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There's a bad boy trait that women love, but most men are afraid to use it. When a man meets a woman that he finds attractive, he usually wants there to be harmony between himself and the woman. Everything to feel nice, to feel smooth and easy and predictable. But that's not what a bad boy does. A bad boy adds in unpredictability.
And it's something that a lot of guys are uncomfortable adding in when they interact with women because they want to put their best foot forward and show the woman how serious they are, how straightforward they are, how logical they are, and how sensible they are. And they hope that it then results in the woman thinking, you know what, this guy is really sensible and nice and logical, and he seems like a really well-put-together guy, so therefore I'm going to feel attracted to him.
But what the guy doesn't realize is that pretty much every guy is interacting with her in that way where, for example, if she asks him a question, he'll answer it in a straightforward manner, in a logical manner. You ask me a question, you've got an answer. You want me to do something, I'll do it for you, right? He's essentially trying to be one of those sort of guys to hopefully make the woman like him as a person.
But it's not what a bad boy does. And as you may have noticed, when bad boys interact with women, women feel excited. The woman shows lots of interest in the bad boy. She becomes sexually turned on. She wants something to happen between him and her, and he doesn't have to try hard to hopefully win her over. She's already won over because she's feeling attracted to him.
But most guys aren't willing to do what the bad boy does. Even though when you do it, you're not treating the woman badly. I'm going to give you some examples in a moment. And with some of the examples, it can go too far, right? Some bad boys go too far and they're quite rude. But you can use these type of examples in a more playful type of way that also makes the woman feel sexually attracted and drawn to you. And so you don't have to go to the extreme and be a really bad boy in order to have this type of effect.
And so what a lot of guys don't know is that it's socially and emotionally intelligent to know that you don't have to answer every question that a woman asks you in a straightforward logical manner. If you answer everything in a straightforward logical manner when a woman asks you something, then she sees you as predictable. And that's okay if you just want to have a neutral interaction with her. But she can also sense something else. And she senses this with guys who are hoping to impress her. She senses that the guy is hoping that if he answers all of her questions right away and in a straightforward manner, in a sensible manner, she's going to think, "Oh, well, this guy's sensible. This guy's straightforward. I like him." But it's just not the way that it works.
Additionally, some guys want it to work in a way where women feel more attracted to academic intelligence rather than social and emotional intelligence, but they don't. Academic intelligence is attractive to women after you've had sex with them or at least after you've kissed them. But prior to then, they're not turned on by academic intelligence. Unless the guy is attracting them in other ways and is really making them feel turned on, then they'll be attracted and impressed by his intelligence, but it's not something to lead with, right? I want to show this woman how smart I am, how logical I am. If she asks me a question, I'm going to give her an answer that shows how intelligent I am, and then she's going to like me. It doesn't work like that.
Attraction is different to just getting along with a woman or being seen as a likable person or a nice person or an intelligent person. Being seen as an attractive guy is different. Attraction is different. You've got to understand that the things that trigger sexual attraction inside of women are different. And if you want to trigger sexual attraction inside of women easily, you've got to be willing to do them. And what you'll realize is that most guys aren't willing to do them, which is why they're so confused around women. They're standing around women just thinking, "Well, why aren't these women reacting to me with attraction and they're talking to women and having a logical, straightforward conversation and thinking, why aren't these girls, you know, showing a lot of interest in me?" They don't realize that attracting a woman is different.
So, what women respect and feel attracted to is when you decide how you're going to respond. You're not responding to everything that she's saying in a straightforward, logical manner because you think that she is more powerful than you and you have to show her that you're a really good guy and then she'll give you a chance. Instead, you're deciding how you respond in the moment. And a bad boy is able to do that naturally and easily. He doesn't have to try because he's not trying to get a chance with her. He's not hoping that a woman's going to give him a chance. Instead, he knows that his unpredictable behavior attracts women. So, he already knows that women are going to feel attracted to him. So, he's not hoping that if he just says the right things and answers all of her questions, then she's going to give him a chance or she's suddenly going to switch on and start feeling attracted to him because, wow, he's so intelligent and insightful. He's talking about politics, philosophy, mathematics, engineering, artificial intelligence, and so on. He's just so smart and now she's going to switch on and feel sexually attracted to him. It doesn't work that way.
So now some examples of what a bad boy may say when a woman asks him something. So the two examples are when you're checking out at a store and she asks, "Would you like a bag with that?" And the other question a woman will often ask is, "What do you do for a living?"
So with the first one, you're checking out at a store and she asks, "Would you like a bag with that?" what are you going to say if you want a bag by the way? Most guys are just going to say yes, thank you. I'll get a bag or something like yes, please. Thank you. And the guy is being that reassuring, predictable guy, and he's just hoping that if he's being nice, he's treating her well. He's being straightforward. He's answering all of her questions. She's going to be thinking, "Aren't you a good guy? You know, I should start feeling attracted now and I should show you more interest now." But what he doesn't realize is that pretty much every guy is doing that.
Now, what will a bad boy say? Well, one of the traits of a bad boy is that he's unpredictable. So, a bad boy's response in that moment isn't always going to be the same. It can be anything. And that is part of what excites a woman. She doesn't know what he's going to say next. So, for example, she may ask, "Would you like a bag with that?" And he may say something like, "No." Or, "No bag." Or, "Yeah, give me a bag." Or, "A bag? It's only two little things here. Don't be so wasteful." Even though he doesn't care about being wasteful or protecting the environment, he's just reacting in that way because it's up to him. What he's going to say is up to him. He's not tamed by women to the point where he feels like he needs to answer the question every time, like, "Oh, no, thank you. Yes, thank you. Yes, please." And so on. Instead, he'll say whatever he feels like saying in the moment. For example, he may also say, "Yep." And just give her that blank bad boy type of stare where he's just saying, "Yeah." Or he might say something like, "No, I'll be good. Thanks. No bag."
And so I finish with that example because I want to make a point here that being a bad boy or being considered a bad boy doesn't mean that you have to be rude to women and just say, "Nah, yep." and so on, like a bad boy might say. In this case, the bad boy said something like, "No, I'll be good. Thanks. No bag." And he's not being rude to her. He's not treating her badly, but she can sense a bit of swagger. She can sense some bad boy vibes there. A bit of a sexual vibe as well, compared to him using the same words, but not saying it in that way, where he says something like, "No, I'll be good. Thanks. No bag." compared to, "No, I'll be good. Thanks. No bag." He has a bit of a bad boy vibe, some swagger, and his response is unpredictable compared to what she will have been experiencing with 99% of other guys where she asks the question and he wants to answer in a straightforward manner.
Or there are guys, of course, who will be nervous and will be quite inward and she will ask, "Do you want a bag with that?" or "Would you like a bag?" And the guy then says something like, "Uh, no, no, I'm fine. I'll just get I'll just get these here. I'll carry them." And those sorts of things, right? She's experiencing that all day, every day. And she's experiencing the guys who want to be that straightforward, I'll answer every question that you ask me sort of guy in order to show her that they're a good guy and they'll treat her well and they're sensible. And that's fine if the guy doesn't want to attract her. He's just going about his day. And she asks, "Would you like a bag with that?" And he says, "No thanks, no bag." and he just grabs a thing and then walks out, right? No problem. He's not trying to attract her. He's confident. He's just being neutral with her. He gets his things and he leaves. But if he wants to attract her, it's a different thing altogether.
Now, with those bad boy examples, a guy saying no or yep or something like that, it isn't going to make the woman jump over the counter and start kissing him or her to, you know, get down on the counter with her elbows on the counter and just be looking at him with, you know, big eyes and saying, "I really like you." and so on. Instead, she's just going to feel some attraction to the fact that he has the balls to say that sort of thing and to look at her in that type of way where she says, "Would you like a bag with that?" And he responds with something like, "No." And he is comfortable with some tension existing between him and the woman. Whereas with most guys, they want to remove all tension where it's like, "Oh, no thanks." And they just want to show her that there is no tension. There's, you know, you don't need to feel uncomfortable in any way. I'll make you feel comfortable at all times. I'm a good guy. I'll treat you well. Please like me sort of thing and so on. Right?
So, a lot of guys don't realize that women feel turned on when the guy has the balls to create some tension between himself and the woman and she starts feeling attracted to his confidence, his balls, right? So, his courage, his manliness, and she also sees him as a bit of a bad boy because he's comfortable making her feel that way. And as I said, some of the bad boy examples can be a bit rude, a bit arrogant, and so on. And you don't need to do those. You can use a bit more of a playful response, or you can add in a bit of a sexual vibe and have some bad boy swagger. Or you can also have the balls to flirt with her in that moment and say something like, "No, I'll be good."
And what a lot of guys don't realize is that even though those words are basic, "No, I'll be good." There is another thing that's going on and it's the eye contact. It's the vibe. It's the energy where the guy is looking at her and showing her that he finds her attractive and showing her that he is sensing that she likes him and he's creating that and he has the balls to do that sort of thing which then makes her look at him as a bit of a bad boy because most guys will never do that and it takes a lot of confidence to do it as well. Right?
If a guy tries to pull that off when he is a nervous, insecure guy who places women above him in terms of value and dominance, then it's going to be very difficult in terms of the subtleties of his body language. It's going to be off. But if he works on his confidence and understands how to feel more powerful than a woman and to feel more masculine around women, then it will come naturally. And personally speaking, this is something that I experience all the time with young attractive women.
Now, I've settled down. In case you don't know who I am, I'm Dan Bacon. I used to have no idea how to attract women and then I figured it out. And I was with a lot of women over the course of 10 years. I had many women in my life. I was usually seeing multiple women at once because so many women were attracted to me because I'd figured out how to actually trigger attraction inside of women to the point where sometimes I would be with a woman and she would literally say something along the lines of that she is going to try to become my number one girl. Women literally compete because they feel so attracted to you and they accept that other women feel attracted to you and they then feel excited to hopefully get you to become exclusive with them. And you've got attractive women trying to get you into a committed relationship, treating you really well, right? Coming over and cooking your dinner and doing other things as well to make sure that you're well taken care of. And I enjoyed that type of life for over 10 years before settling down.
And now, even though I've settled down, if I go into a store, for example, and I'm interacting with a young attractive woman, it's on right away. She's feeling attracted because of all these subtle inner traits that I have that I figured out how to have and how to display. And I became comfortable with. And what's really cool about it is that you don't have to become a bad person, like a really bad boy, in order to have that type of effect. And another thing to point out is that for about the first 8 years or so, I wasn't a really bad boy or anything like that around women. But around the 8-year mark, women started to say it right, you're bad and refer to me as a bad boy and so on. But prior to then, the approach that I was using, some women would see it as a bit bad boy because I was being unpredictable. but I didn't really have the bad boy type of swagger that I eventually developed. That takes time because if you're a good person and you're used to using being nice to women as your strategy to hopefully get results, then that can be hard to shake. It can be hard to sort of grow out of that and realize that being nice as a strategy to hopefully be attractive to women is a failing strategy.
Some women will give you a pity date or pity sex or a pity relationship, but they won't ever truly feel the type of love for you that they would feel if they were the ones trying to be extra nice to you, to win you over, to win your heart, to win more of your love. And it's a different experience. So for me, as I had more experience with that over the years and realized that it was what women wanted and that I was doing a good thing, it then became more comfortable for me to be like that, to make a woman try to impress me, to win me over, and to not be trying to get rid of any tension between me and a woman. Instead, allow it to exist. Allow her to feel a bit uncomfortable around you because you're so powerful. You're so confident. And as a result, it creates sexual polarity between you and the woman where she senses that you're the man, she is the woman. There's that clear masculine feminine dynamic. And that turns her on. It makes her want you sexually so much more. And it also makes her want to be attractive to you, to be sexy to you. So, it's a good thing. It makes her feel good. It makes you feel good. And it works.
And funnily enough, the point of this video is to be unpredictable. But what I've found is that women are so predictable when you're able to do this. They're so predictable in their responses, their eye contact, their reactions, when they sense your confidence, your bad boy swagger in that you're not afraid to create a bit of tension between yourself and the woman. You're not trying to hopefully impress her to hopefully be liked. You're not putting on an act of being nicer than you are or really want to be in order to hopefully get a chance with her. Instead, you have this raw, untamed energy, and it attracts women to you like a magnet. It happens automatically. It's so predictable, right?
So, let's move on to the next example. A woman asks you a question, "So, what do you do for a living?" What are you going to say? What most guys say is they answer they answer right away and tell her what they do for a living? Or, "I'm a project assistant at such and such company, or I work in this, or I work in that." And it's not a dealbreaker when a guy answers a woman's question about what he does for a living. It's totally fine to answer her question in a normal straightforward manner. But what a bad boy will do is he will challenge her in the moment. He will create a bit of tension around her question. And you may have noticed this with guys who you've met in your life who are cool, who are confident, who are not needy. And when you ask them a question, they don't always answer and they may mess with you in return. And they have that type of power.
Now, as a guy, you might feel a bit annoyed by that. Or if you're a confident guy who's not needy, you might just laugh it off and play along with that and mess with the guy in return. But for women, they feel attracted to that. They feel turned on by it. Women are different to us, right? When a bad boy is able to playfully mess with her or create some tension around her asking what he does for a living, she senses his balls. The fact that he has the balls to create some tension and mess with her in that way and not answer everything that she's asking him in a straightforward manner. He's not seeing her as his master. Like women are his masters. Anything they ask of me, I will answer. Anything they want me to do, I will do. No.
When a woman asks a bad boy a question, he will answer in a straightforward manner at times. But that's because he feels like saying that in the moment. But if he feels like answering in a different way, he will do that. He will give an unpredictable response. And that's what keeps it exciting. That's what keeps the woman on her toes. That's part of what makes her feel like she needs to impress him. She isn't the one in control.
So, for example, she asks, "What do you do for a living?" And a bad boy says something like, "Guess." and he creates that tension in the moment. Or he says something like, "Take a look at me. What do you think I do for a living?" Or, "I don't work, so I hope you make a good living because I'm looking for a sugar mummy." Or, "I don't work. I'm just looking for a rich girlfriend who will pay all the bills so I can play PlayStation all day." Or, "Why are you asking me boring questions like that?" Or, "Well, my job's better than yours, that's for sure." And he creates that challenge in the moment, and it's playful. She feels attracted to his confidence. She feels attracted to his social intelligence in that he's able to say something like that in the moment rather than just being a robotic type of guy who is just answering all of her questions. He has the social intelligence to think of something else to say rather than what do you do for a living? Okay, compute. Question is, what do you do for a living? Answer equals my job. And he says his job. She can then see him as a very basic type of guy where he's just trying to cross all of his tees and dot all of his eyes. I'm getting everything right. I answer questions correctly.
But that doesn't mean a bad boy can't answer the question. If she asked him, what do you do for a living? He may say something like, "I'm in IT. Why?" Or, "I work in IT." And he's just answering it in a straightforward manner. But around that question with other things that she's asking him or talking about, she is sensing unpredictability. She is sensing that he's able to say whatever he feels like saying. He's not trying to answer all of her questions to be a good boy that gets a pat on the head and gets approved. And he's not trying to say all the right things to hopefully get a chance. Instead, it's up to him how he's going to respond. And he doesn't feel like he needs to impress her by coming up with unpredictable responses all the time. Like, okay, she's asking me this. Now, I'm going to be unpredictable. Instead, it's up to him, right? She's not in control. And he also is aware of what attracts women. So, he is behaving in a way that attracts women in that he is not being predictable. And he has the confidence, the balls, the courage to playfully challenge her at times to add in some tension to make her feel a bit uncomfortable.
For example, with a question like, "Why you asking me boring questions like that?" and he's just messing with her, but she's feeling some tension now where he's putting a bit of pressure on her where, for example, imagine you're interacting with an attractive woman and you ask her, "So, what do you do for a living?" And she says, "Why are you asking me boring questions like that?" How are you going to feel? Well, it's not going to make you feel more attracted to her because you're not attracted to balls. Instead, you'll probably feel a bit uncomfortable if you're not a confident guy. But when you flip it and you say that to a woman, she feels attracted because you're demonstrating that you have balls. That you have the balls to create some tension like that. To make her feel less powerful than you in the moment, but at the same time, you're not being serious about it and saying something like, "Why are you asking me boring questions like that?" and being an aggressive guy who is emotionally sensitive about it. Instead, it's a bit playful, but at the same time, you're messing with her and you're putting pressure on her. "Why are you asking me boring questions like that?" And she will then laugh. And at the same time, she'll be feeling so attracted to his confidence, to his goal, right? The balls, the courage, the daring that he has in order to say something like that. It must mean that he's not a needy guy. It must mean that he's not desperate. And what does that mean? Huh? Other girls must want him, too. So, if I want him, I better be showing some interest. I better try to secure this opportunity. That's how women react.
But for most guys when they're interacting with women, they just want to create security and comfort and harmony and show the woman that they're willing to answer all of her questions and do whatever she wants to do or yeah, sure. Let's let's do that. I'm fine with that. In order to hopefully get a chance. But a bad boy instantly makes a woman feel sexually attracted and start to feel like she needs to impress him and win him over because he has the confidence and the non-neiness to be unpredictable.
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