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Hello ladies and welcome back to another episode of Get Them Girl, a girl's guide to relationships, femininity, dating, polarity, and attraction.
Okay ladies, y'all know my favorite series on the channel. We're talking 10 micro habits of the woman whose man is obsessed. I have a fresh 10 for you ladies. And once again, a disclaimer, right? Because I just have to let the new girls know. This is not advice to keep a man from cheating. So, please, none of those comments that says you can do all these things and he still cheats. You're not here to control him. You're here to give a vibe. Okay, ladies. And if he can't keep up, you get rid of him. Okay, so with that being said, let's go ahead and hop into our 10 micro habits, ladies. These are going to be fun, ladies.
Number one, she knows how to create signature moments, okay? And this, ladies, is going to be sensory imprints. So think of things that appeal to his senses when it comes to you all's interactions. They don't fall flat. They're not something that can't be memorable. Whether you're walking in with a fresh scent and you know you're just smelling like a glazed doughnut and he's going to get that sense from you or whether you're coming in with this energy and this vibe because you're having an amazing day. This woman knows how to imprint and appeal to his senses and give him something exciting about the interactions that he's having with her. She gives him something to remember. Right, ladies? So, we're not falling flat in our interaction with men. We're not having boring interactions, but we're giving them something to remember. And the feminine woman whose man is obsessed knows how to do this.
Two, ladies, she knows how to create suspense in the moment. So when you're talking about your reactions, your reflexes, how you respond to things, the feminine woman knows how to kind of create pause. Let him wonder what it is she's about to say. Let him wonder what it is she's thinking about whatever is going in at the time. Make him lean in to see what your response is going to be to things, right? Instead of just giving him everything, make his mind wonder, "Oh, what is she thinking? Okay, I said this. She hasn't responded so quickly. What is she thinking?" Right, ladies? And this is just a fun way to create small moments of him leaning in. Intrigue him. Give him something to wonder about before you give your responses. These are micro habits that you can include in conversations to create a little bit more of suspense, create a little bit more drama, if you like, a little razzle-dazzle. Okay, ladies. Once again, our interactions do not fall flat.
Ladies, number three is so important. She gives herself routines and habits that are not anchored around him. She has things going on that she does for herself solely and there's nothing he can do to interrupt that time. Okay, ladies, there is a whole world that you curate for you that has nothing to do with him. And although that sounds counterintuitive, ladies, for men it's attractive. One of the most attractive things that you can do with a man is have him feel his commitment to you without making him feel like he's being completely covered and guarded by you. Right ladies, we are all individuals. We all like our me time, our own us time. We like to feel free still. And if you are able to be committed to a man who looks at you and sees that you have your own full life and you're not all over him about everything, that's one of the most attractive things you can do. Women who have their own life are one of the most attractive women to men. Their men are usually obsessed.
Number four, ladies, she knows how to create little nuggets of intimacy throughout the day. Okay, intimacy does not just start in the bedroom. She knows how to use eye contact. She knows how to use wording and her mannerisms, okay, her voice to create moments of intimacy throughout the day. And here's the thing, it's not always sexual. Creating moments of intimacy is knowing how to make a person feel wanted throughout the day. You know how to make him feel like you're he's on your mind at different points of the day without doing too much because we don't want to come off desperate. But she knows how to make him feel intimacy with her through her eye contact, through her choice of wording. She knows how to create a space for them to have a spark in the middle of conversation. Create a quick connection with him. Okay, that doesn't even have to lead anywhere. It's just an opportunity to make each other feel wanted.
Number five, she's okay with an occasional break in her pattern. So, if she usually sends good morning text or she usually has a habit that he's used to, she's okay with breaking that habit here and there just to make his mind wonder. Just for him to be like, "Hm, I wonder, I wonder what's going on today. What? Like, where, where is my message? Where, where is my kiss? Where, what's going on?" Okay, she knows how to create those moments for him to be looking for her, but she's not there to be found in that moment. Okay, ladies, and it's playful. This is not meant, this is not meant, okay, to be a break in any kind of responsibility, anything serious. What this is is in those little moments where a person could get used to you doing something every day and get used and kind of get complacent with you doing something every day. She knows how to create a little bit of a break to say like, "Okay, now this is what it feels like when I don't do that. Okay, you see how that feels? Okay, we can get back to it now. Okay, appreciate me." She knows how to kind of give a little bit of uncertainty without taking it too far. Just enough to add a little bit of spice.
Six, which is so important, she knows how to communicate her standards without getting out of character. Ladies, sometimes you just have to let things be known. And that does not mean that you have to act a complete donkey when you do so. Okay? There is a way, there is a language that you can use to communicate your standards and your expectations without losing sight of the fact that you are a feminine woman who at the end of the day is not about to be overly acting crazy and stressing herself over any small particular situation. You're going to communicate that clearly. Okay? You're going to choose your words wisely, okay? And you're going to be in the moment. Let it be known and keep it moving, okay? And you know how to do that without doing too much. You do not have to change completely who you are to communicate those things. And that contrast between having the standard but communicating the standard with such softness, that contrast that you create, it kind of creates a moment of like, "I know she's getting on me right now, but I'm also really drawn to this." Okay, ladies, you want to be able to have that yin and yang.
Seven, which is so, so, so important. She is not afraid to celebrate herself out loud. If that orange is popping on that brown skin, baby, she is not afraid to look in the mirror and say, "Oh, this, this looks good on me." She's not afraid to say, "I'm proud of myself for doing this thing." She's not afraid to compliment herself. And furthermore, because she's able to do those things, she doesn't have to fish for compliments. She can give herself the compliment and nobody even needs to say amen. Okay, ladies. She models how she wants to be seen in the world to herself. She's not afraid to celebrate herself. Okay? And furthermore, men actually mirror usually how we treat ourselves, how we feel about ourselves. The men in our lives actually mirror that. So if you can become a person who's obsessed with yourself, who loves yourself, who compliments yourself, who's in love with you, the men will also be the kind of person who does those same things. Okay, ladies. So do not be afraid to celebrate yourself out loud because that's how you get a man who's not afraid to celebrate you out loud. Okay, ladies.
Number eight, she finishes her thoughts and she does not stop to get approval. And what I mean when I say this, ladies, is sometimes in relationships, women start to feel like they, they're losing their voice because a lot of times when they're voicing an opinion, they're so busy looking at someone's face and their expressions and trying to gauge what they're thinking that they don't actually even get their opinion on certain things out. And they start to feel like they lose that opinion because they're so worried about being judged by their partner. The feminine woman speaks with intention. Even when she's soft-spoken, she speaks with intention. And what she says, she means. Okay? And so in that instance, you don't have to worry about overly scanning his face for what you want to see or is he approving or anything like that. You can clearly speak and make your thoughts known because you know that you're speaking from a place with intention, right, ladies? And a man who's with a woman who knows how to speak with intention and is not gonna always wait for him to amen her and yes and yes and that's okay and that's fine all the time is a man who's going to be obsessed. Men who actually like women, men who are actually with feminine women and love them, they love the way that their women think. They love the way that she's vocal about certain things. They love her intention. Okay, ladies. So that should not trail off because you're afraid of being judged in the moment.
Number nine, she knows how to leave room for him to initiate. I use this example all the time because it's basic and I want you to be able to apply it across the board, right? So, if you are going on dates and you always walk up to the door and grab the door and open it and walk in to the restaurant, you have not left room for someone to initiate. You have taken charge and you have went up and opened the door for yourself and walked in. And what you need to be doing is leaving room for a person to show up. And so in those instances, instead of just walking in, even if you're in front of him, walking up and getting to the side and letting him walk up to the door and creating the space for him to actually hold the door open for you is how you leave room. And ladies, this is across the board. This is in, this is not just in chivalry and going out and opening doors. This is across the board. You give men the opportunity to initiate things. You don't always have to take charge on things. You give them room to initiate. And the feminine woman who knows how to just leave a little bit of space for him to take charge usually has a man that is absolutely obsessed with her. Why? Because he can feel like a man around her. She leaves space for him to feel like a man around her. She leaves space for him to do the things that in his mind he really would want to do for his woman. She leaves space for him to do that. And so, of course, him being able to do that with her, him being able to show up as the man is going to make him even more attracted and obsessed with her ladies. So, leave room for him to initiate.
Lastly, she understands that just because she may be high-maintenance does not mean she has to be hard to please. Ladies, those are two different things. Okay? The woman who is high-maintenance and does not actually allow a man to please her, she will always come off as a woman who's just, quite honestly, after something. And men don't like not being appreciated. Okay, ladies, no one likes not being appreciated. But if you're a woman who can uphold a standard and realize that yes, I am high-maintenance, but at the same time, you're going to feel really, really good about the fact that you're upkeeping me, you're going to feel really, really good and really appreciated and you're going to be very pleased with the fact that you are doing this for me and it's going to feel good to you just as good as it is to me. A woman who can create that and make it to where the man actually enjoys the fact that she's high-maintenance is nine times out of 10 going to have a man who's obsessed with her because he, once again, is going to get to feel like the man. He knows that you're high-maintenance. He knows that it's going to be money attached to being with you. But you make it enjoyable for him. You make him feel like he's that guy. You make him feel appreciated. You don't mind showing him that you're pleased with something, you're okay with that. Okay? And women who know how to do that, their men usually never stop trying to impress them.
Ladies, if you are used to this kind of dynamic with men or you are hoping to attract this dynamic to where your man is really, really obsessed with you, I want you to go into the comments and leave your affirmation for the day. And today your affirmation is, "I move like a woman who is loved out loud." Okay, ladies. "I move like a woman who is loved out loud." That is your affirmation for the day. Go ahead and drop that in the comments. I hope that you ladies enjoyed today's video. Ladies, I love this series, so I probably will never stop doing these videos. Let me know how you like these as well. And as always, I want to thank you for watching another episode of Get Them Girl. I hope that y'all enjoyed and I will see you in the next one. Bye.
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