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You are already ahead of 90% of the people your age if you can just communicate confidently. It is statistically proven that the people who are better communicators, they get better job opportunities, and make more money, and they attract higher quality of the opposite sex.
And if you look at the people under the age of 25 nowadays, you will see that there is a supply and demand issue. There's a demand for good communicators, but there's not a lot of supply. And when there's not a lot of supply, you don't necessarily need to be the best, you just need to be okay. So you'd be pretty dumb to click up this video because this video might just save the rest of your entire life.
Being a good communicator is the equivalent of being a 6'3" handsome man nowadays in our generation. So let me show you how. When I was 12 years old, I was in year six at the time. I was the school captain of my primary school, had I think maybe 30 or 40 kids because I was probably the best speaker there. I always try to encourage other people by telling them to never give up, to always try their best. And then 3 or 4 months later, I started dating the other school captain, who was a good speaker as well.
Around five months into our lovey-dovey stage, we decided to go on like a Halloween, you know, trick or treating. And one of my friends came along with us too. There was three of us. And I could tell that she was extremely attracted to my friend that she hadn't seen before. And when we decided to go home, my girlfriend went to her place, and my friend came back to my place. And my friend started to explain to me how he could tell that she was into him. And that just confirmed my suspicions. So that was when I developed a lot of anxiety, a lot, a lot of jealousy. And this is where my insecurity started to come in. I started to look myself in the mirror every single day and think I was ugly, even though I wasn't. And because I had built those insecurities, my communication skill suffered.
Because probably wondering why I have this picture up here. This pipe represents your inability to speak, okay? This the tap, the quality of water represents the quality of your communication. I had, because of my anxiety, developed gunk in this tap. We don't want that because you could be the I was a very, very good communicator, but the blockage was holding me back from being a good communicator. You could be the best speaker out there, but if you have a lot of anxiety, a lot of embarrassment, a lot of like a fear of judgment, you're not going to be able to express yourself clearly because it feels like there's a block at your throat. Feels like there's just something blocking you, okay? And the way you get rid of this is by just simply asking yourself where it comes from. What's causing this gunk in the tap? What's causing it? Is it something to do with the start where it's coming from, right? How can you fix that? It's all about getting to the root cause on why it's there in the first place. Why can't I express myself clearly? Why am I so scared of talking to that girl?
Number one exercise you will do in order to improve your communication, okay? Because this the gunk is holding you back. I'll leave a video at the end of this video on how I overcame my anxiety, okay? Now, once this is limited, you're never going to be perfect, okay? I get anxious all the time. I get embarrassed all the time. I fear judgment quite a bit, but I just have less gunk than other people do. Meaning I'm a better communicator compared to other people. Meaning I get better opportunities. People can sense the confidence, okay?
So how do we get better quality water, which is your communication skills? I'm going to share with you four crucial things that aren't necessarily hard, they're very, very easy that you can do today to improve this water quality.
Number one, you must realize the intention creates your intention. The intention behind why you speak, okay? I remember when I was in year seven, this is where my insecurities had developed quite a bit. I went up to talk to a pretty attractive girl on the bench at school. It was like my third or fourth day of school. A lot of you guys know this story. And I went in with the intention of talking to this girl to get validated by her. I didn't really want to connect with her. So there was an awkward silence 5 seconds in, and the conversation just ended off that. If I had went in with the intention just to connect with this woman, not to attract her, just to connect with her, find out more about her, trust me, it would have been it would have gone so much better. Your intention creates the type of tension. If you're talking to a girl, you just do it to connect with her, not to necessarily attract her, you just be your best self. You spread love, you spread positivity. Trust me, that blockage is going to be reduced and your water is going to be higher quality. This is easy, but not a lot of you would like it.
And the second one is to actually read more books. Now, the reason I say to read more books, two main reasons. Number one, it increases your vocabulary. Half of the words you probably hear me say that are kind of advanced, even though I don't really say many advanced words because I'm speaking to a younger audience, is from the books I've read. Each time I read, which is usually around 30 to 60 minutes per day, I will highlight one to two words that aren't too robotic, but I've heard them before and I want to start using more in public. If you have a really, really simple vocabulary, it's very hard to be a really good communicator. There's like a cap to the quality of water you can be. So expand your vocabulary.
Now, second thing, when you're reading, you most of the time are mentally trying to think of the word. [ __ ] I meant to be a good communicator, rehearsing what you're reading in your mind. There are various studies to prove this. I originally heard it from Andrew Huberman on, you know, reading and how it improves communication. So read more, specifically books that help your future self because you're gaining knowledge and becoming a better communicator. It is literally a cheat code.
Third thing, it kind of goes to eliminating the gunk out of your pipe, and that is improving your looks and improving just your overall appearance. Now, I'm not one of those black pill [ __ ] looks maxers. Yeah, I'm only saying this because when you feel confident, you express how you feel. Get some nice clothes that actually fit you. Me, I just wear, I wear Kmart clothes, I don't wear nothing special, but I wear clothes that fit me. Get yourself a haircut, start getting better sleep, look after your skin, you know, start eating a clean diet. These really simple things that will improve your looks and improve how you feel, so you naturally feel more confident.
Now, the fourth thing that has improved my communication skills, I'd say probably the most because I do it so much, is speaking on camera. I will play a snippet of me 3 years ago with my first ever YouTube video.
"Hello everyone, welcome back to another video. Today's video, I'm not going to be bringing you a workout video, but instead, I'm going to give be giving you five tips how to get abs in 4 weeks. Now, 4 weeks might sound like a short time, but it really isn't. But if you look like this, then you can maybe add a zero on top of that four because there's definitely nutritional issues going on."
Can you sense the difference? My tone is so much better, my confidence is so much better, simply because I have practiced. So if you want to jump straight in, go out there and practice in public. A lot of you don't really want to do that, maybe don't have time to do that with school and everything. 10 minutes per day, 5 minutes per day, sit on the chair and just yap to the camera. Document your your life, use it as a journal, right? You're making your life into a movie. Post it on YouTube, private your videos, but you're also improving your communication. That's it from me, and I'll catch you in the next one. Peace.