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As I'm out here in these dating freaking streets, I'm talking to these boys and they're telling me that, "Oh, well, you have to understand what comes along with you having three kids. Damn. You have to understand what comes along with you being a single mother."
I'm getting extremely frustrated because nobody is out here dating and saying, "Hey, I want you to come take care of my family." What I am asking for is a relationship. And I think that if you are a man who is dating a single mother, yes, you have to understand that you are not just dating her. You're probably dating her kids, too.
But if you are a strong and alpha, a real freaking man, you're not going to talk about the fact that, oh, dating you, you come with all of these things. Unless you don't have it, you have nothing to come with. Like, if you're not in a a good enough position to take on me and my three kids, then don't talk to me. You're just not my guy.
That doesn't mean that every man out there, because I've had boyfriends, that doesn't mean that every man out there cannot take on a woman with children. And it's frustrating because I'm like, if these are the conversations that I'm having with men, what are my single mom friends out here having with men? This is so frustrating.
The audacity that these guys feel like they can tell me, "Well, you have to know what you're coming with. Well, you have to recognize that it's not just you. You have three kids." as if I don't know that I'm a mother with three children is really frustrating. And I'm trying to keep my cool and not like snap at any of these guys when I'm talking to them.
But it's extremely frustrating to know that because I'm a mom, you're looking at me differently. As you should in a certain way, but you shouldn't for once ever think have the audacity that I can't catch a man or I can't catch a date or I can't catch a husband cuz I have three kids. That's your perspective. So, when I'm married, walking down the aisle with my man who takes on me and my beautiful daughters, your sorry ass will be sitting there wondering how the hell, it wasn't you. It wasn't.
So, why you making this video then? Why you making this video? If you are so confident that you are going to find a husband, what's the point of this video? Notice she was like, "Oh, I have boyfriends, but have you ever had husbands?" Mm- No. And it's like nobody's saying that you will never ever find a man. What these men are saying is understand what you're bringing to the table and know that it might be a little harder for you to find a man because you have three kids.
And then also not her trying to shame men with her baggage. You I'm sorry. Nobody wants to think of their babies as baggage, but three kids is a lot. Okay, three kids, that's a lot. You have baggage and you trying to shame men into not wanting to pick up your baggage. Stop it. Get some help.
But y'all make sure you hit the like button so YouTube can know say you're rocking with the content over here. Let us go take a listen to what Kevin Samos has to say. All right. What you got for me? So I'm 30 and I have two kids. So I'm single. I have two kids um from a previous relationship. Um so I was kind of trying to rate myself, but I am still like very like young, active. I have a lot to offer. Um, I make great money. I have good, well behaved children. And I am in LA dating. And I just find dating in LA so hard. So, I actually don't have like a problem like meeting like um what you call like high-profile men like men. She's got a problem getting her husband. Yeah. But Yeah. So, it's just But notice how she's like, "Oh, I have great money. I have well behaving children." Every parent think that their child is well behaved. I'm just I'm listen listen as someone who does not have children y'all probably don't realize it but all of y'all thinking that your child is well behaved like self-praise is no recommendation ask somebody else how your child is because a lot of y'all children especially the single moms no discipline no structure no nothing but hey let's continue the two kids no it's not just it's not just it's not just it's big I mean you're 30 years old and all this career stuff where how How many How many different fathers? One. Okay. How come How come you and he didn't get married? I was so young when I was in that relationship. So I met him. How old is your oldest child? 10. How old is your youngest? Seven. So you were 23. That's when I had my daughter. Yeah. So my kid's father, he was older than me. But listen to what I'm about to say. You were younger. You were old enough to make babies. First one at 20, even though I'm not okay with it, you can let it slide. But the second one, man, that's a choice. Why didn't you? Yeah. No, we were in the like I was with him for like six or seven years. But you weren't his wife. And that's a good Yeah. So So if you'll let me explain it to you, I I'll try. You're a woman that was with a man for six or seven years. And you gave him the highest honor a woman can give any man on the planet. You gave him children. You gave him not only one, you gave him two. And yet you did not require him to even bestow the title of a wife upon you. So you go back out into the market older with two children. You and you expect someone in that market to accept you older and bestow the title of wife upon you. Um no, that's what that's how men look at it. Right, wrong, or indifferent. And then being in LA, one of the most competitive markets for women in the world. Competition is stiff out there. I'll be there in a couple of weeks. Beautiful women on every corner. Like, so I do meet I do meet great men. I don't think it's hard finding a man. So, okay, man. Oh, no, no, no. See, this is how we judge over here. We don't judge by dealing with dating. We judge in weddings. That's the only thing that counts. If you're not married, you're losing. See, that makes it real clear because you've had everything up to that point anyway, right? I've been engaged. Right. I don't count those either because women, especially a lot of black women have been engaged for a long time. Three, four, five engagements. How tall are you? I'm 5'6. I weigh 115 pounds. Yes. Oh, yeah. I'll take you out. Yeah. I would take you out. I don't have a problem finding men. Of course not. I would. But the thing is, but what are you finding them for though? Yeah, I would take you out. Take you out. Get you a nice steak and some lobster. We'd have a good old time and I would blow your back out, but I wouldn't marry you. See, what I think I really have an issue is like finding men that don't want like the superficial. Like most I feel like the type of guys like they just want a woman that like looks good on their arm. Like that's exactly what you hold on. Listen, let me stop stop stop right there. Yes. That's what we want cuz that's who we are. And you want a man that's the problem I have with dating. But but listen listen. You want men not to be men. You want men to think like women. That's not what we value, ma'am. We want a beautiful woman on our arm. Yeah, that's the problem. Well, no. You're the problem. I'm the problem. Yes, you're the problem because I'm telling you what men want. You've experienced what men want and you got a problem with it. That's your problem. We're not going to change. You're either going to get on board with it or you will die alone. And you know, that's the thing right there. A lot of women instead of seeing reality for what it is and accepting what reality is, they want to change reality to fit their narrative, to fit the what whatever they got going on. That's why they encourage men to not have standards, not have preferences. Cuz if men were to come to the dating market with standards and preferences, a lot of these women won't fit, right? So in order to be in control of reality and be in control of their results, instead of conforming to men's standards and preferences, they would rather tell men do not have standards and preferences and just take me however I am. What should I be looking for then? Well, honestly, first you need to get down and understand that you have no le you have no leverage in this matter. It's the men. We control access to relationships. You control access to sex. You need to understand what a man that you would want, what he would want in a girlfriend, wife, or significant other like a good like a good mother. No, no, no, no, man. That changes from every man. That changes from man to man. Where's your father? And being a good motherhood. Being a good mother is also subjective because in her head she thinks she's a good mother, right? In her head, she might think she's a good wife. If you were a good wife, then the father of your children would have marry you. Right. Let's let's let's be real. I don't have I didn't grow up with a mother or a father. All right. So, due respect, you you you you've you don't seem to get that. Men judge the way we judge. And yes, like I said, you have no problem getting men to pay you attention. You've got no problem tracking men, but getting a man to take you seriously. And would you like to be married? I would. Okay. And that's a problem because you're asking a man to become a stepfather. You're asking me, let's say you're asking me to come in and take care of one man's child, a man's two children. I didn't create those. It's all downside. I've been a stepfather. It's a horrible deal. What about the men that have children of their own? They want a stepmother. Well, again, you're still actors most at this age. Okay, listen. I'll answer it. See, you're still you're still speaking as if you have leverage in this thing. And I'm trying to level set you. Even if I have children, I got more options than you. I can go find a woman with no kids cuz I can afford both of you. If I can afford if I can afford to take care of you and your kids, I can afford to take care of her and and no kids. Yeah. Why would I pick you and your kids when I know your kids are not going to I'm not their father? They'll never look at me as their father. I got all the responsibility and none of the upside of being a biological father. Can I discipline those children like they were my own? They don't need discipline. What? They're very See, that's your problem. There you go. Right there. She said they don't need discipline. You remember what I said earlier? A lot of women think that their children are well behaved. What child walking this earth does not need discipline? Discipline is basically guidance. Discipline is teaching the kid right from wrong and teaching them direction. What kid walking this earth does not need discipline? Stop the cap. Okay. This is why this is why this is you are in freaking sane if you don't think children your kids are not special. They need discipline just like anyone else. So I so I could so I could spank the children. Attend they don't need spanked. No no no no. I could spank the see see right there. I said I could discipline the children. You said yes. Oh pay attention woman. I am. You said I could discipline the children without you questioning me. Yes. So if I decide to spank them, I got to listen to your mouth cuz they don't need it. That's why you need to stay single until your kids are gone. That's the choice you made when you reproduced, ma'am. And I need you ladies to understand something. You going out here having babies without marriage and then breaking up with men. You incurred consequences. We don't want those kids around us because we cannot take care of them, cannot discipline them. We don't want have to put up with all this other stuff. You're a fun woman. Guys look at you and be like, "She's got two kids and she's 5' 6, 115. She's a lot of fun. She's obviously sexually active. I'll have a good time with you, but no way. God, not no not no way, but very unlikely the man's going to take you seriously, especially when you start talking. Cuz I believe what you're telling me is honestly. And I'm like, who wants this deal? Yeah. Who doesn't want this deal? A beautiful woman that is a great mother, has a great career. Um, don't care about Don't care about your career. Strong. Like, I'm submissive. But listen, did you did you hear what I just said? Did you Okay. Did you hear? She is clearly not submissive. If she was submissive, she would have shut up and listen to what a man's saying. If she was submissive, she should have be able to take telling from him. She's clearly not. If she's debating Kevin, a man she don't know from Adams, a random man on YouTube, she call up for debating about something that she call to get advice on. She literally called his show to get advice and she's debating him on the advice that he's giving her. Which kind of submissive? She don't have we not want submissive bone in our body. Uh-uh. No. Come on. No. What I just said, don't care about your career. The thing is, ma'am, it's the two kids. It's the two kids. Everything you're saying does not overcome the deficit that two children bring. If you if I mean like you have money, that doesn't matter to you. If you have what? I said you have money. That doesn't matter to you. Finally, I have more. You have I have more more more money. I have more money than you. I have more money. I have more money and I can go over there and get her. She's 25. She has no kids and I don't have to I don't have to deal with any of the stuff we just talked about. She's 25, agreeable, cooperative, fit, and ready to get on my program, have butt naked, freaky circus sex, and she's happy to be there and experience all these new things. I'm dealing with a 30-y old woman who's got her mind. Listen, I'm okay. See, when this when this conversation is over, I go back to my wonderful life. You go back to your life still trying to figure these things out. I'm just trying to help you, lady. Ouch. I'm not saying you're not everything you're saying you are. Down for the next like eight years basically. But you're not. Okay. And who is actively pursuing you to be their wife? I mean I got I got options. Who is actively pursuing you to be their wife? I got options. I just I don't really You did. No. No. That would be a fiance. See, this is where the truth comes in. You can If she got options, why she calling up on Kevin? Stop the cap, ma'am. Ma'am, you don't have these kind of options. And I'm trying to explain. Okay. Then you wouldn't be here. If you actually had options of the kind of the kind and caliber of man that you want, then they were really considering you to be their wife. You wouldn't be here right now. I know. I'm I'm just kind of like learning about I mean, I'm new here, so I've This is literally like my first time like really watching. But the thing is, ma'am, you're still a you're a baby mama of two. Mhm. And are you telling me you're dating someone? Seriously? Oh, I Yeah, I I always have options. I'm going to ask you one more time, and if you are vague, I'm going to bid you a good night. Just asking you, are you dating someone? Seriously? Yeah. How long have you guys been seeing one another? Um, it's been like two years. Two years. Has he expressed any desire to make you his wife? Yes. Has he taken you ring shopping in the last two years? We've been ringing shopping. Yeah. When? About 3 months ago. Three months ago. When? But this ain't the guy that like really just like sparked like my I don't know. It just doesn't feel like someone I want to be with forever. So that's Oh, this is the simp who willing for pick up the long titty. You see men, this is a remember I've said time and time again. She settles for the simp after she collect the bodies and have her long titties. But notice she not feeling for that simp. Yeah, he's willing to marry me. Yeah, he'll take me ring shopping. But I'm not checking for him. I'm still want to see what else is out there. Even though he willing to pick her up and her two kids, they never respect the man who is willing to pick them up with two kids. There's this video and a lady says she knew her husband was a s when he was willing to marry her when she had children. Cannot make this up. But let us continue. That's so I go back to the first thing I asked you. Are you telling me you are seeing someone then they're the man who's actively considering you is the man you want to be with and you said I've got options and you just went through this convoluted way of getting back down to I got somebody blame my love life. Well well no ma'am what it is is it's hard for you to deal with the truth. What it is is one you don't have a man that you want considering you to be his wife. You got a man that you don't want who sounds like he would take you, but you don't want to marry him. That's why it's been two years. This is why you're on here trying to figure it out. And I'm only trying to help you, but it seems like you'd rather argue or be right than listen. No, I'm not trying to I hope he saw this video. I hope that S saw this video. But honestly, like these modern women, you cannot save these simps. I don't want S. [Music] Okay. Well, then I need you to understand that your children are a massive impediment. Never think of it from a man's side. It's all what you want. And like you said, you want a man to not be into all this superficial stuff and D, which means you really don't give a damn what we think. We're just supposed to come in and do what you need. Facts. Facts. That's fine, but you better be offering a hell of a deal. And I do have to hear that. Only because of the kids. Well, the kids are big, ma'am. They are big. I mean, here's the thing. You do have the option because you say only because of the kids. But that's a big deal. Would you date a So, you dating a woman with children is like off the table for you. I married a woman with a child, ma'am. I understand what I'm talking about. I'm not just doing No, I would not date a woman with a child. No, I would not. I've been there. And the thing is, where's the children's father? Oh, I I left him. Where is he alive? Yeah. Is he involved in the children's life at all? Yeah. Then if you really are serious, give custody to the father. Go off with your go off with your new husband and make a new family. See? Oh, I couldn't do that. Well, well then guess what? Buy a dog and wait till they're out of the house, man. Because I've talked about women like you all the time. You're not willing to give anything up. I asked you about discipline. They don't need this. They don't need that. give up custody. I don't can't do that. Ma'am, you're not fit. I mean, no disrespect, ma'am, but you're not really fit to be with somebody. You want someone to fit into your particular jagged life. And why would a man who has options choose that just because you're attractive? I mean, you're attractive, but but in LA, that's a dime a dozen. I mean, you you'd have to understand that, though. I No, I do know that. But I think I'm more valuable than just the way I look. What? I said I'm I'm definitely more valuable than just my looks. Granted. Granted. I'm never saying that you're not like I'm from the Midwest. I'm a good Midwestern girl. I'm not girl. So I'm not I'm from Oklahoma, man. I'm from the Midwest, too. But what I'm saying is Okay, let's try it this way. Oh, no. I hear you. What would the man What would the kind of man that you want? What would he want from a woman? Um from a wife. From a wife. Mhm. He he would I think what I value like just at the end of the day is just like pure connection. Like do I like love? It's just love. There's nothing else like do I want this person? Do I look like look up to this person? Is do I feel like this person is a good person? Is you know do we share the same values? Is you know the same morals? Like is there laughter, joy, excitement in our What does he want from a wife ma'am? You gave me Oh, what does he want from like just a wife? Like maybe just a good housewife, a woman that cooks for him. Okay, ma'am. So, let me ask you a question. Were your mother and father married? No. All right. Then it's then you were not raised to be a housewife. No, I don't think I definitely was not raised to be the housewife. That's for sure. But I can't give up on that hope and that dream that I find the right person. If you I'm I'mma slap the smack out of you. I let you go, man. But you cannot over talk me. I'm trying to be nice, man. But you're not going to do that. Look, you weren't raised to be a housewife and you just said the kind of man that you would want, what he want is a good housewife. Then he wouldn't want you cuz you're not one. By your own admission, you're not one. Ouch. I wasn't raised to be one. Which means you're not one. But I had great influences. My If you had such great influences, why don't one Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. As I say, rest in peace to Kevin Samos because it's little conversations like this that you highlight that these women, grown women with children, they can't think critically and they bring their emotions to the to the conversations way too often. Because if she can admit that the kind of man she wants, he would want a woman that's a housewife, but she wasn't raised to be a housewife. And she's still fighting. She's fighting the fact that y'all wasn't raised to be a housewife, but I can still hold out hope. Sis, stop it. Get some help. Y'all leave your thoughts in the comment section and watch this video. Kevin Samuel's once again right about women being broke as hell. Hide the money, y'all. There's poor people around. I will see you guys in the next one. Take care, y'all. [Music]