Mindset Upgrade Part 2 Rewire Your Patterns Brendon Burchard

You don't have to go back to your childhood for this stuff, mindset, because it's so dynamic. It literally might be the last couple days, just like the last couple days, you might feel a little down on yourself. Why? These are the beliefs and the assumptions and the relatedness that is running through your brain that's shaping how you feel. It's shaping you. Remember, what is it shaping? What is your mindset shaping? Your aim. I'm going to come back as I'm just recapping. What is your mindset shaping right here? Your mindset is shaping your aim, your affect, your emotions and feelings, your achievements, and your agency.

So if any of these, if you're just like, "I don't, I'm not, I'm not future-oriented. I don't feel good. I'm not moving forward with progress towards things that matter to me. I just, I just don't feel like doing anything." Guess what? We've got to talk about your mindset. Guess where we have been conditioned towards? Well, we've been conditioned towards this dynamic framework I gave you here. This is what's leading to all of that. Now, the big question is, "Show me how I move through it and I can improve it." Brandon, great. Now, we're going to move through the rest of the frameworks. And for those who are still here with me, thank you for being part of Growth Day. This is the stuff I really geek out about.

Okay. Second big shift today. I'm going to teach you, as a recap, if you have not had this training with me before, I'm going to teach you the interpretation ladder. I'll probably teach it more briefly today than I've done before because you guys probably know this if you've been training with me for a while. It's so fundamental to my teaching. How do your thought patterns work that then develop the mindset? So, this is the shaping of a thought pattern. This is the shaping of a belief. We know your beliefs about self, social, and the world. Those enduring beliefs shape your mindset, right? And that those are dynamic. But where does a belief come from? Where does it all start? Okay, that's what we need to talk about today.

Now, if you haven't studied the interpretation ladder with me before, I think you're going to enjoy this. Forgive the drawing today. So, here's what happens. First, something, information comes into your world. It comes into your world and you immediately interpret it, and you interpret it positive or negative, as I've talked about before. So, information, that's the world, that's circumstance, that's situation, that's a new DM, a new email, something somebody says to you, it just comes in, right? Something comes into your world and you immediately interpret it. Is it good or bad? Now, how do we know if it's good or bad? Well, as I shared before, well, you're going to, you're going to interpret that through this lens of, "What's the intent?" as an example. And you're going to work it through. Is this good? Is this bad? Is this negative? Is this helpful? Is this hurtful? Is this good for me? Not good for me? Is it a threat? You're, it's like your interpretation is super fast based on what your longer-term mindset. It just, it's like super fast. It's very fast. I interpret it positive and negative. And that means safe, threat, good intent, bad intent. Like, let's just stop there. Just assume it's like that fast. An interpretation. Very few people have taught themselves that great personal development lesson of the difference between stimulus and response, as we're going to get to, because at the bottom of this thing is a thing called initiative, right? What comes in, I mean, interpret positive or negative, and a lot of people jump right to initiative, right? And there's no, there's nothing in between. They don't even know what happens in between. Just, there's no, it's stimulus, it's response, right? They don't even know they're interpreting it. They just move through the world. It's like a reaction. And they don't understand what's happening here.

So now you learn a little bit more. Interpretation. Positive or negative comes in. It's like, "Oh, okay. This positive information came in, or it's negative." But here I'm here to tell you, information is not positive or negative. Information just is. Your interpretation of it is going to make you feel it, and is going to change your mindset. Okay? So, if you remember, interpretation comes in, then what do we do? Well, we move it through, and we move it into identity. And this is a huge gap from interpretation to identity. We often forget it's not just, "Is what just happened good or bad?" It's, "Is what just happened good or bad for me? How is this relevant for me?" This is that self-circle in the previous framework. We think about, "How does this define me? Define me." That's our identity. How am I defined? Like, what makes up me? So now we've taken it. Is it positive or negative in the world? Is it positive or negative with other things? What is the intent here? But now I've gone into self. Okay, what does this say about me? Am I good? Am I bad? Am I safe? Am I happy? And that interpretation and the identity, sometimes these happen simultaneously. So forgive the ladder. It doesn't, it doesn't always say it's like sequential. It's just a framework for you to get the idea, because it can happen simultaneously. For some people, they interpret things logically and then they go into identity. They're like, "Oh, what's happening here? Let me, let me investigate. Let me understand it. Okay, now what does it mean for me?" Other people, like, "Ah, me, me." And they can't, there's no logic. It's just right into identity. So even though I show it sequentially here, it's just as a framework so I can teach it. But I want you to understand, a lot of people, the higher you are in narcissism, the more identity hits before interpretation. So the more likely you are to actually be in defense to protect ego. And that's just a way of perceiving the world, right? If I see everything first through me, my lens, through self, I forget that other part, social, and the world. I forget to think about, you know, logic or intent, intelligence, capability, all the other things we talked about. Then I'm just me, me. And a lot of people who are like that, don't date them.

Okay, identity. Well, guess what? Okay, so I, this is again, this is your interpretation ladder. So information comes into your life, you interpret it positive or negative, you apply it to self, and then you say, "Okay, now what's my intention? What is my aim? What do I want to do? What's the goal? Where do I want to move?" That's what's my aim. And then I take initiative towards it or not. Now, why is this important to know for mindset? Because if this is always behind a cloud, if you never think about this, then what ends up happening is just you are in this stimulus-response loop, and you don't know it. Something comes in, you do something about it or don't, right? Because initiative is acting or not acting. And so what ends up happening is you're in stimulus-response. It's important for you to understand beliefs are shaped this way, not just here and here, but if you can go, "Oh, wait. The interpretation ladder is a conscious thought frame. This is how I am thinking through things. This is like, oh, I didn't realize I'm taking the world in and I'm filtering it through this ladder." Then it's very hard to get people more conscious. If I can't get you more conscious, how are you going to pay attention to your mindset?

So now you're going to learn, like, "Oh, my thoughts and my initial beliefs are actually shaped here. This is how I'm going to move through the world, right? Information comes in, then I interpret it positive, negative, safe, approach, avoid. I apply it to me. How, what does this mean about me? Am I good? Am I bad? Am I capable? Am I incapable? Do I have control? Do I not have control? Okay, what do I want to do with that information? Right? What do I actually want to do with that information? What's my intent? What's my intention now? Okay. And now, what's the initiative? What do I need to do next? Right?" That's forming a thought process or a belief, but it's actually how you act in the world. It's how we take that previous framework and now it lands in the world because it lands into initiative. So I'm trying to show two related frameworks here as we begin.

Okay, now let's move on to another quick framework. Some of you know, uh, sorry, and that is my ZAP framework. How do you screw up a belief? How do you screw up a thought? How do you continually ruin a mindset? Well, if you haven't studied this with me before, this will be a helpful reminder. I'm trying to give you a lot of frameworks so you have tools to consider your mindset, because all these things factor in. I'm trying to hit it from 12 different angles for you. Okay, 12 different angles for you. Okay, what do we do? We zoom into the problem. We zoom into a problem. So what does this mean? When we're going through life and we interpret it as negative, we zoom in on it. We just zoom right into the problem and we go, "Oh, this is terrible. This is going to be disastrous." We do what psychologists call catastrophize. We make this thing ruinous to our whole life. We're going to talk about ruin later, right? And in doing that, oh my gosh, can you capture in the comments what is a problem you zoom in on way too much? Like, people zoom in on it and they make it a big, big, big, big thing. A lot of people have self-esteem issues. They zoom in onto their body composition and they're always looking in the mirror and judging self so harshly, right? It's zooming in. "Oh, I got this love handle. Got it. And I hate my face. And they're, I don't like my nose." And they're like, it's, can be a beautiful person and they don't like their nose, but when they look in the mirror, all they see is the nose. Does that make sense? They're always zooming in on the problem. They do this at work. It's always, "Oh, she's the roadblock," or "This system doesn't work." And all they do is zoom, obsess, and complain about the problem, and they make the problem bigger than the opportunities. They make the problem bigger than themselves. They make the problem bigger than all the other tools, all the other systems, all the other opportunities. It is just a zooming in and a freezing. And so I want you to notice your mindset is driven by focus. Are you focusing on the problem only, or are you focusing on finding a solution framework? Right? Am I focused on just one problem, or even a systematic problem? Am I focused on that more so than a solve or a solution system? My focus is going to determine my positivity, my negativity. My focus can determine my aim, my affect, my achievements, and my sense of agency. Remember those? That's why I keep coming back to this as a holistic approach. I'm trying to hit you from 12 different angles to remind you of some very simple things. Your mindset has certain outcomes in life. Your aim, your agency, your achievements, and your affect. I'm trying to remind you over and over and over of those things. And what you zoom in on is really affecting those things. And so your attention and your focus to problems or solutions is so basic, but a lot of people forget that during the day.

I work with a lot of people as they talk to me, I'll pause them as their coach. And most of the people I work with now are literally billionaires, one-on-one. I work with four one-on-one billionaires right now. And, uh, in different industries, all incredibly capable people. You'd be shocked how many times I stop them in a coaching session to go, "Let's pause for a moment. I want to let you know you are tilting into venting right now by focusing on a problem. Our job is to work things through and to get a sense of progress here. So let's shift our orientation. Let's shift our focus right now and let's move into what other opportunities, what other tools, what other resources, what other people? Let's brainstorm through the problem versus talk more about the problem." Does that make sense? Okay, we can have, we acknowledged the problem? Yes. Now, let's zoom out and search for how to work through the problem. We don't need to take seven more microscopes into the problem you already know exists and has existed. Does that make sense? I always tell people, like, "Hey, if you want to zoom in on a problem, go for it. I'll give you a day, maybe a week if it's a severe problem, but at some point, acknowledge the problem and go, 'Got it. That was a problem. Don't like it. Is not supportive of me. I'm going to move through it now.'"

But why don't people do that? Because they attach identity. This is me hitting that other framework from another angle. You zoom in on something, right? Information comes in, you zoom in on it. You interpret it as negative, as a problem. Then you attach identity. You see these coming together. Okay, now I've attached my identity. "Oh, this problem is attached to me. I'm going to take this problem personally. I'm going to take this problem personally." But one of, one of the, you know, one of the great agreements in life, if you read The Four Agreements, is don't take things so personally. The more you take things personally, the more unjust life feels. Now, if life is unjust and unfair, what's the point of trying? Soon as I, what's the point of trying because it's unfair to me? Then guess what? My agency goes down. As my agency goes down, every element of my mood, of my mindset, of the way I move through the world, of my positive outcomes, it goes down. Soon as I say, "Everything's unfair, it's unfair to me," I stop action. It's really important. You need to be careful about applying a problem to self, right? I don't take pretty much anything personally. The other day, I'm listening to a podcast and a guy who I know, uh, mentions one of my book titles, and it sounds like he's saying something negative about one of my book titles. And then I listen to it again, and my first interpretation was, "Well, I think he's saying something negative." And then I moved into identity and I thought, "Doy, is this about me? Is this about me?" And I thought, "I can't know that. Why would I take this personally? He might have said the wrong book. He might have never read the book. Uh, if he wants to reach out to me, he can. Um, I, I don't even know if he knows that's my book." And I start thinking through it. I'm like, "Huh? Why would I take this personally? I have no, all I have is evidence of someone said a title that's one of mine." I didn't take it personally at all, at all. Like my mindset didn't go there. And I think that is a mental conditioning you have to have. You have to stop taking everything personally. Everything your spouse does in the house when they leave the laundry around, it's not about you. I'm sorry. When you know the kids do something out with their friends, it's not about you, Mom, Dad. When you know the, the, the governor of your state or the leader of your country does something, sorry, not about you. And they're not even thinking about you. They're probably not even aware about you. Why are you internalizing it as about you? The more you think it's about you, remember, the more likely it is you go, "It's unjust, unfair, against me." If everything's against me, why try? Because you start thinking the world has negative intent. If the world has negative intent, unsafe, I'm not going out the front door. Mentally, a lot of people won't go out the front door because they think everything is unsafe. Why? Because they learn to make everything about themselves. And this happens for a lot of people as they go through childhood or early adult development. They don't realize their bad or abusive parent, it's not about you. Children make it about themselves, but you're not a child anymore. When you were a child, you think your dad or your mom is bad or alcoholic or upset because of you. You don't think, "Wow, they really don't have the competency or the skills of self-regulation." So they fly off the handle. You don't blame their self-regulation. You blame yourself as a child. As you're older and you witness an adult freaking out at a child, you know the adult is lacking some self-regulation in the moment. You see that perspective? It's not about you most of the time. It's about another. And that other is probably having a really bad day, don't have the skills, had bad examples. And now, once you realize that, "Wow, that's so much that person's experience and worldview. It's not about me." And if you can get back in that, "It's not about me," I think it can really change your life. But if you keep attaching yourself to every problem in the world, everything becomes unjust, unfair, unsafe, and you don't move in the world no more.

And so what do you do in that reality? You punish yourself. You punish yourself. What does that mean? Um, that means you either shame or stop. That's what that means. Punishing yourself. It means you speak ill of yourself. You shame yourself or like, "I'm so bad. I'm terrible. I suck. I'm never deserving this." And you just negative self-talk and you diminish yourself. You darken yourself. Or if you don't do that, you just procrastinate. You just don't move forward. You just stop good habits that you know to do. Why? Because you're so focused on the problem. "Why even try? Everything's against you. Why even try?" The "why even try" mindset is why a lot of people procrastinate. It's not laziness. They develop the mindset of "why even try." How do they develop "why even try"? They zoom in on the problem so many times. They think it's about them. They assume positive intent about, or sorry, they assume negative intent about the world. They go, "Why even try?" So, "why even try?" They don't realize procrastination more often comes from "why even try?" And what if this negative thing comes out? Or what if this negative thing happens? And what if it makes my identity look diminished or darkened, shamed? They, "why try?" And they don't realize that that's where that's coming from so often. And, you know, everyone else will try to, you know, biohack them or give them a, you know, simple morning routine. And yet, they don't change their procrastination. Well, the procrastination is coming from a bigger mindset, isn't it? Not just a momentary morning routine. It's a mindset issue. Procrastination is a mindset issue, not a time management issue. It's a mindset issue. And often that mindset came from this over and over and over. They kept zapping themselves out of progress. Progress started. How many times have you started a project? You started. Things were going good. You were even getting progress. You even felt good some days. And then what did you do? You zapped yourself. Zoomed in the problem. Attached self. Punished yourself. See how important this is? These things are all developing your mindset.

Okay. So, how do we move through this then? If, if these things are so, uh, dramatic as I'm making them, how do we then start moving into the development of the mindset? How do we move into development of mindset over and over and over? Okay, I'm going to give you another acronym today because I am super caffeinated. Okay, I'm teasing. I'm not caffeinated today. Okay, APR is how we're going to start developing our mindset. Each day, we're going to develop our mindset. And it's a very specific way to do this. And I think this will help you. APR. As we started the whole training, your mindset impacts your aim. And so let's reverse engineer Growth Day. We need to start with aim each day. We need to get back into thinking about goals, future orientation, dreams again. Not on New Year's, not on your birthday, not just the first of the month. On a daily basis, I need you to live in dreamland a little bit. I need you to lay in bed, think about positive things, visualize future orientation, future things that you want, that you desire. We need to get you back into time of aim. People don't sit up all day long and aim too low. What happens is they rarely think about higher aims. So that's why they rarely have higher aims. They're just operating in reaction. Reaction always leads to low aims. Intention, dreaming, visualization, that is the ascended path. We need you back onto an ascended path. We need to take your eyes myopically off the problem. We need to open up your perspective to a bright horizon line called the future. This is why if you read The Motivation Manifesto, I talk about how high-performing people, they kind of wake up each day and they grab onto some kind of spear of purpose, whatever it is for that day, whatever that spear of purpose is that day, and they throw that spear as far as they can. And then that day, they make it their job to march towards that spear, pick it up again, and throw it again. That's the job to throw the spear of purpose as far as you can every day. March towards it, pick it up, throw it again. That is living an aim-oriented life. And most people have no aim in any area of their life.

What area should you have aim in in your life? Well, if we can come back to the idea that we're going to develop your mindset, you already know the answer. We're going to try to aim our lens into self, social, and world. I need you to, what are your aims for yourself today? What, what are the goals or the objectives or your intention for yourself today? For your goals, your dreams, your livelihood, your emotions. What do you want to experience and move towards today? Would you write that down? What do you want to experience and move towards today? For you, for you yourself. We need to adjust our aim for our social. What do I want to aim towards or have a goal today for my wife, for this interaction I'm going to have with one of my students, for the kids, for the team, for other people, for this next meeting? Not having an aim for the next meeting and wandering into each meeting is why you should get fired. Like, that's just terrible. People without intention and aim, why are they around you? It's very important to understand these have social consequences, isn't it? And aim for the world. How, what's the difference I want to make in the world? What do I hope for the world? What do I want to experience and move towards in the world? And what do I hope for? What do I really want? And if we can aim here, this often gets people out of their own worldview or their immediate relationships and they go, "Oh, right. I, I need to think about the progress and morality of the world. How can I contribute to that?" And now we have a different level of connection. So, I'm going to tell you this APR is so important. And I always start with this. It's like when someone says, "I have a terrible mindset." I'm like, "You don't have a terrible mindset." What you are lacking is conscious aims that would energize a mindset. You're lacking conscious aims that would energize your mindset. This is so important. Like, where does your motivation come from? Motivation first and foremost comes from motive, a reason, a future orientation to act. It's so important. It's like, "Oh, I, I need to have aim each day." Write down your goals. Do your checklist in Growth Day. Write it out in your High Performance Journal or on your battleboard or on a piece of paper or on a post-it at the mirror. Type it in your phone. I don't care. Every day you've got to touch aim every day because if I can orient back towards future, orient towards making things happen. As I have aim in self, social, and the world, I am going to develop more agency.

Great. Second way to develop your mindset is you need to have a set of practices, a set of practices that enhance two things. Number one, your ability to get those aims. And number two, your well-being. Well-being. I need you to have practices. These are habits or rituals that you're going to enact on a continual basis to move you towards your aims, your dreams, your future orientation, the ascended path, and practices set up to enhance the ability for that aim to happen. And to enhance yourself. This is so important because when you care for yourself, when you have a yoga practice, a meditation practice, a workout practice, when you have practices that enhance your well-being, your mindset goes, "I have positive intent for myself. Look, I've enacted agency and control for myself." Your mindset improves as you have discipline towards practices that move you forward and care for self. Everyone type it in caps in the comments. Move you forward. Move you forward and enhance well-being. Move you forward. Enhance your well-being. When you have practices, rituals, and habits set up that you continually improve upon, that's why I'm calling a practice here, not just a habit. A practice is you're going to do the thing and you're going to continually improve that practice. Like a meditation practice, it's not just a meditation habit. A meditation habit, you drop in, you do the same thing every time. A practice is we're going to improve the thing. We're going to improve the thing consistently. So if I am improving, remember, growth mindset is about the belief and the assumptions that something can be improved, that it's malleable. Okay, great. So I'm going to improve the thing. I'm going to improve how I move towards something. So I improve. How do I, for, for me, I'm always think, how do I improve my speaking practice, my training practice, my coaching practice in the ways that I show up? How do I practice it? Not just do it automatically, but practice it to, to, to continue perfecting it. Never to perfect, but to practice in the forever seeking of perfecting, not to perfect, perfecting, getting it better. Practicing, practicing, practicing. How do I practice my training? And then as I'm doing it, how do I care for self? The more you care for yourself and you've set up practices that show care for self, you enhance well-being, the more you tend to lift the perception of self because you did good things for yourself. When you do bad things for yourself over and over and over and over again, how do you think that shapes your mindset in life? It's why when you get somebody and they're on a downward spiral of negativity, of bad mentors, of zapping themselves over and over and over and over again, somebody's got to come in and go, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Let me interrupt this pattern." This pattern you have is a downward spiral. We need to put you on practices that put you on an upward spiral, an ascendant path. This is why it's important to get around high performers, get around role models, get around exceptional people because they'll spot you doing that. Go, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa." They set higher standards for you. They have higher beliefs for you because they believe in change. They've seen it happen for themselves. So, you've got to develop great practices that move you towards your aims and enhance your well-being, right?

Okay. And then the R is resilience. Resilience. Sorry, that looks so bad. Resilience. This is, I need you to be highly conscious of when you fall to the floor, when you quit, when you lack perseverance and grit. I need you to be conscious of it. But when you're conscious of it, you're not zooming in. "I suck. I'm terrible." You just need to be aware. You just need to be aware and instead of beating up on yourself, go, "Hm, interesting. I fell on the floor. I got knocked down. I quit. What would be the mindset I would need to get up and move forward in a positive way again? What do I need to condition in my thought patterns right now to get off of this mat?" Right? When you're knocked down, it's very easy to go, "Oh my god, this is a problem. I'm the problem. This is going to last forever. I'm going to stay here." Punishing yourself. Or you go, "Okay, what's a motive? What's a reason for me to get up? What's a reason for me to engage again? Let me start again." I know this makes so much sense, but I want you to be more aware of your resilience levels. Like, do you get down in the morning when something bad happens at work and you just can't like come back to work after lunch, like get back on it? That's a resilience issue. That's a grit issue. That's a perseverance issue. That's a self-regulation issue. That's a mindset issue. Right? There is nothing fundamentally stopping you from at lunch reorienting your mindset and coming back with fierceness in the afternoon except your mindset, right? There's nothing like, you got a bad email. The bad email is there, but does that bad email stop you from doing something in the afternoon? I mean, outside of true extremities, I mean, extreme events like, you know, really bad things happening, something happens to your kid, something happens with life or death, something happens, it's just like catastrophic. Those are extremely rare events. Those sure, do you have to take the afternoon off? Do you have to recalibrate? Listen, I, I'm not like that disciplinarian who says you always have to be perfect, you always have to get up immediately. But I'm here to say you have to teach yourself. Instead of going hours, days, weeks, and months, and years without getting back into the fight, that is a mindset thing over a period of time. In the short term, that might just be called dealing with it, right? You might have to deal with something and that can knock you off track for a certain amount of time. That's real. That's coping. That's dealing with it. That's like being shocked. All of that's normal, right? Especially in extreme circumstances. But nine out of 10 times in most people's lives, it's literally their mindset is playing victim and their mindset is attaching negativity to themselves, to the world, to others. And so, you know what? I'm just, why try? They're not resilient because they lack strength. They're resilient because they're in the "why even try" mindset. And I need you to get back in the game faster. That is a goal I want you to have for yourself. That's truly something I want you to be aware of and intentional about.

Happens for me, like, listen, running as many products, programs, people being so responsible for so many people in my life, family, friends, team, all my mentees, all my investments. At any given moment, there is a ton going wrong. Every morning, this morning I got like five emails that all said like, basically, "Emergency, emergency, emergency." Every day of my life, someone's having emergencies around me. Every day of my life, somebody's texting me something bad happened because my network's large and I try to make a lot of impact and I have so much content out. Every day, something, there's so much negative inbound, so much difficulty every day. If I didn't have the approach of, "You know what? I'm not operating my life on reaction. I'm not going to feel that that is unfair. I asked God for great impact and responsibilities. I asked for it. So, let me recalibrate my aim right now." Right now, my mindset just kind of sucks. I'm negative because all this emergency came in. I feel bad about myself because I didn't handle this and I neglected that so this came over here, or I hired this person, or I did this wrong, or I shouldn't have done that. And I can attach self to it and I can be just like, "You know what? Let me just, let me just stop for the day and come back tomorrow." But that's really punishing myself from avoiding progress. And so I got to recalibrate my mindset. Everyone put it in the comments, capital letters, RECALIBRATE MY MINDSET. I need you, that's what I mean by resilience. I need you to recalibrate your mindset faster. And I know lots of people say, "No, Brendon, you're not dealing, you know, you're not allowing people to cope." I'm like, "Listen, I, I understand cope. I understand trauma. I understand grief." And let me tell you what, you don't need decades for that. You don't. We live in a culture that believes that all these problems we have take decades of work, decades of, you know, dealing with it, decades of therapy. And I'm here to tell you that's just not true. What that's called is the lack of effectiveness in the practice is supposed to change and help you. It's called you falling back to the mean too many times and allowing yourself to do it. It's you not sticking yourself to a higher standard. For the most part, I do understand that people have lifelong difficulties and challenges. I'm not taking away from that. But remember, nine out of 10 times that's not the issue. Nine out of 10 times it's the mindset training we've been through. Cuz remember, it's your beliefs, your assumptions, how you interpret and engage with the world. That's mindset. You can have a sucked morning and get back to it in the afternoon. You can have a terrible Monday, allow you all Monday, all Tuesday. You can still finish Friday strong, right? You can move forward. You can still progress in some way towards aims. Even if in the short term your aims lower a little bit. Okay. This week I thought I was going to write 10 chapters. All right. Can I write one? There's still lots of bad things happening. All right. My family's dealing with this. This person went through that. Okay. This is bad. All right. But instead of ruminating it, zooming in on it, I just, what's the aim? Okay, one of the aims this week was to write. I thought I'd get 10 chapters. Let me get one. Yeah, let me go on. And I can tell you guys, you've seen this for those who've seen this manifest in my life. Like, I got better at this. There was a time in my life when I literally got physically majorly injured. I had a brain injury. I snapped my wrist. I threw out my hip. I dislocated a shoulder. I broke a rib. I mean, it was a mess. It was a mess. And I had all, it was happening at a time when my career was going way up like that. And there was a time in which, of course, myself, my doctors, everybody around me, "Oh, just take off all this time. You know, you got to long time for recovery." And, and at some point I realized, "Okay, that is true. And there is the part called recovery, isn't there? But at some point, you also go, 'Okay, I've recovered enough. Let me progress a little bit now. Let me, let me take on this thing.'" So I'd be sitting there like literally my, my hands healing over here, and this hand over here is moving the mouse creating a webpage for a launch that I intended to do. I can do both. I can recover and progress. And so many people, they've made them falsely binary. "I'm forever recovering from this, you know, this thing that happened to me in the past. It was awful. I'm forever gonna recover from something my parents did to me, something a stranger did, something unjust happened to all. I'm going to forever recover." So, you know, I'm just going to sit it out. No, you can have active recovery. You can be recovering and still have high agency in the world. You can still be aware of the difficulties and the negative patterns and still be establishing new positive patterns. These are not binary. You can have active recovery from life's difficulties, dramas, traumas, awful upsets. And what I need is a higher level of resilience. And I'm here to tell you, if you want high performance and outstanding results, but also greater mental health, we need to improve that speed of resilience. For most people, nine out of 10 times. Again, I'll allow for the extremities. So don't say I'm being judgmental. Lots of bad things happen. But nine out of 10 times on someone's normal Monday through Friday, there's great opportunities for progress there. Get back up off the mat, even when it's difficult. It is why you're so inspired when you watch a Rocky. It's why you're so inspired when you read great biographies. It's why you're so inspired when you see somebody like get back up and engage the world today, even though they had a difficulty in the past. Listen, I work with vets. I work with people who have been disabled. I work with people who've had the worst possible things happen in their life. And now, what are they doing? Helping other people. Now, what are they doing? Writing their books. What are they doing? Having a positive influence, building their business, creating great marriages, playing on courts, even though they're disabled. You're like, "What is happening?" The human ability for resilience. If you believe in that, that's what I taught you earlier. That is the belief in changeability. I believe you can change. I believe you can change your approach. You can change your timing. You can change your progress. But you have to get resilience back in.

So this is APR. How do I improve my mindset? Brandon's taught me a lot. There's a lot going on. What should I do every day? Aim. Every day, set of practices that move you towards your aim and care for your well-being. Every day, when you sense you're down or you get upset, be aware of that and just ask, "How do I be resilient through that? How do I get back in the game? What can I do here to get back in the game?" That's all I want you to do. I want to get back in the game when it's the time, right? I can actively get back in the, I might not be able to get back in the game and dunk, but can I get back on the court and dribble? Can I, can I do that? I just want you back on the court, back in the game. That's all I need every day because, you know what? You'll develop self-respect that way. You'll have progress in the world which make the world feel better. And when you do that, I promise you, your mindset will shift. And this is going to develop so much capability for you over a period of time. Wow, I am capably moving towards my goals. I am consciously moving towards my goals. Even when it's hard, even when I get knocked down, as I'm moving, I'm caring for myself. I'm moving towards things. As I'm moving towards things instead of hiding, my self-esteem rises. My self-efficacy rises. My mindset moves into growth mode. All of a sudden, I'm in a different state of being. Not just state of mind, state of being in the world. Consistent aim, practices, and resilience. That's my favorite thing.