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I also wanted to travel and enjoy being married. So, we're married almost 10 years before we had our children. And there's a lot to be said for waiting.
This generally means that the woman um was looking for a better option on the side. All right. What's going on my ninjas that today we are reacting to women regretting things. As you guys know, um, as women, we just have a tendenc often change our behavior, but we do we do regret things, right? So, today we're going to watch women talking about why they regret things and see if we can translate the woman. If you guys have any, you know, thoughts in the comments about how you would translate it, let me know.
33 last month and here are the things I regret. Honestly, never imagined myself being over 30. Number one, I regret not learning how to actually make my knowledge money. All my life, I've been taught that that is very bad to want money. As a woman, you should want family and love. And if you want money, you are a bad person. I was told to go to the university. I went, I have two university level degrees, bachelor degree, master degree. Education is definitely needed. But honestly, I never thought that I need my skills to create system that's going to constantly bring me money. After having master's degree, I chose to go to cosmetology school because I felt like I have to work hard to make money and I have to have a business. So I was like I want to have a beauty salon. I did not think about that by choosing cosmetology career. My job will be to physically give my body somewhere and physically do physical labor.
That's why creating a system that's going to bring me money without me physically standing somewhere. That was very important. If you if you're thinking to go to like cosmetology school or do physical labor, think about that. You will have to most of your life and and standing in food. Like if your body physically not working, you're not eating. So having a degree and using a degree is two different things. and you should think which degree you can actually use to make this system for you.
Number two, I regret not having kids earlier. Of course, it's sensitive topic, but now I'm 33. I'm with my partner for 4 years. We're trying to have a child and I've always wanted to have kids before I'm 30. And again, if I would have kids before I'm 30, no matter how I would feel much better, but I feel like after 30, I should be focused on different things. And I'm still stuck in my 20s. Again, I don't really hang out with my friends. I don't really have any friends who has no kids. And your body is changing. You're tired. If before it didn't matter. I could plan anything I want. Right now after 30, I have only certain amount of energy I can spend. And I have to choose the tasks during a day. So having a child is going to be much more much much more physically and mentally challenging than it's in in your 20s. And I thought I should live my life and travel and it's so nice. and everyone was building families, raising kids when I was traveling. But now what I see is that I'll have to face challenges of raising a child after 30. Well, all my friends already traveling with their kids or they have nannies, they have business. So kids are not a problem for you to travel.
And who are your friends? It sounds like none of them are raising their kids. Travel all the things you want to do. If go back to number one, you chose your career wisely and and your kids are more likely to have autism. understand that you have. Okay. So, she wishes she has kids sooner. All right. Well, fair enough. All right. Next lady right here.
Went into my 30s with absolutely no tattoos. I went into my 31st year and just said, "Go big or go home. We're going to start a tattoo journey and go straight for the hand."
I just Why do women have journeys? And you know what's the worst part about making a mistake in your 30s is you had 10 years to figure out how to not make mistakes in your 30s. And yet, you know, she watched all of her friends get tattoos, regret it, and then still was like, "F it. I'm going to do it, too."
It's because I love hand tattoos. So, as you can imagine, the first question out of most people's mouth is, "What if you regret it? What if it's not in style five years from now?" So, like any other regret I have in my life, I'll just use humor to cope and I'll just get funnier. So, that's a win. Secondly, my personality is always in style.
Oh my god, look at her face. Okay, next. My biggest regret having kids later in life. Let's see her.
Is my biggest regret about having kids later in life? So, I had my first daughter when I was 34. I had my second daughter when I was 36. I'm now 37. And we waited to have kids intentionally. You know, it's something we talked about, prayed about, but I really wanted to be financially stable before we had kids. That was the main reason. I also wanted to travel and enjoy being married. So, we were married almost 10 years before we had our children. And there's a lot to be said for waiting.
This generally means that the woman um was looking for a better option on the side.
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Couldn't find it. Um, usually women I mean, it's the same reason why women get pregnant by NBA players fast. Um, usually when a woman's sure about a guy, the pregnancy happens relatively quickly. to have kids. There are many benefits like financial stability, maturity, all of those things. But this is my regret. I genuinely regret not having them sooner. And here's why. When you're a female, especially if you wait to have kids until your mid to late 30s, as you know, your risk of complicated pregnancies, birth defects, genetic disorders, those go up as you age. Your chances of pregnant getting pregnant goes down. And you're just more tired. You're more exhausted. It's harder on your body.
And usually fatter. Jazelle Buddha Chin or whatever had a kid in her 40s, but it's like she's been thin her whole life. Ladies, have you have you been thin your whole life? No. 19% body fat. I know I haven't.
And the thing is, we absolutely love having kids. And I kind of have this feeling like if we would have had kids 5 years sooner or 10 years sooner, we would probably have another kid or two because we just love our children so much. And something that people don't talk about or tell you about having kids, and some people do, I guess, but it just gets better and better. Our 3 and 1/ half-year-old is absolutely amazing. I know I'm biased because I'm her mom, but she has the coolest personality. She's so fun. She's fun to hang out with, and she's just like your little buddy that you want to do everything with. It's amazing. And she has her own personality. And it's honestly like the sweetest, most incredible thing. And I do think that our culture, especially in America, has fed this path to women that after college, you need to focus on your career for the next 10-15 years and then maybe have a family. The focus is definitely not, you know, go to college and have kids and figure out career later. So, I went down that path. You know, I had a very successful mother. She's amazing. She did incredible things with her career. Um, I went down that path as well. Started my own business right out of college. did that for almost 15 years. Built my career, had a lot of purpose, enjoyed what I did, but I can honestly tell you that nothing compares to the purpose, contentment, and joy that I experienced from being a mom and having children. And it's true, you only get so many eggs. You only have so much time. Women have this finite window where you can get pregnant.
I was thinking about it. We said that it's a finite window, but is it that finite if it starts at like 14 and it goes to 34? I was thinking about this the other day. I'm like it goes to like 40. That's I obviously um it's mostly before 30 35 whatever. But I was thinking I'm like I don't know if it's as finite like the way we describe it. I just don't think it's that accurate. It's like 20 years.
Start a family and it's worth it. Yes, you know it is easy.
Okay. So she's talking. Easier in many ways to wait so that. Yeah, it's either you have financial stability or energy stability. Okay. Let's see her.
Regret not having children when they were younger. Get me wrong, starting my family in my 30s was the most responsible decision like financially, mentally, emotionally, physically. Actually, I lied. I don't think physically. I think I just had more energy and youthfulness in my 20s. But everything else, like it made sense for us to start our family in our 30s. But the one thing that I think about is like as our kids get older, I know we're not going to be like old old. I can't help but think like when I was younger, I thought like 40s was old. And I don't know, I also think about like when my kids go to college and it's like mom's weekend or whatever. Like when I go down there, I'm like I'm feel like I'm going to be ancient versus my experience in college even though my mom didn't come to any of my mom's weekends. Like most of the moms were like in their late 30s. For me, if my oldest decides to go to college, she will enter college when I'm 50. I mean, I know I got the Asian don't raise in effect, but 50. What makes me most sad is if my children.
Yeah. The other thing is um grandparents. It most the next generation won't really know what it's like to have grandparents because a lot of them will be passed away by the time they get to of age. They'll remember them. It's kind of like that with me. I don't really remember my most of my grandparents very well. I had one grandma that lived past well like most of my grandparents were dead by the time I was 12. I don't really remember.
To have children like I'm going to be old old. It makes me sad. Makes me sad to think.
Yeah. So anyways um all right guys, do you know any women in their 30s and what are some of their regrets? Um a lot of the women in their 30s seem to regret not having kids sooner. So um do you know women in their 30s um that had kids then? today and regret not starting sooner. Let me know in the comments. Like the video and I'll see you next time.