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Could I borrow you, sir? So, what I want you to do is I want you to grab my wrist here with both hands. I'm going to move this slightly. Just grab the wrist itself with both hands. Really tight. Okay. Come here so they can see you. We'll get the camera. Where's the c camera? Over here. So, what I want you to do is you're hang on tight.
Now, he's going to demonstrate fear for me. He's the fear. Fear is grabbing me. Now, I'm going to try and get away. Don't let me get away. Okay, grab it a little tighter. Okay, good. He's very strong. There's no blood flow. That's perfect. Okay. Okay.
So now if I fight him and don't let me go. If I fight him and this is fear or I try to pretend it's not here, does it still have a hold on me? Yes or no? >> Yes or no? >> So if I ignore it, it's pulling on me. If I pretend it's not there, it's still pulling on me. And if I fight it, it actually gets a little worse.
But if I said to him, "Hang on tight, Aaron. Don't let go. Take me someplace. Go. Take me someplace, Aaron. That's it. Take me someplace." Good. Good. Good. Take me someplace. Good. Good. Take me someplace. And if you'll notice, I touch his shoulder and wherever he goes, I go there just as quickly. If I go with him, there's no resistance. How many follow? And who will wear out? He will. He exerts all the energy. I'm just going with him. How many follow?
So, if I fight him, I got to struggle. If I ignore him, I'm held back, right? What are my options? I could go with it. You go with it, Tony. But then, aren't you going to lose? Aren't you going to let fear overcome you? You'd be surprised when you are willing to align with your fear.
Watch this. He grabs me tight, real tight. And instead of me fighting him, I go, "I agree with you." I come on his side and I go, "Yeah, I can see how you feel that way." And grab tight. I come in a line with him like this. Yeah, I see that. That's great. Let's go over here now. There we go.
The more he hangs on to me, the more power I have if I align with him. This is a martial art called Aikido where I don't have to hurt him. Grab tight, but instead I align with him. The minute I get on his side, he no longer is on balance. See, I'm balanced. He's not. I can now take him anywhere I want him to go. The more he hangs on, the more power I have.
This is what we want to do with our fear. Instead of fighting it or ignoring it, want to dance with it. Yes, I'm a little afraid. I can see that. And let's do it anyway.