SECRET OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE (PART B)

[Music] This is Jesus Evangelical Assembly, the House of Answered Prayers. God has called Reverend David As Sossa Isaiah to preach the message of genuine repentance, effective prayers, and soul-winning to this generation. As you listen to this message, may the power in the word of God transform and bless your life in Jesus' name. Amen.

[Music] In the last week, we looked at Part One of the Secrets of an Irresistible Wife. We will now attempt to shed light in that direction. The tips are available. Please, we encourage us to have them and also send some to your loved ones because it's just a message, not just for wives, but also for couples.

First, we were able to identify the first three points: that the irresistible wife treats her husband as the most important person in her life. She treats her husband as the most important person in her life. And secondly, we found out that the irresistible wife is very respectful of her husband, very respectful of her husband. And while looking at that, we began to also see that she is not just respectful, she is peaceful with her husband. She is peaceful. She is not hostile. She is not abusive. She is not given to nagging and confrontation. She makes herself and the home a place of love, of peace, and rest for the husband, so the man consistently looks forward to being with the wife. He looks forward to coming back.

And thirdly, we found out that the irresistible wife offers her husband explosive and unconditional sexual pleasure. That single statement is loaded with many powerful words: not just sexual pleasure, but explosive sexual pleasure, unconditional sexual pleasure. That part of the message was delivered just as a summary, and the reflex of the message was [Music] reserved for the married women to have some time together and have an exposition. And four questions were given to them. The four keys were mentioned to them, and they were asked to go wherever they are. They can always form a group of four friends, even from wherever we're listening to this message, could always sit, listen to the four points, and ask questions.

However, we've got a lot of feedback, and we thank God for the insight on this third point. Someone who is professionally trained, professionally trained as a sex therapist, and has had the privilege of a very wide range of interaction with different people from different parts of the world, emphasized something that we should be able to also put across here. He said, when it comes to explosive sexual pleasure skills in lovemaking, it has, it doesn't necessarily have to do with experience. And that expert said there are thousands of wives from different parts of the world who have been married for 30, 40 years, and they know very little when it comes to giving their husbands pleasure when in lovemaking. And these are people exposed to their husbands on a weekly basis for 30, 40 years. So the expert said it's not necessarily by experience. And he said also that it has very little to do with exposure. There are some women she has also interacted with who had very wide exposure, but there was nothing special about what they were doing. And eventually, they had to come to learn those skills from that quarter.

So, what is the way forward? It's just like cooking, as mentioned in the message. This thing has to do with skills. And he said the good news is that these skills can be taught by highly knowledgeable persons. And the person said, fortunately, we have many of them in the Lord today. God has really saved a lot of people, people who have had all kinds of backgrounds, exposure, and understanding. And today, fortunately, they're in the Lord. And really, the Lord so such people are available to marriage counselors from different churches to teach them, to share with them these skills that give predictable responses and outcomes. And such should be shared with not only with the married but also with those engaged. But it should be delayed to the week before their wedding because the teachings are so explosive that if, uh, some singles hear it, it's too early in courtship, it could lead to certain things. So when it is Monday to this wedding on Saturday, from that Monday, they can begin to teach them. So they are explosive teachings.

So I also want to emphasize to all our daughters who are yet to be married, please do not listen to any, uh, any deceptive subjection from anywhere. We have a lot of women have been deceived with all kinds of information. Some virgins have had to, you know, expose themselves just based on what they heard from some friends. Some people even told them that if you remain a virgin, you may even get mad. You're many virgins, you'll have cancer, you'll remain invented, this will happen, you know. So people have been fed with wrong information. It has nothing, very little to do with exposure. And that expert was telling me, sharing with us, that there are some professions, there are some experts who know these skills that when, for instance, those these young ladies that have been trafficked, was just given that instance that the young lady that are trafficked, that a lot of them were even innocent young young ladies, but the moment they got to those destinations, those experts teach them the skills, and that within six months, they become experts. So it implies that exposure is not, is not a prerequisite. Experience does not make a difference. What is important are the skills, and these skills can be taught, and they will be taught at the appropriate time. So please, all our single sisters, preserve yourself for your dean husband, preserve yourself for that man that God has ordained for you, and, um, your marriage will be the very best in the name of Jesus Christ. Can we hear amen?

So, number four. Now, I also want to point out here that we, we're prayerfully handling this message, and it's quite interesting the way the message is being passed across. And when the Lord started with us, he sat, he didn't go straight to talking about the attributes of the irresistible woman. How did he start? First of all, by talking about familiarity, and how the natural tendency of familiarity, you know, is exhibited from time to time to people, especially to people we have, we are close to. And on record, wives are the greatest casualties of this negative phenomenon of familiarity. But the good news is that there are women and wives who remain irresistible throughout the years of their marriage. And then he went further to tell us to give us some insights about some men, men who are married, who are, who have found themselves in rest, and have wives that are irresistible to them. And we defined it in a different way. We gave an example that sometimes you hear people say that man is muddling love with his wife, and we ask the question, why will people come to that conclusion? There are certain things they see about that man concerning that wife that makes them make that conclusion. So we now began to look at some of those common attributes. And I understand that as that part of the message was coming up last week, some of the wives asked the men around them to be scoring themselves marks. And I hope they are. We have husbands who scored up to nine over ten. Praise here the Lord.

And then we went to the three-point, the third point. Now today, we want to look at the fourth, the fourth point. The secrets of the irresistible wife: she's satisfied with her husband and faithful to him. We emphasized something last week that there's a big difference between an irresistible woman and an irresistible wife. It is much easier to be an irresistible woman to someone, so some man somewhere. It could even be a married man. And it's on record that many ladies who were irresistible to certain men when they were singles, when they got married, they didn't remain irresistible to their husbands. So there are two different fields entirely. Some of the traits and attributes could be found on both sides, but there are clear distinctions. Any woman can be an irresistible woman to some man somewhere. In fact, you can be an irresistible woman to a particular man, but by the time you get married to him, you may not remain irresistible. One of the points and attributes that separate an irresistible wife from an irresistible woman out there, an irresistible mistress out there, is that for the wife, she's satisfied with her husband. She's faithful to him. This woman is wise enough to know the destructive consequences of infidelity. Let us please open to Proverbs chapter 14. Please open to Proverbs chapter 14. Just one verse. Proverbs chapter 14, verse one. The Bible says, "Every wise woman, every wise woman builds a house, but the foolish plucks it down with her hands." With her hands. Who are these kind of women that are qualified as wise women? In the last week, the Spirit may declare to me, said a wise woman is the kind of woman that takes this message as a treasure. He said, a wise woman, if she has two of these messages, maybe irresistible wife and irresistible husband, she may not even bother to listen to the message on the irresistible husband. Her principal concern is to discover the attribute of an irresistible wife. He said, but an unwise woman may not even listen to this message. And if she manages to listen, she will be asking ahead of time, "When will they preach on the qualities of an irresistible husband?" And that is out of her confrontational attitude. "When will they preach?" Listen to the woman by your side and say, "Woman, can the men please turn and say, ask them, woman, have you asked that question already?" He said, "Every wise woman." So there are some women that are wives, some women are wise. They understand the secrets of an irresistible wife. They apply it diligently. They apply it diligently. These are secrets that have been on ground for over 200 years. Those who have put them to practice on that consistent basis, they get the same result. She's wise enough. She knows the destructive consequences of infidelity, so she doesn't toy with it. A wise woman recognizes that a man that is so madly in love, who could use that word, all over her, could do anything for her, who buy anything for her, she knows that that same man, it will not take him more than one day to cut her off permanently from his life if he discovers that he is unfaithful to him, if he discovers. She knows the destructive consequences of infidelity, so she doesn't toy with it. She's not only faithful to her husband, she does not allow, she does not permit anything that can cause doubts about her faithfulness. She is not only faithful. Any circumstance or setting that will people will see her and they begin to wander and they begin to suspect, this kind of woman, she stays far away from such settings and circumstances. And in these times where the percentage of faithfulness in marriage has risen tremendously in the past, it used to had more to do with the men, but now the trend is changing, and the percentage has risen with married women, and it's also been observed that they are more secretive than the men. But for this woman who is an irresistible wife, she will choose rather to be faithful and committed to her husband than to be very smart and secretly unfaithful to her husband. She has a choice. Do you want to follow this negative trend where some wives are very smart and secretly unfaithful to their husbands, or you remain faithful and committed only to him? The woman and the wife that will remain irresistible to the husband will make that first choice any day. She understands that for a woman to remain irresistible to a man, he must first trust her to be faithful to him. So she recognizes that at his highest, the man will have a lot of trust in her, a lot of confidence and security in her. He understands that he's the only one that has an exclusive sexual asset to her. And it is from that foundation that that woman will eventually, that wife will eventually become irresistible to the man, along with these other qualities. She wants her husband to be the best he could ever be in life. Take note of that. But she is careful not to compare him with other men. Women that wives that are irresistible, they are satisfied with their husband. And when we say satisfied, not appear to be satisfied, they are satisfied with their husband. Because when a woman is not satisfied with her husband, in the day of anger, the secret of her heart will be revealed. She may have been telling him, "You are the best, with you I'm content for life," but in a day of rage, that same woman could just open up, and the truth will come out. "I have just been tolerating you. I've been tolerating you. I had the opportunity to marry other men. That is my mother that forced me to marry you." And a lot of things will be said at that point that cannot be retrieved once spoken. She wants her husband to be the best he could ever be in life, but she's careful not to compare him with other men. She does not compare him with her ex-friends if she had. She does not remind him of how she could have married someone else. Experts have said that when women tell their husbands things like this, it makes that man lose confidence in her, and with her, he has that impression that his wife is not the ultimate in the heart of his wife, that if she had the opportunity, she would have been happier getting married to someone else. And it will begin to influence his relationship with her. He wants to get so attached to her, but this thought will continue to scare him from that wife. Wives that are irresistible did not remind their husbands how they had many suitors. You could tell him when courtship. Once you get married, let that become history. But when 10 years after marriage, 15 years after married, 20 years after marriage, you still remind your husband, "Where we, thank God for Christianity. For Christianity, or sometimes maybe one of those men shows up on television and is in a high position today. I see this guy. Lord, let me rest. Don't let me. Yes, for unilak, allow me to rest. When I was in Ife, it was all over me. He was ready to die to marry me." Why must you keep on talking about it? Why?

So, number five: She is very loyal and supportive of her husband. She is very loyal and supportive of her husband. We have had some husbands in pain in the transition of their wives declare repeatedly that they are finished. The man says he's finished. He says, "I have no body anymore." And he's speaking out of the convictions of his heart. That wife had played up herself to become a strong pillar of support to that man. She's a pillar of support to the husband. She's very committed to his success, very committed to his success. And not just the husband's success, also the children's success. It has been proven that that also affects how a man will rate his wife. Men will husbands would always love a wife that is not just a friend to them, a wife to them, but also a mother figure to him and to the children. So she's loyal to him. She does not snub him when he's down. She does not abandon him when he's down. She's not a fair-weather wife. She's patient with him. She does not issue her husband deadlines. "And if you don't get a job before December this year, it will be a different story." She's tolerant of him, tolerant of his faults, tolerant of his weaknesses, but she quietly prays and takes other steps to find a solution to those weaknesses. She does not tackle it in a confrontational attitude. She is a very aggressive solution finder for the home, very aggressive. Some pastors are beginning to observe that unlike what happened 20, 30 years ago, when women go out in the place, at the places where they have their spiritual solution, their number one prayer request is for the husband, followed by the children, then personally comes next. But quite a number of pastors are beginning to observe that anytime some of the wives come to them for a prayer, when they do it, it really has to do with the husband's progress. It really has to do with the husband's breakthrough. If it's not about them, it's about the children. And this is a very negative trend because it has to do with the church. So the, the irresistible wife is very aggressive in finding a solution to the needs and challenges of her husband. These are the little things that endear a wife to the heart of the husband, and no matter what he sees outside, no matter the kind of woman he meets anywhere, that man remains committed to that woman because he's always conscious of how far she goes to make sure that he succeeds and that's well with him in life. She's a helpmate to him in whatever sense that he needs it, and she assists him in finishing his goals, his projects, his aspirations. She's there for him to support him. Praise God.

Now, if we want to, we could have taken this separately, but I'm persuaded to just link it up with that fifth point. In order for a wife to be very supportive of the husband in this present time, and this is a global phenomenon, in this present times, she would also have to be a productive woman. The economy globally has, um, has changed compared to what we had, uh, decades ago. The times where a wife just takes money from the husband every month for the upkeep of the home and for every need in the house, those days are over. And I've advised our wives that even if your husband wants it that way, don't allow it to be so. Make yourself productive. You can remain a housewife, but from home, have investment. That same husband, in his day of crisis, and he has to look for money from somewhere, and a friend comes to support him, a relative comes to support him, and the wife has not a single cupboard to contribute, it will, it will, it will be noted. But even the day of storm, that wife that he gives money regularly, unknown to him, that she has been quietly investing it, she uses a part of it, and she's been invested. So on the day of trouble, in the time of crisis, he discovers that this same woman tells him, "Well, I have this," and she makes some contribution. And when she sees the situation is still there, she even volunteers to sell some of her investments. I want to let you know that from that point, that woman's value would have increased and multiplied in the heart and the sight of the husband. The men in the house, am I saying something here? Two is better than one, not just for the sake of keeping the body warm. He said, if one falls, what will happen? The other will lift him up. So support is very key. Wives, may you be there to support your husband, not only emotionally but also financially, in the name of Jesus Christ.

So the irresistible woman is an asset. There are some women today that their husbands cannot just get rid with them, get rid of them. You can't, you can't just get rid of that woman. She's an asset on her own. She stands, she stands on her own. Look at the Proverbs 31 woman, that is supposed to be our role model. Of course, the principal foundational qualities of character, morals, and were there, but she was also very industrious and prosperous. She had her own field. She had her own field. She bought land, bought property for herself. She was, she was solid, she was strong. So a woman, no wife should be a liability. It must never come to a point where, you know, you are now relating with your husband in what looks like it's a servant-master relationship. You must be an asset to your husband. You must be an asset to your husband. And, uh, wise women, they, you know, we talked about familiarity. There are certain things a wife would do that makes a husband begin to look down on her. Wise women avoid those things. Even if your husband is a multi-millionaire, there are some minor expenses you don't bring to him. You, you will lose respect, you lose honor, you lose value in his eyes. He may give you the money, but you lose value. So wise women know trouble. They want to buy, they told you to pay something in school, how much? Even two thousand, five times smaller amounts, they pick up the bill. And the heavy one, the bill that is heavy, they keep that one for the husband. When a woman comes to the husband, he pays bills in millions, and then for a bill over of just a few thousand for her own child, and she still tells them, "Wait for your papa, it will soon come." That woman, you are gradually losing respect. You lose respect in the eyes of that husband. So please, let us take note of these things. An irresistible woman is wise. She's a good manager of money, good manager of money. Every woman must have that attribute. She can manage resources, she can manage money, she can multiply resources. Like we said, the problems that one woman is an embodiment of godliness, but she was also very, very industrious and productive. So the wife is a supportive woman. She is loyal to him. And also in terms of support, some experts, marriage experts have also advised that our wives should deliberately show interest in the things their husbands love most. Things like football, things like current affairs. Begin to show interest. When it gets to a point where your husband has gone far and he needs someone to constantly discuss such issues with, when he throws something at you, the reply that comes from you makes it looks as if you know, the marriage is not properly balanced. You just tell us, "Kofi Annan, we understand. Kofi Annan went to, uh, Syria, uh, to try and broker peace, but I see it doesn't seem to work." And the wife would say, "Who is that? Who is that Kofi Annan? Is he from Syria?" Never criticize or trivialize those things that your husband loves so much. Don't keep on telling him, "This football, this football, this football." Don't trivialize it. Don't criticize them, as long as it is not ungodly, don't criticize them.

And number six: She is very thankful and sincerely appreciative of her husband. Wives that are irresistible, they are grateful women. They are appreciative women. One of the reasons why some husbands became, we are repelled from their wives, is as a result of their sense of ingratitude. And some husbands complained bitterly that even when they made great sacrifices, some of them virtually gave everything that they had, said not a single thank you came from that woman. And like I said earlier, we have to be very careful as to the things we say in the days of anger. By the time a husband is committed to you as a wife, is faithful to you, and has given his all to that marriage, you, the children, and the home, and then in the day of anger, you tell him, "You have never done anything for me in this marriage," and this marriage has been on for years, you have, you have virtually killed that man. So gradually, from that point, the man begins to feel inadequate. He has a feeling that the woman is not, she doesn't even record with him, he's not, she's not satisfied, and she can never be satisfied. There is nothing I'm going to do anymore that this woman will appreciate. So he becomes repelled. He becomes repelled from that wife. So please, in your moment of anger, don't say or do something that will make you feel you don't value him at all. If at any time you have a difference with your husband, the next thing that happens is that you go into your room, bring out your boxes, and you are loading them. You are sending a message to him, and that part of that message is that, you know, you are ready to move out of the marriage. One of those things we mentioned that was the first point is that the woman, the irresistible wives make her husband have that ultimate sense of confidence and security in her in the marriage. So when you do the exact opposite, you begin to send a message to his brain that the devil is waiting to exploit. So our relationship expert advised in this direction. I said, these things when women should be very grateful, even for little things. Even when the budget is, uh, is 500,000, and your husband, after he has done all the running around, he could only produce 100,000, still appreciate him. Appreciate him. Thank him. Even though he couldn't get everything. The advice that you write him a letter occasionally, telling him how much you appreciate all he has been doing. And wives are encouraged to mobilize their children from time to time to go and thank their father. It has a lot of impact on husbands when the children come, you know, to thank him for something that has been provided for them. He knows that there's no way they would have known, so that means the mother must have told them. So when that kind of thing happens, it sends a good signal to the husband. Mobilize the children to appreciate their daddy from time to time. And the experts also advise that wives should buy their husbands a thank you gift when there is no occasion for a gift to be given. Don't wait until it is this bad day. Don't wait until it is Father's Day. Don't wait until it is Valentine's Day. On a day that is of no special significance, the man just returns from work, and behold, there's a gift. And the first question he's going to ask is, "Who brought this?" Because he will not be expecting it from you. And then you could, some wives, because they said, "Go ahead and, no pun, I don't know." They just dropped it. And by the time he opens it, opens it, is, "I say, wow!" And he sees a note there from your dear wife. And then the expert said that appreciate them anytime they go the extra mile. Appreciate them even more when your husband, you observe that your husband is really going out of his way to make that particular need in the home available. Appreciate him even more. These are the little secrets that make a wife irresistible eventually to the husband. And they also advise that you must be associated with mercy. You must be associated with mercy. You see, when you are thankful and you are grateful for little things, that is an attribute that is associated with good-natured people. So every wife that deserves to be irresistible must be associated with mercy, be associated with compassion, be associated with reconciliation. Don't help to break the relationship between your husband and his family, even when he wants to. Don't assist him to cut off from his relatives. Don't discourage him when he wants to support members of his family. Be associated with mercy. Be associated with compassion. One of the things that also makes a wife [Music] have a problematic marriage is when people that are close to the husband and that family begin to have a negative impression about her. So she's a wicked woman. If people are not careful, that my, that woman will kill, will kill our brother. When they begin to see a wife as wicked, as cruel, as vindictive, that is a time bomb waiting to explode. So every wife, especially I'm talking to Christian women, be associated with mercy. They are saturated compassion. Be associated with forgiveness. Be associated with compassion and reconciliation. If you have a problematic husband, pray for God to change him, not for God to finish him. Pray because all kinds of prayers are going on now. So every man does not behave, that will not change, will be changed without praise of death prayers. So God will help us.

Irresistible wife, number seven: Makes herself, she consistently makes herself very attractive to her husband. She consistently makes herself very attractive to her husband. What number is this? What number is this? What number? [Music] Before seven. How many numbers do you have? Six numbers. It's important, but it shows you that they are greater, more important than weighty issues. It's number seven here on the list. Shows you why a woman can be a beauty queen and she can never have a lasting marriage when any of those six points mentioned earlier are not taken seriously and applied. Number seven will be a tice play and it will have no effect. It may work when we are talking about irresistible women, but when talking about an irresistible wife, those other qualities, one, two, three to six, confessed before physical beauty. However, it is important. So the irresistible wife, she's wise according to Proverbs 14. She recognizes that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. And what does that imply? She is more concerned about the taste of her husband than the current trend. Maybe your husband's friends, they like their wives to be slim. That doesn't mean you must be slim like their wives. The really irresistible wife understands that it is not the taste of her husband's friend that matters, but the taste of her husband. So she is very sensitive to her husband's style. She is very sensitive to her husband's preference. They go out sometimes and they meet some of their old schoolmates. "Ah, you're doing well and everybody, but you know, you need to make your dressing a bit, a bit more trendy. You need to make, and all these, uh, use some serious makeup, man. Wear some of these things." Sometimes, and you know, do you know the way old girls talk? If the taste of old girls is contrary to the taste of your husband, ignore their taste. A wise woman is concerned about the style of her husband. The preference of a husband is the one that you want to keep attracted to you, not those other people. So the wise woman is sensitive to discover. She wants to discover his taste, his colors. What are his favorite colors? If you observe that your husband doesn't like black, black, and any time he sees somebody wearing black, like we associate them with the devil, so that man must be a devil. You don't, you don't, you don't adopt black, black. Avoid it as much as possible because every time you see someone wearing black, black, he will ask them, "And somebody died?" If that is the understanding of your husband about black, black, be careful. But you observe that he loves certain colors. Any time you wear any of those colors as his wife, there is always a complementary remark. A wise woman will take note. When she's making orders, she factors in that color in the order she's making for new clothing. And the same thing applies to female dress style. Whatever is that, there's some, there's some husbands that don't really, it's not so crazy about English words. They just like to see that their wife in that complete Ebola type, complete, uh, ethnic attire, complete, uh, Yoruba attire. Some, they have never traveled abroad, but they are crazy about Western dress style. They don't have an international passport, but if your wife wears a native attire, they become crazy. "Come on, you look like a bush woman. Are you from the village? You want everybody to know? I've never traveled." So if you observe that the man's preference is for her to look trendy, to look sharp like some of these single sisters, then keep to that preference of your husband. Keep to that preference. So she also watches her different hairstyles. There are some hairstyles that a woman would wear and the husband would say, "This hairstyle looks like big snake." Now they tied on the head, it looks like big snake. So everybody likes it. Everybody outside likes it. I'm the one that will sleep on the bed with you. This looks like, all you hear that, uh, some of your friends are now having, you know, these are low-cut Grace Jones, and you just decide to also, yes, now this is a trade. Are you fired? By the time you arrive expecting compliments from your husband, is it last mother bob your head like [Music] did that catch you for breaking traffic offense? Poop up your head like this. This is wickedness. So look at yourself in the mirror. [Music] I'll find under you. Please. Praise God.

So she's sensitive to discover the preferences of her husband and she factors it in her body shape. [Music] And you know, that is why we said it is a dynamic thing. There are some husbands, some years back, that was their preference, but now is different. A wise woman flows with the presenters of her husband. Perfume. The experts were saying that those women out there who are competing consistently with married women for their husbands, they take note of even little details as the man's preference of female perfume. So the day the man ever says, "I love this perfume you are wearing," it is noted. Any day they will be with him, they will wear that particular perfume. So you discover that it's not really about the woman's preference of perfumes. She still can wear what she wants, but times where you want to please him, you want to just make him feel cool with himself, you should be able to factor that in as well. So she avoids the things that he strongly dislikes as much as possible. She does not take her physical beauty for granted after marriage. She takes very good care of herself. Genesis 12:11, Genesis 24:16. Listen to this. She looks younger than her true age. However, you are going to achieve it, whether it's with the help of Mary Kay and the rest of them, but she looks younger than her true age. She looks younger than her husband, even though she may be older. There's no problem with that, provided she's humble and she's, she's respectful. But she must not look older than the husband. It becomes embarrassing. A time will come, he will not be so happy taken out. He won't be happy presenting her to the world as his wife. So wise women ensure that they consistently look younger than their husband. And the solution is to work on yourself, not to make him look older. You don't make him look older to balance it. She looks her best. She dresses to honor him. She dresses to honor him. She makes him proud to be seen with her. We have seen cases where a couple go out and the husband is so well-dressed, and the wife just brings out anything. By the time they get to the occasion, he said, "Go ahead, go ahead, and they come." He pretends as if he's taking something. There's nothing to take on the car. "Go ahead, go. I'm coming. I'll meet you. Go with the children." You know, she makes him proud to be seen with her. She's always neat and well-kept. Her hair well-kept, including the smell of her hair, including the smell, her armpit. Is it bad when you see a man raise up his armpit and you see some, you know, some forest there? But for for a lady and someone's wife, I don't think that is a, is complimentary. So she should be clean. Her nails, body smell. In that way, I remember some years back, a pastor was sharing how he was driving on the road and two women were fighting. Well-dressed women, looking like sophisticated women, at least from the outside. And they started fighting. They fight, and people, the people here, we have vicious people. They allow them to continue fighting. And before you know it, they tore, they tore their outer clothing. And the reason he mentioned it was, he said, if it was just one of the two women, I would have not, I would have ignored it. But I did too. See what they were very inside, very, very, you know, he had uncomplimentary words compared to all the beautiful, whatever outside. So in that way, as she takes care of herself, she does not tolerate any foul smell at all. Listen to this. A wife must never allow her husband to associate her with any type of smell, any type of smell. And I want to say something here. You know, we started this journey by looking at familiarity. What? Avoid things that will make your husband see you in that light. There are things you could do freely, don't do it. Your husband is an African. You can be sleeping on the roof in the room there, that is his room. And then before you know, yeah, no. And then you, you assume that you, you know, that is the end. So you tolerate it. And then before you know it, it's like that is even worse than what Boko Haram could do. And now, now you don't, you don't get angry. You don't get angry and challenge him to a fight in that, in that, in that direction. You know, don't ever get angry and tell him and show him that if you can also do the same thing. Don't ever, don't ever try it. Don't ever, don't ever, don't ever try it. So why wise women, even when they want to just fast, they leave the room for the quick, just go to the restroom and then they release it there and then they come back. And, and you see wise women when they use the toilet, they flush immediately. Don't wait until you are through before you flush because as a flush, just be flushing consecutively so that as you are delivering your flush, so there is no room for the smell to gather. Or else, by the time your husband enters that same, and they will not look at your beautiful face. I said, "Are you dead? Are you doing this one? This is not fair. Oh, this is unfair." So don't ever allow your husband to associate you with any kind of smell. Don't ever. You have had a very hectic day and you know you are, you know you've perspired so much, and the husband wants to, "Hello, how are you?" You just avoid him and quickly go and take a shower. He will embrace you, and that, you know, unpleasant smell will register. It will register. These are little, uh, secrets. And, you know, a woman, wise women, they remain feminine to the husband. Even if you are a police woman, you are a soldier, to keep him at least with him, be feminine. Cry, even if you are not, if you are not moved once, don't behave too hard. Don't be too high to him. So your compartment has to be stopped. Walk like a lady. Walk like a lady. Walk. Don't, don't lose any heart. My mother, don't come at you. Don't come. You are the first one to have four children. Your compartment matters. Your work, eating in public, it matters. There are some things you do at home, don't ask a wife, don't do it outside. If you're in the house, you can break chicken bone, quack, quack. [Music] You can suck it. Chicken for sucking. Don't go and try it at a women's convention. Don't try to make convention. Don't try it. You see, you, you can't, you can eat much, but do it discreetly. There are women that take up to four or four reps of panderia. Slim women, they take up to four, six reps upon that. Yeah, innocent, but they do it. They do it quietly. They go, once they take only one round. Hey, you have to say, "Are you there? Maybe? Are you coming? How are you? I hope you like the problem." And then finish it. They look, and then they go back again. They take the second one. Those are wise women. Before you know it, it's level four, level six. Now, don't just go. You don't now go as an unwise woman and carry a ball because all the four men that went ahead of you, you know, you saw that one, that one took five, the other one took four. So you, ah, everybody is doing it. So you go there and then you line up one, two, three, four. A why? So even if you are very strong, and your husband is not as, uh, physically, but as yourself, there are some things you don't do. We have seen cases where it happened even yesterday. Our day, first day at the pitch, I was just giving the trophy to Miracle House, and two men just carried their house coordinator up. And we have seen where they throw a coach up in jubilation. Now, if someday your husband is going to have some good, great news of a major victory, but there are some ways you must never celebrate. You don't, out of celebration, you don't carry your husband and throw. [Applause] You don't, you don't throw him up. You can't do it in the bedroom, but not publicly. [Applause] Because by the time you know, just don't ever act in a way that, you know, it's so obvious to everyone that you are stronger than your husband. So very soon, his friends will start telling him, "Oh boy, try keep some weapon for room. I guess the day of trouble, because they know one-on-one, he can't match you. Keeps on whipping or keep some people nearby. But the way I see this woman, she's stronger." And that is why a woman, a wife, a wise woman, even if you can do it among women, you know, republic of men, in the public where men are seated and they are looking for, I bought it to an opener for a bottled drink. Is it not Pepsi? I know brilliant. Without it, there are some things you don't do outside. Even if you do it at home, there are some women who play draft. Are you surprised? There are women who play, they are experts in drugs. Now, if you are that kind of wife, you can play draft, but don't go and play it in public places, not when your husband comes to the house. Help you say, "Hey, she don't go, she don't go, she don't go one corner." That place where everybody, all the men go and play, no. You don't play drafting. [Music] Oh, you know, you take snuff, you don't, you don't display it outside. You don't display it outside. If your husband does it, it is permissible, but not you as a wife. A wise woman, you know, does it, keeps that feminine outlook to the outside world. God will give us wisdom. This thing we are saying is a serious matter. It's a very serious matter.

So number eight: She's very hospitable. She's very sorry. She offers him the best of hospitality. She offers him the best of hospitality. She deliberately packages good food for him. She gives her husband what he wants to eat. She does not sentence him to one ruthless timetable. She gives him what he wants to eat. She presents delicacies to him from time to time. She makes the home very, very exciting and refreshing for the husband. Apart from regular meals, she ensures that, you know, little things like chops and all the little delicacies are packaged from time to time. She gives him the best when it comes to hospitality. There are some husbands, they are used to certain things from their mother's home. The standard must not become lower when they get married. They are so husbands when they are, when they have just malaria, and they will arrange for Pepsi for that, for that man, for that young boy, and he has grown up without habit till he gets married. So when he gets married, you have to ensure that you, you give him the best of hospitality. Give him what he wants. There's a time when someone is not just in the mood to eat regular food. Find out what he wants, and the best of the post that is available, makes something good for him. Women that are wise, they'll go out of their way to ensure their husband eats good food. Women that are not wise would tell, would just tell their friends and, and the rest of the world that, "Well, I don't know how to cook. I don't know how to cook, and there's nothing I can do about it. I can't kill myself." And they are not ready to do anything to learn. For the Bible to qualify you as a wise woman, they are setting conditions that must be met. [Music]

And number nine: She's a woman of dignity, sincerity, and honor. She's a woman of dignity. She's a woman of integrity. How you treat your closest friends as a wife, your husband is watching. [Music] How you treat your parents, your siblings, your husband is watching. If your husband observes that you are deceiving even the closest people to you, apart from himself, it begins to give him a warning signal that all that you are putting up before him is all nothing but pretense and deception. [Music] When you condemn someone in the bedroom and you go out with your husband and your husband sees you praising that same person, your husband takes note. Your level of sincerity is being observed by your husband. If you are cheating in the company where you walk, your husband is also noting. And that is why we tell our single sisters, on no grounds should you give in to that brother before your wedding. You come to a church where the real gospel is preached, and you are told that sex is for married couples, and wait for your day of wedding. I say, "Pastor, we heard. Thank you so much." You go for counseling, and then the next time you go with the pastor, the pastor tells the two of you, "Please ensure that you have nothing to do with sex, premarital sex. Wait until you are married."

Say yes, pastor. And the younger man says, "Yes, pastor." But when you are not in the pastor's presence, you are even the one that initiates it. I just want to let you know that that man will not trust you. When you get married, it will always register in his mind that this woman, this was a woman that used to deceive pastor, even pastor, when he was giving pastor the impression that he's not sleeping with anyone, she was doing it. So the moment that same man gets married to you and you travel somewhere and he has some cause to suspect what you did with you secretly in your days, of course, it will begin to give him some wild ideas. He will begin to assume that the same way you deceived your pastor by giving him that first impression is the same way you are deceiving him now as your husband.

But if you are that woman who will tell that man in courtship, "No way," and you know, instead, you walk out of him, he's almost breaking the culture, and you say, "Well, I'm ready. I love you. I accept you, and I feel content with this courtship. But if you are making this a condition, I'm out of it." Some of them will go to the instead of breaking the country to see whether you would you will come back and beg and compromise. When it now dawns on him that you are not ready, if that same man gets married to you, you have already laid a foundation of trust for yourself. It becomes easier for him to trust you when he is not there because he has that picture in his mind how much he, you know, pestered you for for intimacy, but you refused. You could have done it secretly and nobody would know, but you refused. So when you travel, when you are not with him, it's easier for him to trust you because you don't have a track record of secret sins.

You begin to wonder why people who steal, they don't, they don't give their loot to another thief. They look for someone honest because they know that, you know, because they know each person's secret. So you must be very, very careful in this, in this direction, in this direction. So it's a woman of dignity, a woman of sincerity, a woman of honor. And how you treat your parents. If you tell your parents, if your husband begins to see you talk to your parents and you promise them, you tell them, "Things have been rough. I have nothing," and he knows that presently you have and you could afford to give them something you have, you have given him an idea of your true colors. So the woman that's irresistible is a woman that is sincere, is a woman that has integrity. She keeps to her words. She's a woman of honor. She will not fight in public. She will not fight in public. She has shame because there are people who don't have shame. So there are many things she would not do in public. She, she's a woman of honor. And this goes a long way in building that pillar of trust.

And the last one is that she's a woman is that she believes in the spiritual and she applies it for the benefit of her home. If we ignore this point, then it will be obvious that we are not thoroughly vast with what is going on. There are many marriages that are broken today, not because the husband and the wife could not agree. Somebody somewhere used spiritual means to cause perpetual strife between that couple. So when you have a wife that does not believe in prayer, she does not recognize, you know, the essence of, she just feels that all that marriage needs is just love. The man loves me and I love him, so nothing will happen. She doesn't pray. She'll be surprised. Women that are irresistible and remain irresistible, they are spiritually minded women. In this present time, women are using different things to snatch husbands. You look at some of the local weeklies, I see some some dangerous adverts there, some spiritualist, and you see the kind of things they are advertising. So I have to, you know, charm to make your, to make the man love you, charm to make him drop heavy, to make him drop heavy, charm to make him do anything. You see all kinds of things written there. There are some women today, if a man sleeps with them once, it's a different story. From that moment, that man's heart will be turned towards her. If you are not prayerful, your husband who does not have such intentions can stray. The man does not have to look out for those things. They will come after him. In fact, he's even on record right now that a lot of the desperate women outside, they prefer married men. Maybe this is like maybe the singles, they, they tell them a lot of lies and stories, so they prefer married men. So the woman, the irresistible wife is a spiritually minded woman. She's a woman of prayer. She regularly prays for the husband. When things are getting out of hand, she will go beyond that point and seek prayers of agreement with her pastor for her husband's breakthrough. She prays regularly for her children. She prays regularly for the home.

Every woman prays for herself, but not every woman prays regularly for the husband. For the wise woman, she's spiritual. She fights her battles in the realm of prayer. We have said it clearly, the wise woman does not begin to embarrass the husband. Go to the husband's office and begin to look for the female secretary or look for his female boss or genius that she suspects and begin to embarrass them and then balance the husband. Whatever I have fears, she channels her anger in the right direction, in the place of prayer. And the prayer point, she raised a good prayer point. Lord, change the heart of my husband. Restore his heart back to me. You don't go in this spirit of fire, fire prayers. Are you, you also, you, you list your husband for prayer and the rest. Prayer point that, Lord, says this man will not change. I think we should, you should, you should withdraw him. Withdraw him from where? From this world. Withdraw him. Just withdraw him. Pray good prayers for your husband. Pray for business breakthrough. Pray for financial breakthrough. You know, one of the early secrets I discovered after my salvation and I was, you know, committed into the accessory ministry, I discovered that when you consistently pray for certain people without your knowledge and you pray, when you do that for up to three years, there is a way it happens. It's, it's mysterious. Those same people will become favorably disposed towards you. When you keep on praying for the good, for the progress of certain without their knowledge, and they won't know. So any wife that consistently prays for the husband, intercedes for his well-being, no matter how stubborn that man is, his heart shall be turned back to the husband if she persists in the place of prayer. No matter how enticing, seductive, that strange woman is, the woman will be cut off from the husband, and the husband will return back to her.

In closing, the spirit of the Lord said, irresistible wives can be jealous. Yes, they can be jealous. An irresistible wife can be possessive, but what is different about them is how they express their jealousy and possessiveness. The irresistible wife, rather than becoming confrontational, rather than becoming a spy, he enters the bathroom and you quickly take off his telephone to his handset to check up all his text messages. The ones that look a bit controversial, you forward them to your phone. Rather than become a spy, you befriend your husband's driver. Just be careful, not for anything, but just to be a spy. Every month he pays him a percentage amount. Every month, you also pay him ten thousand. He said, "Just hold this." And we did it. But then after a while, you review your agenda and you will now go. You tell me, see, I, we tell a woman, you tell me. An irresistible wife has no, no time for such frivolities. She understands that some husbands have who are not even looking after, looking after other women. They were pushed to a point where they eventually pulled out of their marriage and started going after other women because the wife was too jealous and possessive. And like we said earlier, we have found out that even in Christendom, some wives refuse to do what is necessary, and they also want to get angry when the husband begins to look at other women. Some husbands have complained that when they tell their wife to to wear some, some very, very seductive kind of inner wear, at least in the room, nobody sees it outside. Some have been rebuked by their wife, who would wear that, who, who will wear that? You take all this nonsense. All these young guys are doing now. You want to make me, you want to not told me to them. If a spirit has come inside, you cannot, he cannot touch me. He cannot touch me. If you are possessed and opposed to some husbands, have you told their wife, let's do it this way in love making and watch? Ah, do you think I'm a dog? Do you think I'm a dog? Give me structure anywhere. Don't try those nonsense with me. What are you, what is nonsense? Your own husband, don't try those nonsense. And then some have a husband, he has just been, they manage the first time, and then he, not too long, he comes again. You bulldoze. You are both, you are very bored. You are very bored. Come on, sleep tomorrow. Go to work, my friend. Go to work. And the man will beg. He will bear. Come back. He will back. I shall, shall mess. And tomorrow you begin to say that they said, they said, they saw him. They saw him with one lady outside here. You can do anything with your husband in the bedroom. What you wouldn't wear outside, wear in the bedroom. I will that by the application of these ten seats of wisdom, we'll begin to see a new dimension in our marriage.

You know, the next message that the Lord gave me, I know normally some of us will expect that maybe we would now, the next one should be the attributes of, of any resistance. No, no, no. The next message he gave, he said, "How to appreciate an irresistible wife." And certain things we have been mentioned. Sending things we have been passed across. That is why we, we really have to be careful. How to appreciate an irresistible wife? A woman that can fulfill these qualities that we've talked about in these two sessions, that woman deserves to be honored. That woman deserves exclusive attention and faithfulness of her husband. That woman deserves to be appreciated as regularly as possible. You cannot lay your hands on this kind of woman and be me to understand that there are some people that don't deserve to be married. That is part of the understanding that some people don't deserve to be married. Some are men, and some are women. You cannot have a woman that's manifesting selling these ten qualities and you beat her and you torment her. So if you, if we are to go by the wisdom of God, if our wives were to choose to apply what God has spoken to the letter, then the husbands begin to appreciate them. As a woman that fulfills these conditions truly needs to be appreciated, our marriage in our homes will be heaven on earth. Everyone that is watching us will want to be married. And I believe we are going there. I can't hear amen from many of you. Or do you prefer the old order? May God produce a new change in Jesus name. So we want to believe that in the last two weeks, we have learned something. We want to believe that God has imparted something. And in due time, we shall also look at that coming message, how to appreciate and honor an irresistible wife. May the Lord keep every marriage, keep every husband, keep every wife in the name of Jesus Christ.

I want us to pray for all the wives in the house. Let's pray for them. Let's pray for them. Let's pray for them. Let's honor them. Let's honor them by standing. Can the wives please come to the altar? Wives, please come to the altar. Let's pray for mothers. Let's pray for our wives. I thought at least one man will clap as they are coming out. Let's clap. Let's clap as they are coming out. Clap. Honor them. Let's celebrate them. Let's stretch our hands towards our mothers and wives. Let's pray. I want us to pray that God will bless them for all the good deeds, all the good seeds they have sown. Let's pray. Let us pray. Let us pray. Husbands, sons, and daughters, let us pray for the wives. Let's pray for our mothers that God will bless them, that God will keep them. Let us pray for them. Let us pray for them. The next thing that the Lord is talking about is that they should be appreciated. They should be honored. When a mother, when a wife begins to manifest these qualities consistently, it is of nothing but sincere and quality appreciation. Let's, let's pray that God will keep them. Let's pray for long life. Let's pray for good health. Let's pray that they will enjoy the fruit of the good seeds they have sown over time in Jesus name, we pray.

Next, I want us to pray that the Lord will increase his grace. Increase his grace upon them. Let us pray that God will increase his grace. Lift up your voice and begin to pray that God will increase his grace, the grace to manifest these qualities, the grace to manifest these qualities unconditionally, consistently, sincerely. Let us pray that God will multiply his grace, grace to keep on doing that which God has said is a proper thing. Let us pray that God will increase that grace upon their lives in Jesus name, we pray. I will expect the prayer to be more favored. Let us pray. It's a record that our women here, they meet every month to pray, and every time they pray, half of the time they spend in prayer, I spend praying for the husband. Today, we have the privilege to pray for them. Let's pray from our hearts. I want us to pray that in whatever they are doing today, let's pray that God will make them succeed. Let's pray that God will promote them. Let's pray that God will empower them. If they are not empowered, in times of crisis, there'll be very little they can do. So let us pray. Let's lift up our voice and begin to pray. Let's pray that the Lord Almighty will give them good success in every noble endeavor. Some of them are in business. Some of them are working. Some of them have started setting things. Let's pray that God will give them good success. That's what they have set their hands to do. Let us pray that God will give them good success. Let us pray that God will promote them. Let's pray that God will also elevate them. That we will celebrate their promotions. Let us pray for them. Let's pray that God will prosper them. God will empower them. That the Lord will empower them. Let us pray. Let us pray. In Jesus name, we have prayed.

I want us to pray as we started praying, it kept on coming to me that some of them are seriously discouraged. Some of them are seriously discouraged. And a woman will become discouraged when you begin to listen to this kind of message and you find out that you have been doing what God is saying we should do. Some people are going to begin to try to do these things for the first time. But how do you explain when a woman has been doing most of these things and she's never really appreciated by the husband? The husband has almost married another woman out there. I want us to pray. Let us pray because this is coming directly from the spirit. Let's pray that any of them that is presently discouraged, that the Lord Almighty will encourage them. That they will not pull out of those marriages, but they will stay, build those marriages and homes, and they shall eat the good that will come out subsequently. Let us pray. Let's lift up our voice and begin to pray. Let's pray. Any one of them that is depressed, any one of them that is discouraged, any one of them that has not been properly for the good seeds and sacrifices they have made in the America. Let us pray that the Lord will encourage them. And the Lord will encourage them. Let us pray. Let us pray. Everyone that has been doing it right over time, let's pray that they will not become weary as a result of negative responses. Let us pray for them. Let us pray for them. In Jesus name, we have prayed.

Finally, we are going to pray for our husbands and our fathers. Let us pray that it will be well with them. Let us, we are going to pray that God will move them higher. We're going to pray that God will empower them. I'm quite close to a lot of our fathers and husbands in the house, and I know they have good intentions. They have good intentions. It's just for God to give them that opportunity. And by the grace of God, that opportunity will come from many of them very soon. Can the house say amen? Let us split up our voice for all the fathers, all the husbands. Let us pray that it will be well with them. Let us pray that it will, they will succeed. And I just have an understanding that as we are praying this prayer, if there is any man in this service, and maybe you did something that your wife said it will not be well with you, the Lord says the effect of that negative pronouncement shall be removed. The mercy of God is being released upon everyone, upon the husbands, upon the wives. Shall we lift up our voice and pray? Let's pray for all the husbands in the house. Let's lift up all the fathers, all the husbands. Let's pray that they will succeed. Lift up your voice in prayer. Lift up your voice in prayer. In Jesus name, we pray. Pray. Pray. Pray. Pray. Pray. Pray. Pray.