She PERFECTLY Explains Why Women DUMP Good Men for NO Reason

All righty, boys. Welcome back to the show for men. Today's video, why I broke up with a good person. You can't make this stuff up. You have women complaining all over the internet that there are no good men out there, but they're dropping good men, i.e. boring men, for no reason day in, day out. All right, let's go.

And the reason why I broke up with him is because it was not the right match and I was profoundly settling by staying with him. Breakup is really hard and it is particularly hard when you can't really say that this person betrayed you or you know, they're mean to you or there's mistreatment.

One of the most profound lessons that I have learned over the last decade of my life is who we choose to partner with is an incredibly important decision when your intention is to build a life with someone and to build a great life with someone. And when I was with this person there were things that we were actually compatible in a few ways. Um we had some similar values. We had some similarities in terms of how we viewed the world.

So, that's the thing you're going to find as well, uh gentlemen. These women out here looking for someone who goes along with everything they're looking for. The way they perceive the world, their politics whatever whatever may have you, their perceptions on everything. If you go against it, these women will they'll drop you, even in their 30s. If they're looking for something good, a good man and you go and do something that's uh doesn't hit the uh the criteria especially when it comes to I'm going to say politics is one of the big ones. You're going to get cut. Women are looking for someone who doesn't exist. All right, they've got all these point lists of what men should do, what they should be, their physical characteristics, their financial characteristics. They think that they're better uh than the men that they're dumping. Then they end up and and I've said this a lot of times and I don't mince my words. I believe women in their 30s who are single and even somewhat half attractive complete utter losers. You failed as a woman. All you needed to do was turn up and be there. Some guy would have taken you on. A decent guy would have taken you on, but you overplayed your hand. That's why I call them losers.

So, looking for these guys who are on their level, they say. Like, what is your level? Women can never explain that to me when they say they want to go on my level. I want a guy who's going to challenge me. I want a guy who's going to make me better. No, you don't. You want a guy who has done all the hard work, has set himself up financially, has good income, stable. So, you don't have to worry about anything anymore. You want to latch onto him like a parasite. And pretend like you're building something together. You'll hear that terminology from women. Let's build together. Let's build Let's build an empire. They'll say things like that. Uh that just means you do all the work and they hang onto your coat tails and maybe contribute a little bit. Now, if you're one of the guys out there who's met someone uh who really does help, who really does pull their weight, good luck to you, mate, because you are one of the few and far between. If you've got that, hang on to that, then. Someone who's really doing well, uh chipping in. Uh literally building something with two people's incomes. Not just saying building and then using uh you up for all the benefits of your hard work.

What's What's What's What's some of the things that guys get really stitched up with uh with women who say things like this? Uh a lot of guys, like at the end of the day, they're not very experienced with women and don't understand how ruthless, cold, uh calculating they are, especially when it comes to sizing up men for what the man has and what he can provide. They just don't think that women do that. So, these guys all They'll want to work their whole life. They'll have uh saved up a decent amount of money. They might have even invested in a home or have a a home they live in and have a mortgage on. These women will stitch guys up and they want to be put on the house. They yeah, they move in. They move in with you and they start paying some bills. They think they're paying for your house. They want you to put them on the title. Guys go go do it thinking, well, she's in. She's in with me. What have you gone and done? You've just gone and made yourself a massive target. Completely and utterly locked in. Guys will do these things like this. You won't question or if you do, you won't have the balls or the boundary to walk if she doesn't want to do anything to do with prenuptial agreements or binding financial agreements. Most women absolutely hate that. They can't stand the idea of that that they could dare be with you, but if it doesn't work out, they don't get any financial benefit. That's why they're with you. And I I've had men say to me, "Jay man, you know, you're all about money. Love's not all about money, blah blah blah." It is cuz you wait and see you go through a divorce with someone especially with someone who doesn't have what you have or has way less, which is the vast majority of the time. You watch the We watch them go for you. Then you're going to find out quick smart what marriage is all about.

He was good-looking. Uh he was incredibly intelligent. And so, when you think about this, someone's good-looking, they're intelligent, you you share some of the same values, you have some compatibilities. Why would you end a relationship with that person? Because it makes perfect sense. Why would you? Because you've gotten something that's pretty challenging to get out there, but now he's got to tick every box. And that's how you get these women sitting here squawking on a couch on a podcast about dating and never settling and knowing your worth and what do you want? I am the table and all this [ __ ] when you could have been well and truly happy with someone. But you overplay. They overplay their hands. That's why, you know, I'll make a lot of videos about this, but dating 30 plus or even women approaching 30 is incredibly painful because women are highly incredibly just transactional about it. It's very frustrating. You will see if you if you just listen to how they talk, just how what they look at you men for, Which is to provide financial benefits, commercial outcomes. That's why they have all these requirements, and they think because they get men chasing them that they have all these options. When the truth is, there isn't actually an option there. I've had women say that to me in the past, "Oh G man, I could have been married by now. I could have married this rich guy. He was really sweet. I just wasn't feeling it." So, I always press X to doubt with those comments, because that's women trying to perceive manage your perception of them that they're the ones in control of why they're single, not their bad decisions. But, because now you're here, G man, and you you know, you're a bit better than him. And that that's the sort of vibe they want to give you. Don't fall for that [ __ ] Guys, put in the comments if you've heard that. "Oh, I could have I've had many guys propose to me. Oh, I've had many options with long-term men that are very successful, but I just didn't feel it." Yeah, okay. Sure.

Guys, so you keep going. Consider subbing. Uh like, comment, and share. It really helps the channel out. If you want to support my work further, if that's something you're interested in, you can check out the locals page with some exclusive content. Uh and if you want to speak to me like many of you do and have, consider booking in a time through the Calendly link. Talk about whatever you want. All right, let's move on.

It It takes more than just that. You actually have to agree on what a life well lived is. And you also have to have certain things that are in alignment that go beyond preferences and even go beyond surface-level values and cut right to the heart of what's really important. You also have to know what your deal breakers are. And be really clear about that. And sometimes you don't know what your deal breakers are.

They have all these deal breakers for a deal that no one's signing up for. That's the funny thing. Maybe when they're younger at their at their peak. But you get This is what I mean. You get women like this and who knows if she's married or what, I don't know. But they sit here just talking absolute [ __ ] like they're the ones selecting. You got you They got the men bowing down in front of them, but there's none of them are cutting the mustard. It's the opposite way. These women aren't meeting the the standards of the men that they they believe are within their uh entitlement. And they try and sit here like they're choosing and it's their decision. That's the biggest cope ever. You're on the back nine. Like you've timed out. Now you should be doing whatever you can to try and lock in a good guy. You should be doing everything possible, not making it harder. Not being more and more belligerent, having more and more standards as you age. It's It's absolutely counterintuitive. It makes completely no sense. It's like me saying, "Okay, I'm applying for a job and I don't know, I'll make up a number. I'm applying for a job and and and the pay's $80,000. And I say that's good. They gave me an offer and I say, "No, I actually want 400,000. Take it or leave it because I bring I'm the table." They go, "Yeah, see you, dude." Like you'd be absolutely utterly ridiculous saying that. What about a 65-year-old former uh professional I don't know, football player. And he wants to go and play in the A-League again. And he wants to be paid millions of dollars. It's not happening. But he's like, "No. I know my worth. I'm not going to settle." It makes no sense. You'd be saying you're off your head. But society gives these women a free pass.

Well, they don't they don't get one here.

Until you are in a situation where something happens and you have this reckoning with yourself and you're like, "This is something that feels terribly wrong." So like I said, years ago, I was in a relationship with someone. It lasted about 7 months. And uh it was about 3 months longer than it should have been. I knew I knew about 4 months in that this was not right. And here were the main incompatibilities. Number one. He had a rather nomadic lifestyle. He didn't need even though it was interesting. He had a somewhat grounded energy, which I really liked about him. I like being around grounded men. And that wasn't always the case for me. I used to be like preferred to be around men who were like the life of the party and super magnetic and energetic. And I like people like that in general. But

Okay, so guys, once again, it's all the other women want. Telling any self once again. So, you had a guy who ticked all the boxes, but he was boring. You've dumped him and now in your 30s. And uh now you want to give advice that women should be doing the same thing. Any woman out there who's getting a divorce or considering a divorce needs to go and spend get a complimentary like hall pass from a her her husband at the time to go and see what it's like dating, not hook up with men or anything, but go out to see what the actual experience is like for a woman divorced say post 35. It ain't easy. It ain't fun. It's cold out there. They can get heaps of sex, but once they're trying to convert it into anything more, they're met with some very heavy resistance. It's just not a possibility and they eventually start to realize that. That's why they become more and more angry. That's why you see the dating profiles. They go from fun and light and chill to having all these rules written in them. It just tells you straight away what you're dealing with.

As I've gone older, I realized what I really like is someone who's like sturdy energetically and super grounded. And he had that, and I think that that's what attracted me to him. Because even though he was by most people's standards a very good-looking guy, it wasn't really his looks. It was that energy that made me give it all a chance to begin with. Even though he had that, he was okay with sort of not knowing exactly where his life was going and if he had to couch surf. I didn't know this. So, if he had to couch surf temporarily to figure some things out, he was okay with that. Now, these these are things that I did not know about him until about 4 months in. And this is not a judgment on

one thing here. She smacks her lips way too much to be a good podcaster. Plus, she's talking [ __ ] That's why they're sitting there talking slow, smacking her lips. She's trying to think of the next thing to say. But let let let's just listen to the story. So, more or less the guy what didn't have everything locked down 100%. He was okay with taking life uh as it comes, and that didn't do it do it for her. She wanted the resources lined up. She wanted the safety there. That's why women always say they want a successful guy, a guy who's got ambition. They don't want the guy who's ambitious but starting out. They want the guy who's ambitious and he's he's living it, he's achieved it. That's what they want. Women also they have a hard time not feeling like they're going to be number one. Like So, these ambitious guys who make money, they're trying to hit targets and run businesses or whatever it is they do. They're not spending time thinking about how to spend heaps of time with women. They're an addition in the spare time, a few hours a week, a couple of times a week. That's it. That's all they're getting. Nothing more. The guy's running around chasing chasing his goals. And he knows that that is an opportunity cost of spending time with women. Especially if he's able to monetize his free time. I can tell you I can tell you from experience. I put a dollar value on any interactions with women.

on how anyone wants to live their lives and there are plenty of people who actually really like that and want to live that nomadic lifestyle. I think it's also dependent on stage of life. If I were in my 20s, I think that I would be far more okay with that. I also think that a lot of people in their 20s, and I see this a lot with younger women in their early 20s, mid-20s, especially those who date men, where they have this expectation that the guy that she's going to be with should have his life all figured out at like 27 or younger. And I owe it my my message is to all of you women who are in your 20s and you're dating men and you have that expectation, um you're going to be alone for a long time because should never have that expectation of someone in their 20s. I mean, it's a very rare thing to have our work life stable and figured out in our 20s. And instead, you want to meet someone who has the goal to have that, you know, who's working towards that. And be the person, be for each other the people in each other's lives that are like champion each other to really become who you're meant to be.

Exactly. That's what I'm talking about. She's talking about guys challenging them to make them better. Guys don't want to challenge you. They don't want to have a enjoyable time. They don't want to put business energy into a woman. Women want to get with men who are successful because they think that's going to rub off on them. Or alternatively, they're just going to benefit from the guy's work. That's all that means. Women aren't building [ __ ] Women spend money. Most women spend money. I know one woman one woman ever who would be as disciplined as a man with her money. And who's invested over long periods of time, has had delayed gratification, has built something up, literally built something. The others haven't. The other women I know who've got money, they divorced men for Women who have houses, divorced men for them.

I'm not kidding you. My best mate, good old Larry, haven't spoken to him in a while. His ex-wife is living in a house debt-free. That he paid paid for it, the whole thing. Living debt-free on him. And she is someone who's never had any qualifications in her entire life, somehow owns a house, he's now starting back from square one. So, you need to be careful about who you're getting with. That's why I always say guys are Marriage is and get this, it's even more risky at this age because these women are looking at you more like you're a mark. They're out there sizing you up like a T-800 with the radicals on you. You're the target. You don't realize it. You You think you're smooth, you're picking up all these chicks, you're banging them all. No, they're looking at you to get their tendrils into you by using sex. So, they get their hands on whatever it is you've achieved. That's why they're there. That's why women they don't date down. They just don't. I don't I've never met a woman who has a a boyfriend or a husband uh who is not making the same amount of money. Now, I'm sure it happens out there and I'll get somebody in the comments saying that. Most women are not doing that. They're not signing up for that. They want the guy to provide it. This is the thing. These women, they sit here, they come up with all these ideals, up all these things that they want when they're 38 years old, 40 years old, thinking that this some guy who's got all that is going to take them on beyond being the human flashlight. That's it. It's not happening. I can't watch enough of these videos because it really just does demonstrate, gentlemen, the lunacy of it. If I'm If I'm going to ask you, are you settling down with uh a clapped-in woman over 40 years old when you're over 40 years old and you've got your life settled down, you've been through it, you know what you're getting, you've been married, you've done all that before, you live with women, you know what you get for what you're putting in? You got to be absolutely out of your mind to say yes. Put in the comments if it's a yes, I want to hear it, and if it's a no, I want to hear it as well. Let's share some information.

Career-wise, and the work that you're meant to do, and I and who you're meant to be overall, but I'm speaking more specifically to work. But at the stage of life that I was in when I met this person, stability is something that should already be there in my book. And he didn't have that. He was like super unstable in that way.

You got to love it. As I said, I'm going to let it play, but they tell on themselves. Everything I've said in this video, she's just Guys, I've not watched this whole thing. I don't know what she's going to say. I watched the first few minutes. I thought it'd be a good to talk about. Let them talk talk talk and tell on themselves. Everything I'm saying, she's now clarifying.

And it was kind of like a head trip for me because he was so responsible and grounded in other ways, but this was something that he just didn't have a hold of. And I think part of that was maybe cultural. I think part of that was his upbringing. He was raised um He's a very He was raised very He was very privileged in the way that he was raised. And I don't know. I mean, again, I don't want to judge him. This isn't about judgement. I don't know what was going on for him. And And the thing is, if you're in this situation, you don't have to judge the other person because it doesn't say anything about who they who they are in terms of their value, but it just wasn't the life that I wanted to co-create with someone. So, there was like a very, very big deal-breaker there, which is if I'm going to commit to someone,

he's going to have everything down already, so I don't have to worry about anything. Heard you loud and clear. So, the guy uh he didn't have a lot of drive or ambition in him. He had obviously had things handed to him, so he didn't have that killer instinct. Dried her up. She wants someone who's going to continuously perform, stretch, and never stop. Why? Because that's it That means money. Money's going to keep coming in. It's security. If she wants to uh take her foot off the pedal, which a lot of women would do want to do. You get the most committed career women, they want to take their foot off the pedal at some point. They want you still running hard, so they can still do that without worrying about anything. Listen to what they say. So, you got to have all your [ __ ] together, and that's fine. Now, I'm going to say there it is fine if they have their [ __ ] together, too. I'm all about that. So, if they're able to produce their bank statements, uh any investment accounts, everything, I want full net worth um analysis. If they're able to show that they're of a similar net worth to me and have similar traits uh and discipline when it comes to money, that's fine. You can demand that, and I'm on board. That sounds great. None of them are going to be able to do that. Just not going to happen. Not going to happen.

We have to be in alignment of the kind of lifestyle we want to have. This episode is sponsored by

These women are watching her, following her advice and her sponsors about her health. Can you make that up?

So, that was number one. Number two, I didn't particularly love spending time with him. And I can't, you know, I can't entirely put my finger on it. I think it was just a personality thing. Um I just didn't have that much fun with him. I think that he I have a very particular sense of humor. I don't think he totally got it. I didn't get his sense of humor. And I always felt like like to me, in my view, personally and professionally, there is something very significant to be said for you are sharing a meal with someone. You're sitting down across from them. This is the person you're dating or in a relationship with. You should feel content and you should feel like you're enjoying yourself. It doesn't have to be like ecstatic joy all the time, but you enjoy spending time together. Every couple I know who who I would regard as a healthy couple, they love spending time with each other. It doesn't mean that they spend every waking moment together.

So, why are you with the guy? I don't even get it. What what what? He the same like what? A mark or something or what? Like why did you even waste the dude's time? So you're finding all these ways to nitpick and explain why you're single or whatever, but the what what purpose did you have what trying to like him? Like what did you get out of that? I don't I just really don't understand how women operate. Makes no sense to me. So you had some things that he liked about it she liked about him, but some things he didn't, but she thought he was sort of good enough to string along. Women are never happy. You give them everything. They're happy for a little bit and then there's more. What's next? Me, me, me, more, more, more. You can never keep them happy. It's just the truth of the matter. They're black holes that'll uh take every living ounce of life force out of you and money and everything that you're willing to give. And it'll consume it. And it's never enough. There's always what's next? What have you done for me today? That was yesterday.

But they really truly enjoy each other's company because underneath the trust, underneath the the um the love, there's friendship. And inherent in friendship is you like spending time with the person. And I just didn't

you guys a truth bomb, all right? Most married guys don't like spending time with their wives. A little bit, but they want to get out of the house. They want to go and do your hobbies. What are you guys going to playing golf and getting out there and and and doing all these things that take an extended amount of time. Hanging around clubs. And not behind the not not around the back of the cricket club in the actual cricket club in the pavilion. Even if they don't even play, they just go down and get away from them cuz the wife won't want to go there. Takes up fishing. Women don't like fishing. So the guy can sit in a fishing boat for the whole day. Go away for a weekend and sit on it. God doesn't like fishing. He'll sit there for 36 hours with a with a um with a fishing rod in his hand cuz he doesn't want to be there. The truth of the matter is people get sick of each other. Too much time together, uh it's not good. Most married couples I know, you can tell that they're putting on a front, that everything's perfect, but behind the scenes you know that there's strain. And every guy that puts it out there that everything's going well, I can tell you that he's probably dealing with what you're dealing with, or he's on his way to. But, as I said, for some reason people don't tell you the truth until they're out of it.

Love it. But, I'm sharing this with you because I kept on trying to talk myself out of it. And this is what we do, because we think, "Oh, well, this is a good person." And maybe, you know, you're afraid that you're you can't do any better, or you're going to be alone, whatever it is. And so, you talk yourself out of it. And I just we I just did not enjoy it. And I really, truly believe that he probably didn't fully enjoy his time with me, either. Because there was just a disconnect there. So, there's one more thing that happened that was the straw that broke the camel's back. And that is when I decided, it was the next day, I decided to completely end the relationship. I got shingles many years ago. Um and for anyone who's ever had shingles before, it's miserable. I mean, you feel you like you feel like you're going to die. It's just awful. And he knew I had shingles, and I was it it like takes every ounce of energy, like it's just you are not yourself. And I remember he was like starting arguments with me. We didn't We didn't really argue. We didn't have like fights. There was nothing dramatic about our relationship at all. Um nothing unhealthy. But he was like picking arguments with me. And who knows what was really going on for him at that time, but I kept on saying, "Can we Can we talk about this when I feel better?" I was like, "I I don't have the energy." And I was like, what I really needed was nurturing. Like I just needed someone to give me a hug. Like I wanted my partner to take care of me a little bit. I felt horrible. I wanted them to have empathy and compassion because

So basically, she's been sitting here for like 20 minutes talking [ __ ] about this dude. Who knows what really happens. This is what you hear out there on the dating landscape, gents, when you're meeting with these women. And all of a sudden you don't even know them, and they want to launch into telling you all about their ex-boyfriend, and he was just so frigid, so he didn't do this, that, and the other. There's no reason why on their side why they're single. It's always the guy. It's always his fault. He's always done it. He's always the uh bad one. I don't understand the purpose of this video apart from just to alleviate her guilt that she could have actually [ __ ] up. So hang on, she's starting arguments and nitpicking this guy because she wants attention. She wants drama, and he's not giving it to her.

He doesn't want to talk to her. He says, "I'll talk to you later. I can't deal with this right now." Because she's driving him up the wall. Remember, they love to create arguments, create false conflict, so then they can have passion at the end of it. And that doesn't mean just sex. They can get some attention if they're feeling not heard. We don't operate that way. If I'm in a relationship with someone, or if I'm you know, or if any loved one in my life is is has shingles, or has is like very sick, I'm going to be kind. I'm going the kind of person who, and again, I have many, many flaws. Um so this is not like, you know, me tooting my own horn, but I I do believe that that's when you extend kindness and you take care, you know, you got to take care of your people. You know, I didn't create a whole story about how he's a bad person, you know, he's not taking care of me when I have shingles. I just thought this is never going to work. Because I have seen couples, people in my family, and and and also professionally.

Any reason to drop a guy. Some people just aren't over nurturing like that. I think women also think about I I is a huge double standard. Every time I've been really sick uh, when I've had a woman in my life, whether I've been married, living with someone, whatever, girlfriend, unless they're brand new on the scene and they're trying to show you how good they are, most of most of them it seems like you're putting them out when you're not well. You're putting them out. It's annoying. They're annoyed at you. They're looking at you like you're bloody weak or something. It's an interest I can't really explain the the energy there, but you guys will know what I'm talking about. You're you're inconveniencing them by being unwell. That's why they call it man flu and carry on about it and all of that.

And also with the other things compounded on it, even though there was no reason to villainize him, not a bad person, not toxic, not a narcissist, none of those things. I knew

Shout out to my fellow toxic narcissists out there. We've all been called that at some point. Narcissist means you just don't do exactly what they want.

that I had to end it. What keeps people from ending relationships that they know are very wrong. Like in that moment I knew I was profoundly settling. We don't agree on a similar lifestyle. Our values are misaligned to the point where, you know, we don't agree on how to take care of your partner when they're not well. And I didn't I didn't feel the friend

was sick. So she had shingles, she was sick in bed for a few days, ended a relationship because the guy didn't wait on her hand or foot. I almost try to understand what the big problem is here. It's over dramaticizing it. Where's the drama? [ __ ] get better. All right, you're not going to die from shingles. So she got two sponsors in her videos. There you go.

They're not a bad person. They're not a nightmare. That you should be in a relationship with them. Even though

This is the exact sort of poison that's out there and the women go and listen to this [ __ ] and they might be having a bit of resentment towards a man for whatever reason. They go they go and end the marriage over it. Yeah, Julia Jillian said this or Sabrina that other one that I watch every now and again. She said that and I resonated with it. I've got to end it cuz I'm not feeling it anymore.

Oh. There are clear signs that you are settling. There are clear misalignments that are unsurmountable. When we don't trust enough in ourselves to make the right decisions for ourselves, we will then remain in situations, in relationships, that force us to abandon ourselves and to in many ways lie to the other.

[ __ ] women talk [ __ ] I think I'm going to leave it there, guys. This one's been a painful watch, but I hope you learned something here. She's just made a whole story out of nothing. The guy didn't look after her when she was sick and he was a bit boring and he didn't have all the answers in his life yet. So he got dumped in his ass. Dumped on his ass, see you later. If men held women to the same standard, which a lot more men are doing these days, but if if men held women to a higher standard like men uh women hold men, they would all be single. They'd never get anyone because in comparison to the men that they're trying to get, they're complete and utter losers, have nothing to offer, have poor track records, poor decision-making, and an overall uh very high risk. And men who have their life together, they avoid risk. Thanks for watching, guys.

So that we do