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What I'm seeing is an identity crisis among women. None of them seem to know who they are. I'm 32 years old and I still don't know who I am.
You may have noticed that there's a big problem among wives and girlfriends. They're getting into commitments with men and then just like that, they no longer know who they are suddenly and they need to go and find themselves and and suddenly they're having an identity crisis. They look in the mirror and they don't know who that person is anymore. And since that is the case with so many of them, it's clear commitment causes the modern woman to fall apart. They don't seem to be built for it. And you know, I'm not I'm not just saying this. It sounds crazy, I know, but these are their words, not mine.
I don't know if I'm going to actually post this because this is super vulnerable for me and I'm a pretty open person. But earlier this year, I told my husband I wanted a divorce. And this would probably shock a lot of my friends and my family because I hadn't told anybody. I walked myself through the logistics of where would I live, how would we split the time with the kids, who gets the dog, where all of those things. Okay.
About a week ago, I made a video about declining birth rates. And I mentioned that even among the children that are being born, many are growing up in a broken home. And when you dig into it, and I say you dig into it, but it's it's very obvious. A vast majority of divorces are initiated by women. And we're told that's because, well, men are awful. Men are abusive. They're emotionally [ __ ] They're disloyal. But that narrative does not hold up. A man doesn't have to cheat. He doesn't have to be toxic or even fail in his duties for a woman to leave him. A lot of the time it's completely out of his hands and it and it comes down to her, you know, values. And for most women, whether they realize it or not, those values are shaped by feminism. Modern women in marriage, it just doesn't work out. Modern women in marriage go together like Israelis and Palestinians.
I feel like I have been searching for something in my relationship that we don't have for the whole time we've been married, which has been 10 years. I there is not a single thing about my husband in and of himself that I do not love. Let me be very clear about that. He is the most self-disciplined, loyal, hardworking, good person that you could meet on this planet. And that is probably the reason that is the reason why I have not left.
So at at least she's honest about it. Most women won't admit it. You know, they'll they'll package it a little bit differently. Not a lot differently, but just a little bit. What they won't say is, uh, he's a great guy, but I'm done. So, they'll leave out the the the the fact that he's great. And they'll say, well, I just I'm unhappy. I need to go I need to go find myself. I don't feel seen. I deserve better or whatever. or, you know, they'll just go cheat and then pretend it was all very, very complicated. They don't really have the internal structure for family duty or endurance. And so, you know, they chase feelings and then they'll go and mistake boredom for crisis. And then, you know, everything just kind of falls apart at their own doing. And I I've had to dissect my own worldview intensely since I started this channel and even, you know, long before that. But if you've been watching, you know, you probably already see where that's leading me. Our relationship and what my expectations are for my marriage and what they always happen are not met, right? Which I don't know if anybody's are. The reason that pushed me to even bring up divorce and talk about it was the fact that I feel like I don't I can't be myself with my husband. And it's really confusing because I'm 32 years old. I am a mom of three and I still don't know who I am. So, for me to be like, "Oh, I can't be myself or you don't love me for who I am." isn't really fair because I don't know who I am. I'm figuring that that out every day.
All I'm hearing is this is a her problem. So, she said she feels like she can't be herself with her husband, but they've been together for 10 years. It doesn't really make any sense, and she's 32 and still doesn't know who she is. Yeah, that sounds like a you problem. So yeah, a lot of times it it's completely out of a man's hands. It just comes down to the woman and and her mindset. Most of these women, they don't really have a a solid foundation to operate off of. I mean, other than feminism, and that is their foundation, no doubt about it. And you know, we constantly hear about a male loneliness epidemic. But but what I'm seeing is an identity crisis among women. None of them seem to know who the [ __ ] they are. At some point, they're going to wake up and forget their own names. It's like they've all got early onset dementia. It's really having its way with these broads.
Imagine walking in to a a povertystricken area in the Philippines. There's trash everywhere. 10 people shacked up in one small place. and and and going to them and trying to explain the concept of an American woman with three kids, great husband, living in a nice house, threatening to blow it all up because she doesn't know who she is.
I love Ryan. He is the best father. Okay. I just need to learn how to explain what I need from him in our relationship and he needs to be able to give that. and I need to be doing the same for him so that we can both like in 10 years from now, in the next 10 years, look back and say like we put in the work and we finally have the marriage and the relationship that we have always wanted and that is what I want.
So her husband needs to give her what she wants after she explains it to him. Um, whatever that means. But the clip ends, she later mentions that they're going to be going to Cancun to finally do their vows since they never did them originally. And the whole reason this this clip here exists is because, well, she can't write those vows and she's having a breakdown. Probably because, you know, she doesn't even like this guy anymore. Um, but here's the thing. You know, the video's over. We've heard enough. So, I'll ask you, what is the problem here besides her? Like you want to know what would actually save this marriage? If she matured. If overnight she went from having a a childlike mind to being an adult who is not a slave to her emotions. If she walked up to her husband and she said, "You know, I've done some thinking. Turns out I finally found myself and I'm ready to be a good, dedicated, beautiful wife to you. Just like you've always been a good, dedicated, beautiful husband to me. I take seriously what we committed to because I value the bond we have. And I reject the modern instinct to chase novelty over commitment." That that's what she needs to do. And and the marriage will be saved. But until then, this this entire marriage issue, it's all her. It's all her.
But of course, very few women will actually do that because it's highly unlikely they'll come across a message like mine. And it's very likely they'll come across a message like this one instead. So, right here, and by the way, this woman in this video here that I reviewed actually filed a claim with YouTube to try and get my video taken down, which failed. They said, "No, it's fine. We're going to leave it up." Apparently, by responding to her ridiculous opinions, I was undermining her credibility as a coach and hurting her business. That's what she said. Isn't that hilarious? So, this is what happens when women finally get called out for splitting up families. Have a look right here.