years and maybe their whole life, and you come in and think like, "Oh yeah, I will change him." I'll check—listen, his own mother cannot even change him. Who are you? Like, sit down, okay? And stop trying to change men; improve them, okay? Do not let them talk or treat you disrespectfully; keep these guys in check, okay? Listen, if you are having an argument and this guy is calling you a [ __ ] or a hoe, this is not normal, okay? And you should say that from the beginning: "You do not talk to me like that." Because women always let these things slide. "Oh, it doesn't matter; he was angry at me; whatever." And that's normal to you—calling you a [ __ ], calling you a hoe? That's—that's respect to you? This guy does not respect you, by the way. Never in any of my relationships has a guy talked to me like that, and this has been long-term relationships for years. When we had an argument, it has always been an adult conversation. "I didn't like it that you did this; he told me, 'I didn't like that you did this or reacted this way.'" Okay? And we resolve it. This is communication. But don't you dare, in your life, call me a hoe or a [ __ ] because, baby, I'm out. You do not talk to me like that. And I have told my friends when—uh, their guy was talking to them like that, even an argument, I told them, "Do not accept this behavior because this is going to turn physical if they feel comfortable talking to you in that way. Later on, they will also start to feel comfortable touching you, pushing you, even assaulting you." Extreme—extreme lengths to go to—analyzed you. This truly happened, and what I said came true: the physical violence did happen; the abuse did happen. And then the women are shocked. "Yeah, but why did you—first, I did not keep the check when they talk to you like that." You keep these guys in check, and you leave when you see the big red flags; you leave; you do not stay because this person will not get better. If in the beginning, right, you show him you can—you can talk to me like that, don't know what you will do; he'll become nicer when—where—where has that ever happened?
If you are in the dating phase and you're not in a relationship, you're just dating, getting to know each other, keep your options open, okay? Who starts—literally like, you know what women do? They see one guy; they—they go on one; they tell, "Okay, this is the guy I'm gonna marry him; have seven children with him; whatever, he's my guy." You know what the guy does? Keeps his options open; goes on another date, like, "She's this one; whatever." Why? Because guys think with their minds; they think, "Okay, which one would be a good mom? Which one would I want to introduce to my mother? Uh, which one is a good fit?" They want to see, you know; they don't put all their eggs in one basket. But we as women—oh, no, I immediately—we want you; I want you. And then we get disappointed when we're ghosted, when we get—when we get hurt; we get disappointed. Okay, but why, in the dating phase, did you literally date one guy, and that's it? Why? And make sure they know you're keeping your options open. Make sure that—literally because women are like to be like, "No, you're the only one; oh, I love you the most; blah, blah." When I started dating my boyfriend, he literally asked me, "Liz, are you seeing other people?" I'm like, "Yes, I'm dating other people." And then he was like, "Okay, I have to win this girl over because there is no way that I want her to be in a relationship with another man." And on top of that, that makes you look very desperate because it's almost like this girl has no options; like immediately, she'll throw—like one guy she sees that she will latch on to him. Then the guy thinks like, "Oh, no other men want her." And like I said before, did you listen? Men like men. So when they see a woman is very desired by other men, they want that woman as well. Some of you women are dating literally a guy that is everyone's man, and everyone knows—everyone knows that this guy is a cheater, and he's not even hiding it from you, and you go into this thinking, "Oh, I want a loyal guy," and then you date him, and then he cheats on you, and you're shocked. Honey, why are we shocked? Hmm? Why are we shocked? Some girls go—go on to date rappers, artists, whatever, that I have with them, just on substances; they literally don't even know where they are. And I'm going to tell you honestly, they barely even know you. Like, I—I can literally tell you, you can put two girls in front of them; they will not know which one the girlfriend is. Why? Because mentally they're not even here; they're constantly on substances. So this guy then cheated on you, and then you're also shocked? Who are you guys dating? Think with your head and not with your emotions. We as women need to stop thinking with our emotions; we need to start thinking with our head. When you meet a man, in your head should be, "Okay, will this guy be a good husband? Will this guy be able to provide what I want? Will this guy be a good father for my children?" Think about these things, okay? "He doesn't have money, but he'll get better whenever." No, no, no. Don't let these things slide. You think a guy would literally date you if you were not looking like you wanted you to look? No. You think he would wait until you get like beautiful or hot or whatever? No. Simply, he'll be like, "You're not my type; bye." And they also go on to just go see you without telling you anything, making you feel very insecure; your ego is hurt and heartbroken. So we should start saying, "Okay, are you a broke guy? Yeah, I don't want you." Broke—never tell a man you have no one besides him. Listen, women think this is cute: "Yeah, you're my only one in my life; I don't have any friends; I don't have any family; you're the only one." How dangerous is this? No, no, no, no, no. How dangerous is this? Because you are literally telling this guy, "If you murder me tonight, if you take my life, nobody will care; nobody will know because I only have you." Congratulations, very smart. Reviews—and if you have already told him that you don't have any family members, whatever, first thing you can do is you can make up something. You can say, like, "Oh yeah, I contacted a family member here; um, you know, I have family that I'm talking to; whatever." You make something up, or what you actually do is you make friends. Make sure you have friends; even if you don't see them, make sure you always text someone; make sure you have someone that knows about your situation, knows about your relationship because these things can get very dangerous. And when a guy knows that you have no one besides him, you know how easy you are to control; you know how quick they will be to manipulate you. Do not do that to yourself. Make sure you always keep a social life, um, and keep having friends; keep having hobbies; keep—keep having things to go—listen, if you don't want friends, have hobbies; have people you know; act like—as like the hobby; whatever you do, have people you know; go out in social. Because otherwise, you will become so attached to this man to a point where you will become insecure, even if he goes after his friends; you start to become insecure, like, "Oh my God, what is he doing?" Whatever. And men can smell insecurity, and nothing is more off-putting than an insecure and desperate woman. It is an extremely unattractive—so even if you are insecure, work on your insecurities in private, but do not let him know that you are insecure. If he wants to go out with her, and say, "Go, have fun." Go! Who is my Queens? I hope you enjoyed this video; I hope you learned something. And you know what? Stop blaming yourself if the relationship did go South and uh, it didn't work out, or he cheated on you. We women, we always like to blame ourselves. "Oh, maybe we are not prettier; maybe I was not good enough." No, the guy you're dating was just a piece of [ __ ], okay? He literally—nobody would date him; literally, the fact that you dated him made his value go up. Look at some guys that are celebrities; nobody would date them if the woman that were dating him were not dating him; nobody would even bat an eye at them. Those women make them something—literally make them look attractive in front of this other woman because otherwise nobody would even look at them. So that's how much power we hold. The fact that he can say that he's dating you, it's a blessing, so you better start acting like a blessing. Okay, guys, I love you guys so much, and I see you in the next video. Bye.