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Well, as it turns out, the Chinese have come up with their own original intellectual property. They have come up with a term called “Left Behind women.” Now, left behind women, from the Chinese perspective, are any women who are single in their late 20s and they have not had any babies.
Now, of course, China is freaking out because the population is dropping at huge rates, like in the neighborhood of 100 million a year. And it’s largely suspected that even the official numbers that they are releasing are just a fraction of what the truth is, because they take a lot of pride in being a very populous nation. And when India overtook them as being the most populated nation on the planet, it kind of messed with them. Anyway, so today let’s talk about our own Left Behind women, how they were created, and what the cultural fallout of that might be.
When my youngest daughter was born, my ex-wife was 36 years old. Now, at that time, and I’m pretty sure it’s still the case, that was considered a high-risk pregnancy because she was over—I don’t know if it’s age 32 or 33, but somewhere in there, there’s like a line that, um, doctors consider a a problem. When you get older than that, it becomes a high-risk pregnancy. Now, I realize that there are women out there having babies into their 40s. I think I’ve even heard of one being born to a woman in her 50s, but that those situations are by far the exceptions. And also, you have to keep in mind that a woman is born with all of her eggs at the time of birth. So, as she gets older, these eggs are actually aging with her. So, as a woman gets older and decides that she wants to have children, the likelihood that she’s going to have some kind of a problem goes up significantly, and the likelihood that that baby, that child, will have some kind of a problem goes up significantly as well.
I don’t think that most women today realize that. I don’t think they realize that they have a fertility window, and you know, it’s open widest, say, between the ages of 18 and we’ll even say 30. Between 18 and 30, this is your best opportunity to get pregnant and have children. And if you want to have a family, it also gives you the opportunity to have as many tries at a child, or as many children as you might want. If you wait until after you’re 30 years old to start your family plan, well, the window is closed about halfway. If you wait till you’re 35 or 36, well, now the window is really getting closed; you’re not going to have very many opportunities. And given that people’s physical health these days is so much worse than what it was even just 40 or 50 years ago, um, fertility is a significant issue. Just the ability to even get pregnant can be problematic, um, even for people who are relatively healthy. Um, getting pregnant can be problematic.
So what’s happened here, as a result of really feminism, is that women en masse are deciding that they want to have male lifestyles. They want to go to college, or they want to start a career, and they want to be independent from men. They do not want to be dependent on a man. Now, I understand this, and I I I kind of get the logic behind it; however, I don’t agree that most people have thought it through as to whether or not it’s the right thing for them. I think that we get caught up in this societal sort of wave of belief and ideas and thoughts, and we haven’t really thought about, “What do we really want in our own lives?” So we just kind of follow along in this algorithmic life and allow society to kind of make decisions for us. And I think that’s what’s happened, not just to men, but to women as well. And women are seeing that fallout here and now. As more and more of them are graduating from college and they’re getting better and better jobs and they’re making more and more money, they’re finding it harder and harder to find a man.
In addition to that, because of all of the injustice that’s been done to men in Family Court over the last generation or so, men are becoming less and less likely to want to get married in the first place. More young guys are making a decision to remain single. So the the pool of potential mates for marriage is shrinking every single day as a woman gets older and older and older. So by the time she gets to her mid-30s, the likelihood that she’s going to be able to start a family is very, very, very small. Now you think about her career trajectory. So we’re talking about a pretty well-educated woman here. So she gets her bachelor’s degree, say, at age 22, and maybe she goes on to get her master’s at 26. So she’s invested a lot of time and money into this process. So she gets a couple of jobs; she’s going to start building a career. Well, before you get any jobs that are really worth a damn, you’re probably going to have to work at something for about five or six years in a particular field before someone’s going to trust you enough to give you a job that has a lot of responsibility. So, um, let’s assume by the time she’s 30, um, she’s got a dream job. She’s got that dream job. Well, now that you’ve got it, you don’t want to just quit; you’ve got to work your way up. You want to get your teeth into it; you want to start really, um, digging into this career and, uh, making the most of it. So five, six, seven years pass, and now that biological window, that that fertility window is closing. What are you going to do? How are you going to move forward? Do you quit your job now? I mean, what if you haven’t got a boyfriend? What if you’re not at that place where you’re, um, ready to, uh, to settle down? You’re not in a relationship. I mean, you’ve dedicated all this time and energy and money into a career, but is it what you really, really wanted? Is having a family something that you really want?
I know there are a lot of women out there who followed that path, got to their mid- to late 30s, and realized that it wasn’t going to happen for them; that their dreams of having a family were just that, just dreams, and there was no way that they could go from this point where they are right now to a place where they could actually get the family that they want, you know, without going through adoption or doing some kind of artificial insemination, you know, buying sperm at a sperm bank—who knows—but I guess there’s ways that you could do it, but certainly not in that, you know, women are always into those, um, fairy tale illusions about life, but not going to make any of those things come true. It’s going to have to be done, um, through a lot of, uh, alternative methods, I’ll say.
So let’s play the scenario out a little bit differently. Let’s say, um, at 35 she does get married and they do get a baby. Now you’ve got a man and a woman who are both, uh, working, and you’ve got this little baby who wants a mom and a dad to help raise them. Who’s going to be the one who takes time off from work to to do that job? What if financially it’s going to be difficult for you guys to pull it off because you, you know, put yourself into one of those urban areas where the cost of living is insane, and now you’re going to have to figure out a way to to make it all work? Um, yeah, I mean, you’re just going to have to let somebody else raise your child, basically. It’s be childcare and things like that are going to be the primary way that you get your, uh, your baby raised. Is that fair to the baby? Is that fair to this little person who’s going to grow up being raised by daycare centers or by a nanny or some other method? I mean, I just feel like people don’t think these things through, and they don’t put together the pieces of the puzzle to achieve the goal that they want when they have the opportunity to make those decisions. And so they wait, and they wait, and they wait, and what ends up happening is they get into a situation where, you know, someone’s going to pay a price, you know, whether it’s the woman who can’t get pregnant, can’t get a family, or it’s the family who can’t afford to take care of a child, or, you know, it’s just one of those situations that, um, with a little more forethought and a little more programmed consideration could have been avoided altogether.
So it does appear that we are going to have at least one or two generations of leftover women—women who get to their mid- to late 30s, they’re not married, they want to have babies, that nobody wants to have babies with them anymore. This is going to be a problem, and I think that this is the unintended consequences of feminism, you know, coming home to roost for those women who trusted feminism, that it would be a path forward for them in their lives that they could trust. And clearly you can’t, unless you enjoy the idea of never being a mother. If you never wanted to be a mother, then probably it’s just fine. But if having a family and being a mom is something that you wanted to do, and you didn’t prioritize it, and you followed the feminist doctrine, and you got your degrees, and you got your jobs, you started your career, and you’re that independent boss lady, well, I got bad news for you: there’s a price to pay for that. You only get to live once, and you’ve got to make the choices as you go, and you’ve got to decide what’s best for you, not what someone else thinks is best for you.
This is a tiny little beaver dam. Now, I have not seen the beavers yet, but I have seen their handiwork all over this little forest here, and I don’t want to wait too long because it’s getting dark, and I think they do their best work at night. So we’re going to head out of here pretty quick. But just over here, you can see—if you can see that tree over there where they have chewed away at the the the, uh, the bark off of it—and then if you look over here, you can see this little stump; looks like a spike sticking out of the ground. That is, um—and the two of them there—those are definitely beaver handiwork. And there’s little spikes like that all over here, and it’s where they just come in and they they take down the, um, the trees. There have been there have been many situations where the beavers come out of the stream and go up to the people’s backyards that, you know, are adjacent to the stream, and they take down their trees. They are particularly fond of fruit trees, so you can imagine you plant a little cherry tree or something in your backyard, and, uh, you wake up in the morning and it’s gone. Anyway, my little forest here is filled with little critters, filled with them. Thought I would just share that with you. All right, you guys, that’s all I got for you today. I hope you’ve enjoyed the video. If you have, please let me know in the comments. And if you know someone who might benefit from this—like if you’ve got a girlfriend or a a female friend, a sister—who, uh, is trying to make a mind up about what to do with her life, pass this one along; maybe it’ll be helpful to her. Anyway, until I see you next time, uh, remember to stay healthy, and if you can, stay single.