Weaponized Motherhood Pt. 1, The Part Dads Don't Share

Welcome to another episode of Ask a Brother podcast. I'm your host, Jeff St. James, and we're going to have a whole host of different people from different backgrounds coming in because it really is about building a community of like-minded people that's just open to listening and hearing from other perspectives. The revolution is going to be because of us.

Raise your hand if you're married. None of you married. Raise your hand if you would like to be married to your baby's father. Why the rest of you who don't plan to get married? Why don't you plan to get married? I'd like to know that. You you already have your child to think about and then a whole family to get to care for. You know, it's it's a lot of responsibility and then you don't want the commitments.

I would want no man holding you down because I I think I can make it as a single parent.

But don't you think you might need help in raising that baby from the man?

Not really. I didn't have a father. My father wasn't in the home. So, you know, it it really male figure is not substantially important in the family.

% of all of the juveniles uh in the juvenile system come from fatherless homes. When you look at homelessness, right, we're talking about 60-70% of all homeless teens come from fatherless homes. About 80% of men who rape out of anger come from fatherless homes.

Right? And so and so the more that we invest in fathers, the cheaper it is for us to deal with a lot of these social pathologies and and um uh issues. What happened psycho-emotionally to a young man who's raised in a home with a single mother and how it can actually undermine his interest in marriage in the home in the future. So it's not that fathers are are you know, as as you mentioned, an addendum. Uh, fathers are not by definition an attachment. Uh, they are crucial to the thriving of of uh children. And if we want healthy families, healthy communities, healthy societies, uh, we really do need to invest in in fathers.

Gentlemen, let's Ander, I'm Rick H.

Hey, my name's Kirk. I still don't know the outcome of this testing because I didn't feel like that was for me to know. You're the most important person in this equation in figuring out your history. I'm sorry for that.

A lot of grief. Like I think about, you know, brother Paul Walker and I think about John Ray, John Singleton, your mother. Divorce both sisters. People don't look at, yeah, your sisters. People don't look at divorce as grief, but you did. You lose things. You know, you probably lost a lot of friends when you went through your your mental health breakdown.

Are you really, really, really? Have you really taken the time to to deal with all of that grief or do you just try to stay busy to avoid it?

I'm doing the best I can with every 24 hours I get.

That's it.

Get some tissue for brother.

No, I don't need no tissue. Black men cry.

That's right.

Need no [ __ ] tissue. Every 24.

You know how to put it, man. Like I never thought like a woman would like stop you from being a father, [ __ ]. Like I never I never saw this coming, man. Like I'm trying. Do not chase behind them kids. Don't chase behind that woman. Say [ __ ] them. Say [ __ ] them kids, man. Always tell people most of the time there are some special circumstances. Alienating our child. I just create so much tension, chaos, conflict around every attempt you make to spend time with him that eventually you stop trying. When you tell me months in advance of a trip that you've taken every year for the last nine years, I'll wait until the plans are finalized and then suddenly schedule something that's bigger, better, more exciting on the same dates. And if it's not the same dates, I'll make sure the dates overlap. Then I'll pretend the dates were up in the air and that that conversation never happened. I'll force you to defend yourself, to explain, and fight for every moment with with our child till spending time together feels exhausting. I'll pull our child into the conflict and make them feel responsible for choosing between us. When you finally step back because you're tired of the chaos, I'll use your silence against you. The distance I created becomes abandonment. The exhaustion I caused becomes lack of effort. The conflict I manufactured, that becomes proof that you're an uninvolved parent. I'll push you into submission and silence. Then I'll punish you for being quiet. I'm not alienating our child.

Are less protective than they've ever been because they they can't care about what their daughter wears or where she goes or who she dates because that would be backward. You know, it's her right to do that. But then you look around and you see girls doing that. You see um girls like selling themselves online to strangers. I think what has accidentally happened is feminism pushed this idea of like girls and boys are just as strong as each other. And then that led to people thinking, "Oh, so they don't need girls don't need extra protection," which killed chivalry, but also killed fathers actually protecting girls. Um, because the problem is not like women are weak. It's that girls are vulnerable. But now we think, oh, we should all step back, let girls do what they want.

A lot of baby went out with bath water.

Yeah. And now you see.

A lot of chivalry went out with patriarchy.

Yeah. Well, we we killed good authority. We just killed all authority. And so now you have young women like demanding that their universities protect them and demanding that the government step in and like staring at someone becomes harassment on the tube because they mothers destroy sons.

Now that I got your attention, let's take it to the comments and discuss.

When the boys turn a certain age, the men come and get him and take him away from the mother because they can emotionally manipulate him. But since we don't live in our culture no more, we say what we want to say, do what we want to say. We tear our men down, and then wonder why they don't make good husbands and fathers. Mothers destroy sons. His mother can speak to him in certain ways that destroy him in ways that can never be repaired.

All right. Well, welcome to another episode of Ask a Brother podcast. I'm your host, Jeff St. James. And today is going to be definitely a pretty tough topic for I'm sure many people that's watching now or maybe people that are going to be watching in the near future. But if you haven't done so, please make sure that you share this with at least one, two, three, four, or even five people. Um, this will probably be one of my more important episodes that I actually put a lot of time into. Um, a lot of hours into. I hope that you all appreciate uh a perspective on something like this. So again, make sure you're a subscriber, make sure that you like this, and please make sure again that you share it with at least a couple people if you're willing to do so. Uh, weaponized motherhood. It's a topic that is often avoided. Um, I think as we're reanalyzing or analyzing for the first time, feminism, women, how they're showing up in society, motherhood is often something that I think we don't really do a really good accurate assessment about of all of the various different ways in which motherhood can actually be weaponized and and used as a uh tool of of, you know, control, of oppression, of abuse, and um, even if outright neglect. And you know, I'm going to go over some of the examples that you know, both researching, looking in, and just even just my general thoughts. I'm going to show it, make it bigger so you all can see when motherhood is weaponized. These are typically some of the ways in which it tends to unfortunately happen. And you know, I'm going to list these off of course, but with that said, um, as you can see, the list isn't pretty. And as we begin going through some video examples of this, uh, it's not going to be pretty. Um, some of you may have even experienced this. Some of you may be actually going through this as we speak. And um, the first thing that we did, and I just showed a few clips, uh, in terms of maternal gatekeeping. Uh, it's it's unfortunate, um, the variety of ways in which women can use their feminine woman status to kind of take advantage of, you know, systems, uh, create harm, discord, destroy their families. All in the quest of trying to apparently destroy uh the man who they either no longer love or perhaps never never did in fact love. So, I'm going to read some of these off. Uh, maternal gatekeeping, wallet with a pulse, social media/public shaming, insulting, disregarding, fake pregnancy, i.e. trapping men, paternity fraud, Planned Parenthood membership, family court, false allegations, parental alienation, and using manipulation and abusing of children. So, as you see, this list is not pretty. Um, and some of you may be wondering like, what is what exactly are some of these look like? So, what I'm going to do, um, throughout the course of today's episode is just give a few examples at least to each of them so that you can kind of get a little bit of a gist of what's kind of going on. So obviously, we just saw a few clips relating to the maternal gatekeeping. Um, now I kind of referenced this is this is where women can pretty much dictate anything and everything in regards to what happens with a child, um, strictly because they are a mother, whether it's visitation, whether it's uh medical procedures, whether it's interventions relating to discipline, or even omitting information that the father perhaps needs to know simply because he's the father. Um, it's it's a vicious, vicious cycle, um, that a lot of ladies, even women that are currently living with the men that are the father of the children's are doing. Uh, it's it's unfortunate when you you think about the ways in which I I want to throw a scenario out there with you. Uh, I remember hearing a case where I met with a man and he talked about how his um son had went through a transition surgery procedure that he didn't agree to and was allowed to be expedited and granted by the courts simply because mom agreed. And the fact that that wasn't something that required both parents' consent, um, is is scary. And I think with the state, I think with the way in which our society kind of functions, maternal gatekeeping is allowed. One, because it's socialized, and two, because it's often enforced. But a secondary issue that I've been noticing for quite some time, and it's going to make sense once I play some of these clips, the wallet with a pulse. This is the concept, and it kind of relates to a lot of these these issues. Most men are pretty much only valued through the lens of what they can produce financially, and their views, general opinions, and perspectives on almost anything pertaining to the kids is almost not even a factor. Judges act this way. Lawyers advocate for this. Women want this. Um, but simultaneously, they tend to complain, which is interesting. Um, they will reduce his role and perspective primarily to what he produces financially. And other than that, they don't need him for anything else. Mom gets to decide. So, simultaneously, she'll say she has all this this labor, all this invisible labor, all this unpaid labor, all these things that she's struggling. But if and when he gives an opinion or viewpoint on what to do with the kid, how to dress them, what school they should be going to, whether or not he agrees with certain uh medical practices or interventions, mom's going to ultimately make the final decision anyway if she disagrees. Um, and really, I just need you to pay for it. So, if you're currently watching, um, I'm obviously about to show some clips. Please make sure you put a one in the chat or at least comment and let me know where you're watching from. And again, guys, make sure that you like, make sure you share this with at least two, three, four, even five people. I see that we're currently at 70. Let's see if we can clear this. I know this episode kind of came out of nowhere for a lot of you, but if you can, let's see if we can get it to clear at least 100 plus people. Um, so I'm going to show some examples of what the wallet and the pulse thing looks like and how and why men are starting to wise up and starting to adjust to trying to prevent themselves from falling into some of these situations.

You give up the may you give up the resources. There's still men out there that is willing to protect their family no matter what. When I came to Iman and told him that I didn't feel safe, nothing else should have mattered. Why are we even on this phone argument? I'm coming to you saying, "Yo, baby daddy, I don't feel safe." Like [ __ ] talking about they going off me about tell you I don't feel safe. You. Yeah. Well, back in 2023 when I. Huh? What are we talking about? What are we talking about? I've done nothing but protect him the whole way through. You can even you can Google Tiana and Iman's divorce. All you ever see me speak on is begging [ __ ] to stay out of our business. When you give up the man, you give up the resources. When you give up the man, you give up the resources. Too many of y'all think that you can break up with a [ __ ]. You can divorce a [ __ ]. You can leave a [ __ ]. All this that and the third. And then you can still call on them when you need provision and protection. It don't work like that. It don't work like that. Okay? Especially if you got a new [ __ ]. Your new [ __ ] is the one that's responsible for protecting and providing for you. Not your old one. Cuz your old one, he going to go get him a new one. And what that look like? You call him just just because y'all got kids together. You call him because you need you need something for you. No. Absolutely not. Because you could have kept the man and kept the resources. No. It don't work like that.

I took the role of of of of being your your son's father. Not just a daddy, but a father.

Right.

I was I went in so hard, bro. I went in so hard cuz I went in so hard to the point where I put them on my wheel.

I had a meeting with my kids. I said, "How about how y'all feel if I scoot y'all over? I scoot over a little slide and let somebody else get a little bit up." And you know, my kids are amazing. They're my best friends. And then, you know, was down with it. So, I moved a little space over and added her son in. I'm. You ain't even my son for real.

Right?

You know what I mean?

Wow. Damn. That has to take a toll.

I put I put her I g I put her in my wheel in my wheel as well, too. You was just my girlfriend. You ain't even my wife.

I hope that still ain't there, man.

Yeah, man. See, I hope that.

One time the dude told me one time the son said, "You ain't my daddy." Now, that's one thing you don't say to a man that ain't his that ain't your daddy. Don't remind him that you ain't his daddy. You ain't. You know what I'm saying? Don't remind me that.

I know that, but you ain't got after I done fa you.

Took you on all these trips, giving you a beautiful life.

Yeah.

I ain't your daddy. I'm put you on my wheel. Bro, when he did that, bro, I I ran. I ran to my lawyer to try to get that. You know what I mean? Because I felt like I was going to have a heart attack.

He walk like nothing happened.

Look at him walking out.

Well, that [ __ ] started right back up. That started right back up.

Oh my god.

He do that [ __ ].

Get out. Everybody get out the way. What's interesting about these various different clips is they were all somewhat, especially the last two were more so related to this whole concept of the wallet and the pulse. And again, as I said earlier, um, a lot of times people don't really think this thing through when it comes to the significance of what that means when a man really is reduced to it. Deontay Wilder, we we saw how he reacted and responded to being viewed and treated that way. Showing up and showing up in the place and in the space where the biological father was unwilling or unable to do so, putting the kid on his will and see. And again, for a child to feel that way and for and again, I I did hear a lot more drama that could pertain to their relationship when men unfortunately feel like a lot of times that's actually their lived reality and most people don't actually care. And it's usually the people who benefit the most, which unfortunately happens to be women. When we saw that last clip, right, where uh, you know, we saw that last clip where everybody's laughing about something, you know, he's having a mental break, you know, was burning up his own house and whatnot, and it was like all just over Father's Day. No, this was a buildup. This was a buildup of being viewed and seen and treated as as subhuman. Only for what you can give, never for what you need. And for a guy to crash out like that and set fire to his own place, you know, a lot of people and and funny enough, I think that was that not funny enough. I actually think that was in Philly. But it's interesting to kind of process and think about that for a second that everybody who saw that man that was obviously in pain and had this mental break where he came to the realization that he literally meant next to nothing. He literally meant next to nothing. And that was what he thought was his best outlet. It's crazy. It's crazy to think about and it's one of countless things that you know, I think is one of the easiest easiest ways that I think this type of um over evaluation or estimation of what mothers are doing and how much they're valued in comparison to how much men are especially fathers are often devalued. So again, if you we're almost at 100 people concurrently watching. So if you haven't done so, please make sure that you share it with at least two to three or even four people. I'm going to read through a couple comments real quick. Uh, let's see who's in the building. Uh, what's going on? Uh, uh, Quantra, uh, what's what's happening, good brother? Welcome. Welcome to the show. Dr. Thunder, what's going on, good brother? Hey, hey, who else is here? Who else is here? Salute black man. What's going on, y'all? Shout out to Mrs. Plum. Always faithful and loyal. And again, guys, if you want to support the channel and the brand, feel free to hit that super chat button if you have a question or comment or just want to show love and support. Thank you, um, Mrs. Plum for that. Uh, King Comp Jordan, I hope he went on with life and I see some ones are in the building. Detroit is in the building. Jerome, I kept receipts when my son came to me after he graduated high school asking questions. I took him down memory lane. O, and later his mother called angry and asked, "Why would I do that? You mean tell him the truth?" And this is again, a lot of times I realize it, a lot of this stuff gets this bad and most of us don't realize it because we've never actually talked to our fathers and we've never actually asked them or maybe not been in a position to ask them how they were treated, how they were viewed, and whether or not they were even allowed to actually be there, let alone be a father. So our first super chat in the building, uh, Trackstar, thank you for the $20. This reminds me of Lean on Me. If you replace the school with the black community, it represents exactly what women are doing. We just need a leader like Joe Clark to make the hard choices and sacrifices to help the community. I appreciate that, man. The unfortunate part is substantially harder when that type of man is demonized and not allowed to operate in the spaces where they're female dominated. The idea of trying to implement Lean on Me today, uh, considering how far the schools have gone in terms of their socialization towards, um, demonizing men that would actually want to do this type of work, is is it's not for the weak, unfortunately. Um, so yeah. So I'm going to continue on and like I said before, if you guys want to show love and support, definitely share, definitely like, and make sure again that you share with at least two, three, four people if possible. Um, the secondary or the third level, which social media and public shaming. Um, this is a big one right now and and it really it really really has kind of started happening a lot more as it relates to uh, you know, uh, social media apps, Instagram, Facebook, uh, this thing going from a lot of things that are typically in private or even women kind of sharing them amongst their social groups. Now this stuff is kind of being put out there via the internet. And there's two ways in which people can tend to use the internet and use social media when it comes to raising awareness about what's happening in their relationships and how they feel and view about men. And I want you to see the stark difference between first person and even the corrections with like I think media man might have one in there somewhere and then even how other people choose, particularly women and moms, how they choose to use the internet almost like a bullying pulpit, uh, to kind of shame their respective uh companions.

Oh, that's nice.

Nina, you can't do that.

When did this become acceptable? When did it become acceptable for a wife to embarrass her husband, record it, and post it on social media? Why is that funny? Let's flip it around. Imagine if a man recorded a video of his wife sleeping and he threw something at her face. Would you find that funny then? Of course you would. And the most disturbing part of the video is it's not what she did. It's the thousands of you that are celebrating this. 6,94 of you. Look, when you have a kid, everything changes. Everyone's going to be exhausted. And everybody does need naps. And if he needs a nap after work, allow him to have that. Cuz guess what? Who says you're not entitled to have one as well? Who says that you can't take a nap the next day? Why can't you come up with a routine or schedule? Work together as a team versus humiliate. And if you ever wonder why men tend to fade away, not try in a relationship more, and not even engage with you, it's because of moments like this. These little moments add up over the years. Instead of doing things like this, work together as a team. Respect one another. And guess what? You won't end up divorced. How hard can that possibly be? Firstly, when you look at this scenario, and he brought up the the exact thing that I immediately thought of, um, we don't share this enough when it comes to especially amongst men, acknowledging that women are so desensitized and so filled with misandrist hate that they they either they don't know or don't realize or don't care that if the roles were reversed, all the comments would say the exact opposite. Remember, she can do this on social media. No one's going to ask that she get arrested. No one's going to say her kid needs to get taken from her. We are socialized to be okay with women acting this way and posting it online to try to shame and humiliate the father or husband who is also the father of their child. And it's very normal. Um, and you see it quite often, and he alluded to it, the thousands of women who are endorsing and backing it. And imagine living with a woman like this. And why would you want to continue trying? Because if this is what she does on camera and then posted, how is she probably showing up emotionally, sexually, just relationally? Right? So, this is where I'm at when I I think that this is a form of weaponized motherhood where she gets away with doing this because she's a mom and we have sympathy and society's supposed to feel bad for how much she's overloaded and here's this supposedly lazy guy and he's not allowed to have down moments. He's not allowed to get a break. And she carefully curates the narrative where she gets the sympathy. She gets to bully him, humiliate him, shame him, and she gets encouraged and support from him, weaponized. Let's check out the next clip.

Just destroyed her marriage because she believes that her son comes first before her husband. And you might be asking, well, why would she say that? Well, because he's a stepdad. But it gets worse. She went on to clarify that if he wasn't the stepdad and was the real dad, she would actually put him first. I want you to think about how crazy that is.

So, my husband told me that he doesn't love his stepson and that most of the time he doesn't even like him. And what do you know? Now, we're getting divorced. Let's talk about parenting for one moment.

Let's talk about it.

My soon to be ex-husband and I have been together for over 10 years and my son is 11 years old. So, it's not that just a couple of years that my soon to be ex-husband has been around. He has seen first steps, first words, first day of kindergarten, first day of every single grade. He has seen big milestones. He has watched sporting games. He has watched this kid grow up. And my son is a really good kid. And I know that a lot of mothers say that, but I really mean it. My son has manners, please and thank you. He's very sweet. He never argues with me. He is so kind, so intelligent, and so emotionally mature. I will address people in the comments very briefly. I have some people that are saying, "Why would you marry someone when you knew they didn't love their kid?" Oh my god, we didn't start there. Oh my gosh, we did not start there. I did not marry my husband knowing that he didn't love my son. This is a very recent issue. This is a conversation that we had on December 1st, our 10-year anniversary, when he told me that he really doesn't like my son and that he resents him for the fact that I put him first and that my son is priority to me above anything else. And you know what? That's okay because that's never going to change.

There you go. There you go. So, she wants us to believe that everyone in that household up until this point has been having a great time. Well, obviously your husband over time because he hasn't always pay attention to the framing. Now, mind you, when this is being introduced to her respective audience and to social media and the public, he hates his son or he resents his son and all this other stuff. And she later on in this clip kind of acknowledges that not only does she not see any issues with how she was maybe presenting herself, how she was carrying herself. Um, she honestly even said later in the clip that she felt and strongly believed that even if he was the biological father, she would still feel the exact same way. So if she's, again, keep this in mind, when these women are willing to come on social media on public platforms, put this information out there to create a specific negative narrative about the father of the child. You have to wonder what version of her has she been that he's been trying to coexist with. What's the psychology of women who do this or do this repeatedly? And she's bragging about treating her husband and the father of her child like a third-class citizen. And she's bold to say it on social media. She was bold to say it in front of him. Chances are she probably wasn't nearly what she needed to be in order for him to be an effective parent um or even feel like he was a legitimate companion. Um, so yeah. So one more clip for sure, at least one or two.

If a a if a man and wife raise a child, they're less likely to end up in jail, but they have the same statistical chance as children raised by just their father. Girls with no fathers in the home have lower self-esteem. No, no father is more more likely to be victims of abuse, especially with single mothers. Children with high BMI more often come from fatherless homes. Here's something. Fathers have the fittest children. That was really interesting to me. The more opportunities a child has to interact with biological father, the less likely they are to commit a crime or have contact with the juvenile justice system. Okay. Another way to say that is men and women who are incarcerated, the population of the prisons mostly encompass fatherless homes. Now, here's something that no one else has mentioned, which I think is cool, and I I don't really say this eloquently. If a a if a man and wife raise a child, they're less likely to end up in jail, but they have the same statistical chance as children raised by just their father.

So, man, I got one first question I want to ask y'all as we get down. I want to know what is the biggest myth that society has about black fathers that we're sick and tired of that you want to address and be able to let know that it is the biggest myth ever about black fathers.

That we ain't there.

I'm about to say.

We deadbeat.

We might not be there. We be across the street from my house somewhere.

We down the street.

Might not be in the house.

Fact of the matter is studies show that black fathers are the most present in their kids' lives.

Really?

Amongst all demographics. Wow.

On top of that.

Single fathers have a higher graduation rate and lower incarceration rate than single moms and dual family households combined. That is a fact.

So if you if you raise tech.

So you know.

So then with those stats really being relevant now, where is this myth still continuing to come from?

You think?

Social media? Social media amongst women, social media, the public shaming. So, you know, like I said before, this is these are just some of the countless ways that unfortunately this stuff kind of manifests. And the more that you look in on it, you realize that this stuff is gets ugly. It gets disp it's is it's vicious and it's actually destroying entire an entire community. When you think about it, so much of society's problems aren't just rooted in fathers not wanting to be fathers. Some of it's rooted in a lot of the behavior that we're we're watching today and seeing on this list. Publicly mocking, shaming, trying to humiliate the manager with trying to control the narrative and destroy his image, not just with the public, but also with the child. We're going to get to that when it comes to parental alienation near the tail end. Um, but listen, we're going to get to another one of these sections. I'm trying to see which of these I want to do next. Um, is it paternity fraud? Yeah, let's do paternity fraud next.

All right, so obviously everybody kind of knows about the first of all, it's not even framed as a paternity crisis, even though in fact it is. Um, but just two quick clips to kind of bring it home. And remember, when women do this, this is another attempt at weaponizing their motherhood. And oh, I see a couple super chats real quick. Let's see. We got DBS in the building. What's going on, brother? Uh, thank you for the $2 salute. Loving today's topic. I see we're already clearing 150 people concurrently watching. Let's see y'all if we can if every person that's currently watching. Now, if you send this to one or two people, we might easily clear 200, if not 250 plus people concurrently watching. And remember y'all, we have men's table tonight where we're going to discuss um the ticker situation with the men. And Daily Rap Crew is going to be pulling up as well. And then we got Exception. Thank you for $5. Women castigating men online and failing to realize the internet is forever the epitome of putting the death in imprudent. Yeah, man. Um, it's it's it's sad that we're socialized to just see this as even acceptable to begin with. For sure. And uh, yeah, man. I'm trying to be busy trying to trying to keep these keep these out. And if you all enjoy this type of stuff or if you want me to do more deep dives and not just the panels and not just the interviews, always feel free to show love, become a member. That's the easiest way besides liking the video, of course, to show love and you don't have to do anything else once you become a member. It's $2.99 per month. And then also, like I said, feel free to share with a few other people. Who else we got here? Let's see. Houston. Okay, Exception in the building again. Uh, let's see. Single mothers create the men they complain about. Yeah, man. Uh, it tends to be the case. Uh, I don't want to say more often than not, but unfortunately, and probably it is the case. Um, and it said public shaming was started back when Oprah was on TV. That is a bar. I just did an incredible interview with someone who actually did a deep dive analysis of how um Oprah really uh shapes so much of what we're dealing with in terms of societal viewpoints of even both sexes, especially.

All right. So, just to look again at what are we going to do? Um, which one is this one? A paternity fraud and allegations. So, let's just take a look at that. Y'all remember Amber Rose slutwalk in LA? Well, this is what she had to say years later.

Do you think sometime women actually try to get pregnant from men?

Yes. Yes.

That's a real thing?

Yes. You've had girlfriends say, "Oh, I'm trying to Hey, I'm trying to.

I've had girlfriends lie about abortions to get money, to get to act like they're pregnant. Yes. It's disgusting. This is why I stopped my [ __ ] walk, by the way.

Yeah.

This is why I'm no longer a feminist because I saw the dark side of what women can do. And I'm sitting here feeling slighted by men.

Right?

And then I'm I'm fighting for equality.

Right?

And I'm like, the only equality is that you ain't either. You [ __ ] are crazy. Y'all are really. You guys are extorting men, lying about pregnancies, um, saying you're on birth control when you're not to trap him. I mean, not to sound vulgar, but if a man comes inside of you and you say that you're on birth control, he trusts you.

Right?

Up that you would trap him like that.

How a well-known hoe in the industry changed her mindset. She's no longer a feminist and she stopped the [ __ ] walk. A hoe who's known for finessing and tricking [ __ ] sees how evil other women are.

Yo. So yeah, man. This stuff is real and the reason why it happens and why it's continuing to happen is because there's little to no consequence for manipulating men. Um, this is a form of emotional abuse. And also, I don't know if people really have truly grasped the fact that all of these women are thieves. Every single woman that's done any of those things above has stolen from that man. His time, his energy, his resources, and I would even argue she's stolen an aspect of his life. It's theft. And we have to start viewing it that way. So if and when you find out a woman has done these types of things where she thinks there's nothing wrong with it or the the worst the second not not as bad but almost as bad is that she excuses it when other women are doing it. Fellas, you got to run what they say. Protect your seed. Now this is where I really wanted to get to Planned Parenthood membership situation. When it comes to abortion services being seen more as like recreational use. Um, it's not about, you know, risk of of, you know, their health or anything like that. This is this is, you know, a a get out of jail free card. Um, and I would argue that there's so many things that are a problem when it comes to like I have in there, not only is it about recreational use, we've now seen evidence, we've now seen women say out loud on the internet that they're encouraging other women, especially black women, if they find out early, or even if not early, that they're having a male child, they're encouraging them to get an abortion. Gender-based abortions in America if they find out that they're having a boy. Weaponized motherhood. What else do we got? What else to say? Uh, weapon. Oh. Uh, using it as a weapon or tool to control or get back at a father. Have you ever heard of women threatening to get an abortion or getting one to spite a man? Weaponized motherhood. So, shockingly, man, this is this is brutal, brutal stuff to see. Um, and of course, when we ask, well, how did it get this bad? And and and you know, why is it to the degree that it is? It's because it's enforced. It's enforced. So, what we're going to do now is take a look at a variety of different scenarios that often pops up as it relates to custody, as it relates to 50/50 splits, um, the court system, the whole nine. And I want you all to just really listen and hear about these perspectives and understand that every single person that hears this, knows this, doesn't want it to change, won't vote for it to change, won't even bring it up to advocate for to bring awareness to it. It's because they are in agreement with it. Just I'm going to say that again and make sure it's as clear as possible. If a person hears this stuff, knows about these things, has utilized them, doesn't want them to change, doesn't want to bring it up or even address it, and doesn't want to push for it to be brought to the forefront of discussion on political campaigns and actual agendas to address these issues. It's because they agree with it. That might mean it's your own mother. That might mean it's your own sister. It might even be the woman you're laying next to. So, let's take a look and let's see what you all think.

If you can't financially take care of the baby, then give me the baby until you financially get correct.

Point blank period.

He said the and then [ __ ] was in the comments that's not right because that's the mother.

All right. Well, you're not a good you're not a fit mother right now. Give me the child 24/7 and.

And I'll figure it out with my kid. I'm not taking care of you cuz you're not my [ __ ].

Yeah.

Cuz if I was down and out, [ __ ] up and homeless, you would go on the internet and tell the world that your baby dad is broke and can't take care of the kid.

Yep.

Orders 50/50 custody, which is equal time, equal rights, and equal responsibility of children. Why is there still a custodial parent? And why is it always seemed to be mom? Here's what's wild. We live in a world where women have fought for equality, and we should have it. Equal pay, equal opportunities, equal everything. That fight was valid and ladies, we got that. But somehow equality goes right out the window. The moment a mom gets a child support order written when they have 50/50 custody. Mom have the same number of days as dads do. They are both feeding the children, clothing the children, keeping the lights on. Dads are already financially supporting the children in real time every day they have them on their 50% of the time. So why are dads writing a check? Also, to say a mom needs a monthly payment when custody is truly equal is actually insulting to women. It infantizes us. But I guess it's okay to let the world know that you aren't a strong independent woman. Because accepting that order when moms have 50/50 custody is saying, "I can't do this without a man's money." That's the opposite of strong and independent. That's the opposite of equality. But some moms want equality in every room except two of them. The one where the child support check gets signed and written out to them and the other one where they get custody of their children because they're deemed that the children need them more. Either we're equal or we're not. Pick one. Because what I'm hearing is a lot of women saying, "I can't even take care of my children on my 50% of the time without the support of a man." That doesn't sound like women empowerment. That sounds like women's inability to be a parent. Woo! If you really hear what it was she just said, think about this logically. And I've actually said this in front of women and and of course I don't know why I allow myself to be shocked at this point. And they still don't get or understand why if a if it's truly 50/50 custody, why is money even being awarded in either direction? Because it's still not being treated as 50-50 custody even when it's being ordered to do so. Because they're still viewing one parent as the primary custodian, the actual parent. And she made up a great argument. Any woman that is telling you that she's against the idea of automatic 50/50 custody except in excluding cases of of actual abuse and and and danger for the child. She wants that to always be a trump card that she can her and other women can always use and take advantage of if they think they need it. You may find this out that there's women in your life that think this way. They would never want it to be like what happened in Kentucky. The divorce rates plummet. Women are staying in relationships. Turns out uh the thing that they're saying it's not about the money, it's not about this, it's not about that. You change one factor, you change one thing, divorce rates plummet. So apparently it is about being able to maintain primary or unilateral uh ownership and custody over the child. It is about the power. It is. But in some of these cases even about the money. Let's look at another clip. And real quick, uh, everybody, and shout out to everybody that's currently pulling up, we're almost at 200. So, shout out to everybody in the last 5 minutes to this. So, make sure guys that you share this. I always say it again, the only way this platform gets bigger. And we just cleared 90,000, y'all. So, we went from, you know, listen, just hype, just share. We're going to clear 100K in no time because of you all. And it's only if you share, only if you like. So, and make sure you subscribe if you're not. So, yeah. Uh, thank you for this this commentator. I think her name is like um mom something. I have to look her up. I'm hoping to actually get her on the platform um pretty soon. I'm going to be reaching out to her hopefully this month. Let's take a look at a couple more.

Going through a divorce since 2019 before co um and the reason my divorces last so long is because I've been fighting for my children, my two sons. I have not seen them since July 4th of 2019. I haven't talked to them. I haven't talked to them since then as well. Excuse me. Um, so for me, um, losing all that time from being a father to them has been really hard. You know, I fought with depression. I fought with thoughts of suicide. I've questioned myself as a man. Am I am I a man genuinely? I question myself as a father. Am I a bad father? Because I'm not in their lives. It's made me some days not want to live because I'm questioning, you know, I'm out here hanging out doing stuff and you still haven't seen your children. So, for me, it's hard because, you know, my sons, me and my sons.

Were like this. Like, those are my two best friends. I did everything with my kids.

This dude, man, his story isn't uncommon. And the more and more that I talk to men who have to decide between their mental health, living out of their car, and giving up on the idea of actually being a father is staggering. There are women that view fatherhood as something that's only allowed if he's in a relationship with her. How many relationships could you honestly imagine probably have had some component of this? She has the kids by default. He's going back and forth in court and he hasn't seen his kids in. Yeah.

And when people say, and I've said it before, the concept of why does a man, why didn't he fight for his kids? You have to start with questioning that premise. We're in a society where only one parent has to. The idea that because me and you aren't getting along, me and you are getting a divorce, me and you aren't seeing eye to eye, means you can effectively kidnap my child and the state allows it. I hope y'all start to realize like how sick and sinister this stuff is. And it's so bad that when women realize there's no penalty, there are incentives. You have systems to enforce and even incentivize and reward it.

You also get something like this. >> This is me. This is a 3K, 30,000 EBT queen. Seven kids, seven different baby daddies. So what? I get 3,000 in food stamps. Yes. I love it over here. I will not give up this lifestyle. I love it. You hear me? Yes. >> And I don't know why y'all popping and going crazy in the comments. 24 with four baby daddies is not bad. Look at your mama and you trying to talk about me. >> I have the brokeest baby daddies ever. I texted my four baby daddies. I got six kids, right? So I texted my four baby daddies and I was like, "Hey, can you send me some money so we can go out to dinner tonight?" You know, thinking that they should send me it, right? I gave them kids. They owe me this. So I text them and I ask them. The first two don't even respond. Of course they don't. They're [ __ ] bums. Then the third one responds and tell me he pays $700 a month. Why can't I use his child support for that? That if I still don't have money, I need to get a job. >> I have five kids by five different men and I'm not ashamed of it. Life happened. >> I have nine kids and people always ask me how I'm going to afford to pay for all these kids, like their entire childhood and putting them through college and all this. And the trick is to just also have an insane amount of baby daddies. Like I have nine kids, seven baby daddies. And so I get seven child support checks. And I'm >> nine. Oh my god.

So on the one extreme when it comes to weaponizing motherhood, you got the the Planned Parenthood memberships where they're going in twice a year bragging and boasting about empowerment being able to take full control. And then you have situations like this on the other extreme. This is weaponizing motherhood. Once you're a mother, you can do what you want and live a life of on another person's labor. Just guaranteed yourself 10, 15, 20 plus years of support for you and this child. You don't have to love him. You don't have to love the child. And the state is going to reward it anyway.

So, let's see what's going on with some of the super. Oh, let me finish this because I I don't want to forget this. >> Most of my baby daddies make pretty good money. And one of them I actually get 40% of his paycheck somehow. People are so bothered by me having four kids from four different men. I'm going to like honestly keep talking about it forever. Like dead ass. I didn't know it was so frowned upon. Like oh my god. >> Yes.

So when people are saying that men are exaggerating in this space, that men don't know what they're talking about, that these women aren't everywhere, did you see different racial groups? How many men they're talking about? And each of them extracting resources for multiple paychecks from multiple men and doesn't even have to be with those men. And clearly, they're incapable of taking care of those children on their own. So the state says, the family court system says, "Yep, let's stick them with mom. We got to keep those beds filled with the private prisons." Weaponized motherhood. Let's see. Um, let's see. Uh, some of these additional super chats. I see we got a couple more. My guy Mauricio, what's going on, brother? You're giving a voice to the voiceless. Yeah, man.

Um, I think talking with my own dad and uh talking with my own dad, talking with other men who are going through it, uh, talking with family members who found out much more information as adults about things their dads experienced. Wasn't our dads or were perfect by any means, but hearing perspectives that we would have never ever heard that were true from the other side of the aisle and realizing that you're trained to not acknowledge or identify mom's or your mother's flaws, shortcomings, or even outright disgusting behavior that can contribute to why fathers end up not being there. When remember we have a term deadbeat fathers, deadbeat dads. Um, what do you call women like this? What do you call women like this? What do you? Where they at? Here they go. What do you call these women who the state endorses, props, backs, and they are everywhere. Some of them dress better. Some of them dress nicely. Some of them are more classy because it's only one that they're doing it with. I understand why there's a level of anger and bitterness and hatred in this space. Of course, I don't want men to stay there indefinitely. I don't think it's good for you. And and ultimately, I do think that there's a reason why men that stay there often end up giving up on their lives. But this stuff is insane. And I see we're at 230 plus people concurrently watching. So guys, we're so close to the 250 mark. I always try to aim for that. So, please like, make sure that you share with at least two people. And if everybody shares right now, we're definitely definitely going to hit that mark.

And then Mauricio again, he writes, "My mom always rolled her eyes when I said that women are allowed to kidnap children when I was a kid, but we didn't live with that. Women are allowed to kidnap children." Wow. Wow.

So yeah, as I said, um when you really analyze and review a lot of these things, it's it's it's brutal to say, and that was obviously the court system. Uh I want to see if I have any alienation uh clips in particular that I was see I do actually. And again, the if you thought the videos I'm about I shared earlier were bad, um you're going to realize and see how sick, evil, and bad many moms actually can be and how even in conversations about how parents show up, how often I think people don't realize you ignoring this, you downplaying it is going to actually have social consequences, societal level consequences. And this stuff is so bad and so disgusting that I think it takes a while for people to realize we are in real time as a part of this community, this online digital community of people sharing men's perspectives, father perspectives. We have to re-evaluate everything. We cannot, I'm telling you the truth, guys. We cannot take this for granted. We absolutely can not any longer take for granted that how you grew up, what you were told, what you were shown, and how you were conditioned was right. So, let's look at some of these clips and you'll see what I mean in terms of how serious this issue actually is.

>> What's false is that you think things that do not matter to me to >> One sec. Let me There we go. Put it back up, >> Jonathan. What's false is that you think things that do not matter to me today >> matter more it matters to you >> and the trauma that you cause by being the way you are. >> Okay. Tell me what trauma what trauma did you have >> watching you. Now listen listen carefully to what he says what the accusation is. Whether or not she downplays or denies it, ever acknowledges the pain that she caused and who she ultimately does blame. And how many boys and men and people experienced this, ladies included, from their own mothers.

>> Domestically, violently have altercations with your kids and multiple men. >> What multiple? I would rather be in an I would rather be in a tent. >> Tell the chat what >> than to watch my mom and her daughter >> fight a man that my mom is laying down with. >> Help. That's why you Why would I? >> It's okay. We didn't need your help. >> I was 9 years old. >> IT DON'T [ __ ] MATTER, [ __ ] IF YOU was three, you were supposed to help. >> You want a nine-year-old to help you try to grown me? >> All I'm asking, >> and that's why that's why I evaluate my dad the way I do because listen to you, >> Jonathan. I ain't never had to fight nobody for my dad. I've never had to. >> My dad shot a gun in the air. >> Compromise myself at 9 years old. >> Are you okay? >> To fight somebody for my dad. My dad is responsible and grown enough to not put his child in that predicament. >> What are you talking about? >> Did you say he robbed you? >> Look how she talking about a 9-year-old chat. But did you help us >> with Cuz me and my SUGAR DADDY AIN'T NEVER had a domestic violence. Not never in your [ __ ] life. And you know it. Maybe I'm the crazy one. But all she was supposed to say was, "I'm sorry for putting you through that in your childhood." But instead, she attacks him and tries to make him feel like he was a sucker for not putting up or standing up in a situation that he wasn't even supposed to be in. She created that situation and then try to call him a punk and all this other thing, you know, and then at the end she decides to brag about being a prostitute. Me and my sugar daddy ain't never >> Bro, it's it's it's funny, but it's not. And of course, that's a very extreme example. But how many times have you tried to tell your mom about what you remember, what you saw, and they would attack you, shame you, guilt you into focusing on all the sacrifices they made, and ignore the harm that they actually may have actually done or literally did do. We're the most gaslit generation in history because we're told that our feelings and emotions and conclusions of what we're seeing and experiencing don't exist if it's a woman doing it, especially if it's being done to a boy or a man. And especially if she's a mom. Her main argument was, "Well, my sugar daddy and me never did." What? Do y'all see this? Come on, man. I don't even I said it's going to get worse and it is. But real quick, man. Lee Turner, thank you, man, for for gifting the membership. I see we're Whoa. Yeah, I appreciate y'all. We just hit our 255 mark. So, listen, y'all. Well, let's keep on going. I'm going to be wrapping up pretty soon. So, please please share this. Please make sure that you like this and feel free to hit that super chat button if you haven't done so. If you want to show love and support and again make sure y'all comment in the chat. I do get a chance, me and and um others that are watching this periodically will get a chance to just see what you all are commenting on. If you want more stuff, you actually have to watch it. You actually have to share it. When videos don't perform well, we stop covering those topics or stop doing those things. So, if this is something that you actually think that you want to support and love, this is how you do it, you know. So, thank shout out to Lee Turner for that. Who else we got? Uh, Snake KC, thank CC1. Thank you for the $20. Much love from KC.

That clip about the brother fighting for access to his kids is so common where the narrative is that we are dead beats. The gray area of how they keep the kids from the father gets ignored. How many men are dead beats because the women that are mothers of their children want them to be? We actually got to start to re-evaluate that. You create the conditions for men to be dead beasts because you you put every obstacle imaginable in front of him so that he can't be present. He sets a special day or time slot to take the kid on a trip and then you don't bring the kid for the drop off and he knows there's nothing he can do about it because you're more than likely treated as a custodial parent and they don't consider it kidnapping when mom has a child. Wasted money, wasted opportunity, wasted moments all because he moved on because he left. Because he doesn't love you or he's not with you. Let's not even talk about the weaponization of the court system once they find out a new woman is in the picture. Now all of a sudden he's a dead beat. H nice call. Thank you for the $10. At what point do you think single mother struggle content could be used in family court as evidence that they're unable to provide for their child, particularly when a father is seeking 50/50 custody? You're anticipating that the court cares. You're anticipating that the court cares about the weaponization of women being mothers and how they use that title to get what they want. You assume that the court doesn't know that all women aren't perfect. You assume like do we assume that the courts aren't aware that women have the capacity to be toxic? Controlling, manipulative, have been abusive. Yeah, they know the bar is so insanely high. For a woman to not be seen as a good mother, it's insanity. So, I appreciate you, sir, for the $10.

Let's get to some more of these clips that reflect exactly this topic of what I was saying as it pertained to uh parental alienation. Of course, >> hey, you want to see today? >> Yes. >> Hold on. >> And again, I want you I'mma turn it up. Make sure y'all listen carefully to what men have to try to do just to be an active and involved father. With women that don't want him to be. Listen.

>> Hey. Hey, daddy. >> What's up, man? You sound like a big boy, man. I miss you. >> I miss you, too, daddy. >> I really do miss you. I want to see you tomorrow, man. I'mma ask your mom, can I come see you and we go get something to eat? >> Okay. >> I want to go get some lunch. Me and you. What you want to eat? >> I want to eat macaroni and cheese. >> All right, that's what we gonna do then. We gonna eat macaroni and cheese tomorrow. Where y'all headed to? Where y'all about to go? >> What's converting? >> You say what? >> Vering come. >> Can Verdon come? Yeah, Vernon can come. >> Okay. I will see you later. All right. Bye. Let me talk to your mom. >> Okay. >> Hey. >> Yeah. >> I I want to um take him to get macaroni and cheese tomorrow. Is that all right? >> Tomorrow. You didn't even ask what we had planned. >> I'm asking you now. That's why I said is that all right? >> You didn't ask me anything. You just said I want to take him. You didn't say what do y'all have to do anything? We have to go to church tomorrow. >> I know that. That's why I said is that all right. Is that all right? If you say no, that's fine, too. >> Okay. Well, it has to be another time. Tomorrow is not good. >> All right. Other than that, can you at least answer the phone when I call to talk to him? >> You can't. Okay. That that that's not my like first of all, I take my phone bill. You don't tell me what to do or how to answer my phone. So, um >> how else will I talk to him? You don't have a phone. >> If I see if if I see when you call me, then I answer. Yeah. And he's with me. So you don't ever see when I call. >> Okay. But I sure will, Fred. I will. >> All right. >> Have a good day. >> I said it about politics and I'll say it in reference to parenting sometimes as well. When it comes to politics, especially in this community, black women see themselves as the black community, not a part of or apart from. They see themselves as the black community. So, as long as their needs are met, the political party that they support are doing a good job. Many women also see themselves as the only parent. Reasonable things that are being asked, shot down, made difficult. Trying to negatively, emotionally stimulate a man to crash out, make him give up. Being difficult just for the sake of it, out of bitterness, resentment, anger, jealousy. Some of the worst people that exist on this planet are mothers. Reasonable things to do. And you saw how he was trying. You heard it.

I think about all the guys, including myself, who had that conversation with their dad. I remember when my dad um I remember the night that he left the house. Uh, I was downstairs in the living room laying on the couch. My parents had a really bad brutal argument and um, you know, he he uh did his did his walk through and packed the stuff and came down the steps with the suitcase and he looked me in the eye. Uh, I think I was like 13, 14 at the time. And he said, you know, you're the you're the gonna be the man of the house now. And our relationship was strained at one point, but we still maintain some type of form of contact. And thank God my mom, you know, constantly encouraged me to still check in on my dad or call him or ask if my dad did call. And she knows she never actually did say anything negative about my dad. Uh, all the way through. I remember those conversations when my dad would call and say, "Man, you know, our hour together or whatever time we had would often be over food. Where did I want to eat or what did you want me to bring for food?" And those were the few moments that we had while he was figuring out life and trying to adjust to the new norm of not seeing his kids every day. And um I realized, man, that re-imagined that I wouldn't have even had that if the woman we had just played was my mom. I wouldn't have even had the um the very very little bit of time I would have had with my dad. I would not have even been able to see my dad if I had a mom like that. And I I don't think you can really truly imagine what that's like of how precarious a father's involvement is really often related to just how the mom feels even with a dad that wants to be there.

Play a couple more clips and then I'm closing out. I thank you everybody that's currently watching. We're actually getting pretty close to 300 people concurrently watching. So, if you haven't done so, feel free to show love, show support on this particular episode relating to the weaponization motherhood. And I keep playing this particular scene. Um, this has been one I've seen this scene for years and I I keep coming back to it because the mindset there was so many things that I paid attention to during the scene that really really stood out this particular year as I'm starting to do this type of work more when the the the the documentarian, you know, the documentary uh person, I forgot his name, he asked the initial question, how many of you want to be married and how many of you want to be with the father of your child? And one girl raised her hand and you see how she covers her face almost in shame and embarrassment, not wanting to stand out from the group. And over the course, you hear each young girl saying the same thing. I don't need a father. I didn't have one. But there was another scene. There was another moment as we were watching and listening that kind of stood out to me that I think adequately explains what it is that we're seeing in our culture. There was a scene. There was the last girl that young lady was talking this one. And as she was talking, she said, "I don't see the point of a father. I didn't have one, and I don't need a man or a father in this scenario." Who is she holding while she's saying that? What she said and what you see on the screen is the mindset of this country. Is the mindset of millions, women, judges, lawyers and a large segment of society. When I said before that in regards to the black community that black women really tend to see themselves as the black community, they also see themselves as the family. Me and my child are the family. Fathers are either a bonus or not needed. They're not seen as a requirement or essential. When you're holding a son and saying, "I don't need a father." You're effectively saying that fatherhood is irrelevant. He isn't needed if he becomes one and that it's not necessary for human development. Weaponization, motherhood. This is feminism. This is feminism, especially in the black community, but this obviously, as we saw the video earlier, there are women from every single demographic who has this mentality. No, they don't all use the same talking points. Many you don't even realize until you're standing before a judge. But the weaponization of motherhood is real. It's dangerous. It's a huge component of why our prisons population is what it is. And if we as men don't get more serious about the women that we choose to even engage in sex with, let alone have children with. That may be your child that you won't get to see. And when I said about the social societal bias of only being able to see things through a women's woman's lens or a mom's lens, see if you can catch and when I say this, pay attention carefully because as you start to realize how much society is gyocentric, feminized and biased all and skewed only towards only being able to see the best in women or the best in mom and the worst in dad without any information. You'll start to be able to understand the types of people you should be doing life with and the types of people you should be avoiding and staying away from.

>> Men need to there needs to be a seat a reset within men. >> I will agree with you, but that's on both sides of the fence. >> I agree, but I'm just saying why as a woman do I have these trust issues? Because it came from maybe my father. It probably came from my past. >> And your father was raised by a mother, >> right? He wasn't raised by his father. >> And why was his father not there? Let's talk about that though because we all >> because maybe the mother alienated him out of her life. And you're talking to a man. >> I knew you were going to say that. I don't never get to my point. Let me just say my my point because there you hear these other statistics like, "Oh, all of these men, 80% of men that are incarcerated were raised in single mother homes." Well, where were the fathers and why were these men creating these crimes? And even if you weren't with the mother, why weren't you present in your child's life? Why couldn't you be the person that could talk sense into your son? So, while we're always trying to say, "Oh, the the single mother this, the single mother that," what is it? Is it that our men are the weakest? Because >> No, let me let me let me go let me go a step further for you, right? I'll I'll be vulnerable and reveal a little bit about my past. So, my father lived on the first floor of my building and I lived on the second floor. Never knew that was my dad. Found out when I was 14 that was my father. >> So, whose fault is that? I want to know that. No, first I want to know. Let me let me finish read all the all the facts of the story. >> Let me let me finish. Right. Probably about a week probably about a week later probably about a week later he saw me in the lobby. He said, "So, you know, I said, "Yeah." And he said, "Okay." And it was, you know, right back to business, right? Never really said anything to me after that. Now, as I grew and I became a man and I matured and I had children, you know what it taught me? I didn't have resentment towards my dad. What it made me realize is, damn, I wonder what my dad went through in his life. Let me finish. That didn't allow him to be the type of man. >> Hold on. The moment he was at least showing curiosity of why his father wasn't there, what did she do? Laugh. When you don't want to hear how or why fathers weren't there, that reveals that you only want to side with women and mothers. But I think that also reveals that you have a low bar and are unable to recognize the humanity. Amen. It doesn't matter who the mother is, how she acts, what she puts you through, what she does to you or the child. You need to be there no matter what. Even if it kills you. I wonder what my father was going through. Exactly. This is the mindset millions. So when you can humiliate the fathers on social media, when you can shame them, weaponization of motherhood, man, there's so many different ways in which it can happen. Let's finish the story. >> That could show me love and raise me. Right. This is what y'all forget about. Men are human. Y'all have this thing. No. No. Because when y'all have the and I I I see it. >> Men are human and you have something to say. I want you guys in this space to really really start taking seriously that giving the opportunity for people who have certain mindsets to even be able to procreate with you. For some of y'all, it's going to be a death sentence. Men are humans. Let me chuckle and laugh about that. Fathers are human all the time. When a woman kills a man, oh my god, what he put her through, right? Like, y'all have so much sensitivity and empathy for the fact that women are human and they go through things and they have traumas, but that's totally absent when it comes to men. I'm sorry. Yes, there are fathers that left home because they're dead beats. There are fathers who had trauma who who who it didn't begin with them. And there are fathers who were alienated. But I I hate this narrative that every time >> Hey guys, if you enjoyed that clip, make >> for people like this. Uh alienation doesn't exist. Women don't do anything wrong to warrant why dads give up, why they keep their receipts, write their story, and give it to their kid on their 18th birthday. Having that type of misandrous disgusting mindset that's anti-family, anti-fathers. I'm going to argue that we'll never know how many men would have never been dead beats if they were allowed to just actually be fathers. We will never know that because the narratives only come more often than not from the women who they were in a relationship or interaction with to produce the child in the first place.

Now, I think what these videos and clips reveal is that the same way we have to have a level of scrutiny about feminism, doing more deeper dives and critical analysis of how it shaped our society and changed how women view men, fathers, kids, marriage, relationships, etc. If you're really serious about growing and becoming wiser as a man, there may literally be only one or two decisions more important than who you decide to allow to be a mother of your child. Seriously, because even if the relationship doesn't work out, if you pick right, co-parenting will still be okay. It'll be easy, in fact. But if you pick wrong, you could be living out of your car or standing over a bridge. So, I'm going to wrap things up in the next 2 or 3 minutes or so, but I hope that you all thought that this was meaningful. And when people often say, "Well, you know, you're sharing all of this stuff." Um, I'm trying to raise awareness that all women don't deserve to be mothers and all men that aren't there as fathers didn't want to be. So the it's a paradigm shift. We have to start thinking that way.

>> My mother was not a good baby mama. I seen that as a child. My father would try to come see us. She would run him off. We will be wrong for giving our dad our number or our address. And if you find out you gave him our phone number or address, you get in trouble for it. I seen that as a child. But then I was angry at him because he didn't fight. He didn't fight harder. Some point he gave up. I did not understand. All I knew was you gave up. So I was angry at him. My daddy got out of prison. He done like two years in prison for like beating somebody ass. And when he got out, he came seen us. And and and I got into it with my sister. He he got into the middle of it. So I punched on my daddy right out of anger cuz I was so mad at him was like where the where the hell has have you been? So my dad stood back and he just did this. He said, "Get it out." And I'm punching and punching and punching and just just and uh his eyes turned red, you know. And it took me to get grown to realize my dad was crying. And for him to go like get it out, bro, that was like real. But anyway, later in life, I got a baby mama. Okay. One of the ones. Then I start to realize all of the things that my dad had to go through. And I realized that he didn't necessarily quit. He just chose his peace over the drama because he could not control what my mother do and her governing us because she's a custodial parent. And I started to realize a whole lot of things that he he had to go through dealing with my mother. When I started to deal with my baby mama, I was like, "Damn, I understand." Right? But one thing I I understand mostly is my dad has a name. That name is the name of a man, but that man used to be a boy. That boy went through some things, right? So, he's not perfect, right? Yes, he's my dad, but he used to be a boy, too. So, he went through something in his life as well, just like I did. So him not being there, hey, who knows what the hell he went through in his life. Who knows, right? Who knows what his tolerance levels are? All of that. And I understand. So I had to let go of that anger, man. Right. I hold him accountable, but I am not angry. I hold him accountable, but I'm not angry. Wow. Did you peep the part where he said how she would get angry if she found out he was even communicating with his father and I've heard that before and how there would be a wedge between now the relationship between you and your mother who you are staying and living with is threatened or at risk if you choose to ask your father any questions hear his side of the the situation even just wanting to see them. Women treat boys and daughters wanting to reconnect or be in relationship with their fathers as a form of rejection. Weaponized motherhood.

Yeah. You guys know the number one outcome or the number one indicator for how children grow up to thrive, whether or not they actually do. >> I thought it was the daddy in the house. >> Absolutely not. Believe it or not, it is the quality of their mother's happiness. >> Wow. >> Wow. >> That mindset is what's destroying civilization. That mindset is what every single woman we've seen today has. It's what she wants. It's her happiness.

Finished watching a video of a guy telling other men not to become stepdads and to let women raise their children on their own because there was no benefit. Now because I listened to comprehend instead of listening to respond. I watched the whole video and all the reasons he named were valid. He was in a marriage to a woman with a young son who he pretty much raised for years and when they decided to split, she cut off all contact, communication, everything because she said it was her son. There is no benefit into raising somebody else's child and pouring into them for years for you to really have no control over the child. I'mma go as far as saying it's really no benefit into being a stepparent in general because you take care of somebody else's responsibility and most of the time you don't even get back the bare minimum of respect, you know, from the other from the parent or the child. So, yeah, I'm going to go that far. I know it's going to be an unpopular opinion and he said a lot of women would disagree because of course they want men to keep continuing to take care of other men's responsibilities but I'm like I said in general I'mma go being a steparent in general for men or women there is no benefit.

>> Dad pulled me to the side prior to my wedding and had a conversation with why you marrying this this young lady like I'm not saying you shouldn't asking you why are you doing it? We had a we had a genuine conversation. I was like, to be honest, there are certain things that that hurt me about you not being under the same roof with me while I was growing up. I don't want those feelings or experiences for my children. >> Yeah. >> That broke my dad down. He was like, I understand what you're saying. That's not the reason to marry this young lady, though. >> This is my charge from God to have this conversation with you as my son, though. You think you're not making the same mistake I made, you're equally making a mistake. >> It's a different color. >> It's going to affect your son in a way that you don't even know yet. Looking back from today to then, I absolutely know what he meant, and he was absolutely correct, 1,000%. So, >> my dad had the same conversation with me, but not from a place of he didn't think I should marry, but he was trying to make sure that I was certain. >> Yes. Looking back, it it appeared that the first pregnancy that was lost put everything in motion. It really didn't. We we were down a path and that happened and he was trying to make sure that are you just trying to keep your word or is this actually what you believe is right for you? And I think that's where I wanted to kind of close out where we have to seriously seriously ask a lot of questions. The day like it's bad enough if you get a woman pregnant that you know you can't do life with. It's another thing to marry one that you can't do life with and have a child with them or multiple. And we as men, if we're going to start taking real accountability and real responsibility for our choices, yes, people can change. Women can change. Something tells me many of the women that we've seen today, there were signs. Were signs.

So to close things out, let me get this off the screen. Boom. What do we do? You got to get serious, man. When it comes to threatening your vote if your region of the country doesn't operate this way. And not even being willing to do life with women, seriously, romantically, let alone sexually who don't also agree with you. We have to begin to avoid not procreating with women that believes that everything we've seen today is normal, it's okay, or come up with excuses for why they, their mom, and other women can get away with it. I've criticized uh Ebony K. Williams about her intentional um single motherhood approach with, you know, getting a surrogate, having a child, and then going about in the dating market as an older black woman who has the most insanely high expectations in the world. However, I think if you are a man that can afford it, the only reason why I would advocate for men to be open to the possibility of doing it as far as a broad surrogacy and bringing a child back here as your own and you being the only one that has custody is a because the dating market is typically not treating men and women the same and two because the court systems are rigged against you the moment you and that woman is no longer going to be together. If all of the court systems were changed and everything was 50/50, absolutely I would say nah, I wouldn't do that. But they're not. And if you're going to be smart and intentional, you don't want your genetic line to end with you at the end of the family tree. That's something some men are seriously pursuing while they still can, while it's still indeed legal to do so. Of course, you would imagine who is who are the groups that you could imagine that are now fighting to try to shut down this abroad surrogacy that now men are now using to get around and circumvent the child family court system because any woman that comes into your life after that, she'll never have the rights to a child that is only yours. Obviously, prenuptuals and custody agreements prior to further commitment. Adopting children, similar concept where you have sole custody before engaging in the dating market. Now, mind you, you as a man would mean that there's going to be less women that are interested in you, but realizing that the woman that's willing to step up in that role and be there and fulfill that role while simultaneously not being a able or willing to get any type of custody of that child. at least you know that she's in it for those reasons. Obviously, not having children as well at all is is a viable option. And then background, background checks, looking at her social circles in that bottom part. Where are the fathers? Perhaps as men, we have to get serious about not letting women be the only ones that do background checks and do real assessments of what's around them. The culture, the environment, the family they come from, and not focusing just on if I like her and she looks good. Feminization uh has been brutal, and I don't use this word very often, but what we just saw today was demonic. It's antihuman. It's anti-family. And it's a major major strand of feminism that a lot of women have adopted, utilized, and unfortunately um been able to get away with. So we as men have to start adjusting, adapting in real time. And lastly, of course, record everything.

So I hope that you all thoroughly uh got something out of this. Um, I hope that you know you guys can share this. Feel free to follow me on my respective platforms. If you want to collaborate, build together. Um, this is my contact info of course. And like I said before, man, um, feel free to share, follow, become a member and especially donate. Um, that's how this platform continues to grow is because of all the work that you all are doing. And I think somebody put it in the chat, man. Your boy is busy cuz everything every time I'm going live isn't the only time I'm in front of the camera. I do a lot I'm doing more pre-records as well. Uh, I probably have like eight things lined up next week. So, very, very busy. Um, Lord willing, after I clear 100K subscribers, I'll be able soon to hopefully make my announcement about the project I've been working on in the event that I want to do later this year to invite all of you to. And, um, I hope that this type of work is meaningful and it's changing the game. We have to change the standards about the types of women we're allowing to even become mothers. And we have to distance oursel from the women that thinks this behavior is fine. And okay, last but not least, appreciate your high tolerance. $20. Salute, Jeff. I've had countless comos advocating for cats to have vasectomies, especially if they're whing out if they're out there whing out in the this dating market, which I don't advocate or just don't want kids. Reality is, and I appreciate you uh high tolerance for the $20. Um, we can complain about it, we can ignore it, or we can adapt. This was Weaponized Motherhood. And, uh, let me know what y'all think in the comments. Make sure that y'all share this, and uh, I'll see a bunch of you who choose to log in later this evening, uh, at 8:30 Eastern Standard Time, which is basically in an hour for our men's table discussion. And, um, I hope this goes somewhere. So, uh, let me know what y'all think. See y'all soon. Peace.