Interview #49 w @BlackSpiderGuyAdvice00

I want to hear from different voices. I don't want to just hear from people that agree with me. We're about to dive into some even deeper, deeper topics. Ask a brother podcast. >> Ask a brother podcast. >> Welcome to another episode of Ask a Brother podcast. I'm your host, Jeff Saint James. >> You know, the revolution is going to be because of us. What's going on? What's going on? Welcome to another episode of Ask a Brother podcast. I'm your host, Jeff Saint James. And kudos and shout-out to everybody that's already started tuning in for my most previous interview earlier today with I'm trying to remember her name. Her original name was Rachel Dolezal. And for everybody I read the comments. A lot of great great feedback. Obviously some people that wasn't happy about the fact that I was interviewing her or even the fact that I didn't ask enough questions that they felt. But overall, my main goal for that interview was just to humanize her. And I hope that I did a really good job with that. So, thank you to Nkechi Nkechi Diallo or Rachel Dolezal for coming through. So, if you haven't checked that interview out, please make sure that you do. Definitely want that to clear 5,000 or even 10,000 views. If everybody can just hype it up once the hypes are made available hopefully in the next 24 hours or so. Guys, we're doing another interview. So, like I say all the time every single week we never really know. You're never really going to know which type of guest we're going to be pulling up every single week. And I got some absolute surprises coming up next week again for sure. And you guys have been really really liking and rocking with the men's table. So, we're going to have a special guest tomorrow evening. So, you definitely going to want to tune in 8:30 Eastern Standard Time tomorrow night. And um there's been such positive reviews and reactions to the men's table that I've contemplated doing a test trial run as early as potentially next week of the ladies table. We'll see how you all feel about it. So, definitely want y'all to let me know. But real quick before I introduce tonight's next guest, please make sure that you like and subscribe. And and welcome to everybody who has been just showing up pulling up whenever these particular lives are going up. And guys, next week I'm going to probably going to be doing some original content. Just because the way my schedule's been kind of moving this week. It's been a lot more interviews to make up for the week that I missed. Thank you to everybody that sent their prayer and positive thoughts as it came to you know me losing my family member. The funeral is this Saturday. So, my mind is kind of more focused on that stuff. But I am still trying to you know, catch up with a lot of people who I've been wanting to connect with and get on the platform for sure. So, I just eyeballed it and we just cleared 55,300 subscribers. So, thank you. Thank you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, absolutely absolutely shout-out to everybody who's just been supporting the brand supporting the wave. This channel is this is incredible, man. So, thank you guys because the way we moving, man, 100k may not may not be as far off as I I once thought it would have been just because of the sheer speed of how we've been going with this. So, thank you. And I'm just going to eyeball real quick to see who's in the building. So, guys, if you haven't, please make sure that you like, subscribe, become a member if you haven't. Membership is $2.99. And that you send it and share it with a few people for sure. And I see some people that was actually tuned in earlier for the live with Rachel Dolezal. Mrs. Plum always in the building. Thank you, Mrs. Plum for pulling up. Chuck, welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Duffy Mane in the building. Who else is here? X X Money. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Anybody else? Anybody else? So, yeah. So, if you're in the building, please make sure that you let me know that you're here. And like I say, guys, please send it to share it with as many people as you can because I think tonight's conversation along with many of the other interviews, they're just either entertaining, thought-provoking, just different. And I think tonight is not going to be an exception to the rule. So, my last bit of announcements is again tune in tomorrow night for our men's table. We have a special guest in the building. And hey, the the brother himself. What's going on, my man? What's going on? The business bully Dave Anderson is pulling up in the building. So, guys, Rachel Dolezal episode earlier today, please make sure that you watch that. And then obviously between that episode, this episode tonight, and the men's table episode tomorrow, you're not going to want to miss these episodes back to back to back. I'm even going to have one or two more things lined up that's coming up even even this week as well as next week. So, like I said, guys, ladies table, the ladies table. I'm not going to say the date yet. I'm just kind of locking some things into place. But there's a good good chance that if we do a ladies table for the first time on this platform next week, it'll be people that you've heard of, that you've seen, and that many of you have requested to come back. And we'll probably cover a whole host of interesting topics including this ongoing issue with like celebrities like Leslie Jones talking about marriage as slavery and what are her thoughts about it. So, listen, man, y'all said that y'all love the men's table. Y'all have been loving content. Y'all have been loving the interviews. So, why not we just expand with bringing in quote unquote the ladies table. So, stay tuned because pretty soon in the next 24 to 48 hours we're probably going to be announcing not only the day but who those particular guests that are going to be primarily running that. I'm just going to be on the sidelines. I'm going to be there listening. I may do a little MC, but they're going to run the show. And I'll be I will I'm going to be interested to see how that goes. So, thank you, Mrs. Plum. Real quick. So, guys, if you haven't, please make sure that you just set that to the side. Make sure that you watch the Rachel Watch all the interviews this week. If you got 3 4 hours to spare, definitely definitely check them out. So, guys, without further ado, let me go ahead and bring up tonight's next guest. So, this gentleman, man, I've seen him for years especially on Instagram. And he's entertaining. He's funny. He's logical. He covers a wide range of things very similar to me whether it's masculinity, just general logic, news, and relationships in general. But the main staple with him is that he's gone out of his way to try to be somebody that's been both a model and a hero for men to kind of emulate and work towards and model and be after or you know, just try to live their lives after. And it's been cool to kind of see somebody build the platform that big while engaging in this space without making a lot of compromises that you know, often times I think a lot of people in this space often are tempted to or even do do. And I got to tell you, engaging in this space especially in the manosphere, it definitely comes with its pros and cons. But I am absolutely grateful that I was able to get him and land him because this brother has a big platform. He's busy. And I'm honored that I was able to bring him in. So, please please please help me welcome to the stage and Ask a Brother podcast for the first time, Mr. Black Spider Guy Advice. What's going on, sir? Yo, what's up, bro? Glad to be here. Glad to be here, man. Thank you so much for the intro. That was just a wonderful intro. Nice. What's up, man? Listen, thank you for coming through. You know, this is this is a very very interesting environment for me, you know, engaging in relationships, trend people that are trending, even the manosphere stuff. And it's just dope to me that everybody that's been willing to come out and and come to this to this channel, man. I'm honored that you're willing to come through. No, man. Hey, I'm honored as well. I watch your stuff all the time. It's very professional. I think I saw you when you were on it. There was a clip of you I was actually looking at where you were talking to two ladies about the expectations of women and men and the things that women miss. And I was like, wow, this guy Who is this guy? He's really sharp. I'm seeing him pop up. So, you're you're very good, man. So, hey, props to you as well. Hey, thank you. Thank you. That was that definitely was the trigger point for I think a lot of people with me. You know, the my truth podcast and platform. Shout-out to those ladies in Canada for welcoming me into their space. And listen, man, I'm excited. Let's let's let's just jump right in. Before I even start asking you any particular questions that I've had in mind, why don't you start with just letting people know how you even got into content creation in the first place? I got into content creation in about 2017. I was going through a lot of stuff myself in my own dating life. And I really wanted to understand what was going on. I was reading a lot of behavioral books at the time. I was watching Steph is Cold. But you know, I wasn't really into making any content. I was doing stuff here and there. But what really started it was there was a movement on TikTok called the Kill All Men movement. And it was a really big movement that was basically women cheering on the end of men. And I wanted to say something. But you know, I work in medicine myself. And I wanted to do something that would allow for me to speak but keep what I do out you know, outside of this separate. And I wanted to emulate a character that I thought best embodied responsibility, hard work, and logic. And who know better than Spider-Man? But I wanted to make my own variation of that which was you know, I'm black. And you know, I love Spider-Man. But I wanted to make my own Spider Guy. And I wanted to give advice, you know, cuz I'm not a I'm not a therapist. You know, I work in medicine. I'm I'm more of a nurse. But I still you know, I've been through things and I do a lot of research on my own. I read a lot. So, you know, that's what mainly got me into it was just seeing a a need for for men to kind of speak up. You know, this this space in 2017 was basically nonexistent. You know, feminism was just rampant on TikTok. Just constant men are this and men are that and men are this. No one was really speaking out at that time. This is before Kevin Samuels. This is before there was a Fresh and Fit, this before any kind of any of that. So, you know, I I I wanted to make something that was more fun and exciting, but still had logic within it. And that's what this, you know, this is how this was born. Yeah, man, I I appreciate it. I've actually used some of your arguments in discussions that I've had. And I'm And I'm not one of these people that like to gatekeep or pretend that, you know, I've come up with everything on my own. You're actually somebody who And it's great because what happens is you cover trending topics or funny things that's happening on camera. And by the time you get done working it, like I've noticed even when you did stuff in person, the thing that people say happens with me also happens with you. People aren't throwing things and trying to cuss you out. Like before you Like you work your way into a conversation with some of these ladies and by the end they're like, "Well, damn, he's got a point." And I'm like, "Yeah, man, this brother's got a gift." Well, it it's You know what it is, bro? It's It's about asking yourself, "Well, why am I talking about this at all?" I feel like a lot of guys in the manosphere, they speak from a place of just anger and, you know, it's like, "I was wronged by women." And it's like, "Okay, yeah, we were all wronged by women at some point." But the goal of this space should not be to just whine about, you know, my pain. Now, obviously there's a there's a time and a place for that, but it should also be about connecting with women. And I've tried my best to not only understand the female side, but then have them also see our side. They're not going to want to be empathetic with us if they're not going to be empathetic with them. So, I've tried my very best to be in the middle. It's been difficult because, you know, unfortunately, the internet is extremely biased. Everybody lives in an echo chamber. But I've managed to have a lot of women on my shows and a lot of women in my content. You know, like you said, go You know, I didn't like what he said, but he said it in a way where it wasn't insulting. It was more if he's trying to help me understand. Yeah, yeah. And And speaking of the manosphere, I I You mentioned it briefly about how you notice so many men are very, very angry. Yes. And some of it I would, rightly so, rightfully so. But I think the problem is a lot of them get stuck there. Yes. I notice a pattern when it comes to this space where on one hand it's a lot of guys that they either want to stay there and they get very, very angry with content creators that are engaging in this space and aren't staying there or aren't operating from that space. Or worse, when you get in this space and your attraction and things are starting to happen, there's a lot of like jealousy amongst the guys. And I'm like, "So, what is What is your opinion about the manosphere and what's been your experience since kind of jumping into this and kind of trying to both advocate for men, but also trying to bridge that gap and divide?" Well, like I said in the beginning, there wasn't there wasn't really a space for men at all 10 years ago. And I think that with any new space, you kind of go through your through your your growth phase. And I think the growth phase is just you've been wronged and you're upset and you want to understand. But I think after that phase comes reflection and understanding why it is you're here. And then towards the end it's like, "Well, we understand why that happened. We've dealt with the emotions of why it happened. We know it can happen, but it doesn't mean we're not willing to accept a woman into our life." I think that part of the manosphere is missing. I've said this multiple times. In the beginning I was upset. I consolidated that emotion. I learned and understood the behaviors. I learned my behaviors. I improved myself. I made standards that wouldn't allow for that to happen again. I'm aware what can happen, but I'm open to it potentially happening again because I don't want to close myself off to a woman coming into my life. I want a woman. I want a family, but I have to be strategic. And I think that part is what's missing, like I said. The manosphere in the beginning was very much like understanding why are women like this, why is the feminist movement like this. It evolved into a grift, I think, once you saw Fresh and Fit and Andrew Tate and all of them kind of blow it up. I think that's what ruined it. Not to say that, you know, they didn't say a lot of things that were necessary. But at the same time, they started, unfortunately, getting into the grift. And the grift is the fame, the money. And it's just evolved downhill. What What I really wish for people who don't understand what the manosphere is is to not look at the most popular people, but look at the ones that are maybe not as popular, but are in the middle. Like maybe have 300,000 followers or whatever. And you know, and But But no, the reason why I say it is because people focus so much on the fringe. And then they use that as their their definition of what this space is. And that's very disheartening because there's so many men in this space that want love. That want a connection. That genuinely love women, but they don't want to get hurt like that again. And this space gives them a place of reprieve. And And everybody should have a place of reprieve. It helps them feel better about themselves about being a man. It makes them feel strong. But though the rage is understandable, we have to ask ourselves, "Do we want to be alone forever screaming at a wall or do we want to eventually turn that rage into progress that will lead to a foundation?" Man, man, I I I appreciate you because I've I've tried to walk that fine line as well. And there's just people that they are so stuck with where you you mentioned in terms of the anger, the bitterness, the resentment. And it's to the point where I under I understand that the environment itself has changed and shifted. But I don't know that enough men have truly acknowledged to the degree that they've changed and not for the better. Right? Like it cuz it's not just like, "Oh, the women have changed and they're not worth it anymore." It's like, "Okay, cool." And And if And if that's how you genuinely feel and that that's the conclusion you've come to, have at it. But the the things that I see, the things that they they say, the things that they'll say to women on these in these spaces, it's You know, for a guy who's going through a divorce and went through some of the challenges that I've gone through, it doesn't surprise me, but it does sadden me that there are guys who whose entire existence is predicated on hating women. And And And like you said, building up platforms around that now. And it's very strange to me because it's like I know that deep down they wouldn't want their sisters or mothers to be thought of or treated the way that they're talking and saying how men should move. But every It's like when every guy makes those crazy outlandish statements or worse, comments like directly to some of these female content creators, these content creators have actually These ladies have reached out to me. And they I I said it when I met with the lead attorney, these guys, when me and you are trying to build up something, we're building up platforms. We're actually networking and collaborating with people. They When they act that way, they don't understand that there's people that's like, "I've seen the comment section. I can't come to your platform. I'm sorry." And it's like it has nothing to do with me and I can't control 24/7 all But But it's like these guys don't they don't I don't know if it's that they just don't get it or they don't care. I think it's I think what I mean I've I've I've had a couple of my followers tell me, "Hey, BSG, do you still think it's viable to be with a woman in 2026?" Or they'll say, "You know, I I hate these women." And And it's like I get it because the the video clips that I'm speaking on are women that are saying very outlandish, very harsh things. And you have a lot of women out there that do agree with these things. You know, and unfortunately, there are huge amounts of women that agree with this. But you're not going to put out fire with more fire. You know, I said I said in my last podcast with somebody. I had Roma Army on and we were like, "You know, we can't become the thing we're fighting. We can't become the enemy because if the if we become the enemy, then what's the point of all this? What will this lead to?" You know, in the beginning again, I was very much You know, and what it is is is that men for a long time have been quiet. A lot of men are in relationships where they're silent. A lot of men are in relationships with women that are always, you know, bashing them and they and they don't speak. They see a guy like me or they see a guy saying something, they connect with that and it makes them wake up that rage they've always kept down. Bottled up. You know, it's like a nerd that learns that he can lift the weights and he becomes the the cocky jack jock when he gets muscle. You know, but we got to get out of that cocky jock phase because, you know, feminism, you know, I may criticize it a lot, but it has a level of professionalism to it to where it may have its extreme, but it it's it's seen as more professional than what the manosphere is. You know, the manosphere It's a boys' club, you know. And it's a bit There's nothing wrong with having a boys' club. But again, we need to have a an end goal. You know, what's the end goal? And it can't be superficial like, "I need money and I need muscle." Those are things you need, sure, but that's not the goal. Right? The goal shouldn't be as superficial as, you know, the girl that wants the Birkin bag. Right? Is the goal to become a girl version of that? It's like, "No, we have to we have to be better than that." You know, it's difficult. I'm not saying I'm a saint either. I'm not saying I'm a saint either. But >> Yeah, and and I Like I said, we're walking a line. Yeah, I appreciate that. The one The more I think about it the the the starting point, what makes feminism and the manosphere uniquely different is that one started more as a subculture, meaning the manosphere in the digital realm and space, and the way I think it originated, it was never actually designed to go mainstream. Yes. So, it was always kind of countercultural. It was all You know what I'm saying? It was always about creating space for men to better understand women's uh strategies, techniques, motivations, um reasons and rationalizations of what they do and why they do it, especially when they don't explain and say out outwardly what it is that they You know, they'll they'll like for instance, the the the um you know, they'll they'll say the type of guy that they really want, but then you look at the type of guy they've always been with, and those don't line up, and you're like, "What the hell is it?" Like it's so You know, it it when fathers weren't there and aren't there or don't understand that um this was a space where men could share that stuff uh share that information, right? It's like barbershop talk. Um and you know, it it it blew up. It it's gotten bigger, and and Kevin and and Fresh and and many of the got the big titans in the the manosphere space um did push it, you know, to where it's gotten to now. But now you're seeing these hit jobs like the Inside the Manosphere um a documentary where they're only focusing on certain types of guys on the fringes and saying this is everybody in this space. I'm like, Well, that's that's on purpose. That's on purpose. And it's because you know, feminism is a is a multi-billion-dollar industry where you've got lobbying. You've got lobbyist groups that push it. You've got companies, businesses that push it. They make a lot of money. Facts. Um and so, you know, when you have men who are the main generators of income, who go to clubs that fund clubs, that buy alcohol, um I don't know if anybody knows this, but alcohol sales have dropped, clubs have closed, bars have been closing recently. And it's like, "Well, who funds all of that?" Single men. You know, if You know, we The single men literally fund an entire industry of of uh adult content, um you know, females go out and buy dresses and skirts and stuff to look cute for these guys so that they can get them to get give them money. It's a whole industry of basically tricking guys that are lonely to give money to girls while in a place where they can generate income. A lot of these businesses have been closing, you know? And so, you know, how do we get men to spend money again? How do we get men to go out and go to restaurant Restaurants have been losing money, right? Valentine's Day this year, they didn't get make make as much money. Hallmark didn't make as much money this year. Mhm. Corporations are run on this idea that people will go out in in groups and do things with people. But if men stop spending money, if men invest their money, are more conservative with their money, they choose not to have families, they choose What happens to the economy? Yeah. Economy Economy runs out of Where's the money going to come from? So, how do we get men to to go out and do stuff? Well, we got to shame them out of the thing that's keeping them from spending the money. Mhm. So, what are we So, how do we do that? Instead of having them we're going to get the worst of the worst, and we're going to say this space that might give you peace is actually evil. It's bad. Mhm. Right? Shaming, the greatest tactic of all of mankind. We're going to shame you out of that space, and we're going to say, "No, do this instead." Right? And you know, as a guy that was once on the other side, I was a very staunch feminist guy, um that's not healthy either. Either side of the spectrum isn't healthy. Being in the middle is much much better. Yeah. And so, the man is into the manosphere was basically just a documentary on guys that like to grift in the space. Mhm. And and they turned that into the definition of what manosphere is mainstream, and that's why you have girls on YouTube talking about it. Oh, this is the manosphere. See how evil it is. But then there's men like you and me who are in the manosphere. We don't talk like that. We don't do those things, right? So, it's it's obviously a an obvious hit job Yeah. in order to get men to go with the the program that they want men to follow. Yeah, yeah. And and speak and relatedly, you know, you kind of mentioned about men opting they're not they're not the the dating events, men aren't showing up to those. Men A lot of men weren't already been stopped going to church and religious like so But that conversely, less and less women um really you know, whether it's because of their their ability to make money, sexual liberation, just feminism in general, women have now more options in terms of optionality when it comes to dating. So, as a result, a larger and larger pool of men they're now not viewing as options anymore in in comparison to maybe their mother or grandmother's generation. So, if less and less women are finding most men, you know, unattractive and and and seeing a fewer pool of men as like actually legitimate options for relationships or even marriage, why do you think that's the case? What do you think's causing that? Is it just that most men are truly unattractive, or is there something else that's probably going on that explains that? Well, I always ask the question, why do women date men at all? Mhm. Right? Why do women date men at all? What is the reason? Well, if you go back in time, it was bec- you wanted the strongest man because he could get you the food when it's wintertime, and you're and you're going through your cycle, and he he can protect you, right? It's to get the strongest male possible. That's the the best option, the best utility possible. And a long time ago, the only utilities you had were the ones in your neighborhood, right? So, Jimmy down the street who might have been a five, but because you your only frame of reference is this neighborhood, bec- he may be a five to the world, but he's a 10 in this neighborhood. So, so he got selected cuz he was the best option she had in that environment. What the internet gave women was basically you can date a man from Florida and be in Kansas. You can date a man in Canada and be in New York City. You can date a man in Japan, and and you're in Massachusetts. And you can get resources, right? And you can use those resources like if you were both together, but now she doesn't have to follow his script. Right? Men come with standards. Men come with with expectations. But if I can give him the sexual gratification and give him the the experience of a girlfriend, which that's what I think online dating is, an experience of having a girlfriend. It's not really a girlfriend. Mhm. Um then his brain goes, "Well, I'm in a relationship with this woman. I must protect her." She gains resources from him without having the trouble. Now, if she's able to replicate this for years, multiple times, without having to trade anything of significance from herself, Mhm. how are you going to tell that woman to date a man within her neighborhood that's average? She's been able to get whatever she wants from multiple men around the world to facilitate her existence. She's been able to facilitate the dopamine hit that would then feed that instinctive part of her brain. So, why would I go out of my way for a man if I can if I can feed that need through external resources with less investment? Mhm. So, so that's what's happening is you've got this internet, which is basically the the seventh greatest continent in the world, where everybody lives every day, and she can facilitate her life through it. Men can't do that. Right? So, now instead of competing with Jimmy in my neighborhood, I'm competing with Jimmy, Chen, Jacob, everybody on the entire planet. So, I could be a eight in my neighborhood. I could be a I could be the best man possible in New York City, but I'm competing now with billionaires. I'm competing with Drake. I'm competing cuz Drake he could just text her on Instagram. I'm competing with with Offset. I'm competing with Snoop Dogg. I'm competing with men who are in an even higher echelon that she now has access to that 20, 30 years ago, you just saw them on a TV screen. Dr. Orion, uh funny enough, Dr. Orion that I had on a couple weeks ago, Dr. Orion Therapy when he from Psych Hacks, he mentioned this same concept of how um social media has kind of inflated their perspective on level of options they actually have. And and as a result, he said the worst thing ever is for the ladies who are very young that goes to the to the furthest extremes when it comes to this liberation. He said because like you said, when they're sell when they're selling sex, when they're showing everything in the amount of likes, comments, DMs, it he said it this is so insane to where it's like when they finally do settle down, it's extremely difficult for them to be satisfied with the validation of one man. And that makes lot like that makes so much sense to me. And then as a result, like you said, now you'll get women that actually get the guy, and that's still not enough. Yeah. Because you know, it's not just it's not just having a guy, it's the constant validation and approval, and you know, you you got all like it's Man, let me ask you this this other question. And real quick, for everybody that's currently watching, um if you have not done so, please make sure you like this, send this to two, three, four, even five people. Let's get the numbers up. And make sure that you're a subscriber to both of our channels and platforms if you have not done so. So, when asking women about what they want and are looking for, I'm going to ask you this straight out. I just want to hear it from you. If modern women today had to choose between love or a lifestyle in the modern dating market, which one do you think most of them would pick and they are currently single? Lifestyle. And I get that not from my own mind, but I'm on Threads, Twitter, TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, and I deliberately go to female spaces to see what they're talking about. And they'll literally say if a man can't provide a lifestyle for you, then that's not a real man. They'll say a man's job is to provide and protect, and if he can't do those things, he's useless. They'll say that if a if I need to pay a bill, why do I have a man in this house? They'll say things like that. So, they're not seeking love, they're seeking a lifestyle, especially if they see that another girl was able to get somebody um you know, uh like Drake or some superstar and she's on a yacht and she's taking a picture, she puts it on IG, she says, "Why can't that be me? I look better than her." So, now it's a competition cuz girls compete with one another, not just for men, but also with one another. So, unfortunately, in a world that constantly promotes the idea of you can upgrade, you can upgrade, you can get a better man, he'll if he won't do it, another man will, of course a lifestyle's going to be something that you're going to look for. You know, I'll I'll say it like this one feminist told me, Mhm. "Love can't pay no bill." That's what I was told. Man, and and the wild part of how you framed it, it wasn't even so much that a lot of them wouldn't choose love, the foundational requirement is some aspect of the lifestyle first. Oh my god, that's it. That's the diff So, cuz for me, I I'm the I'm the one that would be like, it obviously, you know, this isn't all women, but you're right. You're right that it's actually the lifestyle and what he can provide is first. That's the prerequisite, and then the love and and and all that other stuff comes out. Oh my god. Well, again, when when you live in a society like ours that promotes promiscuity to such a degree, women have a have a have a huge access have huge access to any genetics that they might want for a child. So, if they're going to settle down, they're going to look for a lifestyle. But, it's it's very ironic because they'll say, "Well, I don't need a man. I don't want to be dependent on a man." But, then you're only with a man because he can give you that lifestyle, which means you would be dependent upon him. Very it's very odd, but again, it's it goes back to biology. Why does a woman want a man at all? Right? This is why a woman will stay with a rich man, but she'll sleep with a poor man who has good genetics cuz the poor man can facilitate the good genetics, but the rich man will give her the lifestyle. Oh man. Well, you know, how about this? Uh friend zoning. I I had a friend recently who, you know, kind of came up with this question about um not wanting to be friend zoned or whatever, and I wanted to know your take on how should men respond to it when women try to initially place them there and or how to avoid it altogether? The friend zone doesn't exist. The friend zone Let me explain what I mean by that. The friend zone is is a choice you make. Yes, I've been saying this for a minute, and I I feel like I couldn't ex- Please explain it. Please explain it cuz I don't want to say anything. Go ahead. Go ahead. So, so my question is this, why would I, if I want to first place, why would I sit around for second place? If I know there's another man that's going to be able to get first place, why would I wait for second place? If she says, "I'm not interested," why would I say, "Okay, I'll I'll be okay in this background while I want to sleep with her, bang her out, kiss her, I want to make love to her," but I can't, so I'm going to just take this secondary option. That's the friend zone. Why would I ever Why would I torture myself? That's a decision you make. The friend zone is a choice. The The friend zone is a choice and a decision that men make and allow themselves to be in. Yeah. I man man like You make it. You create it. That's why I don't I'm never in the friend zone because once I'm told no, I'm gone. I don't have time for that. Mhm. Mhm. Yeah, and and what's wild is if guys acted more like that, women would stop playing that game. Yes. Cuz it's they cuz they would realize >> our fault. Yes, it is. It's really our fault. literally not forcing you to be there. Right. And and she I said it's your choice, and every single man that's stuck in the friend zone, it is his own mental prison of why he's stuck in there in the first place. Yep. You're choosing to be there. Man man, this is why you're here, brother. This is why you're here. So, listen, y'all, if you're currently watching, please please please send it to two, three, four, even five. Definitely send it to all the guys you know, but feel free to send it to a couple girlfriends that you know might be also interested in this type of discussion as well. So, listen, fellas, the friend zone doesn't actually exist. The friend zone only exists in your head if you believe and act on it. Otherwise, you just move on. And the wild part is we're finally starting to see a trend of ladies starting to say, "Men aren't chasing like they used to chase. Men aren't bagging like they Again, first women said you know, uh listen to women, right? You know, respect women, and and and nobody wants to be mean to, nobody wants to harass. So, you know, men are now moving appropriately. And again, I'm going to give it credit for the manosphere space. This space has single-handedly probably woken up thousands of men from staying in or continuing to enter into the friend zone. It is not actually beneficial to any man that actually respects himself. Nope. There's no benefit to it. And the wild part >> And that's why when I asked that question Can I start to catch you up? When I asked that question, "Why can a man and a woman be friends?" right? And I'll say And I'll say a man and a woman can definitely be friends so long as there's an understanding of no desire of intimacy. But, even that's impossible because eventually I will probably warm up to you and and want to do things with you. That's why I don't even play the game because I know eventually if I'm around you enough, I'm going to start to have interest, and that interest might potentially evolve into something that I might not want. I'm aware of myself. It's also understanding yourself as a man. I know myself enough to know that if I'm friends with this chick, it's because I know I'm attracted to her in some way. It may not be enough to complete the complete the bond or or maybe it's it's floating around, but it's enough to potentially evolve into something. Cuz I've had that happen where we thought we was friends for 7 years, all of a sudden we laying in the bed with each other. And we don't And what what happened? All it took was a drink. So, no, I don't I don't do that. Yeah, and and and the thing is that to me, and I'm going to clarify for the audience and the ladies that's probably going to be crashing out watching this an hour later, there's a difference between the friend zone and having women as friends. Yes. The friend zone are men that have the intention of still being attracted to her and wanting and wishing something to happen versus that's not on the table and we are actually friends. So, for instance, like in my wedding, I I've had friends guys and girls that were on my side of the aisle as far as my um in my wedding party. Uh that I've known for 20 plus years, that I've known since I was 13 years old. And you know, I I've never crossed them lines with either either side. So, for me, they are my actual friends. They've been my life friends since I was a freshman in high school. So, you know, that was never on the table. And on the flip side, I I have played that game in the past when I was younger and and being like when you gas these women up to a degree to where it's like she's so beautiful and so attractive that I would rather wait and endure this humiliation ritual. Uh cuz that's what to me the friend zone really is. It's a humiliation ritual because that doesn't stop her from still talking to and dating and dealing with other men, and it doesn't stop her if she's your friend and you're her friend from her being able to tell tell you about other men. Oh, yeah. Love that. And you got to be that good guy. Oh my god, and you want to listen and and and Oh my god, like I think younger me, and I was like, "What the hell is wrong with me?" This is what this space is for. So, when everybody say you don't learn nothing, you don't No, first of all, you learn self-respect. You learn self I was about to cuss. You learn effing respect and recognize when women don't see value in you beyond the utility of what you can give them as a friend. If it's cool, it but my my view and my argument is a lot of them change, the ladies. Their their perspective changes the moment you respect yourself to not allow yourself to be there. Cuz you're showing that you're not an excess resource they can tap into and you have some self-awareness. Yes. All right. You're showing that you're not an an easy target, you're not desperate. Yes. You know. And that you're not operating I think what's happening with men that's in the friend zone is they're operating from the scarcity mindset when it comes to women. Where like >> A couple of my followers are like that. She's the only beautiful woman I see. She's the only She's the most attractive woman ever. She's not. She's not the only one. There's always hotter, thinner, better, younger. There there just is. And the moment you kind of hit that switch, the idea of of trying to befriend and be and stay friends with women that you are attracted to and want to pursue something with that don't want that, it's better for you to respect her wishes up front and then respect yourself to move on. It's also It's also not She don't really owe you nothing, either. No, she doesn't. And the crazy thing is she doesn't owe you anything and you don't owe her ongoing attention and validation. >> Exactly. Exactly. This is what Men are from Mars Women are from Venus for. So Yeah, man. Yeah, man. So another question, man. Black women typically are more likely to have issues with black men dating out of their race for a whole host of different reasons. Whereas when it comes to them seeing or observing black women dating out, they seem to be just totally fine with it if not even encouraging it. Right. >> Why do you think this is the case and what do you think are the motivating factors? So the first part is why do you think black women think that way? And then B, why do you think some black men, outside of like cuz they're just they literally do hate black women or they're racist, like why are some black men actually moving to dating and exploring dealing with Latinas and Asians and even white women? So the first part is, you know, why do you think black women have such a some have such a visceral reaction when they see the image of a black man dating interracially and not care when it's the black women doing it? It's a self thing. And I've had a conversation with a couple of black women about this. They say that it's a self thing. They feel like you dating her is showcasing to her as a black woman that a white woman is better than a black woman. They take it That's what she told me. This is not from me, this is her. She said it it feels like, "Damn, like I could be her, but you chose her, so she's better." And because of society and and beauty standards to a certain degree, she already has it in her mind that white women are more attractive. So you selecting that as a black man makes her feel like she's less than. It's It's a It's a personal thing. Even though you don't know her, she don't know you, but because you're a black man, she affiliates herself with

You and she's looking at that situation going, "Damn, another one of my people are with another one of their people when that could have been me or someone else. She must be better than me." So it's a personal thing. And she doesn't see. She doesn't feel that at all, obviously, when she sees a black woman doing the same thing. For So in reverse, it's it's "Oh, you're doing better." Right?

Cuz a lot of black women will talk about how cuz black women date black men, black women marry black men. So they're mainly with black men. So who's going to be their enemy most of the time if they're dealing with bad stuff from from men, it's going to be black men. So there when they go to a white man, cuz again, society says who's better, who's wealthier? What's the stereotype? White man. So if she's dating a white man and the stereotype is that white men are richer, white men are better, and she's a black woman who is usually, in her mind, selected last, all the black sisters go, "Oh, she got herself a white man. Oh, she doing good. Ooh, she got herself a wealthy man, a powerful man." It's a status thing. Right? It's a thing you can brag about. The The people that conquered us that we talk about being evil, you're dating even though you might have some disparaging views, but the stereotypes still exist that they're better, you're dating them. So it makes you feel like you're at their level, too. So that's why the girls go. And again, this is coming from women I've debated, not just my made-up mind. Um It's a It's a status thing. Wow. >> Right?

But But But the funny thing is for black men dating Latinas and dating. That's more of a cultural appreciation thing. From the conversations I've had with my black brothers on my page, they don't feel like black women love them or like them or appreciate them. A lot of them feel like it's a fight for control within the relationship due to due to unfortunate, you know, stereotypes within the black community. You know, people coming from no father homes, people coming from poverty. Um they're in survival mode. So when a man comes along and they're trying to be that man, they feel like they're competing to be the man in the relationship. But when they go to a Latina or they go to an Asian woman who's still raised culturally to appreciate male authority, they're not necessarily going to this Asian woman because they don't like black women. It's the culture that comes with that woman that they're dating. I tell women that all the time, "I love black women. You know, I love busty busty women. But if you're culturally going to bring me nothing but chaos, then I'm going to go outside of my culture to find it. Men want peace at the end of the day. And if you can't create that or you have a culture that facilitates nothing but chaos, I'm going to go to where there's more peace." And that's what a lot of black men have told me. I've heard that so many times, even, you know, talking with Obsidian, you know, about the black, you know, man conclave and everything. And he was mentioning a lot of the brothers that do date outside of America, they still eat. Many of them still date black women and they just say it's just a difference culturally. And I'm like, "Oh my god, like it I I for the life of me, I don't know why I don't know if it's an easier cope and it's an easier coping strategy to as as a black woman to say it's because you hate your mom and you hate yourself versus oh, she meets his cultural behavioral expectation and need for him to actually feel like a man and a leader and maybe the women that he's encountered previously did not. And I'm like, that's that's such an easier cope than than than acknowledge that that could have potentially be a Well, when you feel rejected, it's easier to hate than understand. Mhm. A lot of them feel rejected by the black man and they don't understand what why the black man is doing it cuz they don't listen. So instead of trying to listen, because listening is harder, swallowing that pill of I have an attitude is harder, so hating you or saying that you are just being a little boy is a lot easier than me looking at the mirror going, "Maybe it's my behavior." It's much easier to hate on somebody than just to reflect. Wow. Wow. Wow. Damn. Damn, that's good. That's so good.

Um Thoughts on Aisha Curry and Jada Pinkett Smith. Um speaking of humiliation rituals. Um how do men end up in situations like this? With with with with women who, at times, when they get behind a microphone, just have a a strong tendency to want to knock the man they're down and the man knock the man they're with down a couple pegs. Like how do how do men, especially men that are wealthy, doing very well, they are very ambitious, how do they end up with women that act like that? Well, you got to look at how they made their money. Mhm. A lot of men when they become wealthier when they're older do better with women than the men that started off being young and dumb and then they get their money cuz of some random skill or they get run after when they were a kid. And I think it just goes down to a lack of life experience when you got them them dollar bills. You know, when you're starting off young and you're fight you the the hottest girl you could finally get the hottest girl you wanted. Look at Will Smith, he was jealous of Tupac. Here comes Jada, Tupac's gone, I can finally be I can be like Tupac. I can finally get the the hottest girl. He was Yeah, yeah, yeah. Will didn't Will didn't go out and really experience the world, really. He found what was to him the hottest girl in the room. Same with Curry, you know, you get the hottest girl in the room at the time. And as time goes on, because you didn't really vet these women, you didn't really sift through these women, you didn't really look at what really makes her go, you just like that big butt and that nice cute face. As time goes on, because the beauty fades, you start as a man growing in your accolades and they were only there because you were the fastest ticket to a golden palace, their true nature starts to come out. Oh, I Like what did What did she say? What did Aisha say? She was like, "Oh, everybody talk about him and nobody talk about me and I I wanted to do this and I wanted to become this and I wanted to do that, but everybody talk about him." It would be nice to still get attention from other men every now and then just to remind them that The The funny is the sisterhood is so incredible to where they hear what we hear and jump through hoops to try to explain how it wasn't it did it wasn't as bad as how it was. And it was like when you take the words and some of the actual statements and actions, it's like reimagine Will Smith sleeping with one of his daughters' friends. Yep. Like people would call that man a predator. Yep. And instead I forget what the term was. It wasn't situation which she entanglement. Oh my god. Man, it just it is fascinating to me to see that and and you and and I never thought about what you just said. It was the timing of when these guys got connected to these women versus having substantial time with the money, with the fame, with a lot of these other things to where they they are a decade into their career. They're 15 years into the being the guy to where they can match and align themselves align themselves with women where this is highly unlikely to ever happen. Yeah. Yeah. My thing is like this, if Will Smith or Curry had gotten older and became wealthier in their like mid-30s or something like around there and had experienced more women than just those two, I think that they wouldn't be in the situations they are because they they would have they would have been through life with their money. They wouldn't have just gone for the hottest girl. They would look for a girl with a little bit more structure and I think that would have saved them. But again, a lot of these men look at the NBA players. Unfortunately, they're real young, get those million-dollar contracts. Who's right next to them? A 304, a 40-year-old woman, 35-year-old woman who got two kids, but she look good and he's young and he's never had anything other than regular and he's she's hitting them with those moves and she's hitting them with the gock gock and he's losing his mind and she's like, "I'll do this for you every day, baby." And he's like, "Okay, I'll marry you." Yeah, and and and I and somebody remind me of this in the chat. Will was married previously uh earlier and you would have thought that he would have learned the lessons, but it it's like man. He was young and dumb. Yeah, man. It is crazy. >> Young, famous, and dumb.

So related to that then, how do you how to spot red flags early for signs that she might be jealous to see you as a form of competition? Well, I'll tell you what my father, who's been married for 41 years, said. You got to see her in every season. Okay. >> Right? You got to see her in every season and that means being with somebody longer than a year and trying to marry them. You know? That's seeing them like, "Hey, babe, we ain't got no money." Let's see how you she reacts to that. Mhm. >> Let's see how you react to that. "Hey, babe, you know, I got to go um stay over my my mother's house and I got to help take care of her." Let's see how you react to that. What are you going to do in that situation? It's putting people and it's not to be manipulative, but it's important to know because you don't know nobody until they under pressure. Yep. You don't know anybody until they're under pressure. You don't know somebody until they're scared. You don't know somebody until they're worried. You don't know somebody until they have no other option. You don't know somebody until they got a lot of money and then they can pick anything they want. You have to see somebody in all areas and then you got to talk to not them, but the people who um facilitate themselves around them. Right? Because if I ask you directly who you are, you're not going to tell me the truth, especially if I got something you want. But if I could talk to all the people that accompany you and know you and have hung out with you and seen you, they'll know more than than you could ever tell me. So affiliate yourself with her friends or the people, her family, her mother, her father. Yep. How is she really? They know more about her than you could ever know. So you have to ask questions. You need to investigate cuz a woman could be the greatest investment or your greatest downfall. Somebody said in the chat, uh Trey said, "Take a vacation from your job and tell her you GOT FIRED." OH! THAT IS CRAZY. THAT'S CRAZY. I would not do something as drastic. I'm going to say this. Um men, be observant of how she reacts and responds when you tell her something positive that you have going on, um a great milestone or a dream that you have. Mhm. Let's start with that. Women who truly support you are going to figure out how they can help you. Mhm. Okay? Women that want to help and not just extract are going to want to support you with reaching those goals. She's probably less likely to want to compete with you because she's willing to help actually build you up. Mhm. What's the saying? What is the saying? The saying is find a woman that asks for nothing and give her everything. >> everything. Yes. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. And and and and the second thing is be mindful and clear be mindful and pay attention to what it is that she's excited to tell other people about. Mhm. So when you're out in outings, when you're um with group groupings of people, see what it is that she tends to get very excited about and passionate about and happy about in terms of what she's referencing. If you're never in that category, it's a problem. Hey. Hey, I I I'm telling you because women who see their guys either on a pedestal or just very proud of him, you can't shut them up about their guys. Mhm. You can't shut them up. A woman and a girl who genuinely looks up to her guy and sees him as going somewhere or truly being somebody, at times she is going to reference him and for a positive. But when you're around when you're in couple spaces and you hear her talk about him and she's always throwing him under the bus or just making, you know, shotty remarks at him and everything and just it kind of comes off like she it almost feels like she feel it almost comes like she settled for him. You'll see it in her conversation. That's the woman where when stuff pops up, you'll you'll you'll notice it. You The best way I can say it for guys is if she's not happy for you, if she doesn't celebrate you, if she's not proud to be around you, and worse, if you have a social media page and she got a social media page and y'all are in a relationship and she's proud enough to share the food you buy and the gifts you purchase and the trips you take her on, but she can only show your hands and your shoes, that's a problem. That's a problem. Hey. Hey, listen to people in the chat. If y'all think I'm lying, if y'all think we lying, please please let us know. And and and again, y'all, if you can, please please please send it just two or three people. Any guys or any girls that you know that would enjoy this type of content, just send it to two or three people. Let's keep the algorithm going.

Um another question I really want to rock with you and ask you about. Um more and more women have been, you know, reporting that, especially when we're seeing it on social media now, men are not approaching women to the same degree they used to, right? >> Right. And men they're saying men aren't approaching them as much in the grocery store. They're they're definitely saying men aren't approaching them in the gym. In the in the workplaces, they're damn near off-limits for for most men. What One of the issues is whether for a lot of men, I think is whether or not some of these women may see you as weird or creepy when you do shoot your shot. Yeah. So guys, I think are reducing some of the ways in which if that happens, the embarrassment, the rejection, and just the the way in which women can act when they they do that, you're kind of reducing the opportunity. So now guys are doing it via DMs, uh you know, social media, uh dating apps, stuff like that. Um from your vantage point, why do you think men are moving more towards those forms of approaching women versus the general historical ways that we used to? >> I've been saying this for the longest time. Ladies, the content that you create on TikTok and IG, men are watching it. When you say, "These creepy guys." But that one guy, well, no man knows if he's that one guy. Or maybe he does because they'll describe what that one guy was and most guys are going, "Damn, I'm not that guy." Women consistently post online what it is they want, how it is they feel. They pretty much damn near use TikTok and IG like a diary. Mhm. >> So so men go, "Oh, so you said that that guy was creepy? I look just like that guy. Cool, I'm not going to go up to you. He came up to you in the gym and you were trying to do a squat and you screamed? Yeah, I'm not going to do that." Men don't want to be shamed. One of the worst things that could happen to a man is public shaming, especially on the internet. He could lose his job, his friends, his fam a whole bunch of stuff. His his his uh overall view of self is important. And if you as a woman can destroy that with just a video or a picture or a clip, no man wants to deal with that. Mhm. And so a lot of men are just weighing their options, the the the the ROI, right? The risk of investment, you know, am I going to really get a high return out of this? And women have made it very clear that if you're not attractive, it's going to be perceived as creepy. Yeah. >> They've made that known. So why would any average man, especially if he knows, "Yeah, my hair is kind of messy. Yeah, I don't look the part." Why would a regular guy go up to you and ask these things? Mind you, and this is the funny part, Mhm. women are complaining about men going up to them not because they want those men, but because they like the validation those men give them. Woo! There we go. HE COOKING TODAY. AND AND AND we going to stay right there, bro. Think think about this for a second. The reason why less men are obviously approaching women is because they told on themselves on social media about the men that approach me that I don't like will see as creeps and if you do it in the workplace, it could get you in trouble. You you do it um in certain venues like the gym and I'm recording or something, I I'm going to post it on social media. So women have reduced the pool to basically attractive men, many of which now don't have to approach women. Think about Think about it logically. If the guys who keep getting rejected and are called creeps are are viewed that way, you're shunning them cuz you're making fun of them. And then you're reducing the guys that are open to doing that. Now there's an influx of Now there's a there's a minority of men who are now getting more and more attention from women. Shooting my shot doesn't even make sense in 2026. No, it doesn't. First of all, as a Listen, you know I'm married, so I'm like and I say all the time that y'all should be grateful. Grateful that I'm that I'm saying that I'm not single because my view and lens for an American woman today is like you actually have to show effort. Reciprocity very early and one and done. Like this whole chasing and ma'am there's 20 other people that will come that will that will replace you. It's not even It's not even an option. So I'm like y'all said things and acted in certain ways in these clubs, in these gyms, on social media, and in these workplaces to where now most men in general, especially if they're smart, they're going to reduce the the areas they're going to do this and if they are going to approach. And then many of the guys that don't have a lot of success with it are just not going to do it. So now the validation's gone. And then the guys that could do it and get away with it, they're learning and realizing they don't even have to try that hard anymore. Nope. Because and it's all because of the diary that is TikTok and Instagram. Cuz ladies don't understand that you're not just making videos for the girls to watch. Men watch these videos, too. I've always said it to the guys, y'all y'all get so angry about what these women are the women I say that it is good news because they give us a new strategy, a new technique, a new approach of how they're going to be horrible human beings. And when they tell themselves, you get to recognize any woman who's following it because they're going to use the same exact talking points. They use the script, they wear the uniforms, they did they they like they they First of all, if they do this disqualified. Disqualified, right? It's like because what we're learning is the women who base their personalities off of these type of trends. I say it all the time, the greatest feeder, the greatest contributor to the red pill was was women and their behavior and how they act on social media. Yes. That's what created the manosphere and red pill community. There would be no need for it if women just treated men better. But because a lot of y'all can't and because y'all come out of these relationships where y'all always think y'all in the right, uh the leader attorney Matt, I just had him on uh last week. Mhm. We were talking about how self-reporting data is extremely unreliable when it comes to men and women coming out out of relationships. Yeah. And and the reason one of the reasons why is because if you like I'm a therapist anecdotally and professionally it's like what's what's the percentage of women that you think come out of relationships and come out of marriages talking about what they did wrong and how they contributed to the relationship falling apart or LEADING TO NONEXISTENT. SO AS A RESULT, so when they're running to social media, when they're going in these long diatribes in the car, when they're building up these massive followings and just telling them about all these strategies of how to take advantage of men and everything, it's like y'all y'all the personal accountability thing, y'all not y'all y'all y'all are y'all are building up the manosphere every time you get on get on the internet. And I man I always say I would not have the content I have over 20,000 videos. Yeah. Thousand. I said I would not have content if you didn't make it. Mhm. Mhm. >> Manosphere would not exist if women didn't constantly bash men all day long. Men are not going to just stand around, least of all the strong men are going to stand around and just have this insanity just pumped into the internet all day long. It's just not going to happen. Bro bro and and what's wild is and this is why I will give the manosphere certain aspects of the red pill community uh um Rolo, different guys of course, as well as the professors like Dr. uh Tom Tommy Curry, um Dr. Tia Santana Johnson because they helped us give a language to an experience many of us couldn't describe. When it came to what was going on in terms of feminization, what was going on growing up in an environment where women's preferences and perspectives were elevated and men's were suppressed or or attacked or called sexist in nature. And I'm like they were starting to get like over the last 10 or 12, 15 years, we've been getting more and more of a of a a lexicon and informal language to recognize and understand what's happening to us why things are the way they are, how what when we can recognize when the when the shaming tactics and sign language is being done. And now once you see it, you can't unsee it. It's like when you take the red pill, you can't pretend that you don't see what you see anymore. And my view has always been I don't care what pills the guys claim they are as long as you're moving smarter. You don't have to be bitter, you don't have to move with hatred, you just have to like you said, you have to be smarter and you have to move more strategically because you're now recognizing no, all women aren't good, they all don't have good motives, they all aren't coming from sugar, spice, and everything nice. And the sooner that you see and are alerted with her doing things that can lead to detrimental outcomes for you and your relationship or potential marriage the sooner you move away from that or stay away from that, the more likely it is that you are going to find a woman that does the exact same thing. >> Exactly. It's about awareness and putting your money in a place where you'll actually get a return on your investment. That's That's all it is. But the women don't like it because they can't control the men they wouldn't want but can still manipulate. They don't like that free attention is being taken away, drinks, food, dates, all that's being taken away. They don't like that those men are being told, "Yo, stop it, man. She's not going to get with you." "Oh, thanks, brother." That could have been food, free food, free money for her. So they don't like that we're taking these things away. So it is what it is, you know.

Uh question. Thoughts on the various ways women use social media and dating apps to thirst trap? And why do men keep falling for it? And the reason why I'm thinking about this is you know, the thirst traps, the OnlyFans, uh digital prostitution and all of that. Uh open demands for transactions like What what the What is What's happening? What's going on? And and and and do you like what do you think this has done to the dating market? Well, number one, men are no longer going to invest in a woman as much as they would in the past because the cookie is now being put for center stage and it's not something that's sacred. So sacred, intimacy, love, connection, that's been thrown out of the water thrown out of the window for this now business model-like transaction relationship stuff we have. I'll give you cookie, you give me money has now become the new standard model and that's because women found out that they can get instant validation and and um instant um you know, income via just manipulation of male lust and um interest. Mhm. And once they've learned that they can do that on you know, consistently repeat it over and over again and they're able to pay their bills this way, why would you ever mop the floor? Why would you ever go out and pick up something heavy when you can just show your chest and some dude who would never sleep with will pay your bills. But what this does though is it teaches men Oh. I think to love you. You don't want You don't want to be with me. You don't want to be in a relationship. You just want my money. So now men start looking at women as sexual objects because that's all women are selling. Women are not selling intimacy. Women are not selling romance. You're saying, "I want money. I want a Birkin. I want a Lambo." Okay, I'll give you all that. Give me your body. Okay. And that's what this has become. So now girls go, "Why don't men want to commit? Why don't men want to stay in a relationship?" Well, I know that if I give you money, you'll sleep with me. That's how all my interactions with women have been. So why won't you be happy with my money and then you give me what I want? "I'm not an escort. I want love." Well, your your entire 20s you were just giving cookie and getting money. Now you want love? Very weird. And that's where we're at right now, right? That's That's where we're at. Girls have Girls have turned themselves into digital prostitutes and then have done that for so long that when they finally go, "I'm I'm done with that." They've trained men to only see them as an object. You've trained men to only see you as a business transaction. So if you've trained an entire generation of men to only see you as an object to be bought with my money why would any man do anything but try to treat you like an object? I don't GET BRO BRO LIKE EVERY MAN, every woman that's coming on the damn platform, minus one woman, I'm not going to mention her name. Every person is saying the same thing. I do not get it. If you dress like a janitor, if you keep cleaning up the trash, if you keep picking up everybody's food, and then I come to you and say, "Oh, I appreciate you. Thank you for doing what you're doing. Um how long have you been a janitor?" I'm not a janitor. Ma'am. Ma'am. What it is is for me that that's baffling and and I'm going to caveat this with the fact that there's so many men that's contributing to the problem to why I know why their mindset is the way that it is. And my view is like I I Pearl said it, other people said it. And the more and more I think about how big of an issue this is, I think this may be a lost generation, bro. I think we're cooked. I think we're cooked in in the sense that, man, I think there's too many ladies that see too many men as unattractive and they've had too many experiences to settle with men that they know they won't like or want. Right. Simultaneously, those experiences that were very transactional gave them glimpses of what a life with a certain man of a certain caliber could be like. Right. Now, it's just almost like the gambling addiction where there's nothing worse for a person who has a gambling addiction to hit one or two times. Mhm. Cuz now they're always chasing that again. And I'm like, this is what it is where it's like I'm at a I'm at a spot and point where I've learned it's easier to just tell women what the pros and cons are of their choice and decision versus trying to say that they're wrong or this is immoral or this isn't of God or like if they're doing it they don't >> care they don't even care about that. They don't understand like that to begin with. They don't care about that stuff. So, it's far easier for those that are interested in a conversation to have it where it's like, all right, well, you know, um there's going to be a certain percentage of men that will sleep with you. There's going to be a certain percentage of men that will pay a hefty amount for it. There's going to be some men that fly you out. There's going to be men that do this, do this, do this. But the percentage of those same men that will be seen in private with you that will not be seen publicly with you is not going to be the same. And the percentage of those men that will be seen publicly with you, some of them that are that comfortable with dealing with a woman that's this open are are are are not going to marry you because they're if they have those type of standards with the woman in their arms, you think all these men have a standard to marry? Of course they do. That's not so it it's so for me, that's kind of where I'm realizing it's probably a more effective approach than just being like, "Listen, man, this is what it is." And you know, for for every uh Dreya or or every this woman or that woman, you know, there's just not you know, there I I've said it before, I think a lot more of these women would actually do better if they just shared men. Mhm. If they just share it because at this end cuz what it is is you don't want to put yourself into a position to where you've made all of these dumb decisions, problematic choices that impacting your future prospects, your your your wasting the years where you could actually get one of these guys, and you get to a point or place to where even the guys that you look down on also don't want you. Mhm. So, I'm like, we might as well get to a place where and again, to be fair, this is already happening in Atlanta. Where more and more men are starting to come out and they're going on dates with two or three women simultaneously. Damn. I heard this from personal experience from a woman that was that came from Atlanta and she said that this is actually a real thing. And as wild as it sounds, I think that needs to be on the table because it's far Listen, it's what's worse? You being with one man and sharing him with one other girlfriend or wife or sister wife, whatever y'all want to call each other, or running through 20, 30 dudes and then being on the other side of that talking about men ain't [ __ ] and and and where and when who's going to bail me out and where's my Russell Wilson? Yeah, but that's that's also not good either though. Um if the majority of women go to a small group of men that eliminates incentive for the average man. Right? And then the average men have nothing to really strive for. A lot of them would feel jealous, bitter, whatever. And then those men will start to destroy things, right? That's why >> to Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Throughout human history, that's always been the case. Yeah, you're not wrong. Where where women have always reproduced more than than men, all right? And then number two, um they're not choosing a lot of those guys now even when they're not sharing men. You know what's also ironic? That's usually a sign of the end of an empire. It is. It is. Now the average man can no longer maintain a line of safety that would be able to gain the the the love of a woman to maintain. So, she goes to the strongest male and because there's only a few strong males, that one male then creates uh um a harem. And once harems start popping up, that's when you know you're at the end of an empire uh cuz only certain men are able to survive with the level of inflation that's going on. Um so so it's it's a sign of the end of an empire, unfortunately. Wow. Wow. And and what's wild is you're right. You're so right. I I've thought so much about the practical aspect of we got to deal with the reality of we have too many women that's going to end up alone and and and and and even for the men that aren't getting these options, I'm I've always looked at it through the lens of there's obviously pay for play, but then there's always, you know, international options if men are open to it. Um but that is also something that also happens. Wow. Wow.

Why do you think so many women idolize um women like uh City Girls and Cardi B? I think it's because it's the ultimate form of safety and security and stability. Mhm. To be able to be so secure that you can pretty much say and do whatever you want. Mhm. Mhm. That's the ultimate That's the ultimate level of safety, security, and stability. To have F you money. To have a such a high level of safety that you can get away with anything. That's That's the ultimate That's the ultimate um existence for what the female instinct desires. Unlimited food, unlimited resources. Mhm. That's what it is. And why do you think so cuz and the reason I'm asking is because I was watching so many I was watching so many women congratulating her for getting pregnant by another man who had multiple other women pregnant while she married to another man. Mhm. Why Why do you think so many modern women see being a mother or at least a single mother as less risky than being a wife? I think it's it goes back to Did the what Did the Did wives really ever love their husbands as much as they love their children to begin with? Um you know, like Do Do they really? Your Your child will always be a part of you. Right? Your child will be a part of you. Why is it that a woman will treat a man better if he treats his children better? Mhm. Right? Why is that? Shouldn't she just love him? Right? So so you know, for for a woman will always love her child more than she will love her man. And you live in a society now that says men are useless. And women are all about what? Conformity. They're all about the hive mind. And if you live in a world that says men are are useless, pointless, and you can still gain safety, security, and stability without them and get the child that you your instinct is telling you to create, then hell yeah. You get to not have to worry about um giving to a man, right? Low low um low investment, high return. Mhm. Why not? And when you see women that are successful like Cardi B, Nicki Minaj, like you said, a light in the darkness. Gambler Gambler addiction in the casino. Oh, she did it. She got the million. Why can't I do that? Mhm. >> I'm going to keep doing it. And then they do it. And then they get maybe they get a a thousand dollars here. Maybe they get two thousand dollars there. Maybe they lose all their money and they do it again. You know? And that's what I'm seeing, you know, in New York City. It's what I'm seeing in Massachusetts. What I'm seeing in London. What I'm seeing even in the Philippines. You know, I've been all over the world. I see it. It's very unfortunate that this this ideology that was supposed to free everybody has turned into unfortunately the nails that are going to put us all in a coffin, unfortunately.

Um what should women do, especially those that's you know, after the age 30, 40, even in 50s, what do you think they should actually do to explore dating better dating options when it comes to men? Um this is obviously women who are actually serious and legitimately want to give their all, actually contribute, bring something to the table. Like for women that are in their 30s, 40s, and 50s, what what do you think they should do in like either find or be found by these men in your theory? Women need to understand that men date for different reasons than women do. Mhm. Women have to accept that once you reach past a certain age, men aren't really looking up there. If the young guys are looking up there, they're looking for a good time, not a long time. You know, I meet a lot of older women that are like, "I got a young guy." Haha, but it's like, yeah, he's not going to stay long. Mhm. A lot of those older women need to accept that time has passed and they're going to have to settle. They're going to have to settle. Not to say that they're not going to they can't they should get with like a bum, but I'm just saying like you're not You You have You have moved past your prime, right? So, you're not going to get a prime man. You You've used up your youth for whatever you wanted. Men want youth. Men chase youth. Women literally go to get surgery to look more youthful because it gets them more attraction to get more men. So, you as a woman know this, right? So so if you're older, you have to accept the fact that, "Okay, well, look, I'm not going to get the hottest man in the room." I'm You're You're just not. Beauty fades. So, you have to accept that your options have faded and you need to find what's going to work. You might have to get with a man that if you're 50, you're going to be dealing with some 60-year-old man. You're going to be dealing with a 55-year-old man. You're not going to get the hot buff dude who's 25. And if you do, he's just going to bang you and leave. And if you're okay with being a a GILF or a MILF, then okay, so be it. That'll be your life. But if you want a man that'll be with you, you're going to have to make some exceptions. What's been Everything you said is logical. The percentage of them that's going to hear this and actually follows through on that? I used to be like, well, if you talk to him, if you explain it well enough, they'll probably be open at least to think about it. I think social media has fried a lot of women's ability to think this through. This is probably why they wind up in their 40s and 50s still talking about what they deserve and their standards and then and and all these guys that Ma'am, there's no long line of men that's just just signing up to to to to date you or your grandmama in the in the nursing home. Like this is just this is just what it is. Um and and I I I don't know if it's because of the surgeries and makeup and social media, I feel like they feel like they can extend that delusion longer. And everything you're saying makes sense to me and I'm like, but something tells me they get enough validation and dopamine hits from from the hits, the guys hitting on them, the guys wanting to sleep with them, to where I feel like what normally would have hit women in previous generations at 28, 30, 32, is probably not going to hit a lot of them till like late 40, maybe early 50s. Yeah. >> said I've said it a couple of times. We might not be making videos for the people of today, but for the people of the future. Because this this stuff will last forever on the internet. There's videos I listen to that came out like Patrice O'Neal. Yeah. I didn't know >> who I didn't know who Patrice O'Neal was in 20 2020. He had passed away long before, but I was listening to his old radio show clips and I'm like, this man is hitting. This man knows his stuff, but he he made this in like 2005, 2006. So, right now, I think it's so important for us to make videos and content because like you said, I feel like unfortunately, we are going to have a lost generation. But we're making content not for the people of today, but for the for the men and women of tomorrow. Um unfortunately, that's what I mean. I really appreciate you saying I totally forgot that that's on the table. That regardless of the comments and feedback and and the pushback, there is another generation that's coming up that's like, man, my mama ain't been in a good stable long-term relationship. My daddy ain't been there. My aunts ain't in no good healthy relationships. My grandmother ain't been. Maybe I want something different. Like that's also on the table. You're you're so right, man. And shout out to Patrice O'Neal, man. We He is still To me, he was the original red piller in my humble opinion in terms of how he navigated just saying the truth regardless of what room he was in and who was in the room with him. So for sure, for sure.

All right, I got one more question for you. Um What's been the most shocking thing that you've had to come to learn or realize about men, women, and relationships since you started engaging in content creation? The most shocking thing I learned when it comes to being a man, I would say, is you're going to be alone regardless. Mhm. If you're in a relationship, you're married, you're dating, you as a man are you have to be a man no matter what, right? You have to work, you have to pay bills. She she's going to rely on you. Mhm. But there's nobody really for you to rely on, right? That's what I mean by you're alone, no matter what. She needs you to do certain things. She needs you to be And you can rely on her to a certain degree, but you could never rely on her like she could rely on you. Yeah. Right? Mhm. So my my father said like he he My father, you know, he be he be on some [ __ ] He be like, "I'm still alone, son." That's what my father would tell me. "I love your mother. She loves me, but I know that she'll never be able to do what I can do for her." Mhm. So it's to that degree, I know I will always be alone. And it's not to say that I'm alone to where I'm not with somebody or I'm feeling depression, but it's to understand that as a man, you will always have to be a man, whether it be for others or for yourself. Wow. So that was the most shocking thing that I had to learn as for for men. And for women, I came to understand that a lot of this feminism stuff, a lot of this uh desire to compete with men, a lot of it is just bravado. Mhm. A lot of it is just what's on the internet and I'm going to repeat it. I think a lot of women, especially the ones that barked the loudest, are the ones that are the most in pain. Mhm. Um cuz I've I've debated so many women over the years and a lot of the ones that were coming at my throat Mhm. would would eventually towards the end start crying. And and I'm like, they're like, why aren't you yelling at me back? And I'm like, because I understand that what you're what you're throwing at me is just energy, but it's energy that came from trauma and pain. Yeah. You know, a lot of women feel cheated. A lot of women feel like the system lied to them. A lot of them got degrees that are worthless. A lot of them worked till they were 32 years old and thought that being a boss babe was the

ultimate thing, and now they're just craving a family. You know, I, I, I go after feminism a lot. I go after women a lot, but I can, as a man, understand how it might feel to be told to be one thing and it come out the other side, realizing that might not have been the right idea. So, you know, it's, it's very unfortunate that as a man, you have to learn that you're really just alone and you're deciding to have somebody accompany you on this trip. And as a woman in this day and age, you've decided to focus on self. You think that's so freeing, but really, you're still alone at the end. And it's unfortunate that the end result on both ends is loneliness, and it's, it's unfortunate because it doesn't have to be that way. We're choosing this. This is a choice we're making as a collective. Humanity is making this decision in the 21st century. We have the, the, the, we're the most lonely humans that have ever existed. And it's so ironic because we're also so connected. Um, we're the most connected we've ever been, yet we are, we are more isolated and divided than ever in history. And it's, it's, it's very sad because it, again, like I said, it just doesn't have to be this way. We're competing and comparing and contrasting. I'm a woman, you're a man. I have this, I have that, but we're, we're supposed to be different. We're supposed to be, uh, championing our differences, and it's in those differences that unite us, that make us the void that fills the hole. But unfortunately, we've taken those differences and instead of loving them, we've turned them into weapons to, to point at one another. And people that watch us stab one another, they make money off of this through lobbying and through t-shirts and through movie deals and Netflix stories, and they make money off of our weakness and our trauma.

Man, I, bro, the way you closed this out, I, I, I'm so happy to know and I've seen it, um, but I, it's, it's always nice to be refreshed with people who can see all the craziness that's going on and still be able to have empathy. I, I like when I point out a lot of the open misandry, the women who genuinely, genuinely cannot see any positive attributes with men. Uh, I've been talking to some of them on the side, and they're so deluded or in, in, in a level of delusion about their perspective of men to where they can't conceptualize men ever being the victim. Yeah. Especially when women are involved. And when you get to that point to where you can't empathize or even see the humanity in the opposite gender, I'm like, man, I, I fear that there's something broken. I think it's, it's, it's not just about social media and that algorithm and the CIA and the funding and what Marxists did this or, or, you know, communists did that. I, I think it's like, I think that they did something to us. It wasn't just that they influenced a lot of us and influenced this last few generations. I think they actually broke something. To where, you know, you have human beings who are the products of, let's just say, hundreds of thousands, if not millions of years of, of evolving. Mhm. And they'll say, uh, my, my genetic line can end here. That's cool. Yeah. I'm not, I, in fact, I don't even want to be with the opposite sex at all. I'm like, I think that they broke something. I find it to be very odd, especially from, from black women or black men that say things like that because it's like, you realize our ancestors, the ones that were enslaved, they fought to, they would fight to get married in the dark. They get married under candlelight and have babies. And the, and even, and even with all that pain they were dealing with, they still strived to have a home. And to have your ancestral blood, those people that fought year after year to, to do what they were, you know, trying and striving to be, just to have their line at the very end where you're the most free you've ever been and you've decided to not carry on that legacy. When, when we were under bondage, Yeah. We, we, we fought so hard to have that family, and now we're the most free and we're saying no to that. I think that's, that's, that's wild to me. No to family, no to kids, no to relationships, no to each other. It's just, woof.

And, and you know, I, I've said it before, man. I think with guys like you and myself and others that are trying to navigate this space, we can point out the toxic things we see, but we still have this glimmer of hope. And you're right. I have to change my lens and stop focusing on the current generation that's maybe too old, too indoctrinated, too socially engineered, and too stuck in their ways. I have to. Somebody said in the chat, give up on if, give up on them if they're 50, 50 or over. Yeah. If they're 50 or over, like, don't even. Yeah. That's not even your target. Yeah. That's not even your target audience anymore. So, it's like, damn. And it's true. It's like, that, that makes sense, man. I think when I work on my project and I start making my rounds and start doing a little mini tour, I may try to figure out how to get up into some of these schools, man. And see, see, you know, what, what small little ways I think I can do this. And then last but not least, I did see a super chat in here. So, guys, thank you for everybody that's been tuning in. And if you have any super chats or quick questions that you'd like me to ask, um, please, please do it now if you can. Justina or Justin A, not sure which one. What do y'all think about DL Hughley's daughter? Um, I haven't seen what everybody's talking about in terms of her husband, yeah, supposed disrespect towards her husband or whatever. I don't know what that's about. All I knew from DL Hughley's daughter was like what she went through in the past in terms of being, you know, violated and telling her father and at the time when she was younger, him not believing her. And which was definitely a horrible, horrific situation. And, um, you know, I won't really speak more on that because I do know as a trauma therapist, the ways in which people that go through stuff like that, how they tend to show up as adults. Um, it's, it can be very intense. Um, it can be a lot. Um, hell, I, I went through it in a previous relationship as well. So, and it can be ugly at times as well. So, you know, I'm not going to speak on any more, but I do appreciate you for the $4.99 as well. And Lee Turner, thank you, good brother, for being a member. He said, "I'm 61 and I hear you." Yeah, man. And, and, and, you know, again, I'm saying it facetiously, but like, I got to acknowledge that there's so many people who, you know, are just, they're still stuck on who to blame and not nearly enough on how do we heal. And, and, you know, if your, if your focus is locked in strictly on who's to blame, um, I promise you that that's not going to be what moves the needle. That's not going to be enough. Um, you know, it, it ha, it does have to be somewhat of a joint effort, um, to a degree. Um, now, but to be fair, it, it, you can't work with somebody that don't want to work with you. So, you know, for fellas that do got their heads on straight, do date out. I'm the type to go where you're appreciated. Go where you're loved. And, and ladies, um, I'm going to say this. You can try to do the same. Um, the market won't treat you the same, uh, because the, the impression and the perception of American women and westernized women is that they are the most difficult women on the planet to try to build a long-term relationship with. They come off as anti-family, anti-children, damn sure anti-marriage and pro-divorce. Um, as a result of that, um, on top of sexual liberation to the extreme to where you say that men that have standards are now misogynists and sexists. Well, and, and that body count shouldn't matter. Um, that's what y'all prided yourselves on. That's, that's what y'all promoted. That's what y'all pushed. That's what y'all share every day. Um, there is not going to be this influx of men from all over the world wanting to marry you outside of probably the ones that's here that's indoctrinated. As a guy that's traveled the world, men from overseas see American girls as a quick hit and quit. Boom. Boom. And, and if you want to test this theory out, go ahead and try to be passport girls. See, see how it works out for you.

Listen, man. I thoroughly, thoroughly enjoyed this. I definitely would hope you could come back and maybe even do like a panel discussion with you and some other guys. I think it would be very interesting. Um, could you let everybody know where they can find and support you? You can find me on any platform as Black Spider Guy Advice. That's literally it. I'm BSG. Listen, man. Please, please, please follow and subscribe and support this brother. He is highly entertaining. He knows his stuff. Um, and guys, if, if you go to his platform, if you go to his videos, please make sure that you comment, "Ask a Brother sent you." Thank you, brother, for coming through, man. Of course, bro. As always, you're the best. Do your thing. Thank you.

All right, y'all. So, let's kind of wrap things up. I hope that y'all enjoyed this. I do have a couple more shows lined up tomorrow and Thursday as well to make up for the week that I was out. I was out. So, your boy is still working hard and, and building. And I'm going to let y'all know this, little secret. The project that I've been working on for the last six weeks, I'm sorry, six months, um, is almost nearing completion. There's a strong possibility I actually may be finishing it as soon as by the end of, or towards the end of this month, and making the announcement next month. The first people that's going to know about both of these announcements that's connected are going to be people who are members. So, if you're not a member, you're not going to know about it first, and you're not going to get the opportunity to buy a ticket to be able to show up to the event connected to the announcement. So, like I said, there's an initial announcement, and then there's a big event that I'm going to be planning and hosting potentially in my hometown of Philadelphia, once I find a prospective, uh, location for, depending on, you know, how many people are interested. So, just letting y'all know that I've been working on something for quite a while, and I'm starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. And, you know, if I, I get pretty, pretty close to being near to done, I'm going to let y'all know. But the first people that's going to know and I'm going to post it for them first will be the members. Um, and then I'm also going to probably post a link in the next two to three weeks, uh, for everybody to share with me their emails to make it really simple. Um, so, that way I let the members know first, and then everybody else who shares their email, I will then kick it to you all. But I'm going to say this, man. Um, I built, you know, we built this platform. The, the channel's growing. The, the subscribers are here. But this surprise, um, I've got my master's. I've done a lot of, accomplished a lot of dope things over the last 10, 15 years since I've been an adult. Um, this project I'm working on now, I think I might be, this might be like one of the proudest things I, I, I can say I'm going to be proud of, honestly. So, um, that's what's been holding my focus for the last several months, and um, like I said, I, I, I see the light at the end of the tunnel. So, I can't wait for you guys to, um, see what it is and see what you all think, um, in my quest to kind of put my little, you know, cog in the wheel to kind of stop, you know, kind of, you know, help a lot of us kind of escape the gender war. And I think that, you know, once this is out there and you all kind of see and get feedback, we'll, we'll see what it turns into. Um, but, uh, you know, I just got to keep working on it. So, just keep praying for my strength to keep locking in with showing up daily basis with all the different things I'm supposed to do. But thank you guys for supporting. And again, the ways in which y'all support is always simple. Just subscribe, um, become a member if you're not, and definitely, definitely share. And always hype the videos if you see that you haven't hyped it. Um, that means a lot, more than you could imagine. Um, so, thank you. Thank you to everybody that's been tuning in. If you have not watched the Rachel Dolezal, uh, uh, Dolezal, uh, Rachel Dolezal, um, interview that happened earlier today, please make sure to do. I think about 2,000 of you have watched it so far. I know it came out about 8, 9 hours ago. And like I said, Men's Table is tomorrow. I think I'm going to have additional, uh, interview with Ancient Intelligence. Anya, uh, is going to be pulling up earlier in the day as well, in the afternoon. And I also may have an additional interview lined up on Thursday as well. And then I got to figure out some original content because, like I said, Ladies Table may be pulling up as early as next week. And in over the next 24 to 48 hours, I'm probably going to be sending out an announcement of who's going to be participating in our first ever Ladies Table. Um, so, we'll see how y'all feel about it. So, listen, man. Thank y'all. Thank y'all. Thank y'all. And, and, um, and thank you. I, I do see that a lot of people genuinely, genuinely enjoyed the interview with Rachel Dolezal and, uh, Dolezal and, uh, I think that, you know, like I said, I was trying to humanize her and it wasn't about, you know, even trying to go viral or get like a gotcha moment. I, I feel like that happens a lot already, and that's already out there. Um, sometimes I'm just interested. I find people interesting. I find their stories interesting, their perspectives interesting. And, you know, when I bring them to you all, you know, I, I found them interesting. I hope that you guys do as well. So, you know, thank you. So, like I said, man, stay tuned. You know, um, big, big project's going to be announced with a big event connected to it as well. And, and once this is out there, um, let's just say it's going to be lit. It's going to be lit. And you are, you are absolutely going to want to get you, I'm going to, I'm, I'm going to add this piece. You're going to want to get your tickets for it once this is out there. It's going to be a good, good, good time. And, and it's going to be fun. It's going to be lit. And it's going to be a legit celebration. So, thank you. Thank you to everybody that's been supporting the brand, the channel. Be, make sure you subscribe, share, support. And I'm going to see y'all bright and early tomorrow on the other side. So, thank you everybody and have a good evening. Good night. And actually see y'all tomorrow. Peace.