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For some guys, girls might as well be from another planet. Studies show that most guys fail at reading signals from girls. Part of being a man is understanding girls and why they do the things they do. Many relationships end up failing for no other reason than because some guys don't pay attention to the signals sent by girls. Once you thoroughly understand girls, you can be the man that you were designed to be and give them exactly what they want without compromising your character or beliefs.
First, you need to know how to deal with women. At times, girls might seem like liars, but this isn't how they work. It is very common for girls to say one thing and do another. For example, a girl might tell you that she wants to go to the movies, but when it comes time to go, she says never mind, she's not in the mood. Girls are ruled more by their emotions than by their words. So if she says she doesn't want to go to the movies, she's really just saying how she feels in that exact moment. When a girl says she'll do something and doesn't keep her word with you, technically she's not actually lying, too. She's just saying what she feels in that moment. Many guys label girls as liars when they don't keep their word, but you have to understand that keeping your word is something that men do. A man's word is his honor, but for a girl, her word is just how she feels in that moment.
To become a man, you must understand point number two, which is that girls respond better to praise than challenge. When a group of guys hang out, they grow as men by challenging each other—maybe your friends just challenge you to an all-night Halo tournament. When a group of girls hang out, they grow or bond by praising each other. One of the biggest mistakes that guys make when trying to deal with a girl is treating her like a guy and challenging her. Imagine a guy who would love for his girlfriend to exercise more, to be healthier or lose weight. As a guy, you'd probably try to challenge her to lose weight or exercise because you're a guy. In almost every situation, this completely backfires, and it ends with the girl getting super mad at you. Not only did you fail to get her to exercise, but you also leave her really pissed off. If you're trying to get a girl to do something, praise her instead of challenging her. Instead of saying, "Hey, you should exercise and get healthier," you could say, "I really love how you look in that skirt." As men, it completely goes against our natural way of thinking to get a girl to do something by praising her instead of challenging her, but it's just the way that girls work.
The third step to being a man is never tolerating her. So many guys deal with girls who are negative or complaining all the time, and girls get like this when the guy gives up. All girls will complain about all kinds of stuff, and if you give up and merely tolerate this behavior, this is weakness, and it's a huge mistake. You have to realize that girls are like the weather; there will always be times of calm and times when a storm is raging. When the storm is raging, don't just sit there and tolerate it. Your first instinct is to ask her, "What the hell is wrong with you? Why are you in such a bad mood?" Instead, you just need to overwhelm her with your masculine strength and love. What this really means is that you need to fight her storms by making her laugh or sweeping her off of her feet. Only you know what works best with her—maybe it's tickling her or singing something funny to her. All girls go through these cycles of good feelings and bad feelings. During the bad cycles, she's like a clam, closed off with her love. As a man, it's your duty to open her up, no matter how irritated you are wondering why she can't just be happy all the time.
The fourth step is to never analyze your girl. As mentioned earlier, a girl's opinions and moods are just like the weather; they're constantly cycling through good and bad. And even if you try to analyze her, you'll never find the source of the problem. As guys, we're always trying to fix things, always looking for cause and effect. Imagine you're on a road trip with your girlfriend. One minute everything is incredible; in the next, all hell breaks loose, and she's complaining about everything and being negative. Naturally, you'll start to analyze her to find the root problem, but you're wasting your time because there is usually no source. As men, when we have problems in life, we identify the root and we destroy it, which fixes the problem. When we try to use this technique on girls, it simply doesn't work. The truth is that almost 100 percent of emotional problems that girls have are caused by the girl feeling unloved. So as a man, you can fix these problems just by giving her your masculine love. Don't interrogate her and try to find the root cause of the problem; just give her your love and your masculine energy.
Step number five is to maintain her intensity. Think about this for a second: imagine your girlfriend gets super fired up emotionally; she's raising her voice, and the look in her eyes is almost as if she wants to kill you. In this situation, a weak man will try to calm her down first and discuss the problem. A weak man might also declare that she's crazy, storm off into his car, and come back when she's not acting like a crazy person. Both of these actions are completely wrong. When a girl is acting hysterical and crazy, many guys find it absolutely repulsive; we try to fix or escape her crazy storm of emotions. Something that really turns girls on is when a man stands his ground against her full-blown emotional storm and shows her his love. Handling a girl's wild storm of emotions is like trying to tame a bull; you're going to get stomped on, but you must stay intense with her to a point and match her emotions, but in the end, you'll both come out of the storm stronger. Put simply, you need to handle a girl's storms like you would handle your finances or everything else in life. Don't go hide and wait for things to calm down because there will always be another storm around the corner. Life itself is a never-ending stream of cycles; there will be times when your finances and relationships are calm, and there will also be times when there are storms. No matter how hard it gets, never run away from the storms, and you will capture the essence of what it is to be a real man.
Step number six to becoming a man is never forcing a girl to make decisions. As men, we frequently make the mistake of thinking that girls should think like us. When you force a girl to make decisions, you are basically asking her to be more like a man, which, unless you like masculine girls, isn't something that you want to do. Men are designed with the gifts of decisiveness and clarity. Imagine a girl asks you what you want to do for fun with her. If you just want to be her friend, you could tell her you'll do whatever she feels like doing. But if your goal is to be a man with the girl and play your role as more than a friend, you must use your gift as a man to make decisions and give clarity. All men have a gift to analyze potential outcomes and make a decision. A simple way to think about this is to imagine a girl asking you if she should wear a black or red shirt. As men, we might wonder why she would ask such a question because it seems so trivial. The truth is that behind the question, she's really asking you to give your gift of masculine energy and choose for her. In other words, she wants you to give your gift and help her make the decision. Instead of saying, "Wear whatever color you want," make the decision and choose the color that you think looks best. Whenever the girl asks you to make a decision for her or help her make it, as a man, it is your duty to do it. This is just one of the many gifts that you must give as a man, and if you don't give your gifts, your relationship with your girlfriend will turn into a couple of buddies or friends, and it will no longer be a relationship between a man and a woman. You don't always have to actually make the decision for her, but you must always give her your masculine gift of clarity and decisiveness.
It doesn't matter if you already have a girlfriend or if you're still looking for one; following these steps and unleashing the man within you will help you to attract beautiful girls and get a girlfriend. In the world today, one of the top reasons why so many guys don't do well with girls is because they've lost their ability to be a man. But since the ability is still there, only lost, it can always be found. And what's that? Until next time, thanks for watching.