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When you get married, you cook, you clean. But now we have to cook, clean, work, raise children, all of it. Right.
Anyway, I got married really young and I was married for quite some time. And I did all of that. Do you know what I've learned since I have been divorced is that men love it when you don't do much for them.
>> So guys, she got divorced because she thought the grass was greener on the other side. So let's see how she's doing now.
>> I got out of my marriage. I was so excited to start dating again cuz I had never really dated and I was like, "Oh my goodness, I'm going to find my person. I'm going to find this person." I remember thinking in my head, I was like, "We're going to be so compatible. Like, I get to choose someone that has that can provide me with the life that I want, but also like that we're just going to have this compatibility." 3 and 1/2 years later and reality has hit. I've just found out that I've been cheated on, not with one girl, but with several girls.
>> When I broke up with my boyfriend who cheated on me, absolutely shattered my heart and I was so heartbroken. I've never had a worse breakup in my life where I felt like I just was actually not going to survive and I fell into the deepest, darkest depression. Week two of being on my anti-depressants and I'm so grateful to say that I haven't felt depressed. I lost so much hair last year. Like, my hair was coming out in clumps. I will not date a guy that doesn't go to the gym or exercise in some form. If I'm going to be honest with you, dating when I was dumb was a lot of fun. And then I went and got some standards and self-respect and it's just not hitting how it used to. Does anyone else that's single ever think, will I actually ever feel anything for anyone ever? This guy's been trying to take me out on a date for the longest time since I caved and I was like, sure, okay, I'm free 2 weeks from when we were speaking um on a Friday.
>> Guys if you talk to a woman and want to take her out and she says I'm only free two weeks from now. She's not that into you. She doesn't really like you guys.
>> About a 2-hour window where I can socialize. I can socialize once a day and that's it. If I'm going to coffee with you, I will see no one else for the rest of today. Maybe I'm naive, but I had a guy come down from Interstate yesterday and we went out for drinks and we were out for a couple of hours. Then I was like, "Oh, okay. I'm going to head home now." And I was like, "See, it was really lovely to see you." And he looks at me and he goes, "Am I staying with you?" Quite like sheepishly. And I was like, "No." And then it dawned on me. Oh, he he didn't just want to catch up with me. He He thought we were He thought we Yeah.
>> Yeah. Guys, so this is what happens with a lot of women that think the grass is greener on the other side. She thought that she was going to divorce the guy and she will find a better man, a man with more money. And she found the guy. And what happened? He cheated on her. And let me tell you this, the more options a guy has, the higher the likelihood that he will cheat on you. And by the way, guys, if you enjoy my videos, consider subscribing.
>> Left this man on deliver for 12 hours and he unadded me. Know your worth, king. I ain't [ __ ].
>> I had a guy ask me what my dream job was, and I told him that it's to be a stay-at-home mom, and he laughed in my face. Is Is something funny? What's funny? Where's the joke?
>> The joke is, ma'am, that if you really wanted that, you would have prioritized that. Instead of making Tik Tok videos, you would have prioritized finding a good man, a husband to take care of you. But you're not doing that. So, of course, it's laughable.
>> Women are becoming more feminine. And so are men. There's been like an influx in girls who like pink. They're getting pink cars. Like, they're being more feminine. They want to be provided for. Like, I feel like this is like new.
>> Women are becoming more competitive. Women want to become the men that they want. Women are becoming more and more masculine. Ma'am, it doesn't mean that if they like pink, all of a sudden they're more feminine.
>> I feel like the men are also getting more and more feminine. So, I don't really know what's going on, what they're putting in the groundwater, but it's making everyone more female. I just saw a man walking with his girlfriend, his hand on her back with the sidewalk rule. I saw him get to their car, open the door for her, hand her her bag that he was carrying, and then walk around and get in the car. And this is the big problem that they don't understand. Instead of thinking how did she get a man like that, try thinking ma'am, how did she act in that relationship for the man to be as he is with her? Ma'am, have you ever thought about what the woman is doing in order for the man to be like that? No. You just think that all women deserve to be treated like that. Even if you act like [ __ ], even if you're very masculine and loud and annoying.
>> Look, I think you're really nice, but before we continue dating, I need to know your bank account and salary. I just need to know that I'm not wasting my time. Yeah, I have no problem doing it. First, I need you to show me your baby pictures and to take your makeup off. I need to make sure the interior matches the paint job.
>> Wow.
>> Are you accusing me of being plastic?
>> I'm natural.
>> It shouldn't be a problem, right?
>> But remember guys, women are more emotionally intelligent. Of course,
>> you're being so invasive. Like, this is so rude. I'm leaving.
>> Of course.
>> Okay. If a guy that you're dating or talking to is not massively elevating your life, literally, what are you doing? It's 2026. We are not just hanging out with guys or dating guys just to date a guy or have a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. Like, ew, no. We are leveling up. We are locked in. We have too many things to do.
>> Kim, I agree with you. But what are you doing in return? How are you leveling up his life, ma'am? Oh, you never thought about that because it's all about you. Because you're a narcissist. I get it now, ma'am. Okay. Okay. We're just going to skip this video because it's very stupid.
>> You're either really bad at math or you think you're going to win the lottery. Because in North America, 14% of men are over 6 feet. Take away the partner ones, that's 7%. So, your dating pool turns into a puddle. Oh,
>> and then account for the race, for age, for so many other criterias they have and you're left with less than 1%. And all the women in the in the USA that are looking for a man, all of them think they will get that 1%.
>> Oh my god.
>> And then everyone's vying for that. So if you go on the apps, the same 5 to 10% of men are getting all the attention. So, do you want to be like competing with everyone else for the tall guy when we know height does not predict relationship happiness or stability? It doesn't matter. You are operating from your ego. It's not going to be a
>> But remember guys, they always say that women's intuition is always right. That's why there are so many single mothers in this world.
>> Soul connection. You want something that looks good on paper or makes you feel validated. You are allowed to leave a good guy if you're not happy. And I think a lot of women need permission to hear that because I
>> exactly like the first woman is is another future cat lady. Guys,
>> I think somewhere along the way we learn that if he's nice, if he has a good job, if he checks out the boxes, then we should be grateful and we should stay. But being good on paper and being good for your life are not the same thing.
>> You can leave the nice guy if you want. Nobody cares. It's a free country. But maybe maybe if you don't actually like the nice guy and you want toxic men, maybe you should learn that from the start and not waste the nice guy's time. Ma'am, that's all we're saying. We all know that you like the toxic bad boys.
>> And if you've communicated your unhappiness and you've tried and there's something inside you that still wants more, more joy, more aliveness, more happy.
>> Yes. That's that's called delusion, ma'am. It's the delusion from inside of you.
>> Happiness, more partnership. It's okay to listen to that because if you think about it on the flip side, would you want someone to stay with you because you're kind, you have a good job, you check all the boxes, or would
>> Yes, ma'am. There are so many men in this world that grew up thinking that if they do everything right and if they're nice and if they do everything for their woman and if they get a good job, they will get the woman that they want. And now they're finding out that women like you will never be happy no matter what the guy does, no matter how nice he is. Don't be the simp that she settles for. We're just going to skip this video because it's very stupid. There was one story. It is heartbreaking. These streamers go by the name Ten and Kaid.
>> This man gave up everything for the person he loved and what happened next will break your heart.
>> Ten was the number one Valerant player in the whole world. And so Tens and Kaidde began to date. Well, Kaidde got cancer and Tans put his entire career on hold. Retired from everything to take care of this chick. And because they couldn't see Tens anymore, that whole viewership went to go support Kaid. Tens was like seen in her background all the time bringing her snacks, supporting her fully in her career. Kaidde became very popular streamer very quickly and she goes into remission. The moment that she recovered from her cancer, she leaves this guy immediately and gets plowed by one of
>> another story. Exactly like the previous one of the nice guy. He did everything for her and she left
>> of his friends.
>> I saw a girl on here say that the best revenge is to never be like them. The best revenge that you can have after a breakup. Remaining true to yourself and loving yourself more than they did. Reclaim your power back.
>> So deep, ma'am. So deep. Especially when I can see that you're reading it from somewhere else. You didn't come up with that and you couldn't even remember that without reading reading it from somewhere. We're just going to skip this video because I really don't care what she has to say.
>> Commitment broke my heart too many times to do it again. So, look, I always been that type of the girl who falls in love first and who falls harder. So, I was dating with a man like for a few months. The wedding bells were ringing hard in my head. So I was searching for signs of commitment where eventually both of us were saying yeah we don't date each other blah blah blah still not calling it relationship kind of not dating each other so I was like yeah it's my boyfriend I cannot tell it's my boyfriend but it's my boyfriend kind of and it was ruining me each [ __ ] time because what
>> ma'am if you keep attracting toxic man after toxic man after toxic man or player or whatever men that don't want to be in a serious relationship with you who is the common denominator. It's always you. Now guys, just think about it. The next guy that wants to date her has to deal with all her [ __ ] and all her trauma from previous relationships. Trauma that she made herself. Trauma because she was attracted to a certain type of guy that does that didn't want to commit to her. And now the the next guy has to deal with that. Why? This is why I tell you guys never date women like this because they're broken and you can't fix them. Guys, we're just going to skip this video because it's very stupid.
>> I have been dating for the first time in my life at 31. And every time I tell people that, they're like, "Are you okay?" Because this is probably the worst age to be dating. I wanted to tell you guys the mantra that has been helping me get through awkward. When you hear a woman talking about mantra, you need to ignore everything after that, guys, because nothing that she says will make logical sense. It's all about feelings and auras and chakras and energies. Yeah, we're just going to skip this video, guys, because the alignment of the moons is not right right now.
>> Let's talk having kids in your 30s. Now, a bit of context about me is that I am 33 and I don't have any children, but I do have a dog. I have never really wanted to have children. And I thought by the time I reached 33 that I would definitely want to have children, but I still feel like I haven't done everything that I want to do for myself and on my own. When will be that time? When will I want to actually have children? Ma'am, just because you prioritize everything else in your life, don't expect at 40 when you realize that you want children to actually find a good guy that will marry you, ma'am. And don't start making Tik Tok videos at 40. Where are all the good men? Because you prioritized other things besides those good men when you when you were in your prime. Ma'am,
>> I do think that I want that, but I'm just like so confused as to when I will actually think, "Wow, yeah,
>> I know when you will want that, ma'am." After men stop giving you attention. When when men stop giving you attention, you will freak out and you will say, "Oh my god, it's time for me to to find a husband and have children." And then it will be too late, ma'am. Now you still see that you have options. Now men still pay attention to you. And because you're delusional, you think that you have lots and lots of time, ma'am. But you don't.
>> I would really love to have kids now. I do think that the pressure is not as intense as it maybe was a few years ago, which is a good thing and is progress. But I do still feel like there is still that people still think that if you don't have children then you are kind of unfulfilled and that gosh she must not be happy cuz she doesn't have children which is like it couldn't be further from the truth. No ma'am. When I see you at 33 without any kids, without any boyfriend, any husband, anything, I think there must be something wrong because otherwise a guy would have married you, ma'am. But you couldn't attract the guy that you wanted, the guy that you wanted to have kids with. Why couldn't you attract a guy like that? Because there is a problem with you, ma'am.
>> I got a lot of messages asking me for advice, and so I'm going to read one of those now. As mature women, we try our best to connect with men that may seem competent, but they seem to be consumed by this notion that there are plenty of fish in the sea. For example, I spoke to this man for a year. During our first meeting, I told him that I'm only speaking for the intention of marriage, and he said that he was serious and wanted to proceed further. A couple of months went by and he didn't care to mention me to his family, saying it's too soon. When he visited with his sister nine months into the talking stage, he didn't even bother to introduce us. When
>> Okay, so you saw the red flags. You knew that guy wasn't taking you seriously. Why did you stay? Why didn't you leave at the first red flag? Another woman that doesn't want to take accountability. They all see the red flags. Oh my gosh, the the guy is lying to me. So what? Oh, but men shouldn't lie. Okay, but you're not living in a fantasy land. We're living in reality. In reality, there are bad people. There are people that lie to us. So what are you going to do? Are you going to hope that you just meet somebody that will never lie to you? No. It's your duty to know how to spot the red flags, to know how to spot liars because we we were not living in a Lulu land. We're living in reality and people lie and people cheat.
>> When I questioned his motives, he said, "We are not exclusive yet." When I questioned him again, he said, "I'm immature."
>> Why did you have to question him again? Why didn't you leave at the first red flag? And now, why are you complaining about that guy when you saw the red flags and didn't leave? You're the stupid one. You're the one that got hurt, not him. I swear, guys, they have no accountability.
>> Sure. And block me. Keep in mind, this is a man in his 30s. Just because men are successful doesn't give them the right to play around with our emotions. What is your take on this scenario? If you want to use this as an example to demonstrate a point on maturity, I don't mind. I want my story to come across so other girls don't face the hurt I went through.
>> She doesn't even realize that she's the problem. There will always be bad people in this world. You can't expect everybody to not cheat, to not lie, to everybody to be to act right. You can't expect that if you expect that you're delusional. So who will keep you from getting hurt? You. Superman isn't coming to save you. You have to save yourself. I swear, guys, they they have such a low IQ. Anyway guys, hope you enjoyed this video and I'll see you on the next.